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Thursday 14 May 2015

'Sexually distracting’ dress lands schoolgirl in detention- but she hits back, telling boys to learn 'self control'

17 year old Lauren Wiggins was criticized by her school bosses and put in detention for wearing a 'sexually distracting' halter neck dress (pictured right) to school. Lauren later hit back at teachers at her her school, New Brunswick school in Canada in an emotional letter she posted on Facebook saying that their attitudes are supporting discrimination against women and encouraging the objectification of women. Below is what she wrote;
"Today I received a detention because the outfit I am wearing is considered inappropriate and a sexual distraction to the young men in my school. Enough is enough. I’m tired of the unjust standards that we as women are held up to.
If you are truly so concerned that a boy in this school will get distracted by my upper back and shoulders, then he needs to be sent home and practice self-control. 
I’m tired of the discrimination against our bodies, and I’m absolutely fed up with comments that make us feel like we can’t be comfortable without being provocative
In today’s society, a woman’s body is constantly discriminated against and hypersexualized to the point where we can no longer wear the clothing that we feel comfortable in without the accusation and/or assumption that we are being provocative.
Schools are the social building blocks in an adolescent’s life, meant to teach them how to communicate and develop relationships with others and also learning about themselves and who they want to be.It’s preached upon us to be individual, to be ourselves.
The double standard here is that when we try, we are then told we’re wrong. If you are truly so concerned that a boy in this school will get distracted by my upper back and shoulders then he needs to be sent home and practice self control.
 

Source: Mirror UK

116 comments:

Davido's driver said...

I see. Lindaobserve

Davido's driver said...

Good for the spoilt brat

Unknown said...

Not really bad tho.. But since her bosses do nt want dat, den it's considered inappropriate .
* * * Linda's 1st Daughter * * *

AQO said...

Linda, dentition kwa?! Ok o.







Jesus is Lord.

Unknown said...

Biko she should send dis to d school dat put her in detention not all dis noise she is making.

Pidgin Mistress said...

Lol, nor be only self control.

Unknown said...

By what's obtainable in their society there's nothing sexually distracting about that dress compared to what they wear over there.

Anonymous said...

Kpele

Unknown said...

U cudnt hv sed it mor right gurl.
Dey shud

NaijaDeltaBabe said...

Exactly. Some guys need alotta dat

Holuphorlahan... said...

Thats why you no sabi book, olodo oshi..

Unknown said...

She is right u know

Anonymous said...

Very well said.People like Linda have multiple standards and apply them,depending on who they are in support of.

If its ok for boys to be in skinny,crotch hugging pants,then it should be ok for girls to be in micro mini skirts.

Its called putting your hormones under lock and key or at the worst DIY.

Anonymous said...

Small time if them rape u, u go dey complain. Na u wan help dem learn self control??

Bishop Dammy said...

What would it take the ladies to wear decent dresses . Inshort that's what defines you , acceptable everywhere without being insulated. Phil 4:5-7

laulipop said...

All I see is her handwriting...so cool

Anonymous said...

Spot on.... I totally agree with her they need to learn self control. Bcos when they r out in the world they can't control what others wear or do they can only control themselves. If you don't like what you see you look away and keep ur mind busy.

Unknown said...

*Dentition* typing error I think.

Unknown said...

I can't see the inappropriate and distracting
part of that beautiful dress.
She's absolutely right....guys need to learn
Self-control.

Unknown said...

Are you kidding me??? Nothing wrong with the dress. Linda take note!

Unknown said...

Are you kidding me??? Nothing wrong with the dress. Linda take note!

May-may said...

Same thing happens in unical o!! They don't allow us wear sleeveless or above the knee clothes. Saying we'll distract the male folks

Unknown said...

Haven't heard the news yet...

Unknown said...

Preach it boo....pervs evrywhere

Unknown said...

Nothing is actually wrong with this dress!!!

Unknown said...

Lolz, dis girl is a crook o. Dat outfit is meant 4 party n nt school, she shd learn ao 2 dress more decent cos she's still young 4 dat kind of dress. Abt discrimination, she's vry ryt, dey shd go home n learn self control if r bk n shoulder wl distract dem

Unknown said...

Lolz, dis girl is a crook o. Dat outfit is meant 4 party n nt school, she shd learn ao 2 dress more decent cos she's still young 4 dat kind of dress. Abt discrimination, she's vry ryt, dey shd go home n learn self control if r bk n shoulder wl distract dem

Unknown said...

Lol..........There are two sides of a coin

knowurway.com said...

Hmmm I believe the detention is to correct her that what she was putting on was bad to her school mate simple.

Unknown said...

Well, She doesn't even know what she's saying. Being obstinate about correction won't lead u anywhere. A school is an entity with rules; u either follow it or sit back at home

Unknown said...

lolzzzzz....Everyone needs to learn self control


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Unknown said...

Lolz funny whites

Unknown said...

Ndi ocha zuzubulu onwe ha

S.M.K said...

Sharrap...ur face alone is distracting...ur a cutie..#LibAddict

Unknown said...

she has said it all,really can't see any thing distracting about her outfit.

Anonymous said...

Where is the dress,again?

linaluv said...

Hissss Nofin wrong wiv dis dress joor

Anonymous said...

I never knew Canada was morally strict like all those muslim countries. But i dont see anything wrong with what she is wearing sha. To me, the vital parts are covered. What is so provocating about it? Abeg make men put their dicks inside pant jare. The girl gave it back to them well. Useless men.

Unknown said...

In today's world, what is sexually distracting about her outfit?

Unknown said...

Lol madam dress well jooor

Unknown said...

Not so bad...but for sch she needs jacket

Unknown said...

Stop provocative dressing

Before you move in with your boyfriend please Read this

Unknown said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
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Wow, this babe is really intelligent and she hits the nail on the head no doubt....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

Unknown said...

I think she is right, if boys can't have self control, they shouldn't blame it on the woman.
I don't even see anything wrong in her dress.

Goziem Oh LORD said...

Ok

jbankzE said...

Temptress!!!

Shush said...

What's emotional here? All I see is nonsense. If u can't keep d law,leave d school or go start acting porn::::::

Anonymous said...

And what's sexual about this? Thought it was a mini skirt...

Unknown said...

Retard.

Anonymous said...

I woman so Im in support of comfortable dressing and all but as an african. If u see what sm of these girls wear in d summer. U go just tire. The lines r blurred.
What she's wearing is cool though compared to sm others. So i don't get d fuss

Yusuph said...

Dear Linda am and ardent ready on your blog , I don't like commenting, to no your anonymous reader u can create a platform for us...

Anonymous said...

You go girl! I'm sick of society making it a woman's fault when a man becomes sexually arroused by her presence. That's just like someone saying "she deserved to be raped because she was naked". Ok, then you might as well have raped your mother when you saw her half naked, or your sister when you mistakenly stumbled into her room while she was changing. Enough of that, and learn to control your sexual urges.

Jasmine Joseph said...

It's true abeg are dey animals

Anonymous said...

Nothing sexually distracting about this dress, to me at least. The school is indirectly saying she's looks too sexy which she should take as a compliment. Lol.

Anonymous said...

I totes agree. Society's standards today completely objectify a woman. A woman can't do this but a man can do this. Please. Women must come together and unite against this prejudice that has existed for years. The female form is beautiful and should be admired, not sexualised. Men need to be taught self control because whether a woman rocks a hijab or a bikini, a mans thoughts will run to the places they want to.

Anonymous said...

I totes agree. Society's standards today completely objectify a woman. A woman can't do this but a man can do this. Please. Women must come together and unite against this prejudice that has existed for years. The female form is beautiful and should be admired, not sexualised. Men need to be taught self control because whether a woman rocks a hijab or a bikini, a mans thoughts will run to the places they want to.

Anonymous said...

Nice. Ms. Wiggins is smarter beyond her years for putting the blame where it really belongs. Society needs a rethink on this issue.

destinysweet said...

Guys plz learn self control


Auntylindagoddaughter

Unknown said...

I dnt see anytin wrong wit d dress. I also like her sense of humour. Guys shud av sense cntrl.

Unknown said...

I dnt see anything wrong with dis dress

Anonymous said...

Great anonymous or wats ur name.pls get a life and a job and stop replying err ones comment dumbass.thanks

STERN said...

Tell them girl..

Unknown said...

Am very sure RiRi is this girls idol.

Unknown said...

U cudnt b mor right gurl
Dey shud

Human Being said...

Bla bla blaa
Boys Should learn self control i agree !

But it is very easy to say so because you are not a man. Men think differently from the way you see things . Men and women are wired differently. A man is easily moved by sight which is different from a woman who is rather moved by her emotions (show of care, sweet words etc).

When a man tells you that your dressing is not ok for him (provocative), please try and understand. The way you see it is not the way he sees it. You could as well be comfortable in covered up clothes. Men do cover up.

Men get excited when little is revealed and much is expected. When men control themselves like you expect them to while you walk around naked, they get use to your nakedness and the turn gay . lol







Human Being No Be God


Anonymous said...

Just like sayin, ladies learn Taekwondo cos of rape. Nonsense. Wait till ur young son starts visiting the strip clubs cos he wants to see more body parts. Rubbish.

snowflix said...

I just love that word 'self control'. It says it all because men always put the blame on women rather than themselves #onelovefromsnow#

AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

Beauty is ten, nine of which is dressing.

ary said...
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Unknown said...

She is making empty noise. Next time she dress lik dis she should b sent out of d sch.

Unknown said...

Let her come to Covenant University, and dare dis. She wil never see d four walls of CU again.

Damilola said...

This dress is decent enough.

AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

Royal clown aka d voice of libers, always making 1million comments on one matter, I hail o.

Unknown said...

I really don't see anything wrong in what she's wear even to the extent they themed it sexually distracting! I mean those school boiz should be thought on how to have self control

Unknown said...

Hmmmm that her nose ring though even our actresses are also wearing nose ring now a days

Anonymous said...

You mean this girl is 17yrs???
Nna mehnnn, her skin don dey crack ooh.
She has an "okponku body"
Why would she even wear this to schl?
Her skin's awful, nothing is even attractive about her.

Anonymous said...

Until the day ten boys finish you before you go learn to dress well. Dey there dey talk self control

Unknown said...

This is way better than what kids wear to school, real bum short, see through tight and so on

Eze said...

Shes a teen in sec sch.

Unknown said...

Fool

Unknown said...

There's nothing provocative about that dress. Well, maybe the school has code of dressing!



#TeamBlessed#

Anonymous said...

U can never wear that to unical,pls let's be decent in our dressing

Unknown said...

Minna, u got me perving over ur Sweet looking Ass all Day.
I believe u have the powers to bring my Dreams over to Reality, if u understand what i mean.
Cheerz, while anticipatingly waiting 4 ur call.

Unknown said...

Mama, the naked truth is that our Dick is very stubborn n somehow independent of us in reasoning.
What i'm trying 2 say is that it mostly act on its own n sometimes we dumbly follow it.
A very pitiful situation.
All the Ladies should keep praying for the Dudes out there cos it ain't easy. Its jst like a sickness that needs some miraculous cure.

Unknown said...

Na ur level of understand sha, I knw blame u@Dora

Unknown said...

"Understanding"

gee said...

...And never making any sense.

gee said...

U are stupid

ASAMPOKOTO said...

She has a GREAT POINT. Anytime I try to wear something short out of the house, my folks complain and it annoys me. Because my sole purpose for wearing such short things is for comfort and because of the heat. Period! Nothing more. But no one seems to gt that. Men will look at me this way and that etc etc. how's that my problem. They can look but can't touch

Unknown said...

Oh ! Children of now a days , chukwu have mercy

ASAMPOKOTO said...

But how do you know this? Were her grades mentioned anywhere in the article? Nawa oh! What a weirdo

ASAMPOKOTO said...

Thats a maxi dress appropriate for any and every age. And mate, she's 17

ASAMPOKOTO said...

Someone actually posted a comment like that up there, believe it or not. "When them rape you now...:.." <-- said the person

ASAMPOKOTO said...

That is her point. WHY SHOULD THAT BE PUT PROBLEM! I know mehn who will see you naked and not get moved. Fact. And if they do you'd never know. That is what we call SELF CONTROL

Anonymous said...

Just because she is naked does not mean your hormone should flow, indeed.
Press the shut down button to your body hormone, indeed.

Juleslouis said...

But there's absolutely nothing wrong in her outfit and i agree with her, boys needs to practise self control! Some men r so hyper that they will rape u even if u r in a head to toe outfit. Most times it isn't about d cloth but what's in d mind.

Unknown said...

But the dress isn't that bad na

Anonymous said...

Lmao. Canada talking about decency kwa,nsogbu!, which means deir guys will kiss and hug statue in Nigeria. Dat dress is not bad to me. Dey should learn self control on a more serious note cos am sure dey watch terrible videos at home showing celebrities on worse outfits. So what's d point?.

Unknown said...

dats an Invitation to treat.

stancheph said...

At royal are u in any way trying to say Covenant as a university is an advanced secondary sch? What is wrong with that dressing at the university level?

Anonymous said...

While she is correct that men need to have self control, she seems ignorant that she is a child, surrounded by other children, all with hormones raging. That's the 2nd reason why there is a dress code in schools for growing children. The 1st reason is so as to instill a sense of decency and responsibility. If she wants to wear sphagetti straps or even those deeply plunging necklines favored by Hollywood today, heck, even if she wants to go around in a bikini, she should wait till she is out of the school, and then she can argue with her bosses at work when she starts working. Having said that, the dress is not indecent, but then I'm not a teenage boy with raging hormones and an undeveloped sense of consequences and responsibility.

ASAMPOKOTO said...

Sex offenders like you are the reason for this article.
Someone should suffer because the next person lacks self control and discipline?

ASAMPOKOTO said...

Rare species it's only naija men that stay giving that stupid excuse. So NO it is not a sickness. You people lack discipline. Period!

ASAMPOKOTO said...

But ladies learn taekwondo for self defence so PLS what are you saying? And what has the strip club reference got to do with anything?

ASAMPOKOTO said...

Where do we draw the line for provocative though? Why does a short skirt or dress in the heat in this country equal provocative?

ary said...

First of all I think that dress is not sexually distracting and the boys truly need to get a grip. Secondly though I think the world has gotten so full of itself in this women empowerment stuff that some women act anyhow and hide behind it. Dressing provocatively and not expecting to be harassed, is like parking your car in a bad neighborhood and with your keys in the ignition and expecting it not to be stolen. Responsibility lies with both male and female to act right

Unknown said...

Insulated? Like electricity.. There's nothing wrong with that dress

Eman said...

I am sure that school has a dresscode

AREMS said...

it is true that guys should be taught self control, but should the same institution that preach self control also expose same guys to temptation?

KWEEN said...

17 and look at all those tattoos and nose ring. She looks older than her age sef. Na wa o

Subomi said...

she has a point

Wale King said...

I totally agree with her and do not see anything inappropriate with what she wore.People should indeed learn self control,adults also fail at this...

Unknown said...

Relax Asampokoto.
Hit some research on the discourse n get back 2 me so we can parley.
I can confidently tell u that ish is REAL out there n its not only jst Naija Men, its a worldwide syndrome that has been afflicting Men since the Creation of Woman.

Maltesers 😄 said...

You empty headed guys honestly need to stop making noise. Her breasts and bum aren't exposed and if you find something as small as a female wearing a halter neck dress sexual, I am honestly pleased to announce to you that you are a PERVERT and you need help. Period.

mira cookie said...

Lmao! @ insulated.......

Unknown said...

Are they kidding me!! That girl's body is properly covered up. Guys r allowed to wear their trousers on their knees but that's not distracting. Uwa Nka!

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