From a male LIB reader:
Dear Linda, my wife beats me up. I am 6 ft 3inches tall and 260 pounds heavy. She's 5 '11', 180 pounds. I was taught not to hit a woman and I have never laid a finger on her. I love her. She picks quarrels with me without reason and when I try to walk away, she begins to hit me. I have reported to her parents but they are of no help. My friends tell me that Anambra girls are like that. What do I do? I fear that if I beat her back, she might die. I don't want to go to jail.
Abused in Chicago
Whatever you do Mr Abused in Chicago, don't hit her back. Like you said, you might kill her. Best to walk away from an abusive partner. Someone who loves and respects you won't be hitting you constantly. Let's see what others have to say. Over to you LIBers...
173 comments:
Lmao!!! Sorry I nearly died laughing when u said anambara girls cuz I'm one ! But I'm not married yet nor would I put my hand on anyone .. Okay back to the issue at hand .. Give her ur last WARNING! Not dkb's 'I will slap you' warning oo, very sophisticated and matured warning then if she strikes again, my dear u can even come and marry me sef lool...either she packs her things or u pack urs .. But you didn't state why she hits u tho?? I hope its not cuz u cheat?? Well I doubt that but enlighten us on why she hits u ..
Ur wife beats u? U be mumu ni?
Linda, are you saying you support divorce based on your comment saying he deserves a better woman? I think he should take her for counseling.
Linda you see what I was saying when you were supporting that Zainab girl now am a lady and I know the most most important thing to a man in a relationship is not even sex but Respect to the abused guy I will follow Linda to ask you to run for your life o if she truly loves you she will respect and adore you I will say the same thing to a woman in similar situation shikena
Guy, break up the marriage fast before you are tempted to hit her and cld cause death and other sturvs.
You guys need marriage counselling, and I find it hard to believe you're a saint youself. I'm not saying men aren't sometimes abused in a relationship, but its hard to believe that a 180lb woman is beating up a 260lb man and you can't hold her down and make her stop.
why don't u send one of dose crazy akata girls like d one
linda posted smtime ago dat was beating up her bf on d road to take care of her.
Rubbish oya linda voltrons make una start to attack me
Ejie Kurtz
Linda yhu ar nt well!!! Walk away ke... Y ar yhu ppl encouraging divorce like ds. He's a man pls and shd cut d crap. Shushing her alone sef is enuf 2 stop d hitting. And let him ask himsef d thngs he does dt mk her react dt way.
Which one is Anambra girls are like that kwaaaa! What is wrong with people and generalizing? Haba. Is that necessary to say or someone is just wanting us to look bad.
Michael says..
My guy run away ooooooooo! I once had a girl like that and funnily enough she was from Anambara too. If the parents aren't being helpful then I don't know who can. Leave her especially now that you haven't got kids. But wait oooo, maybe just one hot slap might help. This is just spiritual. If woman flog me with koboko while I'm sleeping then God save her ooo.
Slap sense comot for her head........lol
See Linda will not vex now that it is a man getting battered. I remember once when there was a video of a man getting beat up and Linda put a huge LMAO in the post.
You keep saying men shouldn't hit women because he might kill her but you are severely underestimating the strength of women. Not all women are delicate little flowers, some women will slap you and you'll wake up toothless in the hospital.
To the man being beat up, run away. Divorce her ass and run away before she kills you. This is the same advice I would give a woman in your situation. Pack your bags and go.
Jst walk away cos she doesn't deserve u
Pls marry me am available if u need my details reply I will send it 2 u. Y will u endure am abusive marriage when dey r plenty fishes in d water. God abeg I hope its not just a gimmick dat has come as a result of lindas post always being about d men abusing women
Never stay in an abusive relationship. It breeds contempt
Divorce her cos u can never stop abusing u that's who she is counseling is not going to help
U know u can't beat women in America, if not ur life will end up being misearble.....It is better to walk away than for u too do anything drastic
Ok sweetie don't get it twisted. So becos u don't want to divorce u shud sit there and die? Abeg o, as much as divorce is a last resort one must not die on top marriage pls. If they have to separate or divorce for both parties to survive then so be it, d only clause to that is that they cannot get married to anyone else until one or the other has died. Or they can get proper help and resolve the matter spiritually and secularly, then they can continue as before. Pls no one shud die becos of marriage, who talk am like that?
As with all cases of physical domestic abuse, he ought to report her to the police.
Micheal or K solo u are a big fool! U were spending her money and living in her house u church rat! U almost sold her car and when she caught u and handed u over to the police, the marriage broke up! I know who u are... Mumu say what really happened. Woman wrapper, lazy bufon
What do you know?
Shame on him for calling out Anambra girl.
see me see wahala......so so funny! so women also beat men? sorry sir, do you cry when she beats you? just thinking.....
Seriously,just walk away
yeah, a collegue of mine in UK is also being beaten by his Ibo wife, dont know the state thou.
But Linda, how come this story is coming now! after Zaniab issue, I smell a rat.
Watever! HOT SLAP will do the magic but not more than ONE oooo.
1 HOT slap does a lot of miracle, she will automatically become a loyal submissive wife.
U dont need to thank me... welcome.....LOL
I am a woman. I really dont understand our girls(Nigerian girls) when they cross over to America, they start misbehaving knowingfully well that the law would back them. Abeg my brother, you have to find a way out of this fast because this woman is an ekwensu (devil)If you touch her, you would find yourself in jail especially in America. She's justs wants to put you in trouble. They are plenty in America. And our fine sisters are here wasting.
beat the hell out of her..She wont try it again
Oga u no dey shame sef, i beg tell her that you want to take her to naija for vacation, , when u reach here, take her to her father`s house,give her the beating of her life, abandon her and go back to chicago, imagine.
mcheeeeeeeeew umunwanyi sef!
beat the hell out of her..She wont try it again,trust me. Girls of nowadays need to be treated the way kids are treated in naija..Beat the hell out of them..Period
First of all, oloshi ni e! Mumu man na im u be...u disgrace us men.
Secondly, your wife hitting you in the first place is completely your fault. To me, you don't present yourself to her as someone she has to respect - of course she doesn't respect you, that's the reason she hits you! Probably, you tolerate some things which you shouldn't in the name of love, thereby it gets into her head that she could do anything to you and get away with it.
Naturally, women are very good creature. But as a man, you need to exercise your authority on them. That way, they respect and love you more when you do it - it's simply their nature. But if you act around them like a dumbo, which I believe you have been acting like, they don't respect you and it could lead to the kind of treatment you are getting right now.
My advice: show her you are a man -not by beating her o! Then see how she turns around to love and respect you. I hope other LIB readers can give you additional good advice. Goodluck!
Naaa waa things happen..she doesn't deserve u..O gaa u better get anoda woman fast..!!
All these people asking you to leave, and they don't know the whole story.
Both of you need counseling. Your wife is most likely seeking attention. You mentioned that while she is speaking to you, then you walk away and that provokes her. That does not justify her hitting you. All I would say is do not leave your marriage. It is not beyond repair.
Seek counseling, professional counseling, not from such biased Nigerian pastor. Love her to a fault and pray. Be firm with her. Tell her not to hit you, firmly and that you love her but you won't tolerate such behavior. Listen to what she has to say when she is upset.
God help you.
I think this guy should walk out of the marriage. He's done well though by not hitting back at the twat of a woman. I can't understand loving someone who constantly abuses you physically...that's evidently not love! It's most unfortunate that he has a violent, disgusting, bollock-brained vixen as a wife. She's a disgrace to civilized women all over the world.
Plus, It really baffles me each time I watch Jerry Springer's show & see how these big, strong guys defend 'emselves & even run from their abusive partners without hitting back...Can never happen in this part of the world...Never.
Hypocrites as usual! He shouldn't slap her back and he shouldn't divorce? What the hell do you want the guy to do? Where is it written that its ok for a woman to be violent? U want him dead before he reacts? As I always say Nigerians are the poorest advisers on earth! Always putting sentiments ahead of common sense!my brother walk away while u re still alive.
STUPID SILLY MAN!!!why re u calling Anambra girls?i believe no 1 forced u to marry her..she's urs and u must marry her(umu nwoke na ogologo amu)Linda abeg post my comment....EVA GORGEOUS SAYS!!!
Do u expct him to hit him bck? Dt shows hw respectful he is..hitting ha bck wl show hz nt mumu abi? Pscheeeew
Hello Mr. Chicago,
My advice is report her the abuse hotline; she needs therapy for real because the day u hit her i can bet you money she will call the cops and have you arrested. This might be her strategy to cause a divorce and take all she can from you. I am a female and i know how wicked some of women can be.
2ndly, if you don't want to call the cops on her cause of pride. Then find a new apartment, and move on with ur life. If she decides to work on her attitude then u 2 can help each other; since you probably still love and care for her.
My dear in the U.S, if u touch her once you will have a police record of domestic violence till you prove it's self defense. So please i dey take God beg you, no touch her cos u might kill her, JUST report her or call 911 in the back ground and let them trace ur call and catch her in the act.
I watch crimes women commit and trust me some always have a story on why they killed their spouse and might go free....Oga u be person pickin, brother, friend, cousin etc...u will always find a better female......If we were related just one call to me i go get police to ur house....except if this kin beating from her turns u on cos una men funny.....
My belle won burst wit laffff.life alaways shows d two sides of d coin
Clap for yourself!
I don't think he should leave her, u guys are being unfair,u don't just give up on someone like that. He should take her for counselling as well as report her to her family , some prayers would also help. If after all this she doesn't change, then she has issues
CALL THE COPS ON HER...DONT HIT HER BCOS IN THE US THE MEN ALWAYS LOOK BACK...OR BETTER STILL LEAVE HER SHE IS A FOOL....WHO DOES THIS IN THE US...SHE IS TRYING TO SET U UP AND DESTROY....I AM IN THE US AND WILL NEVER TRY THIS ON MY HUSBAND BCOS HE WONT TOLERATE IT EITHER
Oh my Lord when would you people start using your head. Linda I hope u don't get into marriage with this way of thinking oh because I swear your marriage won't last. I'm way younger than you and I can swear I know better. Marriage is not something you just walk away from damn it. You can't even ask why the woman is abusive to him because I know she's not mad, something must have happened. It's either the woman is the man in the r/ship which makes him a weakling or he must have done something to her. Either way they should both go for counselling to see what the problem is and then build a solution from there.
Leave her for a month and come back home,...she must promise u she won't hit u anymore...Mister,ur d Victim here,and yes we women can just like to be troublesome, but nobody wants to be lonely......
This linda sef... Wat is ur own..until the woman kills the man abi... Mr chicago pls pluck cane and flog the devil outta her
bia Mr.Man point of correction,not all Anambra girls are like dat. i'm from anambra and i don't beat men neither did my mom beat my dad. anyways have a deep conversation with her and let her know that u'll take legal action towards her if she tries that again or walk away. ur wife sef!! na wa for her!!!!
You know, if this situation was the reversed everyone would've been going off here. I'm even surprised someone ppl are suggesting to him to give her his last warning. WALK AWAY from that no good woman. She's a complete shame to society & women in general. Leave her alone with her trouble, my brother.
Have you heard of therapy before? Then get one, don't just report her to someone, talk to her, and with her and have a professional help you guys tease out your issues. All the best.
Oga I beg wetin do your own hand u didnt mention that you are handicap now I beg she no need cutlery to chop slap jare...lol
Lol @ k solo,linda n her fans,una no go kill me oh
Weakling! Wake up and wear your pants!
Please, Mr Abused in Chiago, do not slap her. Bring her home for Christmas and discipline her in Naija before returning back.
at anon 5:49 u can hangout wif me like u said ur a cool lady am a cool guy aswel
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note for anon 5:49 alone cos her comment is meaningful
this is so funny,she beats you as in seriously???wow sorry oooo i am trying to picture a wife beating her husband cant get the scene through
@ Anon 6:04pm
I completely agree with you. I am a married woman. You need to show authority in your home with love. "In this house you will not hit me, I did not marry a woman like that, you are better than that". Hold your ground. Marriage is hard work. Speak positive words into her life. Pray together and while praying bring up the issue that she is beating you and it breaks your heart as a prayer point.
You are her priest.
May be you need to leave the house for one night. Let her blood cool and she realizes that you would not tolerate her nonsense. Visit www.focusonthefamily.com, look for good counselors in your area. They also have good articles. http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage.aspx
Seek out counsel. Your wife is not a bad woman. In all truth, women crave attention and she is seeking it the wrong way.
Don't let people here destroy your marriage, most of them are not married. All marriages have their issues and if you work to solve them, makes the marriage stronger.
If you are firm with her. The beating will stop today. I assure you.
Please give us an update so we know if things get better.
If they don't, attempt a trial separation, sometimes you don't know what you've got till its gone.
Let divorce be the last resort.
I'd be praying for you. It's Olu again
By the way it has nothing to do with Anambra women.
Send her to K-Solo, equation balanced
mmhhh strong Anambra gals..dem gals are thick..a someone said best thing in US/UK is to call the cops on her!!..that's how men turn the table round on abusive women!!..so trust me women can not go hitting men either!!..Equal opportunity..
See dem way dey claim mr and mrs enlightened! Its so easy to tell someone to just "walk away" in a marriage..and most of em neva marry sef..Mr punching bag and his wife need counseling...does your inlaws know about this?.it has nothing to do with anambra girls.is your wife a kick boxer or a black belter in taekwando? Tufiakwa!
Some women beat their husbands wella. We had a neighbour whose wife used to beat him. Wenever d wife is beating him he wld run to d neighbours shouting 'e gba mi'. Dey are divorced now sha bt till today we call d man 'Baba e gba mi' and we also call his children 'omo baba e gba mi'. So back to d issue....uncle run for your life . Maybe its her money that is still keepin u there.
Yea. Ve replied send ur details
U are obviously looking for someone to hang out with in the wrong place and for the wrong reason.....there are more sensible comments here than the one she made!!
You guys sure need to work out your marriage,I am not a fan of divorce, but there are ways you can restrain her,self-defense,not actually letting her pummel you.2ndly use style put am for luggage go naija,go find one amazon agbero to beat the craze commot for her body atleast u didnt touch her.But Oga Chicago na falling of hand o,shame no go carry u come beer parlour for where men dey.Finally,you can walk away,(thats what I do when provoked by a lady).Go somewhere else for months till she comes back to her right senses but Anambra girls are bush thugs.'R' and 'L' idiots.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!
I can't shout!
That man is a BIG FOOL!
So we have now seen that it is not only us men that are the perpetuators of Domestic Violence.
Seriously why should he walk away. One of these days he should hold her hands down and really halla for you
See Mr Abused in Chicago. Give her one heavy slap. Just one. You're being to kind and she's taking you for granted
Shut d fuck up michael or wateva ur name is! I bet u were also bulldozing and beating the girl which is why she must have beaten u back. U think its every girl in a violent relationship that will sit and mope. She go beat u, beat ur mama join sef. U dey mad gan! Oloshi! Oloriburukuniye!
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Hahahahahaha @ "some women will slap you and you'll wake up toothless in the hospital"
Sounds like what a crass Yoruba woman can do
You don marry Ada Anambra? Sharrap there.
Lmao! I gbadun dis ya suggestion. I trust k-solo will do a clean job
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Done hit back. Get a separation. that should make her see the light. Don't end up in the electric chair because of anger. God bless you for your self-control.
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looool.odiegwu really!eziokwu???
6.3" 260 lbs, guy you are fat
lol.......
Things we go tru for luv. My name's Mike, I'm 6ft 2" and a martial arts instructure, for two years I suffered same in the hands of my fiancee but two years down our marriage we are the happiest couple in the US, thanks to the HOT! SLAP!!I gave her one day after she almost blinded my right eye (Please note that slap was a reflex action as I am a gentle man & will never hit a woman)....Mmmmh but a week later I cant recall how many boxes of chocolates, flowers & presents it took to end the mata. I love my wife dearly. I'm married to Adaora from Anambra state. lol
Linda if I die here my blood is going to be on ur head!!!! This people have killed me with laughter I can't even type welkll
That's it I've given up ahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah
Na wa oooooooooooo.
Thats a bad wifebreaking entertainment news
Mr Chicago husband. I feel for you and I feel you. I actually know a couple with a similar situation and the lady is just out of control.
Behind every agression, there is an underlying issue. For a woman to be so aggressive without being psychotic/schizophrenic, there are issues somewhere. Did you meet her at a club? Is she frustrated about her job? Is sex with you "disastrous"? Is she infertile?, Maybe her expectation of your financial status is absolutely not what she thought it was before you married her .
Finally is she ever sober about this and makes effort not to do so repeatedly? If not, install cameras in your house and use as evidence. PLEASE GET A DIVORCE ASAP BEFORE SHE STABS YOU AND CLAIM SELF DEFENSE! and I promise you she will win the case if you don't, unless she isn't a woman.
However, If she regrets this all the time she does it, help her get help from church/mosque or counsellor and protect yourself.
What's this Anambra comment? I'm so offended! I who cannot hurt a fly! *snickers* But on a more serious note, perhaps try therapy or take a vacation or something... There has to be a way to exercise your authority (NOT YOUR PERCEIVED DOMINANCE) without resorting to violence. As a female I grudgingly admit that she'll respect you more for it.
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The scale is one sided really. I live in the US and I know that if you call the police on your wife, they will only take notes and leave. However if your wife calls the cops on you, you will spend the night in Jail. I feel the brothers pain and really if he is making good money, divorce wont help him. He will pay Alimony and die. My brother, you are between the devil and a hard place. PRAY!!!
what u should do.. set her up. let FBI, CIA, CID, etc know. they will work 2gether. they will put cameras everywhere. even in your latrine. then let her beat you. not only once or twice or thrice, but many times. make sure she beats out blood so it can hold in court. Then since u are in love, you can visit her in jail where u will have protection from her. MUMU.. ewu gambia.. "smh"
Uhmm, divorce this woman asap. Make sure the cops are there when you serve her divorce papers so that she does not try to go crazy. And if she goes crazy, you can sue her for assault. Goodluck!
mr abuse chicago my advice to you is to see a counselor, and if all fails do a trial separation. please never raise your hands at her because it may lead to something extra ordinary. I once lost a closed male friend due to his partner been too hot tempered and physically violent. She is in jail now by the way. I pray God sees you through this trying times.
I love that you don't hit her back.
but for no reason should a woman put her hands on you or provoke you this much.
Please do keep all evidence against her (including nasty text messages she's sent insulting you or thereabouts) and call the cops.
A case on domestic assault and battery you have there. PS a restraining order might suffice.
Hahahaha! Oh my lawd! You just cracked me up with 'waking up toothless'.
Nna menh which one be no divorce until death? my dear i know marriage is for better for worse but once a man hits me once dats it o. fool me once you are the fool, fool me twice na me b fool so my dear Chicago man, Separate from her(as in move out) then if there's no change divorce her and move on with ur life. Likewise women that are in an abusive relationship. Life's SHORT u hear me it's SHORT. Marriage should be enjoyable not miserable. #wishingyouthebest
I fnk u sud slap her...jst one slap n I promise u she'll neva do it again in her life..she's hitting u cs she fnks ur weak..jst one slap oo...bt make it a nice one
Ldkmdh...
U be real comedianness... Lol
Dis is exactly wt I was jst sayin..all she needs is one nice slap...she will be too dazed for life to ever try it again...n I'm a girl
Abeg I no care, I no send Linda women voltrons. See, if my babe start to bring that kain leg, wo, no be person go tell her. One slap so hot on her cheek and she go bend down start to pick sand. Nonsense. I go because I wan be gentle man make press report ''Man Beaten to Death by Wife''. Tufiakwa. Abegi. If she wants a happy marriage I give it to her and vice versa.
Omo Chicago abeg take 'that igbo girl' advice jor. Trick wifey come naija, as una dey land MMA before una reach Arrival, make sure say na for afternoon, then land her that kain slap I describe earlier. Hot and peperish slap. True, it is an attitude adjuster. You'll begin to notice transformation.
ur jst jelos cos i didnt recomend ur coment
Ask am well.
Linda u r very bias! Wen dkb slapped Zainab u went were very vocal about it! Now u r presented wit a case whr d woman is d 1 hittn d husband n u say he shld walk away! Stop bin sexist! Violence against any1, whether man or woman is WRONG!
U watch ur wife beat u up? Who does that?
It is really good not to lay your hands on her.
But you must try and make her understand that it is not acceptable. Try talking to her on a good day or out at a restaurant the reason behind her behaviours.
If it happen again, pack your bags that time and go and stay in an hotel or at a friend place till the next day. If she continue, go for a week and if that didn't make her stop, then she need a counselling.
Bunmi
loll. This is some kind of comic relief; a weird one really. Chicago, am not actually laughing at you, but this is rather rare.
I remember once, of a couple living at the Boys Quarters behind ours. Often times we hear this whimpering sound coming from that end always like someone trying hard to muffle a cry. We then assumed that this stupid man had been bartering his wife never knowing it was the other way round.
So, some men are actually victims of domestic, verbal and emotional violence. Yeah, Linda I agree with a good number of people hear about your bias. I read the manner you kept screaming crucify(not in these exact words) DKB over the altercation with Zainab. With Chicago, you are encouraging restraint and no accusing fingers at the Man beater.
My base instincts is to advice Chicago to give the wifey a good numbered DKB tailored to fit slap. But that will really be getting down to her level and it is not necessary. So what to do?
Perhaps the wifey's got anger issues she should be dealing with? Perhaps you're the catalyst that sets her off? Perhaps you don't communicate well? Men as many as we come are noted for this. Get around to answering these questions and even more. Just go ahead and turn the search light on yourself first perhaps it will illuminate your dark side to help you see how you can approach this matter.
Again more love and patience and a whole lotta talking between you guys. Never forget the power of prayer; that's assuming you are a Christian. Commit her unto the Lord, trust also in Him and He will ring her around to you. Since you say you still love her then find it in your heart to keep forgiving her(pls work around with an helmet around the house just in case) and surely at the end, LOVE ALWAYS WINS. Hey watch outttt(dives to dodge from an uncoming shoe in motion)
Jealousy leave am na the girl wey he like,u wish say na u dey give this number. Ugly lady
Loooooooooooooooooooool!@ "Baba e gba mi"
some women deserve to be slap, and one slap just one slap will put them in their place. so pls give her that one slap btw am a lady as well
Buhahahahahaha. So Michael is K-Solo? Buhahahaha. Yall will not finish me.
File divorce! Dats wah she wants mayb she doesn't know how 2 go abt it
Buhahahahahahahaha! You actually put a caveat "Note for anon 5:49 alone" as in you believe chics will be bombarding your phone with calls? Buhahahahahahaha. Too funny.
If na man dey beat woman, una go say "walk away walk away" before he kills u....now na woman wan kill man, una dey say "go for counselling".....fuck all you retarded coons. Chairman please...buy plane ticket, bring her back to naija, go and urinate at night and wake up in America alone. That way, you didn't divorce her, you didn't beat her, and you are free to flex again...*cheers mate*
K-Solo reloaded. Please go back to facebook joor. Yeye get body odor.
Dat guy no dey shine him wife congo well dats d problem simple if she beat am 4 face make him beat am 4..... U all knw wat
please ooo! I'm from Anambra and I have neve ever thought of beating my husband or any man at that! I guess your psyche and mentality are working against u right now! Stop generalizing! A woman dat will beat her husband will do so no matter where she is from!
Talk to her parents, get her a counsellor. If both don't work, stay away from her for some time! Might make her realize what shez doing! Seems shez seeing u as her ode/mumu/okpo! lol! sounds funny but I feel for u!
SLAP THE BITCH. SHE'LL BE CALM.
get a DIVORCE, SIMPLE...only cowards hit women, or get her arrestd, but pls dont hit her, u guys are partners in this relationship together, there are a thousand ways to kill a bird... trust me hitting is not going to solve the issue, it will escalate it, what if she hits you or you hit her on the head and one of you dies, that is prison, if you are abroad its easier, call the police to remove her from the house and file assault charges... trust me its better than death. and take pictures and record everything, so you can use it as evidence...
SO IT IS RIGHT FOR A WOMAN TO HIT A MAN AND WRONG FOR A MAN TO HIT A WOMAN. ISN'T THAT SEXIST? VOILENCE OF ANY KIND IS WRONG. ENOUGH WITH THE BIAS VIEWS.
Another one deserving a HOT SLAP!!..dem no dey tell person..
i knwo this is fictiously written to counter and play devils advocate against the whole BBA slap backlash or lack thereof. howefver, i will play along. if this is true and happening in the US...simple solution. call the cops and press charges.
my advice bro. bring her to nigeria nd beat d livng shit otu of her den u guys can go back to chicago. simple
So the woman can cause his death by hitting him? Nigerians and our reverse sexism. KMT.
So una no vex now abi? When that BBA babe was being verbally abusive and DKB slapped her, it was war of the genders. Now a story about a woman BEATING her husband who won't beat her back and you're saying "he's a man, how'll she beat him, they need counseling". In the story this same Linda posted today about K-solo beating his wife, ALL of you concurred in saying she should find a better man.
CHANGE NIGERIANS!
Plus I like how you're all insinuating that there HAS to be a reason she beats him that is his fault. I weep for my people biko!
It depends o, what happens before she starts hitting you. I for once, has given my spouse a dirty slap. My spouse has a foul mouth, I have been called despicable names like BITCH, FOKE U, may u die when pregnant, and on an occasion I could not take it so I slapped him. Which is not right but I was pushed over the edge. I tell u marriage is not an easy thing.I was becoming another person bcos of the verbal abuse I was receiving from my husband. No form of abuse, verbal, physical, emotional, sexual is right. What are u doing to provoke her, u need to sit her down and talk to her and go for counselling. I for one, has told my spouse to stop the verbal abuse and even thogh he is a chronic verbal abuser I have to control my reaction or else somebody will die, since his own is to beat me on top of it. I beg you to seek help, both of you.My kids were my turning point and I realised no one should make u to do something u are not meant to do, or push you. I have already warned my spouse we will divorce should the verbal abuse continue. I feel for u guys.
Instructure abi? Weldon! Abeg sofri sofri. nor take gbagaun ki pesin for here
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Linda I swer ur blog has cured my depression!! Did she just type foke u???? Ahahahahahahah foke ?????? Omg ooo old people smh I don't even wnt to imagine how she'll pronounce it cuz ill just faint !
PEOPLE ARE HYPOCRITES,IF A MAN BEAT A WOMAN IS NOT GOOD BUT A WOMAN CAN BEAT A MAN THEY ONLY NEED MARRIAGE COUNSELLING, BUNMI,OLU AND MANY OTHER THAT SUPPORT THIS YOURS IS COMING VERY SOON IN JESUS NAME (SAY AMEN)DID'T FORGET WHEN IT COME IN JESUS NAME YOU ONLY NEED MARRIAGE COUNSELLING. I WAS BROUGHT UP IN FAMILY WITH DOMESTIC VIOLENCE I KNOW WHAT IT MEAN. MY MUM ALWAYS BEAT MY DAD BUT DAD CAN NOT COME OUT AND SAY ABOUT IT BECAUSE PEOPLE WILL MAKE FUN OUT OF HIM. I MAKE A PROMISE THAT IAM NOT GOING TO MARRY BECAUSE THE FEAR OF THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS STILL IN ME I WILL BE 32 THIS YEAR NEVER THINK ABOUT MARRIED FOR ONE SECOND. LET US SPEAK WITH ONE VOICE SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGAINT MAN AND WOMAN, DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS REAL AGAINT MAN IN NAIJA.
There is no better way for a woman to show her husband that she love him than beating. She believes beating you gives you the hard on. So if you want her to stop beating you. Then you need to beat the hell out of her and show her what else turns you on. Trust me you won´t go to jail if you beat her because she won´t call the cops. Beating is exactly what she need and you are not giving it to her. What a shame. I can´t imagine how badly she needs it and you can´t see it. On B.
Lmao @ tosinJune 6, 2012 8:39 PM. What kind of slap is nice? Anyway, I agree wt d guy dt said u shd bring her to naija n beat d hell out of her! Altho, I doubt it'll help tho, cos she'll get bck n do worse. Divorce myt jst be it! But rly tho, anambra girls r smtin else. I am female, but they scare me, old n young! They r vindictive and have terrible personalities. I'm sure there r nice ones tho, but when u've had an issue wt a couple of them, generalizing seems to be d only option....TC
The truth of the matter is that this guy is not fucking her wife well that is why he gets beaten up. If he gives her the gbulala gbulala correct. I guarrantee you all you will hear the wife calls him is honey honey what would you like to have for dinner today... If this woman was just your girl friend I would asked you to send her over here so I help you take care of her
@ anonymous 5:57PM (1st comment).CHAI, YOU ARE FUUUUNNNYYY!!!!!!!!.......no need for my comment, you said it all......
Una go help the guy stay for jail? U think hitting a woman in the US is like Nigeria that you do anything and go free...I'm a guy
if you are not going to divorce her, give her one hot resounding slap when she beats u again, that should calm her down trust me.......
some women physically abuse their men bcos they know he won't do anything. My mom does that all the time. The last time she did it, her and my dad got into an argument, she got so angry and threw things at my dad, and held his shirt against his neck and started hitting him hard. Thank God, my bro walked in, separated her and we held a family meeting. We warned her this should be the last time, and encouraged her to go get anger management. Grown adults shouldn't be hitting each other, keep your freaking hands to yourself.
Lolzzsss @ u be mumu ni
Desperate chic anything for husband even on a blog
Awchhhhh
My dear,God bless you,u just talked sense n hw are we sure its nt really better beatn,mayb she is lookn 4 attention,You didn't even tell us what u did 2 her 1st b4 she beat u up.btw,dis is d funniest post I've ever seen here,I've been a regular visitor 2 dis blog bt I hardly comment bt dis is just too funny/out of dis world n I had 2 comment.
I ain't hitting nobody but am game if anybody bring it on..
Rotfl......na koboko sure pass
that woman is a cacaphony of hermophage antractirium. pls come and marry me, call me on 07031463168- Virginia
Marriage no be girlfriend & boyfriend. I know i ve been guilty of this especially when preggy. Another thing is that some can be terrible that they may not touch you but can destroy you by their utterance. You can imagine your hubby telling you he is managing you cos you'ld soon die n he will remarry. That day i followed him around hitting him and asking for the death. My is esee si dozie, simple.
this is a simple cure for her madness.. when next she picks a fight with you and starts hitting you. Hold both her arms and squeeze real hard.. pin her down, while maintaining eye contact whisper to her in these exact words "If you ever lay your hands on me again, you will live to regret it." push her away and storm out of the house. Give her 2 days to think about it and come back home. act like nothing happened. TRUST ME: this will do the trick. :-).. u can thank me later.
Idiot!!! Weak Man.
Women! They want equal rights but don't want equal responsibilty? I laugh in swahili!..truth is,a woman can NEVER be equal to a man..not in our culture and not even in the holy bible..
na wa ooooo! well he shoud ek counselling else where (church)since the family is not saying anything, otherwise walk out. Anambra girls r not like dat, am one. all the best.
God ooooooo,lwkmd..linda oooo,helppppppppppp
Divorce isnt always the solution, the wife probably have anger issues or something, you can get her a shrink think of something if you really love her..:D
Anambra kwenu! kwenu! kwezuonu oooooooooo!!!!! yes we no dey carry last,shame unto d guy dt says anambra girls beat their men i ave neva heard it n i want it 2 gt straight into ur heads that it is nt true dt anambra girls beat their men am 4rm anambra n i ave neva laid a finger on mi man even mi sis dt gt married to an imo guy has neva done dt either.So beta watch it n stop cheating on d poor girl cos she did nt just wake up one morning n start 2 beat u,u must ave caused it n u want 2 cover up by saying ur friend told u Anambra girls beat up their men
Linda, why do I feel you made this one up to see readers reaction? In any case if you didn't, my advice to that weak ass dude is that he should toughen up, I guess that's also how people ride him about generally. Don't really beat her, just give her one very heavy slap that will rain cramberries in her head, every time she thinks of hitting you, she'll remember the slap. Life must have really taken you on a ride.
o di egwu...''anambra girls'' ewu thats y ur wife beats u up
Come Oga for saying that Anambra girls are like that,there is something definitely wrong with you.You are the bad one.You are the type that will beat up sm1 and do the crying for that person.Abeg go sit down examine yourself well well cos if you are expecting LIB READERS to give you a go ahead ,then you are wasting your time.I be Anambra girl oo,I don marry for 10 years now and I never beat my husband for one day .You know wat? You married a no nonsense girl and you re full of nonsense and maybe the girl feeds and caters for you and inturn you feed her with rubbish.Just go... infact just go and sin no more.I can see you have the tendency to change for good .Just try and beeeeeee good.You hear?
Omo i tire for the man O...mschew is he forming or he won'T JUST ADMIT to himself that he loves it spanked he he he lol
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I'm an Anambra girl but I dont know which one makes me laff more, the fact that a huge guy is beaten up by a smaller female or the fact that she is Anambra girl.Its just like complaining that your naughty child beats u up. If u really are the size u described u can hold her hand down. There are so many ways to kill a rat. A word is enough for the wise.
Walking out of marriage sounds very easy Linda until u have been there yourself. I'm not yet married FYI.
abeg what ever happened to for better for worse, my guy stick with ur wife joor .......just find a way to make her stop hitting u, and stop what u do that makes her hit u man.
Linda, I think you deliberately pass some kind of comments so u can increase traffic on your blog. these Mild comments now because a guy is bein beaten by his wife, but if it were the other way round, u let all hell loose with some extreme feminist comments... coco
Please tell us the reason why your wife beats you. but it sounds really funny sha. But my advice is you guys should see a counselor,and you too stop doing what u do to piss her off, cos for you to still stick with her, after steppin on ur ego and pride, u obviously love her. so try and make it work and u guys should meet each other somewhere (ie come to a compromise)
some women are very sturbun if u never beat them like cow there head no go correct, but my dear frd dont beat her just walk away and leave her with her wahala.
beat her back....
yes do not beat her she might die, but slap has never killed anyone, please i beg you slap her several times and warn her that the next time it will be more than that. i promise you she will never try it again
I have never laid my hands on a woman and do not think of doing that, but when a woman hits me first, she has pushed me to the wall and definitely getting a double chinese slap from me.She is absolutely taking the piss! go ahead and kick her stinking bum outa ya life man!
As for referring to Anambra women as husband beaters is totally uncalled for and stereo-typical. Any woman, regardless of tribe could do that.
Another piece of advise for you, man! if she is the bread winner of the family, make sure she stops doing that and get your ass to work and show her that you are the real man.
Girls i hope to see more of your comments on this.
He can't slap her cos that'll be considered raising ur hand to a woman...one nicely connected head-butt shd do and afterwards u can claim u were only trying to kiss her n she moved.
There is more than one way of skinning a cat.Let him use his koboko and flog her down there, purposefully and methodically; by the time he is finished with her, he should give her an ultimatum not to hit him or he leaves..*winks* and make her believe you will welcome another if not for the love she is trying to kill with her hands /fists!!!!
Mr abused in Chicago, try to listen to her and know why she's angry instead of walking away. and appologise when you're wrong. Work on yr marriage dude. she's really hurt and thats theonly way shethinks she gets yr attention.
For Goodness sake whats that about Anambra women...am one and i have never raised a hand on my husband let alone beat him. pls, dnt justify ur weakness and inability to control ur wife by passing general judgement on Anambra women...when i started reading ur post i was pissed with ur wife but based on the way u generalized her behavior am sure its not a regular thing, am sure she just did it out of frustration from somthing serious u did cos it takes somtin really serious to make a woman grow the courage to hit a man.
For Goodness sake whats that about Anambra women...am one and i have never raised a hand on my husband let alone beat him. pls, dnt justify ur weakness and inability to control ur wife by passing general judgement on Anambra women...when i started reading ur post i was pissed with ur wife but based on the way u generalized her behavior am sure its not a regular thing, am sure she just did it out of frustration from somthing serious u did cos it takes somtin really serious to make a woman grow the courage to hit a man.
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Looooooooooooooooooool lib will not kee me o
Pls make sure you're gathering evidence of this abuse. Whether pics ,video or even going to police whenever she leaves a bruise on you. This woman is setting you up to hit her back so she can divorce you and carry all your money... Better be wise.... Sometimes life is like chess... If you don't anticipate the other persons move and act to counter it, you will lose.
Whether male or female.....violence is never the right answer. All those advising the man to hit back are really dumb and immature. That advise is never the right thing to do whether from a male or female perspective.
Seek counselling with her. Preferably from someone that shares your faith. You are obviously a good man else you would have walked away before now.
So don't give up on your marriage just yet until you've tried all means of salvaging it.
After trying, if the situation remains the same, then maybe you should think about getting a separation.
I have not had such a good laugh in a long long time, kai na wetin be this! Una don kill me with funniest comments ever.
On a more serious note, whether we believe it or not a lot of men are being abused in their homes, mostly of course in the US and UK. But also even here in Nigeria, I know this because my fiancé has a friend who complained of his wife beating him even in the office (they work together). So it happens and it is happening.
It has absolutely nothing to do with tribe, size or weight really. An abusive person is often a person with anger management issues.
So mister, you can do one of two things: 1. Pack up and leave your marriage or 2. Try to work it out through Counselling and Prayer. The choice is yours.
go and get a marriage councelor.........and make sure its a man!!!
Lwkmd!smh....marriages n diff stories shaa!*pheeew*tnk God u've told her parents,so u can as well slap her then her senses wld boot!mtcheew!
I bet she'll have a different story to tell. It's very unnatural for a woman to be the beater in an African marriage. Your comment about Anambra girls just indicates that you're being economical with the truth. Any woman who has been in a relationship/married knows that a man can drive a sane woman crazy. Na u sabi wetin u dey do am.
My ex used to just sit and stare at me with a smirk on his face whenever i confronted him over something henious he had done. Sometimes, hitting or shoving is just our way of saying we need a response. What do you do when she gets mad? Just ignore her or stand and stare? Thats just fucking annoying. She needs you to do something completely unexpected. Tell her she's sexy when she's mad. Or try to touch her gently. Say something sweet.But don't just stare or ignore. My ex felt i had a problem and would never be satisfied with any man. But I'm now re-married and we're very cool. He's been in 3 relationships since. Same problem.Go figure.
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To all the women here who are suggesting that the dude marry them instead......you are shameless, desperate and will NEVER be happy in any relationship with your attitude. The lady in question, right or wrong is being honest with her feelings. Y'all will pretend to be saintly just to hook a man. Then soon after the wedding day you'll get tired of acting. You are the typical candidates for battered wifery.
SHAME ON YOU.
Oga take her sumwhere remote ,den let her pick a quarrel as she does,but dis time around beat the devil from her, make her beg, den she neva try it again
pls run for ur life i know of a woman who killed her husband just 2 weeks ago, she was always beating him till she finally killed him
you are doing d right thing. just keep it cool and NEVER hit her. keep trying talking to her. I wish u d best.
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