This guy is good 9,10, and 11. I love it! I never knew this guy is this responsible if Singles can learn from this they will be happy. This is Truth given Free of Charge
A TYPICAL BLACK MAN ADVICE, 'WORSHIP YOUR HUSBAND, OR STAY SINGLE, HE IS WORTH MORE, COS YOU NEED TO BE MARRIED TO BE NORMAL' SAME OLD STORY *rolling eyes* .... NONSENSE... N YES I SAID IT!
wow! Dat was quite thoughtful of him,if he actually did dis, love d part dat said if u can't take advice,marry urself. Nice one from anoda broda, while d sisters are searching for how to get orgasm and cure for dirty *****.~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310.
@sexy22 ure sound like an educated illiterate...it doesnt mean worship ure husband..it means respect him..if you are a christian youd know that the Bible urges women to respect their husbands and husbands shhould love their wives as they would love their own bodies...
This is so true. People think marriage is the end! It is only the beginning. But if you be good, respect yourself and you marry your God given husband or wife, you will understand why God made marriage in the first place...Joy to the fullest...#dreamy...
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Rugged man is just trying to trend on twitter so he can revive his dead musical career sorry to bust his bubble as much as some of his advice is true, it is what it is he is just trying to create buzz around himself. Honestly if he had done this be4 Ik(wild child) maybe it might hv made a difference in other words be more creative.
Wow!!..at last we getting sense from one of our artistes cos some of them act like they hav agege bread in between dia skulls unlike d usual grey matter
So loving the way he started (1-3). Love him or hate him, Ruggedy has spoken the truth. Coming from someone in an industry where the sanctity of marriage has been really battered, hear ye! hear ye!!
i don't have anything against all he has said oooo cos they are all true and correct but the only star or celebrity i will take advice on marriage from is Omotola Jalade Ekeinde a.k.a Omosexy, cos she's the only one who has succeded in remaining in her marriage for a very lonnnnng time now,with abt 4 kids unlike the others who find pleasure in giving birth out of wedlock and their marriage is like a contract, after few years or a year or even less it will be over,both the male and female celebrity. God help them all sha.i haff talk my own sha.
Wow! I am totally impressed with most of the comments here! Especially the ones from the women!! The only exception being Sexy22 who obviously is still under the mind numbing illusion that marriage is some kinda competition. Marriage is the traning ground for patience, respect, love, sacrifice and compromise. If you think that you can never worship your husband then I implore you never to get married...its not by force o!
But if you do intend to get married someday then know this, the only way you can show your man that you truly love him is to respect him completely.
I dont know what religion you practice but in Chritianity the Bible teaches that a woman must submit to her husband. A lot of women AND MEN have miscontrued this to mean she must be enslaved to her husband but this is incorrect. All the Bible is saying there is treat your man with respect, honour him, shower him with praise, extol his virtues...a woman that can master this will realize fairly quickly that her man will do just about ANYTHING to make her happy cos she has succeeeded in touching him at the core of his being. This is what it means to worship your man!
And FYI Sexy22, a man also worships his wife when he obeys God's instruction on how to love her. When he provides for her, protects her, shelters her, showers her with love and affection and continually confesses his undying love for her. This is worship dear.
I didnt mean to preach at you, just felt the need to make the clarifications.
This makes so much sense. Wise words. People are getting married these days for the wrong reasons. That is why the rate of divorce is very high in Nigeria today
WHAT THE HELL! There is a mentality created by most Nigerians about marriage that should be corrected before all he said can be implemented. The matter is more than the eyes can see.
Ephesians 5:25 ...as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for it! If u must quote scriptures bikonu quote well! Na una dey stroke me yestd. U see? I knw bible pass many of d "holy holy" squad! I just choose not to be a hypopo! :D
Even if it is copy and paste at least he believes in strong marriage and the fact that he is not married and give advice on marriage has nothing to do with his life it is only an advice the wise ones will take it while the silly ones will question his life first
Rugged baba you too much, Sexy22 l love you, you did need to be MARRIED to be normal.can we just forget the word married and be having children like many of our black sister in u.k and u.s and be happy and be baby father and baby mother because children are gift from God. but you can not respect me and you want me to respect you sorry not in my life it can be in my dream read your bible so you can have a happy home.That why we have so many divorce this day because they is no respect for older people talkless of your boyfriend or husband you meet on face book......to have a happy home both man and woman need to respect each other. little word for the wise.
I agree with most of his advice on marriage, even single people can hand out reasonable advice on marriage. Whether or not he is qualified to do so doesn't affect the fact that they are sound advise(my opinion) which both married and single people can ponder over as food for thought. Some nuggets that work 4 a couple who v been married 4 35yrs may not work 4 newly weds. The most important thing is words of advice are not mandatory! U can take it or leave it.
Very correct jut like me I got married one month after my wedding my hubby start matreating me dat he even have disgrace me in the present of his family and friends his younger ones hav no respect me they insult me treat me as if am I fool even my hubby can stay 4month without having sex wit me [am not fat or ugly] even married men still come asking me out but I scare dem wit my ring my husband is very very rich. Husband house na school oooooooo e no easy
Marriage is not a child's play.After 5 yrs I am thinking of getting divorced.The whole thing is so so boring.Problem is not even with him cheating,but with constant interference from his family trying to dictate to him on how he should handle his home.I fdolostone lost and I can't even talk to him cos I married a 'Mr I know it all'.I seriously need my life back or I might end up dead one day from the depression.I don't even look at his face anymore,for me he's ceased to exist.Unfortunately,in naija divorce is frown at,but I really need out.An advice to u Linda,look very very well before u say I do.
Rugged baba you too much, Sexy22 l love you, you did need to be MARRIED to be normal.can we just forget the word married and be having children like many of our black sister in u.k and u.s and be happy and be baby father and baby mother because children are gift from God. but you can not respect me and you want me to respect you sorry not in my life it can be in my dream read your bible so you can have a happy home.That why we have so many divorce this day because they is no respect for older people talkless of your boyfriend or husband you meet on face book......to have a happy home both man and woman need to respect each other. little word for the wise.
@ California Love, hope u've read n hopefully understood wat was posted! Since u always carry marriage issues on ur head n call single ladies old cargo!
I guess he means well with his 'words of wisdom'....But honestly, being divorced is not a crime o. What people see behind closed doors is not a joke...For goodness sake people, dont judge someone (who is divorced) till you have walked in their shoes...jus' saying..
FYI, I AM A 27 YEAR OLD MARRIED WOMAN WITH 2 KIDS, N YES I AM HAPPY, I JUST DONT LIKE WHEN MEN FEEL LIKE WE HAVE TO CRAWL UNDER THEM IN ORDER TO BE WITH THEM, I JUST DONT AGREE WITH THIS RUGGED GUY IN SOME THINGS, LIKE SAYING IF YOU ARE NOT SUBMISSIVE, YOU WILL BE A PUNCHING BAG? F*&K HIM FOR THAT STATEMENT MEN WHO DEMAND SO MUCH SUBMISSIVENESS, ARE INSECURE MEN, THEY NEED WOMEN TO MAKE THEM FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES... AND I KNOW THIS WILL SOUND STRANGE TO SOME WOMEN, BUT YES U DESERVE MUCH BETTER!!!
Sexy22. why u dey flex muscle na, e be like say that one be issue wey u get o but i recommend u go for anger mgt at least if ur not submissive, it helps calm ur nerves to avoid the punches. rmba ur now 27 and not 22 anymore. Bintin lobe oge!
Wonder why he'll act like that. Pray for him, he'll come around. Anyway, wise words from Ruggedman. For those questioning his marital status, it has nothing to do with these words he said. Use your head. He may not have found 'the One'. And those that said its copy and paste, u're probably mad that he made it to a blog. Tweet same and see if you will, sad people.
I knw a lot of strong xtered ladies may disagree but d way up is down.Indeed wisdom is d principal thing.A wise woman knws smtimes she has 2 stoop 2 conquer.pls I say dis with all humility n with gratitude 2 God,I'm writing 4rm personal experience.At d age of 21 I made my 1st million n got my masters'by 23yrs.I felt invincible n got cocky.I was as arrogant as a peacock n looked @ men as necessary evils until my mum called me 2 order.she told me I can enjoy feeling like I owned d world while am still single but d day I get married dt "crown" must take a 2nd seat to my hubby.I was humbled immediately.By d divine grace of God I was lucky to meet d luv of my life @25 n got married @27.this is 10yrs n 2 angels later...I call my hubby "my Lord" just as Sarah did.I neva take a decision without my hubby's opinion.I STILL ask 4 permission b4 I visit friends.Though I hardly offend my hubby but wen I do I go down on both knees n apologise.(How very 18th century,u may think but here comes d good part)my hubby has d final say but dat say is subject to my approval.When his family members,including his mum,need a favour they appease me 1st.There is none of his Bank accounts both home n abroad dat I'm not signatory to.wen we go shopping whereva, my big shot ogbologbo hubby still carries my "acquired items" while I catwalk by his side(lol)to d mismay of our domestic staff including drivers, P.As n E.As.I can go on n on but let me go straight to d point. Marry a man who has d fear of God n loves u like crazy! Worshipping him will come naturally to u n he in return will luv n adore u! This isn't a script 4rm a low budget romance movie,sweethearts it is only a chapter of d 10years of my marriage. U can NEVA go wrong with humility.
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Submit to whom? Keep submitting and achieve nothing? Only a man would say that; how about a little give and take on both sides? Then again I am not in a Nigerian marriage so I guess it makes sense so as not to be beaten black and blue.
Ruggedman must be foolish to say if you cant be submissive then get ready to become a punching bag...its stupidly backward thinking like this thats responsible for the increased senseless cases of domestic violence against women. People have different perceptions/definitions of the word "submissive" so he's basically saying any actions of a wife perceived by the so called husband as not being submissive should be rewarded with physical violence against her??? foolish reasoning for foolish men!!!
sexy22 or what do you call yourself single mother of two i did not need to follow you home to know the type of person you are talk the truth you are not married you be baby mama. if you want more we can work it out as long iam the baby father. try and learn from elder so you could have a happy. anonymous 14 sep 2012 5.54 Nigerian marriage is not for people like you thank God you got ur mugu oyinbo.
@Angeleyez 5:02 PM You have done well for yourself! Kudos! @Zoe 5:02 I hope you learnt a thing or two from her experience instead of looking out for commas and fullstops!! English language teacher!(Hope I did well with my punctuation) As for you ruggedman: come back and validate your tweetd after just 2years of marriage and let's see how many of your tweets you stick to! Am not disputing the fact that you have some points there but see the way you typed the thing as if you have any experience!
Wow!!I'm totally wowed by your story..pls keep tellin us more in subsequent posts abt yaself cos I rili need 2 learn,cos dat submission tn kinda sounds like latin to me..my temper dey waka b4 me,na wen I don do finish I dey com down
Angeleyez ..u "call ur husband Lord,kneel down for him and take permission like to visit friends"..well done o....bin married for as long as you ..i hav kids like you and still my hubby treats me like a queen without me kneeling for him..i guess to each his own.
Ruggedman e bu mme!!! your comments are very demeaning to women. A real sexist and abuser thats what i read from your comments. You are the type of man that will verbally and physically beat a woman to submission. In this day and age you still think like this ..then go get yourself some uneducated village mess so u guys can go to the farm together. I really get sick and tired of men that quote portions of the bible and forget that a man is supposed to solely fend for the family and the woman take care of the home. But now guys want to be sharing all responsiblity and still expect a woman to be carpet and rug that they can walk over. NONSENSE!!! its men like you that women get divorced from ....with your uncompromising ways. I pray you marry a village woman or are married to one...i am not surprised because your arrogant behaviour shows in your lifestyle...typical ibo man . I have finally lost the remaining respect i had for you. PLEASE LINDA make sure ruggedmess sees this comment, I dont expect any better from him always hugging the media for attention instead of mixing good rap in the studio. EWU!!....im soo pissed ehn!
Freeze read this out on 96.9 last night, he probably just went to their site downloaded it and then tweeted n to make matters worse he did not even properly capture it. So unoriginal, experience is th best teacher! #wordsofwisdom
No b dis 1 wey fuck 9ice wife? Talking about good marraige when he cnt even respect a fellow man's pride. He pissed on 9ice ego so bad he even vomited on it. #rugged pack well jare.
Law of reciprocity kwa! I hope u remember law of gravity dey affect boobi n yansh oh! As u dey quote different laws so! Hian! E for make sense to dey quote these laws 4 ma haaasss oh #issokaibye
Awww! Sorry sweetie. There are a lot of women in ur shoes going through all sorts. Pple who v neva been married r all clamouring 4 marriage while some married ones can't wait to run out! The Lord is ur strength. Whatever decision u make,remember u only live once n life's too short not to be happy n @ peace.
He made a mistake, probably learnt 4rm it. In my book dat even qualifies him to give marital advice bcos he has found himself at d wrong end of d pole n knws wot it feels like. As long as he is not a repeated offender, I dnt think it's fair to keep referring to a past mistake. Com'on we've all guffed 1 way or d other. Some worse than some.
I like ur point.I don't need to kneel for my lover and bestfriend b4 he loves me.We r partners in this thing called marriage...soulmates forever.We only need to communicate with our eyes and the message is passed across.....Maybe,Angeleyez needs to grovel on the floor and worship her man else he's gone....Some men are like that.
Haha. I like the way u put it. These men and their big ego. Mcheeew! They have used the Bible to justify this submission BS. How about it being mutual?! Mchew!
Some ppl sef. The other one kneeling and calling him lord, taking permission lwkmd! How can it not sound odd to them?! My god.! How about respecting and adoring each other and voicing opinion if you're not happy with something rather than yes sir, yes my lord. When the kids hear it....or their friends lmao!
Isn't that what sexy22 was tryna get at? The equality thing. U mentioned in the end he should worship her too. So what's the difference btwn this and what she was driving at? They should hold each other in high esteem and that's the only way they can both be happy if not she will end up doing what he wants at her detriment. (Usually these control freak husbands like to be in control and will snap and hit if madam isn't being submissive and one day she will lose it and do her own damage). If he's not being submssive to her I'm sure she knows one or 2 guys that would do anything to be given the opportunity to worship her and the ground she walks on.
Sexy 22:it seems you don't get it. You MUST be submissive to your husband. Even bible has it. It does not mean you should stay under the table while he eats. Being married and having 2 or 3 kids does not qualify you not to obey your husband. It takes a wise and good wife to understand and practice this.
Translation: "has big as his dick his" in actual english reads, "as big as his dick is". "Dis is copy and paste DAT his doin", in plain english reads, "this is copy and paste that he is doing" that is if you translate word for word. But Aunty copy and paste did it ever occur to you that he must have been the one who composed it and it went viral on BB. Even if he did not compose it, as you received it through broadcast, why can't he share it too? Another food for thought, has big as his big dick his, maybe you just didn't turn him on afterall and thanks for letting us know that for a short guy, he is packing.
Aunty sorry oh but I can only advise you to pray about your marriage it's not an easy venture but it also isn't for the faint hearted. I would have judged you and said maybe his money blinded you to the way he treats you but I have found men can pretend to be sweet and when they finally have you, they will unleash their evil side.
funny you think singles aren't fit to give advise on marriage when really a lot of married folks don't even know the first thing about being married. I have a lot of married friends and they always come to me for advice. I think really most of us singles do know more about marriage and that is why we are single. I come from a broken home and the last thing i'll want to ave is a broken home because I know marriage is not a bed of roses, I try not to jump at every offer of marriage. I have been engaged 4times and for me, once I get proposed to, it is then that I start studying you and your family a d once I picture myself in that kind of family and it doesn't add up, I cal, off the engagement regardless. My happiness is more important to me than living in misery all in the name of marriage.
So since when did being married become the yardstick for measuring who I fit to give marital advice? It's the likes of you that believe marriage is your calling in life and thus end up marrying someone you aren't compatible with just because be built house in the village or has 2 shops in upper iweka. Smh.
Ok I did have a problem to the submissive part but then I also learnt something from my sister's mother-in-law which I think every woman should know. She said to me, that most women think that flexing muscle with their husband will make their husbands see that they cannot control them and thus must always have their way, when the only thing they are setting their home for is distruction. However, that a woman of less words (a diplomatic woman and confident woman), is the woman that knows that when a man is flexing muscle that he is only being a man and that all she need do is not to talk much and in doing so, she is stooping to conquer. As a reasonable man will still come back home and it is that woman that will cook him dinner and still sleep on the same be with him, and that is where her power comes from because, concede. My father also gave my sisters the same advice and it has been working for them (min you, all the girls in my house are hot tempered but we learn to suppress tHat temper). In the end, it is a woman that keeps a home (even if you k ow ur husband has a girlfriend, unless you choose to leave, your husband will never bring that girl home but the possiblity that he will bring that girl home to replace you is there the minute u start throwing tantrums thus recognising the girl as competition). A lot of girls won't agree with me but really it's the truth. I am not married by the way and I can't stand a boyfriend that cheat but then if I were married, I sha know no woman will drive me out of my husband's home.
The one thing that I know will make me leave my husband is if he decides he wants to make me his punching bag though the possibility of me feeding him rat poison if he hits me the first time is really high. Or maybe I drug him first then tie him up and wait for him to regain consciousness before I start giving him a taste of his own medicine (yes I am heartless like that once you push me to the edge). Continuation of my earlier comment linda.
A married friend once told me that I should forget all these women that will be saying how can your man do such if I were you I will show him pepper o I won't apologise, that they are all deceits that they all beg their husbands even crawl on their knees but that's what most o them won't tell you. If you listen to them, you will just subject your home to doom.
So this thing is now giving out marriage advise? Wonders never end. Firstly issue married? Two, this idiot must live in a dystopia century: what the hell does he mean the woman is the bodyguard , protector and role model an should not a deity? Oh, so you want her to be all that and then as the man what the fuck would and should you be doing? Sitting down at home while she serves you Eva a your "submissive" slave? These leftover breeds of men are just walking coffins and the sad number of women who latch into whatever bullshit some dog spill out... It's all good side women want to be treated like animals, the pleasure is all ours
Finalllllly. A woman with working pair of eyes and a mind! Damn your comment is very refreshing, I'm glad you could see through it! The guy is bold enough to say if you don't correspond don't be surprised if you're a punching bag.. Asmh these things walking as men nowadays
I have an associate who thinks like this he goat. He really once said to me and I quite his words " mike you too like confident women why you like girl wey fit talk,ah no me I go like girl wey I fit tell make she just shut up sit down and make I do my thing" I told the bastard to do his thing , umuazi nowadays
No oh......d mumu wz holdin rechargeable lamp 4 dem so he can get a clear view n learn new sex styles.....if u dnt av a proper evidence,dnt tlk shit abt pple #WORD#
Nazzy charles u are a biggest f**l, ruggedy baba still have to prove 9ice wrong by recordin a phone conversation with nice, and the yoruba boy use e mouth talk am say he is nt rugged man he was referrin to....abi u be jjc for net....share ur pin make I send am for u jawe!.....smh!
Mr Rugeddman, when will you come out to tell the public that thiS isn't your write-up? Someone even suggested you make it into a song, you go fit? Someone else's IP? You go fit?
Rubbish!!! My friend composed dis like a month ago n shared on our Facebook group. Some of us den copied and pasted in other social mediums. D long n short of wat am sayin is Rugged man did nt compose it. You can ask him. Would av loved 2 share my friend's name here, bt he doesn't want it. D guy is very creative.
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Very correct, I agree with him.
This was a bc on bbm na.Got Ȋ̝̊̅† yday.
Hmmmmm nice food for thought. Advice #11 is a continuation of #10though.
This guy is good 9,10, and 11. I love it! I never knew this guy is this responsible if Singles can learn from this they will be happy. This is Truth given Free of Charge
Thank you Mr. Ruggedman
A TYPICAL BLACK MAN ADVICE, 'WORSHIP YOUR HUSBAND, OR STAY SINGLE, HE IS WORTH MORE, COS YOU NEED TO BE MARRIED TO BE NORMAL' SAME OLD STORY *rolling eyes* .... NONSENSE... N YES I SAID IT!
i don't know much about this guy but am sha loving him. his words are on point. may God bless your soul.
DEEP! i like it and yes this is the truth
Watch the usual angry people tear Rugged man to shreds :)
wow! Dat was quite thoughtful of him,if he actually did dis, love d part dat said if u can't take advice,marry urself. Nice one from anoda broda, while d sisters are searching for how to get orgasm and cure for dirty *****.~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310.
nice and true!!!
He is so on point thanks for the truth Ruggedman
@sexy22 ure sound like an educated illiterate...it doesnt mean worship ure husband..it means respect him..if you are a christian youd know that the Bible urges women to respect their husbands and husbands shhould love their wives as they would love their own bodies...
Nice 1. As a guy I accept everything.
Well said
Let him&her dat av ears hear
This is correct yan ooo. I never know this guy could be reasonable like this.
Thank you ruggedman for this piece of advice.
MR RUGGEDMAN, DO A SONG ABOUT IT AND, DO IT REALLY FAST OK!
This is so true. People think marriage is the end! It is only the beginning. But if you be good, respect yourself and you marry your God given husband or wife, you will understand why God made marriage in the first place...Joy to the fullest...#dreamy...
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wow! good copy and paste, this guy sabi copy copy for school o!
Words of wisdom I like it, I love 2 n 10.
Rugged man is just trying to trend on twitter so he can revive his dead musical career sorry to bust his bubble as much as some of his advice is true, it is what it is he is just trying to create buzz around himself. Honestly if he had done this be4 Ik(wild child) maybe it might hv made a difference in other words be more creative.
Wow!!..at last we getting sense from one of our artistes cos some of them act like they hav agege bread in between dia skulls unlike d usual grey matter
Lol. Is this the new trend. But come o, why is he not married?
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dis guy shld go n sit down jo. has big as his dick his.hecant get it up.bsydes dis is copy hand paste dat his doin
Marriage don suffer, sotay. Rugged man dey form expert, smh. Find urself a wife first
Waoh so he can be so responsile ....like this, food for thought to all intending and married ladies and gentlmen
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So loving the way he started (1-3). Love him or hate him, Ruggedy has spoken the truth. Coming from someone in an industry where the sanctity of marriage has been really battered, hear ye! hear ye!!
i don't have anything against all he has said oooo cos they are all true and correct but the only star or celebrity i will take advice on marriage from is Omotola Jalade Ekeinde a.k.a Omosexy, cos she's the only one who has succeded in remaining in her marriage for a very lonnnnng time now,with abt 4 kids unlike the others who find pleasure in giving birth out of wedlock and their marriage is like a contract, after few years or a year or even less it will be over,both the male and female celebrity. God help them all sha.i haff talk my own sha.
@ALLYBERRY PREACH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
16. worship all men because their penis makes them SO much more important than you are. if not, you will become a punching bag..
go fuck yourself and your advice, all these egotistical bastards.
He is so on point, me love the no.2
Wow! I am totally impressed with most of the comments here! Especially the ones from the women!! The only exception being Sexy22 who obviously is still under the mind numbing illusion that marriage is some kinda competition. Marriage is the traning ground for patience, respect, love, sacrifice and compromise. If you think that you can never worship your husband then I implore you never to get married...its not by force o!
But if you do intend to get married someday then know this, the only way you can show your man that you truly love him is to respect him completely.
I dont know what religion you practice but in Chritianity the Bible teaches that a woman must submit to her husband. A lot of women AND MEN have miscontrued this to mean she must be enslaved to her husband but this is incorrect. All the Bible is saying there is treat your man with respect, honour him, shower him with praise, extol his virtues...a woman that can master this will realize fairly quickly that her man will do just about ANYTHING to make her happy cos she has succeeeded in touching him at the core of his being. This is what it means to worship your man!
And FYI Sexy22, a man also worships his wife when he obeys God's instruction on how to love her. When he provides for her, protects her, shelters her, showers her with love and affection and continually confesses his undying love for her. This is worship dear.
I didnt mean to preach at you, just felt the need to make the clarifications.
Good one Ruggedy baba!
Is he married?????
This makes so much sense. Wise words. People are getting married these days for the wrong reasons. That is why the rate of divorce is very high in Nigeria today
Rugged Man please it is advice (verb) or advise (adjective) and never ever advices..... Get your written grammar right.
WHAT THE HELL! There is a mentality created by most Nigerians about marriage that should be corrected before all he said can be implemented. The matter is more than the eyes can see.
Ephesians 5:25 ...as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for it! If u must quote scriptures bikonu quote well! Na una dey stroke me yestd. U see? I knw bible pass many of d "holy holy" squad! I just choose not to be a hypopo! :D
Even if it is copy and paste at least he believes in strong marriage and the fact that he is not married and give advice on marriage has nothing to do with his life it is only an advice the wise ones will take it while the silly ones will question his life first
I think he is werring 4 u.
Rugged baba you too much,
Sexy22 l love you, you did need to be MARRIED to be normal.can we just forget the word married and be having children like many of our black sister in u.k and u.s and be happy and be baby father and baby mother because children are gift from God. but you can not respect me and you want me to respect you sorry not in my life it can be in my dream read your bible so you can have a happy home.That why we have so many divorce this day because they is no respect for older people talkless of your boyfriend or husband you meet on face book......to have a happy home both man and woman need to respect each other. little word for the wise.
I love #14
I agree with most of his advice on marriage, even single people can hand out reasonable advice on marriage. Whether or not he is qualified to do so doesn't affect the fact that they are sound advise(my opinion) which both married and single people can ponder over as food for thought. Some nuggets that work 4 a couple who v been married 4 35yrs may not work 4 newly weds. The most important thing is words of advice are not mandatory! U can take it or leave it.
Very correct jut like me I got married one month after my wedding my hubby start matreating me dat he even have disgrace me in the present of his family and friends his younger ones hav no respect me they insult me treat me as if am I fool even my hubby can stay 4month without having sex wit me [am not fat or ugly] even married men still come asking me out but I scare dem wit my ring my husband is very very rich. Husband house na school oooooooo e no easy
seriously, who cares??
Very true and sensible advise .i was telling one of my friends that very soon Facebook will start having divorce button to press.
plz Bonario u won't kill me hereoooo, am always lookingout for ur comments,plz can I be ur Boo. jN
The statements are true but who will adhere to d advice(s).I don't know sudden hatred 4 ruggedman. frank
Marriage is not a child's play.After 5 yrs I am thinking of getting divorced.The whole thing is so so boring.Problem is not even with him cheating,but with constant interference from his family trying to dictate to him on how he should handle his home.I fdolostone lost and I can't even talk to him cos I married a 'Mr I know it all'.I seriously need my life back or I might end up dead one day from the depression.I don't even look at his face anymore,for me he's ceased to exist.Unfortunately,in naija divorce is frown at,but I really need out.An advice to u Linda,look very very well before u say I do.
i totally agree but kinda funny though coming from a single guy>
pls visit and share your thoughts on my new work;
http://mythotsonpaper.blogspot.com/2012/09/sweetnotes-superhumans-by-deux.html
Rugged baba you too much,
Sexy22 l love you, you did need to be MARRIED to be normal.can we just forget the word married and be having children like many of our black sister in u.k and u.s and be happy and be baby father and baby mother because children are gift from God. but you can not respect me and you want me to respect you sorry not in my life it can be in my dream read your bible so you can have a happy home.That why we have so many divorce this day because they is no respect for older people talkless of your boyfriend or husband you meet on face book......to have a happy home both man and woman need to respect each other. little word for the wise.
i totally agree but kinda funny though coming from a single guy>
pls visit and share your thoughts on my new work;
http://mythotsonpaper.blogspot.com/2012/09/sweetnotes-superhumans-by-deux.htm
September 14, 2012 1:01 PM let me answer for you no!!!
Anon at 1:28pm.....
If husband house na school,surely u are not learning anything there with this ur nonsense grammar....jhezzzeee (MOMOS)
coming from somebody that slept with his best friends wife.
nigger please!
why you dey talk like mumu?
He's having a mini breakdown.
@Tracey, advice is a (noun) and advise a (verb).
*insert Surprised bbm smiley here*
Yea right!!!!!
Nice one. M̶̲̅ε̲̣̣̣̥ likey!
@ Tracey. Itibolibo ITK. Advise (verb), Advice (noun)
@ California Love, hope u've read n hopefully understood wat was posted! Since u always carry marriage issues on ur head n call single ladies old cargo!
You are on point.
I guess he means well with his 'words of wisdom'....But honestly, being divorced is not a crime o. What people see behind closed doors is not a joke...For goodness sake people, dont judge someone (who is divorced) till you have walked in their shoes...jus' saying..
hmmmmmmm is dis d latest trend now....marriage counselling, y cant it work 4 him?cos d last tym i checked he is not married... just saying
Zinnia:
Dear Tracey,
you got it wrong.
*Advice is Noun: an opinion/recommendation given
*Advise is Verb: to give an opinion or recommendation.
Linda please post this o *angry face*
oya..awaiting the angry responses from the agadi nwanyis of lagos
Zinnia:
Thank you very much! In my world respect begets respect. You can't "get" respect when you don't "give" respect - Law of Reciprocity.
The Law of Reciprocity: to give and take in turns; a two way traffic exchange of favour, opportunities, love and affection etc(my definition, yay!)
Zinnia:
Eyaaaaa! N do, pele. Was he always like this before marriage? What prompted this sudden change of attitude?
FYI, I AM A 27 YEAR OLD MARRIED WOMAN WITH 2 KIDS, N YES I AM HAPPY, I JUST DONT LIKE WHEN MEN FEEL LIKE WE HAVE TO CRAWL UNDER THEM IN ORDER TO BE WITH THEM, I JUST DONT AGREE WITH THIS RUGGED GUY IN SOME THINGS, LIKE SAYING IF YOU ARE NOT SUBMISSIVE, YOU WILL BE A PUNCHING BAG? F*&K HIM FOR THAT STATEMENT MEN WHO DEMAND SO MUCH SUBMISSIVENESS, ARE INSECURE MEN, THEY NEED WOMEN TO MAKE THEM FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES... AND I KNOW THIS WILL SOUND STRANGE TO SOME WOMEN, BUT YES U DESERVE MUCH BETTER!!!
@BONARIO NNAGS. LWKMDH. Bad mouth like you. what is your business.
Anyway, Rugedman really tried. This is really food for thought for bachelors and spinsters aspiring to get married
God dey o!
Sexy22. why u dey flex muscle na, e be like say that one be issue wey u get o but i recommend u go for anger mgt at least if ur not submissive, it helps calm ur nerves to avoid the punches.
rmba ur now 27 and not 22 anymore. Bintin lobe oge!
if u know all these, why was your name mentioned in the marriage crises of 9ice and Toni Payne. stop being hypocrital jare.
ONOME says.....
Is he married?
How many yrs has he been married for?
I ONLY take advice on marriage from veterans in the profession.
if u know all these, why was your name mentioned in the marriage crises of 9ice and Toni Payne. stop being hypocrital jare.
if u know all these, why was your name mentioned in the marriage crises of 9ice and Toni Payne. stop being hypocrital jare.
Wonder why he'll act like that. Pray for him, he'll come around.
Anyway, wise words from Ruggedman. For those questioning his marital status, it has nothing to do with these words he said. Use your head. He may not have found 'the One'.
And those that said its copy and paste, u're probably mad that he made it to a blog. Tweet same and see if you will, sad people.
I knw a lot of strong xtered ladies may disagree but d way up is down.Indeed wisdom is d principal thing.A wise woman knws smtimes she has 2 stoop 2 conquer.pls I say dis with all humility n with gratitude 2 God,I'm writing 4rm personal experience.At d age of 21 I made my 1st million n got my masters'by 23yrs.I felt invincible n got cocky.I was as arrogant as a peacock n looked @ men as necessary evils until my mum called me 2 order.she told me I can enjoy feeling like I owned d world while am still single but d day I get married dt "crown" must take a 2nd seat to my hubby.I was humbled immediately.By d divine grace of God I was lucky to meet d luv of my life @25 n got married @27.this is 10yrs n 2 angels later...I call my hubby "my Lord" just as Sarah did.I neva take a decision without my hubby's opinion.I STILL ask 4 permission b4 I visit friends.Though I hardly offend my hubby but wen I do I go down on both knees n apologise.(How very 18th century,u may think but here comes d good part)my hubby has d final say but dat say is subject to my approval.When his family members,including his mum,need a favour they appease me 1st.There is none of his Bank accounts both home n abroad dat I'm not signatory to.wen we go shopping whereva, my big shot ogbologbo hubby still carries my "acquired items" while I catwalk by his side(lol)to d mismay of our domestic staff including drivers, P.As n E.As.I can go on n on but let me go straight to d point. Marry a man who has d fear of God n loves u like crazy! Worshipping him will come naturally to u n he in return will luv n adore u! This isn't a script 4rm a low budget romance movie,sweethearts it is only a chapter of d 10years of my marriage. U can NEVA go wrong with humility.
Auntie this ya English na die oo.. Choi! Pple pls der are tins called 'comma,fullstop etc'. They are also available on fones u know.
He shd release d ones for men and number one is #never play games with ur friends wife
Ask girls on twitter..dis ashawo called rugged man..na everyday e de DM about ten de flirt with them..very strong perv
he makes sense.
please check out this blog, its awesome i just saw it and im totally blown.
http://thatssewnaija.blogspot.com/2012/09/collar-me-bad.html
Submit to whom? Keep submitting and achieve nothing? Only a man would say that; how about a little give and take on both sides? Then again I am not in a Nigerian marriage so I guess it makes sense so as not to be beaten black and blue.
What a way to live!
Is he married? oh HELL NO!!..
You can't be single and talk about marriage cos its a different ball game entirely when you are in so OGA Ruggedy, lo joko jor..
NEXT!!
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww@ AngelEyez.I'm envious!
Ruggedman must be foolish to say if you cant be submissive then get ready to become a punching bag...its stupidly backward thinking like this thats responsible for the increased senseless cases of domestic violence against women. People have different perceptions/definitions of the word "submissive" so he's basically saying any actions of a wife perceived by the so called husband as not being submissive should be rewarded with physical violence against her??? foolish reasoning for foolish men!!!
sexy22 or what do you call yourself single mother of two i did not need to follow you home to know the type of person you are talk the truth you are not married you be baby mama. if you want more we can work it out as long iam the baby father. try and learn from elder so you could have a happy. anonymous 14 sep 2012 5.54 Nigerian marriage is not for people like you thank God you got ur mugu oyinbo.
@Angeleyez 5:02 PM
You have done well for yourself! Kudos!
@Zoe 5:02 I hope you learnt a thing or two from her experience instead of looking out for commas and fullstops!! English language teacher!(Hope I did well with my punctuation)
As for you ruggedman: come back and validate your tweetd after just 2years of marriage and let's see how many of your tweets you stick to! Am not disputing the fact that you have some points there but see the way you typed the thing as if you have any experience!
He didnt creat this himself,this was a BC on bbm ,if he knew all this why isn't he married by now and stop sleeping wit married women...who cares
Wow!!I'm totally wowed by your story..pls keep tellin us more in subsequent posts abt yaself cos I rili need 2 learn,cos dat submission tn kinda sounds like latin to me..my temper dey waka b4 me,na wen I don do finish I dey com down
Angeleyez ..u "call ur husband Lord,kneel down for him and take permission like to visit friends"..well done o....bin married for as long as you ..i hav kids like you and still my hubby treats me like a queen without me kneeling for him..i guess to each his own.
Ruggedman e bu mme!!! your comments are very demeaning to women. A real sexist and abuser thats what i read from your comments. You are the type of man that will verbally and physically beat a woman to submission. In this day and age you still think like this ..then go get yourself some uneducated village mess so u guys can go to the farm together. I really get sick and tired of men that quote portions of the bible and forget that a man is supposed to solely fend for the family and the woman take care of the home. But now guys want to be sharing all responsiblity and still expect a woman to be carpet and rug that they can walk over. NONSENSE!!!
its men like you that women get divorced from ....with your uncompromising ways.
I pray you marry a village woman or are married to one...i am not surprised because your arrogant behaviour shows in your lifestyle...typical ibo man . I have finally lost the remaining respect i had for you.
PLEASE LINDA make sure ruggedmess sees this comment, I dont expect any better from him always hugging the media for attention instead of mixing good rap in the studio. EWU!!....im soo pissed ehn!
WORD ko ti e wa ye mi mor about dis issue called Marriage.Is it by force ni?
Freeze read this out on 96.9 last night, he probably just went to their site downloaded it and then tweeted n to make matters worse he did not even properly capture it. So unoriginal, experience is th best teacher! #wordsofwisdom
Rolles eyes...
No b dis 1 wey fuck 9ice wife? Talking about good marraige when he cnt even respect a fellow man's pride. He pissed on 9ice ego so bad he even vomited on it. #rugged pack well jare.
No. 16 tho.. "If you know you can't stand being corrected please marry yourself" LMAOOOOOO!! too funny
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Sista Traysi haf u corrected ur oversabi correction? Don't use ya anger @ our misconception of marriage to "stylishly" gloss over ya gbagun! OTONDO!!!
Law of reciprocity kwa! I hope u remember law of gravity dey affect boobi n yansh oh! As u dey quote different laws so! Hian! E for make sense to dey quote these laws 4 ma haaasss oh #issokaibye
Awww! Sorry sweetie. There are a lot of women in ur shoes going through all sorts. Pple who v neva been married r all clamouring 4 marriage while some married ones can't wait to run out! The Lord is ur strength. Whatever decision u make,remember u only live once n life's too short not to be happy n @ peace.
He made a mistake, probably learnt 4rm it. In my book dat even qualifies him to give marital advice bcos he has found himself at d wrong end of d pole n knws wot it feels like. As long as he is not a repeated offender, I dnt think it's fair to keep referring to a past mistake. Com'on we've all guffed 1 way or d other. Some worse than some.
You were fanning him when he was fucking her abi? Talking like you were right there in the room. Hiss
No wonder! U're always angry and shouting "linda,where's my comment?WTF!!" "Grrrr!"
I like ur point.I don't need to kneel for my lover and bestfriend b4 he loves me.We r partners in this thing called marriage...soulmates forever.We only need to communicate with our eyes and the message is passed across.....Maybe,Angeleyez needs to grovel on the floor and worship her man else he's gone....Some men are like that.
Rolles
Haha. I like the way u put it. These men and their big ego. Mcheeew! They have used the Bible to justify this submission BS. How about it being mutual?! Mchew!
Dumb dumb dumb dumb dumb. See how dumb u sound. Tufia. Glad I don't find ur type attractive and so wont be marrying. Smh.!
Some ppl sef. The other one kneeling and calling him lord, taking permission lwkmd! How can it not sound odd to them?! My god.! How about respecting and adoring each other and voicing opinion if you're not happy with something rather than yes sir, yes my lord. When the kids hear it....or their friends lmao!
He should respect her too. That point should have been they should both be submissive to each other.
Isn't that what sexy22 was tryna get at? The equality thing. U mentioned in the end he should worship her too. So what's the difference btwn this and what she was driving at? They should hold each other in high esteem and that's the only way they can both be happy if not she will end up doing what he wants at her detriment. (Usually these control freak husbands like to be in control and will snap and hit if madam isn't being submissive and one day she will lose it and do her own damage). If he's not being submssive to her I'm sure she knows one or 2 guys that would do anything to be given the opportunity to worship her and the ground she walks on.
15 - 16, last bus stop! He just said it all.
dis Guy na FAKE .... person wey beef 9ice n said that he gave him a wife..... BUT HIMSELF NEVA MARRY OPOMULEWO.....
Sexy 22:it seems you don't get it. You MUST be submissive to your husband. Even bible has it. It does not mean you should stay under the table while he eats. Being married and having 2 or 3 kids does not qualify you not to obey your husband. It takes a wise and good wife to understand and practice this.
But of course, you can be his boo desperado.
@deekay, my thoughts exactly.
Lool, got it earlier as a blackberry babe (don't hate oh) but sha most of it made sense.
Translation: "has big as his dick his" in actual english reads, "as big as his dick is". "Dis is copy and paste DAT his doin", in plain english reads, "this is copy and paste that he is doing" that is if you translate word for word. But Aunty copy and paste did it ever occur to you that he must have been the one who composed it and it went viral on BB. Even if he did not compose it, as you received it through broadcast, why can't he share it too? Another food for thought, has big as his big dick his, maybe you just didn't turn him on afterall and thanks for letting us know that for a short guy, he is packing.
Laughing out loud oh choi Tracey but really correct yourself sha.
Aunty sorry oh but I can only advise you to pray about your marriage it's not an easy venture but it also isn't for the faint hearted. I would have judged you and said maybe his money blinded you to the way he treats you but I have found men can pretend to be sweet and when they finally have you, they will unleash their evil side.
funny you think singles aren't fit to give advise on marriage when really a lot of married folks don't even know the first thing about being married. I have a lot of married friends and they always come to me for advice. I think really most of us singles do know more about marriage and that is why we are single. I come from a broken home and the last thing i'll want to ave is a broken home because I know marriage is not a bed of roses, I try not to jump at every offer of marriage. I have been engaged 4times and for me, once I get proposed to, it is then that I start studying you and your family a d once I picture myself in that kind of family and it doesn't add up, I cal, off the engagement regardless. My happiness is more important to me than living in misery all in the name of marriage.
So since when did being married become the yardstick for measuring who I fit to give marital advice? It's the likes of you that believe marriage is your calling in life and thus end up marrying someone you aren't compatible with just because be built house in the village or has 2 shops in upper iweka. Smh.
Ok I did have a problem to the submissive part but then I also learnt something from my sister's mother-in-law which I think every woman should know. She said to me, that most women think that flexing muscle with their husband will make their husbands see that they cannot control them and thus must always have their way, when the only thing they are setting their home for is distruction. However, that a woman of less words (a diplomatic woman and confident woman), is the woman that knows that when a man is flexing muscle that he is only being a man and that all she need do is not to talk much and in doing so, she is stooping to conquer. As a reasonable man will still come back home and it is that woman that will cook him dinner and still sleep on the same be with him, and that is where her power comes from because, concede. My father also gave my sisters the same advice and it has been working for them (min you, all the girls in my house are hot tempered but we learn to suppress tHat temper). In the end, it is a woman that keeps a home (even if you k ow ur husband has a girlfriend, unless you choose to leave, your husband will never bring that girl home but the possiblity that he will bring that girl home to replace you is there the minute u start throwing tantrums thus recognising the girl as competition). A lot of girls won't agree with me but really it's the truth. I am not married by the way and I can't stand a boyfriend that cheat but then if I were married, I sha know no woman will drive me out of my husband's home.
The one thing that I know will make me leave my husband is if he decides he wants to make me his punching bag though the possibility of me feeding him rat poison if he hits me the first time is really high. Or maybe I drug him first then tie him up and wait for him to regain consciousness before I start giving him a taste of his own medicine (yes I am heartless like that once you push me to the edge). Continuation of my earlier comment linda.
True it really does take a wise woman to keep a home.
A married friend once told me that I should forget all these women that will be saying how can your man do such if I were you I will show him pepper o I won't apologise, that they are all deceits that they all beg their husbands even crawl on their knees but that's what most o them won't tell you. If you listen to them, you will just subject your home to doom.
So this thing is now giving out marriage advise? Wonders never end. Firstly issue married? Two, this idiot must live in a dystopia century: what the hell does he mean the woman is the bodyguard , protector and role model an should not a deity? Oh, so you want her to be all that and then as the man what the fuck would and should you be doing? Sitting down at home while she serves you Eva a your "submissive" slave? These leftover breeds of men are just walking coffins and the sad number of women who latch into whatever bullshit some dog spill out... It's all good side women want to be treated like animals, the pleasure is all ours
Finalllllly. A woman with working pair of eyes and a mind! Damn your comment is very refreshing, I'm glad you could see through it! The guy is bold enough to say if you don't correspond don't be surprised if you're a punching bag.. Asmh these things walking as men nowadays
I have an associate who thinks like this he goat. He really once said to me and I quite his words " mike you too like confident women why you like girl wey fit talk,ah no me I go like girl wey I fit tell make she just shut up sit down and make I do my thing" I told the bastard to do his thing , umuazi nowadays
No oh......d mumu wz holdin rechargeable lamp 4 dem so he can get a clear view n learn new sex styles.....if u dnt av a proper evidence,dnt tlk shit abt pple #WORD#
Nazzy charles u are a biggest f**l, ruggedy baba still have to prove 9ice wrong by recordin a phone conversation with nice, and the yoruba boy use e mouth talk am say he is nt rugged man he was referrin to....abi u be jjc for net....share ur pin make I send am for u jawe!.....smh!
Ok Rugged u palgiarized these your tweets from Akin VoGg on fb. I am not saying it's not accepatable to spread d word but u acknowledge d source......
Rugged you plagiarized these tweets from Akin VoGg on fb. There is no harm in spreading the word but u acknowledge the source.
Mr Rugeddman, when will you come out to tell the public that thiS isn't your write-up?
Someone even suggested you make it into a song, you go fit? Someone else's IP? You go fit?
Right on point,,,Rugged man....
Rubbish!!! My friend composed dis like a month ago n shared on our Facebook group. Some of us den copied and pasted in other social mediums. D long n short of wat am sayin is Rugged man did nt compose it. You can ask him. Would av loved 2 share my friend's name here, bt he doesn't want it. D guy is very creative.
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