Welcome to Linda Ikeji's Blog: 08/17/2008 - 08/24/2008





Saturday 23 August 2008

Does Religion Matter? + Nigeria International Party

Does religion matter when it comes to marriage? If you're a staunch Catholic and a non-Catholic wants to marry you, is that a problem? And if you want to get married in a Catholic Church and he wants to do it in his own Church...what do you guys do? How do you compromise?

NB: This has got nothing to do with me...nothing at all. When we're ready, I'm sure he'll let me pick wherever I wanna marry at...wink!
But some people are facing this dilemma...
So what do you guys think?

Nigeria International
Finally the No1 celebrity party with Nigeria International happened. Again NI is the TV show for Nigerians around the world, showing the practicalities of Nigerian life every and anywhere they maybe with a celebrity presenter every week to show case the best of the best of Talents in the country . From Dakore Egbuson to Kate Henshaw- Nutall. Sunny Nneji, Gbenga Adeyinka, Mike Aremu, Michelle Dede, Julius Agwu, Isio Wanogho, Sound Sultan, Rita Dominic, Yinka Ayefele, Rugged man and a host of others.

Here are some pictures from the event...

Dele Fadahunsi - MD NI, Kemi Beyiouku - Marketting Executive, Adebola Williams - Snr. Producer NI

So when NI became 3, it was time to party with these celebrities and it was a blast.
From Etcetera blowing the guests away with a breath taking rendition of the National Anthem to the new comedy kid Seyi Law breaking ribs with veeery Nigerian jokes. The anchors Michelle Dede of Universal studios and Big brother Nigeria, and the well fed comedian of Nigeria, Jedi Ayo who came in straight from a show in the UK were just magical that the audience had no dull moment every time they came upstage. Hosting a first of its kind live set Talk show in the same manner of setting new standards by Nigeria International.

The talk show with Gbenga, Seyi Law, Jedi and Michelle

The NI crew!

The discussions were based on ‘How the Nigerian Entertainment industry is taking Nigeria International’ So we now have almost as often as we do in Nigeria, Nigerian comedy events, concerts involving Nigerian artiste like the Mandela concert with 9ice recently and our movies being first choice in different parts of the world although mostly amongst the Nigerian communities. It was a most interesting session and very revealing as these celebrities and industry moguls were most passionate .

The great Tee Mac was live to serenade with his flute and the world class rapper MI who is just hot and blazing, representing Nigeria around the world thrilled the audience with hits after hit especially crowd mentality.

One of NI's ambassadors - Dakore Egbuson

Dele Fadahunsi - The brain behind Nigeria international

Lepa Shandy on The Red carpet

The great Tee Mac on tune

The Jazz sensation, Etcetra

The cute dinner part was a cosy affair with not too much people from entertainers to corporate executives and upwardly mobile young people. The colours of the evening were bright and hot as it was a mix of White, Red and Green magically done by Yvent couture.

The ever cool performer, Segun Obe.

Wine and drinks were pouring over. Food from Essy peacock and small chops from Saheeto were too much to handle.
It was a pleasant evening for everyone that attended the event as they went home witr renewed hope for the country, refreshed from the thrill, and of course with great insights from the talk sessions.

Rave of Hiphop, MI Abaga thrilling the audience

The Anchors of the night -Michelle Dede and Jedi Ayo

Tee Mac

Gbenga Adeyinka, Debo Alexander of EXP and Zakki Azzay

Gbenga Adeyinka and Funmi of TV Continental enthralled by a performance.

NI intends to bring more often, such ground breaking events that will connect Nigerians abroad with those back home live on television and one of such will be to celebrate the Nigerian Independence in October. Please mail http://mail.google.com/mail/h/wdpzmexp1zj2/?v=b&cs=wh&to=info@nigeriainternational.com to be a part or call 07028101959/ 018505275

...Just so you guys know, I really really appreciate your comments...I might not respond to individual comments or even answer a question (it's not deliberate) but I do so so much appreciate every single comment...it makes blogging worth it...

Friday 22 August 2008

Nigerian Men Are Killing Their Wives in America now.

This is an extremely negative portrayal of Nigerian men. Been battling with whether to post this or not...decided to.

I don't live in America but I watch C&I and I know killings of women by their men and vice versa is no news...but when the men doing this killings are Nigerians...then it's news.

Here are a few stories of the crazy and senseless killings going on in the US; killings perpetuated by Nigerian men

Written by a keen observer...
Warning: some of the images here might be too graphic for your psyche; proceed with caution!

Have you ever seen the face of a wife killer? Have you ever met anyone who took the life of the mother of his children? Have you ever seen or met such a person who is a Nigerian? How spooky it is indeed that such a person has the blood of another human being and a Nigerian for that matter, drooling over his hands! Such a hallowing experience becomes much creepier, when that monster who took the life of a Nigerian is also a fellow Nigerian whom you may have interacted with somehow. somewhat! Now buckle up your belt as Icheoku takes you on a harried excursion through the faces, names and somewhat biographies of some of these denigrate of society! They are painting the average Joe-Nigerian man in American as a domestic violent person; a potential wife killer! A bad name indeed, really? They are the worst of the Nigerian male society in America: the dregs of the society! They are the fabled black-sheep who have defiled and violated the sanctity of the Nigerian family cohesiveness. These men killed their WIVES! They made their children motherless! It is abominable! Brace yourself!

Now, meet denigrate person wife-killer number one, Mr. Kelechi Charles Emeruwa:- A Nigerian Mr. Kelechi Charles Emeruwa, (pictured here right) 41 of Old Umuahia, Abia State was charged and convicted with first degree murder of his estranged wife, 36 year old Registered Nurse, Chidiebere Omenihu Ochulo. Kelechi finally lost it and stabbed his wife, with her own kitchen knife, several times that the fountain left on Julius Ceaser fades in comparison, until she gave up the ghost. "According to the account, Chidiebere had just returned from Nigeria where she bolted away for three weeks to give her late father a lavish burial despite protestations of Mr. Kelechi of the bills that are accruing and payable here in America. She wouldn’t hear any of it, after-all she makes the money; only to return to an angry frustrated maniacal husband who took her kitchen knife and carved her up. It was on New Year’s Day, in her townhouse in the 4200 block of Dunwood Terrace, in the Washington DC suburb of Burtonsville in Montgomery County, Maryland.

For a little biography, Chidiebere was born on June 1, 1970 and attended schools in Umuahia and Yola before proceeding to University of Nigeria Nsukka where she bagged a degree in Microbiology. She then got married to Kelechi in 1996 and left for the US the same year, having won the American Visa lottery. In an effort to really settle down in the US and get a respectable job, she took a second degree in Nursing and began a career at Washington Hospital Centre. As a result of her hard work, she got to the peak of the administrative cadre as a Deputy Director, Clinical Services, at the Centre where she remained until her death in the cold hands of the man she once loved - the father of her three children.

In Tennessee, a Nigerian man after taking it for so long, lost his cool and shot his Registered Nurse wife as well as his hitherto mother in-law to death with a shot gun. According to the account this RN wife was married from Nigeria a pauper and brought to the United States by this man, who trained her in school as a registered nurse. Soon after her qualification, the demon in her was let loose and it became one torment after another, with one police call after another followed by sleep-over in police cells and it went on and on ad infinitum. After a protracted battle with the authorities at the wife’s instigation, this man lost his almost nearly paid-off home to his wife, including the custody of his three kids by her. He sees these kids just periodically according to court’s order and at the discretionary behest of the wife who sometimes comes to the appointed custody visitation ground at a time of her choosing; just to punish and suffer this man. He could not take it any longer and now the rest is history with two women shot dead and the killer in death row awaiting the electric chair.

Another lunatic fringed monster, Mr. Theophilus Ojukwu has equally entered the annals of Nigerian men wife-killers in the United States of America! This cancer of wife killing by Nigerian husbands is fast spreading that the Nigerian society is getting numb and used to it, as one of the social maladies of our times. A heinous act which hitherto would be very abominable that people are shocked to their bone marrows is today seen as a possibility. In Garland, Texas on Saturday, March 25, 2007 Mr.Theophilus Ojukwu, (pictured right in his orange prison jumpsuit) 46, of Enugwu-Agu, Ihe in Awgu LGA, Enugu State used a mattock (hammer) to bludgeon his deeply asleep RN wife, Melvina Ojukwu, 36, of Umuanebe, also of Ihe, Awgu LGA, Enugu State to a very painful agonizing death.

Sources close to the family said that about two years ago, Melvina’s mother and mother in-law of Theophilus, who was visiting from Nigeria tragically died in a mysterious circumstance, in a bathtub in their house at 5400 block of Barcelona Drive, Garland Texas; this is where Melvina also met her untimely and heartbreaking death.

Whether this is a chain of events is inconclusive but both situations were very tragic! Mr Theophilus Ojukwu has since been sentenced to life in prison without the possibility of parole; that one would ask, is the craze to control the RN’s “legendary money-faucet” enough for this tragedy and the life imprisonment consequence thereof?

In another family-related violent incident involving a Nigerian, it was reported in The Atlanta Journal-Constitution of March 8, 2006 that a Registered Nurse Roseline Unachukwu, 34, and her six children were taken to the family violence shelter, Northwest YWCA in Marietta, Georgia, a suburb of Atlanta, as a result of physical violence. According to people with knowledge of the incident, the poor lady escaped with her life from her husband’s maniacal rage with very severe cuts in her arms which she received while fending off her husband's killer-rage. Her husband, Benjamin Unachukwu from Nnewi, Anambra State, was taken to jail to face two criminal charges with the kitchen-knife weapon of choice as evidence exhibit!
In Los Angeles California it was reported that a Nigerian RN wife was brutally murdered by her husband. The viciousness of the attack was such that the man eventually tied the dead body of his wife to his truck and dragged her dead body through the roads and streets of Southern California until her skull gave up its cranial contents. He was eventually arrested, charged, tried and convicted for first degree murder with special circumstance which carries the death penalty! He is presently awaiting a date with the lethal injection in a cold segregated death-row prison cell!

Only recently, one Nigeria RN woman living in Dallas Texas had this to write on the Internet about her fellow estranged Nigerian husband:-“I have been married to Mr. X (real name excluded by Icheoku as we do not want to be a purveyor of this domestic madness) for 20years, and had five children for him. I was married to him at the age of 18years, and joined him in Dallas from Nigeria after my high school. For those 20years of marriage which can pass for 20years of bondage and slavery, I have had to endure constant physical abuse, verbal abuse, and emotional abuse and mental torture in the hands of Mr. X. I am asking whosoever that reads my story to please send it out to as many forums as they have access to. Silence they say is golden. But if you are dealing with a mad, sad, disgruntled man like Benjamin X, silence will no longer be golden”.And what could have driven a Nigerian wife to write such an unflattering “oration” about her husband, one would ask? The answer depends on who you ask. Is this couple close to the finish line? Similarly, in Grand Prairie, Dallas, Texas, Mrs. Monireti Abeni Akeredolu, (pictured below in her wedding with her killer-husband) a 46-year old Registered Nurse from Ondo State Nigeria met her untimely death in the hands of her estranged husband, Mr. Ebenezer Akeredolu, Sr., 48. According to the story, Mr. Akeredolu drove several hundred miles from Georgia (where he had moved to nurse his pains at loosing everything he had worked so hard for since coming to the United States several decades ago) to Dallas and pumped several bullets into his ex-wife in day light, with so many people watching the macabre spectacle. Mrs. Monireti died slumped in the wheels of her SUV enroute to a birthday party in her honor – she had just turned 46 a day before on September 7, 2005.

Not too long ago, also, on August 10, 2005 in Euless, a suburb of Dallas, another frustrated Nigerian husband, 45-year old Johnny Omorogieva from Edo State, Nigeria murdered his RN wife, Mrs. Isatu Omorogieva, 35, also of Edo State by savagely striking her on the head numerous times with a hammer in the full view of their 7-year old screaming daughter.
In Tulsa, Oklahoma a yet to be fully authenticated report has it that another Nigerian man recently bludgeoned his RN wife to death while she was fast asleep; following a traumatic life which she has subjected him to since turning into the majority bread winner of the family following her graduating from a nursing program.

Another Nigerian nut-case, Mr. John Onwuka (pictured here right in his orange prison jumpsuit) 49, from Akwete community of Ohafia Bende Local Government Area of Abia State was charged with one count each of homicide and use of a knife in the commission of a felony. He stabbed his RN wife of twenty five years, Mrs Gloria Uchechi Anya Onwuka age 42, fourteen times in her bedroom while she was getting ready to go to work. She was a nurse manager. Mr. John Onwuka committed this crime on the night of Saturday August 19, 2006 at the home of his wife in Estate Drive, Farmington, Hampton, Virginia with her children watching him act out his gory insanity.

"Yes I have killed the woman that messed my life up! A woman that had destroyed me. I am at Shalom West, my name is Michael and am all yours". With those words - a 911 call placed to the authorities, another Nigeria man has joined the infamous heinous club of Nigerian Men Wife Killers. Fifty year old Mr. Michael Collins Iheme (pictured here left) of Hennepin Minnesota placed the call above few minutes after shooting his twenty eight year old wife, Mrs. Anthonia Eberechi iheme, the mother of his 4 year old boy and 3 year old girl, to death. What is wrong with this crazed out Nigeria man was that he lacked the stomach to take all the bullshit he was forced to take by a typical Nigerian "Nurse" wife. However in as much as Icheoku does not condone such misbehaviour of taking the life of another, these Nigeria men who marry "fedexed" wives should better watch it as what they bargained for might not necessarily always come to fruition. There is no need travelling to Africa to find a wife - if it is akaata, filpino. latina mamacita, oke-bekee or even chinese that loves you, please settle down with such a person. Your love for foofoo and egusi soup is not enough to trade your happiness and possibly freedom when they make you do the unthinkable like our Mr. Micahel Collins Iheme and crew.
For the records, it would appear that majority of these uxoricides occurred in Dallas, Texas! Leading to the question, whuz up Dallas? Is there any maniacal peculiarity with Nigerian men living in Dallas? Further, most of the victims were Registered Nurses which forces one to ask is the "war over the purse" of who controls this their "legendary treasure trove" enough reason to commit the most heinous of all crimes? Also the number of such homicides is rather astronomical judging the sanctity of life-environment from which majority of these homicidal maniacs come from back in Nigeria. Admitted, that it is dreadfully wrong and also a sacrilege for anyone to take the life of another, especially if that other was a spouse; but what could be the driving factor of this senseless exhibition of ravenous rage by some frustrated Nigerian men in the United States of America? This question is imperative because there are other more acceptable options available for getting out of a hellish marriage including just getting up and leaving; mutual separation; taking a second wife just like the Mormons of Texas, Utah and Nevada; becoming a bachelor once again; keeping a girl friend outside your so called matrimonial home or the penultimate divorce instead of committing the mother of all crimes - taking the life of another! Nothing is worth it! Does the underlying problem defy every solution imaginable? NO! Take a deep breath and consider other options including the almighty walking-out! Nothing is worth the trouble! Not all the diamonds in South Africa and/or gold in Fort Knox! The "mansion" which you are fighting for, you did not bring it with you to America? The SUV or Mercedes car that is making you to loose your head, the manufacturing plant in Stuttgart Germany has not yet closed shop! In your convoluted suspicion that your wife is sleeping around because she dresses well, ask yourself, where is the foundational trust of your relationship and at worst, were you the first man in her life? Did you break her virginity and why do you think it is either you with her or nobody at all, that you will rather have her dead than loose her to someone else? Have you also tried getting professional counseling or earnestly engaging your wife in an open discussion to find out what you may be doing wrong and make amends where necessary. Have you tried temporary separation for a cool-off period? At worst get an amicable divorce so that you guys can remain friends for the benefit of the children! Before you write that check which you cannot cash, please stop and ask yourself, before you met her did you not have any life? It is not worth it! Learn to move on; as around the next corner may be lurking your real wife of “Christian marriage” who will really cherish and love you for who you are! Your wife's leaving you is not the end of the world as we know it! As the popular aphorism goes, "when one door closes another one is open down the road". Nothing is worth the taking of life and not that of a spouse who also is a Nigerian!

Don't know what to say...
....do you?

Wednesday 20 August 2008

Open Letter to Senator Eme Ekaete + Miracle Accident!

Hi people, hope y'all are doing great. I'm doing so so well and anxiously waiting for the release of my mag's 4th edition. The printers say it will be ready in a week or so...will let y'all know when that happens.

Meanwhile I got this email from an Ure Akuma, who wrote a letter to Senator Eme Ekaette of Akwa-Ibom State about a bill being sponsored by her, titled, Nudity Bill. She wants me to share the letter with the thousands of you who come to this blog, hoping to garner enough interest to get this bill stopped.

I've read the letter and I think the more people that read it, the better, because people might understand how dangerous this bill is and do something about it.

Here's the letter...

Senator Ekaette,
Please permit me to speak with you woman to woman. I have a few truths to tell you, about the Indecent Dressing Bill you are sponsoring, and I hope that you listen.
We are living in the 21st century, and in this day and age, it is reprehensible that you would try to dictate what women should wear in a society that is supposed to be democratic and free.
Have you forgotten what happened at the U.N assembly when you attempted to present this bill to them? Have you forgotten so soon the comments from the other ambassadors? Especially the ambassador from Jamaica?
Do you really believe that enforcing this bill will lessen harassment and sexual assault? Have you heard of the “decently” dressed girls being harassed by lecturers?
Are you now seeking to absolve men of their crimes of rape? I am disappointed that this type of thinking comes from a fellow woman.

The men do not hold any responsibility for their crimes? They cannot control themselves?
Rather than trying to pass this bill, YOU OUGHT TO BE WORKING ON A PUNISHMENT FOR THE MEN WHO COMMIT THIS HEINOUS CRIME! You ought to let them know that they are the bane of the society and you, as a woman, should NOT be victimizing the victims. Put a stiff punishment and ACTUALLY CARRY OUT THE PUNISHMENT, and let’s see what happens.

When the men know there is a consequence to their actions, no matter their stature or status in the community, I assure you, what women wear will no longer matter

In case you are so far removed from the masses, I want to let you know that you have put all females at risk with this bill you are trying to pass.
In Aba, Abia State, thugs have taken advantage of this unfortunate situation and are stripping girls of their clothes in public.
THEY HOLD GIRLS DOWN AND TEAR OFF THEIR JEANS, claiming that the directive from Abuja states girls should no longer wear trousers.
And when they tear off the clothes from these girls, what do you think happens next? I’ll leave that up to your imagination

Senator Ekaette, are there no good causes for women that you can champion?
I have a few that you can take up:
Instituting counseling and help for victims of rape
Encouraging women to come forward when they have been assaulted and PROVIDING HELP to the victims
Working on removing the stigma of rape
The trafficking of girls to Europe for prostitution
Institute and implement STRICT PUNISHMENT for rapists and sexual harassers
The plight of women being regarded as second class citizens
The plight of children in Nigeria, have you seen the children under the bridge? (Have you seen these children begging on the streets? I am very sure you have seen them, that is, if your escorts and convoy does not run them over)
THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT CAUSE THAT I WOULD LIKE FOR YOU TO LOOK INTO CHAMPIONING – HAVE YOU HEARD OF VESICO VAGINAL FISTULA (VVF)? This is a cause being spearheaded by Ms. Stephanie Okereke, please contact her and work with her on this most worthy cause.

Were you not aware that babies as young as 12 years old are being forced into early marriages and are being raped by men old enough to be their grand-fathers? WHAT HAVE YOU DONE ABOUT THAT SENATOR EKAETTE?
If you do not achieve anything else in your life, let this be the one thing that you will be remembered for in Nigeria.
Contact Ms. Stephanie Okereke, and help the young girls and women who are suffering from this.

Madam Senator, you MUST STOP THIS BILL, you must drop this bill and focus on the issues that are important to the Nigerian woman and child.
It appears I am in an alternative universe where this would be the news headline and stories in major newspapers:

Fellow Nigerians!
It gives me great pleasure to note that all the MINOR issues and problems we experience in this great nation have been totally taken care of.
Minor problems that average citizens like you and I experience, problems that the Nigerians in authority and power never experience.
Minor problems like:
No working electricity,
No clean water,
No jobs for graduates,
No salaries being paid to the teachers who are supposed to educate the next generation
No education system in place for our children
No health care for the masses
Poor living conditions
Extremely bad roads
The problems in the Niger Delta
The lack of rules and laws in Nigeria
The country’s abject poverty

Yes my fellow Nigerians, I am very pleased to announce that these MINOR issues have been resolved.
This has left us free to focus on the really monumental major issues like the Honourable Senator Ekaette’s Indecent Dressing Bill. Senator Ekaette has single-handedly solved the minor issues in Nigeria, and must now focus on being the moral police that Nigeria so desperately needs.

Indeed, the Senate must congratulate themselves for a job well done in taking care of Nigeria’s minor issue as listed above. They must also clap Sen. Ekaette on the back for attempting to take Nigeria back to the cave days, and take us back to a dictatorship.

Unfortunately this is not the case. This imaginary news story must never come to pass. The real world we do live in will be more dangerous for all Nigerians, if you continue with this bill

You, Senator Ekaette, have put ALL Nigerian females in jeopardy, at risk with this bill and I wonder how well you sleep at night. I hope you hear the cries and feel the pain of the very people you are supposed to protect but have put in harm’s way.
Ure Akuma
Richmond, VA

What do you guys think about this nudity bill? Crazy or crazy? And how do we stop this woman?

Miracle Accident
Meanwhile here's an Audi RS 6 S/wagon Twin turbo V8 @ 250km/h in an accident.

Driver got out, walked away and called emergency on his phone. Take note - this is one car not two!!! Scroll down

If the guy driving this car didn't believe in God before this accident happened, he probably did afterwards.
So what do you guys have to say about the BILL???

Tuesday 19 August 2008

D'Banj, the Entertainer + Niyi Tabiti's Wedding Pictures

He calls himself the entertainer...that he definitely is, but beyond that, this 28year old artist and businessman, is a genius. I'm so fascinated with him and so proud of what he's been able to accomplish at such a young age.

About 6/7 years ago I saw this music video by someone who called himself D'banj. The song was titled 'Kiss me again'. I kinda liked it but never paid it much attention. Alot of people didn't pay that young guy much attention then. He even said his parents wanted him to go to school and forget about music, so I guess back then, he didn't get much support from family, friends and music lovers.

One would think the young man would give up and focus on other things, but he must have known what he had inside of him, he must have seen the great future he'll have if he contiued to pursue his dream, so instead of giving up, he traveled to the UK. I really don't know what exactly he did in the UK for the few years he was there. All I know is that he came back in 2005 and this time around, he got our attention.

Not only the attention of music lovers, but captains of industries, State Executives, Governors, the Senate President, even the Oba of Lagos. He’s made us all recognize him.

His meteoric rise is phenomenal!

But how did he do it? Don’t you guys ever wonder? How did he go from an unknown, struggling artist to the greatest artiste in Nigeria at the moment? His first hit single was ‘Tongolo’ in 2005, how did he rise to the top in three years? From making nothing to making 10million naira a week (according to him), winning numerous awards, including MTV African Artiste of the Year, and also becoming a UN Ambassador.

Dbanj and ex-Governor of Lagos State, Bola Tinubu

What took Dapo Oyebanjo from obscurity to greatness? Some say it’s his talent, others think it's because he carved a niche for himself, some say it’s maybe his lyrics, while others think he’s just blessed.

I think it’s all of that put together + hard work, dedication, perseverance, focus, belief and confidence in who he is and what he’s capable of. And of course he found someone (Don Jazzy) who believed in him.

This is some of the ingredient we need to be great…meaning that anyone of us can be this great or even greater, we just have to have the right ingredient.

Dbanj's parents and Governors Fashola and Tinubu

Dbanj is not only an artiste and ambassador; he’s also an astute businessman. He’s the Vice-president of Mohits Records; he’s partnering with Bank PHB for an upcoming reality show, and Globacom for the KOKO range of handsets, he recently launched Koko condoms and I hear also that Koko Water is in the works.

Understanding the importance of giving back, he started a foundation - Koko Foundation, where he’s helping motherless babies and giving scholarships.

Dbanj and Oba of Lagos, Oba Rilwan Akiolu (pix thanks to Ayeni the great)

I’m sure he has women at the snap of his fingers, but he doesn’t go around impregnating them or acquiring mistresses. And anyone who’s met him will tell you he’s humble, funny, nice and very accomodating.

Best of all, his new album, ‘the entertainer’ is a masterpiece…

Personally, I think this is what it means to be great. I duff my hat for this young man who’s teaching us all a thing a two on how to make our lives meaningful.

We can’t all be D’banj, we can’t all be talented singers or entrepreneurs, but we all can make meaning of our lives and be the greatest we can be, in any field we choose…It's really up to us.

Dapo, you’re a shining example. We are all proud of you.

Meanwhile I'm sure y'all know that famous blogger and journalist, Niyi Tabiti, got married last weekened...here are some pictures from his wedding. Pix thanks to http://solafolowosele.blogspot.com/

Here's wishing my dear friend the best of married life
I'm out, see y'all tomorrow.

Sunday 17 August 2008

Being Nice

Oh, I had like the best time today. Went to the beach for the first time in years…I had so much fun mostly ‘cos I went with the guys I work with. I have a close nit family that just makes life beautiful for me.

There’s something I want to talk about today that I’ve been meaning to talk about for a while now. Something happened today to remind me of it. I got invited to the beach by a very good friend and when I got there she asked me to come meet another friend of hers. Nicely I went to where this other lady was and tried to say hi. She didn’t even look up, just waved casually. I smiled…she reminded me of me 5/6 years ago. The bitch I was back then…lol

I was a bit nasty back in my ‘supermodel’ era. Not only nasty, but unfriendly and snobbish. The only friend I had then was Denrele Edun, and maybe 2 or 3 more people...others I just ignored, even when they tried to be friendly. That many people didn’t like me and I really didn’t care…not knowing what I was missing.

Now I’m totally the opposite of who I used to be and sincerely I can't remember at what point that transition occurred but I can tell you with all authority that it’s so much so much so much (I can’t over-emphasise it) better being nice to people than being nasty. There’s absolutely no gain in being snobbish, unfriendly and bitchy, but there’s a lot to gain in being nice.

I’ll tell you two stories.

I sent a friendship request on facebook to a celeb a couple of months ago. He rejected my request and sent me a nasty message. I was called a bitch and other nasty names. Apparently I wrote about him a long time ago on this blog and you guys left some crazy comments that he read and didn’t like. So he carried a grudge…and waited for when he’ll confront me. When I saw his very nasty and very dirty message, I smiled. The former me would have bitched back at him but instead I apologised and 'spoilt him with love'. He didnt expect 'the love' so didn't know how to respond. A few days later, he sent another message explaining why he called me names and now sent me a friendship request. I confirmed and well…we’re great friends now. You should see us chatting, you won’t believe how it all started. All I had to do was say sorry and be nice…

Seond story.
Someone sent me an email a while back calling me a thief, a whore, a bitch and many unprintable names. He said I took something from his website without giving him credit and wanted me to take down the post asap. The email was so nasty that I cringed at first, but I replied him with ‘Hi luv, I am so so sorry for taking your pictures…blah blah’. I actually got the pictures from another website but I didn’t bother explaining that…just apologised. Of course I had a choice of telling him to go f**k himself or just ignore him, but I did something he didn’t expect ‘cos he had been spoiling for war. My reply to him must have shocked him ‘cos he sent me an email apologising for insulting me and told me it was ok to leave the post up. You know what they say...'Spoil your enemy with love, it confuses them'. lol. We still send each other emails…we’re friends now.

Like I said before, all I had to do was be NICE. It takes nothing from you to be nice…nothing. Instead it brings you friendship, a good name and people will love you. Forget pride, embrace kindness and respect people. Don't go about thinking you're better than anyone, 'cos you're not. Don't look down on people because we're thesame in the eyes of God. When someone smiles at you and says hi, what does it take to smile back and say hi in return? Why snob people when you can hang out with them? What’s the big deal in saying ‘I’m sorry’ whether you’re right or wrong? It doesn’t make you small, instead it makes you a bigger person and it gets you respect and admiration from people because when you really think about it, who wants to be around a nasty person?

I’ve been nasty and I know how life was for me, now that I’m nice, I know how life is for me. I’ll tell you again, it so much better being nice and friendly…you have absolutely nothing to loose

If you’re nasty to people, I hope you change. you should. You won’t believe how much better life will be for you and how many more friends and good people you will find.
Do it for you and see the difference!

Thanks to everyone who sent me get well wishes.
I’m much better now!
See y’all tomorrow.
Love, L

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