I'm really heartbroken right now and I need to get this out of me as I don't know what to do. I have been with my husband for over 7years and married 5. Been praying to God for children. Came back home from work early this afternoon to find him with this girl on our matrimonial bed. She had just taken her top off on top of him. It really hurts mostly because I am a devoted wife and Christian and he knows very well what my home means to me....My bed for that matter.We have been best friends since we got married and we hardly have any friends left as we are always together.. It's been great and although something always reminds me that a man will be a man. I never thought he could bring a stranger into our home.....my bed
She said they met on FB and this was the first time they saw each other physically. She was very apologetic, she didn't realise he is married. They were just starting when I walked in and she said they've never had the main thing.
For the last 3 yrs I've covered 98% of all our expenses. He doesn't earn much so I pay for everything......the rent ...everything plus any other financial support you can think of. I feel so used. He is divorced and his previous wife left him for the same reason. I should have dug deeper before we got married but love covered my eyes.
The normal me wants to close this chapter completely by walking away and just starting my life afresh. But being a christian the spirit of God in me is saying I should exercise patience. Which I know is the right thing but will be difficult.
What's most upsetting is his lack remorse. I kicked him out of the house when I let the the girl out as I just couldn't stand him. He came back hours after to pick his bag...which I am happy about as I need a break. Gosh my blood is BOILING......the normal me is so tempted to react.
Please someone tell me what you'll do in this situation. I am home and tempted to go back out and just start a new life.
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U r Christian try n forgive him, but hard to forget sha
Eyahhhhhh, I'm short of words !
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God lead you through. Linda take note!
God lead you through. Linda take note!
God lead you through. Linda take note!
MAdam, which kain patience are you talking about again. You have everything written for you on the wall. He came to pick his bag when you kicked him out and you are there asking for what to do again. I hear u
omg am so sorry buh u gotta give him a break ok
Aunty linda.....
Please I beg you with the name of God. Don't go out and start afresh again. Give God a chance to heal and restore permanently. I am a testimony. Call me on 08174694900. I can help you. God can help you.
Really I don't have any advice for u, because it's kind of complicated.
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Pls seek councel from men of God. It is well wit u.
omg am so sorry buh u gotta give him a break ok
Aunty linda.....
omg am so sorry buh u gotta give him a break ok
Aunty linda.....
omg am so sorry buh u gotta give him a break ok
Aunty linda.....
If ur tale is true, then you have come to the wrong place because you will more confused than now. Don't you have a mum or respectable women you know? Stop boiling and talk to some matured minds. You might have been so blinded to see his remorsefulness
Na wa ooo..wat kind of a man ll bring another woman into his matrimonial home..is he mad?
Pls dear cool down.
Just breathe!
Calm down.
I cant even imagine your pain right now.
But cool down before you act so won't regret anything later.
That man is ungrateful and wicked.
But is still your choice to leave or take him.
How do you forgive someone that is not remorseful? Does God forgive us if we don't come to him remorsefully??? Think about that.
You feel used? Are you kidding me? You are in a marriage, don't use such words. If it makes you feel better, stop paying the bills and pray he changes cos if he's always been like this, only God can change him.
The loyal girls gets the worst men and the bitch you girls gets the loyal men. That's life for you.
Welcome to the women with cheating husband club.. Ndo, sorry
The loyal girls gets the worst men and the bitch you girls gets the loyal men. That's life for you.
The reason Y we shouldn't be blinded by just love,but it is the same thing dat made his first wife leave what makes U think he will stop it now?my dear quietly leave him alone.and don't ever tell urself dat U can change a man who doesn't want to change himself.
Divorce him!!!!!
depending on which area you live, if you are on d island take a cab going to third mainland bridge or from mainland you can take a brt heading to the island and stop on third mainland bridge at the end exact middle of the bridge and jump off. You are not ashamed a girl is making your husband loose his senses, obviously there is something you are not doing right that made him bring a girl to the bed you are not adequately making good use of. Let me even ask you sef, do you blow him? If yes how many times a week, study shows that a man needs to be blown at least 10 times a week. Work on yourself!! that's my humble advice.
That man is not your husband. God has probably been showing you signs from day one but you did not listen because of the allure of Mrs. You don't have kids for a reason. God did not ordain your marriage and so he did not bless it. You are also the breadwinner Smh you are in the wrong place do stop wasting your years.
Wat does ur bible teach u as a Christian? Were u supposed to get married to a divorcee? U re paying 4 ur sins dats y God hasn't blessed u wit a child yet cos u re married to someone else's husband. This is just d beginning of ur travails. U nor wa c anything yet, ur eye go clear.
Hello ooo...
Excuse me, who r we to advise u other wise when ur words hav said it all via "But being a christian the spirit of God in me is saying I should exercise patience. Which I know is the right thing but will be difficult".
U mean its so difficult to obey d Lord or wht.pls for ur info d Lord know all tins and for ur sake b advise dat d Lord solution and direction outweigh dat of any human beings.
As d saying goes, d devil u knowis far better than d angel u don't know moreso in order to b far better forgive/pardon him and let d past b bygone so dat u wil enjoy peace of d Lord in ur life.
Everytin dat comes around goes around for by d end of d day u wil surely bear fruits of d womb and d Lord wil look upon u graciously bcos u obeyed him.
Madam, its well wit ur soul and pls adhere to d Lord directive concerning dis situation of urs and not any human being. So mak it simple as much as possible for u and ur hubby irrespective of his attitude.
God bless u as u follow dis advise and also reward ur faithfulness wit fruit of d womb IJN.
U wil surely smile by d end of d day, amen!
Shalom!
He will do it again outside...and from the look of things, this is who he has become over a long period of time... its either you get ready to live with it or find happiness elsewhere... if he is willing tho you guys can work it out.
Sorry but I need to ask one question, are u ugly? Do u stink? Or have a bad breath? Are u bossy? These are very important questions
Oh my God! I'm so sorry for this poster. But it seems your husband is tired of the marriage as well hence not showing any remorse. You r a christian, but there are so many diseases out there and most of them have no cure. So think well o. He's not even useful to u in any way.
Sorry dear.. i will advice u pray and talk to him and see if he will change.like u said man wil always be man. If he can do dat while u still cover all the expenses.i wonder wat he wil do when he has that money. . Or probably its idleness that caused it.
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@lwkmd_naija AKA Davido's driver, keep fooling ursef wit two ID on LIB. Greedy fellow u r dat wil amounts to nothing bcos of ur greed.
U did d unthinkable when u choose to b vindictive via impersonating Adaobi Igwe and making senseless comments bcos she called u out for ur comment on Vincent Enyeama.
PS: Fellow LIBer's, if u come across any senseless comments impersonating Adaobi Igwe kindly ignore for its handwork of Iwkmd_naija aka Davido's driver.
Pls Linda, tak note of dis greedy idiot and he-goat dat call himsef Davido's driver aka lwkmd_naija.
I will always say we ladies shud bring our eyes down wen it come to the issue of marriage...If you are a devoted Xtian as said,U wud av seek d face of God b4 getting into dt marriage Buh since You are in already,give a second chance&pray for your home&hubby..Next time try look b4 U leap..All that glitters are nit Gold
Oh dear lord,my dear sis it's good enough that you allow the holy spirit to take possession of you
Don't allow your current predicament push you to the world because it's temporary...just seek God's counsel cos he has already given you a comforter..God would change him if only you believe and have faith...
So sorry ....may God heal your broken heart!
Okay... I dont wanna start blaming now..... Just dump his sorry ass. Get a lawyer, file for divorce and move on... He will never change, trust me
Nawa. Anyways love is blind. My dear, don't liv ur husband ooo, just giv him a break, am sure he wil com bak begging u on his kneels. Pls, do nt do anytn funny. If u check vry well, ur childlessness is as a result of wat he has done in d past...just be prayerful, he wil com bak 2 his senses. may God guild u, it is well.
Darling, just start a new life. You said he's been married before and the same thing happened in his previous marriage. These kind of men don't and will never change. MOVE ON!
Forgive? Not as easy as it sounds....
My dear, get the f**k out of that marriage and don't be scared to start all over... Find happiness first babe, happiness... Think of..... I'll not say much
I feel he doesnt deserve you. But a part of me tells me to go for serious prayers and hope he will change. Since you are a Christian, please go to a church where God is not this fake pastors preferably MFM. Give him time, as he might change. Anybody can change. Him walking out is just his pride playing out knowing fully well you foot the bills. Play the reverse psychology and he will sit up. Don't react and give him the expected reaction he is waiting to see. God will help you . And lastly, pray for him.
Lol I don't understand? You're paying the rent and he's bringing women into your home with no remorse. Madam, your husband is an ungrateful piece of **** and you are better of starting afresh. Thank God you don't have kids for such a useless man. One would think he would at least beg but he's obviously taking you for granted. The only reason why divorce would be accepted according to the bible is if the person is not remorseful, your husband isn't. He doesn't care about you or how you feel. He's probably with you because you provide for him. Probably, he's been sleeping with other women but this time he didn't have money to pay for hotel lol. Just leave. If he had begged, it would have made sense for you to forgive him since they hadn't had sex but something tells me this isn't the first time he's bringing a strange woman into your home. This isn't your husband. God has saved you from having a life long bond with this frog of a man by not giving you children, please go out and search for your true husband who will treat you like the queen I'm sure you are. You don't have to waste your life with a man who is making mockery of you and things you believe in. Good luck and I hope you find the strength to do the sensible thing.
Find happiness and don't be scared to start all over
babes! e be like say you don enter one chance o! but then....forgive. and fire prayers on his head, I see him emerging a new man.
Hi I hope you get to see this but first of all, pay no mind to people that will cuss you on here. Back to the issue, I'm so sorry to hear what happened and you seem like your really heartbroken. Who wouldn't be?
To me, for some reason it just seems like the guy thinks he's doing you a favor by marrying you. He didn't feel any remorse plus he's divorced (and had same issue with his former wife). You did nothing wrong because he just had to leave the house so devil doesn't tempt you to do something silly.
My only advise since you said your a Christian is to pray to God for guidance. But one thing you don't wanna do is going out or talking about ur predicament to people eg friends. Calm down, take a good shower, make yourself a good dinner, pray, watch tv or do something that calms you down or give you pleasure. Don't kill yourself over some man.. I know it hurts especially when its someone your not expecting to hurt you.
You'll be fine girl!!
Just remain patient no matter ur feelings, u will win, pray to God.patience takes us a long way
#*karlishah*
Their are some situations that patience doesn't work,Run,run for your life,it's too short.TIMILEYIN BLESSING
Take it to d lord in prayer he will direct u on how to go abt it.
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Sorry yu hear.....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
My dear, get the f**k out of that marriage and don't be scared to start all over... Find happiness first babe, happiness... Think of..... I'll not say much
It's good 4 all these girls that love marrying people's husband thinking he will love u differently after maltreatment his former wife. The cane used in flogging the 1st wife is waiting 4 u all, Nuella Njubigbo, Ada Nzeribe Aanyaso, Chioma Ikeaka, Ada ufondu, Elizabeth that looks like white cocroach that snatched Ojy Okpe's hubby, Dabota, all these girls married to 2nd hand men and some are even 4th ha and. . I pity unable lives, cos una Don dey hear am but still forming happily married while u so u r pillows with tears every night
My sister this life is too short for you to live it for an idiot. Please leave that marriage immediately. You never can tell what plans God has for you, the man might be the cause of your problem that is TTC. Please move out immediately. May God heal your wound. So sorry. Will put you in my prayers.
U be mumu. Just listen to urself
Hello ooo...
Excuse me, who r we to advise u other wise when ur words hav said it all via "But being a christian the spirit of God in me is saying I should exercise patience. Which I know is the right thing but will be difficult".
U mean its so difficult to obey d Lord or wht.pls for ur info d Lord know all tins and for ur sake b advise dat d Lord solution and direction outweigh dat of any human beings.
As d saying goes, d devil u knowis far better than d angel u don't know moreso in order to b far better forgive/pardon him and let d past b bygone so dat u wil enjoy peace of d Lord in ur life.
Everytin dat comes around goes around for by d end of d day u wil surely bear fruits of d womb and d Lord wil look upon u graciously bcos u obeyed him.
Madam, its well wit ur soul and pls adhere to d Lord directive concerning dis situation of urs and not any human being. So mak it simple as much as possible for u and ur hubby irrespective of his attitude.
God bless u as u follow dis advise and also reward ur faithfulness wit fruit of d womb IJN.
U wil surely smile by d end of d day, amen!
Shalom!
What should you do? Funny question
@ anthony what makes think she did not seek the face of God before going into the marriage. Even pastors have the own issues, and dat doesn't mean det did not pray their heart out. Then
if the spirit of God has instructed you to remain calm, i would advise you adhere. This is not a time to weep or act hastily. Only the word of God can console you. I hope things works out for you
@Anon Shut up ur gutter mouth. Whenever a man cheats, u tell d woman 2 check herself all d time. What happened 2 men being faithful & putting a check on those tins btw their legs? Excuses Excuses Excuses!! If u hv got no reasonable advice just shut up. No just make me vex dis night! Men who are worshipped in quote by their wives still - so cut dat crap!!
Stupid nd daft man dts wats written al ova ur comment
I guess, just like you're. You're hearing about cheating husbands for the very first time abi? Kpomo!
I pity any woman that thinks her husband is a saint. If u wanna remain married, just forget him.. All men are dogs..
Pls if you have a girl child, don't give her this type of sick advice. My goodness!
Lmao... I CAN SEE SOMEONE GUYS GIVING OUT NUMBERS AND EMAIL.. DIDNT SEE ANY FROM THE LADIES..MY DEAR SISTER DONT CALL ANYBODY PLS.. CALL ON GOD . You will be suprise wat he can do. Am sure does giving out number and mails need to work on their homes too.
Kai! You are so very stupid
Men......We Men.......Kpele
Are u telling me a divorcee shouldn't get married again?
I forgot to ask hw old are u.. u should have seen such signs if he is realy that bad..since u said its 5 years now. Or was it his first time??..
Go talk to your pastor.. or a relationship counsellor... nobody can tell you what to do.. They can only help you to arrive @ a reasonable decision.
she claim to be a chrstain why did she go for second wife her problem never start self
Fac
Fact
hmmmm, even the bible is against adultery and fonication..........so what are you talking about. Fact that you don't even have children with him makes things much more easier......you better start afresh quickly
Hmm
You guys should keep it up. Trying to use me to get noticed
Most times we women will see a problem and pretend it's not there. Madam from your story, you said you're a Christian? Why did you go and marry a man has been married before according to you his behavior was the reason his first wife left him and you took over thinking you will make an angel of him. My advice: thank God that you don't have any child for him yet cos the man is simply an irresponsible gold digger. You better forget everything about him and wait for God to give you your own husband.
i love u for that
correct
Are you kidding me?
Blow job for @least 10time a week?
Are you sure your human or an idiot?
You get luck say you hide under anonymous...fool
I left my so called husband a few years ago because of his arrogance and childlike behaviour... I took my time, found a better man and today I am fulfilled and happily married. He does not respect your marriage and he doesn't love or respect you. The world will not come to an end if you leave him. Na you wear shoe, na you know where e dey pain. I had pastors on my case but I decided to leave and my dear, the silly ass former hubby is still the idiot that he was..... My new hubby takes care of my son since the mumu father abandoned him and I feel like a queen. You better run before you die.....even pastors divorce when it's too hot! Please leave....he will not change unless he has impregnated another woman. It's a strategy! Don't wait for him to be an old ass before you start to enjoy him...marriage shouldn't only be enjoyed when our husbands are on their way to the grave please.... I am a Christian and I say leave...it's a sin to be with another man's wife!!!
Hm
Ijanyi/ken,u shouldn't be d 1 talking dis trash.
smile nee shalom keee re u reading at all with all this ur longnote u did not see that she marry person husband. u always show ur self here
Your stupidity is outstanding. How can one human possess so much foolishness,stupidity an shallowness.chai
You are a christian and u married a divorced man? Which part of Christianity are you from? No spirit of Go in you, d spirit of God won't allow you marry a divorced man.
Well spoken
You are the most stupid person on this earth. I don't blame you, I blame people that come here and spread their problems for imbeciles like you to advice.
My sister, pls forgive him for God's sake. He is your husband, the devil did the evil job. Read the book of John 10:10. From here you ll know that the enemy wants to scatter your marriage. Forgive him n call him back. Let him also find something doing. Because an idle mind is the devil's workshop. God exposed him so that he can stop it. Take heat and find a space in your heart to forgive. If you don't, the next man may be worse. Ok.
You this people, what kind advise is this? I don't know what you take God for. Do you think he is baba Chukwuebuka or baba Tunde? Is it only divorce that don't have child or cheat? I wonder what school or church people attend nowadays?
What were you expecting from a divorced guy. He has no respect for you for bringing d Lady to his matrimonial home. He didn't even show any remorse for his deeds. That goes to show that he might have been doing it all along. He was just unlucky that he got caught. You can't say you need a break from someone who will keep breaking you. Pls , try and move on with your life. It will hurt for a while but you will heal. Marriage is just over rated these days. Guys and unfaithfulness. That's our world now. No respect for women or marriage what's so ever.
You are mad. Very mad!!
So your bible said you should not married a divorcee? God what is happening with all these imbeciles? What kind of advice is this?
Is welll
U r a big FOOL.Ewu Asaba
Why do i have a feeling Linda just made this story up! Sounds absolutely flat and stupid!!!
You are a big fool, like ur life revolves around blow jobs. This is marriage for God's sake, there should be mutual understanding and respect for both parties, this mentality that a woman must blow and blow and blow and in fact, (don't just get me angry) to keep her husband is bullcrap, if u like cage him and f**k him from morning till night, if he wants, he'll still cheat. Husbands love ur wives like God loved the church and wives submit to ur Husbands. Women are already submissive in nature, just a little loving from the husband can make a wife even worship her husband.
Why do i have a feeling Linda just made this story up! Sounds absolutely flat and stupid!!!
U say u are a christian yet u married a divorcee? U have been committing adultery all along, he is not ur husband pls, let him go.
Try and make him catch you with another man in your home. @amfestus
Exactly my thoughts, d man was never her husband and he was fed up with her cos he intentionally brot dat stranger to d 'matrimonial' bed at a time she wud cme in.
Ur just a big fool!Anumpama!
Anon why u insulting the man na..hahahah..buh ah don't really know wah to say..buh will leaving him make you feel better..buh just stay by itself until he comes pleading.. Don't call or act like u miss him..key it get to him
This person, u must be a fool. Am a guy and happily married. Ur comment is rubbish. A stupid man like u will always be a stupid man no matter how ur wife gives it to u. Blowing u 100times will never stop u from looking outside. U just have to be responsible OK. Cheers.
Take heart ok.God s in control bcos he new why things are like that.
PLEASE DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME OR WASTE TIME LISTENING TO SOME PRIMITIVE ADVISE, PLEASE LEAVE HIM AND GO OUT THERE IN SEARCH OF SOMEONE SUITABLE , DO NOT LOOK FOR LOVE , BUT SOMEONE SUITABLE. THEN YOU WILL HAVE HAPPINESS IN YOUR LIFE.
Am so sorry.....try forgiving him doe
Linda pls if this kinda thing really happened to someone and she suggested you post her story on your wall please and please discourage her. Cus I don't think you actually know her state of mind and there are some insane psychopaths on ur blog who make bs comments and don't give a rat's ass about what happens to this lady! So please you could tell her to seek help from pple who truly care about her.....
Please lets not bring christianity into this. You married a man that was divorced, you didnt even take time out to know why, he is jobless and relying on you to pay bills and you think having children for him will change him. You are a FOOLISH woman! The only reason God hasn't blessed you with a child yet is because THIS MAN IS NOT FOR YOU! Have you looked at it from that angle. If you have kids for him, who will pay the bills, a man that cannot even pay the house rent. I advice you to end the relationship and MOVE ON! This man is not for you, a man that is not even remorseful and you think he will change. A cheat is a cheat. Stay with hime till he turns your house into a brothel. We Nigerians use christianity as a cover up for rubbish. Its up to you. You better pray and ask God for the bone of your bone.
This one na gengen
That is not always true stern
Jesu! Guys are just wonderful. Even on top the matter you are still trying to set P wirh the woman . Na wa og
Like seriously...Are u a human being? Anon...How could you spew such filt you call advice from your mouth... ewo..there is no kind of mindset you won't see nowadays...Indomie brain
Like seriously...Are u a human being? Anon...How could you spew such filt you call advice from your mouth... ewo..there is no kind of mindset you won't see nowadays...Indomie brain
The mentality of people in this blog tho....like I wonder if u human or an animal? ? Ewu gambia like u. Such an advise. May your wife or daughter jump over 3rd mainland bridge because of a man.....mtchewwwww
RIP to the psoter! He's being doing it for so long and pls do HIV test!
This is pointless...some men sef will be married to angel gabriel's younger sister and still be looking outside...so it's mostly a habit problem...this is who the man is...the thing that gave him guts to bring his filth home is something that he has become one with...his balls has become his brains
Any woman dat will open her God 4saking mouth 2 say "all men are dogs" is nofin but a bush monkey! Hw can u generalise the short coming of one man 2 all men? If u can insult ur father and refer him as a dog, pls stick 2 dat and nt generalise all men as dog! As 4 the victim, there are other women in the past dat have pass through the same fate and they still over came the devil, pray and invite God into ur home, remember "the family dat prays 2geda stays 2geda" thanks
Your are just a thief...reason what with a married woman in private? ? Abeg if u av anytin reasonable to say....drop it here
Exactly as if seeking the Lord's face will make you invisible to marital issues...marriage is still a bed of roses...thorns dey am too..
Exactly as if seeking the Lord's face will make you invisible to marital issues...marriage is still a bed of roses...thorns dey am too..
@nnene I think your comments is crude, devoid of any logical reasoning and stigmatizing to the male folks. Face the individual and not the gender. If a man cheats, he does it with a woman and vice versa. Learn to isolate factors surrounding any issue before commenting.
Find your bearing woman...because he will reduce your Christianity to nothing when you have HBP and always bitter . They don't manage people in Marriage..you'll only have Unhappiness with a crown...
this life sucks
So what if she married a divorcee? Is that a crime too? You don't know what led to the divorce. Even the bible gave a condition before a man is allowed to divorce his wife (Mathew 5:32, 19:9). So if you don't have a word of advice for her, at least don't make her feel worse.
@Poster, your hubby did wrong, very wrong. And to think that he brought the lady to your home, and your bed, is enough to make you mad. Truth is, I don't know what I would do if its me. So maybe you need time to calm down, think it through before you take a decision. Thank God you are a christian. Let God guide you.
#TeamBlessed#
Stern, are u acting like u'really a retard. Abi it's ur own way of drawing cheap attention to ur boring as? 😕 😕 😕
Like seriously? Why are you talking like a retard? Or is that ur new way of drawing attention to ur boring ass?
You pay all the bills? Loll What does he use his money for? Oh I forgot, gbensh prostitutes. Loll
You are the breadwinner? Loll
You service him at his convenience? Loll
You cook, clean, wash for him? Loll lolll loll
His former wife divorced him on the grounds of adultery? Loll loll
Keep on, what's the difference between you and a slave. You are married to yourself with an honorary title of MRS. Have fun. Lolll
P.S: Most Nigerian men are dogs. The trick is to find the one whose poop you can manage.
Can u just shut up already and stop talking like a senseless person
Am still single
I refused to get married to a divorce man
I feel his not my man in the side of God
My dear
Follow ur heart
But you can forgive him and still move on
I don't know
Just follow ur heart
For give him and move on is not really easy out they, sorry my dear.
For give him and move on is not really easy out they, sorry my dear.
Really, wen I hear abt cheating husbands, it's d diseases that'll they will come home and inflict on their poor wives that worries me
I too know what are you saying?
Over sabi dey worry u
Senseless comment
What is the meaning of this ur comment now?
Linda should not post her post here abi? Who are you to tell linda what to do on her blog?
Yeye dey smell
If you don't know what to say,
Just close ur smelling mouth
Yeye dey smell
Y bring these names here u must be a very bitter person and how does it affect u if they are unhappy it's there life and not yours
I too know what are you saying?
Over sabi dey worry u
Senseless comment
What is the meaning of this ur comment now?
Linda should not post her post here abi? Who are you to tell linda what to do on her blog?
Yeye dey smell
If you don't know what to say,
Just close ur smelling mouth
Yeye dey smell
I too know what are you saying?
Over sabi dey worry u
Senseless comment
What is the meaning of this ur comment now?
Linda should not post her post here abi? Who are you to tell linda what to do on her blog?
Yeye dey smell
If you don't know what to say,
Just close ur smelling mouth
Yeye dey smell
Like seriously it's so painful, woman u r doing all those things is because u really love him, but if not for what has happened nor of us would have known anything concerning this matter. As a Christian which you are, you wouldn't have brought this matter on air. My advice is just for you to go and meet your pastor for counselling.
But u caught him just in time b4 they could do anything, just let him come in, he should not use your bed again, next time he should use the chair
Firstly, as a christain it's wrong to marry a divorcee.
Secondly, he would do it again.
Thirdly, he doesn't respect you.
Fourthly, he has made up his mind by moving out without apologies.
Finally, don't go out and do something irrational just calm down first but don't go back to him cos truth be told he isn't your husband. U can forgive him but MOVE ON before you give yourself hypertension
Lol see advices of life.....me get one for u sha.....RUN
Seyilicious
All men are dogs?! That's why you will always be cheated upon because of your stupid perceptions. So what do you also call the woman caught on the bed? A wolf?? Myopic excuse of women of our generation that think with their skulls
Let's be realistic... Just end the marriage. I would do the same if I were in your shoes, the man is as good as useless and he is highly ungrateful. U pay for house rent and he has the nerve to bring in a girl into that same house .... It's good he came and got his bag, just help him by putting the rest of his belongings outside. Tomorrow change the locks of your front door. Breathe in fresh air and start again ... Simple! No time for foolish men pls!
Fool! So that he will do it again
She's not retarded. She will choose advice that applies to her and leave the one that doesn't ... There's nothing wrong with seeking public opinions
I hv the same problem.I met him with whom he
called a friend's girl in the act.I cried all day thinking what to do."Go or Stay. There is one thing we forget to realize that you can never ever change a woman naze. So if I were you I'll leave him to go forever,if not this is the beginning of your journey.He has no fair of God in him so nothing any Pastor can do If he has the mind to bring a woman in
I hv the same problem.I met him with whom he
called a friend's girl in the act.I cried all day thinking what to do."Go or Stay. There is one thing we forget to realize that you can never ever change a woman naze. So if I were you I'll leave him to go forever,if not this is the beginning of your journey.He has no fair of God in him so nothing any Pastor can do If he has the mind to bring a woman in
Guys stop pretending . Babe's you know all the married men you have slept with. It is all bad but nne dust you ego and give red light for apology. If u don't someone else will still marry him and your new husband won't be a saint. Even Some Pasties dey guilty. Even Fr wey supposed dey celibate be gay. It's not about you. It's the nature of man
Even D bible made it known to us that a man who cant provide for his family is worse than an INFIDEL. ... If u actually pay 98% of the bills, rent, feeding etc young woman u are married to yourself. Y fooling yourself by casting and binding??? U need to wake up.
I scrolled down the page, read comments and i was seriously not going to comment but then i decided to. The writing is on the wall for you to read. What patience or prayer do you think will solve it? The truth is Nigerians are so blinded by the God will fix it mentality that nothing really gets fixed. It is simple, the man is using you and he is not remorseful about it. I advice you to start thinking of yourself and what works best for you. Life is short and you don't want to spend it hoping on something that is likely not going to change.
No matter how beautiful, devoted, financial strong, fertile, friendly, humble, loyal...a wife is, u can't keep a man. A man dats faithful decided to do so not cos u ve any special quality. If u think he just started cheating on u, my dear, u don wound finish. U made d decision to marry a divorcee in d first place, den stay n find out d reason his ex wife left since u dint bother to ask initially. It's such a pity but d guy is an unrepentant cheat. To think u pay his bills??? I'm so sorry dear, u r just another unlucky woman. If u still wanna stay wit him, get ready cos d next gist u will hear is dat he's bringing his chic with his child or even children home. Good luck!
Do what your heart tells you but since he wants to be an idiot please cut down on spousal support and every other way you help out at home. Maybe he is bored and needs something to do.
I'm sure this hurts you and would hurt anyone. It's a sordid experience. No one would question your decision as you are justified to take a walk. In fact as a Christian, the only ground for divorce is adultery. However, if you find it in your heart to forgive him, you have risen above human understanding. Trusting him again is another issue to deal with. Haven said he is unremorseful, maybe you need to give him time to appreciate what he is losing in a good and virtuous woman. God help you get through this phase.
Leave him. Not only because of the blatant disrespect but also because he is a waste man. Period! No woman should be providing for a man. That's his job.
He can't be depending on you and cheating on you na. That's just the height of it.
eya..thats sad.. pray harder o..
A word is enough for the wise
To laff wan kill her die... Men are DOGS you are correct. Your father is a BIG DOG, your brothers and male cousins are Dogs too. A dog also deflowered you. All the men that have ever been with you are dogs(bingos) if you are married you sleep with a giant dog every night. And if you are yet married, get ready cause you are gonna marry a mighty shit eating eke uke (dog) each time a man is on top of you, be mindful that that's a giant rottweiller
You kicked him out Bcos u re the one that pays bills
Yeah the bible gave a condition ,on the ground of infidelity but both parties are to remain unmarried dear
Can u imagine ursef,wat abt baby mamas,did they not hav children?abeg go sleep if u don't hav wat to say
Men tho, never satisfied. I can imagine if it was the husband that caught his wife on the bed with another man, by now all the family member will be in their house. Girl just take a break away from him. Within that break if you find nice man that loves you. Sure why not, go for it.
Hahahahaha........either u'r a real clown or down right stupid and immature! How can you talk to a serial cheat to change Biko nu? I am almost 100% sure that it's not the first time she's caught him. So shut up!
Hmmmmmm.men these days, what is wrong with them.. please woman take heart n follow ur instinct...him not showing remorse is a sign of wickedness..please also check if u did him wrong, lik taking ur church tin too far as to deny him sex or plays or stoped what u use to do with or for him.. my God be with u...
My question is why are men so lazy,about 70% of men rely on their women financially these days...it calls for concern o.men are loosing their places in their homes.
I read this fool' s comment only once and since then I never stopped to even tale a glance. His IQ is below average. Blog prostitute @ royal bulldog
Thank You...
@nnene, if u say all men are dogs..then ur father is a dog, ur husband is a local dog, ur brothers are dogs, ur sons are/will be dogs and you are a beast cos dogs sleep with u!!
Titi has said it all! Find out if the infertility is from his end by going for a test yourself to confirm that ALL is well with you in terms of childbearing. If that is the case, use this as an opportunity to MOVE ON! But if that is not the case, then I don't know what else to advise U since he is not remorseful. Mat God heal ur pain, IJN. Amen
Yeah u shld support ur husband buh when ur footing most of d bills?? U shld punish him n mk him pay for wa he did to u,dats disrespectful!
And U're who again??? A psycho-analyst or what???
Not just his wife and daughter, all the females in his family shld jump over 3rd mainland bridge following the instructions stipulated above! IDIOT!!!!
I pity whatever U represent. U're a scum of the earth!!!
She really needs to MOVE ON! There's nothing to show that God's blessing is in this marriage. MOVE ON, dear.
Hahaha !
@Nnenne George, remember ur dad is a man as well. He is also a dog.
@Nnenne George, remember ur dad is a man as well. He is also a dog.
@Nnenne George, remember ur dad is a man as well. He is also a dog.
It's so obvious dat sum1 dat Cums here 4 advise end up being miserable instead......lady plz let's face d fact dat man isn't ur man u just got 2 let him go....cuz no sign of remorse in him nd such man doesn't change.....just calm down u deserve 2 Be happy......
@Nnenne George, remember ur dad is a man, so he is also a dog.
If all men are dogs, then your father is d smelliest bingo alive
Hii hii hiiiii
Nnenne is a very senseless person, from her comments you will know… Idiot!
Pls wellcome Antylola to the house
All these judgements there's nothing wrong with marrying a devorce person as long as you whereby the reason for the devorce my dear you should find out what you need but that man isn't for you he doesn't work and he cheats then didn't feel remorse honey he doesn't want to be married to you trust that
Fact
Looks like you're cheater yourself
Not really I can't leave with a cheater there's someone out there who isn't also must u be married to be happy
Excuse Me sweetheart, "All Men are dogs " hope you realize that includes your father, brothers and every man in your life? Which might not necessarily be true? by the way, why then do women like to sleep with dogs? Anyway...... To the victim, You just got to remain strong, no one can tell you what to do or not, but God, so you should direct your to cry to Him.... And He will give you rest....... T.K from J
Wen I saw d 'f' word u used, I Had to look at ur picture. Lol easy pls!
As a Christian follow your heart.
All men are not dogs please. I have been married for 2 years and I have never cheated on my wife. Some have been married for over 10 years and have never cheated. So why conclude that all men are dogs?
@ titi, I agree with everything you said on this issue, sometimes women don't see the blurred lines before marriage. I think you should not marry a man of his not financially stable. Let's just be real here, am not saying he should have a six figure job but let him just have a job and earn an income. I think you should just relax and think about the next decision to make cos right now your @ cross roads and whatever decision you make would affect your life forever
@nnenne George,hope your father and brothers are dogs too
@nnenne George hope ur father and brothers are dogs too
Kick the bastard out of ur life .Once anyone cheats on u on ur matrimonial bed. Its over cause at the slightest opportunity, he will do it again.
Kick the bastard out of ur life for good. Once anyone cheats on you on ur matrimonial bed, at the slightest opportunity, they will do it again. Move on.
I agree with titi on dis
He is just using u to pay his bills.
Eeeeya!! What a pity
My dear poster, d advice u give urslf is d best.what worries me is u r d breadwinner, 2nd his 1st wife left him cus of adultery.I can't say leave him or stay, all of us here can advice as mch we want, only d one u gv urslf is d best. God help u.
The Truth is Most of the Ladies here in one way or the other have a married man who "takes care of them" u think it won't come back to you? All the homes you've wrecked..the heart of wives you've smashed...there is something called karma it's still very much valid!.. we are now talking about the man alone in this story, what about the young girl that followed him into a bedroom that obviously dint look like a single man's bedroom
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