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Wednesday, 1 January 2014

Dear LIB readers: Am I wasting my time with this man?

From a female LIB reader
Please I need your opinion on something that is keeping me up at night. I met my boyfriend in November 2010 and after only four months of dating he proposed to me on Valentine's Day in 2011. I was really excited and believed he didn't want to waste time and was eager to marry me. But it's going to three years now since we got engaged and he hasn't said anything about a wedding. Every time I mention it he tells me I'm acting desperate that I should calm down that if he didn't want to marry me he would not have given me a ring. We are both over 30 so I don't understand the delay. What bothers me most is that he's not even talking about it. I suggested we get married the last week of December 2013 so we can begin a new life in 2014 but he said he will let me know when he's ready. Should I give him an ultimatum or just be patient?

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Anonymous said...

Madam you know yaself best! IF IT WAS ME i foe don give am ultimatum!

Anonymous said...

Yes, do

Rough Diamond said...

Hehehehe guys no go kill me! They come in different forms n packages.
My dear give him an ultimatum cos obviously he jst engaged u to tie u down.
I don't want u to be sorry last last. I kn

Unknown said...

pls let him go.

Unknown said...

Ur above 30 so pls find anoda serious dude.. Ur a Female o!

Anonymous said...

He won't marry u. Stop wasting ur time. Pray to God to send u ur own

Rough Diamond said...

I know it's not easy but my dear it won't be fair at d end u cry had I know!
Guys mean o!!!! Someone dat will marry u wont keep u dis long!
Fuck him!! His a Bomboclark!!

Anonymous said...

I think u should break up with him. It's difficult I know but u can't keep waiting for him. Sooner or later he will dump u!

Walata said...

Hey young lady pls act like chioma ajunwa n take off very fast don't waste time on dis nigga he is not serious he aint gonna marry u period

Anonymous said...

He is wasting your time. Make it clear that you are no longer willing to wait. If he is not your Prince Charming why is he wasting your time? Be wise, discuss with him, if he is not willing to take any positive steps move on. This kind of things are just so annoying.

delicious jules said...

Wow babes..I had similar experience too.though mine was in february 2012!.He proposed to me,I told him to come c my folks and he kept telling me stories dat I shldnt b in a hurry.my friends advised me to get pregnant Dat it would make d process faster.I did get pregnant just last month.our wedding is slated for march.try my method,I hope it works for you.

Anonymous said...

RUN.......yaxx

Unknown said...

Engagement is when a man propses to marry a woman within few months, not when he puts a ring on her finger and scares other men away for the next 5 years!! That's WITCHCRAFT!

Anonymous said...

Turn ursef to lady of d rings if u like dnt return that ring immediately nd start on a fresh note 2014

Slimy said...

Hmmmm,, dis is hard!!! 2 b engaged 4 mor dan 2yrs, well almost, i can say he aint ready really babe.. U berra take a walk now.

Unknown said...

The ball is in ur court dear.

Anonymous said...

My dear, this guy wil not marry you.No sentiments because its the truth. You have been engaged for 3 yrs. What exactly is he still looking for that he has not seen already. The guy don tire , but he does not know how to dump you , so he is using delay tactis to frustrat you out. My dear pls walk away with your head high, you don try,or you will wake up one day a frustarted old maiden. You are playing wife with no licence , you r simply deceving yourself. Talk it out with him , if he will not marry you, even in court by ending of this month. Please leave him, you will still find someone else , or else you r not telling us the whole truth.

Anonymous said...

My sister give him ultimatum. No time for ur side oh.

praise said...

my dear life is too short, so i strongly advice dat u demand him to redefine d relationship. I mean 3whole yrs........

t'he advicer said...

I believe its best u exercise patience..cos its best u get married 2 d right person dat will treat u well,than rushing in2 marriage nd rushing out......!*lips sealed*

Anonymous said...

Meanyle linda I'm suspecting this is u seeking advise,may God answer u

Andra said...

Hmmm my dear it is a general disease, use ur tongue count ur teeth.

Anonymous said...

If u love am stay till u re 90yrs... Mumu

Anonymous said...

This is Linda

senatoresqgists said...

Giving him an ultimatum doesn't sound too good to me (cos he'd still resort to his "u're being desperate" ideology).
I think you should free yourself from his shackles i.e. Return his engagement ring to him and leave him and tell him to come find you whenever he's ready.
While you're on your own, live your life normally as a single lady and do not hesitate to walk down the aisle with any prospective bobo(u love) that comes along.

Anonymous said...

If this ur boyfriend can care for u financially, then something is up. Maybe he s scared or he has something in d closet.

Anonymous said...

Ultimatum baby. And move the hell on.
Evil men,

Anonymous said...

Dear linda pls I don't know hw to reach u or I guess I put it here for peopl to advice me.I met dis guy called my husband nw in dec 2012 he finally went to see my parents in feb 2012 in april an intro took place he is nt educated he is a biz man biz co$es once a while he had no shelter den I took him in after pleading frm his parents nw we are married time to pay rent and he says did I nt know he was poor wen I met him dt he has half I should go look for the rest am at a fixed don't know wt to do I feed him at times clothe him assist in biz wen am free and do tins at home wen I ve cash.bt he naggs feels challanged at every slight issue takes decision without my consent and insults me at will.pls wt should I do am fed up and quit is all I ve in mind cos I am soft and emotional and can't let dis affect my job or health think I need a break.pls I need honest and candid advise

Anonymous said...

My dear sis let me not deceive u, he is just wasting ur time den later on he will say u are too old for him,shy u shy u are above 30yrs? Do what's in ur mind. D decision is left for u to make but think wisely and make a good decision.@mercy

KIKIS said...

Find another husband o.

Anonymous said...

2 me he jst wnt 2 use d ring 2 keep u 2 himself which he has successed 4 3yrs, nw he wnts u 2 up out so he will move on wif his life, don't b surprise if u get 2 find out dat some1 else is der dat he has in mind 2 settle 4, jst follow ur hrt bt b careful

Anonymous said...

Nne are you Queen of the Ring?

Anonymous said...

Babes you are a RING HOLDER. Abeg make you open my supermalt mtchewwww dont worry o by 2020 he will be ready to marry you.

*runs off*

Anonymous said...

If he cannot communicate wt u as his woman, that mean he cant have you as his wife. Frm what i read he is authoritative and wants every tin to go him way. That shows there will b problem in d'future. For me o, its not all abt marriage but the joy in marriage. Let him go. Linda hope say no b u write dis write up abi? Na kel de talk.

Anonymous said...

No need for ultimatum that guy is not going to marry you, just move on and forget long question and answer section.

clare said...

My dear take off that ring and mingle, that guy isn't going to propose.

Anonymous said...

Tell him to hit the road

Anonymous said...

Ultimatum! Pa gini? If you where younger I would understand you are over 30 but wait ooo, insort tell him that yes you are desperate, lol well, you should know him, you should know if he is serious or not. If there's another person in the backgroung. Its not about engagement ring my sister. Hmmm my dear pray about it and ask God for wisdom.

virtuous woman said...

U are really wasting ur time. And its the duty of a man to marry a woman and not the other way round. Asking him to marry u is sounding desperate. Throw the ring away and start all over again before u bcom lord of the rings. He knows what he is doing,he is just tieing u down with that ring,be smart.

slim tee said...

Be patient

Unknown said...

My dear it's been 3yrs after the engagement and still no tangible reason why the wedding hasn't taken place, pls give him an ultimatum and see the result. If not favourable my dear walk away.

SANDRA said...

P my dear pls give him an ultimatum, this is 2014 nd tym 4 seriousness.does he want d ring 2 rust on ur finger??? Linda post ooo

Anonymous said...

Gurl I wnt lie to u dat guy does nt luv u,he's jst tiring u dwn ,put him in to test by gvin hm an ultimatum n see hw he reacts bt b4 den seek d face of God,best of luck

Anonymous said...

Are you god of the ring?

Anonymous said...

Oh Dear, we are already in 2014. Start making plans in case nothing happens before the end of the year ohho. Happy New Year to you

Unknown said...

My dear this man is not ready 2 marry u. okay

Anonymous said...

Some guys use this proposal of a thing to gain a free "sex machine" cos most girls become sexually free with a man once he proposes. I will advice u to ask him to genuinely tell u ur stand in the relationship. Be smart, this is a new year, no fooling around.

Anonymous said...

Sweety give him an ultimatum plss n if he doesn't do anything about it pls I no how difficult it is pls pls let him be........

Unknown said...

Honestly dearie, pray about this. But meanwhile, text HELP to 131. Lol

Stay with him bt girl, feel free to date other prospective husband. I did not say flirt around pls.

Ur guy is wicked. He is da type dat stays @da door. he is nt in and he is preventing odas frm getting in.

Anonymous said...

There is an Old saying that the patient dog eat the fattest bone. Now the question is Are You a Dog? Please drop him now before its too late. I'm in a similar shoe too.

Anonymous said...

My dear find ur square root oh! That dude won't marry u that's the truth. He is a devil whose mission is to tie u down. Pls count ur losses and move on. I know its hard but you'll be fine. Tell urself the truth and be strong.

Unknown said...

Ma dear, if u kn wat is gud 4 u jst run out of dt relatnship bcus d guy is usin ds 'ring' 2 tie u dwn nd at d same tym chasing seriuos men away frm u. He wu ve ears, let hm hear

Unknown said...

the guy has something in mind that he dosn't want to tell you, so my advise is to keep asking him he will tell you, but time tells sha...... Hope it helps

Unknown said...

Seriously?... It depends on the goals you set for yourself when you going into it (the relationship), if your goals are not met... My sister throw his ring at him... Unless you want to mothered your first child at 40

Cute G said...

That dude is one confused guy.He's wasting ur time girl.Run along as time waits for no one

Mint Vedutti said...

Please, return the ring and set yourself free. Try dating other people or just be free. If by the time he is ready, your are still single and wish to continue with him, Fine. If not free yourself emotionally and physically. What doesn't make you happy ain't worth your time and emotions.

Anonymous said...

Sinc febuary 2011? Haba na!!!, better know ur stand before its too late. Moreover u are not a small girl anymore.

Anonymous said...

He is deceiving you

Anonymous said...

Dat dude isn't gonna marry u, the sooner u know that the better

Nneka said...

I suspect foul play
Are u sure he is seriously serious??
No go waste tym for man wey like carry over.

Unknown said...

you really don't need an advice..to me ooo....you should be in the best position to know if you're wasting your time with him or not. have you ever caught him cheated? Is he financially secured? Those are some of the things you need to be sure of before getting married. Most women just want to get married, they don't care about the questions I asked. Think well woman. Marriage is not something you can rush into.

Anonymous said...

Dat dude isn't gonna marry u, the sooner u know that the better

Anonymous said...

Peeps should learn that marriage should take place almost immediately after proposal. Guys stop hanging ur cheap rings on some gullible women's finger.

Anonymous said...

If you are important in his life as supposed, he would tell you the reason for his delay,and not still keep you in the dark with his problems,considering were both of you are coming from.

Bonita Bislam said...

Is he financially ok 2settle dwn? If d answer is in d affirmative den I tink its abt tym u tell him off or luk elsewhr!

Anonymous said...

may dear runfor ur life ooooo

Anonymous said...

Madam, from the look of things, u are heading towards the "Lord of the rings" hall of fame.

ladyp said...

Abeg make una teach me hw my name go take appear in red oooo. Una dey free to yab me bt shaa tell me hw to go abt it.

Anonymous said...

Obviously,he his not ready! If u feel u can wait for him,do,but somao I feel he his no more intersted in marrying u,excuse urself b4 its too late,if u distance urself,it will save a lot of hearbreaks,nd can even mak him come bak to u

jejelove said...

Wetin u still dey for.

Unknown said...

My dear liber beta leav d guy cuz he is using u 2 get his own wife.u r nt lord of d rings dat u ll b wearing a ring 4 3yrs,u got a life so if u reli wnt 2 Live dat life leav dat boyfrnd of urs cuz its nt 2 l8 2 live dat life of urs n u can live witout him so 4 ur own gud leav him nw dat its stl early.

nonso said...

You be lord of the ring?

Anonymous said...

You better waka pass, he is obviously deceiving you, haha three years

Anonymous said...

See you! About 3yrs engagement? When is not witch craft? You better give him his ring back or give him utimatum..

Anonymous said...

Ultimatum abet! Men can be wicked a times , marry her she's over 30.

Anonymous said...

And he has been sleeping with you? I am so sorry for you. Tell him you want "HOLY DATING" that's "CHRISTIAN DATING" so no sex , just hold hands ...If he really likes you he will talk marriage . You dey cho chop chop you no wan marry rubbish...

Unknown said...

Nawa ooooooo!!! It's obvious lady. Follow your heart.

Anonymous said...

dump his ass, he is not ready.

Anonymous said...

My sister give him an ultimatum & if he fails to comply begin pack ur load cos from wat I see he used the ring to hold u down so u never leave.If after 3 months of dating,he was convinced that u are the right girl then I don't see what's keeping him.

Anonymous said...

Pls wake up from you sleep before he takes you unawares

Anonymous said...

Ah! You're no longer engaged. Now, my sincere opinion: It's very easy. I'm sure you've known that feeling of happiness in a relationship when it's feels like 'heaven'. If you don't feel that way again and you've tried all you can, you should just end it (i.e if d probz is nt $ matters disturbing him). Don't get married out of 'desperation' (cos of ur age or how long you've been together). If he doesn't treat you right or tell you things now, he wouldn't change if you manage to get him to tie the knot cos he myt b tired of U. I wish you well. Happy new year.
Signed by Mee!

OZZY said...

Hmmm. Maybe he tired of de relationship & he doesn't knw hw 2 tell... Shine ur eyes sha

Anonymous said...

Lord of the rings. Siddon dey look till u turn 35

Unknown said...

Dear I strongly suggest you give him an ultimatum......cmon what's he waiting for? Haba...

Anonymous said...

Yhu still nid 2 b patient wiv him bcos he might av bin luking 4 an opportunity 2 free yhu,so he's want yhu 2 b d 1 2 break up wiv him. Pls I want yhu 2 be very patient wiv him so dat yhu can no wats he's driving @

shannia said...

In my own opinion dat man is wicked, 3yrs afta engagement and nufi to show for it, dat ring is only scaring oda men from her, my dear u are wasting ur tym..PERIOD!!!

Toronto Finest said...

Be patIent....lol

Anonymous said...

If u lyk , don't go n find anoda man b4 its too late 4 u to turn back. Men can marry at any age ,bt 4 women, the ans is no.

ladyp said...

Dis ur guy no ready o. As a woman, u cnt be waiting for one guy dat is nt ready wen u r passed 30. He cn still get sm1 to marry at 40. So babe, if na me, I go report am to GOD. If he is mine, watevr is holding him back shud realise him shapely bt if he is nt mine, let d flesh of my flesh come and whisk me away!

Anonymous said...

Give him more time.

Anonymous said...

He is not sure abt marryn you! He is using d ring to kip you just incase his oda options fails then he will fall abck to u! Im sure that guy is beign suffered by another chic! Hahahahhahahaahaha but dnt worry u will laugh last and also d loudest!all d best dear as u wise up

TegBaby said...

Run girl..! He ain't marrying u he just used d ring to hold u down. Stop wasting ur time my dear it's 2014 there is sm1 waiting 2 marry u out there. My opinion gudluck

Anonymous said...

Open ur eyes very well u will see exactly wht he's up to. If he is financially okay then he may just be scared of marriage commitment.

Unknown said...

He's never going to be ready unless he's financially down. If a man proposes to u, that should mean he's ready to be a man and start up a family. It takes time to plan sha but not as long as 3 years unless he has a valid reason except being ready cos he missed that chance when he proposed to u. He's definitely not ready at least not with u. If he really loved u, he would have tied up the knot by now. I guess there's something he found out about u that's keeping him off since he proposed to u just after 4 months of dating and doesn't know how to call it off now cos probably, he isn't in luv with u right now coss if he is, nothing would have stopped him except finance. Just pray over it and do what ur heart tells u to do. U can go ahead and give him an ultimatum and if he really wanna be with u, he'll come around. Goodluck

halliday said...

Dis is serious ohhhhh...Linda try sleep it will help u a grate deal...

Anonymous said...

Give him more time.

toni said...

my dear u better take off that ring he is just using it to keep as he has no plans of marriage.How can somebody give u a ring and after 3years say u are acting desperate. Abeg pull the ring.

Raldine said...

Babe dump his sorry ass else he'l shatter ur hrt...he has not seen wat he wants in u if not y waiting 4 so long...as 4 d ring he put it dere 2 kip u 2 himself(gurl commot dat ring) while hez tryin out oda gurls...hez jus a badass player nd he doesn't luv u

Anonymous said...

Read about Mimi Tanner's Reverse Ultimatum. You might wanna try it. It would work if you mean sumn to him but incase it doesn't, the earlier the better. All the best dear

Anonymous said...

one thing i have learnt over the years when it comes to relationships is ladies(we) know where we stand. we might just be too busy looking for what is not hoping things would get better. i cant decide for you,you know the situations of things in this relationship. the decision is yours. i'll just advice you to be true to yourself..

J-WAJ said...

If he is financially stable nd still dosent want to marry u, i think he might nt be interested. "why buy d cow wen u can get d milk for free" give him an ultimatum.

OLORI said...

My dear u Jst av to be patient...my 2cent

Anonymous said...

Pls do, its ur life nd if he is nt ready walk out. U nt a kid. If @ my age am wait 4 my man wt shld u ? Pls walk out 4rm imma

Anonymous said...

Sweet move on fast he's a man he can get a woman anytime he like. 4 me I no fit carry ring 4 more dan 3mths O

Unknown said...

Huhhh? Lyk serzly?

Anonymous said...

U already know d answer to ur question.is ur middle name patience?even if it is,pls change it to its over#kmt

Anonymous said...

three years???you are wearin a ring not a rope...dnt tie urslf down coz of a ring..if u wana wait patiently for him den b ready to get married in ur late 50's...sum guys jux lyk frustratin ladies sha#yawnz#

Anonymous said...

women and marriage sef.
ahn!ahn!!

Anonymous said...

RUN MY DEAR!!!! I WORE MINE FOR 1 YEAR AND THREW THE RING AT HIM WHEN I NOTICED HE WAS BLOCKING MY CHANCES WITH OTHER MEN! I WAS HEART BROKEN UNTIL GOD GAVE ME MY OWN!A CHILDHOOD FRIEND, 8 MONTHS AFTER DATING WE WALKED DOWN THE AISLE, THAT IS ONE WHO IS READY !

Anonymous said...

My dear you so wasting your time! D ring he gave u is like an handcuff u in bondage of dat guy break urself lose dis new year! You should av known leave him alone n move on.

Anonymous said...

Has he being acting different towards you since his proposal to you? If so you should know the answer my dear. Check your self.


Rushel

Anonymous said...

He is not sure abt marryn you! He is using d ring to kip you just incase his oda options fails then he will fall abck to u! Im sure that guy is beign suffered by another chic! Hahahahhahahaahaha but dnt worry u will laugh last and also d loudest!all d best dear as u wise up

Unknown said...

Ulti wetin ? U go grow white bia bia

Oga's Wife said...

My dear.....run for your life!!!
He is a destiny delayer/exchanger.
Return the ring and move. Abi you be key holder? See question o. Can't deal abeg

Anonymous said...

Just be patient....he might nt be sure yet...bt i advise u shuld be patient

omenah said...

Get down on ur knells and pray

Anonymous said...

Pls do, its ur life nd if he is nt ready walk out. U nt a kid. If @ my age am waiting 4 my man 2 pop dis question wt shld u do? Am young tho bt pls walk out. 4rm imma

Anonymous said...

1.Does he have a job that can sustain d two of u?
2.Does he have an apartment of his own
3. Do u have a job
4.have u been sleeping together. Now if all d questions r YES then keep ur heart open for another man,he probably won't marry u.some men tell ladies they will marry them just to get in between their legs. If all d ques r NO then be patient

omenah said...

Get down on ur knells and pray

Unknown said...

Follow ur mind,or is he nt financially ok?bt I wil advice u 2 study him veri well probably dere s somfin he's getin 4rm u dat kept him waitin,linda post my coment o

Lucy said...

Go back to God, talk to Him he has the whole answer. All is well.

MissChievous said...

Ahhh, so he gave u a ring to pursue other people away? He must be possessed with evil spirit, when u r not Lord of the Rings... He's not serious. Give him an ultimatum my dear, if he doesn't meet up, drop him like a bad habit pls.

Anonymous said...

Free d guy jor! Enemy of ya progress! E jus use d rink tie u down! Pls do not end up like toke makinwa ooo!

Ann Marie said...

Give him an ultimatum. what rubbish

datsharpguy said...

B wise gal u ar kn lord of d ringz

Unknown said...

3 years of engagement and no wedding talk, are you the lord of the ring?, My dear Run for your life orelse you want to continue being sexmate

dhobiz said...

Lol patient ke,over thirty hmmm that dude has wasted your time enough o plz if you think you can get someone else move on ah ah

Anonymous said...

Abeg! Dump the guy sharp sharp, He's not ready.

Anonymous said...

Lady, give that nigga an ultimatum!!

Anonymous said...

Adaniduro oni gbese!!! Send d nigga away, no monitoring spirit dis 2014 biko.
Linda pls post, I take dis matter "p"

pwitie B said...

Run wen its still early d handwriting is showing he is playin u dnt b a fool darling

Remi Gold said...

U're definitely d queen of the ring

Unknown said...

Patient? I dot think so dear, I beliv is planning some tin 2 suprise u , I advice Dat b4 he does dat I think u should suprise him first.....if u ar wise enough u will understand wht I mean.

ade said...

better stop wasting time. he used the ring to hold ur ass down. if he walks tomorrow, u cant charge him to court for time waste. RUN for ur future!!!
ure not a gold smith or ring holder. This is ur quality age we are talking.

Anonymous said...

Leave him joor, its a strategy! Honestly ladies "shine ur eyes joor make water no carry u oo'''''.
Just four months? Say what!!! Too good to be true, I mean who does that. There's something called courtship, and in these days where marriage break-up easily(especially when rushed or in the case of intimate strangers) well girlllll run for ur life. Loose ends joor!!!!

Anonymous said...

For ur own gud...betta use ur legs n run away as fast as u can cos he only nids som1 around ...wu knos if he has a family somewhere else..b wise n dnt b blinded by love .peace

Anonymous said...

just b patient dear.

Anonymous said...

A ring means nothing without a bride price, court wedding is just 2k or so. Please give him an ultimatum and walk away if he doesnt meet it.

Anonymous said...

Speak 2 him about it,Some men'r scared of marriage,or u'r constantly doing wat married pple do nd He's no longer seeing de use of getting married......IJEOMA

Anonymous said...

You already have your answer. He wants to play house without the commitment.

Anonymous said...

You don't need anybody to tell you he's just using you,wake up from ur slumber and move on,this is a new year!

Anonymous said...

You don't need anybody to tell you he's just using you,wake up from ur slumber and move on,this is a new year!

Cindy said...

3yrs you say? And you guys are over 30? What is he waiting 4? Or Шάτ are his fears? C'mmon grl, I suggest u leave him. 3 yrs is way too long to wear an engagement ring. He can he cage you for 3yrs.Some guys sef. Mtcheww.

Chinwe said...

Better leave oh,ur guy is just a time waster.He will end up hurting.Engaged for about three years now? Chai! Babe u be lord of the rings? Lol.u dey try oh.

patty said...

My dear if he wants to marry u he wuld ve done dat already,if a man is ready for marriage I dnt c any reason y he wuld propose and after 3yrs do natin abt it,its better u move on dan waste d best yrs of ur life with a man u aint sure of

Anonymous said...

He just gave you a ring so he can have you all to him self. Any man who really wants to settle down will always be excited to talk about it even if he's not financially ready. Talking and planning won't cost a thing! Wise up!!!!

oghogho said...

Jst gv him 1 more year...if by d end of dis year he isnt stil tlkin bout Ȋ̝̊̅t̶̲̥̅̊ den babes mayb U̶̲̥̅̊ suld return his dem ring....Linda pls post M̶̲̥̅γ̲̣̣̥ comment as new year gift 2 ♍ƺ Ooº°˚ ˚°ºoo ...Lahor Ooº°˚ ˚°ºoo

Fast Writer said...

Baby girl did you consult God before entering that relationship?? Am tired of all these ladies seeking opinions where there is none! When e dey sweet you, you tell us??
My dear shine your eyes!!

Anonymous said...

madam lib writer,hm proposin to u is nt enuf..he cud be married n stil wants u around hm..let him marry u if hs gat no skelenton in hs cupboard

Anonymous said...

if you are sure finance is not the problem, my sister run.

Anonymous said...

babe move on

Anonymous said...

My dear sis, better find your level, for me o any proposal after 6months without an unavoidable delay is a witchcraft from the so called gentleman. If you both are working and he is giving you excuses of not ready then why did he propose in the first place. Humans and their cheating nature.

Mimi

Anonymous said...

Women n mariage.hey gurl,do u love d dude? I know u have admirers out dere, dey are regretes in mariage after wedding especially wen u marry ouside ur feellingz. My dear,let ur feelingz direct u.

joyous said...

Well, I suggest u give him a lil break, don't talk abt it, give him grace of 3 months. Let's be hopeful sometin gud come out of it.

Unknown said...

I believe this man is not ready. He is just using the ring to chase away other men. Lady, I will advise u move on with ur life. U are not getting younger

Soch01 said...

Haha this is funny though! I will say be patient

Anonymous said...

1-i think you should give him time
2-try to be close to some of his best friend and relatives if he have any.
3-try to know his past relationships (this should be done with with care)

sylvia said...

R u d lord of d rings?na witchcraft oo

ladygold said...

If he is capable of getting wedded to u, u should know wat I mean by capable @ d moment and he is still delaying my galfrnd give it a second thought cos u r already on a longthing use ur head and use it well
Engagement for me should not last more than 6months b4 final wedding make d ring no turn to handcuff for ur hand o or even rust check am well o. All the best sha

Anonymous said...

He isn't going to marry you. So u need to move on with your life.

OmoAkin said...

Dnt 4get u're abv 30yrs...&men of dis days,dey're not cwios wen it coms 2marriage stuff. Giv anoda man a chance b4 its 2u late...

Anonymous said...

I think you should find out what he's doing with is time or what is not making him talk about it. U don't av to rush tinz! Just be extral observant and pay attention to all his move

Anonymous said...

Well,it all depends on ur accesmnt on d guy...4yrs is enuf tym 2 hv atleast knw d kinda man he is..u sud hv acertain wot u fink is kipin him..mayb fenance or sumfin....buh I don't fink d autimatum nt a gud buy

Unknown said...

Gdnite alll.

Unknown said...

Be patient! Keep using the key as a keyholder


Ode!

Anonymous said...

Ma dear over wastn tym dey worry u self,if after 3. Month of engagement d guy z. Not talkn. Abh marriage ma dear wah re u still doing dere abi u wan turn lord of ring?

Anonymous said...

Count your losses boo....the handwriting is clearly on the wall, if u re blind enough to see it then you ve only yourself to blame.
That's all

Anonymous said...

Pack yo bags girl! This one no be love again oh! Na witch craft! Person wey no wan make anoda person prosper! Girl I'm goin thru the exact same thing! And it took me till December 2013 to wake up! I dumped my boyfrnd(who wasn't even treatin me ryt sef) gave him his ring back nd went on with my life by re-socialising and meeting new people, u wud b shocked what u wud see. I luv him nd I'm hoping he comes to his senses ONTIME..m. If not! Its 2014 don't remain stagnant for an ungrateful man ohhh! 2014 is a Ladies year! 'nuf said! leave him, if he loves u he would come back. His just being confident! So sure that u cnt leave him. Guess what? SURPISE him! Heehhe! From olofofo luv doctor! Lol

slimzyose said...

Hmmm sweet heart I wil suggest u leave him n move on,he's nt ready n may nt stil b ready in 5yrs time n I dnt think money is d problem cos if it is,I think u 2 can wrk out something wiv d hlp of family members.he's nt jst ready 4 life,so move on cos u re a woman,u got no time like he does.

Anonymous said...

Continue waiting , u hia . Toke Makinwa and Maje are there for ur inspiration

Anonymous said...

A guy who wants to marry you won't waste time in doing so, except if as singles you are giving him the benefits of marriage like sex, washing & cooking for him without him paying your bride price. So wise up sis and decide what you really want, dis na NEW YEAR ooooooooo

Unknown said...

Waiting on that bruh will only bring u grief dear. Just click next.

~~Success Has No Limitation~~

Unknown said...

I believe no woman in her thirties deserves 2 wait dat long(3years) 4 any man dat is not forthcoming.its ur precious years n baby eggs dying honey. So give him an altimatum,and if he doesn't bulge,den know mr right is just outside dat door.

Anonymous said...

Run away from the guy now. He is a real time waster. Chop and clean mouth

Anonymous said...

An engagement is meant to last for at most a year...datz even too much,I suggest u give him bk his ring nd tell him to propose weneva he is ready,give him three months nd if he does nt make any serious move,nt jus engagin u again buh some tin more serious den I tink it z tym u move on,u hav bin patient enof nd if he is so into u he would even be d one bringin up d marriage tin nd nt d oda way round.u deserve beta,nt some man lookin for a lady to tie down eternally

Alloy Chikezie said...

Its a very complicated issue, here on LIB you might get helpful comment and same time you might also not get helpful comment, many people will advice, and you might get confused the more, as for me I really can not advice you until I know the guy in question, access him, and maybe study the kind of person he is, probably tru some of d tins you'll tell me about him, and also get more info about the relationship. So in that. case the only advice I can give here is that you should try and see a very good counsellor, I'm positive you'll get help from a very good counsellor, I pray God give you the wisdom to discern well and make the right choices.
God bless you!!!


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fkeyorubagirl said...

Talk.communiction is d key.if he cnt talk abt lil issh like dis more complicated issh will arise in ur marriage.do not giv him untimatum,n dnt turn 2 lord of d rings eida.get him talkn by all meanz n let him xplain hez reasonz if there is any @ all,den tell him how u rili feel.if he cnt reason wit dat den u'l just av 2 call d enguagement off afta xplain 2 his family d reason

Anonymous said...

Lady dis same tin happen 2 my frnd n she quit d relatnship after 7mth wen d dude never mention anytin abt marriage.I guess u av waited for 2 long ur boyfrnd wanna use dt ring 2 tie u down n at d end he wil nt make u his wife pls young lady stop wasting ur precious time wit a selfish guy! D only reason y u shuld wait is if d dude is a Job seeker!

Anonymous said...

My sister I can only say learn from Toke or wait till u'r 60 den he will be ready

#That happy sister!

Anonymous said...

Give him an ultimatum and watch him leave. Guys hate being giving ultimatums. Good luck.

Unknown said...

Lindodo, I know dis is ur own life story. Anyway, give him more time. ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥♡thanks ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥ 

Anonymous said...

Pls take a walk...the guy has nothing †Φ give u abi u wanna turn 40 before you read the writing on d wall?...3years Ȋ̝̊̅§ long enough †Φ know if someone will stay or go!

Anonymous said...

Is he okay financially? If yes, sit him down and ask hi to tell u the reason he not yet ready? He should sincere with u instead of wasting time

Unknown said...

Fire him and let him water you

tomiwealth said...

if he cant give a concrete reason why he's still holding on, please move on....he's a flipping time waster!!!!

Anonymous said...

My dear u are wasting ur precious time. Pls dis is new year,don't waste dis year on him ooo

Anonymous said...

You should know dt d man is just wasting ur time,wake up ds is 2014.

Anonymous said...

Pls 4 heaven's sake, leave him, dnt even bother giving him an ultimatum. Trust me, he is nt worth it, 3yrs is no joke ooo.

Anonymous said...

Pls leave d guy n get serious wit ur life b4 u get to 50yrs cus dt guy is jst a time waster

Happinez said...

my dear can't you see the hand writing on the wall. Engagement ring doesn't mean Marriage.

Anonymous said...

Please run for your dear life. Very soon he'll suddenly say you're too old for him and go for the twenty-somethings. Had a friend who got engaged two years before me, that was in 2010. Today I'm married and she's not.

Anonymous said...

Ultimatum swthrt. U hv wasted so much tym wt him. I don't think he deserves an ultimatum sef jst leave his ass.

SONYES said...

Well I don't think he is serious with Ɣ☺ΰ dear

Spicee Vee said...

The guy don mad!!pls take a walk ASAP. Honey...don't waste ur time pls

ONE HUNDRED KAY said...

Lols!!! U siting on a long tin woman, I mite b rong dough

Anonymous said...

Please my dear give him an ultimatum. Cos to be frank dis guy dsnt seem like he's ready for dat kinda commitment. Just sayin...

Anonymous said...

Please leave him! He's tying u dwn for his selfish intrest!

Anonymous said...

Now don't get upset that I'm about 2 b a lil harsh at the man you love but really. He is very wicked. Thers nothing mre cruel than nt knowing where you stand. See what u should do. Ask him what it is he is really waiting 4. If there's no tangible reason then please start looking elsewhere. This wrld is full of inconsiderate selfish men! Beware. God give me that 1 awesome man who's perfect 4 me. Just me. 1 other advice is PRAYER if he's not the 1 let God bring the 1. If he is then let God fix his senses. Best of luck!----C21

best baby said...

Take race, wht are u still waiting 4! All he want 4rm u is sex I guess ur rich as well, d hand writing is writen on d wall.

Anonymous said...

Free d guy, he is not ready for marriage

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