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Monday 18 June 2012

Pregnant woman dies two days after husband’s brutality

A pregnant woman, Mrs. Funmilayo Ajibola, died last Wednesday in Badagry, Lagos State after being allegedly brutalised by her husband, Kola. The 30-year-old housewife had been a victim of domestic abuse for years before she died on the fateful day.


Funmilayo’s cousin, who spoke to our correspondent on the condition of anonymity, said Kola, a member of the National Union of Road Transport Workers, was a jealous husband who always suspected his wife’s movements.


She said, “Kola is a very jealous husband. My cousin changed her phone lines more than 15 times throughout their six years marriage lasted because anytime Kola saw a strange number on her phone, he would destroy the SIM card.

“Sometimes, if she came back late or went out, he would beat her. There was a time she visited her father and when she got back home late, Kola told her to pick between him and her father.
“According to a young girl that lives with the couple, on Sunday night, Funmilayo received a call from her maternal uncle and when Kola saw the number, he started beating her. He did not even listen to her explanation.”

The cousin said when the beating got out of hand, the landlord intervened and took Funmilayo to his flat.
The landlord was said to have told Funmilayo to go back to her husband’s apartment believing that his anger would have subsided but Kola was said to have continued to beat her.

PUNCH Metro learnt that although the deceased did not die after the beating, she started exhibiting strange symptoms before her death.

Her cousin said, “Although I wasn’t there, the young girl that lives with them told me that Funmilayo was unconscious for a while, making Kola to become scared.
“Kola rushed her to a nearby hospital where she started to vomit blood. The hospital refused to admit her because they owed the hospital some money.

“Kola then took her back to the house and invited an auxiliary nurse to come and attend to her but her health continued to deteriorate.”
The nurse was said to have given the deceased some injections and bags of drip.
“The young girl that lives with them told me that on Tuesday, Funmilayo ate some rice but vomited it soon after. When her health did not improve, the nurse told Kola that she could no longer locate her vein,” our source said.

It was learnt that when Funmilayo died on Wednesday, Kola took her corpse to the Badagry General Hospital mortuary and told the attendant that his wife died of pregnancy complications.
He was said to have promised to return but later fled. Our correspondent learnt that neighbours immediately informed members of Funmilayo’s family who then came to 5, Ilufe Street, Ibereko Bus Stop, Badagry where the couple resided.

It was learnt that when all efforts to trace Kola failed, his younger brother, was arrested by policemen attached to Badagry Police Division.

At the station, Kola’s brother revealed his location and policemen immediately arrested him.
A police source told our correspondent that the 33-year-old suspect admitted beating his wife.
“I am not a doctor but there were bruises on the corpse and there is no doubt that Kola beat her up and he has confessed. He however said he did not kill her,” he said.

Funmilayo’s  cousin however berated the police on how the investigations were being handled.
She said, “Kola has been beating Funmilayo for a long time to the extent that the landlord had issued them a quit notice for fear that he might kill her.

“Police should have invited the landlord for questioning as well as the nurse that was treating Funmilayo. Also, the case should have been transferred to the State Criminal Investigation Department by now,” she said.
When contacted the spokesperson for the state police command, Ngozi Braide, said the command would ensure that a thorough investigation was carried out.

She said, “Investigation will be done professionally. The Badagry Division has to conclude preliminary investigations before transferring the case to the SCID.
“Also, Kola will be charged with murder because all evidence points to him. It’s a clear case and there will be no cover up.

“We are waiting for approval from a magistrate court before going ahead with the autopsy and once all things are in order, he’ll be charged to court.”

Culled from Punch

58 comments:

Cynthia said...

Why didn't she leave him? After the first beating from my ex husband during my pregnancy, i did not wait for the second one. And am glad i left the bastard.

Any woman who stays with a beast husband in the name of marriage, should buy her coffin in advance cos he can beat her to death anytime.

Lilspicer said...

I wonder wat boiz of ourdays who claimed to be men are turnin into some are mad dogs ...am even shy to slap my gurl kuz she is my pet...dat man must go to jail includin his friend tambul(omo-iwo)says so...via blackberrybold.5

Dr. Pinch said...

This is just too bad. May her soul RIP. Why will someone marry an AGBERO? That man should be sentenced to death by rat poison.

Jenny-Coco said...

wow, this is sad, whenever i read of cases of women being abused by their husband,cold shivers run down my spine and them am like, didnt these women see the 'signs' before walking down the isle??? now she is dead.. may her soul rip, and may God protect we dat are yet to tie the knots from such men. amen

agatha said...

Some men derive pleasure in beatin up their wives for no reason,d useless man is nw satisfied and happy,even at dat condition he cud still raise a finger at her•this is his extreme I pray he rots in jail•can anytin good come out of dat name kola•

MAXIMUS™ said...

Hahahahaha another KOLA again? Isssorai
Kola Boof's juju is touching base worldwide

*sipping my mirinda while dialing Kimora's number - Gasto check if Ms Lee is still alive*

Anonymous said...

What is going on with our men of nowadays. This is becoming constant in most marriages in Nigeria. Why r d male folks just killing our women. May God help us. Singles ladies pls look very well before u leap, so u dont get into d wrong hands n women dat r already married, pls dont keep silent if u r being battered. N if it continues, pls RUNNNN for ur life oh.

Eya Ayambem said...

Domestic Violence Again! look carefully at her eyes and you just see the evidence.
So, another wife and husband will raise their precious child only for a mad man to come take her away and sniff life out of her in the name of marriage? So so unfair.

After all this, he will remarry and lead a normal life. yes. But her family has lost a child forever.
Like I always ask, Did she not see the signs before accepting him as a husband?
RIP.

evadburns said...

Marriage! Marriage! I must marry! And when you listen to this society that forces you to marry, where is the society when the husband you are "blessed" with, maltreats?

Deyon said...

what a tragedy!,Sisters, i cant emphasize this enough,your husband or boyfriend beats you on a regular basis,to the extent you ve to visit the hospital please pack and go.MARRIAGE no be by force,only the living can marry,dont stay there untill you are killed,its not worth it.

Anonymous said...

Maximus, mind yourself wo! Not all Kolas are bad news xD.

Anonymous said...

May her soul RIP.... This is sooo sad! How can a man beat up a pregnant woman??? #confused face#
Do you know what she's going through??? Pregnancy alone is enuf stress not to talk of going through dat phase wiv a violent man!
Justice MUST be done ooh!! #Naija police take note#
May God rest her soul! Amen

Rita said...

I would have been in this category when i dated a guy called Sammy Ansa. He had good looks and swag but when he started laying his broke ass hands on me...it took God's intervention because I saw madness in his eyes everytime he did it. He is married now and all I feel for his wife is pity. @Evadmus, society expects us to suck it up and keep quiet! Relatives will always say "please, bear it", thank God im alive today.

Anonymous said...

Ds lilspicer i rily dnt knw wht to make of u...lol!'my gf is my pet..lol!'Hmm!y do women insist so much on remaining with a wife beater???y???a man that beats u once,wud neva stop until soemthing stops him ie: ur demise.One of my fervent prayers as a single lady at the moment, is for God to keep away wife beaters n eps Pedophiles away from me and God will never give u what u dnt desire so ladies,be watchful n prayerful cos even as most Nigerians these days are all 'born-agains',these kind of men abound in droves in Nigerian churches too.Pls women,if u are in an abusive relationship or marriage,LEAVE NOW before u LEAVE this Planet!!!

Anonymous said...

Rita says: I once dated a guy like that, he would beat the crap out of me and finally left me to marry a lady called Olamide. im so glad I survived the motherfucker! May he rot in hell and when he has a daughter, may she end up with a man as "nice" as her dad IJN amen!

Anonymous said...

mami chula says i do not empathize with silly women.y stay with a man who doesn't treat you right?he has killed her and would still move on to his next victim.till women begin to take charge of their lives men like kola would continue to ruin lives.she was d architect of her doom

Anonymous said...

Useless man,look at her bloodshot eyes in the picture,I am sure she had just gone through a round of beating

Anonymous said...

The signs of a wife beater or man that has the potential to become a wife beater,are very easy to decipher,just that most of us 'Love struck'ladies choose to live in denial and go ahead with the marriage.Its really a simple thing,a man who wud beat u in future as his wife,does not start to beat u when u eventually become his wife,it starts before u two become one except of course una do 'Solomon Grundy' marriage as in :'met on sunday,married on Monday'then u might not get the chance to see his 'dress rehearsal'but he will most definitely exhibit these traits howbeit in 'small proportions'which will gradually increase with time given your acceptance of the abuse.YOu might look at it as a 'playful slap'or 'nudge'but Ladies,a man who is really a "MAN"in the real sense of the word,no matter the aggravation,would NEVER under any annoying circumstance give u what u might categorise as a 'playful slap'because u annoyed him or spoke to him rudely,that man has good anger management and would either keep quiet or walk away.
Never get to the point where u begin to make excuses for his physical assault on you by taking responsibility for his action,Never worry what society would think if u walked away,Never ever feel ASHAMED to talk about the incidence with a trusted friend and take that RIGHT decision of walking away.RISE UP AGAINST WOMEN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.Women,u are very important,RE-DEIFINE YOUR VALUES!!!!!!

meg said...

I swear after seeing the man's name is Kola I began scrolling 2 c @Maximus comment. Lol

ebele said...

MAXIMUS: Looooooooool!! Plz dial her numbr wella som of us r tkn this kola rampage criosly

WittyMe said...

its very possible.
My sis was constantly beaten by her hubby when she was with her 1st pregnancy. He wanted to do same during the 2nd,when my sis became wise and left him.
She still has scars till now....

Anonymous said...

Marriage is not by force. I rather stay dan to die in pain. Some men re so Wicked. Who beats a pregnant woman?? Msheeeew

KOFOSHY said...

May her soul RIP...and as for the husby....baba God no dey sleep.

Anonymous said...

It saddens my heart that despite tales like this people still criticise single ladies am sad and angry at the same time if you no marry people go insult you if you marry husband go maltreat you wetin make we do my God.

Jenny-Coco said...

rita, he finally left u??so u were actually goin to continue enduring in d relationship if he didnt leave u?? smh...pathetic!!!!!

Anonymous said...

=))º°˚˚˚°ºнaĦaнaº°˚˚˚°º‎​=))
MAXIMUS™ don't let an association of Kola's in nigeria come after you

JENIFA said...

Laughing histerically at Maximus comment. I expected a stupid comment from you when I saw this post. Lol :)

FAY said...

May she rest in peace. I have never been a victim of spousal abuse, so I really can't say much. But if there's one thing I know is the women who are victims usually find it very hard to leave for many reasons: e.g: maybe he'll stop, he will beg sooo much after the violent act, she will look back on the many yrs she spent with him or the kids they have together. Family will beg her to "endure" and so on. It never ends well tho, so very sad...

Anonymous said...

Yoruba men are always beating their wives my husband is one and when I was pregnant he tried to cheat on me with some yeye girl like that I asked him wuz. Up with that and he started to beat me I almost died in that pregnancy bcos I developed complications from the stress I was going thru I give Gos glory for being alive today women pls look after urself put God and urself before any man u did not come to this world to be killed by an unworthy soul

Anonymous said...

As kenny rogers would sing, uve got 2 no wen 2 hold on, no wen 2 roll on, no wen 2 walk away and no wen 2 run!! Its not jus worth it, i ran away from my abusive marriage of 5yrs, thank God i dodged d bullet, could ve bin me lying 6 feet on d floor all in d name of marriage, Marriage is nt a do or die affair ladies, its beta 2 be alive n love ur kids frm a distance than be dead n leave dem motherless, all u women who remain in abusive relationships cos of ur kids, its nt worth it!! RUN RUN RUN!! May her soul Rip. Chinyere

Anonymous said...

btw you and Lilspicer I dunno whoz crazier. ROTFLMAO

Anonymous said...

I have been married for 6 years and my husband has never laid a finger on me! He is gentle and the sweetest man I have ever met, that's why I love him so much! If, God forbid, he tried to resort to violence, I would pack my things and leave without thinking twice, because I know the story would repeat itself! So for all you ladies out there in an abusive relationship, please leave, before is too late! You will find a better person, there are many men out there with good hearts.

Nikki Ogbuefi said...

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SUE JORDAN said...

TO ALL YOU WOMEN LIVING IN ABUSING HOMES BECAUSE "YOU MUST MARRY", I BEG YOU IN GOD'S HOLY NAME, LEAVE THAT MAN, MARRIAGE IS NOT WORTH LOSING YOUR LIFE OVER. MY ELDER SISTER JUST LEFT HER ABUSIVE HUSBAND AFTER 11 YEARS. SHE IS BETTER OFF NOW, LOOKING YOUNGER AND LIVING MUCH HAPPIER. MAN NO BE BY FORCE OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.....

Anonymous said...

polygamy or death. Women pls choose one, lol
PRES

Anonymous said...

Lol.lipslicer you have a girl ke? Tot u were gay.

Anonymous said...

Pls, leave d innocent child out of it.

Anonymous said...

WOMEN WILL NEVER LEARN THEY ARE SO DESPERATE TO ANSWER MRS THAT THEY RISK THEIR LIVES BECAUSE OF SOME WARPED CULTURE THAT SAYS A WOMAN IS INCOMPLETE AND UNACCOMPLISHED WITHOUT A MAN, SOME STUPID WOMEN BUY INTO THAT AND EVEN MAKE A MOCKERY OF THEIR FELLOW WOMEN WHO HAVE ACHIEVED SO MUCH BUT ARE SINGLE SOMETIMES BY CHOICE OR ARE PATIENTLY WAITING FOR THE RIGHT MAN.MARRIAGE IS NOT A DO OR DIE AFFAIR.

Janded said...

This is what happens when women are shamed into staying in bad marriages. is it by force to be married? I hope all the people that advised her to stay are happy now. RIP

Anonymous said...

If i talk now,they will say i'm not respecting the dead.wot on earth was she still doing there?"bear it my dear,bear it" oya let her be bearing it in her grave now.it beats me how women still sit and take crap from worthless a***holes.

Abeg,women should learn how to love with thier heads sometimes.

Anonymous said...

whats with this constant wife battering?is this also supposed to be signs of the end-time?

Anonymous said...

What kind of a man is that....he have succeeded in killing his wife and unborn child. What a tragedy!! the man should made to pay for this offense squarelly.

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Anonymous said...

i wonder when these yoruba men will stop maltreating their wives

ebony said...

o serious. mirinda ko goldspot ni. ebony say so via nokia n8

Anonymous said...

I support!

Anonymous said...

He suspected her of cheating on him?
He should have cheated on her too. Atleast the guilt of cheating on her would not have allowed him to beat her.

Anonymous said...

Kiaaaaa its sad so sad,kola or whatever his name is shoul burn in hell,he is a beast.

Anonymous said...

Oh my God! How could you say something like that?

Anonymous said...

That idiot that said yoruba men fack off please mtchewwwwww

Cee_Bill said...

Lol! Ok! @ dis rate I'm forced 2 bliv dat Linda just attaches d name "Kola" 2 d violent subject! Sup with all dem kola stories n all manners of violence???
Nw 2 d topic @ hand-ladies b careful hu u decide 2 settle down with. Pray 4 God's guidiance. Cheers!

Anonymous said...

i feel no empathy for her,she chose her path.linda u didn't post my comment earlier,well done o.

sexy22 said...

most people just feel its easy to get out of an abusive relationship, IF U HAVENT EXPERIENCED IT, THEN YOU SHOULDNT JUDGE!!!

Anonymous said...

A lot of Nigerian women are battered and cannot leave the husbands that are walloping them for the following reasons:

*Nowhere to go.
*Poverty.
*Single women are laughed at.
*They don't want to leave their kids behind, to suffer with a wicked step-mother.
*They imagine daily that the 'animal-in-husbands' would change.
*The 'animal-in husbands' begged them to stay.

Leave now, if you are battered like this than die like a chicken!

Anonymous said...

Linda, you have a duty to report news items fairly. Is it only Yoruba men who commit abuse in Nigeria? Or maybe you are afraid of going to do any real investigative journalism in the East.... your homeland. You hide your back side in Lagos because you are afraid of being kidnapped in the East?

Anonymous said...

You are an idiot for generalizing a whole tribe! My husband is Yoruba and he has never beat me and I know he will never do that! I could say you deserved what happened to you, but I will not, because I can't get down to your level! Maybe you should try to go back to school, so that you can learn how to spell "God".

Anonymous said...

What a life we r living. Notin is gona hapen to the man cos dts niger for us. Dy r jst gona arest n release him later. Nonsense niger....

anonymous mee said...

@jenny coco, @joy ojay. maybe u should not be emphatic on things u are not very knowledgeable about. not every man shows u signs of aggression when dating. i dated my ex husband for 2yrs plus, and married him for another 2yrs before he bagan to show his other side and it got to beating etc. from my experience i have learnt there are no rules when it comes to marriage and relationship. my husband was d best any man can be for d first one nd half years of marriage but i had wicked sisters in law staying with us who were ploting evil and i never knew those kind of things until everything just exploded like a bomb.my sister in law will share a bed with my husband then after the two of them would have beaten me. its not what i can start saying here but today at 40yrs of age she is not married yet and has wrecked him.heard he lives in a gate house (as in gate man house)now from a duplex.and d same family cant even help him after wrecking him. pls just pray to your God dt he shows u mercy and u dont enter such shit if not u will discover dt life doesnt play by "ur" rules just God's mercy.hope to write a book some day.

Unknown said...

No woman shld in the name of luv be a punching bag

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