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Saturday, 2 May 2015

Dear LIB readers; my husband's demands are weird

From a female LIB reader...
Please I need your advice. My husband is the dearest thing in this world I've ever had! He's so different from most other guys: intelligent, funny, handsome, very muscular and well-built, and is an amazing person. He's also extremely playful. And I love him so much for all these. But there's this part I don't really enjoy: he makes some demands I'm not comfortable with. The two main ones are these: most mornings when we wake up from sleep he would insist we should kiss deeply with our unbrushed "smelly" mouths. The few times I agree, I don't enjoy it at all! Our mouths usually taste very sour then! I can never understand why he likes it but he says his love for me far exceeds my unbrushed mouth! Also when we're eating, he would tell me to pour food I'm chewing in my mouth into his own mouth, even when my saliva has made it so wet and yucky!
Sometimes he just wants me to put plain saliva from my mouth into his own! And he would say it's the same thing that happens when we kiss, but to me they're VERY different. And funny enough, the few times I agree to do these things, he would end up with a very very huge erecti*n and we would end up... But the problem is, when I don't agree, he would say I'm not interested in improving our intimacy, that I'm the only person in this world he can do them with yet I'm denying him the pleasure. The truth is, I don't think I'll ever be comfortable with these things. Please what should I do??? Does my agreeing to do these things really build our intimacy?

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http://storyroute.blogspot.com/ said...

is he on cheap drugs or something! abegi make una talk beta tin wey persn go hear.

Unknown said...

Speechless

Unknown said...

Bitch pls.

Anonymous said...

Pls tell him u dont like it i beg. He wil soon ask u to mix ur poo and his own together and lick. I beg no o

Anonymous said...

For him to due so it means that he loves you more than you due is better you tell him to. brush before enjoying that

Anonymous said...

This is a serious problem, pray to God for advise or see your pastor. Or better-still tell him u like him to swallow ur cum from ur vagina directly into his mouth. If he refuse then know he was fooling u! Na wah for him sha

AOI said...

Worse things are coming, run now.

Breanna Blogs Life said...

That's just disgusting. Plain and simple... I have no advice

Mr_SouL Get Naija Twitter/IG followers/7AB109CB said...

Congratulations, your hubby la fetish

Unknown said...

Really?? And it's too much for you? I Thot u were gonna say that he demands to fuck your asshole or a threesome.... Pls loosen up and get used to his little demands.

African foodstuff and Raw Materials said...

Well, na ur cross carry am, as long as Ʊ re d 1 pouring and not d 1 taking d iyanma in ur mouth, no P, and abt d early monin kiss, try and make it a routine both of Ʊ brush b4 going to bed, if Ʊ re d type with mouth odours, get a mouth wash... All is well..

Chimezie Njoku said...

these are down right nasty. Your husband watches too much porn and too much Kupwith the Kardarshian. You, yourself, what do you like to do to improve intimacy with your husband. Contribute your own idea to improve the intimacy. so many of you women complain about what your men are doing yet you are not contributing to the the main thing he brings up "intimacy". You don't have to do what he says; but you have to share other ways to improve intimacy that you know to him and ask him to try it out with you.

Anonymous said...

Lol ur husband is a weirdo ... Do it oo if it will make him happy ... For better or for worse Abi hehe before he will use that opportunity to start misbehaving... You can also signal your disgust too

Anonymous said...

Bitch shut ur mouth it's called married life. U consider this two things weird lol. I bet you don't even know what weird is

Unknown said...

Pray about what naaa...

Unknown said...

You have just spoken my mind anonymous

Anonymous said...

LOL LOL YA'LL CRAZY FUNNY OOO!!!

Anonymous said...

Like!

Anonymous said...

Please help me tell her oo

Anonymous said...

Even after brushing before bed, the mouth wi still b sour when one wakes up in the morning because the mouth has bin dormant for hours, the saliva which keeps the mouth lubricated nd prevents sour breath Wud b inactive during those hours!

Unknown said...

Hmmm my sista dat idea of kissin in d morning is not bad, is out of lv. Bt d idea of demanding 4 ur already chhewed food is weird.pls u both vve 2 sit n talk

Anonymous said...

Walahi poster..i want ur husband

Unknown said...

Tell dem!
* * * Linda's 1st Daughter * * *

Anonymous said...

Keep some breath strips/spray/mints handy by the bedside table for both of you, insist on them in a sweet way for the morning kisses. For the food & spit swallowing thing, wow im kinda at a loss. Is there a way u can modify & limit that behaviour?eg tell him you'll do it but only in the bedroom or on special nights, and with sexy foods. For example, you both biting down together on chocolate covered fruit until you're lips touch & you're kissing; or sloppy kisses with champagne or whipped cream in your mouths.Just trying think of how his fetish---which clearly means alot to him & thus is something you should try to accomodate--- can be turned/upgraded from gross to a kind of kinky 50shades of gray hot. Encourage him to try something like this; marraige is about compromise, and not just from you dear, him too. #lindaihailOo

Anonymous said...

He might be mentally sick or he's doing what a witch doctor asked him to do. Be careful. And he probably did that with every girl he's dated and loved. But he won't tell you that of course

Anonymous said...

My love for dis girl thou...... her comments re simple, short, n straight. Kudos Christie, me like u. Dnt get it twisted, am a female n am anti gay.

Sonipinky said...

Gbam!...One man food is anoda man's poison.

Anonymous said...

Hmmmmmmm...itz a bit weird and over d roof but you have to keep ur hubby intimately involved with u especially in marriage cox naa better for worse u sign. I'd advice u find something weird n u trust he wud be uncomfortable with n insist he does for u, if he refuses then u make him see datz ow u feel abt his demands...I'm wishing you d very best.

Subomi said...

hmmmmm dont know

ASAMPOKOTO said...

Leave the babe, let her be asking jamb questions

Unknown said...

this is good article .
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candymoni said...

My hubby does same too early morning kissing is a normal thing and if u feel uncomfortable talk to him about it he is your man.dont loose him out of stupidity girl lots of ladies want to be in your shoes.

IBK OF GOD said...

Exactly!

IBK OF GOD said...

U dnt av to insult d husband...she asked for advice and not insults pls

Anonymous said...

Hahahaha...africans.everything na juju

Uche said...

Are you trying to be funny? Chaz B is late. A painful death that shook the media sphere.

Walata said...

Pls writer Pls Pls Pls listen up, I forgot to tell u dat u and ur hubby needs to be brushing ur teeth every nite so that the sour mouth thing won't bring up quarrel so try dis format of brushing ur teeth every nite both of u, and coming to saliva n food to mouth thing Pls madam he's ur husband for God sake u guys are 1 body not 2 and in marriage 1+1 =1 so dis ain't an issue thank me later tho

Unknown said...

Lmaaooooo...wahala dey oo

Unknown said...

Come on....Goodness sake!!

Unknown said...

Another woman's meat is another one's trouble

Unknown said...

This is why you don't start something you won't finish. Now that you have started it, how are you going to stop it. Maybe you tell him your real mind nd plead him to understand you. This is so irritating biko. Kissing without brushing? Oh no not me.

er ma. said...

Madam ds is very simple. Before u kiss your husband pls rinse your mouth with his Dick after which u wil kiss him.or better still always hv orbit chewing gum with u b4 going to bed .chew it b4 he wakes up .una breath go mix nd twil b better off . Anything to satisfy your man.

Anonymous said...

Plz do it for him that what turn him on

Anonymous said...

My dear, find a way to get him to brush at night...both of you should do that. just introduce it as a way of hygiene before bed. In the morning, ur mouth will be fresh and won't be smelly. You will enjoy your intimate moment. As for the food own, try and find a distraction when he asks for it, find another fantasy he would enjoy more than that. I can see he loves adventures and trying stuffs. Find something else that will take his mind off this one. Thank me later

Unknown said...

U both where not in a relationship for u to see all that b4 getting married, or u shop for ur husband via jumia, dem come passle the man come ur door step, biko say some thing els jare

Unknown said...

Anonymous 12.33,u re a clown...hahahahah

sassynasty said...

Confam! Best comment from LIB presido.there is nothing weird about it,afterall you guys kiss on a normal day and exchange kisses.so no big deal joor

Click on my name guyss

Anonymous said...

U asshole. What do u know? Her husband is gushing over her and she's complaining. What if he decides to stop caring or maybe start doing it with someone who's willing. What then will happen?

Anonymous said...

So that una go throw am for lagoon ba???
~D great anonymous!

Daniel Eteng said...

As far as am concerned there's no debate on this issue. If it were you expecting these things from him and he refused to do them would you not have said he does not love you or say you are irritating him, you may even accuse him of cheating on you. I like to say you don't love him, for even making the issue that was meant to be private publically, you don't even have respect for him. People are now calling him all source of names while you sit down there claiming you love him, I don't know what's wrong with some of you ladies. Don't you have a marriage counselor or your pastor than taking your marital problem onto media.

Anonymous said...

Most of d comments here re supporting a selfish behavior from the man. If its d oda way round, wit d man feeling irritated and the woman nagging abt it, d husband will be quick to call her names..Why re Women always seen as Sacrificial Lambs who is expected to eat, drink and endure all manner of rubbish in the name of MARRIAGE ehn!

Pls my dear, tell ur husband it is absolutely unacceptable! U said it urself. And since marriage is a lifelong thing, its an issue u must trash out now.

Kanem said...

Pray for what biko?

Anonymous said...

loooooool

byklaurus said...

My dear, your hubby is one in a million. He chose u, he loves u and tries as much as he can to be very free and relaxed with you: infact, he is totally enveloped and engulfed by ur loving presence, bt u re actually myopic to observe such.
So many ladies out there are ready to exchange their hubbies with urz, if u don't mind (no insults meant pls). I have a friend who so much loves to have his woman during her menstrual flows. So many pple will say " holy shit" " wot d fuck" " never...!!!",in as much as it is not pleasing to me either, bt that is it for my friend: menstrual flow is a very big turn on for him.
My dear, u don't have any problem at all. Your marriage has been blessed for u to have a very loving husband.
Actually, those things are silly...bt real love comes with certain degrees of CRAZE attached to it. So I don't see anything wrong with ur man(ur HUSBAND). So many pple have done things far worse than that in order to keep hold of their partner.
My candid advice is this: if u don't lyk such things, politely talk to him abt it cos I believe he will see reasons to respect ur choices and preferences, bt if he fails to yield to ur request, take it as a new MARRIAGE ADVENTURE, perhaps, you too will get to LOVE it more than he does.
However, Pray...
May God bless ur marriage and may He give you a sustaining and lasting solution to ur problem...
Enjoy...

byklaurus said...

My dear, your hubby is one in a million. He chose u, he loves u and tries as much as he can to be very free and relaxed with you: infact, he is totally enveloped and engulfed by ur loving presence, bt u re actually myopic to observe such.
So many ladies out there are ready to exchange their hubbies with urz, if u don't mind (no insults meant pls). I have a friend who so much loves to have his woman during her menstrual flows. So many pple will say " holy shit" " wot d fuck" " never...!!!",in as much as it is not pleasing to me either, bt that is it for my friend: menstrual flow is a very big turn on for him.
My dear, u don't have any problem at all. Your marriage has been blessed for u to have a very loving husband.
Actually, those things are silly...bt real love comes with certain degrees of CRAZE attached to it. So I don't see anything wrong with ur man(ur HUSBAND). So many pple have done things far worse than that in order to keep hold of their partner.
My candid advice is this: if u don't lyk such things, politely talk to him abt it cos I believe he will see reasons to respect ur choices and preferences, bt if he fails to yield to ur request, take it as a new MARRIAGE ADVENTURE, perhaps, you too will get to LOVE it more than he does.
However, Pray...
May God bless ur marriage and may He give you a sustaining and lasting solution to ur problem...
Enjoy...

Anonymous said...

Sharrap, have u been married before?

Anonymous said...

Gbam!

Unknown said...

Only way


OKORO UPGRADED**

Dr Akinsowon Olusegun said...

story for the gods

Anonymous said...

@ gossip girl. U r so funny, how ll she say no? So she shd play wit her marriage abi? Anyway, dear LIB reader, try to wake up b4 him and brush ur mouth, I think that ll make u feel more comfortable. If he says no to that, brush ur mouth with just toothbrush n water. It ll b better. And when u kiss him don't swallow his saliva. That's doable. And if he says u shd chew or spit in his mouth, do it! So long he doesn't say he ll do same to u. Ur hubby has great qualities any right thinking woman would want to have and "keep". ...Triple S. Linda post ooo

Anonymous said...

U talk true Bunny. I even thought it was about a very weird sex story. ...Triple S.... Linda post ooo

Jessy's Corner said...

I love your comment....but the guy is disgusting....

Unknown said...

i have a solution for you.
you will have to come up with your own wiered things that you will front to him as things that build your intimacy. EXAMPLE: you always wanted to strap on a 12in D*** and stick it up his A**, Go out and buy it. when you state yours and he cant handle them well let him know that's how you feel too about his demands.

Anonymous said...

My husband also likes 2 kiss me in d morning..in our case he is usually already dressed 4 work cos he leaves very early bt always insist on kissing me deeeeply before he steps out, at first I usually objects cos I feel my mouth ll be smelly n sour..bt he doesn't seem 2 bother him, so I don't mind..lool..as 4 the lady in question I think u both shud brush b4 going 2 bed, not all ladies re lucky like u..4 d food ND saliva..its no biggie jor..dnt u kiss?

Anonymous said...

U sound like my husband..lool

Anonymous said...

My dear your husband has been watching dirty porn since he was a boy,makes sure he isnt anymore...show him u re not a porn star and make him understand dat.

Anonymous said...

OMG this you reply is right on point. Rotfluts

Anonymous said...

He loves yhu, thats all that matters... If thats not enough for yhu, then I think he is the only one in LOVE. He manages yhu, manage him.

okorie akunna arabianprincess180@gmail.com said...

What do you mean he is disgusting?? That's how the dude feels just explain to him that it shouldn't be a very time stuff but don't tell him your not comfortable with it might loose his esteem or tell him in a mild and sexy way and show him something else to do with you to spice up your relationship

Buzor said...

What do u know abt her. Gol..gger

Anonymous said...

U be big MUMU, Do u need a babalawo to tell u that ur husband truly loves you.. this things i swear he cant try with any other person..maybe u dont love him as much as he loves you sha. if not so..ur marriage is fun enjoy every moment of it

Moi said...

For the first one, like many have suggested brush your teeth last thing at night and eat nothing else again. In fact have a glass of water handy during the night to moisturise your mouth. Also it is very important to floss often and also second to the last thing at night (the last being brushing). Also get mouth wash and use that after brushing.

You're on your own for the second one. Perhaps since you agree to the first one he might let you off the hook for the second.

Anonymous said...

Juju things!

Anonymous said...

He is your husband but you have the right to make a decision for yourself. It seems to me that he is a lovely person but he likes things to be his way or no way at all. Marriage is about compromise, you should both give 100%. you need to have a long talk with him and let him know how you feel about it, explain how it makes you deal, he might get angry but eventually he will understand if you stand your ground.
You might want to suggest other things to try that you're okay with and that might help, because the way you are living right now is not healthy. It could lead to depression or even resentment of your husband later on if thus lingers on.
You know him more than anyone of us and you know how to talk to him. Read all comments and see if any helps you.
Most importantly, keep praying and I wish you the very best in life.

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