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Friday, 22 May 2015

Reply to the post that 'advised' women to keep 'it' for their husbands

This morning, a LIB reader advised young women to zip it until a man put's a ring on it. (Read here). Some of you didn't quite agree. This LIB reader has replied the advice. Read below...
To the person who was 'advising' women to keep themselves for their husbands. If you are in any way spiritual or even a christian, you should know that keeping yourself, along with keeping every other commandment of God is for the sake of God. Not because of another imperfect human being like you. And if your advice has any moral basis, it would apply to men too. I would be very insulted by your article if I were a man because it means nobody is holding me to any expectation. Is it only women who have the capacity of self control? Make no mistakes, I am very much in support of keeping ones self pure for marriage but at least bring other things apart from your hymen to the table when in a relationship.
What of preaching independence, good character and resourcefulness to ladies. I think that is what even the bible describes as a virtuous woman. (Prov 31:10-31). Whats even ironic is that no part of that bible verse talks about being a virgin. To make up for your oversight, I will put this out there to all the chaste women who have to deal with undeserving men. For that man that is trying to lure you in his bed with the excuse of, "I have to know if we are sexually compatible." Ask that evil man, If I sleep with you once and we find out we are sexually compatible, will you stop? (after all, that is what he wants to find out).
If we find out it is actually you, the man that has a problem, will you be nice enough to break up with me immediately because heaven forbid I be in a relationship with someone who is sexually incompatible with me, according to his theory. Even married couples develop problems in their sex life as the years go by and sane people work it out. Not ditch their spouse for someone else who is better in bed like that is what being in a relationship is all about. I totally agree sex is very important in a marriage and if a couple are spending time together building something strong and are compatible in every other respect, It is as good as impossible to become incompatible only sexually.
To all those men that are telling you that "I have to try a car before I buy it". Ask him, all these people around the world in messy marriages, did they not "test the car?" Men need to prove their worth better than by how many women they land in their beds because if owning a penis is your measure of being a man, you would be surprised how many human beings around the world actually own penises.
Women, be wise as serpents. Men these days are getting everything from women without even being in a relationship with them so being a virgin is not enough. Be on point in every aspect so you can attract men of worth and actually have sound advice to give your daughters later in life instead of something as silly as "Your husband that is supposed to meet the thing chacha (brand new) will now meet esha (yoruba name for rotten)." Since men have learned to shoot without missing, birds should learn to fly without perching. Enough said.

170 comments:

Davido's driver said...

Gbam

Anonymous said...

Adviser
~D great anonymous!

Davido's driver said...

Awww I love this, sounding like the real bishop dammy, not the wretched attention seeker we have here

Unknown said...

Ooo

AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

You can preach that to the old school,this new school love tasting the water.

Unknown said...

Thank you very much for this wonderful post.
10000likes!

Anonymous said...

best post... So far!!

Anonymous said...

You people don't have work.

Unknown said...

My sister, God bless you for this.

Anonymous said...

BAM!

DADDYSWIFE said...

My dear iwe jikwa gi oo.lol! Dnt mind them.test ko leak ni.rubbish!
#nothankyoui'llratherbeselfmade

Unknown said...

This is an epistle but very articulate article. Linda take note!

Karlsson said...

One thing I ve noticed abt people that give unsolicited advice is that, they themselves don't live what they say. Pls keep ur useless opinions to urself. Most ladies don't ve anything to offer in a relationship other than their bodies.
Ubanagum

Unknown said...

Wow! Dis is wht I call epic response. Nevertheless d writer nailed it, and said it all.

Thumbs up to d writer, and more power to d writer elbows. Linda thanks for d post, and God bless u.

Unknown said...

Okay.

9jahub.com said...

nor be small thing here oh..

































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Anonymous said...

AND MORE TRASH WRITTEN BY WOMEN.

Anonymous said...

Spot on!!!!!! A million likes!! I too felt totally irritated by that article in the morning.

Cute G said...

Enough said. Thoughtfully penned.
All I'll say is if women are advised to keep it for their husbands, same principle should apply for the men. No one is deserving of worthless remains.

Unknown said...

Is this writer an ashawo?

Unknown said...

O yes o

Anonymous said...

#GBAM....said it all..
Where is the cow that wrote the 1st article....come and learn... adviser oshi. Cha cha or not if ur marriage wld end it wld end... that shldnt be the only reason for keeping urself...

Unknown said...

Lol

Anonymous said...

Bless u. Whoever u are. D idiot dint talk about how dey use and dump babes who are willing to go any length to satisfy dem and keep d relationship. Mscheww

Anonymous said...

Bless u. Whoever u are. D idiot dint talk about how dey use and dump babes who are willing to go any length to satisfy dem and keep d relationship. Mscheww

Unknown said...

Dis one too no follow O jare
still places 'chastity' on a pedestal

Anonymous said...

Bless u. Whoever u are. D idiot dint talk about how dey use and dump babes who are willing to go any length to satisfy dem and keep d relationship. Mscheww

Anonymous said...

Bless u. Whoever u are. D idiot dint talk about how dey use and dump babes who are willing to go any length to satisfy dem and keep d relationship. Mscheww

Unknown said...

What is so difficult about a girl controlling her toto. If a beautiful girl like Lara Oshimole can do it, why can't other girls of less beauty do it?

Unknown said...

Well said

Unknown said...

What is so difficult about a girl controlling her toto. If a beautiful girl like Lara Oshimole can do it, why can't other girls of less beauty do it?

Anonymous said...

hard as it may seem, impossible as it may sound, I support this. The things to look out for when choosing a partner does not include great sex. Love, compatibility, respect, responsiveness, engaged Christian, generous are more important things to keep you interested. Sex is everywhere, it ain't peculiar to you

Unknown said...

OK naa....waiting for anoda reply, una no go use una time trek? For gej or buhari other Dan writing lol

Anonymous said...

All this stupid women writing rubbish about keeping youself and what. Why cant women be independent, why do they have to rely on men for every thing. If you are a woman and all you can bring to a relationship is spreading you legs, then you are nothing but a liability. All women want is marrige, so after marriage what next, you start sucking on the mans wealth until he dies abi. To hell with all you gold diggers.

amaka said...

God bless this Liber for me jare.. ur so on point... lmao @chacha and esha

Anonymous said...

I agree with almost all of your post.what you omitted however is where you wrote on having good advice for our daughters.

That is the error we keep making as African parents(I don't know the European or American family values).We keep emphasizing on raising daughters to do xyz.Male children are from birth giving the Barton to be assholes!I think we put too much pressure on girl children to be every thing from A-Z and everything in between.

The sooner we start bringing up our male children as if we will be the ones to marry them and live with them,the better for everyone.

eka said...

premarital sex advice is only 4 women
whereas guys are exempted.....lol

Unknown said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
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Ok gud write up is gud to be a man i swear bcos no one can tell if yu are a virgin or not...
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

Unknown said...

Gbam!

Unknown said...

....meeting the thing chacha till marriage is phrase used by most irresponsible men who are scared that their sins will come back to hunt them. those kinds of men are seriously shallow and based relationship on just sex. nothing beats a matured supportive woman with good character. These are what matters most in a relationship.

Anonymous said...

This your comments are paining me now cause I hv loved this guy for so long n have done some crazy things with him but now that he has gotten a whole lot of me,he started acting up. Then I go to his house,wash,clean n cook as a normal thing for me sha as in what I do at home his now tired of me. No p una write up good oh but it's late. How I wish I closed this legs of mine n waited I won't be in this pains tonight. Heartbroken babe

Unknown said...

Hahahahahaha OK it's only getting better, buh hey poster tell Ur daughter if she can't let me inn she shld get the hell out period. #THAT AKWA IBOM BOY#

NMaa said...

Well written piece.

Unknown said...

21 Gbosas!!

STERN said...

You talk too much. Just sharrap.

CARDDY said...

Are you for or against the advice? Your comment started off as being antagonistic. Women who like should sell thier vaginas to the highest bidder. It is thier honour they are frittering. However, it is not enough to be a virgin. One should also be virtuous and God fearing with virginity.

Unknown said...

Rightly said!


OKORO UPGRADED**

ADAOBI said...

The whole shit jst got real.....kip da comments rollin in......sippin my maggarita...wit sele water

Anonymous said...

Correct...well said. Enough of women being harassed as if there are alone in this

Anonymous said...

Oshheeeey! Wa gbayi

Anonymous said...

....And what exactly is the point of this reply? Makes no sense kobo!

Unknown said...

Well said.......... #fact.

Lilian chinomso said...

Yeah! I like this.anyway the other girl tried too

Anonymous said...

Linda, for real this is one of the best post have read today. I like things like this..

Anonymous said...

Lmao @the last part of the post! Spot on. I'll agree with u a million times. Better words spoken about the men folks who feel we as women need to prove ourselves more..

Unknown said...

too long jare!

Unknown said...

I usually dont comment often, but I just want to give thunbs up to dis poster.

Anonymous said...

All this noise about virgins and people coming up to write epistles, not basically bcos they have anything to argue nor any points to make but only to satisfy their low self esteems, the I don write make people dey comment for lib syndrome. I mean what's your business if an adult whether male or female decide to shag all the way to Kuwait or die a Virgin. What's all this noise for?? Is it your pussy they use in shaging or your dick?? Have you remove the log in your eyes before seeking to remove the peck in others. Abeg let sleeping dogs lie. Nobody be small pikin for here n everybody have their lives to leave, Abeg.

Anonymous said...

Gbam

Anonymous said...

LINDA IKEJI REGRETS NOT BEING A VIRGIN

Anonymous said...

Epic response!

Unknown said...

Walahi, you have nailed it on the head. I give you 5 points.

Anonymous said...

My sentiiments. God bless u

ASAMPOKOTO said...

GADDAMN! Standing ovation yoooooo! Enough said. Love it

Anonymous said...

PREACHHHH

Unknown said...

I love u ma'am n I totally agree wif u...ma tuts exactly!

Unknown said...

I love u ma'am n I totally agree wif u...ma tuts exactly!

Unknown said...

I prefer to marry a former runs girl that knows how to make a man feel as if he is in heaven with different sex tricks and styles than to marry a virgin that don't know how to take care of her man in bed.

Unknown said...

I prefer to marry a former runs girl that knows how to make a man feel as if he is in heaven with different sex tricks and styles than to marry a virgin that don't know how to take care of her man in bed.

Unknown said...

Spot on!

Unknown said...

A thousand kisses and hugs for this writer. Couldn't have said it better!



#TeamBlessed#

Unknown said...

Lmao drama Oya let d comment roll in


Lib freak

Unknown said...

Gbam!!! you deserve a kiss #oyatakeit# pls tell am being a virgin is not just enough

Anonymous said...

In the bible fornication is equal punishment for both men and women. It is not one sided. Men should also learn to zip up their trousers. If every man that ask you out says they must have sex before marraige, then when u finally get married, they will be counting the number of men u have slept with on your head. It is not a man's world as people normally say. The bible says fornication is a sin and it appplies to both men and women.

Unknown said...

This is very powerful and it is very true. God bless you who wrote this piece

Unknown said...

Thank you very much.

..........................Syndilove said...

Yes! You're right. It doesn't end at being a virgin.

Anonymous said...

I Dnt do dis but pls whoever d writer is if u r nt married, I will love to b a Frnd , *_not married* cos most women b tinkin all singles ladies r snatchers' ,best words, brilliantly gathered and applied. Thumbs up, bibiforeal @yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

Wise words.....

LIB said...

preach it sister

Unknown said...

Very good writer

Unknown said...

Somborri is vexing o.. well said sister! Tell em!

Anonymous said...

Don't mind these advisers. Men need to keep themselves because fornication is a son against GOD.

Anonymous said...

Gbammest. Sharumi

Anonymous said...

Certainly on point!

Unknown said...

Babe you killed it. Oooooops

beautiful said...

One tin I love about social network.it is wher over sabi and self absorbed people get served for their silly ideas.

Unknown said...

So correct

Anonymous said...

You must have been hit by the earlier post for you to come out this strong . I disagree with you 1000% . If you have been used by many men then don't come here to encourage other ladies in a bad way . Just get out of here .

Anonymous said...

Osheyyyy!!! I concur!!!

Amanda said...

Gbam!

Unknown said...

Well said!!

Abraham Ndu said...

Preach to me bro....u just blew my mind away. I just thought that article was trash. Jeeeezzz...wish u hv a name, wud hv invited u to our serminar....am in luvvvvvvvvvvv....bite me if u dnt like dis article.....

Abraham Ndu said...

Preach to me bro....u just blew my mind away. I just thought that article was trash. Jeeeezzz...wish u hv a name, wud hv invited u to our serminar....am in luvvvvvvvvvvv....bite me if u dnt like dis article.....

Abraham Ndu said...

Preach to me bro....u just blew my mind away. I just thought that article was trash. Jeeeezzz...wish u hv a name, wud hv invited u to our serminar....am in luvvvvvvvvvvv....bite me if u dnt like dis article.....

Anonymous said...

On Point! God bless U, Any man looking for a virgin must be a virgin too! Stupid Men everywhere.

Bonario's baby mama said...

A woman after my own heart. U captured my mood exactly

Subomi said...

this person should have just written an advice to men not reply the lady that wrote for women

Runty said...

*since men av learned to shoot without missing,birds should learn to fly without perching*...dat part made ma nyt.....God bless u for dis write-up

Unknown said...

You're on POINT!

didi said...

Gbam!...well said!

Cynthia Puzo said...

Nice 1

Unknown said...

STARTED OK...THEN THIS WRITE UP WHEN ON ABOUT WOMEN SHOULD KEEP THEMSELVES......IN OTHER WORSD, THIS PERSON STARTED BY SAYING "WHAT ABOUT MEN" BUT SHE WAS ALSO POINTING FINGERS AT WOMEN.

IT IS UP TO EACH AND EVERY SINGLE PERSON WHAT THEY DO. WE WILL ALL HAVE TO ANSWER TO GOD INDIVIDUALLY....NOT AS A GROUP.

YOU CANNOT SIT DOWN THERE AND JUDGE SOMEBODY ELSE WHEN YOU HAVE NOT WORKED IN THERE SHOES

WHAT ABOUT WOMEN WHO ARE RAPED? WHAT ABOUT WOMEN IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE? WHAT ABOUT WOMEN WHO DO NOT KNOW BETTER? WHAT IF IT IS CIRCUMSTANCE THAT HAS DRIVEN A PERSON TO THAT POINT? WHAT ABOUT WOMEN WHO SIMPLY CANNOT CONTROL THEMSELVES? ......SO BECAUSE THEY HAVE LOST THERE VIRGINITY REGARDLESS OF THEIR CIRCUMSTANCE, DOES THAT MAKE THEM ANY LESS A VIRTUOUS AS A VIRGIN?

I SIMPLY THANK GOD THAT GOD IS NOT MAN.............GOD LOOKS AT YOUR HEART, YOUR SPIRIT...YOUR INTENTIONS.

STOP JUDGING WOMEN ABEG.

FYI......I PERSONALLY, DO NOT BELIEVE ANY MAN DECEIVES A VIRGIN BRIDE IF HE IS NOT EQUALLY A VIRGIN HIMSELF.

ALSO, IF YOU ASK ANY RANDOM MEN, MOST OF THEM CANNOT EVEN COUNT HOW MANY WOMEN THEY HAVE SLEPT WITH......SO ASK YOURSELF....DOES THAT KIND OF A MAN HAVE THE RIGHT TO DEMAND FOR A VIRGIN?

AFRICA...WHEN WILL YOU STOP WITH THIS DOUBLE STANDARDS EXACTLY?

IF A WOMAN CHOOSES TO STAY A VIRGIN TILL HER WEDDING NIGHT....THAT SHOULD BE A THING BETWEEN HER AND HER GOD, IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE MAN WHO HAS A WONDERING DICK.

Anonymous said...

virginity is overrated

i could give a rats ass

id rather marry a woman who gives gr8 head and knows how to throw the pussy at me than a JJC

but different strokes for different folks

besides i met my wife a virgin but that doesnt mean i wont visit any othr busstop where may other buses have parked...

Anonymous said...

Gbam! Having read this, complete the matter by reading Steve Harvey's, "Act like a lady, Think like a man" and listening to the HOTR Classic, "Sanctified Sexuality" by Pastor O. Efoye

Unknown said...

the wisest most ever. the most stupid part was the part he or she described a womans private part thats not her potrayed virgin, "ESHA,....ROTTEN" such derogatory statement on womanhood. you did well by bringing such mentality to other.

Jay said...

Well said. I respect this writer. Well done

Anonymous said...

FOR ONCE THERE IS A SANE INTELLIGENT AND SENSIBLE LIBER!!!!....KUDOS!
NOT ALL THOSES PAMPAS MAKING PAMPAS COMMENTS. THANKS JOR! MAY U LIVE LONG!

Anonymous said...

This makes more sense. When a woman thinks her worth is her pussy, there is no difference between her and a prostitute.

Eche said...

It is better to corroborate the article or the points in it to make it more robust rather than attack it. It is not a competition.

Unknown said...

Lolz, anoda reply pls?

Unknown said...

Lolz, anoda reply pls?

Unknown said...

Well said well done

Kikimartini said...

Ah this woman is the most wise woman on earth said it all...

molebaba said...

So much concur with u my dear! In this era we a just being a virgin without other virtues will take u no where! Men this days even prefer non virgins but with better understanding of what is takes to be a Lady too a virgin that lacks the basic "know how" of life. Mother's please go beyond teaching your daughters to be virgins...

Anonymous said...

Well said.

Anonymous said...

this person is guilty so she need a justification lol

Nekky Cynthia said...

Well said

Unknown said...

Hmmmmmmm ok

Unknown said...

Wow dear poster u have said it all. I commend u for d great insight on this issue. Pls men being a man is alt more dan d numerous ladies u have slept with and women know your worth.

Anonymous said...

Well said, Linda I didn't even expect someone like you to put up that first post.

Unknown said...

Lovely reply

Anonymous said...

Dang! I love the ending! "Since men have learnt to shoot without missing, birds must learn to fly without perching". Be wise ladies! A word is enough for the wise..

Anonymous said...

I am all for staying chaste before marriage for the love of God. Not for some man who has bedded many women but expects me to be untouched. My husband knew not to discuss who I slept with or didn't sleep it. Cos he was no virgin when we met. Women don't accept double standards that men give us. Do all you do for God. He will truly bless you.

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4nkylization said...

U av been noticed.

Anonymous said...

Gbam#

Unknown said...

Well said....... u really hit the nail on the head. Nice # a word us enough for the wise

Unknown said...

Gbam!!! dats all.

Jules said...

Lol...the war begins!

Unknown said...

Help me ask Mr. Anonymous if the woman give great head would he get down on her?

Manuel Kunmi said...

Yes this is more sensible than the earlier message.. I totally concur with this

Anonymous said...

100k wisher why don't you just jump into a river full of crocodiles? Stop hating hungry idiot.

Otuonye Chidera said...

Adviser to marital affairs


This is absurd: SEE what the didnt know about

NaijaDeltaBabe said...

We don see am

Unknown said...

You are absolutely correct. Your point well articulated and marshaled out. I wish I can meet you and dash you $200. Linda, I have a gift of $200 for this response.

Jasmine Joseph said...

Damn that was some long epilogue, more grease to ur elbows association of advicers

Unknown said...

U wer just contracting Ursef in d write up &Poster
* * * Linda's 1st Daughter * * *

Unknown said...

Hep me ask o
* * * Linda's 1st Daughter * *

Dreezy the quidnunc said...

Exactly ... Nigerian girls tho .. Abi African deni

Anonymous said...

Ooo what? You were hailing the first write-up. Royal Priesthood my ass!

ary said...

Virginity is overrated. I am not against keeping yours, but like the writer said come with other packages too to a relationship. But also, who would men do, if all when decided to keep themselves for marriage?

Anonymous said...

Smart talk. Ur rite

Anonymous said...

Ur so irresponsible. So u approve of cheating. If ur wive was to visit other bustop, would approve of that??.

Anonymous said...

Ur truly right. The writer is just looking for a way to comfort his/ herself.

Anonymous said...

He was wrong for saying virginity is not written in the bible.... so many verses states" flee from fornication" which means don't have extramarital sex and worth not (out side marriage) . This applies to both my brother man, and sister woman. (MALE AND FEMALE OR TRANSGENDERS TOO )

Anonymous said...

Christy come let's test

Anonymous said...

Sarap ya mouth there joor...

Anonymous said...

To hell with u too....God God created you men and gave d responsibility of providing for ur home u didn't know abi? Stay there be talking rubbish, don't go get a life...

Anonymous said...

And ur punctuations???

Anonymous said...

With all pleasure....hahahaha. Stay there and be waiting for who will let u in. U will die,searching. Better get a life! Period!

HRH Prince Serve said...

This one enter no b small talk. Smart babe

prettiyz said...

Nice one

Anonymous said...

U are just a typical male specie, her advice is not unsolicited but a response to an "unsolicited advice". Wake up and smell the coffee, times are fast changing, women have a lot more to offer than their body.

Anonymous said...

Well said.

Unknown said...

I quite agree wit u

Unknown said...

This is so right,

Unknown said...

The write up is okay, we have always expected the women folk to be chaste, quiet, and productive but we don't like when they stand up to us, we don't want them to learn new things or be sophisticated or challenge us the men but we secretly nurse an ambition to bed the seemingly free and Sophisticated woman. It shows that we are not sure of ourselves and afraid of our authority being challenged.

Unknown said...

Premarital sex advice is for everyone

Unknown said...

Mr. Anonymous is self conceited if his delight is a a girl sucking him would suck the girl in return

Ina said...

Wow. Who is this writer?
Mwah

the queen said...

Confused writer! Lol

Unknown said...

Definitely, times are past when women just want to be homemaker. This is not a wake up call and no need to smell no coffee, virginity is not an essential commodity and surely will not be accepted as a collateral. I only asked for tit to be ready for tat

Anonymous said...

Gbam 10million likes. Well said. iphone6 says so....

Unknown said...

God bless this writer.
'if owning a penis is your measure of being a man, you would be surprised how many human beings around the world actually own penises.' I love that part most

Unknown said...

God bless this writer.
'if owning a penis is your measure of being a man, you would be surprised how many human beings around the world actually own penises.' I love that part most

Unknown said...

God bless this writer.
'if owning a penis is your measure of being a man, you would be surprised how many human beings around the world actually own penises.' I love that part most

Anonymous said...

Lmao. Virgin. Obviously.

Unknown said...

wise words

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