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Friday, 22 May 2015

How a school in Ajah killed my son - grieving mother writes

I just got this email from a grieving mum who lost her 1 year old son last year at his creche in a school in Ajah. He choked to death while eating. Read her heartbreaking story below...
"Please share my story to the world. I would have sent this earlier but it took God's Grace and courage because I am still in pain. My son's name is Oluwatamilore Holloway. I enrolled him in Debiruss creche on the 16th of September as soon as he clocked 1 on the 13th of sept, 2014. He was loving and peaceful, but I wanted him to mingle with people. On the 26th of November, 2014, I was called by the school authority to meet them at Budo Hospital in Ajah around 2pm. I was in Ajah market so I rushed there, unfortunately I did not meet my Tamilore alive, he was dead, I asked them what happened and they couldn't give me an answer.
I was told probably he was dehydrated and the hospital told me he was brought in dead. I asked the Nanny what happened, she said he woke up and she was feeding him, that she gave him the first spoon and that when she was about to give him the second spoon, he started closing his eyes, thank God for autopsy which revealed that my son died due to Aspiration of Food particles in the lungs, definitely, he was choked to death with food.
As soon as they heard the result was out, they started coming to my house to beg me, they even went to my priest in church. It had to take the intervention of my priest that I should just leave everything to God.
They came to me and they offered to close down the creche and get a Nurse for the school and that they would write my Family an Apology letter , that was in January which I haven't gotten as I write this .
I also noticed that during Christmas they had the effontary to decorate their school, despite the fact that my son just died, they told me they had already contacted the decorator and that they couldn't stop him, they even had Christmas party which I felt it wasn't fair on my part.
I gave them 3 conditions that they should get a professional Nurse, get a CCTV for their school and they should get a Qualified child minder , but they only came back to tell me they were going to close the creche and that it will only be opened for the children of their staff.
On the 6th of May,I went to the school to find out what was happening, if they had truly closed the creche, I went in through the back gate and I went straight to the creche,I found out , they had no Nurse, one of the child minders who was working there,was still there, there was no CCTV and the crèche was not closed down, because I saw other children from outside who was also with my son in the crèche.  I was told they got a Nurse and I think the working conditions was not suitable for the Nurse so she had to leave.
My grievance is that they carried on in their normal Business as if nothing happened, and I expected them to do the needful, I did not even ask them for a dime, but I said for the sake of other children, they should get Qualified people who will take care of the children should in case first Aids has to be given but because they are money conscious, they would rather let the worst happen than prevent it, and what they do is to convert an ordinary cleaner to a Nanny or child minder to save cost. A Nanny who is not experienced and who can't even feed a child. They have to do the needful before they kill other children, who can't speak for themselves like my poor son.

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Anonymous said...

Na wa ooo

Davido's driver said...

Touching...

Unknown said...

Chai!... Really feel her pain. Negligence is the number one cause of death..

Davido's driver said...

May God comfort your family. Lindaobserve

Unknown said...

hmmm, so sad. I think the school should be closed down, owners sued that is justice.
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Anonymous said...

What Crechnis this? My God...my heart sank reading this story. I am a mother and I can't imagine the pain you are going through...May God give the writer strength. Please publish the name of the Crech. We need some accountability in this country

Unknown said...

Rip T.

Unknown said...

So evil according to rihanna.really evil

Unknown said...

But this could be reported to the government and take awareness to other mom out there to be aware.really very sad to loss a son or a child.madam ig you're a catholic.God is your strength.

Anonymous said...

She suppose Sue Dat School. Which kind Sch be dat. Even Dog nd Monkey don get sch #Lobatan

Chikaka said...

Heartbreaking.

Anonymous said...

So sad,Rip to him

Unknown said...

So sad...creche?very risky but sum mothers have no choice

Anonymous said...

Clear case of involuntary manslaughter

Jasmin said...

Another reason for today's so called "working moms" to re-assess their priorities. God will hold these mothers responsible for abandoning their children in search or God-knows-what. As for the school, they should be sued and closed down.

Unknown said...

I am so sorry about your loss. but wait o. What is the Lagos State ministry for education for? I advice you petition further. People should stop toying with children's lives. it's pathetic. Am sorry once again.

Being Tochi said...

Useless story because she dint say the name of the creche

Juleslouis said...

Oh my! So sorry for your loss madam. D nigerian economy has affected women so badly that we have to go and make money rather than give d kids adequate care. I just resigned from my job cuz of my babies but not very many husbnads r buoyant enough to care for d whole family without assistance. May God help us and heal u.

Unknown said...

Ooo

Unknown said...

Oh! No!

Unknown said...

That's sad

Anonymous said...

Painful, RIP son. parents be careful please and may God save us.Amen

Unknown said...

Woah! Dis is so sad. She should have reported to the authorities, am sure the school would have been closed down. May the soul of the Lil boy rest in peace. Linda take note!

Unknown said...

Please slam them with a court case. They cant go scot free....

Unknown said...

Woah! Dis is so sad. She should have reported to the authorities, am sure the school would have been closed down. May the soul of the Lil boy rest in peace. Linda take note!

Anonymous said...

this is my first time commenting but felt the need to as this is heartbreaking and my heart goes out to this grieving mum.i had a driver with a drink problem who i let go for that reason but was shocked to my bones when i saw him driving a debirus school bus.i wondered how they vet drivers before allowing them drive peoples kids hence i rang the school to alert them of the driver/situation but still saw him driving weeks later.it shows this school has little or no value for kids they are meant to be custodians of....they really need to be investigated

Unknown said...

First of all, I pity you, I can't imagine what what you are going through now.
Secondly, just leave everything in the hands of God, you've tried your best to make sure other children won't suffer your child's fate.

Mr Bob said...

May his soul continue 2 rest in peace...Govt shud pls close down dat skool and any other skools dat ar having such uncomfortable teaching environmental...my condolence 2 d bereaved mother...take hrt n God bless u ma as u care abot other pple's children well being.

4nkylization said...

U put ur child in school at 1? Well, tk heart madam.

Unknown said...

So sad!!!

Anonymous said...

Dear Mrs Holloway, accept my condolences. May God continue to grant you the fortitude to bear this great loss. It is just the grace and protection of God that keep our children in school/crèche. Most staff there are not qualified and Nigeria's economy and no job, took them there.

Angie Cape said...

Madam, take heart.. GOD knows best.
May such never befall us IJN.. Amen!

Unknown said...

omg and they still have license to continue?...isnt der like appropraite authorities dat inspect creches? omo serious rain go fall 4dat school if it wer a mom like myself.see d way dey goin about it like its a chicken dat died. take heart my dear. it is well.may God bless ur womb wit twins soon.

Anonymous said...

Dear Mrs Holloway, accept my condolences. May God continue to grant you the fortitude to bear this great loss. It is just the grace and protection of God that keep our children in school/crèche. Most staff there are not qualified and Nigeria's economy and no job, took them there.

Anonymous said...

oh my God!! This so horrible, this place is near my house. I'm so sorry Tamilore's mum, may God ease your pain and burden. He will never leave you. This is the worst type of loss for anyone. I am currently looking for a creche for my child and this has really scared me. You cannot blame yourself, God is with you and may He continue to be with your family. I never comment on blogs but this is just horrendous. I will suggest you consider Legal Action because it is our lack of action that allows such incompetent people to continue to practice such evil. That school IS STILL open ,I go by the place everyday. Tamilore deserves justice, and like you rightly said other children must be protected. God bless you for your courage and I am deeply deeply sorry for your loss.

Anonymous said...

This is too sad! may God protect our children. We can't carry them for 9months and dey end up dying at d hands of an ignorant child minder! It's well Mrs Holloway. God would give u double for your trouble!

Unknown said...

Too bad ,,, take heart ma'am vengeance is for God

Unknown said...

Sorry for your loss ma'am.sad situation. Sorry

Unknown said...

Indeed tins really do happen in our world even worse than dis. Ka! Another pain in my heart bcos of dis story couple wit d economy conditions we r facing.

I pray God grant her family d fortitude to bear their loss. RIP to ur belove son, and pls take heart. God wil surely judge those responsible.

dharmmy said...

May his soul rest in peace, Amen

Anonymous said...

Sorry for your loss my sister. It would only take a mum to understand what you are going through. But the fact remains that our government is to be blamed. There should be an agency monitoring the activities of these institutions but as it is, they are after money.

Lilian Fc Barcelona said...

Oh Jesus!!! Too bad that Tamilore died.

Anonymous said...

Please include the name, its Debiruss school in Ajah.

Nky said...

OMG I feel for her, is really heart breaking..

Anonymous said...

i was divastated as am going tru ur msg as mother,i think the crech have to be shut down for the sake of other children,may Almighty God provide another child for u soonest ,the one that will be with u for life.

Unknown said...

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Anonymous said...

May his soul rest in peace.AMEN.Really sad.Nigerian schools are just about money,it's so sad.

Bonita Bislam said...

Painful.I expected other parent that have kids in that school to protest and demand better living condition for their kids.Or are they waiting for another incident before they do somthing

Familyforallmembers said...

schools today has turn somtin i cant explain imagine d one i red yestday abt the dat official alow student to sleep wif each oda....well this is God oh....#scepp

Abekeade said...

Chai!! The way and manner people open creche this days is amazing!!! The government Shld pls find something to do about it!!

Unknown said...

may his soul rest in perfect peace amen.

Anonymous said...

awwwwww!!!! that scool should be closed downs ASAP.

Reina said...

Madam I know u r grieving and nothing u do will bring ur son back. Just let it go. It hurts but just let it go. Hugs.

Anonymous said...

awwwwww!!!! that scool should be closed downs ASAP.

Unknown said...

Ehya....take hrt madam. God knows d best.

Anonymous said...

Governmet should close down that school quickly

Anonymous said...

Eiyeeeee! felt cold right inside my spine as i read this. so sorry about your loss ma.i will never put my 1yr old in any creche.

Unknown said...

eyaaaa.....So Sorry!.... Your Baby is in a Better Place!..."There's Always A Purpose In The Pain #ItIsWell.

Unknown said...

One of the reasons why I detest Creche. Their middle name is negligence

Sorry ma'am for the loss of your ward. May God console u

Unknown said...

One of the reasons why I detest Creche.Their middle name is Negligence

Sorry for you loss ma'am. May God console you

Damochedxb said...

Excuse me madam you are a very patient person... May God turn your loss to double blessing... And that creche needs to be shut down asap.

Anonymous said...

It is well with u dear. God knows best. As mothers, u have to leave everything in the hands of God. Having househelps with d kids at home is not any better. The school should be ashamed and close down. The fact that they haven't employed qualified hands makes it worse. Get a very good creche.. Might be abit expensive, but u will know ur kids are well taken care of

Unknown said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
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Yu are such a gud woman and this little investigation yu did will greatly solve matters no doubt.....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

Chebaby said...

I feel your pain sister.....

Unknown said...

Hmmm RIP lill olu buh madam dat boy is still young to leave ur side 4 crying out loud his jst 1yr old haba.. well 4 d skul I pray dey dnt enta in2 anoda prob since dey dnt want to employ a Nurse and a good Nanny.


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Unknown said...

I know that school, its at Bodore, Ajah. Hmmm.....

Unknown said...

Take heart.may his soul rest in peace

Unknown said...

Heartbreaking....RIP lil boy.

Unknown said...

If they don't want to take precautionary measure,she shld report them.

Anonymous said...

this leaving things to god justice system though...smh. typical naija mentality. A dead child and you leave things to God? issorait.

Anonymous said...

Madam. Close down the school it's dat simple cos if u talk from now till eternity nothing would change

Peediva 4 real said...

Am so sory for ur loss madam, but isn't a 1 yr old too small to be left in the hands of strangers??? just asking anyways, but I feel mothers should be fully responsible for their children until they are 2yrs old @ least before taking them to be enrolled in school, such a beautiful baby may he find peace with God, so sad..... Peediva said

Abraham Ndu said...

My Nigeria...land of heartless guys...it's well with you!

Anonymous said...

Give the address of he school please,no child should die like that. Infact show the picture of the school.
God Almighty will give you back your son in a very short time. When things like this happens, do not let any priest or pastor, not even bishop deceive you, report to the authority to save others

Anonymous said...

This is so sad and a pity that the boy died, i Pray God give you more children. Please the school authority have to do something before another tragedy struck. To all care giver and nanny please be of God conscience and diligent in your duties. Accept my sympathy woman.

p said...

Hmmmm. its so unfortunate. Take heart ma. I think the management of the crèche should take dressing pls

Anonymous said...

Oooo-uuuuh! Dis is really a sad story,but madam you cant just free d creche,I expected you to sue d place..its kind of your fault,because you didn't take any drastic action against them,thats' why they played u,they took your kindness for weakness probably,madam please sue dis people if your in Abj,cal dis number 08o33221149,and u'd b glad you did..you dnt have anything to loose ma,we'd handle d case pro bono!..so sorry pls accept our deepest sympathy...am so pissed ryt nw sef..

Anonymous said...

Xo sad...take hrt

Unknown said...

Oh dear, this is so painful! May the good lord console you ma and my your late son keep resting in the bossom of the lord. Amen. That said, there some element of truth in that story as regards the school, but my lips are sealed. Please the school authority should please do the needful asap!

Thatigbobabe(Lilyflower) said...

Awwwwwn! This is terrible and am so teary.
RIP to ur son..
That Creche should be closed down ASAP

joy said...

God help us!

Anonymous said...

na wa o! if its not nanny wahala its creche stories. what kind of trend is this biko nu?

Unknown said...

Awww... so sad.. may his soul rip

Anonymous said...

wow I am so sorry for your loss Ms. Holloway. May God comfort you and soothe you during this time.

Patrick said...

Very sad and scary. God will take care of things for you Mrs Holloway.

Unknown said...

Hmmmmm this is so sad poor child poor mother what do you expect from a country that cant even provide and monitor the educational system!!everybody will just wake up and set up a school even in their living rooms.my heart goes out to you Rip to your son.

Dr. Who said...

Painful.

rhodajc said...

May God help us

Toyin said...

Wow that's insane. Surely you can sue. Through negligence, you've lost your baby and they just go on like nothing happened. They should be made to pay. This is not about leaving it to God. When your child errs, do you not punish him? They need to realise what they've done is unacceptable. Nigeria and lawlessness. You think this will happen in the UK or US and their business will just go as normal? I don't think so. Please get justice for your son.

Unknown said...

This is sad......


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Anonymous said...

You are very kind and a bit naive. That place would have been closed down before they kill someone else. Nigerians and their priest said. Save a life and SUE THESE MONSTERS

Mz Lolo... said...

Hmm! Sad

AppleofGod'seye said...

Uwww,Oluwatamlore means God gve u a gift,hmmm madam pls let God Himself console u cos no one can,u alone knows wat it feels like,i pray d creche is closed down.Tis well wth u ma

Anonymous said...

For goodness sake Linda she should let us know the people behind this death trap so other people can be saved from this turmoil!! May the child's gentle soul rest in peace and may the comfort of the Holy Spirit keep this woman in perfect peace

Anonymous said...

I wouldn't say how you feel .but I can feel your pain I had the feeling about this school when I went their for enquiry . And I said to myself its a death trap, yet the school fees is about= N=258,000.00. A population in class is about 30. Confused staff, dirty looking staff. My dear may God console you

Anonymous said...

Oh my word, God bless you for having the love to look out for other children despite your loss. Why are people so wicked and selfish, you are liable killed for her som's death through their carelessness yet you went ahead to do party! No remorse

Still they are refusing to put in place things that will protect other children. The government should shut them down and other crèches should be monitored and those non compliant closed down to

Unknown said...

Nawaaoo, I can't imagine d pain dis woman is going thru.......my dear, God will give u d fortitude to bear ur loss and may God continue to protect our children

Anonymous said...

That the reason will never put my child in crèche .

7F098C19 said...

Yes its painful, but its past and ur pastors have - has prayed for u. So stop making people feel bad over a past event. Sorry abt ur like boy, but by now u should move on and stop policing the school. Engr Emy

Ugwu Harrison said...

may his soul rest in peace.Amen

Harrimomoh said...

May her soul rest in peace.Amen

Unknown said...

So touching.. don't worry God will fight for u.

nonye said...

What a loss! Cute boy

Chynell said...

Eiya, may ur son RIP. Poor cute one

Anonymous said...

Good gracious God; i have a one year old son so I can relate perfectly well. May God console u madam, only God can console a grieving parent. Pls take heart. As for the creche, this should put them on their toes.

Anonymous said...

Oh my God! Their school bus comes around to pick my neighbor's kids. They probably kept feeding the child while he was crying and wasn't cautious . This will create a bad name for the school. Losing a child is a terrible thing , especially now with mere carelessness. I really feel for this woman.

Unknown said...

Oga oooo

Parker said...

I'm really sorry this happened to you. No mother should ever have to go through this. I suggest you get the help of an attorney and carry out legal actions against the school for their recklessness and poor care for the children. I'm so sorry and my heart goes out to you.

Unknown said...

Eyha, such a lovely child.

Anonymous said...

so sorry for your loss,may his precious soul RIP.

African foodstuff and Raw Materials said...

My God! Am sorry for ur loss madam, such a cute boy, may ur gentle soul RIP.. I jst don't like seeing tinz like dis.. Pls dat scul shud be closed down...

African foodstuff and Raw Materials said...

My God! Am sorry for ur loss madam, such a cute boy, may ur gentle soul RIP.. I jst don't like seeing tinz like dis.. Pls dat scul shud be closed down...

Unknown said...

this is callous..the creche should be punished by the appropriate authorities..am sori for your loss

Chukwukamma said...

It is a pity life has been lost. My advise is that mothers should learn how to take care of their children themselves, no one can do that the way you would. A year old baby is too young to be taking to creche whatever is your reason. To bad that this mother is learning in a hard way, God will bless you with more children, please take heart.

MY TURN said...

Accept my condolence ... useless school i am so sharing this story

Anonymous said...

Report this incidence to the govt don't let go please, so that they will be thought a lesson for once. The proprietor of the school and Crech centre is just a mindless and wicked fellow. DONT LET GO PLS.

Unknown said...

Madam go report this case to the right authorities

Anonymous said...

Am so sorry, I can never imagine what you must be going through. Please persecute them, filled a case and let them close down the school, before other children become victims . Please

Anonymous said...

Insensitive comment, pray u dnt experience what happened to her!

Anonymous said...

You are a complete idiot and an insensitive fool for spewing out these xomments. Wait until you lose a child and you would know how it feels. Idiot.

tosque said...

Accept my condolence Ma'am, this school needs to be charged for negligence

Anonymous said...

Linda, we are a civil society and this cannot and should not be brushed aside or taken with such levity. You can't find this happen in a civilized country and they continue as if this little boy's life meant nothing to them. This is HOMICIDE, pure and simple. Linda, can you PLEASE bring this case to the fore I beg of you. The creche should be permanently shut down, the school must lose its registration and licenses or what not, and someone must go to jail for this. The law has to prevail and we must do something to deter others. What impudence!!! Can someone in authority, our NGOs, human right organizations etc please ensure justice prevails Pls. Thanks Linda.

Anonymous said...

It is a pity. I will call my brother to go and withdraw his two children their immediately(DEBIROUS) we are not many in our family we can afford to loose any child upon all the 250,000. My brother is paying there as termly school fees on a child pple shd bear me witness. Biko there are good schools that are not that expensive around there that will still caterer for children well. once again plaese accept my sympathy.

yourstrulyblogposts.blogspot.com said...

Omg This is heartbreaking - thoughts and prayers are with the family.

Anonymous said...

You are daftm engineer my ass. Aturu nwuru anwu.

ary said...

so sad!

Anonymous said...

Mothers, take care of your children yourselves, this new system of taking kids to day care, I wonder oo. If your job won't let you, go get a relative or possibly resign, take care of your children yourself, when you're done having kids and they're up to the age of elementary school, you can now start working.

Unknown said...

You are sick Engr Emy! If you don't have anything reasonable to say please kindly read and pass.

Esoge Nky said...

Am sorry ma'am on the loss of your son. but what baffles me this days is women send their child to creche at an early age, to me i prefer a nanny, my house has a cctv of which i watch wht happens in d office. A child is meant to start school once he is independent, once he can say mum i want to poo, eat, sleep etc. starting a child schooling at a very very young age is not good mentally because that child would grow up never knowing what motherly love is ol about, his childhood has been taken away at an early stage. from 0-2yrs is where a child gets attached more to his parents. I do nt like creche cus dey do nt have the patience to look after children.thanks

Anonymous said...

For those saying the child should not have been taken to a creche till at least age 2. How do you do that when you're a working mom. Please let us be reasonable with our comments.
Madam may God comfort you and give you double for your loss. The government needs to shut down this useless school

Anonymous said...

It's just ridiculous. The authorities should have stepped in the moment a death was reported but it's Nigeria. God will not solve all our issues, that's why we have a legal system. A full scale investigation should be carried out. My goodness.

Zz

LIVING REAL. said...

U r very foolish for not seeing that the name of the school is Debiruss creche ,u read but can't understand

Anonymous said...

I live in ajah and i know that school. its among d so called high priced schools around here and my sister once considered enrolling her kid there. such schools should be reported investigated and shut down when found lacking. forget what priest said other parents should be warned of the situation in d school. we should stop letting things go too easily. so sorry for ur loss madam.

Anonymous said...

R u blind? Read well before blabbing

Anonymous said...

Really? Her pastor has prayed so she should forget about it? When you have kids go put your kids there so that when their negligence causes the death of your child you too can forget it. Dumb clueless idiot.

M said...

People like you are the problem with Nigeria... TOO JUDGEMENTAL
I am sure if you see a scenario where the family is suffering and the lady says she has to stay home with the kids. You will be the 1st to say, she is LAZY.
If life was easy and so rosy, do u think aby woman will really want to take her child to a creche...
Pls be reasonable and rational in your thinking. Keep your judgement. The aim of women working is to support and provide the best for the kids future also.
So sorry ma for your loss... I really feel bad for you...
Its high time we stop this leave it to God thing. God gave us the brain and intellect, it is not for yourself but to prevent further disaster for other kids...
The country will never get better... if we remain lazy... God Himself acknowledged courts

Unknown said...

Very bad....Poor innocent boy.

Anonymous said...

Madam... Are you blind?? Please read again.she said Debiruss Creche in Ajah.

Anonymous said...

Are you blind or just plain stupid?!

Anonymous said...

Stupid man! Some is trying to protect our kids from been killed and you're saying stop policing the sch.
Lala

Anonymous said...

Are you dumb?,She said Deburiss creche. Read again.

Anonymous said...

Yes please!!! It's just insane! People don't know their rights and shouldn't the crèche report the death to a government agency as well??? My goodness!

Unknown said...

For real....shd shuld sue them abeg

Unknown said...

@Tochukwu,did you read the story at all,if you don't have any meaningful thing to say it's better you hold ur peace.

Unknown said...

@Tochukwu,did you read the story at all,if you don't have any meaningful thing to say it's better you hold ur peace.

Anonymous said...

Please accept my condolence, Madam. This is indeed the most horrific experience a mum will ever experience. Yes, your Pastor did well by not allowing you seek legal action but i think the relevant authorities should be informed of this to avoid a re-occurrence there or in any other school elsewhere. These days it is through social media that such evil acts are checkmated by opening peoples eyes. And yes, all school should indeed adopt all the precautionary measures you mentioned so that parents like us will have a peace of mind when our children are at school.....kai this article has really distabilized today...

Unknown said...

May the gentle soul of Tamilore continue to rest in the bosom of our Lord Jesus Christ. Take heart madam the Lord will give you peace.

4nkylization said...

It's high time we stop d leave it to god tin, Nna, go nd help her fight abi. Since u gave her d child. Lesson teacher

Anonymous said...

Pls enough of d shaming of working mothers. After all we work to balance the home and make things work as not all husbands can take care of all the family finances. I av 2 beautiful kids and believe me all my finances go to their up keep. Imagine ow many years work experience I wld loose if I had to wait for @ least 2 yrs everytime I have a child.

Unknown said...

This is totally unacceptable. You can't do this on social media alone, u should sue Debiruss Creche to awareness and sound a note of warning to others and mothers who may want to use the place. The act of leaving everything like nothing happened is y dis country is in dis mess. Pls Mrs Holloway sue- not cos u want financial compensation- cos no amount can/will ever suffice but to ensure that mediocre do not go into businesses they know nothing about. That lekki axis is full of so many nonsense schools unsupervised!!! Imagine d drunk driver!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry mummy for ur loss. People who are saying he is too young to be in a creche are just ignorant. But I feel u owe it as a duty to the other lil children there to sue the school, not necessary for monetary compensation,but at least the court should close it down till they have the proper infrastructure in place to run a safe creche.pls, it's ur legal duty to sue! If everyone keeps allowing things like this to happen without doing anything, they would just continue being negligent. I'm so sorry for ur loss, I have a lil boy and I can't imagine life without him. God grant u the fortitude to bear this loss.

Subomi said...

cant imagine the pain she is going through. RIP Oluwatemilore

Unknown said...

I don't know what to say to you. May God forgive you.

Anonymous said...

You are soo heartless. A child is dead and the mother is grieving but all you can say is that the story is useless!!! NB: The name of the crèche was giving ..... I need not say more to you honestly.

Anonymous said...

The food was forced on the baby. Accept my heartfelt sympathy.

Beegee said...

If the economy of Nigeria was better,it would have been a different ball game entirely. Some mothers have no choice but to work to support their husbands. I made a choice to resign and be a full time housewife. But not all mothers can afford to take that decision.

Getting a maid may not be the best solution either considering the nasty experiences many have gone through. Such 'accidents' could also happen at other levels. If I decide to stay at home to take care of my kids till they get to school age,it isn't a guarantee that the child would not be a victim of an 'accident' that could claim his life at 3 or 4 years old.

You can't trust schools 100% too. We all need God's divine protection as well as wisdom to choose the right environment for our kids. She even tried,waited till he was 1 before enrolling him. Some mothers are forced to enrol their babies at 3mths or just slightly older for lack of options. I've been there before so I know what it's like. Let's not be quick to castigate mothers who send their kids to creche. It's a difficult decision to make.

So what then is the whole point of a lady getting a good education and a job only to resign because she has kids? No need for girls to go to school na,abi? So that we would stay at home and become housewives. The truth is that we can't eat our cakes and have it. Get an education and a career and leave ur child in the care of others while you're at it. Or give up the essence of all the education and be available for your family full time. Not many women would be willing to give up their careers after so many years of going through school. We can't blame them,can we?

Whatever decision a woman and her husband collectively take,we shouldn't be quick to cast stones or blame them. They know where their shoes pinch. It's unfortunate that this had to happen to her son. May his soul rest in perfect peace and may God grant her the strength to forge on in life.

Serious revamping needs to be done in our law enforcement agencies and judiciary so that schools or creches that fall short of standard are brought to book. If nothing else,to serve as deterrent to others who just would not do things right.

Unknown said...

Heartless management

Unknown said...

Am a grieving mother n I feel ur pains, I can't even move reading ur msg, nobody can console u that I kn unless God, pls take heart, God will give u another baby, ur son is in heaven with the angels, it's well. Stay strong.

Anonymous said...

Why would the nanny continue feeding the baby even when he was choking? This school needs to lose their license.

Unknown said...

As I was reading this heart rendering story, the issue of the Monster Nanny from Uganda came flashing through my mind.Indeed some of our Baby Minders at most Creche are just as Bad.Madam Please take heart. I will take it upon myself to ensure that as a matter of State Policy, all Creche in Nigeria especially Lagos must have CCTV cameras installed and a Nurse on standby.Thats the only way the death of this innocent lad will not be in vain.Bobo T pls continue to rest in Peace

Unknown said...

What rubbish is this one saying. When u have children. Stop working ehn? So that u and ur children can be looking at each other and starve. Ppl need to put themselves in other ppls shoes before they start judging.
U dont know what she was going thru or why she did what she did.
Mstcheew

Anonymous said...

Oh Engr Emy I think it's only fair u lost a child so u can know how easy it is to move on. Ignorant man. This SCHOOL MUST B CLOSE. My little nephew is also Tami lore. God bless you. Mama ejime

Anonymous said...

This is why I asked the Pears Baby mother last week or so to get an autopsy. Healthy babies can die of many accidents in the day care. Choking is one of them. Falls is another one. Maltreatment is another big one. Without an autopsy, cause of death is inlaws and village people. Let us act on these issues and stop other babies from dying.

Anonymous said...

Oh Engr Emy I think it's only fair u lost a child so u can know how easy it is to move on. Ignorant man. This SCHOOL MUST B CLOSE. My little nephew is also Tami lore. God bless you. Mama ejime

Anonymous said...

I think Mrs Holloway needs to take legal action. It is obvious the school is not sorry and don't care about the welfare of kids. All they are after is their money. Considering what you have just said, you dismissed a driver because of his drunkenness and a school employs him..being a good citizen you let them know why he was dismissed from his previous place of work, yet he is still in their employ! That is the height and they need to face the wrought of the law so that other kids won't fall prey to their carelessness

Anonymous said...

Thanks for speaking up, Linda please speak up against the ills of society,social media is so powerful.Just yesterday we heard of chocolate royal, now this ,We need sanitary inspectors in Lagos and Nigeria,they used to be there in the past ,they will go round eateries, schools,hospitals, homes,buka everywhere to check what people are actually doing.Some of these schools have one nanny per 10 kids ,how is that possible when we know how active these kids could be ;and then you hear they give them sleeping pills to make them sleep for 4 hours .We have serious issues in this country and I hope the life of THIS young kid is enough to make a change.People are tired honestly.

Funmy Kemmy said...

I really feel sorry for her. May God give the family the fortitude to bear the loss amen.

Unknown said...

Take heart ma'am

Unknown said...

Dis is so touching, and heart breaking. Pls madam sue d sch management for dis act that was committed mostly for not b sincere wit u abt d death of ur son.

Dis is y I hatee all dis pleads dat comes after d act is b committed just lik giving medicine after death.

If sth is not done abt dis dis act wil surely repeat itsef. They need to b taught lesson so dat they wil b placed where they belong.

Unknown said...

I pray dat God grant her family d fortitude to bear their loss. RIP.

Mrs cutiesunshine said...

God bless your soul for this comment

Anonymous said...

Cases of Rape, homicide etc are not just crime against the person it is committed but also against the state, it is a crime for u not to report such cases to the appropriate authorities. It is Ok to forgive the offender but it is wrong for you not to report. Pls Madam go and report to the police!
Sorry about ur loss, I can't imagine what u r going through. Pls if possible see a Therapist.

Anonymous said...

Tochukwu u are a blind bat.

Anonymous said...

Stupid comment.

Harrison said...

may his gentle soul rest in perfect peace.Amen

Mr LIB said...

Uwa nka self

Unknown said...

What a world

Anonymous said...

@M The commenter, taking care of your children and keeping them safe is not been lazy abeg, in fact it's the greatest and most challenging job. You get to save the daycare money, save the little expenses that it entails, you get to give them quality care and good moral direction and not make them independent at an early age,finally save their lives.But If you have a relative or a maid who can help, then,you can go ahead and work. But that word LAZY does not apply here okay? So think before you write. RIP little one.

Anonymous said...

You are insensitive. I guess you can't comprehend what you have read. May God help you.

Anonymous said...

Hmmm...please take heart Mrs Holloway. It is a pity that such a thing happened to you, the school is well known and has operated for about 15 years without any such incident, even schools like Greensprings, Corona etc have had similar incidents and we just pray the protection of God over our children.

Abu Muhammad Solace said...

What a pitiable story! May God in his infinite mercy grant the victim's mother the fortitude to bear the loss and replace this loss with something better.
A lesson for other mothers, if you can, keep your little children with yourself until they are of age to be in such public domain.
On the issue of private schools, I believe that the irresponsibility of our government in fixing the education sector gave rise to ubiquitous private schools that we find in Nigeria today. This case has caused this reaction because of the instant death that resulted. There are many with long term effects.
I am sure that it is no longer news that private school operators are out for profits and are making sure they maximize it. If you think they hire only unqualified nannies care givers, you are on a long thing. As I observed, profit maximization precipitated their hiring of substandard or unqualified personnel, whom they would pay paltry salary, as employees. Majority of them careless about the future of these wards even though they tell you otherwise in their motto to anthem and mission statement if they have any.
If you have ever worked in a private school, you wouldn't have any difficulty identifying the aforementioned except if you show indifference to excellence. From teaching to non-teaching staff a greater percentage of the employees in private schools are under-paid and are not happy doing the job. They are only there to keep body and soul together. Private school owners deceive parents about the performance of their wards by subtly enforcing teachers to give doctored reports/performance at the end of each term. The most annoying part of this is that there are a lot of unsuspecting parents who continue to pay thousands of hard-earned naira termly for the "destruction" of their child's future. Every nook and crany including buy's quatres and shops are now converted to "private schools" and you'll be shocked at the level of patronage they get. Or how do you explain the case when a JSS3 student who, at the end of last term, got good result from his Mercy private school but cannot even pass JSS1 entrance exam in a government school after relocation by his now boxed-up parents? Also, in private schools, WAEC and NECO exams are like organised class work. Invigilators are bribed to allow teachers write answers on the board for candidates to copy. The JSS3 students who sit for junior version of these xams are also not left out of this corruption. When they had done the needful, their wouldnt be any need to engage in malpractice. Many of the so called big schools are also complacent.
We hope the government including everyone of us would rise against this challenge to discourage it. They are killing the future of our learders of tomorrow. Our heart bleeds.

Anonymous said...

Mrs Holloway, I am so sorry for your Loss but we can't keep quiet. Leaving it in the hands of God doesn't mean we shouldn't be foolish. I am forming an alliance for aggrieved mothers to debirus school and even if you don't join, we will prevent other kids from suffering the same fate and get justice for little tamilore .my condolences

Unknown said...

So sad sorry to hear DAT madam u said it all qualified carers especially trained in CPR

Anonymous said...

Is dis one mad? So she shouldn't work again because she had a baby. Do u know if she is d bread winner in d family? Foolish comment

Honeyda said...

I'm deeply sorry for the loss of your adorable son. Thank you for sharing, I actually went to inquire about the creche earlier this year and to think of what had happened to your boy, the creche SHOULD be closed down and reopened after your suggestions have been implemented. Thank you again for sharing!

Anonymous said...

Hmmm...please take heart Mrs Holloway. It is a pity that such a thing happened to you, the school is well known and has operated for about 15 years without any such incident, even schools like Greensprings, Corona etc have had similar incidents and we just pray the protection of God over our children.

Adegbite pelumi said...

Waow ! this is really touching,i pray God comfort her mind

Anonymous said...

Mumu, must you comment? Dumb ass bitch

Anonymous said...

How you can describe a sad story of a mother who is in pain after loosing her child as rubbish is shocking. you obviously aren't a mother yourself. Please also learn to read cos it will do you some good.

Anonymous said...

Debiruss in Thomas estate...ajah

omotara said...

Same thing can happen to a 5yr old kid.. just pray for God's protection for ur kids and stop apportioning blames

Anonymous said...

Jasmin haba,wat wit d"Another reason for today's so called working moms to re-assess their priorities? With 2day's economic situation, r u a woman? Married?mother? R u married to Danjuma,Otetola,Dangote? If not plssssss shut d he'll up.u sit on ur broke ass typing on a faceless forum feeling fly/giving out yeye advice.

Anonymous said...

People like you ( engr Emy ) or what ever you call yourself should have this type of experience. Can't believe an idiot like you will write this rubbish

omotara said...

May such happen to you.. sure you will move on the next day.. alainironu,oloriburuku

Unknown said...

Exactly!! How can a mom's mind be at rest knowing that a child as tender as the one in this pic is away from home?? Hmmm! Nawa o

Unknown said...

I usually don't do this but I had to,engr emy,you're an insensitive low life organism,ashie re Eda.

Anonymous said...

Even if the name of the creche is not there, would she shamelessly use her son's picture and claim he was dead! Young lady you are cruel

Anonymous said...

That was a lazy woman who can't take care of his son,you labored to give birth to a child but you can't give him that maternal care that he needs,you go and leave him the hands of other people.If i were your husband,you will tell me what really happened to the kid

Anonymous said...

She should sue the damn school for every dime they have. Sick ass wicked people

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