Welcome to Linda Ikeji's Blog: 03/15/2009

Saturday 21 March 2009

Why do women stay in abusive relationships? + Mawobe Video Shoot

eWhy do women stay in ABUSIVE relationships?

I've never been in an abusive relationship so I really can't say I understand it. You know they say experience is the best teacher and you can't really understand what someone is going through or has been through except you are or have been in their shoes.

I don't understand abuse at all but I try to make sense of it.

I know someone who's in an abusive relationship. Her husband beat her up so bad recently (in public) that I had to call my dad to come intervene. He was hitting her with everything he could find. I couldn't believe what I was watching.

She left his house that day, but about a week later she was back with him. And now, everytime I look at her, I ask myself; why did she come back? Why is she still with him? How do women forgive battery so easily? I wasn't the one battered but everytime I see him, I can't even open my mouth to greet him. I avoid him so much now you'd think he's the devil himself.

But she obviously forgave him. I understand forgiveness but why go back? Especially when he's done it over and over and over again.

No woman enjoys being beat up (except she's sick in the head) so that can't be it. So why do women stay in abusive relationships?

I've been talking to a lot of people about this and a particular writer sent this to me via email...as some of the reasons why women stay in abusive relationships.

1. SURVIVAL: Fear about her own and her children’s safety if she leaves.
2. ECONOMIC DEPENDENCE: Can she survive on one income?
3. FEAR: Of being alone, fear that she cannot cope with home and children by herself.
4. PARENTING: Wanting a father for the children.
5. RELIGION: Pressure to keep the family together.
6. FAMILY: Extended family pressure to keep the family together.
7. LOYALTY: If he had cancer, she’d stick by him.
8. RESCUE: If she stays, she can “save” him and help him “get better.”
9. FEAR OF HIS SUICIDE: He says he’ll kill himself if she leaves.
10. DENIAL: “It’s really not so bad.”
11. LOVE: She loves him, and he is quite often loving and lovable when he’s not being abusive.
12. IDENTITY: Many women feel that they need a man in order to be complete.
13. SHAME, EMBARRASSMENT AND HUMILIATION: She doesn’t want anyone to know.
14. LOW SELF-ESTEEM: After years of being criticized by her abuser, she believes that it must be her fault, she must deserve it, she’ll never find anyone better, “a little love is better than no love at all.”
15 SEX ROLE: “That’s just the way men are.”

What do you guys think? Do you agree with some of these reasons? Why do women tolerate abuse? For those who leave, where do they find the courage? But most important for me is; why do batterers assume they have the right to abuse?

Very intense subject huh?

Let's lighten things up a bit with pictures from new artiste, Mawobe's Video Shoot

Enjoy...

Lexzy Doo in the house

Pix thanks to Mordi Mod!

Let's know what you think about abuse and why women stay.

Cheers.

Friday 20 March 2009

Nigeria's Greatest Living Legends + Other news

The search is on for Nigeria's FIVE greatest LIVING LEGENDS.

Criteria For Nomination

•Selfless Service

•Enduring Achievements

•Sincerity of Purpose

•Resilience

•Patriotism

•Uprightness

•Respectability

•Incorruptibility

Check out the list as presented by SILVERBIRD GROUP/VANGUARD

1. Prof Dora akunyuli

2. Chief Odumegwu Ojukwu
3. Olusegun Obasanjo
4. Alhaji Balarebe musa
5. Chief Gani Fawehinmi

6. Chief Akintola Williams

7. Wole Soyinka

8. Chinua Achebe

9. King Sunny Ade
10. Chief Anthony Enahoro
11. General Yakubu Gowon
12. Prof Pat Utomi
13. Alhaji Aliko Dangote
14. Emeka Emegwali
15. David Dofinone

16. Cardinal Olubunmi Okojie

17. Chief Emeka Anyaoku

18. Kanu Nwankwo

19. Hakeem Olajuwon
20. Pastor Enoch Adeboye

What do you guys think of this list? And if you were to pick 5 people, who would you go for?

If you're interested in voting, here's how to do it...

The voting can be cast using the special short code 35120. The voter types the name of their choice and sends to the short code 35120. The service is available to all the networks and costs N100 per vote.

FIRE GUTS KEKE OGUNGBE’S HOME - Ayeni Adekunle
For the second time in about two years, the BQ housing entertainment mogul Kenny Ogungbe’s audio-visual equipment has been gutted by fire, leaving all his multi-million naira equipment scarred.
The recent inferno, which occurred in the evening of Thursday March 19, was believed to have been caused by electrical wirings. The property, containing top-of-the-range HD equipment, speakers, consoles and many other audio-visual equipment, used for Kennis Music, Kennis TV and Primetime Africa satellite broadcast was burnt completely, before members of the Lagos State Emergency Fire service could put out the fire.
The affected property is situated in Ajao Estate, Lagos.
‘‘Everyone is OK. We thank God no lives were lost’’, Keke said in a statement issued through his publicist.
The boys quarters, now a one-story-ed building, was still a bungalow when the first fire outbreak occurred nearly two years ago.
‘‘I must thank the Fire service for acting promptly. And I thank the Lagos Governor, The Nigeria Police, all media houses, my neighbours and other concerned citizens too. We thank God we were able to contain the fire before it could spread further’’, Keke commented.
Close friends and associates who have visited as at press time include veteran producer Wale Adenuga, Keke’s friend and partner Dayo Adeneye, Keke’s brothers Taiwo and ID Ogungbe and Ayeni Adekunle.

Storms Obi Asika picks wedding date - Abiola Aloba (Encomium)

Obi Asika, the head honcho at successful record company STORM REDCORDS, has finally decided to get married. He will be marrying his hearthrob of many years, Yetunde Bakare, the Nigerian American returnee who is a partner in a new events company that is into artiste management called RED CARPET. April 26th 09 would be the traditional wedding ceremony and May 1st for the white wedding.

Congrats!

KONGA ALBUM LISTENING PARTY
Host: FUNKY MONKEY ENTERTAINMENT
Start Time: Saturday, March 21, 2009 at 10:00pm
Location: Black Pearl
Street: Akin Adesola Str. Victoria Island, Lagos, Nigeria
Phone: 08028552546

RIP to Natasha Richardson. Can't believe she's gone.

Actress Natasha Richardson died from bleeding in her skull caused by the fall she took on a ski slope, an autopsy found Thursday. The medical examiner ruled her death an accident, and doctors said she might have survived had she received immediate treatment.

Alot of us can learn from this very unfortunate incident. Here's what the doctors said about what happened to her...

Richardson suffered from an epidural hematoma, which causes bleeding between the skull and the brain's covering, said Ellen Borakove, a spokeswoman for the New York City medical examiner's office.
Such bleeding is often caused by a skull fracture, and it can quickly produce a blood clot that puts pressure on the brain. That pressure can force the brain downward, pressing on the brain stem that controls breathing and other vital functions.
Patients with such an injury often feel fine immediately after being hurt because symptoms from the bleeding may take time to emerge.
"This is a very treatable condition if you're aware of what the problem is and the patient is quickly transferred to a hospital," said Dr. Keith Siller of New York University Langone Medical Center. "But there is very little time to correct this."

For those who don't remember Natasha, she played the role of Lindsay Lohan's mum in the remake of "The Parent Trap" in 1998.

So sad! May her soul rest in peace

Story of the day
Wonder shall never end...

Read and be amazed!

Up to 1,000 detained in Gambia witch hunt-Amnesty

From: http://www.reuters.com/

DAKAR, March 18 (Reuters) - Witch doctors and security forces in Gambia have detained up to 1,000 people on suspicion of being witches, Amnesty International said on Wednesday. Police in the African country dismissed the reports as lies.
Victims have been held in secret detention camps for up to five days and forced to drink hallucinogenic substances which have killed at least two people through kidney failure, the London-based human rights organisation said in a statement.
"At 5 a.m. the paramilitary police armed with guns and shovels surrounded our village and threatened the villagers that anyone who tries to escape will be buried six feet under," it quoted an unidentified eyewitness as saying of a recent raid.
Around 300 men and women were forced on to buses at gunpoint and taken to President Yahya Jammeh's home area of Kanilai, Amnesty quoted the witness as saying.
"Once there, they were stripped and forced to drink 'dirty water' from herbs and were also bathed with these dirty herbs. A lot of these people who were forced to drink these poisonous herbs developed instant diarrhoea and vomiting whilst they lay helpless," the witness added.
Gambia's inspector general of police, Essa Badjie, rejected the reports as lies.
"I think they are neglecting what is happening in Afghanistan. They are lying," he told Reuters by telephone.
"Tell them they are lying. See what is happening in Palestine and Iraq... The Gambia is a peaceful country," he said. Other officials could not be reached for comment.
Amnesty said eyewitnesses and victims said the people seeking witches, themselves known as witch doctors, had come from nearby Guinea, but were accompanied on their raids by Gambian police and army and national intelligence agents, along with members of Jammeh's personal guard, known as "green boys".
Gambia, a tiny sliver of land along the banks of the eponymous river jutting into the middle of surrounding Senegal, is mainland Africa's smallest state.
Human rights organisations and press freedom watchdogs accuse Jammeh's administration and security forces of using arbitrary detention and other abuses of power to gag political opponents and restrict freedom of expression.
Halifa Sallah, a leading opposition figure who challenged Jammeh in the country's most recent presidential elections in 2006, was arrested 10 days ago and charged last week with spying, sedition and holding an illegal meeting.
Party officials said then that Sallah had been arrested after travelling outside the capital Banjul to investigate reports that armed groups were going from village to village searching for witches. Belief in witchcraft is common in West Africa, where traditional animist beliefs coexist with Islam and Christianity.

Photos of the day

Charles Manson before

Charles Manson NOW

California corrections officials have released a new photograph of convicted mass murderer Charles Manson, who is now bald with a thick gray beard.
The photo of the 74-year-old Manson was taken Wednesday as part of a routine update of files on inmates at Corcoran State Prison, where he is serving a life sentence for conspiring to murder seven people.

The cult leader was first sentenced to death for the 1969 murders of movie star Sharon Tate, coffee heiress Abigail Folger and three others stabbed and shot to death at Tate's home in Los Angeles. The next night, two others were stabbed to death at their homes.

Later!

Thursday 19 March 2009

Hey...

Hey people, how are you guys doing? I've been kinda busy but that's not the reason I haven't blogged since Monday. I actually mistakenly broke my USB internet connection...and without that you can't browse. The problem was finding time to go get it replaced. Finally did that today!

I'm too tired to blog tonight...will do that tomorrow.
Just thought to let you all know what's up with me...

Catch y'all later!
Mwah!

Monday 16 March 2009

Naija Bloggers Awards + Modeling News

Hey people, how are you guys doing? Hope y'all had a great weekend. My weekend was fine but shame on me for not going to AY's show yesterday...to think I had tickets to the show. I heard it was a huge success tho. I'm going to start shopping around for the pictures of the event...will let you all see it when I find it!

Meanwhile, how many of you know about the Naija Bloggers Award? It's sheleing o...whatever that means huh? lol

I think I was nominated 13 times...

Just kidding ;) I was nominated 3 times...
Go here http://naijabloggersaward.blogspot.com/ to vote! I don't have to tell you who to vote for...do I? ;)

I welcome every opportunity to talk about Modeling/Tyra Banks..so here goes...

Stampede at the ANTM NYC Casting

The New York audition for The CW's "America's Next Top Model" ended in chaos after a massive stampede broke out, leaving six injured and three arrested.
Thousands of model wannabes lined up outside the Park Central New York Hotel in Manhattan during a casting call on Saturday when a pandemonium erupted. At least six people were injured, two were hospitalized after the rampage.
According to NY Daily News, an overheating BMW parked near the area took the notice of several girls who lined up at the audition. Several people in the crowd then started yelling "There's a bomb!"
27-year-old Jennifer Brown told the NY Daily News, "The girls were running like it was 9/11 part two. I feared for my life."
Two women and a man were arrested on disorderly conduct charges.

Creator Tyra Banks has been saddened by the turn of events.

She said in a statement, "We are concerned by the events that occurred Saturday afternoon in the vicinity of the New York casting call for the next cycle of 'America's Next Top Model.'"
"At this time, we still don't know all the details of what happened or what triggered the incident. We appreciate the efforts of the NYPD and will assist them in any way possible in this matter."
The audition was shut down following the incident.
The 13th cycle of the show is looking for 12 contestants who are shorter than the average model. The casting call was open only to those under 5 ft. and 7ins.

Amber Le Bon unveils supermodel figure in Seventies-style swimwear shoot - just like mum Yasmin used to...
By Deborah Arthurs

The face might look familiar - and if it doesn't, the name should give you a clue.
Meet Amber Le Bon, the 19-year-old daughter of Duran Duran frontman Simon Le Bon and wife, model Yasmin, and the latest in a long line of rock star offspring to take to modelling.
5ft 10in Amber has been signed to Models 1, the agency which not only looks after Agyness Deyn and Linda Evangelista, but has represented Amber's mother Yasmin for the past 18 years.

Simon's little angel: Amber, 19, has already modelled in Milan, and starred in the spring/summer 2009 campaign for River Island.

And although she's relatively new to the industry, the Amber has already landed a much coveted modelling job, as the new face - and body - of luxury lingerie label Myla's vintage-inspired swimwear line.
Amber, styled naturally with hippy chic hair and subtle make-up, models the retro designs - including a coral Seventies-style blouson swimsuit and a vintage-look chartreuse halterneck.
At 19, she's the same age as her tattooed, married-and-separated, wild child contemporary Peaches but, having spent the past few years studying instead of partying, she's fresher faced and a lot less cynical.

Model mum:, Yasmin modelling swimwear in 1987, aged 22

Yasmin with Amber Rose in 1989 when she was two days old

Hot on the heels of her rival rock progeny, this season she walked the Moschino catwalk in Milan, where the label's creative director called her a 'fresh, sunny and professional girl', and she also has a River Island campaign under her belt.
And just last month, she boosted her already bulging portfolio further with a Tatler magazine shoot, where she posed alongside fellow rock offspring Kimberley Stewart, India Waters and Leah Wood.

Amber's two sisters Saffron Sahara, 17, and Tallulah Pine, 14, are yet to follow her into the industry, but they've already had a taste of life in front of the lens, when the three girls appeared with their mother on the cover of Australian Elle magazine.

Good genes: Amber has inherited the exotic beauty of her mother, model Yasmin le Bon

But with Amber blessed with the same enviable looks as her mother Yasmin who, at 44, looks as good as she did at 20, Simon had better keep an eye out for his daughter attracting unsuitable male attention.
Not that he'd be one to talk if he did object: In his hey day as a Wild Boy, the rocker met his own wife after spotting her in a magazine and calling her agency to track her down.
Rock star or not, that's something no dad likes to hear.