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Saturday 14 April 2007


I had a crazy crazy day today, I'll tell y'all about it later. By now everyone knows that today was the Governorship elections in Nigeria. I heard alot of report of area boys and hooligans causing trouble around Lagos, seizing voting cards, disrupting polling stations etc. I actually haven't read any papers to find out what's really going on...but be sure I'll give you all the details as soon as I get them. As for my area, it was peaceful and everyone in my house voted. I just hope that the right person who will move this nation forward is elected Governor. And I hope also that there will be no rigging. Something tells me it won't happen this time around. I pray so!

Meanwhile I got another scam email. Here it is...

From : Bangoura & Sister Aminata.
Address: Dakar Senegal Refugee Camp.
Email : bangoura_mahamed077@yahoo.co.uk
Dearest One
My name is Bangoura Mohamed and Sister Aminata Mahamed,The Son and Daughter of (Late Dr.Ibrahim Mahamed ) Who lost his life in the course of the crisis in my country Sierra - Leone on the 28th of September last year on his way to the company ( Nestle Food Plc) .

My Late father willed in cash, the sum of $25 Million United States Dollars which he deposited in a Fixed/Suspence Bank account in Dakar Senegal in west Africa, with enabling conditions for the release of the fund which are as follows:
(1) That I must be 28 years or above.
(2) That upon request for the release of the fund, there must be evidence of investment intentions especially outside the west africa,We contact you therefore to confirm if you can absorb us in partnership in your company or possibly advise me on any investment opportunity in your country.

When I reach agreement with you, the bank will release our fund into an account that you shall nominate and I and my sister will come over to you to commence business partnership with you and the fund.

I and my sister we be expecting your urgent response including your addresses, your Mobile phone and fax number.
Contact us faster through our alternate email address for security reason.

Email: bangoura_mahamed077@yahoo.co.uk

Finally we implore you to treat this transaction with secrecy and confidentiality for security reasons.

We are Seriously waiting for your urgent reply,Best regard.

Yours Truly Son & Daughter.
Bangoura Mahamed & Sister Aminata.

Is this what some of us have resolved to do with our lives? It's sad! Please people, be careful of such mails and such fraudsters. In as much as alot of awareness is being created to warn people, some are still falling for such pranks. I hope all these irresponsible, lazy individuals who have no fear of God are caught and put away for a long time. This is not the way to go at all. Someone will sit down and type such a long message just to trick people off their money. It's sad sha!

On a lighter mood...hmmm..I'm thinking of something to cheer y'all up with....can't think of anything. Just think of something good and beautiful that happened to you recently and smile.

May God help us all. Take care of you and yours. Kissess!!!

Friday 13 April 2007


Butterflies taste with their feet.

In 10 minutes, a hurricane releases more energy than all the world's nuclear weapons combined.

Ninety percent of New York City cabbies are recently arrived immigrants.

Thirty-five percent of the people who use personal ads for dating are already married.

Elephants are the only animals that can't jump.

Only one person in two billion will live to be 116 or older.

It's possible to lead a cow upstairs...but not downstairs.

Women blink nearly twice as much as men.

A snail can sleep for three years.

No word in the English language rhymes with "MONTH".

Our eyes are always the same size from birth, but our nose and ears never stop growing.

The electric chair was invented by a dentist.

All polar bears are left handed..

An ostrich's eye is bigger than its brain.

TYPEWRITER is the longest word that can be made using the letters only on one row of the keyboard.

"Go." is the shortest complete sentence in the English language.

A crocodile cannot stick its tongue out.

The "sixth sick sheik's sixth sheep's sick"is said to be the toughest tongue twisterin the English language.

It is impossible to lick your elbow.

A crocodile can't stick its tongue out.

A shrimp's heart is in its head.

The liquid inside young coconuts can be used as substitute for blood plasma.

No piece of paper can be folded in half more than 7 times.

Rats multiply so quickly that in 18 months,two rats could have over a million descendants.

Wearing headphones for just an hourwill increase the bacteria in your ear by 700times.

Someone should please try to lead a cow downstairs to contradict this fact. Meanwhile you really can't lick your elbows...I tried it like I know many of you will!

Drop a comment and let me know what creeps you the most.


Naomi Campbell's 'Naomagic'

Derek Jeter's 'Driven'
P.Diddy's 'Unforgiven'

David and Victoria Beckham's 'Intimate'

Sarah Jessica Parker's 'Lovely'

Maria Sharapova's 'Parlux'

Kylie Minogue's 'Darling'

Christina Aguilera's 'Xpose'

Britney Spear's 'Curious'

JLo's 'Glow'

Paris Hilton's 'Just Me'
David Beckham's 'Intimate'

Hilary Duff's 'With Love'

I'm trying to get one celebrity perfume...never bought any before. The only fragrance I've used amongst this list is JLo's 'Glow' and I didn't particularly like it. So what perfume would recommend I buy?
Which is your favourite celebrity fragrance?


Iroha escapes death in Kaduna
Former Super Eagles defender and head coach of FC Abuja, Ben Iroha, was beaten to a pulp on Wednesday April 10th in Kaduna, by irate fans of Ranchers Bees. Iroha, who is also the assistant coach of the Golden Eaglets, was attacked by hooligans immediately after their Week 14 fixture with the Kaduna side, which ended 2–1 in favour of the hosts. He was discharged from the hospital after several stitches on the head and one on his eyes. The hooligans used iron rods and several other hard objects to beat him on the head and every part of his body and accused him of being responsible for the delayed goals that gave them victory. They said his presence on the bench of FC Abuja almost caused them victory in the match. This guy won a match and still got beaten up. Imagine if they had lost. We'll be hearing a different story by now.

Ebereonwu dies
Ebereonwu, award winning script writer, top movie maker, director and poet, died in an auto accident last Friday April 6th 2007. He was on his way home from O’Jez Night Club, Surulere Lagos, when he ran his bus under a truck around the Alaka area of Lagos. He was taken to the General Hospital by some of his colleagues, including Julius Agwu, Emeka Enyiocha and others after managing to extract his mangled body from underneath the truck. Ebereonwu died shortly afterwards at the age of 43, no kids, no wife. Sad! May his soul rest in peace

Navy kills Militants
An attempt to rob two new generation banks at GRA junction, Aba Road, Port Harcourt, Rivers State, in the early hours of yesterday failed, as the police was able to cordon-off the area, though the robbers escaped. This is as five people, including a policeman were feared dead in Emuoha, following clashes for undisclosed reasons, while the Navy killed two militants and wounded two in a clash at Cawthorn Channel. The robbers gained entry into Zenith and Guaranty Trust banks located beside each other, the police were alerted and dispatched their men to the scene. It was not, however, clear how the robbers who were surrounded by the police team that raced to the scene managed to escape, while none of the bank officials approached to confirm how much was carted away agreed to volunteer information. Also, a clash between the navy and militants resulted in two deaths on the part of the militants, while two were wounded and are being treated in Military hospital, Port Harcourt

Bellview Aircraft emergency landing.
Again, another tragedy was averted at the Murtala Muhammed International Airport yesterday April 12th, when Bellview aircraft lost one of its engines as it was about to land, forcing its pilot to make emergency landing. The Bellview aircraft pilot, sensing danger, contacted the control tower of the emergency landing, which rallied round to prepare for emergency landing. The aircraft was said to have landed successfully with only one engine. Worried by the recurrence of incidents and air returns, the Nigerian Civil Aviation Authority (NCAA), yesterday summoned all airlines and the whole crew of Virgin Nigeria for a trend analysis.

Virgin Nigeria air mishap
Two passengers were seriously injured when Virgin Nigeria aircraft made a flight return yesterday April 12th at the Murtala Muhammed Airport Lagos after the pilot of the airplane which was on its way to Kano enroute Abuja noticed that the aircraft developed hydraulic problem. The incident happened at about 5.00 pm yesterday. As the pilot taxied back through the runway 18 Right of the international wing of the airport, the passengers saw an on-coming aircraft and panicked and stampede ensued which led to the sustaining of injuries by many of the passengers.

Two air mishaps in one day. Thank God no one died!

Have any comments? Send it in!


I haven't done anything political in a while. Mostly because everything that has been going on in Nigeria in the last few weeks have all been negative. But then I realised nothing positive was going on in the politics of many countries. Besides that the 2007 general elections is taking place 14th and 21st respectively and I'll like to keep y'all updated with how things are happening.

Here goes...

Obasanjo relocates to Lagos
President Olusegun Obasanjo relocated to Lagos on Thursday April 12th ahead of the 14th April Governorship elections. Of all the 36 states in the federation, I wonder why he choose to be in Lagos to monitor the election. Newspapers are reporting it's because of his determination to win Lagos State, that has been eluding the PDP since 1999.

Why the work-free days were declared
Also, President Olusegun Obasanjo yesterday said the work-free-days were meant to enable Nigerians who may need to travel out of their bases in order to cast their votes to do so. The President added that during the election period, law abiding citizens are advised to avoid night travel and night movement except where absolutely necessary. There was a sudden declaration of public holidays on Thursday and Friday 12th and 13th in Naija. It was too sudden.

Trouble-makers will be dealth with
President Olusegun Obasanjo yesterday read the riot acts to those planning to perpetrate violence during the April 14 governorship and state assembly elections as well as the April 21 Presidential and National Assembly polls. He warned them to desist from such acts or have themselves to blame, stressing that the will of the Federal Government to contain such violent acts should not be tested.

Atiku accused of planning to scuttle the elections
The Atiku Campaign Organisation has denied an allegation by the Special Assistant to the President on Public Affairs, Mr. Uba Sani, in which he accused Vice President Atiku Abubakar of planning to scuttle the elections. But the Presidency yesterday advised the Vice President to accept the fact that the game is over for him as far as the presidential race is concerned, adding that it does not in any way feel threatened by him. In a statement yesterday, the Atiku Campaign said ordinarily, it would have dismissed Uba Sani’s allegations as typical of an unsound mind, but for the gravity of the charges."First, we would like to restate that the Vice President is a strong believer in the rule of law and a committed democrat which is why he has so far resorted to the law courts to clear his name of all charges against him. He has pursued his presidential ambition in a peaceful and democratic manner," it stated

Soyinka, others accuse FG of instigating violence
A group of eminent Nigerians, including Nobel laureate and leader of the Democratic Front for a Peoples Federation (DFPF), Professor Wole Soyinka; All Progressives Grand Alliance (APGA) presidential candidate, Chief Emeka Odumegwu Ojukwu, Michael Orobator of the Ethnic Nationalities Movement (ENM), Professor Kimse Okoko, leader of the Ijaw National Congress (INC), Barrister Ledum Mitee of the Movement for the Survival of Ogoni People (MOSOP), Action Congress (AC) National Chairman, Chief Bisi Akande and Chief Solomon Asemota, a Senior Advocate of Nigeria (SAN), have fingered the Federal Government as the architect of the increasing spate of armed attacks across the country. President Olusegun Obasanjo was particularly berated for declaring the polls a do-or-die affair. The group who made the observation in a joint press statement, regretted that the presidency had "become the instrument of insecurity in Nigeria. The group regretted that over 400 billion dollars, which have accrued to the nation since the discovery of crude oil, has inflicted massive poverty, insecurity and misery on the people, adding that the latest importation of a large cache of ammunition by the police, purportedly, to curtail violence during the election has further heightened the tension in the land.

Tension in Ibadan
Palpable tension enveloped Ibadan, Oyo state capital yesterday, barely 48 hours to the governorship and state assembly elections, with some prominent politicians in the state going into hiding. Resident Electoral Commissioner (REC) for Oyo State, Chief Stephen Manya said in Ibadan yesterday said that soldiers would be deployed to the streets of the state capital from today to stem the tide of violent political attacks. In the midst of the confusion, the state governor, Alhaji Rasheed Ladoja and some of his aides allegedly went into hiding while police also combed the farms of some politicians including that of the Secretary to the State Government, Mr. Ayodele Adigun, in search of arms and ammunition.

US Government threaten Nigeria
The United States has threatened to review its relations with Nigeria and rally its allies to sanction the country should tomorrow’s elections and presidential election scheduled for next week produce an "illegitimate government". The US government, through Senator Russ Feingold, chairman of the Africa Sub-Committee in the United States Congress, lampooned President Olusegun Obasanjo and the Prof Maurice Iwu-led Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC), accusing them of lack of commitment to free and fair elections as well as limiting competition.

Coalition of Presidential candidates
The coalition of the 23 presidential candidates on Thursday in Abuja announced the formation of an anti-rigging committee to checkmate perceived electoral fraud by the ruling Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) in conjunction with the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC). The nine-man committee, headed by Professor Pat Utomi, is to strategise and adopt methods aimed at detecting fraud during the elections and coordinating response by members to resist any attempt to rig the elections and impose unpopular candidates on the nation. The meeting, which resolved to get all the candidates together to forge a common front before April 21, adjourned till next Tuesday, April 17, even as the candidates present alleged that the INEC had perfected plans to return PDP to power. They passed a vote of no confidence on the commission’s ability to organize credible elections.

Explosion in campaign office
The Olusegun Agagu 2007 Campaign office located on Oyemekun Road, Akure, Ondo State capital was yesterday rocked by explosion which occurred at about 3.00pm.The explosion, occurred on the ground floor close to the staircase of the building.

Court directs Inec to allow Ngigi contest
The former governor of Anambra State, Dr. Chris Ngige, yesterday won a major legal battle in his quest to contest Saturday's gubernatorial election when a Federal High Court in Abuja reaffirmed its judgment that the planitiff's name should be included in the list of those to contest for election. Inec made no statement in regards to this. I don't think Ngige will contest in tommorrow's election.

Thanks to the Sun and Thisday newspapers for all the information. I've been buying newspapers like a crazy woman in the last few weeks, to keep abreast with what's going on in my country. You'll be getting a lot of political news from now on. What do you guys think about the political happenings in Naija? Let us know!


1. Asian cobra
There's a reason why snakes have garnered such a bad rap over the years. There are about two million people who suffer from snakebites every year throughout the world and more than 50,000 of those are fatal. The Asian Cobra is technically not the reptile with the strongest venom but, along with Russell's Viper, it is the one that kills the most people annually. There are Asian cobras in lots of countries but it's in Sri Lanka that they are the most active.

2. Funnel-web spider
Arachnophobia is a very common fear among the population. Fortunately, spider bites are rather rare and mostly harmless, but being attacked by a venomous spider can put an end to your life in a matter of hours. The funnel-web spider, whose body length ranges from 0.5 to 2 inches, is the most dangerous in the world. Hailing from Australia, they have massive fangs and can bite through a fingernail. The male might even enter buildings in search of a female and will become aggressive if cornered or disturbed.

3. Killer bees
The killer bees are the result of an experiment gone terribly wrong. Brazilian scientists wanted to breed a new species of honeybee in the 1950s, but some bees escaped and began mating with Brazilian honeybees. The result was the Africanized bee, an animal that hunts in swarms.Whenever they hear you coming with a lawnmower or trimmer, they will attack you. Even if you run away, they will chase you as far as 1,000 feet and they can continue attacking for up to 10 hours.

4. Crocodile
The North American, Nile, and estuarine are the largest crocodiles and therefore the most dangerous - especially saltwater crocs, which include humans on their list of prey - freshwater crocodiles stick to insects, fish, frogs, and other smaller creatures found near the water. The Australian estuarine crocodiles are cantankerous and sometimes lunge at anything that moves. Direct descendants of dinosaurs, they lie still in the water waiting for their prey. They then overpower, drown and dismember their victim, before they devour their feast.

5. Box jellyfish
Jellyfish are virtually road bumps in the ecosystem. They have no brain and only serve to eat zooplankton from the world's oceans. The box jellyfish, also known as a sea wasp, lives off the waters of Northern Australia and is the most poisonous sea creature in the world. This translucent being patrols the beaches, basically waiting for contact with its victim. The simple act of stepping on a tentacle can signify death in four minutes.

6. Great white shark
Unlike in the movie Jaws, sharks are not bent on revenge. If they attack humans it's because they think we're fish. Whenever they sense blood in the water, they get excited and it can trigger one of their famous feeding frenzies in which they will bite everything that moves. Sharks strike no matter the time of day or the condition of the water. Hunger, territorial defence, movement, and mistaken identity are the main reasons for these attacks, which occur mostly along the coasts of North America, South Africa, and the Caribbean.

7. Lion
The lion is known as king of the jungle, and for good reason. Lions are at the very top of the food chain in Africa. They lounge around all day, hanging out with the family and strike when necessary. They have razor-sharp teeth and claws that can tear apart any animal, including humans. Lions are fast and lethal, and nothing you do can keep this African monster from attacking you.

8. Cape buffalo
This animal, also known as the African buffalo, is not just a big cow - it's a vicious beast that charges at humans seemingly for fun. Big game hunters cherish them for their malicious history. They see man as a predator so when faced with one, they charge at him - 1,500 pounds and all - and use their horns for stabbing. It is said that when wounded by a hunter, they pursue him until either the buffalo or the hunter is dead

9. Elephant
Elephants aren't predators and are known to help other animals and be socially active within their group. But while they're not in an epic war against humans, they can turn aggressive rapidly, especially as a result of their abuse and harassment by humans.When caged or feeling the constraints of domesticated life, they can fall into a blind rage and have been known to kill their handlers as well as stampede tourists who show up to admire them. Some zoos have ceased all contact between human beings and elephants for this reason.

10. Polar bear
Bears are pretty much the puppy dogs of the wild. They are so cute that most people want to pet them... and that would be their first mistake. Polar bears are the largest carnivores on land; they eat ringed seals for breakfast but would settle for a young walrus or beluga whale. Living in the Arctic Circle, they've certainly been known to kill humans who venture too close. It's starvation that makes them dangerous and a smack from one of their paws could rip your head clean off.

Of all these deadly animals, the one that scares me the most are the killer bees, that resulted due to an experimant that went wrong. I think I can stand staying in front of a Snake, Lion, Crocodile, but the bees? I'll die before they even come near me. They can pursue you from here to kingdom come. And they are said to attack for at least 10 hours. May we never cross paths...Amen!!!

What animal is the deadliest to you and which one scares you the most?


I got this email yesterday. Not the first time I must confess. My e-mail is on the internet so I've been getting loads and loads 'fraud' e-mails. Just thought to share this particular e-mail with y'all

From Mr. Idris Mustafa
My telefax number is 0022505519264
my E-mail address is mus_idris113@yahoo.fr

Dearest Beloved,Please kindly go through this letter before you pass judgment because I am in need of assistance. I am Mr. Idris Mustafa the son of late Dr. Malik Mustafa from Sierra Leone. I must confess my agitation is real, and my words is my bond, in this proposal

My late father happens to be in control of a large number of farms including cattle’s and many sheep before he was poisoned by his foreign business partners in Paris with my mother in one of their farmers association meeting because of greed.But before his death my late father deposited some amount of money outside our country in bank at the tone of Four Million United States Dollars $4,000.000.00. So I and my little sister are no longer safe here as the present government of Sierra Leone are working with almost all the killers of my late father as one of them has been just be made a minister, name undisclosed because of security reasons.

Furthermore we have contacted the bank where the money is deposited and the bankers let us understand that they signed an agreement with our late father that the total money must be transferred into his foreign business partner account undisclosed to them and that is the major reason why i am contacting you now for assistance.

All I needed from you now is your full names and address including your direct and personal telephone number for easy communication as you know that this transaction is a very confidential one.

Please Kindly get back to me immediately after you must have gone through my message fill free and make it urgent. That is the reason why I offered you 15 % of the total money amount, and in case of any other necessary expenses you might incur during this transaction.

N.B Try and negotiate for me some profitable blue chip investment opportunities which is risky free which I can invest with this money when it is transferred from the bank here, personally I am interested in estate management and hotel business, please advise me.

For more explanation write me through my alternative e-mail address (mus_idris113@yahoo.fr )

And promise me and my younger sister to be a good guardian considering our situation and not to betray us.

Thanks and God bless you and your family.Best regardsMr. Idris Mustafamy E-mail address is mus_idris113@yahoo.fr

My telefax number is 0022505519264

I don't know why people still keep sending e-mails like this. Haven't they realised that we know their tricks by now? I remember seeing a similar email on Bimbylad's blog and she replied him with curses.

In my reply to the needy, wealthy Mustapha, I told him to come to my blog and check out how I can be of assistance to him.

So people, please send in replies to Mustapha. He needs to know that people aren't fools and can't be easily duped!

My reply to you Mustapha is...Go get a job fool!!!

I hope he sees it!

Thursday 12 April 2007


Puff Daddy/P.Diddy/Diddy is the guy who throws the best parties in the world. Everyone who's gone to his parties have the time of their lives. There's always so much to eat, drink, celebrities to see, boobs popping out etc.lol
Anyone, been to a Diddy party?


1. What is the hottest place on Earth?
El Azizia in Libya recorded a temperature of 136 degrees Fahrenheit (57.8 Celsius) on Sept. 13, 1922 -- the hottest ever measured. In Death Valley, it got up to 134 Fahrenheit on July 10, 1913.

2. And the coldest place on Earth?
Far and away, the coldest temperature ever measured on Earth was -129 Fahrenheit (-89 Celsius) at Vostok, Antarctica, on July 21, 1983

3. What makes thunder?
If you thought, "Lightning!" then hats off to you. But there's a more illuminating answer. The air around a lightning bolt is superheated to about five times the temperature of the Sun. This sudden heating causes the air to expand faster than the speed of sound, which compresses the air and forms a shock wave; we hear it as thunder.

4. How far does regular dust blow in the wind?
A 1999 study showed that African dust finds its way to Florida and can help push parts of the state over the prescribed air quality limit for particulate matter set by the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency. The dust is kicked up by high winds in North Africa and carried as high as 20,000 feet (6,100 meters), where it's caught up in the trade winds and carried across the sea. Dust from China makes its way to North America, too.

5. Where is the worlds highest waterfall?
The water of Angel Falls in Venezuela drops 3,212 feet (979 meters).

6. What would a 100-pound person weigh on Mars?
The gravity on Mars is 38 percent of that found on Earth at sea level. So a 100-pound person on Earth would weigh 38 pounds on Mars. Based on NASA's present plans, it'll be decades before this assumption can be observationally proved, however.

7. How long is a Martian year?
It's a year long, if you're from Mars. To an earthling, it's nearly twice as long. The red planet takes 687 Earth-days to go around the Sun -- compared to 365 days for Earth. Taking into account Mars' different rotational time. Calendars on Mars would be about 670 days long with some leap days needed to keep things square.

8. What is the largest volcano?
The Mauna Loa volcano in Hawaii holds the title here on Earth. It rises more than 50,000 feet (9.5 miles or 15.2 kilometers) above its base, which sits under the surface of the sea. But that's all volcanic chump change. Olympus Mons on Mars rises 16 miles (26 kilometers) into the Martian sky. Its base would almost cover the entire state of Arizona.

9. What was the deadliest known earthquake?
The world’s deadliest recorded earthquake occurred in 1557 in central China. It struck a region where most people lived in caves carved from soft rock. The dwellings collapsed, killing an estimated 830,000 people. In 1976 another deadly temblor struck Tangshan, China. More than 250,000 people were killed.

10. How far is it to the center of the Earth?
The distance from the surface of Earth to the center is about 3,963 miles (6,378 kilometers). Much of Earth is fluid. The mostly solid skin of the planet is only 41 miles (66 kilometers) thick -- thinner than the skin of an apple, relatively speaking.

11. What is the highest mountain?
Climbers who brave Mt. Everest in the Nepal-Tibet section of the Himalayas reach 29,035 feet (nearly 9 kilometers) above sea level. Its height was revised upward by 7 feet based on measurements made in 1999 using the satellite-based Global Positioning System.

12. Has the Moon always been so close?
It used to be much closer! A billion years ago, the Moon was in a tighter orbit, taking just 20 days to go around us and make a month. A day on Earth back then was only 18 hours long. The Moon is still moving away -- about 1.6 inches (4 centimeters) a year. Meanwhile, Earth's rotation is slowing down, lengthening our days. In the distant future, a day will be 960 hours long.

13. What is the longest river?
The Nile River in Africa is 4,160 miles (6,695 kilometers) long.

14. What's the driest place on Earth?
A place called Arica, in Chile, gets just 0.03 inches (0.76 millimeters) of rain per year. At that rate, it would take a century to fill a coffee cup.

15. Where is the lowest dry point on Earth?
The shore of the Dead Sea in the Middle East is about 1,300 feet (400 meters) below sea level. Not even a close second is Bad Water in Death Valley, California, at a mere 282 feet below sea level.

More Amazing Facts to come. Drop a comment if you learnt anything new about the world you live in!


It's been called everything from having an "improper relationship" to having an "undercover lover" to having a "freak on the side." But whatever name it's given, it means one thing -- cheating. And relationship experts say men are doing it now more than ever.

In fact, experts estimate that nearly 75 percent of married men, or men involved in serious relationships, cheat. That means three men out of every four practice infidelity, if the numbers are to be believed. And maybe even more disturbing is the simultaneous collapse of the seven-year itch, the once-disreputable length of time it was thought to normally take a man to give into sexual temptation. Today, studies show that most men who cheat are doing it within the first three years of a relationship.

What's going on here? Why the recent surge in male infidelity? Relationship counselors say it can be attributed to many factors, but perhaps the overriding reason men are cheating at an alarming rate is because it's easier than ever before.

Long gone are the days when a man and his mistress communicated by calling each other's home, letting the telephone ring once and hanging up. With technological advances such as pagers, cell phones, voice mail and e-mail, a Brother with a cheating heart can carry on a side relationship without much fear of getting caught, virtually staying in touch with the other woman 24/7 without his partner ever having a clue. Add to that, the increased daily contact between men and women, according to all available statistics, and even men who were onetime scared-cats have turned into bold and brazen cheaters.

For the ones who do cheat, the reasons vary. For some men, cheating feeds the ego. For others, it feeds their illusions that a man's role is to conquer as many women as possible, and a woman's sole purpose in life is to please men. And still others creep because of its intoxicating effects, providing an adrenaline rush. But whether a man considers cheating mental therapy, role playing or more thrilling than bungy-jumping, "nothing justifies it, nothing makes cheating okay.

While men many times have the false impression that they cheat simply to have uncommitted sex, experts say the reasons run much deeper. Of course, we all know that while men and women are both capable of cheating, it's often the guys who have the biggest problem keeping their belts firmly buckled. And we all know that no matter who it's with, why it's done, or where the after-hours canoodling takes place, cheating is-most of the time-the ultimate relationship death sentence. But instead of dwelling on what happens after the cheating takes place, one of the ways to perhaps prevent infidelity is by knowing a little bit about why men stray

The following, according to experts, are the real reasons men cheat:

Women Stand For It:
Men wouldn't cheat if women didn't let them. Women marry men who have cheated on them during courtship, even though relationship experts warn that a man who cheats on his fiancee, or even his girlfriend, will probably cheat on his wife. But the reality is that the world is filled with scores of lonely women looking for love. Men are well aware that the loneliness some women feel is so strong that they are willing to settle for a cheater, and write off his scurrilous ways as a simple case of "boys will be boys." At day's end, these women would rather lie down next to a cheater than no man at all.

To Fulfill His Biology:
You know the old anthropological tale. A man's main job, besides killing the saber-tooth, is to spread his seed in order to ensure the survival of his genetic legacy. It's a man's biology to want to wander. Does that mean he should, or that he can't help it? Of course not. But it does mean that a man is going to have strong-extremely strong-biological urges to knock on the doors of neighboring huts. Are men predestined to cheat? The answer is no, they're not-despite their biology. But often times, they do have to fight it.

To Get the Attention:
News flash: Sure, some guys cheat because, well, maybe the sexual frequency has slowed a bit, and maybe hot-and-heavy happens at home about as often as Rob Schneider gets nominated for an Oscar. But the truth is that plenty of men who are having regular sex with their partner are also having sex with someone else. Why? Because cheating isn't just about the sex. Just as a woman who cheats may be seeking more affection than what she's getting at home, a man often cheats because he's seeking the attention that he no longer gets at home. Part of the allure of the mysterious woman isn't just to find out what she looks like naked; it's that the woman showers the man with flirtations, with seduction, with advances that make him feel like he's worthy of more than just fixing dents in the drywall.

Frustration Over Present Relationship:
It all sounded good at first, sharing his life, his hopes, his dreams in an exciting relationship with one special lady. But soon after the newness wore off, his romantic visions of a wonderful future shifts to the realities of a problem-filled daily existence. The dishwasher's broken, the car needs a new transmission, work is a pain and the bill collectors are calling. Before long, most of their conversations consist of taking care of mundane tasks. He begins to feel like his partner is more critical of him, more argumentative, and does not give him the attention that he deserves.
So he eventually cheats, viewing it as a way to obtain the emotion that is no longer present in his current relationship. With his undercover lover, there is no stress, no pressure. They both work hard to satisfy each other mentally and physically. They share their shortcomings, and in time develop an emotional bond.

This man is bored and likes the novelty of being with another woman. So rather than put energy into rekindling the relationship he has with his partner, developing a hobby or engaging in something else that will give him an adrenaline rush, he looks for excitement in all the wrong places -- first and foremost, in-between the sheets. He usually has a series of affairs with different women, moving from one to another one when the novelty wears off.

To Get Out:
A lots of guys simply don't have the strength to end it. They may try ("I'm just not happy"), or they may take other tactics to drive a woman away. A lot of guys simply have trouble breaking off relationships because they don't want to be perceived as that bad guy, the jerk, the insensitive lout who ended something good. So they tiptoe around the issue in hopes that she'll get so frustrated that she'll back out first. Well, if that doesn't work, then a man knows that the only way out is to commit the relationship sin that drives a woman away for good. It's not right, but it's what happens.

Ego Boost:
The cheating game is filled with men looking for reassurance of their manhood from a woman other than the one he's involved with. He feels a lack of self-worth and self-esteem, and cheating provides a mental vacation, an escape from the responsibilities of his daily life. He has convinced himself that his cheating heart can cure his wallowing psyche.

A Spiritual Emptiness:
Few religions condone a man having an intimate relationship with more than one woman. In fact, most refer to it as die ultimate sin. Forsaking all others is at the core of any spiritually based relationship. Therefore, experts say that a man who chooses to partake in one of the few acts that is strictly forbidden in most religious teachings hints at his lack of spirituality. With a religious foundation, a man will understand that perhaps the only thing strong enough to quell temptations raging inside of him is a strong spiritual base.

Climate Of Instant Gratification:
His personal values have become confused with society's "just-do-it" mentality. He thinks and acts in 30-second sound bites, with no thought about the repercussions of his actions. He sees no reason to rein in his feelings and desires. If he thinks a woman is attractive, he'll go after her, never letting a little thing like his present relationship stand in his way.

Seeking Revenge:
He's angry at something his partner said or did, and is looking to even the score, even if that means breaking the rules. In his mind, he feels cheating is a justified way to make the scales balanced again. For angry men, cheating provides a challenge. Although he figures his partner will never find out about it, simply knowing how much it would hurt her if she did is enough to satisfy most seething men.

So what happens after a man cheats? Experts say if his partner doesn't find out about transgressions, a man will most likely continue to do it. While there are numerous reasons why man cheats, one simple fact remains: Most men don't want to stop playing the cheating game, even though a cheater "must forever keep his lies straight,"

When a cheater is finally unmasked and the stick of dynamite he's been secretly holding finally explodes, all trust in him is lost, and the message to the man's partner is painfully clear. Nothing is as personal as cheating.
But the first time a man is caught doesn't necessarily spell the end of his relationship with his significant other. Relationship therapists say that if a man is remorseful and his partner is forgiving, things can be patched up.

Experts also say many women may be milling to forgive once, but that's it. The old adage, `Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me,'

The most significant I learnt from this article is that we women let men cheat. We are so desperate for love that we would rather lie next to a cheating man than no man at all. And any man who has cheated before will cheat again. So what do you do when you really love the cheating man you are in a relationship with? Is it so easy to walk away? How many times do you have to forgive? How do you forgive? And how do you move on from that without thinking all men cheat? How do you trust the next man that comes into your life? How do you deal with the hurt? Send me your thoughts.


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