Dear LIB readers: My GF is threatening to abort our baby unless I come marry her
From a male LIB reader
"Dear LIB readers I have a girlfriend I have been dating for a year now. She said she love me and
she wanna stay with me. We've had several issues in the
past but we are still together. The problem now is that she is carrying
my baby. I need the baby. But I am not ready for marriage now. I told
her I will take care of her and my child because I don't want an
abortion. I love her and I want to marry her. But not yet ready now.
And she is now threatening me to abort the baby unless I come marry her
now. What should I do?
marriage isn't rocket science. If you love her and you accept that you can be with her, then the timing can never stop you. I believe she also wants to be with you but she doesn't want to begin with the baby mama title. just think and pray about it and do the right thing.
Guy go and do d ryt thing jhoor....u wnt to reap wia u did nt sow puTting d babe as a single mother...- dnt blame d girl one bit..and frm ur chats u wnt. To potray d girl in badlight...if na ur sister hw u for see am.....but babe no abort oh...cos u may hv lost out on both ends..,no marriage no child....
Guy wat do u mean u not yet ready??do u mean financially or u not just ready,it doesn't mean u must marry a gal just box she is pregnant noo.,but since u re saying he would love to marry her in d future den I do n't see y u can't marry her now if u re financially ok n gat no prb n she is carry a child for u n sum times not wat u plan or say always goes d way u want it,circumstances n destiny do occure
D greatest mistake anyone can make is aborting a baby. If u truly love each other, find a way to make her understand the risk it portends for both of you. She could lose her life and you become a culprit. Besides you don't sound convincing enough if you expect me to believe the chat as a proof. This is something very serious you both need to sit and discuss and not a lousy whatsapp chat.
let her not do what God should be annoyed with her forever,she want to commit a muderer(sin)what if that child is the one she will have dis world.let her keep the baby and God will see you people through ijn Amen
YOU ARE A BIG FOOL. TAKE YOUR RESPONSIBILITY AND MARRY HER. YOU FUCK HER WITHOUT CONDOM AND EXPECT HER TO BE BABY MAMA FOR YOU,,,NONSENSE. ALL this small small boys having girlfriends and using them without condom and when they get pregnant, you want them to keep it for you till you are ready. Pay HER BRIDE PRICE NOW LATER YOU CAN DO THE NEEDFUL PERIOD.
Oga, 1yr is not 1day. if you are not ready to marry her after a year, you will never be ready!! If you cannot MAN-UP and follow due process, please crawl into your cowardly hole and stop bugging us here with an idle question. What should you do indeed! Mgbo piapukwa gi isi there.
You are not yet ready for marriage yet uve put her in family line, u want her to become baby mama or wat. How do u want to take care of her and d baby without making her ur wife. Well I don't support abortion too but it's better u make ursef ready for marriage for her sake and ur unborn child
If you have shown her love in some cases in the past, and she is convinced within her, she should reason with you and keep the baby, but if she is doubting your love for her she may not be able to keep the baby.
Oga go and marry the woman. What is wrong with you. If you can cater for both child and mother, then what is the big deal in putting a ring and commitment to it. Are you scared of wedding bills?
U should do right by her.... that's ur baby... u say u love her...then put a ring on her finger..... if she stays now in two or three years time u'll find someone else and move on....
Marry her already jo,wats leta if u claim to luv her.... Dnt u kw is hard to marry a woman dat has a child??? Moni wey u go take takia of her n d bby,use m marry her..... Gals don wise jare,una de find baby mama bt no wan put d ring... Waka dia
Young man u are a liar from the pit of hell, how can u possibly take care of the lady and the baby and yet u are not ready for marriage, u just wanna waste her time and then finally marry someone else. U are a wicked man. If u love her which prompted u guys having sex together if actually u didn't want to do hit and run, then go ahead and marry her..if nothing else don't make her feeel guilt and as well sinning against her creator meanwhile that is what u actually wanted that she aborts the baby but u are trying to play smart by not been involve i know ur type if ur hands are clean go marry her or better still go do a formal introduction to begin with if u are really serious u love her and not the hit and run type of guys.
Please be sure she's pregnant take her to the hospital yourself and if she refuses that means she's lying but want you to marry her by all means cos she so curious to get married
Please be sure she's pregnant take her to the hospital yourself and if she refuses that means she's lying but want you to marry her by all means cos she so curious to get married
If you Love her and you really want your child go ahead and settle with her. Kindly go and see her parents with the little you have now to show that you are really interested on the whole issues.
Smh.. men and lies. Na so una go talk. Go and do a small intro + cut wedding, it won't cost u much and she can still be shuttling btw her parent's house and urs till ure abit stable. Don't put the poor girl on hold out of ur selfish act. It isn't right.
If u intend marrying her as u clam, y not just do it nw cos just d way u r not ready 4 marriage so is sahe not ready to b a baby mama, if u really intend on marrying her I don't see wats stoping u nw except u av hidden plans
It's simple now, marry her! D problem with Nigerians is dat, if dey don't do a high society wedding and invite Obama, dey think dey have not wedded properly. Even if it's just paying her bride price, u're as good as married. Grow some balls and do something, dude!
Well,it's a two way thing. You either allow her to abort the baby,since you're not ready for marriage, or solicit for funds from friends and family. After all,a wife is not owned only by her husband. She's a wife of the entire extended family and community. There you are: it's a tough call,but give it a shot.
'What should u do' - Do the needful and marry her! If she carries this pregnancy to birth and u don't marry her, she will be labelled a hoe for having a child outside wedlock. Is that what u want for her, the lady clearly doesn't want that for herself.....its her life u r toying with, Selfish!!!
You can a child but your not ready for marriage??? You want to be having sex and still not ready for marriage??? You must be a joker. Do the right thing and pay her bride price jor. He who finds a wife finds a good thing. You should have thought about it properly before before having unprotected sex. It could have been HIV you know!?
Pls MR do the needful if you love her.if you have the money to take care of her and the baby,then this shouldn't be an issue atleast pay her dowry.No woman,i repeat No woman should birth a child when the man isnt ready to marry her.There are too many single parent out there especially the ladies,and it's depressing though some of them won't admit it.
Your are selfish person! You want a baby without the stabilty of marriage. Why do you want a child but don't want marriage? Is it better for the child to shuffle homes? Why be in a rel to the point of getting pregnant if u don't want to marry the person? Ask yourself questions first! I don't think abortion is a solution but rather than talk trash to ur girl, be civil cos she's thinking about the future. U shld too.
Since you really love and want to marry her, then go start the process. Traditional at least.It's not easy to have a baby outside wedlock. Abortion is not easy too. You two should sit down and have a workable agreement.
You are not ready for marriage but you were having premarital sex, and even unprotected? Not ready as in what pls? Go and pay her dowry and wait when you are ready for a big celebration. I am NOT an advocate of abortion but men these days want women to have children for them yet not married to them. Assholes being led by 2Face, et al.
My friend stop this nonsense talk of I am not ready. This BABY MAMA syndrome has to stop. It's UNAFRICAN and a crime against God. You know, you are not ready, why sleeping with her without protection. She doesn't want to be your baby mama so be it. Idiot. You want to eat your cake and have. Better be ready for the wedding in two weeks time. Odo obo!!
YOu dey craz? so ya were ni? am a man not a lady ooo abeg rush go marry her you claim you love her and now your baby and future is on the way with her and you still asking for what to do are you madddd ???go do the intro whatever atleast she is preggy for you and if you sure its truly yours then go do am wat da fuck you wairing for seh u no know when u dey pour am inside ni while u´r doing oooulaaa oush baby your toto is da sweetest and am cuuuuminnnnn u know no dat time say na your pikin u dey drop inside her wehrey go marry sumburi jare make u pack well abi na me go come marry your damaged okirika wife for you? mtcheew
What's the guarantee that you would marry her after she gives birth?
You want her to be a baby mama abi? She should just put her life on hold for a guy that may not marry her.
If pikin dey hungry you, get yourself pregnant and give birth.
No I'm not in support of abortion, I just understand your girlfriend and her fears. If you have plans to marry her, why don't you just do that? What do you mean by 'I'm not ready'. A child is involved now, so you have to fast-forward your plans. MARRY HER!
Marriage ain't something u force on someone. If u ain't ready, she should b reasonable enough to understand and at d same time, she doesn't want to be just a baby mama so her drift is understandable as well but the truth is, there re lots of dangers in abortion which u should mk her understand and by d way, if you've got no hidden agenda and you're financially and emotionally stable, y not marry her? Its ur choice tho but u need to be wise in ur decision and let God lead u right.
Go and marry her! You men are never ready for marriage. If you love her as you claim, you should marry her. As you said in your text "the baby is your blessing". So my friend please do the needful so that she does not abort your blessing. When the baby comes he/she will come with soo much blessings that u can't even imagine. So using financial status as an excuse to not marry her is not enough reason. But its still not a reason for her to want to abort the baby.
Go and marry her! You men are never ready for marriage. If you love her as you claim, you should marry her. As you said in your text "the baby is your blessing". So my friend please do the needful so that she does not abort your blessing. When the baby comes he/she will come with soo much blessings that u can't even imagine. So using financial status as an excuse to not marry her is not enough reason. But its still not a reason for her to want to abort the baby.
Then marry her, even if its a lil engagement and registry... Guess she is scared of losing cos Ʊ guys can be very funny, Ʊ can wake up 1 day after d baby has been born an realise Ʊ av found luv somewere else... If Ʊ truly want d baby nd luv d moda, guy do d right tinz for d sake of d baby, all is well..
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Go and marry her! You men are never ready for marriage. If you love her as you claim, you should marry her. As you said in your text "the baby is your blessing". So my friend please do the needful so that she does not abort your blessing. When the baby comes he/she will come with soo much blessings that u can't even imagine. So using financial status as an excuse to not marry her is not enough reason. But its still not a reason for her to want to abort the baby.
Then marry her, even if its a lil engagement and registry... Guess she is scared of losing cos Ʊ guys can be very funny, Ʊ can wake up 1 day after d baby has been born an realise Ʊ av found luv somewere else... If Ʊ truly want d baby nd luv d moda, guy do d right tinz for d sake of d baby, all is well..
u are just selfish. so u expct ha to go tru motherhood, wen u wont marry her? im nt a fan of abortions, but u shld do ryt by her. she is obviously not willing to be a baby mama. cos if u end up not marrying her, she wld b foreva tied to u cos of dt child. marry her alrdy. court marriage doesnt cost anytin.
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Look at your selfish mouth!!! you want the baby but you are not ready for marriage! I am not a fan of abortions but have you ever thought of what will happen to the girl and how the "baby outside wedlock" will affect her life, the changes she has to make and the shame (most times) that she has to bear. Being someone's baby daddy is a feather to the guy's cap, which is what you are most definitely after; but being a baby mama... sheeeeeew! pls park to one side abeg> Just know that if she goes ahead with the abortion, its on your head, as well. Hisssssssssssssssssssssssssssss
you dont need the a bank to get married,jus take a step see her parents n go to court for now.maybe later u can do a proper weding celecbration since you love her.....
Y did u have sex and even poured in her wen u knw u r nt ready for marriage? Ur just stupid. Do d right tin go and marry her cos u did what married couples do.u luv her my foot.
Y did u have sex and even poured in her wen u knw u r nt ready for marriage? Ur just stupid. Do d right tin go and marry her cos u did what married couples do.u luv her my foot.
Idiot. U not ready for marriage but you're ready for pregnancy. U want to put the girls life on hold cos u want baby. Why don't u go and give birth 4 itself. Idiot. U looking for baby mama. Twei! Iranu
If u love her, and you matured enough. Then u should marry her. Since she doesn't want to have a baby out of wedlock..., she's got good plan for herself and can loose herself on your empty promise. U love her man, do the right thing.
Please go and marry her because it is not decent having a child out of wedlock. Why are not ready, is it money? perform part of the marriage rites you can do for now and later, you can do the big party if that is your problem. It is better you at least do something if not all before the child is born albiet I don't find the threats to abort the child ideal.
Biko marry her na, wen u wer having unprotected sex, wat wer u expecting? An I pad? U dnt hav 2 do a big wedding, if u love her den marry her. Chikena.
Oga, d case is obvious! Ti a ba to baba omo se, Ko ye ki a pe omo alakara...Marry d babe, wen u know say, u no go marry her, why una dey chop Wetin wife n man suppose chop? Court marriage, it's fine, u wont spend much, since u av money to sustain mother n baby. Abeg do d necessary, u wont regret it, trust me. Pinky lo so bee
Go and marry her idiot! You don fuck her got her pregnant now u want make she have d baby and become second hand. What's d guaranty you'll marry her & take care of the baby? If she abort that baby the blood is on your hands!!!
Dude since u said u ll marry her bt nt nw,nd u cn afford 2 tk care of her nd ur baby,den I tink u shud jst du court marriage so she wunt abort ur baby,if u ar nt ready 2 get married stop havin sex or kipin gfs....God help u
Reason why we have so many babymamas in the world of today. Mbok marry her if you want the baby. Else, you dey ya lane. You don't want to marry her now but you want the child. Before we know it now you'll go and marry someone else. Mtcheeeews!!!!!
I think u tell her to go ahead wit whatever she want to do incase she keeps proving difficult ,tell her u love he so much and d babe,and u will always be there for them,tell her to be understanding with u @ the moment,tell the consequence of her aborting it,tell her two wrong don't make a right,tell u her u don't mind getting her engage,tell her that babies are blessing,after u must have done that don't talk anytin relating to it wit her,but call her on regular basis,in case she ask u what u want do u want her to do,tell her to use her conscience and do the right thing
Do the necessary bro. I'm a guy, and we can't be trusted. What if tomorrow you fall in love with "Yemi Alade", what happens to her? It's simple, you dont wanna marry her now cos you dont want to marry her at all. Q>E>D
if you dont know what to, do what she wants. you said you love and want to marry her shey!. whats stopping you form marrying her now. put yourself in her shoes? what if after the baby you deside not to marry her again, then she becomes your baby mama right. guy if you want that baby, then marry her or else let her do as she please.do you know no man will consider her for marriage when they know's had a baby before marriage?do you know what stigma that will bring to her and her family.so stop beinging selfish and grant her what she wants.
What you do is marry her. Do you expect her to bear the child and raise her alone. I am a man and I know it is not fair to make a woman a single mother. If you do not want to marry her, support her to abort the baby!
You sound like a slow guy, wake the fuck up! she obviously knows how you in need of a baby(for whatever reason known to you) and she wants to be legally and traditionally stable(whatever that means too). She has a leverage and you don't, the pregnancy might just be hoax to force your hand. My advice; except you've been medically advised you can't get anyone pregnant more than once, start a new hobby and seek other sources of happiness.
Since you have made your stand known cross your arm & let her suite herself because this black/white mailing she's doing will not end even if you agree to marry her.
U had beta get married if u ok with her. Y put her in a family way if u ain't ready. U were ready doing it and didn't ask lib advice wen u were riding her, so y ask now. Get over it and go do d rit thing b4 u and her have dat baby's blood on ur hands. Truth is if u do away with dis, u still going to get her or anoda preggy since u can't think with ur head expect with ur 3rd leg. Get a life dude.
Awww everyone always want wat they can't get. She should be lucky dat u want d baby she should take heart and u just engage her dats wat she wants don't just request wat from her u give to her too
dude you cant just put the girl in a situation like that and expect her to take things cool.in my opinion, this is not necessary..publizing your private chat with her is immature enough.you should both sit down and thrash this issue,if u(the guy)believe its going to be your source of happiness,then bro Man up,meet her people and tell them you would take full responsibility.It doesnt necessarily have to lead Marriage at this point.To the lady,you cant force a guy to settle with you because of a child.It would backfire eventually.Just sit down and discuss it..The Lord is your strength..
See this idiot. 9 months is a long time to carry a child without being married. U av no idea what caRrying pregnancy + labor is. Marry her now. Useless man. U won form baby mama when u no get money idiot.
Marry her! So you want her to be a single mom? What is wrong with men of nowadays is it going to be your body that wld go thru changes? So you want her to bring forth a bastard? Common marry her yeye man!
You both should make the decision that is right for you. Do not marry when you are not ready. Don't pressure her into keeping the baby when she's not ready either.
To ease your mind, abortion doesn't kill babies. It stops the fetus' development so the woman doesn't carry a pregnancy to term. If her pocedure is performed early, the fetus will be a series of cells when she terminates. Those cells will not feel pain or sensation during an early-stage, safely performed procedure.
Since you and your girlfriend attach so many conditions for the relationship to continue, maybe it's best to go your separate ways. End the clashes and ultimatums to live in peace.
You don't want to marry but yet u want a baby? That's not fair. Your type should stop bringing bastard babies into our world. Haba! ^ ^ ^™THAT EDO BOY.COM~
My Brother you are not ready for marriage and you want a girl to carry your child...I see you are not stable. please go for check up. i'll advise you don't see this as an insult but a reawakening of your sleepy/or should i say dead mind. Thank me later! FlipsShortHairAndWalksAway.......
Try and understand her fears...it's nt easy to be a single mom in our society or any where else for that matter......what if after having d baby, u decide u dnt want to marry her anymore, or impregnate someone else?...even if u take care of d kid, that still doesn't reduce d stigma or emotional trauma....I think she wants something concrete and nt just "word of mouth"....Go talk to her people atleast, if u dnt hv money for a wedding nw, explain nd maybe just pay dowry first or intro....or u want to take care of d baby alone minus d mum? ......she's threatening of an abortion os she doesn't want to hear u change ur story tmrw...or even ur parents might tell u nt to marry her....or sumtin or someone else might come up....and she'd be stuck with a baby,bad choices,heartbreak, low self esteem, depression.....and a whole world of hurt u cnt even begin to imagine.....talk to her people,,,,try and do maybe d traditonal aspect of d ceremony and she'll calm down.....right nw, she's scared, confused, angry, ashamed and full of regrets.....do sumtin fast b4 she hurts d baby..either through abortion or not eating and crying herself to sleep every day/ night.
I'm sure many people especially the women here that are saying marry her are single. So what if I knock u up? Why should I marry you? Marriage is a big deal for the rest of your life and nobody should be blackmailed to do it.
Taah shut d fk up, who told u? If he can take care d lady nd child wat stoping him frm marrying her? Is it not same? Destiny destroyers, he will definitely dump her after sometime....
MEN CAN BE SO DISGUSTING AND ANNOYING AT TIMES. SOMEONE I KNOW IS IN THIS EXACT SITUATION, DUDE LISTEN TO ME AND LISTEN CAREFULLY U BETTER MARRY HER IF YOU KNOW U RE TRULY A RESPONSIBLE GOOD MAN,OLODO ASKING STUPID QUESTIONS. AND LINDA YOU HAVE GOT TO STOP POSTING THINGS LIKE THIS FOR MEN WHO OBVIOUSLY HAVE NO SENSE AND ACT LIKE THEY WERE DROPPED ON THEIR HEAD AS CHILDREN. I'M ACTUALLY SO PISSED RIGHT NOW READING THIS.
Oh.......I think I forgot to mention that u r an ass..u turned her world upside down and u r pissed off she's making demands?..really dude?.."That baby's gonna be my happinness".....isn't that u trying to guilt her into doing something u want...u just mad she didn't give u herself nd d baby without sweat..be responsible for ur actions...if I were her and decide to keep d baby, nd u didn't do d necessary things.....I assure u he/she is nt gonna knw abt u...u can shove ur money up ur ass except if u prefer choking, then u knw d route....I'll make sure he is my happiness......nt "ours"......if I see u 5ft from him, u r roadkill
Dnt keep her dere and b gettn her pregnant ur nt her husband. She has every right to get rid of it a woman decides weda she wants to keep a baby or nt.
U women sound like marriage is a bus stop. I don't see why you should marry her. If you really want the child then tell both families. If they say their daughter should abort then report to the police. Omo this issue of blackmail is not funny at all. How do u know it wasn't her game plan all along? How do u know the child is even yours? Abeg leave matter. I don't support premarital sex or abortions, but I try to be objective. The world we live in today we have gay parents sef so its not a 'taboo'to have a child out of wedlock. WTF are ya'll saying sef??
is it some of ya blind or cant read... he said it was a mistake but his not ready to settle down..whats wrong with having the baby then sort things out..and she threatening to abort,is that the best she can do..dumb head of a girl, scot and kourtney aint even married yet and the gat 3kids..whats with this marriage issue with naija girls sef abi does marrying means breakup cant occur...ur girl need not be sentimental on issues like this trybe reasonable..not ish gabbage from ur brains
U r a foool..r u even up to 20yr cos u sure don't knw anyting about bn responsible. Let the girl decide wat she wants. Have been in er shoes before and can totally relate. My baby is growing n all I kip hearing is still failed promised. I support er action, let d girl do the needful cos he won't b der when the girls family start confronting er
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Whenever i read some comments, i just wonder why some people have to comment aggressively. Just say what u have to say and move on instead of " go and marry her, idiot" ...." moron, u are stupid, just marry her" . its uncalled for. I guess for u to be here, u are civil enuf to think like an intellect right?
yu don't want to marry her, she shld keep ur baby nd b moving arnd with responsibility yl yu catch ur trips nd den in a few yrs to come yu tell ha yu found sme1 else bla bla bla... nd den she's stuck! rubbish! Yu berra go and get married already
She should have the baby you will take care of her but you can't marry her and give that child a better chance of growing with a father 's love, look young man this baby did not choose you, you choose the baby, so better go and marry that lady or let her be. Am tempted to add idiot sef
biko take her to court jare even nigerias legal system isn't so messed up that it wild let an innocent die because the mother is mad. besides this is blackmail and you have the evidence to prove it.
Firstly, I commend you for taking responsibility of your mistake. It's a very rare and mature thing to do. Unlike most men who would begin to question her faithfulness to them. You see, this woman has a life an reputation to uphold. You may not understand but how do expect her to feel walking around pregnant when she is ur married? How would her family take it? What happens when she's about to marry someone else and he finds out (she's after one) that she has a child somewhere. I knw this has become a norm (having children out of wedlock) in our society. This is Africa, men have almost nothing to lose, I mean everthing revolves around patrilocality. When u decided to marry, u'd probably send the child back to you parents I order to start a complete and more accepted family picture with another women. You might evn conceal the identity of that child. Give that child an opportunity to grow up having knowledge of whom his parents are and enjoy the warmth of having both mum and dad in his life. Marry this lady if u love her. If not , respect whatever decision she makes. She's not threatening you. A girl's gotta have her back. It's not just about you or promising to take care of the her and the child.
Ur a fool... so she should be a baby mama abi.. so when other guys like u who mite b interested in marrying her come around, they wil say aaahhh she don drop one for house.. its easy for the men but not easy for the women. If his not ready 2 marry her then he should let her be..
Her plan from day 1 n yet shes threatening to abort d baby n live her lyf.. no i dont think so.. shes not forcing him to do any damn thing rather his forcing her to be a baby mama with no insurance.. mcheewww
This girl sharp die. She is not forcing him to marry her, she is simply saying if you want the child marry me. You can't have the eggs and abandon the goose na. If you love her so much marry her. Oloshi man.
guy u dey make noise 4here, go and marry her if u claim to love her, na people like u they promise, after that, years later u go claim say u no love her again, that u want only the child, u dey very wicked, aboki
you are not ready to marry her but you want your baby? Can you listen to your self? If she were your younger sister, would you advise her to keep the baby and become 'used goods' or an 'after one'? Why are you being so selfish? If you really want your baby, then do the rightful thing by the mother and marry her. Commit! I cannot blame her for saying she'll only keep the baby of you marry her, the girl has got some sense even if you are showing signs of none. You are a very selfish man and if i were that girl, i'd run as fast as my legs can go cos u don't love her.
Oh pls shut up o yea that have no self worth. What's d integrity in getting a girl you are not married pregnant. Its disgusting reading ur trashy comment
I'm sure u are not married. Ur lack of decorum is proof. They make it seem like u disvirgined them and all. All d men wey don blow before nko? Then u want to trap someone coz u r pregnant! Mschew!! Destiny destroyers?? I laugh at ur low self esteem because u think u need to have a man to fulfill destiny.
What do you mean by "you need the baby"? Let's delve into that, first. While I don't condone her act, I'm not against abortion if the woman is not stable/ready for a child. She probably doesn't want a child out of wedlock...
Marry her, an introduction wouldn't hurt or u go to d Registry with her. It's not that easy neither is it so hard. Take a step of faith, do the right thing. #winkwink#
Marriage is a bigger commitment than a child, he will say all the sweet things then when the toddler is difficult and money is tight he will easily move on to the next pussy
u don't have to have a bella naija wedding, even if its introduction and court, marry her if you say u really want to. Nobody is ever ready for marriage u have to take the plunge
Since she is pregnant for you, please go ahead and marry her. if you don't have money now. just go with your family to see her parents. After delivery, you can now think of doing other things. let her know that committing abortion is a sin that will hunt her for life. that baby in her womb has his or her own destiny to fulfill.
Your friend's family members are foolish people! How on earth is d child to blame? Y do dey have to be mean to him/her? Is she d cause if deir shame? Y d transferred aggression? Dat child was destined to live, dats y d mother decided to give birth outside wedlock rather than commit the atrocity called abortion! Such kids tend to be great; bet me, just watch out for him/her! My candid advise is for them to get married if dey r absolutely sure dey wanna be together; or else, d girl should brace up and carry her pregnancy till d end! God will smile down at her for doing so, and dat useless baby daddy will get his fair share of regrets and nemesis will catch up with him!
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«Oldest ‹Older 401 – 599 of 599Wicked LIB reader, you need baby but you no need marriage ko.. Eewu.. Idiot like you. Did ur mama born you out of wedlock? Better do the right thing
marriage isn't rocket science. If you love her and you accept that you can be with her, then the timing can never stop you. I believe she also wants to be with you but she doesn't want to begin with the baby mama title. just think and pray about it and do the right thing.
She should deliver d baby, breastfeed d baby then take it to the boy. She might loose her life or womb while aborting it.
Guy go and do d ryt thing jhoor....u wnt to reap wia u did nt sow puTting d babe as a single mother...- dnt blame d girl one bit..and frm ur chats u wnt. To potray d girl in badlight...if na ur sister hw u for see am.....but babe no abort oh...cos u may hv lost out on both ends..,no marriage no child....
Guy wat do u mean u not yet ready??do u mean financially or u not just ready,it doesn't mean u must marry a gal just box she is
pregnant noo.,but since u re saying he would love to marry her in d future den I do
n't see y u can't marry her now if u re financially ok n gat no prb n she is carry a child for u n sum times not wat u plan or say always goes d way u want it,circumstances n destiny do occure
D greatest mistake anyone can make is aborting a
baby. If u truly love each other, find a way to make
her understand the risk it portends for both of you.
She could lose her life and you become a culprit.
Besides you don't sound convincing enough if you
expect me to believe the chat as a proof. This is
something very serious you both need to sit and
discuss and not a lousy whatsapp chat.
let her not do what God should be annoyed with her forever,she want to commit a muderer(sin)what if that child is the one she will have dis world.let her keep the baby and God will see you people through ijn Amen
YOU ARE A BIG FOOL. TAKE YOUR RESPONSIBILITY AND MARRY HER. YOU FUCK HER WITHOUT CONDOM AND EXPECT HER TO BE BABY MAMA FOR YOU,,,NONSENSE. ALL this small small boys having girlfriends and using them without condom and when they get pregnant, you want them to keep it for you till you are ready. Pay HER BRIDE PRICE NOW LATER YOU CAN DO THE NEEDFUL PERIOD.
Try go see her father and mother mr backyard door
Oga, 1yr is not 1day. if you are not ready to marry her after a year, you will never be ready!! If you cannot MAN-UP and follow due process, please crawl into your cowardly hole and stop bugging us here with an idle question. What should you do indeed! Mgbo piapukwa gi isi there.
You are not yet ready for marriage yet uve put her in family line, u want her to become baby mama or wat. How do u want to take care of her and d baby without making her ur wife. Well I don't support abortion too but it's better u make ursef ready for marriage for her sake and ur unborn child
If you have shown her love in some cases in the past, and she is convinced within her, she should reason with you and keep the baby, but if she is doubting your love for her she may not be able to keep the baby.
Oga go and marry the woman. What is wrong with you. If you can cater for both child and mother, then what is the big deal in putting a ring and commitment to it. Are you scared of wedding bills?
U should do right by her.... that's ur baby... u say u love her...then put a ring on her finger..... if she stays now in two or three years time u'll find someone else and move on....
go and marry her. mumu boy. u want pikin but u never wan marry...oloshi
Marry her already jo,wats leta if u claim to luv her.... Dnt u kw is hard to marry a woman dat has a child??? Moni wey u go take takia of her n d bby,use m marry her..... Gals don wise jare,una de find baby mama bt no wan put d ring... Waka dia
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Young man u are a liar from the pit of hell, how can u possibly take care of the lady and the baby and yet u are not ready for marriage, u just wanna waste her time and then finally marry someone else. U are a wicked man. If u love her which prompted u guys having sex together if actually u didn't want to do hit and run, then go ahead and marry her..if nothing else don't make her feeel guilt and as well sinning against her creator meanwhile that is what u actually wanted that she aborts the baby but u are trying to play smart by not been involve i know ur type if ur hands are clean go marry her or better still go do a formal introduction to begin with if u are really serious u love her and not the hit and run type of guys.
Go and marry her...thats what you will do. ewu
Please be sure she's pregnant take her to the hospital yourself and if she refuses that means she's lying but want you to marry her by all means cos she so curious to get married
Must you do a very big wedding marry her nah...sinz u love her n d baby do d needful...dnt b a weakling
Please be sure she's pregnant take her to the hospital yourself and if she refuses that means she's lying but want you to marry her by all means cos she so curious to get married
Do the right thing. Marry her.
They can't even spell and write properly. Wasted generation.
Go and marry her yeye boy...u re not yet ready yet u didn't use protection. storyyy
If you Love her and you really want your child go ahead and settle with her. Kindly go and see her parents with the little you have now to show that you are really interested on the whole issues.
Go and Marry Her Idiot....You want to eat your cake and have it....Ewu!
Go and Marry Her Idiot....You want to eat your cake and have it....Ewu!
Dunno what to say oh!
Smh.. men and lies. Na so una go talk. Go and do a small intro + cut wedding, it won't cost u much and she can still be shuttling btw her parent's house and urs till ure abit stable. Don't put the poor girl on hold out of ur selfish act. It isn't right.
U love her and want to marry her but ure not ready now? What else are u waiting for??let ure umunna help u raise money if money is the problem.
You sound like a fraud 'I need the baby'.... Well bruv as she said, do the right thing and marry her.
its simple.. go and marry her
You can take care of her and her baby but not yet ready. Oloshi! My friend go and do the needful. Pay bride price at least. You can do wedding later.
Marry her.
If u intend marrying her as u clam, y not just do it nw cos just d way u r not ready 4 marriage so is sahe not ready to b a baby mama, if u really intend on marrying her I don't see wats stoping u nw except u av hidden plans
It's simple now, marry her! D problem with Nigerians is dat, if dey don't do a high society wedding and invite Obama, dey think dey have not wedded properly. Even if it's just paying her bride price, u're as good as married. Grow some balls and do something, dude!
Men u want the baby,and ur not ready to marry her??? Do de right thing nigga...#confusedman
Well,it's a two way thing. You either allow her to abort the baby,since you're not ready for marriage, or solicit for funds from friends and family. After all,a wife is not owned only by her husband. She's a wife of the entire extended family and community. There you are: it's a tough call,but give it a shot.
'What should u do' - Do the needful and marry her! If she carries this pregnancy to birth and u don't marry her, she will be labelled a hoe for having a child outside wedlock. Is that what u want for her, the lady clearly doesn't want that for herself.....its her life u r toying with, Selfish!!!
You can a child but your not ready for marriage??? You want to be having sex and still not ready for marriage??? You must be a joker. Do the right thing and pay her bride price jor. He who finds a wife finds a good thing. You should have thought about it properly before before having unprotected sex. It could have been HIV you know!?
Oga do the right thing
see dis otondo oo,u no wan marry nw n put d gal in family way...i can see dat mosquitos dey ur head
Pls MR do the needful if you love her.if you have the money to take care of her and the baby,then this shouldn't be an issue atleast pay her dowry.No woman,i repeat No woman should birth a child when the man isnt ready to marry her.There are too many single parent out there especially the ladies,and it's depressing though some of them won't admit it.
please, you two should talk about it and settle it amicably. Things like this shouldn't be done via chats.
Your are selfish person! You want a baby without the stabilty of marriage. Why do you want a child but don't want marriage? Is it better for the child to shuffle homes? Why be in a rel to the point of getting pregnant if u don't want to marry the person? Ask yourself questions first! I don't think abortion is a solution but rather than talk trash to ur girl, be civil cos she's thinking about the future. U shld too.
Since you really love and want to marry her, then go start the process. Traditional at least.It's not easy to have a baby outside wedlock. Abortion is not easy too. You two should sit down and have a workable agreement.
Boy do what is right, get married to the girl if you love her and your unborn baby,
gone re dose days wedding gown first before maternity gown....... Bros better go marry her now or what is holding u down re u not financially stable
You beta go and marry her! Look @ ds boy! U want to turn her to a baby mama abi???
Abeg mechionu......u shook ur.penis put for woman "soft copy" and u no wan marry her
Abeg stop making noise and get married
Na both of una sabbi
@Galore
You are not ready for marriage but you were having premarital sex, and even unprotected? Not ready as in what pls? Go and pay her dowry and wait when you are ready for a big celebration. I am NOT an advocate of abortion but men these days want women to have children for them yet not married to them. Assholes being led by 2Face, et al.
My friend stop this nonsense talk of I am not ready. This BABY MAMA syndrome has to stop. It's UNAFRICAN and a crime against God. You know, you are not ready, why sleeping with her without protection. She doesn't want to be your baby mama so be it. Idiot. You want to eat your cake and have. Better be ready for the wedding in two weeks time. Odo obo!!
U r nt ready bt u want to mk her a baby mama so dat later u see anoda lady u hop into marriage wif. I support r decision. Men r just animal
STUPID MAN U NEED BABY BUT U DON'T WANT TO MARRY NOW
y aint u ready for marriage
YOu dey craz? so ya were ni?
am a man not a lady ooo abeg rush go marry her you claim you love her and now your baby and future is on the way with her and you still asking for what to do are you madddd ???go do the intro whatever atleast she is preggy for you and if you sure its truly yours then go do am wat da fuck you wairing for seh u no know when u dey pour am inside ni while u´r doing oooulaaa oush baby your toto is da sweetest and am cuuuuminnnnn u know no dat time say na your pikin u dey drop inside her
wehrey go marry sumburi jare make u pack well
abi na me go come marry your damaged okirika wife for you?
mtcheew
Simple,sue her
If you want ur child, marry her
I support her,if u really luv her n u want d baby then do d right thing joor. U are not ready 4 marriage but u slept with her without condom. Ode
What's the guarantee that you would marry her after she gives birth?
You want her to be a baby mama abi?
She should just put her life on hold for a guy that may not marry her.
If pikin dey hungry you, get yourself pregnant and give birth.
No I'm not in support of abortion, I just understand your girlfriend and her fears.
If you have plans to marry her, why don't you just do that? What do you mean by 'I'm not ready'. A child is involved now, so you have to fast-forward your plans. MARRY HER!
Marriage ain't something u force on someone. If u ain't ready, she should b reasonable enough to understand and at d same time, she doesn't want to be just a baby mama so her drift is understandable as well but the truth is, there re lots of dangers in abortion which u should mk her understand and by d way, if you've got no hidden agenda and you're financially and emotionally stable, y not marry her? Its ur choice tho but u need to be wise in ur decision and let God lead u right.
Even if na Bride price and Introduction, just do.(that's if you don't have enough money o)
Go and marry her! You men are never ready for marriage. If you love her as you claim, you should marry her. As you said in your text "the baby is your blessing". So my friend please do the needful so that she does not abort your blessing. When the baby comes he/she will come with soo much blessings that u can't even imagine. So using financial status as an excuse to not marry her is not enough reason. But its still not a reason for her to want to abort the baby.
Go and marry her! You men are never ready for marriage. If you love her as you claim, you should marry her. As you said in your text "the baby is your blessing". So my friend please do the needful so that she does not abort your blessing. When the baby comes he/she will come with soo much blessings that u can't even imagine. So using financial status as an excuse to not marry her is not enough reason. But its still not a reason for her to want to abort the baby.
Then marry her, even if its a lil engagement and registry... Guess she is scared of losing cos Ʊ guys can be very funny, Ʊ can wake up 1 day after d baby has been born an realise Ʊ av found luv somewere else... If Ʊ truly want d baby nd luv d moda, guy do d right tinz for d sake of d baby, all is well..
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Go and marry her! You men are never ready for marriage. If you love her as you claim, you should marry her. As you said in your text "the baby is your blessing". So my friend please do the needful so that she does not abort your blessing. When the baby comes he/she will come with soo much blessings that u can't even imagine. So using financial status as an excuse to not marry her is not enough reason. But its still not a reason for her to want to abort the baby.
Do introduction, take r 2 registry wt few family n frnds n do a mini reception, d trad n church wedding can den come later wen u r fully ready
Then marry her, even if its a lil engagement and registry... Guess she is scared of losing cos Ʊ guys can be very funny, Ʊ can wake up 1 day after d baby has been born an realise Ʊ av found luv somewere else... If Ʊ truly want d baby nd luv d moda, guy do d right tinz for d sake of d baby, all is well..
Do introduction, take r 2 registry wt few family n frnds n do a mini reception, d trad n church wedding can den come later wen u r fully ready
Do introduction, take r 2 registry wt few family n frnds n do a mini reception, d trad n church wedding can den come later wen u r fully ready
You are not ready to settle down and you were 'doing the do' mtshewwwww.
Marry her jor. If you are ready to take care of her and baby then you are ready for marriage
u are just selfish. so u expct ha to go tru motherhood, wen u wont marry her? im nt a fan of abortions, but u shld do ryt by her. she is obviously not willing to be a baby mama. cos if u end up not marrying her, she wld b foreva tied to u cos of dt child. marry her alrdy. court marriage doesnt cost anytin.
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Go and see her people atleast... Be bold about it man!
go and marry her, start from somewhere. God will see u through, so that u will not have the innocent baby blood on ur hands.
So you can fuck without a condom but you are not ready to marry abi...#Zip up#
Look at your selfish mouth!!!
you want the baby but you are not ready for marriage!
I am not a fan of abortions but have you ever thought of what will happen to the girl and how the "baby outside wedlock" will affect her life, the changes she has to make and the shame (most times) that she has to bear.
Being someone's baby daddy is a feather to the guy's cap, which is what you are most definitely after; but being a baby mama... sheeeeeew!
pls park to one side abeg> Just know that if she goes ahead with the abortion, its on your head, as well.
Hisssssssssssssssssssssssssssss
Go to registry first
U too go and marry her in a right way its her right.
you dont need the a bank to get married,jus take a step see her parents n go to court for now.maybe later u can do a proper weding celecbration since you love her.....
She is ur gf n if u guys are good then pay her bride price @ least. I don't support abortion too.
Y did u have sex and even poured in her wen u knw u r nt ready for marriage? Ur just stupid. Do d right tin go and marry her cos u did what married couples do.u luv her my foot.
Y did u have sex and even poured in her wen u knw u r nt ready for marriage? Ur just stupid. Do d right tin go and marry her cos u did what married couples do.u luv her my foot.
Pay her bride price. Do court wedding, save up for the white wedding.
Be a man!
You love her right ? Good , go meet her parents do a little Introduction dat won't cost you much and dats it. Am sure the White Wedding can wait. ...
It's bad that she has to threaten u wit a baby. If I were d one, I wud have aborted d baby already. Whn u are finally ready, we will make another one.
It's bad that she has to threaten u wit a baby. If I were d one, I wud have aborted d baby already. Whn u are finally ready, we will make another one.
Na craze dey worry u, did you ask for advice when u got her pregnant. Guy go and do d right tin if u truly love her as u said
Don't marry her or else you'll be the next person she'll abort one day. She's not wife quality
Idiot. U not ready for marriage but you're ready for pregnancy. U want to put the girls life on hold cos u want baby. Why don't u go and give birth 4 itself. Idiot. U looking for baby mama. Twei! Iranu
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Na so! U ain't ready yet but u shuldn't have sex when u are underage. Nonsense!
If u knew u were not ready den y didn't u use protection. now belle Don enter. . biko u must marry her oo
If u love her, and you matured enough. Then u should marry her. Since she doesn't want to have a baby out of wedlock..., she's got good plan for herself and can loose herself on your empty promise. U love her man, do the right thing.
do wat is right and necessary
Please go and marry her because it is not decent having a child out of wedlock. Why are not ready, is it money? perform part of the marriage rites you can do for now and later, you can do the big party if that is your problem. It is better you at least do something if not all before the child is born albiet I don't find the threats to abort the child ideal.
nawa o,something wey some ppl dey find wey dem never c.make she go abort am na.
Any woman who would say something like this isn't even worth marrying in the first place.. don't marry her.
let her go ahead n abort d baby na
Biko marry her na, wen u wer having unprotected sex, wat wer u expecting? An I pad? U dnt hav 2 do a big wedding, if u love her den marry her. Chikena.
If u want d baby alive marry her na..
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Abeg this guy does not deserve a child! Girl u are on point! Abort the baby b4 he turns u to baby mama. Broke ass niggaa
Oga, d case is obvious! Ti a ba to baba omo se, Ko ye ki a pe omo alakara...Marry d babe, wen u know say, u no go marry her, why una dey chop Wetin wife n man suppose chop? Court marriage, it's fine, u wont spend much, since u av money to sustain mother n baby. Abeg do d necessary, u wont regret it, trust me. Pinky lo so bee
Go and marry her idiot! You don fuck her got her pregnant now u want make she have d baby and become second hand. What's d guaranty you'll marry her & take care of the baby? If she abort that baby the blood is on your hands!!!
So dat she will baby mama Sey. U beta marry her
So dat she will baby mama Sey. U beta marry her
Dude since u said u ll marry her bt nt nw,nd u cn afford 2 tk care of her nd ur baby,den I tink u shud jst du court marriage so she wunt abort ur baby,if u ar nt ready 2 get married stop havin sex or kipin gfs....God help u
Reason why we have so many babymamas in the world of today. Mbok marry her if you want the baby. Else, you dey ya lane. You don't want to marry her now but you want the child. Before we know it now you'll go and marry someone else. Mtcheeeews!!!!!
Please, what kind of people are in this world?
Is it by force to marry someone??
I think u tell her to go ahead wit whatever she want to do incase she keeps proving difficult ,tell her u love he so much and d babe,and u will always be there for them,tell her to be understanding with u @ the moment,tell the consequence of her aborting it,tell her two wrong don't make a right,tell u her u don't mind getting her engage,tell her that babies are blessing,after u must have done that don't talk anytin relating to it wit her,but call her on regular basis,in case she ask u what u want do u want her to do,tell her to use her conscience and do the right thing
I don't support the abortion thing bt bro do the right thing abeg.. Ua not ready for marriage bt ready to have sex nd pregnant a woman! Smh
Do the necessary bro. I'm a guy, and we can't be trusted. What if tomorrow you fall in love with "Yemi Alade", what happens to her?
It's simple, you dont wanna marry her now cos you dont want to marry her at all.
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small case. go & marry her. idiot. u r not ready for marriage but u r ready for sex. onyeoshi
if you dont know what to, do what she wants. you said you love and want to marry her shey!. whats stopping you form marrying her now. put yourself in her shoes? what if after the baby you deside not to marry her again, then she becomes your baby mama right. guy if you want that baby, then marry her or else let her do as she please.do you know no man will consider her for marriage when they know's had a baby before marriage?do you know what stigma that will bring to her and her family.so stop beinging selfish and grant her what she wants.
What you do is marry her. Do you expect her to bear the child and raise her alone. I am a man and I know it is not fair to make a woman a single mother. If you do not want to marry her, support her to abort the baby!
You sound like a slow guy, wake the fuck up! she obviously knows how you in need of a baby(for whatever reason known to you) and she wants to be legally and traditionally stable(whatever that means too). She has a leverage and you don't, the pregnancy might just be hoax to force your hand. My advice; except you've been medically advised you can't get anyone pregnant more than once, start a new hobby and seek other sources of happiness.
Ode.. do court wedding n shettup!
Since you have made your stand known cross your arm & let her suite herself because this black/white mailing she's doing will not end even if you agree to marry her.
Sit heh down and talk tins over with her. Also remember taking someone she respects along wit u. Best of luck,
@Sophia Stephen
U had beta get married if u ok with her. Y put her in a family way if u ain't ready. U were ready doing it and didn't ask lib advice wen u were riding her, so y ask now. Get over it and go do d rit thing b4 u and her have dat baby's blood on ur hands.
Truth is if u do away with dis, u still going to get her or anoda preggy since u can't think with ur head expect with ur 3rd leg. Get a life dude.
really ? you are not ready for marriage now but you are ready to sleep with her and pregnant her.
you sound so funny and illogical.
do you know the shame you want to subject her to?
where do you want her to stay in your house or in her mothers house with the baby you want her to keep.
come next her you did say she not your type and you want to opt out.
silly excuses that irresponsible man like you make.
am sure you know the advise you are asking and you did better advise yourself first.
You are not ready for marriage abi? Why have sex unprotected? Mr man make up your mind and marry her.
Awww everyone always want wat they can't get. She should be lucky dat u want d baby she should take heart and u just engage her dats wat she wants don't just request wat from her u give to her too
go speak to her parents and say the exact words you sent to Linda
dude you cant just put the girl in a situation like that and expect her to take things cool.in my opinion, this is not necessary..publizing your private chat with her is immature enough.you should both sit down and thrash this issue,if u(the guy)believe its going to be your source of happiness,then bro Man up,meet her people and tell them you would take full responsibility.It doesnt necessarily have to lead Marriage at this point.To the lady,you cant force a guy to settle with you because of a child.It would backfire eventually.Just sit down and discuss it..The Lord is your strength..
Ignore her joo
go n marry her stop being stupid, u want a free baby shame on u, ur not ready for mariage but ur ready to b a father.
See this idiot. 9 months is a long time to carry a child without being married. U av no idea what caRrying pregnancy + labor is. Marry her now. Useless man. U won form baby mama when u no get money idiot.
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Marry her! So you want her to be a single mom? What is wrong with men of nowadays is it going to be your body that wld go thru changes? So you want her to bring forth a bastard? Common marry her yeye man!
Someone should slap this guy's mouth please. Thanks
Mr Man! If you dont know by now how not to get a woman pregnant then OYO is your matter o. Bear your cross! and for your woman...smh GOD IS WATCHING
You both should make the decision that is right for you. Do not marry when you are not ready. Don't pressure her into keeping the baby when she's not ready either.
To ease your mind, abortion doesn't kill babies. It stops the fetus' development so the woman doesn't carry a pregnancy to term. If her pocedure is performed early, the fetus will be a series of cells when she terminates. Those cells will not feel pain or sensation during an early-stage, safely performed procedure.
Since you and your girlfriend attach so many conditions for the relationship to continue, maybe it's best to go your separate ways. End the clashes and ultimatums to live in peace.
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You don't want to marry but yet u want a baby? That's not fair. Your type should stop bringing bastard babies into our world. Haba!
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Lol...............U were ready doing it and didn't ask lib advice wen u were riding her, so y ask now.
Linda post my comment nau. Anyways I insist a woman who can threaten to kill your child is a bad choice for a wife. Don't make the mistake.
Lmao
Lol...............U were ready doing it and didn't ask lib advice wen u were riding her, so y ask now.
My Brother you are not ready for marriage and you want a girl to carry your child...I see you are not stable. please go for check up. i'll advise you don't see this as an insult but a reawakening of your sleepy/or should i say dead mind. Thank me later!
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Try and understand her fears...it's nt easy to be a single mom in our society or any where else for that matter......what if after having d baby, u decide u dnt want to marry her anymore, or impregnate someone else?...even if u take care of d kid, that still doesn't reduce d stigma or emotional trauma....I think she wants something concrete and nt just "word of mouth"....Go talk to her people atleast, if u dnt hv money for a wedding nw, explain nd maybe just pay dowry first or intro....or u want to take care of d baby alone minus d mum? ......she's threatening of an abortion os she doesn't want to hear u change ur story tmrw...or even ur parents might tell u nt to marry her....or sumtin or someone else might come up....and she'd be stuck with a baby,bad choices,heartbreak, low self esteem, depression.....and a whole world of hurt u cnt even begin to imagine.....talk to her people,,,,try and do maybe d traditonal aspect of d ceremony and she'll calm down.....right nw, she's scared, confused, angry, ashamed and full of regrets.....do sumtin fast b4 she hurts d baby..either through abortion or not eating and crying herself to sleep every day/ night.
I'm sure many people especially the women here that are saying marry her are single. So what if I knock u up? Why should I marry you? Marriage is a big deal for the rest of your life and nobody should be blackmailed to do it.
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Taah shut d fk up, who told u? If he can take care d lady nd child wat stoping him frm marrying her? Is it not same? Destiny destroyers, he will definitely dump her after sometime....
MEN CAN BE SO DISGUSTING AND ANNOYING AT TIMES. SOMEONE I KNOW IS IN THIS EXACT SITUATION, DUDE LISTEN TO ME AND LISTEN CAREFULLY U BETTER MARRY HER IF YOU KNOW U RE TRULY A RESPONSIBLE GOOD MAN,OLODO ASKING STUPID QUESTIONS. AND LINDA YOU HAVE GOT TO STOP POSTING THINGS LIKE THIS FOR MEN WHO OBVIOUSLY HAVE NO SENSE AND ACT LIKE THEY WERE DROPPED ON THEIR HEAD AS CHILDREN. I'M ACTUALLY SO PISSED RIGHT NOW READING THIS.
Oh.......I think I forgot to mention that u r an ass..u turned her world upside down and u r pissed off she's making demands?..really dude?.."That baby's gonna be my happinness".....isn't that u trying to guilt her into doing something u want...u just mad she didn't give u herself nd d baby without sweat..be responsible for ur actions...if I were her and decide to keep d baby, nd u didn't do d necessary things.....I assure u he/she is nt gonna knw abt u...u can shove ur money up ur ass except if u prefer choking, then u knw d route....I'll make sure he is my happiness......nt "ours"......if I see u 5ft from him, u r roadkill
Onye ara!
Dnt keep her dere and b gettn her pregnant ur nt her husband. She has every right to get rid of it a woman decides weda she wants to keep a baby or nt.
As you're not ready to marry her, she's also not ready to have your child out of wedlock. FOOL. Be asking us stupid questions. Eberibe
crap, u need baby then u need marriage
I'm very sure many men would have dumped you na why e dey pain you. Him rape the girl?
U women sound like marriage is a bus stop. I don't see why you should marry her. If you really want the child then tell both families. If they say their daughter should abort then report to the police. Omo this issue of blackmail is not funny at all. How do u know it wasn't her game plan all along? How do u know the child is even yours? Abeg leave matter. I don't support premarital sex or abortions, but I try to be objective. The world we live in today we have gay parents sef so its not a 'taboo'to have a child out of wedlock. WTF are ya'll saying sef??
Wow! The ladies here are showing emotions.. I think the lady should respect his decision and be understanding.
is it some of ya blind or cant read... he said it was a mistake but his not ready to settle down..whats wrong with having the baby then sort things out..and she threatening to abort,is that the best she can do..dumb head of a girl, scot and kourtney aint even married yet and the gat 3kids..whats with this marriage issue with naija girls sef abi does marrying means breakup cant occur...ur girl need not be sentimental on issues like this trybe reasonable..not ish gabbage from ur brains
U r a foool..r u even up to 20yr cos u sure don't knw anyting about bn responsible. Let the girl decide wat she wants. Have been in er shoes before and can totally relate. My baby is growing n all I kip hearing is still failed promised. I support er action, let d girl do the needful cos he won't b der when the girls family start confronting er
Oga if u want the babe marry her, U want her to be ur baby mama some guys self Na idiot, if she is ur sis u go happy? Idiot man
Do you know her parents? Go and notify them about it just take the bold step and do that.
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oga, jst go n do intro
oga. go do jst introduction
Whenever i read some comments, i just wonder why some people have to comment aggressively. Just say what u have to say and move on instead of " go and marry her, idiot" ...." moron, u are stupid, just marry her" . its uncalled for. I guess for u to be here, u are civil enuf to think like an intellect right?
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You just got me laughing
put a ring on it stop calling Linda, she no send u nack!!!!!!!!!!
Why is she like this is she trying to avoid being a baby mama or she trying to force you
yu don't want to marry her, she shld keep ur baby nd b moving arnd with responsibility yl yu catch ur trips nd den in a few yrs to come yu tell ha yu found sme1 else bla bla bla... nd den she's stuck! rubbish! Yu berra go and get married already
Gbam!!! The guy is a fool sef
She should have the baby you will take care of her but you can't marry her and give that child a better chance of growing with a father 's love, look young man this baby did not choose you, you choose the baby, so better go and marry that lady or let her be. Am tempted to add idiot sef
biko take her to court jare even nigerias legal system isn't so messed up that it wild let an innocent die because the mother is mad. besides this is blackmail and you have the evidence to prove it.
Tell her that she has to learn how to spell properly, before you can marry her. Biko what is "tinx" "Dix" ?
Firstly, I commend you for taking responsibility of your mistake. It's a very rare and mature thing to do. Unlike most men who would begin to question her faithfulness to them. You see, this woman has a life an reputation to uphold. You may not understand but how do expect her to feel walking around pregnant when she is ur married? How would her family take it? What happens when she's about to marry someone else and he finds out (she's after one) that she has a child somewhere. I knw this has become a norm (having children out of wedlock) in our society. This is Africa, men have almost nothing to lose, I mean everthing revolves around patrilocality. When u decided to marry, u'd probably send the child back to you parents I order to start a complete and more accepted family picture with another women. You might evn conceal the identity of that child. Give that child an opportunity to grow up having knowledge of whom his parents are and enjoy the warmth of having both mum and dad in his life. Marry this lady if u love her. If not , respect whatever decision she makes. She's not threatening you. A girl's gotta have her back. It's not just about you or promising to take care of the her and the child.
marry her idiot! u fit pansh and get her pregnant but not ready for marriage abi!
Gbam!!! Just do a court wedding where you won't need to spend much.
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Ur a fool... so she should be a baby mama abi.. so when other guys like u who mite b interested in marrying her come around, they wil say aaahhh she don drop one for house.. its easy for the men but not easy for the women. If his not ready 2 marry her then he should let her be..
Her plan from day 1 n yet shes threatening to abort d baby n live her lyf.. no i dont think so.. shes not forcing him to do any damn thing rather his forcing her to be a baby mama with no insurance.. mcheewww
This girl sharp die. She is not forcing him to marry her, she is simply saying if you want the child marry me. You can't have the eggs and abandon the goose na. If you love her so much marry her. Oloshi man.
guy u dey make noise 4here, go and marry her if u claim to love her, na people like u they promise, after that, years later u go claim say u no love her again, that u want only the child, u dey very wicked, aboki
Nicely said dear
How can you be ready for a child and not marriage?
see this guy, you wan turn her to baby mama eh...i think this days naija babes should b signing prenuptial
you are not ready to marry her but you want your baby? Can you listen to your self? If she were your younger sister, would you advise her to keep the baby and become 'used goods' or an 'after one'? Why are you being so selfish? If you really want your baby, then do the rightful thing by the mother and marry her. Commit! I cannot blame her for saying she'll only keep the baby of you marry her, the girl has got some sense even if you are showing signs of none. You are a very selfish man and if i were that girl, i'd run as fast as my legs can go cos u don't love her.
Do not marry a woman who will gamble with the life of an unborn child! Run
Oh pls shut up o yea that have no self worth. What's d integrity in getting a girl you are not married pregnant. Its disgusting reading ur trashy comment
I'm sure u are not married. Ur lack of decorum is proof. They make it seem like u disvirgined them and all. All d men wey don blow before nko? Then u want to trap someone coz u r pregnant! Mschew!! Destiny destroyers?? I laugh at ur low self esteem because u think u need to have a man to fulfill destiny.
What do you mean by "you need the baby"? Let's delve into that, first.
While I don't condone her act, I'm not against abortion if the woman is not stable/ready for a child. She probably doesn't want a child out of wedlock...
Ur very stupid dats d second tin dat enta ma mind d first was UNAM IKOT..tcheeeeewww!
Marry her, an introduction wouldn't hurt or u go to d Registry with her. It's not that easy neither is it so hard. Take a step of faith, do the right thing. #winkwink#
O boy.. You can't eat your cake and have it. If you care enough then go ahead and make plans with her and the unborn baby.. Stop saying opass jare..
So u married as a virgin....interesting
Marriage is a bigger commitment than a child, he will say all the sweet things then when the toddler is difficult and money is tight he will easily move on to the next pussy
u don't have to have a bella naija wedding, even if its introduction and court, marry her if you say u really want to. Nobody is ever ready for marriage u have to take the plunge
Since she is pregnant for you, please go ahead and marry her. if you don't have money now. just go with your family to see her parents. After delivery, you can now think of doing other things. let her know that committing abortion is a sin that will hunt her for life. that baby in her womb has his or her own destiny to fulfill.
Abeg stop pretending to us....if truly u love this babe go for her wedding and stop beating around d bush....ONIRANU
Your friend's family members are foolish people! How on earth is d child to blame? Y do dey have to be mean to him/her? Is she d cause if deir shame? Y d transferred aggression? Dat child was destined to live, dats y d mother decided to give birth outside wedlock rather than commit the atrocity called abortion! Such kids tend to be great; bet me, just watch out for him/her!
My candid advise is for them to get married if dey r absolutely sure dey wanna be together; or else, d girl should brace up and carry her pregnancy till d end! God will smile down at her for doing so, and dat useless baby daddy will get his fair share of regrets and nemesis will catch up with him!
EASY,
U LOVE HER RIGHT?
THEN JUST MARRY HER, WHY ARE YOU MAKING THINGS COMPLICATED....
SHe sounds razz, he sounds ok. Probably not the kind of girl he'd marry
You want the baby but u don't want to do d right thing. Go & marry her.
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