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Thursday 23 January 2014

Question for the ladies: Which man would you rather...?

Here's the question; Which man would you rather marry? A man who has been married twice before but has no children (he can have children) or a man who has never been married but has 2 children?

So would rather be a man's third wife but have no step children or be a man's first wife but have two step children? Which would you rather and tell us why...

398 comments:

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Anonymous said...

Il opt for the man that has been married twice but has no kids. No time for baby mama drama.

Anonymous said...

None of d above

JSB said...

I'd rather go 4 d man with two kids who hasn't married b4 atleast I'll be sure of making babies with him. What I can never do is to marry a man who has bin divorced twice and has no kids, it shows diaz something wrong with dat man. 2 different women no kids......Mbanuu. Maybe he don use hin sperm for rituals

Anonymous said...

Dear linda,I would rather be d 1st and only wife wid 2 step children....because I will have more right as I am legally recognised as his wife while the other woman is only a 'baby mama' and has no right to come n see my 'husband' unless if its concerning 'my step children'...and also because there will be more peace in my home as its going to be just my husband,I and our child.....no co_wife......just my husband n NOT 'our husband'.....linda dear, I've nt been able to comment wid my google account so sort it out if u can,,,,Jennifer aka smashyjane.

Anonymous said...

A man's 1st wife wit 2 children. I will not feel any guilty that I am taking the position of the 1st or 2nd wife, secondly I will not be a concubine to any man. Then I will be a mother to the other children.

Jessica alaboh said...

I would prefer to b first and accept d two kids..bcos i wouldn't want to share him with someone els,and beside y doesn't he have a child after two marriages maybe there's somthing wrong down there.....ok Linda date ma own opinion

Anonymous said...

2face idibia is perfect answer to ur questions Lili

Unknown said...

Evritin has advantage n disadvantage,if u can pregnant a woman twice y can't u marry her?wats d problem dat u can't stay married 2 a woman?I dnt tink I can marry 4rum eida of dis category,buh 2 ansa ur question I'll rada marry d one witout kids coz polygamous home is dangerous am talking out of xperience

faithie. said...

Linda u,v never posted any comment of mine since jan 1st. WHY, am waiting 4 ur reply

Anonymous said...

I will go 4 a man who had married twice wit out children cos it won't make any difference since men(though not all) flirt b4 marraige so its like same tin if he had only one kid I will go 4 him buh 2 I don't tink so cos I want to personally av my 3kids so plus his two I don't tink I can groom dem d way I want.

Anonymous said...

Be a first wife with step children

Unknown said...

I don't think there is anything wrong with marrying a divorced man. Unless he is not trustworthy or abusive. The fact that he married twice doesn't really mean he is irresponsible. He may have just been unlucky with women. If you love someone deeply, then, their past shouldn't matter. The question is, do you love him enough to spend the rest of your life with him, and make the marriage work?? But then, not everyone gets it right. You have to trust your senses and go with what you feel. The older you get, the more likely you meet someone with a bit of baggage. So, who is to say the next guy you date won't be in the same position?? Me ayam still young, so, I can neither marry a divorced man or babies papa...lol.

adediana said...

I will defo go for the single dad a man with 2 failed marriages the third time might be a charm but i aint trying to find out.

Anonymous said...

I wouldn't risk getting married to a man who had married twice witout any issue..

Anonymous said...

I'll rather b a man's 1st wife n inherit 2 step children than b his 3rd wife. Children are a gift 4rm God. I love kids irrespective of who bore them. I will show them love in such a manner that they'll have no other choice than 2 love me back. It doesn't matter who comes 1st. I belive God will provide enough 2 go round them n my own kids so there will b no room 4 envy. I'll rather deal with kids than share my husband with 2 women whom I have no idea what they might do 2 me.

Anonymous said...

The man with 2 kids is way more attractive and more likely to survive in marriage with his chosen woman. For him, he is getting married cuz he wants to not cuz of any circumstances. The 2times divorcee has proved not hae values for marriage and lacks the sense for being responsible for a child. Lin Lin are u in this predicament, lol

Anonymous said...

A man with 2 kinds

Anonymous said...

None!

Debbie Chelsea said...

I will marry d Man who has married twice n av no Children so i can bare children 4 him,dat man dat is not married n has 2 Children hmmmm i tink am gonna b in danger cos i dnt know weda d woman dat has d children still loves him or not,if he still loves him dat means acid awaits me any day cos women dis days are very despirate so i rada marry d man dat has been married twice execpt he had a divoce...onto d next question lindodo i can never b a 3rd wife,neither will i b a first wife out of 3 or 4 wives NEVER!!!!!

Anonymous said...

No one... if he can have two kids outside wedlock, he can stil hav kids while in wedlock.
Secondly, I can't b a third wife to a man who can have kids but does nt want to, why is he running away frm fatherhood & what makes me think he wnt leave me for a fourth wife....

Luking forward to getting married to my destined divine partner (who is single and wiv no kids), dis year...after wch we can make beautiful babies. I want twins as a start 1boy nd 1 gal

Anonymous said...

2face idibia is perfect answer to ur questions Lili

Unknown said...

Linda follow ur heart. Lol. Jst playing wld marry d one with kids never married bfor or none if them sef.

Anonymous said...

I think I would go with the guy who has two children. Its not the fact that he has not been married before that is attractive but the fact that the other guy has been married twice is unattractive. It actually takes maturity to live with another adult and make it work. So he has tried twice and failed at it, why make myself a statistic. One may also argue that the father of two isnt so matured thats why he didnt marry the women, but I think that isnt the case. He could have had the kids without planning and just has enough maturity to own up to his responsibility of taking care of them.
So I will stake a claim of the father of two rather than the twice divorced dude.

Anonymous said...

I prefer a single man with two children.

Oluchi Godwin

Anonymous said...

Every girl that grew up in a polygamous home knows better than to marry a man with children,being d third wife n not having step children is d best pick
@UA

Anonymous said...

These children are worwor oh! Abeg none of the above jare! Whats wrong with never married guys with no kids, why would i want to shortchange maself?!

Debbie Chelsea said...

Lindodo infact NON of d above abeg!!!!!!!

Tyna said...

Circumstances Differs... so does preferences. For me.. (personal opinion though).. I will rather marry my husband (with or without children), than share another's husband (with or without children)'in marriage". So a first wife is a sure yes.. for me any day. Second wife maybe... if the first has been separated from him due to death (circumstance). Reason.. because aside it being right is the will of God.

Anonymous said...

None of d above biko...I wnt freshly baked no b fairly use,linda post ma comment º°˚˚˚°ÂºO, I knw no weda me n U̶̲̥̅̊ dy drag bf...lol

Anonymous said...

I rather be a man's first wife infact one and only wife with step children.

Anonymous said...

It depends on d cause of y d married 1 broke up wiv his former wives, if its a tangible nd concrete reason I can marry d 1 witout children

Anonymous said...

Linda oooo this is difficult. Anyways I rather marry a man who doesn't have children than to marry a man with children.believe me you can never be a mother to those children cus they will never take u as their mum. But a man who was married before and without children,your position is still very much strong as the wife of the man.cus ur child will be his first child. I rather sacrifice my position as a first wife and give my child that postion of a first child. My opinion.

Anonymous said...

I'll manage The latter........ But don't see dat happening to me sha

Anonymous said...

I prefer D one without kids bt I want a tear rubber hubby*

Anonymous said...

I'd rather marry d one without a child yet. I knw of a friend in dat situation and she's enjoying her home.

Anonymous said...

I'll rather inherit 2 step kids than share other women's husband. Kids are a gift 4rm God and I love them so much it doesn't matter who bore them. I'll take them like mine. I'll show them such love that they'll have no options than 2 love me back. Even when I bear mine, there will b no discrimination. I belive God will provide us with more than enough 2 go round so there is no room 4 envy n unhealthy competition. God created man n woman not man n women.

Anonymous said...

I will rather be his third wife n have no step children

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cheec said...

Married b4 but has no children abeg, what kind of unmarried promiscuous man with 2 kids is dat? It means wen we get married he will still play away match... But Linda r u sure we aint helping u to make a choice here?

Anonymous said...

I'll rather inherit 2 step kids than share other women's husband. Kids are a gift 4rm God and I love them so much it doesn't matter who bore them. I'll take them like mine. I'll show them such love that they'll have no options than 2 love me back. Even when I bear mine, there will b no discrimination. I belive God will provide us with more than enough 2 go round so there is no room 4 envy n unhealthy competition. God created man n woman not man n women.

Anonymous said...

Wl prefer d second 1 cos he doesn't hav a male child dat wl drag property wit me .bsides d 2girls wl get marid

cy said...

I'll prefer to be a third wife and have kids for him than be a step mum who knows later the kids might bring their mum back and u start dragging position with them

Anonymous said...

Linda u sure say u no marry a man we get wife

Apple said...

If the married man has properly divorced his wives i will rather marry him, Why? because i want my children to be me and my husband's first and only children. Those children will alway be his priority if he is a great dad ( that is how it should be ) His children will always come before you. I say so because my children are my priority and only God can come before them, no human bean can come before my children. Linda Ikeji is this about you? Lol. If it is take my advice and thank me later. Lol.

mona said...

Wouldn't mind being a third wife... after much enquiry about what happened to the other 2 wives..... but its much better than 2 kids outside marriage naah!

Anonymous said...

Oya ladies answer #Mr Lucky

amaka said...

I'd rada marry a man who has bin married 2wice widout children...cos once a child(ren) is involved,there's alwais a bond btw d parents,he tends 2 kip seein nd havin sth goin on wid d babymamas....

NK said...

Hmmmm! Dis matter is big, anyway I pray 2 marry a man dat has no children n has nt been married b4. Bt if paraventure am asked 2 choose b/w d 2 fore mentioned options, I will go 4 d 1 dat has children(it shldnt be more than 1 or 2 children) I will take d children as though they re mine n we will all live in peace than 2 marry a man dat has been married twice. He might end up chasing out 1 day.

Anonymous said...

third and no stepchildren

Unknown said...

Ofcourse I'd gladly be d 1st wife nd mother of his kids

Anonymous said...

NONE cos mine is out there

Anonymous said...

The one with kids I guess. Definitely not the one without 2 wives,lol

BOKO HARAM said...

kai me i go marry d man wey get four childrens and one wife par, if i been woman oh

Anonymous said...

I'd rather marry the man with two kids. for the first man, why did he leave the other women? how sure am i that he would not leave me? I'd rather be a step mum than a third wife mbok.
IG: e_songzz
i rest my case

kosi said...

I would rather marry the man with step children.

kosi said...

I would rather marry the man with step children.

Anonymous said...

Dis life ehnnnnnn,bt it actually depends on d 2men involved. I wil go 4any of dem dt truly loves me&wil give me endless joy.dts d most important tin o linda.

Anonymous said...

am ok wt kids
Not more wives
Wud rather be a first wife
Buh hope he dosent add anoda woman ooh! Lol...

MY TURN said...

For the one who had been married twice but with no children, why did he divorce these women? there is probably a story. And for the one who has kids why isn't he with the mother of his kids? both dicey situations because no woman wants baggage but i think I'll choose the later.

He has two kids (hoping they are from the same woman o)he knows how to care and be devoted to them (if not their mum) so he would be able to care for me.

Unknown said...

If my sister seeks my honest opinion on this, i'll advise her to go for the guy with 2 children.

oge said...

I will rather marry a man that has nt been married bt has two children cos its beta 4 me to care 4 d kids dan deal wit oda woman

MissW said...

Hmmm tricky, walking by will come back for comments later. oya to all dem experienced babes out dere. lol...

K8tey ojo said...

I will rather be d. 1st n have 2 step children............I will accept d kids n good faith

Unknown said...

wld rada go for a man who has never been married but have children

Anonymous said...

Linda are you caught between these two and seeking advice? better say the truth and shame the devil.... **Looking at you with a straight tight face**

Unknown said...

wld rada go for a man who has never been married but have children

Anonymous said...

I will be the first and accepts his two kids as mine. being a third wife, am not cut out for it

K8tey ojo said...

I will rather be d. 1st n have 2 step children............I will accept d kids n good faith

Anonymous said...

Nawa ooo, Linda no get news again, wait ooo, y do I have d feeling dat dis is a true life story coming frm Linda, n she wants our opinion. Linda of al d ppl wey wan marry u, na dis ones u wan settle for?? God is ur strength

Anonymous said...

I will rather be with the one with 2 kids. what's wrong with d man who keeps getting married? Is something wrong wt him that d women keep leaving. Bt men will rather not b wt either of them cos d both r too complicated

Anonymous said...

No hard and fast rules cos every situation is different however a guy that has been married twice and has no issues and is going for the third marriage probably has issues with his personality and may be shooting blanks that is why he cannot impregnate a lady and cannot hold down a marriage. Secondly a guy that is yet to settle down but has two kids outside wedlock may have commitment issues as well as self-control issues. Now that he has decided to commit why does he not commit to his baby mama??? She's good enough to knock up but not good enough to marry and take care of??? Hmmm!! But faced with the decision between both men, it will boil down to their individual personalities and the story behind their issues.... After all if God can forgive, who am I to hold their history against them??? Meanwhile Linda Ikeji, why do you refuse to publish my comments???

oge said...

I will rather marry a man that has nt been married bt has two children cos its beta 4 me to care 4 d kids dan deal wit oda woman

Slimy said...

I'd rather marry a man wit kids bt hasnt married yet, jst lik Annie n 2face.

mo said...

None!

Unknown said...

Am just just getting the questions oh..I will rether marry the man who has never been married but has two children..because I will not want to share my husband with any woman when is at home with me I don't want any compitition in my home where to sleep and where not to sleep in the night and who to cook and who not to cook the next day...although non is good.

ebony nessa said...

I wud rather be a 3rd wife witout step kids on d ground dat d anulment of his past marriages were legal.No woman wants rivalry in her home.Linda post ma comment oooooo

Anonymous said...

Not at all, wont marry any of them

Madu Ugo said...

thats a hard one though but i think one is more secure to marry d one with two kids cos u dont have an assurance that you will last either. i'm a guy sha ooooooo

Anonymous said...

None of the above but option two is manageable.

Anonymous said...

Linda...which kin exam question be this? Slow news day?

Juliebabe said...

Non of the above, I prefer a man who is not married without children period

Unknown said...

None !!! Lol

Unknown said...

None !!! Lol

tomiwealth said...

none abeg
too complicated

Unknown said...

â„“̊ would prefer neither of them coz â„“̊'ve always prayed 4 a neva married and neva had a child man. But if â„“̊ must choose frm the two, â„“̊'ll go 4 the twice married And no issue man coz he's gonna luv me 4 making him a daddy and datz will differenciate me frm his former wifes.

Anonymous said...

1st wife with 2 step children ...."linda is dat ur predicament??? Eya sorry marry anyone biko jus marry uts gettn late

Anonymous said...

Be d third wife n hav children 4 him #rolling eyes#

purpleBurple by Annie P said...

Definitly d guy with 2kids..cuz d single one would end up divorcing me like he did d two previous women..

Anonymous said...

Lol linda, none of the above o. I want to marry my own man o

Blossom said...

Linda such a shallow question! You don't even consider the level of friendship, commitment, kindness of heart, other personal attributes. You are just concerned about 'what' the person is. I pray you find your mr perfect one day sha. Good luck to you.

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AB said...

Lolz... Linda do u have any of the man proposing to you :( . To me what matters is responsibility,

Anonymous said...

3rd with no steps!

Unknown said...

I would rather be a first wife and have step kids than be a third wife because for a man to have 2 failed Marriages with two different women he may have issues and there's a huge tendency the third marriage might also crash. **JustSaying**

Anonymous said...

There is a difference between "third wife" wife number three, the former meaning his still married while the later means his divorced the first two wives. Now back to your question i'll have be wife number three without the step kids to avoid the whole step mum n step children wahala.

Unknown said...

I would rather be a first wife and have step kids than be a third wife because for a man to have 2 failed Marriages with two different women he may have issues and there's a huge tendency the third marriage might also crash. **JustSaying**

Anonymous said...

please What's the difference?

Anonymous said...

None of the above. There are a still a few good men who are single and have no children........I'll wait till one of them comes along

Anonymous said...

I would rather a man who has never been married but has two children. I can take care of two kids cos I love children but I cannot deal with 2 wives and I can never be a 2nd not to talk of 3rd wife plus its against God's will

Anonymous said...

" I'm drunk in Love with Korede"...yh dat's all I know for now. Bye!

Anonymous said...

Marry a man wif his 2 children n nt wif wife or wives... Kinda cool 2 me tho dan being a 3rd wife

L'armour said...

Will stay with the guy wit the kids

Anonymous said...

Not going to happen in mine case, cos my God is not a God of confusion.

GORGEOUS BEAUTY said...

Non of the above biko.

Anonymous said...

ANGELRAY SAYS,
I rather be a third wife if i can ve children for him than be a first wife with 2 step children, polygamy is not easy especially if the 2 children are boys.

Anonymous said...

D man dat had married twise is not man enough to keep a woman, would prefair d one with kids but depending on what made der mom to leave also.

Lyndy said...

If those re d only two shots I hav at gettin married, then it means witches nd wizards frm my village re after me. But if I'll choose, I'll go for d one wt two kids if he givs me gud reasons why he couldn't marry their mothers nd his intention to marry me is genuine. The othr one is a chronic divorcee. I can't hav that

Anonymous said...

its straight and simple for me.i am not holier than thou.i don't believe in some theories that a second wife is illegitimate.This for me is choosing between the devil and the deep blue sea...but I d rather marry the man who has been married twice without kids.A man with kids is a complex case.i cant stand all the drama that comes with step kids and all.

Unknown said...

I'd rather be a man's first wife wiv 2 stepchildren cs d man daa has married two before cn still marry four again,,Jay

Unknown said...

I'd rather be a man's first wife wiv 2 stepchildren cs d man daa has married two before cn still marry four again,,Jay

TEE-TEE said...

It depend on my relationship wit both d children and dea father,if I av gud relationship wit dem and and we don't see each other as competitor and I see dea won't be future p y nt cos I luv children

Anonymous said...

I'd marry a man wiv 2kids,cs d man who has bn married b4 cn also remarry 4 odas agn

ssi said...

IT IS BETTER WITH A MAN WITH CHILDREN BUT NO VALID MARRIAGE. BECAUSE IT IS VERY CERTAIN THAT THE FRUITS OF MARRIAGE WILL EVENTUALLY EMERGE I.E HAVING CHILDREN AND HE IS MATURE IS FAMILY MATTERS BUT THE ONE NOT MARRIED WILL NEVER BE SERIOUS ABOUT MARRIAGE OR FAMILY AND IT IS NOT CERTAIN THAT THERE WILL BE FRUITS FROM THE UNION.

Anonymous said...

Linda I would rather be his first wife and have step children. You want the other wives to kill me? I will have much enemies the other way round mbok!!!

Anonymous said...

A man who has two kids and never married before.
QUEEN AMY

Anonymous said...

Read your Bible Linda.

Anonymous said...

i would prefer a man who has kids.. i dont mind kids atall irrespective of their mum.. i love them all the same... so its ok by me to have them... i even hope to marry a who already has kids....

Nike said...

None really,but if I must...I wud choose d man wit d 2kids,atleast he was never married so I can try to figure out how to deal wit him n for somone to av 2kids for him,there has to b some good in him... but a man dats divorced twice witout kids . first am thinkin mayb he cant father a child n am also thinkin hes nt a good man for he wud av been kept by 1 of dos 2exes.

Anonymous said...

I don't Pray for any of the 2, and if I found my self in dat state den single is my name

Anonymous said...

God frowns at divorce,so i can neva marry a divorcee.i choose d latter

Mab said...

i'll go for the guy that has been married before with no kids, if u get married to the single guy with kids there will always be baby mama drama or the kids themselves especially if tjey are grown, o wld like to start up my own family.

Anonymous said...

choosing between the devil and the deep blue sea.id rather marry the man without kids who has been twice married than deal with the complexities of step children.like it or not ..their mother,the mothers family are a part of that home.you could face very difficult step children that could make the marriage unbeareable.

Anonymous said...

2 wicked options,oya i wan read oooooo,ladies make yu start d comment

Anonymous said...

Wuld rather marry d man wit 2 kids, children r a blessing however dey came. Question shld b bout d twice married man why did his other marriages fail? runsaway!

Anonymous said...

Nawaooo dis kind case sef

Anonymous said...

Hmmm, this is a strong question linda, anyway as for me I will rather marry a. Man that has never been married before but have two children

Anonymous said...

I'd rather be the 3rd wife,step kids can be mean....no matter what u do,blood is thicker...u can't have "THAT BOND"

Anonymous said...

The man that has not been married and has u two children, the other has been spiritually taken twice that I̶̲̥̅̊S̤̥̈̊ a lot of spiritually mess

Unknown said...

Nooo,none

Anonymous said...

I wud go for the one dat has neva been married but wit kids cos am the kind of girl dat hates that thing called *PREGNANCY* so i wud forget about getting pregnant nd won't be bothered nd take care of the other ones like they are mine. *cheers

Anonymous said...

Yaga linda I no take any one abeg all of them get kleg jooor.

Anonymous said...

Honestly, ki lefa ninu eje? There isn't much diff btw d two. I wldnt pray 2 be faced with any of it. But come to think of it, I wld go 4 d man wit two kids but never been married cos I'm gonna be d 1st official Mrs and guarantee of giving birth to my own kids is dere. There must be some skeleton in d divorced, no kid man's closet n I aint prepared to see it.

Anonymous said...

I go for the one that has already been married cos he wud know how to treat me like a lady

Anonymous said...

A man who has never been married but has 2 children is a better choice. He's your husband and no one will be able to dispute that with you. Step children can easily be won over with unconditional love.If you treat them right, u'll gain children you didnt labour for.

Anonymous said...

None

Anonymous said...

The man who hasnt been married

Anonymous said...

none of the above....i cant do someone that's got kids or married before without kids, i cant even give guys like that audience....because u've got questions all over you head, His never been married before and got two kids already, you will even need to start building relationship with his kids and the other one married before, why did he left his first marriage,,,,, has a lady i think you have to really think very well and take your time, before you jump into any relationship whith someone whos got some kindda issues.

Anonymous said...

Libers where in heavens name is prince charming, aunty Linda pls help us find out if he is still alive o cos am missing him and his big grammars + i wud go for the one wit kids and no wife. Take care

Anonymous said...

the man who has never been married with kids is a better option. The other one needs JESUS. He most def has issues.

Anonymous said...

The one wit no step children

dhobiz said...

Been married twice

Anonymous said...

I will rather have step children dan a 3rd wife . What make d 2 others left him can as well make me go too

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm I think they r both d same. cos both can't just stick to one woman. Kids or no kids , both men hv different women in their live. To me. Oooo acceptn either men is ok. Bt to b on d save side, I wld go 4 d one without kids.( If really he can hv kids ooooo).

Anonymous said...

I will choose the never been married, If the 2 kids are from the same woman.The twice divorced man will surely have personality issues.

Anonymous said...

Twice married without kids. No baby mama drama or children to resent me because their parents are apart. I'm good as long as I'm his only legal wife, and no other woman plays a leading role in his life. Everybody has a past.

Amarachukwu said...

The one with two kids.

Anonymous said...

The man with two children but has never been married. The man that has been divorced twice what happened?

bola said...

Step children are always issues in marriage i'll rather go for the one that is married b4 but without kids. but how come is being married twice.

Anonymous said...

None! would rather stay single....same problem different symptoms.
The one with 2 kids obviously hasn't heard of condoms so if he cheats there is a possibility of another child whilst married to you. The other has lot is level of tolerance by now so the chances of keeping a third marriage is worrying!!!

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm.... Linda this na jamb question oooo. The one wey done marry 2ce hmmm.wetin dey do a na? Is he a bad person that he keeps changing wives or is he just unlucky? I will investigate properly ist before I jump in. The one with 2 kids is it from diff women or one women but either ways ooooo. Them 2 na bad market

Anonymous said...

I prefer A man who has been married twice before but has no children, bt b4 having my wedding wit him I will make sure I got pregnant for him b4 proceeding to any wedding.
Shynomy.......

Anonymous said...

none of the above

Unknown said...

NON OF D ABOVE OOO,LINDA.A MAN WHO'S BN DIVORCED TWICE'S OBVIOUSLY NOT A KEEPER,DIAZ NO ASSURANCE DAT WAT CHASED D 1ST & 2ND WIFE WONT CHASE ME TOO...AND D ONE WITH KIDS IS TOO MUCH BAGGAGE AND I'LL PROLLY LOSE OUT CUS HIS NUMBER ONE PRIORITY WUD BE HIS KIDS AND HE'D WILL ALMOST ALL IF NOT ALL OF HIS ASSETS TO HIS KIDS(AND IF GOD WAN PUNISH U MK U SEF NO KAN GET PIKIN 4AM)...AND DONT FORGET DAT I'D ESSENTIALLY B TAKIN ON D FINANCIAL &DOMESTIC OBLIGATIONS OF THEIR MOTHER.THERE'D B CONSTANT CLASH OF INTEREST AND FIGHT 4ATTENTION AND D WIFE'S SURE TO SUFFER D MOST.

sunday otuns said...

Women are not comfortable with inlaw and stepchildren.They can do anything to get rid of them.But they can allow their own family members to live in their matrimonial homes.Before I marry a lady she must swear on oat never to lay hands on my extended family.or else I boot her out.

Anonymous said...

I wudnt want any of dem.but if i am to choose den i Will choose d one with two kids but no wife. Aleast am sure he is nt someone elses husband bcos marrying d divorcee makes you a third wife. Its adultery

Walata said...

The question says it is for the ladies but for real if I was born a woman I will prefer none of the above hahaha God forbid

Anonymous said...

I'll rather marry the one with kids cos you know he wants to marry you cos he had a chance to marry his baby mama but didn't. But the other one what grantee do I have dat I won't be d next one he divorces

Anonymous said...

He married "Two" b4 u! How sure re u dat u ain't numba "3?" n 4 may jst be on d way?

whizzev said...

hehehehehehe. Technical question

bebetohsure said...

Lindodo, none o cos dem all get k-leg. Just my opinion

Anonymous said...

Well said o

Anonymous said...

What if he leaves u. U now become the third ex wife??

Anonymous said...

Neither is good for me.

Uloma said...

Prefer Man's first wife wif 2 step children than d oda option, wat of if sometin is barring d other wives frm concieving?!besids he cld be legally married to d oda woman, whr wld dt leave me? I no want wahala of 2 wives,d envy, d fights?! Chao! Wld rather take care of 2 kids and pray God blesses me with mine.

Anonymous said...

None of the above

Anonymous said...

Abe I will go for the man that has been married twice with no children. Who knows one could have died the other could have left him for a richer guy or some ish. The baby mamas will always be in the picture, eg if the child is ill. Special occasions nko, graduation and even when the children get married. Imagine attending a wedding where your husband and his baby mama are being celebrated as parents of groom/bride Wetin you come dey do. Abeg no kids coz kids them both forever.

Anonymous said...

The guy that has kids is the main guy... His children could have been as a result of women who were out to trap him. For him to accept and be looking after the children, show he is responsible.For the other guy, it shows he cannot keep a woman....

Miss X said...

The story is incomplete. As the women might be dead in either of the situations or be the bad eggs.

But honestly I wouldn't want to handle 2 step children. One would be much better.

The divorced man, twice? No children? You sure he can have children?

Anonymous said...

We should always be prepared with anything ladies,true love has no selection, and there is only two ting God hate divorce and adultery, as for Us ladies we should continue to be a helper that we are met to be, all helper has there primary assignment as for me there both good opportunity. Unless U are not proud to be an african ladies .thanks linda

Ene Grace Anthony said...

Hmmmm...Dicey one here

Ene Grace Anthony said...

Hmmmm...Dicey one here

Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

This is almost same situation I find my self , dating this very amazing guy that treat me like am a queen n want to marry me , wahala is that he has two kids two girls n I understand d circumstance n d situation that they came abt n I also understand what it ll b like in d future n he has always showed that am his periority ... Wahala is how am I going to tell my family n friends that , that d man I want to marry , how ll I tell my pastor , cos of that sm delaying marriage plans etc but I really love him

Unknown said...

Neither, am not messed up so why settle for a second hand. Will marry a man like myself no history

Aby said...

I can marry either of the two because two of them are in thesame category to me

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Anonymous said...

Neither! There must be something fundamentally wrong with the divorced guy that makes it impossible for them to protect his marriages, and with baby-daddy would come drama I'd much rather avoid. Who says I have to settle, kwa?

Unknown said...

Ur comment just cracked me up. @ not ugly ass children like that.

Anonymous said...

None of the above...

Anonymous said...

None of them linda,both have issues.Pray that you don't find your self in this kind of delima.

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Unknown said...

God way is the best way. If either is what God have in stock for one there is no other choice . If one is sincere prayerful and Godly i either will be like a marriage made in heaven.
My opinion
ST

Unknown said...

God way is the best way. If either is what God have in stock for one there is no other choice . If one is sincere prayerful and Godly i either will be like a marriage made in heaven.
My opinion
ST

Unknown said...

God is the answer either is good if that is what God has in stock for one it will end up being a perfect marriage made in e
Heaven

ST

zibaintl said...

bikko...I no go marry any of dem.d two men na same problem dem get.d one wit two kids na player.he might leave u as well afteral him no b tuface n u no b annie wey de wit am for long..

Newlife said...

Everybody comes with a baggage, you just have to decide what kind of baggage and how heavy you want yours to be.
Sorry, I cannot help you beyond the above. It is your road, walk it!
Best of luck in your choice.

Anonymous said...

I don't want no step children. Their mothers can use the kids to get to my husband. There will always be a bond because of the kids. I prefer dealing with ex wives with no strings attached. Those ones pose next to no risk. They are basically like ex girlfriends. Children are very powerful tools for an ex. Besides, I want my kids to be his first kids and I don't want to worry about the inheritance going to the other kids. Besides I know a case of a first son out of wedlock who took his stepmum to court after the death of the father/ husband over properties in Port Harcourt. And this was a woman who had been kind to him.

Anonymous said...

Why?? U aren't gracious enough to take care of some else's child(ren).

Unbeatableflaky said...

In a 9ja setting, marrying the man with 2 children still make you somehow Wife number 3 if you won't decieve ur self. #u know how things are done now
Better to take the one with no baggage provided he isn't sterile.

Unbeatableflaky said...

In a 9ja setting, marrying the man with 2 children still make you somehow Wife number 3 if you won't decieve ur self. #u know how things are done now
Better to take the one with no baggage provided he isn't sterile.

Anonymous said...

3rd wife kor, the man na useless man na... You don't need a seer to tell you that... Though i don't like baggages in relationships but in this situation its obvious the man with two kids is a better man so i'd go for him instead ;)







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Anonymous said...

none of d above

Anonymous said...

Abeg i would marry the with two kids.As that one divorced his previous wives,that's how he will me if i marry.He probably has a problem.i will take the one with two kids.it less risky!!!!.eemmm linda you can like to post my comment

Anonymous said...

None of the above, there is enough fish in the ocean
Love from Miami

Unknown said...

I would rather have the man with wives but no children .. I dont want to be a step mother to no child because i feel like my husband will be more focused on him and not me . And since he has no kids yet i would rather be the first to give him then

Anonymous said...

i will better be next Annie Idibia.

ebonyz... said...

If i happen to fall in love with the man with 2 kids, i'll try to see if i can get along with his kids and have an understanding with them and if we happen to get along, i can now marry him.

Anonymous said...

None of d above except u ve decided to live a life of regrets.

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