From a female LIB reader
My mother-in-law to be was the secretary to one of my aristos back in the day. I used to dash her money well well whenever her oga settles me. Now many years down the line there is this guy who is madly in love with me and me sef I want to settle down with him but his mother says Lai lai. She was kind not to open my secret to her son and has said I can never marry her son. How can I win her over people because I really love her son...
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 276 of 276If you truly love her son and her son truly love you, tell her son by your self the whole story do not hide anything from him and if truly what exist between both of you is true love I believe the guy should understand is in the past (that is if you have not bn behaving suspiciously to the guy),then after all this if you are so lucky to win his heart back (because seriously its heart braking)then both of you can then fight the battle with his mother. That's the best way I believe you can go about it, I am saying this from experience (one of my very close friend same thing with his now house wife with 3 kids)with this both of you can then fight the battle with your mother-in-law because the battle is not for only you to fight you need your husband to be in the picture, the biggest mistake is to frustrate the old woman to reveal what happen to her son by then the battle would be so difficult for you to fight o. All the best.
This is why you don't do runs or date married men! This is ur nemesis bitch!!! And I hope it keeps following u
first, repent of your old ways and then pray very hard for ur hubby's forgiveness...then tell him the truth without missing words..also pray for ur mother-in-law to accept you..
there is nothing that God cannot do.
but the mother-in-law did evil too in the sight of God and humanity. you see "what goes around comes around". why didn't she advice you then but busy collecting money, so she can't stand in the way if you do the right thing by going to God in prayer and genuinely repent.
i chose not to condemn you because we all sin against God and no sin is too small before him yet he forgives...i rest my case.
Open up 2 ur guy,since it's ur past. If he truly luvs u,I fink he will talk 2 his momma 4 u and let it go.keep praying 2,it's well
omo nothin for ubo. if u were in her shoes, you'd do the same. sorry
My advise is for you to find another man o! she has told u lie lie!!. dis mother in law will frustrate u out of ur husband's house.. U cnt get peace in ur marriage o, except u won die b4 ur time.
U can't eat ur cake and have it..im very sure if someone had tried to advise you when u where doing your runs you would have called the person a hater my dear..QUIETLY ..move on cos if i was the mum ..no way nah
Thank u 8.22AM..She has gathered all her money and now wants to settle and have kids..truely if the guy had toasted her in those aristo times she may have shunned him..
pple shld stop with d pretence abeg...are saying her past shld hunt her 4eva.hw many of u can swear dat u have neva dated a married man b4...by d way dating a married man doesnt mak her a bad person or a runz girl. abeg mak d mother inlaw park well after all her son has dated other women in d past too.
My dear,your only remedy is to open up to ur fiance....if he is truly madly in love,and you promise him you will never go back to that life,he will be the one to work on his mum to accept you.If you try playing smart like trying to buy the woman over....OYO is your case...The truth sets you free!
Its "shit" oga not sheet.
Just close that chapter Biko! Can't eat your cake and have it. Sometimes, something has to give.
Nice1 yor past don dey hunt U be dat.
Its so sad, just take heart and move on wit yo life.
Open up 2 her, wat will be will be.
All of you that are saying the mother in law is not decent for collecting money are really silly. What did you expect her to do? Someone she doesn't know from Adam. Did the girl not know that what she was doing was wrong?
Tell your fiancé and he will go ahead if he loves you. Just make sure say your body never spoil with abortion because if you can't have a baby, both hubby and mom will gang up against you and make your life a living hell
Hahaha. Just like one Yoruba movie i watch wherein someone recommended giving the mother-in-law 'Tea' to rest in peace. Abeg my sister, forget the guy patapata. That ain't your hubby at all. Move on if you no want disgrace for you and your family.
Eya Such is Life.
I still find it funny why ladies can not tell their husband to be/husbabnd everything about their past.
See, my dear, men appreciate their woman to tell them things than for them to hear it from third party. This is one of the things that cause problems in marriages today.
Tell him everything about your past and let him marry you for who you are.
If you tell him and he loves you, he will know how to handle his mother. Nobody is a saint and you're not the first and only woman he ever dated (we all have past history.
Please, let him be the judge of the situation.
Unless you r ready to tell your fiancé d truth about your past...if you are not then your mother in law to be will play the joker card soon if u continue the relationship with that secret...
I guess your mother in law is withholding the piece of information to allow you confess first or scram....
Do something before mother in law releases the information o.,cos u won't look good if it comes from her...
Goodluck
MOVE OVER ABEG. THIS BABE IS SLEEPING ON A BICYCLE...GO AND FIND ANOTHER MAN JOR. BE THERE WASTING YOUR TIME.
it will never work out between you two, the stigma will always be there and as long as she is alive no matter how sweet you two get along she will always and remind you of ur past. so i suggest you move on and find another guy. THIS IS THE PRICE TO PAY JUST BCOS YOU'VE CHANGE OR DECIDE TO SETTLE DOWN YES BUT THERE IS STILL CONSEQUENCE .
I agree wit u
better move on and look for another guy, that is your price to pay for dating ARISTOS. YES YOU'VE CHANGE OR DECIDE TO SETTLE DOWN GOOD BUT THERE IS STILL CONSEQUENCE FOR WHAT YOU DID BACK THEN.
u nd ur mother inlaw r both stupid ....just 4get abt d whole thing
u nd ur mother inlaw r both stupid ....just 4get abt d whole thing
U sound like some lousy guy I know in abuja. Is that u Obi? Long time!
It really baffles me when i hear people so judgemental. Like we haven't done anything bad in our entire life. She admits she did something wrong and wants advice that's all. Nothing is new under the sun. Now having said that i do not understand why pleasing the mother-in-law is more important that the man you want to marry! She simply isn't that important. Tell your boyfriend the truth and leave him to decide what he wants. The thing with blackmail is it never ends honestly. Speak to him and whatever hAppens live with it. Goodluck.
You are crazy to think your secret is safe and to think you can ever win her over on your own?...abi you wan settle her again? that will definitely not work.
Be truthful to yourself you don't love this guy, you said he loves you and you want to settle down.
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If you do love him, tell him about it yourself and let him decide if he can live with your past, if he can live with it you can both find a way to convince his Mum that you have changed, If you manipulate him in to doing what you want...when the shit hits the fan LIBers wont be there for you then.
BE WISE!
Jst move on b*t*h. Cos even if u open up abt ur past to d nigger, d mum will tink u've jazzed her son nd dats GOBE X2. Find ursef anoda maye....olosho
This is one of the dividends of Aristo. Lessons learnt for others.Put yourself in your mother inlaws' shoe, Will you allow your son to marry such a girl? Ada Uche
u nd ur mother inlaw r both stupid ....just 4get abt d whole thing
If i were her i won't allow you marry my son either. NO WAY! Carry your over used pussy else where.
So she enjoyed your dashes (maybe that was part of what she used to train her children).
Anyway, like someone already said you do not need to win her over as she would forever hold you to ransome.
Let the guy know about it (you just may be surprised he already knows about some of your past antics). If he is real, he'll stay.
Everyone has a past (even the mothers collecting dashes from 'runs girls' and later do not want them to marry their sons).
Life sure is ironic, hehehehe.
I am not God.... we seem to think about what someone pasted than the present and we alwayz look more about it and forgiveness is hard to come.... old things have passed away....
HOW CAN A WOMAN IN GOOD CONSCIENCE ALLOW HER SON MARRY A SUGARY GIRL? HOW? THE PURENESS OF MARRIAGE HAS BEEN DEFILED...SHE CANT LET HER SON MARRY YOU...SHE WILL FOREVER LOOK DOWN ON YOU...SHE PROBABLY LIKES U FOR BEING NICE TO HER THOSE DAYS, HENCE THE REASON SHE HASNT TOLD HER SON...BUT THAT'S DIFFERENT FROM WANTING YOU AS A DAUGHTER INLAW
The law of karma has caught up with you..You will pay for all your evil ways...Your in a deep mess....Sort yourself out.
This thing has happened to me. I have dated his father before and started dating the son later unknowingly, so the guy now showed me the picture of his father, immediately I saw the picture I knew the relationship cannot go anywhere so I opted out. The guy beg me but I said I am not interested again, he asked for reasons but I could not give answer.
your vagina is now like wallet. you how u open a wallet and its wild, go figure. next time, clink clink
And you know this because? Did youccatch her in the act to know she was a cum bucket? Guys sha, they can gossip and lie for Africa.
Well put
Hahahahaha... u be CID?
Good questions 7.33am.
I thought the same.
If this post is true; I would also support the MIL!
Enough of the criticism. Every1 in life has done one thing or the other which u have regrets for. My dear please speak to you man about it and he will stick and stand by you. As for his mother she will give in if she knows her son loves you despite your short comings.
D best tin u shud do is to tell ur man d truth abt ur past...if he rily loves shud forgive u n accept d nu u coz d truth must comout somday...so its beta u tell him ursef b4 his mum does so she wudnt b using it against u...#bela#
D best tin is to tell him d truth abt ur past, if he rily loves u, hed forgive u coz evryone is got a past n we all can stat afresh...beta tell him b4 he hears frm his mum coz eventually d truth must comout..so now is beta..
Tell ur hubby to be ur story. If he is fyn with it (everyone's got a past but tell ur story well sha oooooo.) You would land safely
Stop encouraging the impossible.. That's a lost battle . She should look elsewhere .
She should just look elsewhere. Telling the guy or trying to win the mother over won't get her anywhere. The dashing of money part alone would spark further disrespect of the marriage is allowed in the future. And just in case there's a little coma in the girls attitude at home that memory of her past would be used against her, by the boy and the mother especially bringing in suspicion . She won't enjoy the marriage and may later split so she should just save herself future embarrassment and move on. And if i read well, she just wants to settle down with the huy, not that she's in love with the guy as well.. smh*
After destroying another woman's home, now you want to settle down abi? May God punish you. You will never have peace for the rest of your life. HIV carrier. Ebby gold
i tink u need to talk to ur man abt it. so that wen the momma comes up wif her lai lai shit, the guy will stand for u. thats if he really loves u like u claim, love can overshadow mistakes. then u try to change.
after all the money u gave her then was to shut her up.
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You are joking, right?
win what? is she a trophy? tell your man what you did; and accept whatever consequences
seriously, people can b so myopic in their reasoning. tell me, who doesnt hve a past?
abegi,. let her just open up to d guy, if he truely loves her, they can mke it work. shekina
seriously, people can b so myopic in their reasoning. tell me, who doesnt hve a past?
abegi,. let her just open up to d guy, if he truely loves her, they can mke it work. shekina
seriously, people can b so myopic in their reasoning. tell me, who doesnt hve a past?
abegi,. let her just open up to d guy, if he truely loves her, they can mke it work. shekina
I'll rather say that she must take life as it comes and reason out the best of every situation.
God don catch you
stupid idiot . you have broken home now, u think u wii get your home . Move on to another sugar daddy
stupid idiot . you have broken home now, u think u wii get your home . Move on to another sugar daddy
just tell your guy, everyone has a past
oniranu somebody now you wan marry abi okay if you love yourself you better tell your man your past life and avoid being in your mil shadow otherwise you'll just go and start trouble in your man's family.let them be biko
Confess to your boyfriend, if he really loves you, he'll marry you anyway.
The MIL no fit reveal the secret because she did not behave like a true mother. She ought to have rejected the cash gifts you gave her back then and counseled you instead.
The result of her inaction has come back to bite her in the ass just as yours has.
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Win over I hear? How, dis is her son we are talking about, dis no be iya bonvita matter, u better be open to d son and let him know but forgethhe cant marry u cos his mother ll spoil u finish
Madam aristo now you are married how will you feel if a young beautiful girl struggling to make ends meet make your hubby her aristo? And I bet you didn't tell your hubby about your past either.
DISCLOSE YOUR HEAUXISM TO YOUR MAN, AND IF HE DOESN'T WANT YOU, HE IS NOT FOR YOU. KEEP IT MOVING!
SAD, THE MOTHER MUST ALSO HAVE LOW MORALS FOR RECEIVING THE MONEY FROM YOU. ANYWAY BEST ADVICE IS TO TELL YOUR FIANCE. IT WILL BE HARD BUT IF HE DECIDES TO LEAVE, YOU HAVE LESS TO LOOSE NOW THAN IF GUYS WERE MARRIED.
Linda I know you don't make the storys up most def.
As for this lady - sorry but I will have to question the man too because you only attract what you are. where and how did he find and fall for such a lady. Then Iyanya will be there chatting shit in an interview
...oh and one last thing, imagine you had a son and he met a female like that - you'd b the same, there are plenty females to choose from yet he chooses that one nasty girl I met a couple of times - can't work!! BTW if your secret won't be told today it will be told tomorrow don't try to marry him just go.. this is a clear case of Past haunts Person
Exactly.... its better late than never. Bsides she will always blackmail u wit it. Bt if she knows dt her son knows n still wants 2 marry u, she will respect ur honesty. But also be prepared to lose him. First thing I learnt n did b4 I got married was to narrate my list to my husband n he did same. Now we gist n laugh abt it n even d exs......
Have an honest conversation with her about how you have changed and how much you love her son and want whats best for him. Let her know you are willing to work on your relationship with her daily to prove you are worthy. If you really mean it and are sincere, it just might work. Honesty and repentance are key.
Have an honest conversation with her about how you have changed and how much you love her son and want whats best for him. Let her know you are willing to work on your relationship with her daily to prove you are worthy. If you really mean it and are sincere, it just might work. Honesty and repentance are key.
Have an honest conversation with her about how you have changed and how much you love her son and want whats best for him. Let her know you are willing to work on your relationship with her daily to prove you are worthy. If you really mean it and are sincere, it just might work. Honesty and repentance are key.
Poison ke.
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