"I have been dating my boyfriend who comes from a political family for close to 4 years now. One thing that attracted me to him was the fact that he was nonchalant about politics. He always maintained he wanted no part of it. But late last year, after his older brother (who is the first son) was ordained a priest, my boyfriend suddenly started taking keen interest in politics. Last week, he finally told me he plans to be a political figure and that he'll join APC when he clocks forty (I'm sure his family pushed him into it after the family meeting they had). He also said he plans to marry me next year after my NYSC service. I love him wholeheartedly and I know he loves me but I know how murky and dangerous Nigerian politics can be. I don't want to endanger the lives of my family just because of the family I married into. I'm so confused right now. What if I marry him and end up hating him in the future because of the danger that might befall us? What if I turn him down and regret it for the rest of my life? Please Libers I need your help.
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 389 of 389As long as his family is into politics, whether he Joins or not, whatever your fear is, will not be so far from you. My point is, if u accepted him without minding what his family is into, you can also accept him now.
Talk to him about it
Its a lifetime decision so u need to b very prayerful abt it..God can only show you d way.
U are afraid to marry him cos of what might never happen? What if he dies in a car accident the day after ur wedding? But what if he becomes President of Nigeria? Too many "what ifs?". Nobody knows the future so pray and move ahead if u truly love him.
My dear u better marry ur boo..if hes inlove wt u not even politics can stp u guys frm having a happy home
Na u knw biko
Work starts today *sobbing*
Naija politics starts from your house, its your duty to stand firm by him to be a better political leader in future,so that your name and that of your family will be remembered.
Leave him n get married to Oga Bonario, dat guy still d search o.
First,
What is a Youth Corper doing with a 40-year old?
Follow your mind
moshoodabiola94@yahoo.com
Pls go n rest, think positive and pray. What will be, will be
Ask for wisdom from God,and then follow your heart bcos it won't decieve U.
Abeg who fit teach me how to fuck my girlfriend. Must u ask a question?
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I c no bad thing in him becoming a politician nd u coming to hate him...One paramnter I know one can use to measure his to b husband or wife z love...If u love him as u claim nd he loves u too what r u waiting 4.....Go ahead
Is better u quit and face ur holly holly life, meaning u are not capable as first lady,,,,,,,, stop disturbing the public u know answer to ur question,,,,,,,,,,,,, who know like better thing agarasha
no knows d answer better than u dearest look inward
If you really love him just stay by him and advise him on the write side of politics and at the same time watch him if he is going wrong instead of criticising what he wants to be at least if you love someone you have to love what ever he or she does professionally
Why are u decieding 4 God,u are jst wish urslf failure @ d peak.
Marry him dear and make sure u pray 4 him always, no evil will befall u in jesus name. Amen
Pray over it
what ever dat will make u happy forever,dear go for it bcos marrage is not ment to be managed.
So irritating, al cos his from a political family u don't wanna marry him.Think
ask Papa God
Discuss these fears with him then you'll decide for yourself based on the outcome of that discussion
just listen to urself talk,since u dont want to be in a family dat is into politics den let me be. Y will ur family be in danger just because u married a politician. Hmmmm fake story.
Na wa oh this is very funny and sounds silly at the same time to me.
If you dont want to be the wife of a pilitician, then quit! Thank God he already told you b4 marriage. So far as u wnt feel the pains if he becomes a governor tomorrow. All the same stick to what you want... if u cant marry a politician, go for someone. else so u dont end up a sad n frustrated woman.
I wonder what help u need from LIB readers after reading this bcos ur story looks so fake, childish and unreasonable. It was poorly formulated. Everyone hope is for a brighter future but the future ur speculation and seeking for advise will turn around u because u're so confused. I am Coonett...
Dats where d importance of having God close to ur heart comes in...seek to know his plan concerning the situation nd u can never make a mistake
I think dat decision rest on u whether to or nt. try to evaluate d implications both positive & negative & then make ur decision ok. Just take ur time don't rush & end up taking hash decisions dat u may regret 2moro. Wish u all d best dearie
Marry me
You marry for better and for worse as they say in the altar. Ask GOD for direction is my take
The choice is urs o madam. Am advice to Joju muse,nudity is not d way. Take dat shity pics off instagram asap.
What sort of excuse is that! What's d essence of this post? U made me comment after years on LIB. Wht nonsense is that? Should I marry cos of dis crap? Linda even has ur time to put ur bullshit up!
This is what other gals want and you are here talking rubbish. Don't you wanna be the 1st Lady?
What's the essence of this post? What sort of nonsense is this? Should u marry cos of this crap u said,linda even has ur time to put dis crappy gist up. U've made me comment on LIB after all this years. Totally crap... politics,should I marry go and do somfin wit ur life u don't hv gist! and If ur gist is tru I can say d nigga whoever it is just smashed u once or twice now u catching feelings
You need to tell him how you feel.if he dies not changed his mind and you love him,support him with is aspirations.
Keep calm and marry the politician
Questions people ask here tho, why can't you just pray about it and here what God has to say. You'd rather have strangers dictate for you
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Talk to God *Flora*
No biggy,go ahead and marry him,love is all dat matters
Is ur family a P D P?.#THAT AKWA IBOM BOY#
Stop thinking negative. There are so many politicians whose families are safe. If that's his new dream, then pray for him.
Do want u want. Na ur pot of soup. In dis naija dat husbands r hard 2 get. U r still deciding. I salute u ma.
Lady nt al politicanz in naija r bad,we stil v d gud 1c.4get ur hate fr politics nd marry ur man......its nt dat bad
~@iamjbankz SA to President Jonathan 2015~
Similar situation. but remember LOVE IS ALL THAT MATTERS
follow ur heart n sure u find it easy
Never the less u can still talk To him abt it ok, just go with ur hrt dear
It a choice u got to make urself dear,no 1 wld live in dat. Family wif u,so u got to make ur own decisions.
He is not married at d age of 40 and u r still with him, gal think twice
Na wa o for some people..
He hasn't proposed. Chill. He might not even marry u sef
Pray to God and seek advise from your mom or pastor.
Put it into prayers. The Lord will guide you.
What's wrong with marrying a politician? Chek oda politicians around u 2 knw if deir family r all in danger! Abeg if u no wan marry am me i want o, d whole fam bin politicians, d guy shud be on. Winks*
Ask GOD,and think TWICE!
You sure know what you want. Pls don't scam us..... #hangssteth&walksaway
being a politician doesnt make him a devil,we still have good politician stand by him and give in ur advice
You have to decide my dear
Try to talk to him about it and tell him your fears also make him to understand the dangers involved
Not everybody who goes into politics die @ sm point..follow ur heart
Decide 4 ursef na bt y do we always focus on d negative aspect? Wat if, he becomes d best husband n fada in d world? Wat if he's d one who is goin to bring a change to nigeria 4 gud? Did u weigh d positive n negative aspect @ all? Love is wen u stand by som1 tru d finest n most stormy weda. Dat is, u'r ready to face both d negative n positive witout no regrets. I must admit dat u were jst being ignorant tinkin he won't go in2 politics somday, wen it runs in deir family. 'Kayliebanks#'
You should know him well enough to know what he is capable of. Try and stay beside him and support him and with the right attitude you can turn him away from wrong decisions he might make.... askralph.blogspot.com
Get rich or die trying..... The choice is yours.
It's funny how u pple say u r confused abt things like this. I believe if u pray about this n u allow God lead u, he will def find a way for u n protect ur family. This might be God's perfect plan, pls don't be a hindrance.
Not all of them are that bad,the same tin also happens to my big anuty but she protected her family with prayers,through out her hubby four tenue there was no p,so don,t use bcos it not to marry him,there GOD
seek God for directionz or rathr go 2 ur pastor..tank u
What's your heart telling you?
Glory to God!
Get rich or die trying..... The choice is yours.
My dear, if you love your guy, then go on and marry him. Politics is not evil, it is the mind set of a man that determine what ever result. Pray for him and he will be a good politician, God bless you.
People need to stop asking libers and turn to God. Pray about it. God's will, will not take you where His grace will not cover you.
*Newbie**
I will advise you to pray over it.their is nothin God cannot do
You need ur drugs not help. What stupid story is this? #I'm Lynda
What surprised me most is that u sed u fell in love cos of hs differential attitude towrds politics..that was where u missed it..as for God's guidance, not human's cos no human is capable of predicting tha future
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U can't run away frm trouble in life, it just locates u. So b brave n marry who u think u love.
And how did u knw dt his family pushed him to it? Oh! I knw, u were also invited to d meeting, rit? Don't blame ur bf's immaturity on his family!
Pray over it and see your Spiritual mentor or Director.
Dont let future regrets becloud your judgement or choice.
See a marriage councellor
I think u shld take to him abt it nd hear what he has to say. Annastaciaubah@yahoo.com
Pray about it hun
No evil shall befall your family IJN. So becos he wants to be a politician now, you dont want to marry him or are you not in love with him? All you need is to support him with prayers every minute and be a strong woman. Dont leave him bcos of his ambition if yu really want to be with him.
Its not as complicated as you see it. By our very nature humans are political animals. So in many aspects of life there is politics. There is also danger everywhere, so if he really wanna be a politician then discuss with him how u two can ensure the safety of your families...or simply sayy you no want again. Shikina!!!
Husband no de 4 market nw u hv de opotunity grab it
Follow ur heart.
Yea dear its ur call
Marry him if you love him,forget about that danger,it's the risk of the profession,and every profession has it's risk
DO Ur wish,Bt i C Notin wrong,U Claim u lUv Him den stand By,so u Wont reGret it.....marry Him...periOd...
Wat if u are married to him, and then he joined politics would u av divorced him? Pray dat God lead u. Lobatan
u had beta marry him, is it all politicians bad tinz happen too, husband hard to find ooo. jst be prayerful dats all. dats my own advice o
Pray
Itz yo life, there comes a certain time in yo life, U gotta b responsible for some decisions, Now uv been datiing him for 4yrs, U shld know him beta dan I do!
If you truly L♥√ﻉ him,his choice of career shouldn't be a reason to quit loving him amd moreso there's no reason to think of walking out of a 4years rlationship.what if? D next guy is alredy a politician? What if yur present Man didn't tel yu his new mindset until after yur marriage,my dear dere are so many Ups and down in a relationship and I tink yu are beginning to have yur own fair share..,Just PRAY 4him.dats all dat matters,NEVER TAKE NO 4an ANSWER. I remain JOYIN4DEBAY
Pray 2 God
Pray
Ask God to direction.
Marry him,God wil mke a way for u dear
as long as he is a good man,politics will not make him put his family life in danger..the world wil know him but not the family.if worst comes to worst he wil withdraw for ur sake.Men wil alwz be men politics or no pol nd he family is already into pol so dont give away whats precious bcus u ar scared nd keep of d media dont make urself known.
Pray for him and stop being pessimistic
Marrying a politrickcian is not funny. Ask Mama Peace wetin she dey pass tru.
Osmoses Mc/Comedian
My dear, if u love him marry him n be supportive. Pray 4 him n God will fulfil d desires of ur heart. U may grow 2 love politics later. There is a bit of politics in everybody u know!
Follow.ur heart dearie
Not all wives or familes of politicians re dead or re in danger
Marry him if you love him. In the future the greatest interest (love and family) will dominate the lesser interest (politics). It doesn't always work that way, but I believe you will be fine.
Mumu
Its only in Nigeria peole think politics is all about cheating, murder, and ritual. How exactly is the life of your family going to be in danger? Do you think peolpe don't have better things to do? Please get over yourself. If you love him as you claim, love the whole package, including the things you don't like.
I usually don't comment but this is no topic biko...this era wey politics na blood money...mumu question I'm sure u are in your early 20s
Is well,marry him
Abeg that is lame excuse,how do u want liber's to tell u not to marry him?
There are so many "what ifs" just pray about the future and follow ur heart in the present. You are a woman and its ur duty to pray n guide ur home wen the times comes. If u do love him, tell ur fears and u both can wrk it out.
*nelly*
If you love him, go ahead, the future with
Take care of itself.
dere is notin bad in it
Always think positively if u love each other $ u're sure about that then u should go ahead $ marry him remember not all politician are bad they're still good people just that bad ones over shines the good ones so build your familiy around him $ help in making him one of the good politician if a man truly love his woman he will always seek for her opinion on things he does $ he will always be concern about her feelings{more tips 264F9C79}
Make ur choice!! Alot of people marry politician. So pray evil will not befall you and your household
What if u had married him before he decides to join politics,would you have divorced him because he was joining politics?i beg you know what you want;follow your heart.
Non can advice you on this.it's your decision.
U shud learn how to be a woman. A man is the head all good n fine but the woman is the neck and she turns the head wherever she wants. Marry ur boyfriend, a lot can happen in one year talk much less if till he's 40. Be a smart woman. Calm n calculating.
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
Don't be scared' believe God... He might even be the change the country needs but he really has to be careful..... ITS'TYNNA
Always follow ur hrt! Frm Janny
The ball lies in your court dear,you know him better than we do.
Attention seeker
follow ur heart
We humans are political animals
My dear, rock the politics with him too...We must all eat the national cake!
Take it to God in prayer
Story for the gods. Make me 1 of ur admins contact kelebrizzle@gmail.com
My dear u dnt av anything to sAy den go n sleep. U ar even luck to av sombody who want to marry u. Infact u ar a confused mamal. PaynEzwanmama say so.
This is no brainier. You know what you want, GO FOR IT
Hmmmm dis one is serious mata...my dear folow ur hrt n put in prayers...Daz all
Life itself is risky and not a bed of roses. The only solution is to seek the face of God.
Ma'am u should marry him,u should'nt jst throw away 4yrs of courtship just cos of some meer speculations about politics..think straight ma'am..
No!
Jes send me his number, I think I love politicians. Mufu! Wen u go dey enjoy d money u go remember us? Don't worry u'ld be safe. Fear not! Jes pray and support him.
Martyr, Matyr u too worry over little little things. Abeg shut up ur mouth and enjou d benefits and priviledge God has given u.
Go ahead & marry Him, both of us will enjoy d money n stay together... Know it that politics is a dirty game' either you Win or lose..life continue...
I don't tink u should let him go.all u need to do is pray and commit d journey of your marriage and Ur family unto Gods hands.my own candid advice
Go ahead & marry Him God is in control...God know why?
GO SLEEP PLEASE...
My dear this ur talk does not have base, is he turning 40 tomorrow? Abi Na sugar daddy ni? Just get over the politics bla bla, just marry him and am sure 40 is still a few yrs away and by then u'd have warmed up to the idea of being a politician's wife or you can break up with him and move if you don't see that in your future the ball is in your court.
waooooooooooo
Dose dat have been dere b4 don't dey have wife and children? Follow ur heart
Your a fool..do u love him or are you marrying APC? don't marry na...another girl will gladly take him. Marry a man for the content of his heart and how he treats you, and not some flimsy circumstances surrounded around politics.
She see husband, a prospective senator, governor or president and she dey make noise. Maybe na pope she what marry.
Make one sisi come take him off you, you go still come back here come tell us. We dey wait.
Nobody can decide for you. It all lays in you hands.
just pray toward it bcs everything needs prayer.
You got it right.turn it down and regrete ur filty life...ble ble ble.this rubbish ain't supposed to get comments sef...why don't u see d brighter side and see wat good a politician can do for d people,dats if he doesn't marry some selfish illiterate like u tho,to avoid producing a GEJ like person
Dey dere mke pant dey wear u!!!!its a good. Thng except he's in2 it 4 bad reasons!babe supprt year man buh mke it clear 2 him dat he shud drop his political shit at d door wen he gets home,if u dislike politics dat much....buh wait ooooo u can. be our own Michelle obama ooorrrr u won be our prispal na only u waka cum?lol
I hate it more... If ur love can survive the future pain, then good luck with dat
Politicians people re not ordinary people, they use 2 go 2 BABALAWOO nd different places, they'll also join Curtisim 2 hv more powers. So if u re a christian I'll nt advice u 2 marry him oh Pls... Bestbobby19@yahoo.com
Put it in prayer den yu follow ur heart
Obitrice4life@yahoo.com
well my dear, there are still good politicians.point out what u hate about politice to him. think about this issue well. but, it all depends on what u want though.
Then follow your heart. As if you won't enjoy being called the first lady..
wow... its a real tricky situation girl. u're damn right in that question. what if you marry him and hate him? and even worse what if you don't marry him and then end up regretting it for the rest of your life. personally, i am a strict advocate of no naija dirty politics in my life but girl this is your life. in as much as you and i hate politics, would you rather do nothing and then keep on wondering for the rest of your life what would have happened if only you had... i think that would be a very miserable choice to make. babe, you just said you love him. isnt love supposed to cover all faaults? honey do you seriously think you can love someone else as much as you love this guy? what if you end up marrying someone you dont love? i know u will scream God forbid, its not my portion but lets be realistic here. you cant have your cake and eat it. no. my advice is that you be that dream woman that guy has always wished for and trust me he will do anything to make you happy, might even consider not joining politics when he finally clocks 40. its all in your hands girl, you just have to play the game right. after all love, they say, is all about taking risks. goodluck and of course i wish you God's amazing grace.
wow... its a real tricky situation girl. u're damn right in that question. what if you marry him and hate him? and even worse what if you don't marry him and then end up regretting it for the rest of your life. personally, i am a strict advocate of no naija dirty politics in my life but girl this is your life. in as much as you and i hate politics, would you rather do nothing and then keep on wondering for the rest of your life what would have happened if only you had... i think that would be a very miserable choice to make. babe, you just said you love him. isnt love supposed to cover all faaults? honey do you seriously think you can love someone else as much as you love this guy? what if you end up marrying someone you dont love? i know u will scream God forbid, its not my portion but lets be realistic here. you cant have your cake and eat it. no. my advice is that you be that dream woman that guy has always wished for and trust me he will do anything to make you happy, might even consider not joining politics when he finally clocks 40. its all in your hands girl, you just have to play the game right. after all love, they say, is all about taking risks. goodluck and of course i wish you God's amazing grace.
wow... its a real tricky situation girl. u're damn right in that question. what if you marry him and hate him? and even worse what if you don't marry him and then end up regretting it for the rest of your life. personally, i am a strict advocate of no naija dirty politics in my life but girl this is your life. in as much as you and i hate politics, would you rather do nothing and then keep on wondering for the rest of your life what would have happened if only you had... i think that would be a very miserable choice to make. babe, you just said you love him. isnt love supposed to cover all faaults? honey do you seriously think you can love someone else as much as you love this guy? what if you end up marrying someone you dont love? i know u will scream God forbid, its not my portion but lets be realistic here. you cant have your cake and eat it. no. my advice is that you be that dream woman that guy has always wished for and trust me he will do anything to make you happy, might even consider not joining politics when he finally clocks 40. its all in your hands girl, you just have to play the game right. after all love, they say, is all about taking risks. goodluck and of course i wish you God's amazing grace.
wow... its a real tricky situation girl. u're damn right in that question. what if you marry him and hate him? and even worse what if you don't marry him and then end up regretting it for the rest of your life. personally, i am a strict advocate of no naija dirty politics in my life but girl this is your life. in as much as you and i hate politics, would you rather do nothing and then keep on wondering for the rest of your life what would have happened if only you had... i think that would be a very miserable choice to make. babe, you just said you love him. isnt love supposed to cover all faaults? honey do you seriously think you can love someone else as much as you love this guy? what if you end up marrying someone you dont love? i know u will scream God forbid, its not my portion but lets be realistic here. you cant have your cake and eat it. no. my advice is that you be that dream woman that guy has always wished for and trust me he will do anything to make you happy, might even consider not joining politics when he finally clocks 40. its all in your hands girl, you just have to play the game right. after all love, they say, is all about taking risks. goodluck and of course i wish you God's amazing grace.
Follow your hrt
If u luv him den go ahead!!!!!
Politicians people re not ordinary people, they use 2 go 2 BABALAWOO place nd different places, they'll join Curtisim 2 hv more powers. So if u re a christian I'll nt advice u 2 marry him oh Pls... Bestbobby19@yahoo.com
Pray about it. You can also confide in a true man of god for spiritual guidance #jo jo#
Stay their make another woman take over nd regret 4 the rest of ur life
You don't have a gist please. Linda please neeeext.
Marry him joor, you love him.
wat sort of careles post is this,so u mean to tel us dat al politicians r ritualist or corupt/unsafe... Smh
Look beyond the negatives. Has Jona died? Obasanjo them and all the political figures that stay put for decades without living all died or endangered themselves? Marry him now he's still there oo. Di dikwa uko nowadays! Don't come back here with stories that touch.
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She is high or maybe she does not want marry d guy which kind story be dis one a beg go sleep
Ask God for direction not LIB readers. Marriage is a decision that affects your destiny.
Nawa for this Linda sef,person go comment she won't post,oga o;go sit down jor,na only you dey blog.
Come and follow my heart since you don't know that you will follow your heart mbok #onelovefromSnow#
Are u sure u truly love dat guy wt dis flimsy excuse.?........just asking ni oooo.
Are u sure u truly love dat guy wt dis flimsy excuse.?........just asking ni oooo.
Funny u
you are not ready
All dis nonsense post dey make me hate some girls...IF u no marry politician,who u wan marry?Maybe a carpenter,Idiot
Follow your heart. I hate politics and can never marry a politician.
Fake story but let me humour you.
Anyone from a political family is a bad person. Politics in Nigeria like you described is murky and therefore will be filled with murky people with murky souls. Forget the future danger. Can you picture yourself with a man who will be responsible for the suffering of many?
you are chasing shadows. He may or may not finally go into politics. secondly, I believe it's people who dabble into evil things that get killed. many politician's children walk around freely. Ask yourself does it make
sense to leave a guy because of his dreams. What is the possibility you will like the next one as much as this one. Don't lose something good because of your childish fears
@Wilheminna, you are just a great character. Biko ya rikpuo na ime onu ebe osi puta joor maka nor na eme nkogheri. Lol. She doesn't know what to say but I think she wants pple to know that she is marrying into a political family. Umuwayi....Chai.
first time commenting......
You know him more than anybody commenting does, so follow your heart. All i want you to know is that "there is no perfect man or woman out there, so you've got to work things out yourselves'.
Abeg go hug transformer jor. Oshisco oshi!
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