Dear LIB readers: How do I stop being unfaithful to my wife?
From a male LIB reader
This is real Linda and I hope the mature men reading your blog can help me. I am married to the most wonderful woman in the world. We dated for four years before I married her three years ago. We are blessed with two kids and hoping to have more in the future. My wife is simply the best. She's caring, honest, giving, very respectful and responsible and on top of all that she's drop dead gorgeous. I wish I could show you her pictures to see but that would give me away. I couldn't have asked for a better woman. In fact my biggest prayer is when I return to this planet in another lifetime, I hope I marry the same woman. The only issue is that I am not faithful to her. I actually have never been faithful to any woman in my life but I feel this woman deserves that from me, I just don't know how to give her that. I've been with several women since we got together 7 years ago but lately I've been feeling she deserves more from me. I want to be faithful to her but I just don't know how to. I promised myself that 2013 was going to be different and I stayed faithful until last month. I've been with two other women since then, but God knows I want to stop. How do I break away from this behaviour? How do I stop myself from wanting and sleeping with other women? Serious advice only please.
Just die and leave all your properties for her...you cheat! Linda,what's this one na....the guy no get google for him phone??????Abeggie next o Jare....imagine question...mscheew...cut off ur prick!
If this is a genuine question then it only deserves an answer with a genuine solution. Since this man has never been faithful to any woman in his life, then his life needs a real change. Only Jesus can change that. Any other solution will still leave you the way you are; unfaithful. I know people want to hear more juicy responses but this is the simple truth.
you need to pray and fast seriously so that the Almighty would cleanse you from all sorts. its good that you've accepted and ready to change your ways. next is for you to get truthful with yourself and start working on self-discipline. change some of your bad friends incase they also do same and encourage you to. spend quality time with your beautiful family. that would also help. you could see a marriage counsellor also for advice. stay calm n all would change that is if you are determined to put your life in order.
The first step is acknowledging u are wrong which is a good step. Avoid places or friends that encourage such behaviors and spice things up sexually at home. I wish you luck.
I think you need therapy, some may say prayers and deliverance. Please find a professional, it could be your pastor too if you think he or she is qualified. Talk to them, or you can also find an accountability partner, a friend you know is faithful. Spend time with them and talk with them, call them when the urge to step out happens. You could even confess to your wife if she's strong minded enough to handle it.
Read books on the issue, also read other books, fiction, non-fiction etc. Bottom-line, find other hobbies that do not have to do with sex with other women.
If you know those things that bring you closer to those strange women, stop them. Are they in your BB group or there's a website, a group of friends, or a chat room, cut those things, places, and friends off. Sharply!
You don't really love your wife as much as you say you do. If so, you would have stopped your philandering ways a long time ago. Please move on to more serious matters, this one is not serious. KMFT!!!
Please ask God to break you away from this lifestyle. You have an evil promiscous spirit in you from sleeping with so many women. You are a male whore in short. It takes only the grace and power of God to break away from such hindering lifestyle. You need Jesus, call his name, read Psalm 51 and beg him to set you free. I was a female who slept with different men and I gave my life to Christ and since then I have been set free. May God break the curse over you IJN. Amen.
If she is that priceless to you as you claim, think of how life would be so upside down if she finds out and gets hurt, all that care and love from her would diminish, she might even consider leaving, consider all that and pull away from the chains of infidelity, and then, what attracts you to other women, find out what it is and make yourself accustomed with that very reason with your wife.
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Most men have same prolem, they wish they r not cheating on their wives, it is a habit that is hard to break but wit determination and prayers, u can break d jinx.
You are an IDIOT, THAT IS ONHE.. Then Two, U are very Ungrateful! three...r u a christian? Four..if so..Let God really help u. U r not urself...a sex addict nids deliverance, and Hunny, U SURE DO!
YOU DONT LOVE HER! IF YOU LOVE UR WOMAN, NON OTHER WILL MAK U GO CRAZY..U DONT KNOW WAT U WANT JUST YET. GO AND SEEK GODS FACE. AS U CAN HURT HER BY BRINGING CURSES AND DISEASES BACK HOME.
first, u must tell ur wife d whole truth then ur pastor, u need spiritual deliverance ur wife is d only one d@ undastnd u n she's d only one 2 help u stop.
Firstly,it's a good thing you realize you need to stop. You will need to break every form of communication with these women and most importantly seek for God's Help. You can talk to a Pastor if you attend a church or a good marriage counsellor. You can't stop all this without the help of God
Just make up your mind to stop & fill your heart with the word of God. Remember your vow is to God first & then her. Dont be selfish & try to put yourself in her shoes & get to imagine how hurtful it will be if she's not loyal to you. Watch the kind of places you hangout as well & learn to spend more time with your family. If all of the above no work then i suggest u chop off ur lil man. Mercie
Sickness dey worry you,you need hanging and flogging deliverance for you to change and continue loving your wife. If you dnt stop I pray God makes another man take her away from you that is if she never don dey do am for ya back sef LOSER.
seek counselling. your problem may simply be a habit, or a behavior triggered by an experience. However, speaking to a professional can help. Also, each time you get tempted, remind yourself of all the good stuff your wife is made of. Spend more time with her, go on holidays, and most of all, stay away from temptation... be that by avoiding particular places, events or people... wish you well!
you are promiscous..and Thats Terrible! If u CLAIM shez beautiful and all dat gud stuff..wat else r u doin SLEEPING with Other women?! WOMEN TODAY SEF, NA WA! SLEEPING WITH MARRIED MEN ANYHOW.. NO GUD WOMAN FOR NAIJA AGAIN..HOLD ON TO WHAT U HAVE PEOPLE, IF U LOSE HER, U WIL NEVA GET GOOD BACK.. WIFE NO DEY AGAIN OH..NA FUCK PARTNERS. GOD HELP ALL REAL MEN!
Atleast tnk God her kind of life brought conscience into Ur heart for u to tink of stopin it,jst go down on Ur knees n ask God for forgiveness n his grace to put n end to dis.
you're a very stupid man if your wife is all you've described then why can't you just keep your thing in your pants. Is a one night stand worth loosing your wife over. mschew i pray your wife catches you and leaves you cuz you obviously don't deserve her FOOLISH!!
You have a medical condition. Coupled with the fact that you are a danger to not only your wife but to society. Just make sure you cover up and have a marriage of convenience.
No need to lie to yourself and to her. You are what you are. Just protect yourself and us all.
its a curse the soul ties you have formed is causing you to repeat this habit...also the nigerian society encourages men to cheat if there was a consequence like in western world you wld have stopped for fear of losing all u have in a divorce...go to your pastor and talk with him and avoid places where you meet these strange women
try getting engaged in a project like building a house or something.....its either the company u keep..or u have a lot of money to spare or the time you are supposed to do productive things...u go about whoring....maybe u she go for midweek services..and keep ur third leg in between ur thighs...read ur bible pray with ur wife...just occupy urself and move closer to God...
you re a big fool and you mite just quit when it gets u in2 trouble( not caught cheatin but somtn really bad like a gal dying durin ur runs). D 1st guy has givin u d best advice hid 2 it ..
Do u leave in PH city? If so forget it, cos u pple are competing on who wil have more mistress. If u. Rily want to stop, tell ur wife abt it, and mk her tk ur cals wen dey cal, so dey now no wots up and leave u alone, or else dey wil either blacmail u or keep pestering u.
First n foremost u need to bring God into ur marriage as a third person, pray togeda everyday. N also u have to avoid situations, places or pple dt encourage ur cheating life style. Spend more time with ur wife
first of all, u need God's help. Pray, read the Bible daily. Anytime u want to meet anoda woman aside ur wife, tell ursef dt u will die. Always think of how ur actions wud affect ur family, aside from a broken home ur children will find it difficult. Would you take it from her if she does the same to you? STRIVE TO BE RESPONSIBLE if not for urself then for ur family.
Only God can give u that help u want,it's obvious u knw wat u're doing is wrong, n i know its hard to fight sin, temptation n all that, but with God's help it can be done, talk to a pastor, read ur bible n try to get closer to God, more importantly receive the Holy Spirit to help
Well, it is sad that you are at this point of your life. At least you recognise that you need to change. My husband is the don of cheating. we dated while in school broke up and came back again to get married but i guess that was my greatest undoing, he has consistently cheated even with older women. i have cried, begged but i guess it makes him a man. Acknowledgement is the first step, Recognising what you could lose is the second, Weighing the consequences of a broken home is another and lastly and importantly you cannot achieve this without God. I am unworthy to judge you but i almost got led to adultery last year due to my husband's behaviour, i have taken to locking my phone etc. People say ignore him and he would come to his senses but my question is how do you ignore a person you love. Most women sit in marriages and are dissatisfied but do nothing like me. Love is a beautiful thing and trust me when you lose it then you would understand that life without it is meaningless. My husband believes he is the Johny bravo of Lagos and all i pray is i dont come down with some disease some day. He says love cannot be forced but my question is which i pose to you did you marry this lovely woman to bring her shame and emotional turmoil? Please go to God he is the only one that can help you here.
Well, it is sad that you are at this point of your life. At least you recognise that you need to change. My husband is the don of cheating. we dated while in school broke up and came back again to get married but i guess that was my greatest undoing, he has consistently cheated even with older women. i have cried, begged but i guess it makes him a man. Acknowledgement is the first step, Recognising what you could lose is the second, Weighing the consequences of a broken home is another and lastly and importantly you cannot achieve this without God. I am unworthy to judge you but i almost got led to adultery last year due to my husband's behaviour, i have taken to locking my phone etc. People say ignore him and he would come to his senses but my question is how do you ignore a person you love. Most women sit in marriages and are dissatisfied but do nothing like me. Love is a beautiful thing and trust me when you lose it then you would understand that life without it is meaningless. My husband believes he is the Johny bravo of Lagos and all i pray is i dont come down with some disease some day. He says love cannot be forced but my question is which i pose to you did you marry this lovely woman to bring her shame and emotional turmoil? Please go to God he is the only one that can help you here.
You cannot stop cos is in ur nature to cheat.A guy must cheat no matter what but the most important thing is dnt keep a relationship.you can hav a fling but to keep a serious relationship is a NO No. So do ur thing..
seriously most of you aren't making sense at all, he wants advice and not to b criticize by nuisance..... if you have good advice for a man who wants to change because of the love he has for his wife, you can shut the hell up.... most of you are worse than he is.... don't worry ask God for help and also meet an understanding pastor who is willing to help you all through and also a strong man of God..... im sure God will not forsake or leave you in such a situation. and also be determined and prayerful... God is always with us...
1.Pray.2.See and appreciate every other woman as what they are(Women)and not as objects of your sexual desire.3.Your wife should b your focus of sexual fufilment.4.To achieve this b a stay at home dad ie avoid drinking or hanging out with d guys.5.keep a picture of your wife in your office so that if you r tempted to stray her face will b in your line of vision.6.Her pic should b on the numbers of all your female interests.7.Say a quite *Thank you Jesus for my wife* prayer every morning as you step out.THUNDER FIRE SATAN cause it will work.Remember 95% of men will do anything to have such a wife as yours.Best of luck.
My dear, all U̶̲̥̅̊. Nid 2 do is take it 2 God in prayers and determine not 2 cheat on a good woman dat deserves only d best k... Determination leads 2 success, pray 2 God about it
Its a good thing u know wat ur doing and u want 2 stop,some other unfaithful brothers dat have a wife like urs don't really give a damn.God will help u out,ders nuffin to hard for him just ask and ul receive.May God help U
Speak to yourself. Declare to your system that u own them and dat they r subject to ur opinion. Would u let ur servant have control over u? If no then go ahead and take charge. U can win dis thing with prayer n supplication. Our Lord Jesus Christ will help u.
There's a particular kind of love. A special feeling and emotional attraction that if u feel for someone, you,ll NEVER cheat on dem. sleeping with sum1 different other than that special someone would be disgusting. U can't cheat on dem bcoz ur conscience would never let you even if u try. Back to u Mr. I feel sorry for u. You have a good woman and still you can't treat her the way she deserve. It is people like u that remain lonely for the rest of your lives if u don't change your ways.
May thunder fire you anon 8:16..self righteous bitch,who d hell re u to call sum1 a male whore,mumu oshi,did they beg u to comment.word of advice,if u don't av anytin gud to say,then shut ur rotten mouth,and then u go ahead to say read psalm 51.if I had a gun I would shoot ur cunt only..
I feel you brother. There is always a stage in life when we get to our wits end. Deep down inside us we will want to do the right thing but then we find ourselves helpless when it comes to acting it out. It is the wrong we are avoiding we find ourselves doing. That is exactly where God comes in. That is where He tells us that by yourself you cannot be righteous. The only advice i can give you is to sincerely give yourself over to God cos only He can help you. Open up to God and let him see the sincerity of your heart and trust me He ALWAYS answers truthful calls. It is well bro.
Dear Mr Problem, U reli have a problem!!!Just admiring Your wife isn't enuf to show how much you love her.Ur past is dirty and its affecting ur Future. Were U abused as a child? Sexually?You may have a very large sex appertite and ur wife doesn't? Just saying oooo!! U didn't mention.Discuss with your wife things u wud love. Pls don't ask for anal sex ooo#lol#but on a serious note Please don't tell ur wife about ur sex Escapades, it won't help matters.Have more time with ur family#. PS Ur wife must have gotten signs or evidence about u waka about or probably STDs u must have given her cus ur type go like direct#lol# ZEZE
As far as I'm concerned you are fool. You should ask LIBers 'pleease how do I stop breathing? I don't need as much air as I breath daily. I just need to stop. I can't take it anymore.' What is wrong with you (shouting). I'm so pissed. Continue until you loose it all and then you go see cry cry well. Ewu ofia! Can't believe this!
Oh shut up mr writer! What sort of stupid question are you asking? If you really want to stop f*cking around, it's simple. Zip up! Very stupid question.
It's like a fat person writing in to tell us "oh I'm 400 pounds in size. I'm so addicted to mcdonalds and creamy cheesy cakes. I really feel like my body deserves better. Please how can I stop loving mcdonalds and cakes?"
You obviously don't love your wife, because if you do, you will bludy stop screwing around! God bless the woman you're married to, I hope God gives her the grace to put up with your bullsh*t. God bless women in general! The type of nonsense we put up with all in the name of marriage.
Cut off ur di*ck!!!u r nt serious.u have d sense 2 write dx letter,nd acknowledge dt ur doing a wrong tin,bt u dnt have d sense 2 luv ur wife.!u r insane.
I tink sex is ur problem. Tink of wat makes u wuna av sex wit any woman u c n try 2 c if u can mak ur wife av dem or picture her doin dem or beta still go down on ur knees n pray til nepa takes d light. Meanwhile, tank God som1 (Billie Jean) 2 has noticed dat bonario n prince charning are gay. Phew!
Tell God, believe He has heard you, get a hold of your thoughts through the word of God...refute every thought with what God's word says and you'll be fine. NB: It may be difficult at d beginning to fight thoughts. *first time commenting on LIB...yippy!
Every thing that manifests in the physical world is signed and sealed first in the physical. You need first to rededicate your life to Jesus. Second, I suggest you confess this fault to your wife. She may be hurt but be sincere with her. You really need her to fight the battle. You then need to go for a deliverance session. That the blood of Jesus will terminate every covenant you have initiated with adultery. I negative that you do these fast, cos you know not when your Creator will call you. God be with you.
Jux study ursef very well, is it d Sex? Is dt wat attracts u to oda women? Is ur wife nt gud enuf in bed? Are dia tinz u lyk dt she's nt doing nd d Oda chics are? Sit her down, Tell her wat u lyk sexually, if u're d Kinky (feathers, Cuffs, spandex) kinda kinky, den let her knw ur preference, u shud also try nd spice up ur Sex life, Role plays nd stuffs! Be open to ur wife man, u'll be surprised dt watchu u lukin 4 outside is right under ur nose......
Hope u re using condom sha..abeg no kill ur wife with virus. And try to repent...if not HELL is the reward of adultery and fornication.... Pink in da building.
Yes...anon you have spoken wisely. Its not very easy but delete them,stop going to places that would where you'd meet such girls. Attend fellowships cus really you cannot just expect God to just change you execpt you are willing. Make yourself available to God and he would help you 4rm there
Thank you for your sincerity and openess. I'm sure many of the womenfolks would be angry and would therefore not be in the best position to offer great advise. Breaking away from an habit comes first with realisation and acknowledgement of the chaklenges. You are not alone, even David and Solomon went through similar experience. With more maturity and more openess to your wife I believe you will start losing interest in other women. Men are by nature polygamous, though ladies hate hearing that statement. I believe it takes conscious effort to break free. Stop hanging out with your unmarried friends. Stop night clubs if you do and stop carefree chating with girls.
I can't even conceive dis idea dat a person can be unfaithful 'against' their will. In one month, he has been with 2 women? How does he meet them? Abi, no be to stop making himself available? I don't get this at all.
You need prayers and self decipline. Stay away from places, friends and mediums that make you cheat. Hope you change before your sweet wife finds out how unfaithful you are.
U need d help of d Holy Spirit, u need to get born again. Thats d only long lasting way to cure u of ur habit. God be wit u my dear. Don't bother about any body that would come here n judge u, it is well wit u. And please get help fast before u turn a good woman into something else.
I really hate men like this,you knw wht U̶̲̥̅̊ are doing is wrong and you won't stop!implication?you are a sex addict!!! Seek help and tell ypur wife about your problem.
A wise man 1ce told me, "wetin you nor wan chop, nor smell am" hold these words to heart, they will guide you as they have guided me. May the lord strengthen you to do what's right.
Pls all u have to do is just prayers;kneel on ur two knees nd pray your way out;God ll surely help u if u have determined to stop it. And pls LIB readers d man just need ur advise not criticism/insults....
Pls all u have to do is just prayers;kneel on ur two knees nd pray your way out;God ll surely help u if u have determined to stop it. And pls LIB readers d man just need ur advise not criticism/insults....
I do agree with Kemi's post that the man is a sex addict. There is no way you are so crazy about a woman and still continue to hurt her. You need Jesus cause right now you ain't got Him. Men like you are the reason why some women dont wanna marry. You are a very very sick man.
bro i knw it hard 2com out open 4 such advise!!! simply ask our Great & merciful Lord 2 break you lose from dis spiritual act, sure u will definitely get a positive result, dats only if you are sincere
I don't think this is something you can do on your own. Contrary to one of the previous comments, I believe you love her. First of all, you need to hold steadfast to the word of God. That would give you guidance. Then you must ask God for forgiveness. Then your wife. You must confess to your wife, and pray God gives her an understanding heart. She can either help you or leave you. Which ever she does, it's not that she doesn't love you. It's just the consequence of your actions that you must live with.
U need to ask God for forgiveness cos u said that woman u marry is d best so y cheating on her..its d work of d devil...u really need to pray and go meet any marriage counsellor to help u out.God bless u and save u
Bro i knw it hard 2com out open 4such advise!!! simply ask our Great & merciful Lord 2 break you lose from dis spiritual act, sure u will definitely get a positive result 4rm God alone, dats only if you are sincere
Firstly, i will advise you to do away with anything that bring you close to cheating, first if you are on bb and you communicate with them through bb, get a new bb add only those you think are important to you, try not to add any girl that will lure you into cheating.
secondly, abstain any from of gathering be it with friends or any kind that make you think about cheating should be cut off.
Thirdly, try and make your wife look even more sexy than those girls outside, whatever those girls outside use to wear or do that makes you keep running out , teach your wife to doing them.
I know it is difficult but tell the animal side of you that want to go cheating that you love your wife and promise not to cheat on her again.. Remind yourself how much you love your family and back it all up with prayer and God will see you through.
I was in your shoes, and i almost finally lost my wife and kids. Right now i have been trying to save my relationship with her in over one year now since we separated. I told myself i have to learn the hard way, i have not hard sex since we separated (Just to teach myself i can be faithful). I still hope that she can forgive me, not necessarily forget, because that is too much to ask. But right now things are working a lot better. I have publicly apologized to her, admitted all my wrongs and is so ready to leave my old ways. later this year i intend to start a new life with her, i intend to have another wedding and start all over with her again. thank God she's saved my life and is willing to have me back again.(Thank God with me). Decide to save your life and your marriage before it is too late. (It is all in your hands)
Amen to all theprayers.you need Jesus my friend no one else is able Jesus is the real Mr Capable.You don't have to google Him.wherever you are cry out to Him and He will direct you to the right place for deliverance
I am sure thoes other women u sleep with ar not as beautiful as ur wife so I wonder wot u ar looking 4.any ways d only solution is prayers n if possible Deliverance cos it may b an evil sprit behind all dis.just keep praying it might not be easy @1st but if u ar really serious u will change.
Speak with your pastor, let your wife know your problem so you can fight it together. She will be able to keep a watchful eyes on you and help you not to derail.
husband, im not as dense as i pretend to be. i know this mail is from you mr E.C.E. im not buying ur excuse of spiritual problems et la. the STD was the last straw, (you know what im talking about). im so over this. go on and be unfaithful to someone else please.
U nid help.....serious one u say u love ur wife ds much nd yet u still cheat??? Dude dts not love...move closer to God cos only HIS grace cn set u free
You Lack self Control...Simple...you are selfish and think of only yourself...no matter how you think you love your wife, you still only care about yourself...learn to truly love others and pray.....you dont deserve such a woman...
Rubbish! Arrant nonsense! You are feeling like a star abi? Pls just park well,am sure u really do not need any fucking advice, besides whatever pple say will not change u. You re a chronic,disrespectful womanizer. No love and no respect for ur wife. Am sure 4 someone like u,d very day ur wife falls into temptation(infidelity)u will be sending her packing without a second thot! God will save ur innocent wife but will help u,so u finally end up with one of these very deadly STDs! Go hang urself pls.
Come clean,beg her to help you come over your addiction, it sounds stupid but it seems like you really love her, you're just addicted to getting it from different women. You're only human. Like you said, she deserves better.
I don't blame u,it is in every man's blood 2 cheat..is a continue process of where ur forefathers stopped,just try and be dere wen ur family nids u..dats all...
This goes beyond human will. You need the help of God to overcome this weakness. Don't feel condemned just approach him in prayer, he is ready to receive you like the lost but found prodigal son.
This goes beyond human will. You need the help of God to overcome this weakness. Don't feel condemned just approach him in prayer, he is ready to receive you like the lost but found prodigal son.
Please get Prayer Rain..... Or go for deliverance....from every spirit attracting you to strange women or attracting them to you.....My dear it not a battle u can fight on ur own.. It thing is that u acknowledge u have a problem which is very good am happy for you.... But u still have a long way to go.... If u truly love her and u want to honestly break away....start by telling her u need help and prayers, that women are always attracted to you and u don't want to fall into temptation..... That u need her so you can fight the battle together... Just let her no u can't do it alone..... The Lord will SEE u through.. It more than ur power
It's so touching that you want to change for your wife. What is it that attracts you to other women, is it just about sex? Identifying the factor will help in coming up with a solution. Also ask God for strength to resist temptation XoXo
How would you feel if your woman cheated on you? Hurt. Do you want to continually hurt that wife of yours.
Lord have mercy on your soul. I believe like someone said, that you need to do something tangible to break away from this habit; cut the contacts. You may also want to go for counselling.
oga, u need to ask God 4 strength n make efforts, dnt just sit on ur butt n ask 4 advice. how do u meet such ladies? cut off from them completely, leave social networks if u have to. spend ur time loving ur lovely wife n kids b4 its too late
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Answer the following questions.... *do you love God??I guess your answer will be YES *do you sin??...I'll answer that for you.U do that everyday..... *the truth is that sometimes,we find ourselves doing things we don't really want to,and stopping can be very difficult*linda,postukwaa my comment
I really tink u shuld tink deep abt wat makes u want oda women,it could b DAT u find a particular tin 4rm DEM nd u dnt in ur Wife,or u re jst a sex addict .u can stop it if u want ,u jst need 2 set ur priorities rite,den u need 2 pray sooo hard .gud luck.
d advice i hv for u s dat, u need to go for deliverance in orda to break every yoke of fornication in ur life. U hv d spirit of lust & it wants to destroy u, so run as ur legs can carry u for a disconnection frm dat spirit. May God help u.
Bros any time you go out just keep some hot pepper in your pocket and whenever your man down-low takes control of your brain, rub some of the pepper on it, so he knows who is boss.
Hmm most men can't do with their wife alone.if u place 100 men it hard u will see just 4 that's is faithful to der wife.though I don't really knw y.but what I ll say is u re a flirt, if u reallY love ur wife d way u claim and she has all d characteristics u listed above den what on earth re u looking 4.no one is a addict to anytin if u really make up ur mind to stOp den u will.be satisfied with what u av so u won't loose it
1. Recognise the circumstances in which it has occured in the past to see if there is a pattern or particular times when you are vulnerable.
Three times you are most likely to follow temptation (not necessarily sexual) and fall: -when you are hungry -when you are angry -when you are lonely
2. Once you recognise your trigger - write it down.
3. Think about what you gain from following through on those impulses - write them down.
4. Think about what you may lose from following through on those impulses - write them down.
Writing - gives your introspection some teeth...you see it before you in black and white and you can take time to read it later for more insght.
5. Weigh them against one another and answer the question IS IT WORTH IT???
Write your answer down too!
6. Do be VERY honest with yourself. This is solely between you and God!
7. When you have come to a decision about the value of that temptation to you as opposed to keeping your happy home complete with a wonderful wife and amazing children.
8. Choose!
9. If you choose your home, then ask God for help in doing the right thing each time - this is not going to be a one shot wonder for you!
10. When you see the opportunity arise - you will need to CHOOSE to remove yourself from that situation, person...etc.
11. You will need to learn to get what you need from the right source - your wife!
12. Is there something you crave from those encounters that your wife is not providing currently that the two of you may discover and enjoy together?
Hope this helps...Chin up :) and don't throw away what you have!!!
Hmm most men can't do with their wife alone.if u place 100 men it hard u will see just 4 that's is faithful to der wife.though I don't really knw y.but what I ll say is u re a flirt, if u reallY love ur wife d way u claim and she has all d characteristics u listed above den what on earth re u looking 4.no one is a addict to anytin if u really make up ur mind to stOp den u will.be satisfied with what u av so u won't loose it
Sir i believe that if u pray abt it, u wl be set free n God bless u 4 even realizing dat it is wrong, May d God i serve show up in ur case IJN AMEN......tak charge
1. Recognise the circumstances in which it has occured in the past to see if there is a pattern or particular times when you are vulnerable.
Three times you are most likely to follow temptation (not necessarily sexual) and fall: -when you are hungry -when you are angry -when you are lonely
2. Once you recognise your trigger - write it down.
3. Think about what you gain from following through on those impulses - write them down.
4. Think about what you may lose from following through on those impulses - write them down.
Writing - gives your introspection some teeth...you see it before you in black and white and you can take time to read it later for more insght.
5. Weigh them against one another and answer the question IS IT WORTH IT???
Write your answer down too!
6. Do be VERY honest with yourself. This is solely between you and God!
7. When you have come to a decision about the value of that temptation to you as opposed to keeping your happy home complete with a wonderful wife and amazing children.
8. Choose!
9. If you choose your home, then ask God for help in doing the right thing each time - this is not going to be a one shot wonder for you!
10. When you see the opportunity arise - you will need to CHOOSE to remove yourself from that situation, person...etc.
11. You will need to learn to get what you need from the right source - your wife!
12. Is there something you crave from those encounters that your wife is not providing currently that the two of you may discover and enjoy together?
Hope this helps...Chin up :) and don't throw away what you have!!!
You just need self discipline, because if you continue and that woman finds out, you'l lose it all.. And believe me! Thats gonna be the end...have you seen the Movie by Tyler Perry??? Temptation... You should and learn, because its heartbreaking that you cannot just Flee and be faithful for once, kindly see that Movie and give your life to christ. As well... Am not a preacher, but this is just too much for me to comprehend.
Dear male liber,its a thing of the mind...the journey of a thousand miles they say begins with a step,and as u know,a problem known is half-solved....for u to have identified "the behaviour",as a problem,you've solved the problem half way...In my opinion,I suggest that you pray hard(God answereth all things),then you put in ur own personal effort,by cutting all ties you have with things that lead you to the sinful act......BELIEVE you can STOP IT,and have FAITH in GOD,you will be fine*I hope to hear your testimony of having stopped in the nearest future,AMEN!!!
being unfaithful begins by a seed been sowed... you have to break away from everything that sows the seed in ur heart. change you lifestyle, if you hang out alot...try doing it with your wife, seeing other men drooling over ur wife will no doubt help. start a new life that evolves round your wife, do things with your wife more, cinemas, dinner...all these will help the seed of unfaithfulness from been sowed in ur heart
Anon 8.12 ur childishness is amazing. U think he doesn't love his wife bcos he sleeps around? Do a research and find out the number of men unfaithful to their wives at some point in d marriage. It doesn't mean dey r not in love with their women, has a lot to do with maturity n decisions. My dear, wen u r ready to stop sleeping around, u will stop. U won't need anybody to walk u thru it. Pray for urself n ur family. Spend all ur free time at home with dem n away from temptation. If possible give ur wife ur spare money to save for d family(den u won't have excess cash to lure women with n pay hotel bills). Occupy ur free time. Pray! Pray!! Pray!!! May God help u bro.
Serious nothing is wrong with u, am in the same Predicament as u, thou am single,I can't give the numbers of females have slept with from my university days till date, but I discover one thing that I never love those ladies,recently I meet a young lady whom I fell in love with and she told me if she ever caught me cheating on her that is the End of the relationship becos I don't want to loss her I was forced to stop flirting,if truly u luv ur wife u won't have cheat on her,if truly u her search ur heart very well something is missing in your marriage,may be is SEX dat is missing in your marriage
If you really love your wife as you claim, tell her about it and ask for her forgiveness. If she loves you , she will work with you to overcome the habit. That is the beginning of the healing process.
Well my dear, I know how u feel. Its in de nature of men to cheat especially African men. I oly takes de grace of God to hold back those who have control. All u need to do is understand urself, discover you strengths and weaknesses when it comes to issues with women then u will know how to advice your self to stop. Its not automatic but its a gradual process
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U jst gotta pray bro,u sound like a goodman,considering d fact d u nw your wifes worth..Goodluck man
Just die and leave all your properties for her...you cheat! Linda,what's this one na....the guy no get google for him phone??????Abeggie next o Jare....imagine question...mscheew...cut off ur prick!
You are okay, there's nothing to worry about. Just try and play safe all the time.
You are okay, there's nothing to worry about. Just try and play safe all the time.
u re born to be unfaithful,useless man.ashawo.
You are obviously possessed and foolish! I wonder what kinda advice you are expecting. Silly ass.
Lucinda
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If this is a genuine question then it only deserves an answer with a genuine solution. Since this man has never been faithful to any woman in his life, then his life needs a real change. Only Jesus can change that. Any other solution will still leave you the way you are; unfaithful. I know people want to hear more juicy responses but this is the simple truth.
you need to pray and fast seriously so that the Almighty would cleanse you from all sorts. its good that you've accepted and ready to change your ways.
next is for you to get truthful with yourself and start working on self-discipline. change some of your bad friends incase they also do same and encourage you to. spend quality time with your beautiful family. that would also help. you could see a marriage counsellor also for advice. stay calm n all would change that is if you are determined to put your life in order.
The first step is acknowledging u are wrong which is a good step. Avoid places or friends that encourage such behaviors and spice things up sexually at home. I wish you luck.
I think you need therapy, some may say prayers and deliverance. Please find a professional, it could be your pastor too if you think he or she is qualified. Talk to them, or you can also find an accountability partner, a friend you know is faithful. Spend time with them and talk with them, call them when the urge to step out happens. You could even confess to your wife if she's strong minded enough to handle it.
Read books on the issue, also read other books, fiction, non-fiction etc. Bottom-line, find other hobbies that do not have to do with sex with other women.
All the best.
Pray to God telling him exactly what you hv told lib readers and you'll be amazed at the results.
Na ojukokoro u get....tasting different woomen....just keep praying about it..then it soon become things of the past ...Mbok!
If you know those things that bring you closer to those strange women, stop them. Are they in your BB group or there's a website, a group of friends, or a chat room, cut those things, places, and friends off. Sharply!
You don't really love your wife as much as you say you do. If so, you would have stopped your philandering ways a long time ago. Please move on to more serious matters, this one is not serious. KMFT!!!
You are a sex addict, google that and you'll see solutions.
My dear, anitin in dis wrld is possible wit determination nd prayers.......just kip praying nd u'l control dis evil habit ohkay
Please ask God to break you away from this lifestyle. You have an evil promiscous spirit in you from sleeping with so many women. You are a male whore in short. It takes only the grace and power of God to break away from such hindering lifestyle. You need Jesus, call his name, read Psalm 51 and beg him to set you free. I was a female who slept with different men and I gave my life to Christ and since then I have been set free. May God break the curse over you IJN. Amen.
Go 4 a deliverance. May God deliver you, Amen!
If she is that priceless to you as you claim, think of how life would be so upside down if she finds out and gets hurt, all that care and love from her would diminish, she might even consider leaving, consider all that and pull away from the chains of infidelity, and then, what attracts you to other women, find out what it is and make yourself accustomed with that very reason with your wife.
I fik d best tin 2 do if u want 2 gt rid of d baby is 2 mix otapiapia with alomo bitter garnish it with concentrated acid, and swallow it 3 tyms A day.if symptoms persist plz consult ur babalawo
Most men have same prolem, they wish they r not cheating on their wives, it is a habit that is hard to break but wit determination and prayers, u can break d jinx.
Cut off your dick! Hehehee...trust me dat always works
You are an IDIOT, THAT IS ONHE..
Then Two, U are very Ungrateful!
three...r u a christian?
Four..if so..Let God really help u. U r not urself...a sex addict nids deliverance, and Hunny, U SURE DO!
YOU DONT LOVE HER! IF YOU LOVE UR WOMAN, NON OTHER WILL MAK U GO CRAZY..U DONT KNOW WAT U WANT JUST YET. GO AND SEEK GODS FACE. AS U CAN HURT HER BY BRINGING CURSES AND DISEASES BACK HOME.
CHIMA.
U nid to seek counselling and prayers cos dis seems to be a spiritual problem.U nid deliverance Bros cos only God can save u now.
Adultery is a sin with a spirit behind it.Thank God u ave a consience,just go to God in prayer.Repent and ask for grace to overcome
first, u must tell ur wife d whole truth then ur pastor, u need spiritual deliverance ur wife is d only one d@ undastnd u n she's d only one 2 help u stop.
Bros!!! Seek spiritual help.. I mean wit ur discription of ur woman what else would u want??
Firstly,it's a good thing you realize you need to stop. You will need to break every form of communication with these women and most importantly seek for God's Help. You can talk to a Pastor if you attend a church or a good marriage counsellor. You can't stop all this without the help of God
this is whr tb joshua comes in cos seriously my dear u obviously need deliverance since ur heart is willing buh ur flesh is weak. .
Just make up your mind to stop & fill your heart with the word of God. Remember your vow is to God first & then her. Dont be selfish & try to put yourself in her shoes & get to imagine how hurtful it will be if she's not loyal to you. Watch the kind of places you hangout as well & learn to spend more time with your family. If all of the above no work then i suggest u chop off ur lil man. Mercie
Sickness dey worry you,you need hanging and flogging deliverance for you to change and continue loving your wife. If you dnt stop I pray God makes another man take her away from you that is if she never don dey do am for ya back sef LOSER.
seek counselling. your problem may simply be a habit, or a behavior triggered by an experience. However, speaking to a professional can help. Also, each time you get tempted, remind yourself of all the good stuff your wife is made of. Spend more time with her, go on holidays, and most of all, stay away from temptation... be that by avoiding particular places, events or people... wish you well!
Join a good church. You need salvation, prayers and deliverance. You'll be set free IJN.
you are promiscous..and Thats Terrible! If u CLAIM shez beautiful and all dat gud stuff..wat else r u doin SLEEPING with Other women?! WOMEN TODAY SEF, NA WA! SLEEPING WITH MARRIED MEN ANYHOW.. NO GUD WOMAN FOR NAIJA AGAIN..HOLD ON TO WHAT U HAVE PEOPLE, IF U LOSE HER, U WIL NEVA GET GOOD BACK.. WIFE NO DEY AGAIN OH..NA FUCK PARTNERS. GOD HELP ALL REAL MEN!
See ur pastor for deliverance nd make up your mind to forsake other women.
Atleast tnk God her kind of life brought conscience into Ur heart for u to tink of stopin it,jst go down on Ur knees n ask God for forgiveness n his grace to put n end to dis.
you're a very stupid man if your wife is all you've described then why can't you just keep your thing in your pants. Is a one night stand worth loosing your wife over. mschew i pray your wife catches you and leaves you cuz you obviously don't deserve her FOOLISH!!
You have a medical condition. Coupled with the fact that you are a danger to not only your wife but to society. Just make sure you cover up and have a marriage of convenience.
No need to lie to yourself and to her. You are what you are. Just protect yourself and us all.
its a curse the soul ties you have formed is causing you to repeat this habit...also the nigerian society encourages men to cheat if there was a consequence like in western world you wld have stopped for fear of losing all u have in a divorce...go to your pastor and talk with him and avoid places where you meet these strange women
try getting engaged in a project like building a house or something.....its either the company u keep..or u have a lot of money to spare or the time you are supposed to do productive things...u go about whoring....maybe u she go for midweek services..and keep ur third leg in between ur thighs...read ur bible pray with ur wife...just occupy urself and move closer to God...
but u r a dickhead sha...make i know lie
I guess that sequel to the advice you are receiving, you may also go for counseling.
you re a big fool and you mite just quit when it gets u in2 trouble( not caught cheatin but somtn really bad like a gal dying durin ur runs). D 1st guy has givin u d best advice hid 2 it ..
GET BETTER VASELINE ANYTIME YOU FEEL THE URGE TO CHEAT. IT WORKS TRUST ME! BEEN THERE DONE THAT! EVEN DR. PHIL CANT TELL U ANY BETTER.
Do u leave in PH city? If so forget it, cos u pple are competing on who wil have more mistress. If u. Rily want to stop, tell ur wife abt it, and mk her tk ur cals wen dey cal, so dey now no wots up and leave u alone, or else dey wil either blacmail u or keep pestering u.
First n foremost u need to bring God into ur marriage as a third person, pray togeda everyday. N also u have to avoid situations, places or pple dt encourage ur cheating life style. Spend more time with ur wife
HIV IS WAITING FOR YOU.
first of all, u need God's help. Pray, read the Bible daily. Anytime u want to meet anoda woman aside ur wife, tell ursef dt u will die. Always think of how ur actions wud affect ur family, aside from a broken home ur children will find it difficult. Would you take it from her if she does the same to you? STRIVE TO BE RESPONSIBLE if not for urself then for ur family.
Pls be born again.
Masturbate steady.😜
Go to SCOAN. God who sees the heart will set you free.
Only God can give u that help u want,it's obvious u knw wat u're doing is wrong, n i know its hard to fight sin, temptation n all that, but with God's help it can be done, talk to a pastor, read ur bible n try to get closer to God, more importantly receive the Holy Spirit to help
Go for physiotherapy and be close to God.
Well, it is sad that you are at this point of your life. At least you recognise that you need to change. My husband is the don of cheating. we dated while in school broke up and came back again to get married but i guess that was my greatest undoing, he has consistently cheated even with older women. i have cried, begged but i guess it makes him a man. Acknowledgement is the first step, Recognising what you could lose is the second, Weighing the consequences of a broken home is another and lastly and importantly you cannot achieve this without God. I am unworthy to judge you but i almost got led to adultery last year due to my husband's behaviour, i have taken to locking my phone etc. People say ignore him and he would come to his senses but my question is how do you ignore a person you love. Most women sit in marriages and are dissatisfied but do nothing like me. Love is a beautiful thing and trust me when you lose it then you would understand that life without it is meaningless. My husband believes he is the Johny bravo of Lagos and all i pray is i dont come down with some disease some day. He says love cannot be forced but my question is which i pose to you did you marry this lovely woman to bring her shame and emotional turmoil? Please go to God he is the only one that can help you here.
Well, it is sad that you are at this point of your life. At least you recognise that you need to change. My husband is the don of cheating. we dated while in school broke up and came back again to get married but i guess that was my greatest undoing, he has consistently cheated even with older women. i have cried, begged but i guess it makes him a man. Acknowledgement is the first step, Recognising what you could lose is the second, Weighing the consequences of a broken home is another and lastly and importantly you cannot achieve this without God. I am unworthy to judge you but i almost got led to adultery last year due to my husband's behaviour, i have taken to locking my phone etc. People say ignore him and he would come to his senses but my question is how do you ignore a person you love. Most women sit in marriages and are dissatisfied but do nothing like me. Love is a beautiful thing and trust me when you lose it then you would understand that life without it is meaningless. My husband believes he is the Johny bravo of Lagos and all i pray is i dont come down with some disease some day. He says love cannot be forced but my question is which i pose to you did you marry this lovely woman to bring her shame and emotional turmoil? Please go to God he is the only one that can help you here.
May God help u!
Sallysmart
FOOOOOOLISH QUESTION.........MSCHTEWWWW.
LIKE YOU DONT KNOW THE ANSWER. EWUUUU
Brof, meet Jesus today and tomorrow dt promiscuous life fades away like u never had it!#gbam#
*You were a female* so are you now a male? Tell me what did u do to change sex
Anything dat attract to order please but it or do it for ur wife and be prayerful
Go to SCOAN. The good Lord who sees the heart will save you from being unfaithful if only it is from your heart.
Guy you need help
You cannot stop cos is in ur nature to cheat.A guy must cheat no matter what but the most important thing is dnt keep a relationship.you can hav a fling but to keep a serious relationship is a NO No. So do ur thing..
Ur a big fool to say dis nice things about ur wife n still cheat, mumu
seriously most of you aren't making sense at all, he wants advice and not to b criticize by nuisance..... if you have good advice for a man who wants to change because of the love he has for his wife, you can shut the hell up.... most of you are worse than he is.... don't worry ask God for help and also meet an understanding pastor who is willing to help you all through and also a strong man of God..... im sure God will not forsake or leave you in such a situation. and also be determined and prayerful... God is always with us...
1.Pray.2.See and appreciate every other woman as what they are(Women)and not as objects of your sexual desire.3.Your wife should b your focus of sexual fufilment.4.To achieve this b a stay at home dad ie avoid drinking or hanging out with d guys.5.keep a picture of your wife in your office so that if you r tempted to stray her face will b in your line of vision.6.Her pic should b on the numbers of all your female interests.7.Say a quite *Thank you Jesus for my wife* prayer every morning as you step out.THUNDER FIRE SATAN cause it will work.Remember 95% of men will do anything to have such a wife as yours.Best of luck.
Its all in your determination
Give urself 2 God first. Serve him in 2ruth n let d word of God dwell in ur heart. Den go wil change u
Go to SCOAN. The good Lord who sees the hearts of men will save you if you are sincere.
Yes u d'nt luv dat women as u said because if u do u ill stop dat ok
Mscheeew
My dear, all U̶̲̥̅̊. Nid 2 do is take it 2 God in prayers and determine not 2 cheat on a good woman dat deserves only d best k... Determination leads 2 success, pray 2 God about it
Its a good thing u know wat ur doing and u want 2 stop,some other unfaithful brothers dat have a wife like urs don't really give a damn.God will help u out,ders nuffin to hard for him just ask and ul receive.May God help U
You need Jesus!
Speak to yourself. Declare to your system that u own them and dat they r subject to ur opinion. Would u let ur servant have control over u? If no then go ahead and take charge. U can win dis thing with prayer n supplication. Our Lord Jesus Christ will help u.
I think you should go for deliverance
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There's a particular kind of love. A special feeling and emotional attraction that if u feel for someone, you,ll NEVER cheat on dem. sleeping with sum1 different other than that special someone would be disgusting. U can't cheat on dem bcoz ur conscience would never let you even if u try.
Back to u Mr. I feel sorry for u. You have a good woman and still you can't treat her the way she deserve. It is people like u that remain lonely for the rest of your lives if u don't change your ways.
Like the first comment, u make gud sense
it is well with u o. go to any bible believing church for deliverance.
May thunder fire you anon 8:16..self righteous bitch,who d hell re u to call sum1 a male whore,mumu oshi,did they beg u to comment.word of advice,if u don't av anytin gud to say,then shut ur rotten mouth,and then u go ahead to say read psalm 51.if I had a gun I would shoot ur cunt only..
I feel you brother. There is always a stage in life when we get to our wits end. Deep down inside us we will want to do the right thing but then we find ourselves helpless when it comes to acting it out. It is the wrong we are avoiding we find ourselves doing. That is exactly where God comes in. That is where He tells us that by yourself you cannot be righteous. The only advice i can give you is to sincerely give yourself over to God cos only He can help you. Open up to God and let him see the sincerity of your heart and trust me He ALWAYS answers truthful calls. It is well bro.
Dear Mr Problem, U reli have a problem!!!Just admiring Your wife isn't enuf to show how much you love her.Ur past is dirty and its affecting ur Future. Were U abused as a child?
Sexually?You may have a very large sex appertite and ur wife doesn't? Just saying oooo!! U didn't mention.Discuss with your wife things u wud love. Pls don't ask for anal sex ooo#lol#but on a serious note Please don't tell ur wife about ur sex Escapades, it won't help matters.Have more time with ur family#. PS
Ur wife must have gotten signs or evidence about u waka about or probably STDs u must have given her cus ur type go like direct#lol#
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As far as I'm concerned you are fool. You should ask LIBers 'pleease how do I stop breathing? I don't need as much air as I breath daily. I just need to stop. I can't take it anymore.' What is wrong with you (shouting). I'm so pissed. Continue until you loose it all and then you go see cry cry well. Ewu ofia! Can't believe this!
Oh shut up mr writer! What sort of stupid question are you asking? If you really want to stop f*cking around, it's simple. Zip up! Very stupid question.
It's like a fat person writing in to tell us "oh I'm 400 pounds in size. I'm so addicted to mcdonalds and creamy cheesy cakes. I really feel like my body deserves better. Please how can I stop loving mcdonalds and cakes?"
You obviously don't love your wife, because if you do, you will bludy stop screwing around!
God bless the woman you're married to, I hope God gives her the grace to put up with your bullsh*t. God bless women in general! The type of nonsense we put up with all in the name of marriage.
*rubbish - longest hiss ever - strolls off*
Cut off ur di*ck!!!u r nt serious.u have d sense 2 write dx letter,nd acknowledge dt ur doing a wrong tin,bt u dnt have d sense 2 luv ur wife.!u r insane.
I tink sex is ur problem. Tink of wat makes u wuna av sex wit any woman u c n try 2 c if u can mak ur wife av dem or picture her doin dem or beta still go down on ur knees n pray til nepa takes d light. Meanwhile, tank God som1 (Billie Jean) 2 has noticed dat bonario n prince charning are gay. Phew!
Tell God, believe He has heard you, get a hold of your thoughts through the word of God...refute every thought with what God's word says and you'll be fine. NB: It may be difficult at d beginning to fight thoughts. *first time commenting on LIB...yippy!
Every thing that manifests in the physical world is signed and sealed first in the physical. You need first to rededicate your life to Jesus. Second, I suggest you confess this fault to your wife. She may be hurt but be sincere with her. You really need her to fight the battle. You then need to go for a deliverance session. That the blood of Jesus will terminate every covenant you have initiated with adultery. I negative that you do these fast, cos you know not when your Creator will call you. God be with you.
Abeg, run fast to SCOAN o so dat T.B Joshua can chase dat spirit of lust from ur life so dat it won't break ur home.
Jux study ursef very well, is it d Sex? Is dt wat attracts u to oda women? Is ur wife nt gud enuf in bed? Are dia tinz u lyk dt she's nt doing nd d Oda chics are? Sit her down, Tell her wat u lyk sexually, if u're d Kinky (feathers, Cuffs, spandex) kinda kinky, den let her knw ur preference, u shud also try nd spice up ur Sex life, Role plays nd stuffs! Be open to ur wife man, u'll be surprised dt watchu u lukin 4 outside is right under ur nose......
U need to be delivered.that's the only way out. Go to any church u know that is filled with HOLY SPIRIT e.g MFM,manna, e tc. May GOD help u
Recall wot made U go after her de 1st day U saw her and try see dat in her always, U wil mk it bro. I wil pray 4 U
Hope u re using condom sha..abeg no kill ur wife with virus. And try to repent...if not HELL is the reward of adultery and fornication.... Pink in da building.
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I strongly advise you see your pastor or a pastor you have faith in, for prayers and counsel.
Nonsense man ...olojukokoro dts jst wat u are !!!!
Yes...anon you have spoken wisely. Its not very easy but delete them,stop going to places that would where you'd meet such girls. Attend fellowships cus really you cannot just expect God to just change you execpt you are willing. Make yourself available to God and he would help you 4rm there
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Make a determination that u'll not cheat again. It is until u put determination to work, u won't succeed. Also be prayerful
Thank you for your sincerity and openess. I'm sure many of the womenfolks would be angry and would therefore not be in the best position to offer great advise. Breaking away from an habit comes first with realisation and acknowledgement of the chaklenges. You are not alone, even David and Solomon went through similar experience. With more maturity and more openess to your wife I believe you will start losing interest in other women. Men are by nature polygamous, though ladies hate hearing that statement. I believe it takes conscious effort to break free. Stop hanging out with your unmarried friends. Stop night clubs if you do and stop carefree chating with girls.
I can't even conceive dis idea dat a person can be unfaithful 'against' their will. In one month, he has been with 2 women? How does he meet them? Abi, no be to stop making himself available? I don't get this at all.
Na advice this man need ooo not rains of abuse,make una calm down jorr nobody perfect and let God judge him befor una crusify am.
You need prayers and self decipline. Stay away from places, friends and mediums that make you cheat. Hope you change before your sweet wife finds out how unfaithful you are.
U need d help of d Holy Spirit, u need to get born again. Thats d only long lasting way to cure u of ur habit. God be wit u my dear. Don't bother about any body that would come here n judge u, it is well wit u. And please get help fast before u turn a good woman into something else.
I really hate men like this,you knw wht U̶̲̥̅̊ are doing is wrong and you won't stop!implication?you are a sex addict!!! Seek help and tell ypur wife about your problem.
Just imagine your wife cheating on you. Maybe that would help you realize the grave sin you are committing against God and your wonderful wife.
Abeg no matter wat we say u will not change ur cheating habit u have to make up ur mind and u nid devine intervention not libers intervention
You are a big fool
You will make it. Just be determined.
Take otapiapia that's rat poison. That way you will stop being unfaithful before u infect her with hiv :D
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A wise man 1ce told me, "wetin you nor wan chop, nor smell am" hold these words to heart, they will guide you as they have guided me. May the lord strengthen you to do what's right.
Pls all u have to do is just prayers;kneel on ur two knees nd pray your way out;God ll surely help u if u have determined to stop it.
And pls LIB readers d man just need ur advise not criticism/insults....
Pls all u have to do is just prayers;kneel on ur two knees nd pray your way out;God ll surely help u if u have determined to stop it.
And pls LIB readers d man just need ur advise not criticism/insults....
Best advice, cut ur 'little john'. Linda post ma comment
Pray, believe and make a conscious effort to stop..then STOP. If you still don't stop, cut off your something!!!!!
I do agree with Kemi's post that the man is a sex addict. There is no way you are so crazy about a woman and still continue to hurt her. You need Jesus cause right now you ain't got Him. Men like you are the reason why some women dont wanna marry. You are a very very sick man.
If I say u need serious prayers and delieverance you will say that am not seriou but that's what u need Mr multiple partners.
looool! u need serious prayers mate! MFM straight!
You need God dats all I know ,hope u change b4 anoda man dat knws her worth taakes her
Your wife's prayers are getting answered. Will power. Just say no. Rededicate yourself to your marriage.
Nna cut off your blockus :)
looool! u need serious prayers mate! MFM straught
iyawo paso
bro i knw it hard 2com out open 4 such advise!!! simply ask our Great & merciful Lord 2 break you lose from dis spiritual act, sure u will definitely get a positive result, dats only if you are sincere
U a dickface nigga for cheating on ur wife.
I don't think this is something you can do on your own. Contrary to one of the previous comments, I believe you love her. First of all, you need to hold steadfast to the word of God. That would give you guidance. Then you must ask God for forgiveness. Then your wife. You must confess to your wife, and pray God gives her an understanding heart. She can either help you or leave you. Which ever she does, it's not that she doesn't love you. It's just the consequence of your actions that you must live with.
U need to ask God for forgiveness cos u said that woman u marry is d best so y cheating on her..its d work of d devil...u really need to pray and go meet any marriage counsellor to help u out.God bless u and save u
straight*
iyawo paso
It may sound cliche, but God is the ONLY solution!
loool! u need prayers mate! MFM straight!
iyawo paso
There is no faithful man on dis planet,d only faithful man is one who cheats and not get caught. Rest ur case..
Bro i knw it hard 2com out open 4such advise!!! simply ask our Great & merciful Lord 2 break you lose from dis spiritual act, sure u will definitely get a positive result 4rm God alone, dats only if you are sincere
Firstly, i will advise you to do away with anything that bring you close to cheating, first if you are on bb and you communicate with them through bb, get a new bb add only those you think are important to you, try not to add any girl that will lure you into cheating.
secondly, abstain any from of gathering be it with friends or any kind that make you think about cheating should be cut off.
Thirdly, try and make your wife look even more sexy than those girls outside, whatever those girls outside use to wear or do that makes you keep running out , teach your wife to doing them.
I know it is difficult but tell the animal side of you that want to go cheating that you love your wife and promise not to cheat on her again.. Remind yourself how much you love your family and back it all up with prayer and God will see you through.
I was in your shoes, and i almost finally lost my wife and kids. Right now i have been trying to save my relationship with her in over one year now since we separated. I told myself i have to learn the hard way, i have not hard sex since we separated (Just to teach myself i can be faithful). I still hope that she can forgive me, not necessarily forget, because that is too much to ask. But right now things are working a lot better. I have publicly apologized to her, admitted all my wrongs and is so ready to leave my old ways. later this year i intend to start a new life with her, i intend to have another wedding and start all over with her again. thank God she's saved my life and is willing to have me back again.(Thank God with me). Decide to save your life and your marriage before it is too late. (It is all in your hands)
Amen to all theprayers.you need Jesus my friend no one else is able Jesus is the real Mr Capable.You don't have to google Him.wherever you are cry out to Him and He will direct you to the right place for deliverance
Pluck out ur eyes if they will lead u to hell. If u r socially active, stop it. U chat on social media, stop it.keep a short leash on urself.
I am sure thoes other women u sleep with ar not as beautiful as ur wife so I wonder wot u ar looking 4.any ways d only solution is prayers n if possible Deliverance cos it may b an evil sprit behind all dis.just keep praying it might not be easy @1st but if u ar really serious u will change.
Speak with your pastor, let your wife know your problem so you can fight it together. She will be able to keep a watchful eyes on you and help you not to derail.
U nid jesus n ur wife,children only...then really try 2 cut off,it wld no b easy bt small small(habits,plcs,social media n d likes)
husband, im not as dense as i pretend to be. i know this mail is from you mr E.C.E. im not buying ur excuse of spiritual problems et la. the STD was the last straw, (you know what im talking about). im so over this. go on and be unfaithful to someone else please.
Only the Holy spirit can set you free.
U nid help.....serious one u say u love ur wife ds much nd yet u still cheat??? Dude dts not love...move closer to God cos only HIS grace cn set u free
You Lack self Control...Simple...you are selfish and think of only yourself...no matter how you think you love your wife, you still only care about yourself...learn to truly love others and pray.....you dont deserve such a woman...
True confession !!!!
Oga! Kai! You no go fÍt until you put God first!
Very simple...kill urself!bia linda next story plsss
Rubbish! Arrant nonsense! You are feeling like a star abi? Pls just park well,am sure u really do not need any fucking advice, besides whatever pple say will not change u. You re a chronic,disrespectful womanizer. No love and no respect for ur wife. Am sure 4 someone like u,d very day ur wife falls into temptation(infidelity)u will be sending her packing without a second thot! God will save ur innocent wife but will help u,so u finally end up with one of these very deadly STDs! Go hang urself pls.
My bro pls do your way now !!!!!
Y dnt u try gettin castrated,it wrks lyk magic btw u r a liar u dnt luv dat woman
Long hiss...He won't stop...
Go to God in prayers he is the only one that can help, get on your knees and pray.
Is not something good,,,u just need divine intervention cause u don't know y u doing it...go to God in prayers he will hear u...
Idiot! Tortoise! Frog! Pig! Animal! I pray she leaves your cheating ass, fool!
Come clean,beg her to help you come over your addiction, it sounds stupid but it seems like you really love her, you're just addicted to getting it from different women. You're only human. Like you said, she deserves better.
Okpani.
I don't blame u,it is in every man's blood 2 cheat..is a continue process of where ur forefathers stopped,just try and be dere wen ur family nids u..dats all...
NO NAME CALLING PLZ
This goes beyond human will. You need the help of God to overcome this weakness. Don't feel condemned just approach him in prayer, he is ready to receive you like the lost but found prodigal son.
This goes beyond human will. You need the help of God to overcome this weakness. Don't feel condemned just approach him in prayer, he is ready to receive you like the lost but found prodigal son.
Please get Prayer Rain..... Or go for deliverance....from every spirit attracting you to strange women or attracting them to you.....My dear it not a battle u can fight on ur own.. It thing is that u acknowledge u have a problem which is very good am happy for you.... But u still have a long way to go.... If u truly love her and u want to honestly break away....start by telling her u need help and prayers, that women are always attracted to you and u don't want to fall into temptation..... That u need her so you can fight the battle together...
Just let her no u can't do it alone.....
The Lord will SEE u through.. It more than ur power
Stay Blessed
It's so touching that you want to change for your wife. What is it that attracts you to other women, is it just about sex? Identifying the factor will help in coming up with a solution. Also ask God for strength to resist temptation XoXo
How would you feel if your woman cheated on you? Hurt.
Do you want to continually hurt that wife of yours.
Lord have mercy on your soul. I believe like someone said, that you need to do something tangible to break away from this habit; cut the contacts.
You may also want to go for counselling.
oga, u need to ask God 4 strength n make efforts, dnt just sit on ur butt n ask 4 advice. how do u meet such ladies? cut off from them completely, leave social networks if u have to. spend ur time loving ur lovely wife n kids b4 its too late
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Sounds like a sex addict. Who else is thinking Tiger Woods sex scandal? See a shrink.
Answer the following questions....
*do you love God??I guess your answer will be YES
*do you sin??...I'll answer that for you.U do that everyday.....
*the truth is that sometimes,we find ourselves doing things we don't really want to,and stopping can be very difficult*linda,postukwaa my comment
Do HIV screening first. If you are clean, then come back for advice.
Olu.
Just get urself castrated, with that there will be no tool for cheating!
I really tink u shuld tink deep abt wat makes u want oda women,it could b DAT u find a particular tin 4rm DEM nd u dnt in ur Wife,or u re jst a sex addict .u can stop it if u want ,u jst need 2 set ur priorities rite,den u need 2 pray sooo hard .gud luck.
Linda if I catch that your nyash eeh..I'll Ram you till you can't post no more - Post traumatic shock..hehehe
See, the earlier you get it that your husband musto cheat the better..you can love someone and still cheat on them.
d advice i hv for u s dat, u need to go for deliverance in orda to break every yoke of fornication in ur life. U hv d spirit of lust & it wants to destroy u, so run as ur legs can carry u for a disconnection frm dat spirit. May God help u.
Bros any time you go out just keep some hot pepper in your pocket and whenever your man down-low takes control of your brain, rub some of the pepper on it, so he knows who is boss.
be more prayerful. draw closer to God ask HIM to kill the spirit of the flesh in you.
Long hiss...He won't stop...
Hmm most men can't do with their wife alone.if u place 100 men it hard u will see just 4 that's is faithful to der wife.though I don't really knw y.but what I ll say is u re a flirt, if u reallY love ur wife d way u claim and she has all d characteristics u listed above den what on earth re u looking 4.no one is a addict to anytin if u really make up ur mind to stOp den u will.be satisfied with what u av so u won't loose it
Serious advice abi...ok here goes:
1. Recognise the circumstances in which it has occured in the past to see if there is a pattern or particular times when you are vulnerable.
Three times you are most likely to follow temptation (not necessarily sexual) and fall:
-when you are hungry
-when you are angry
-when you are lonely
2. Once you recognise your trigger - write it down.
3. Think about what you gain from following through on those impulses - write them down.
4. Think about what you may lose from following through on those impulses - write them down.
Writing - gives your introspection some teeth...you see it before you in black and white and you can take time to read it later for more insght.
5. Weigh them against one another and answer the question IS IT WORTH IT???
Write your answer down too!
6. Do be VERY honest with yourself.
This is solely between you and God!
7. When you have come to a decision about the value of that temptation to you as opposed to keeping your happy home complete with a wonderful wife and amazing children.
8. Choose!
9. If you choose your home, then ask God for help in doing the right thing each time - this is not going to be a one shot wonder for you!
10. When you see the opportunity arise - you will need to CHOOSE to remove yourself from that situation, person...etc.
11. You will need to learn to get what you need from the right source - your wife!
12. Is there something you crave from those encounters that your wife is not providing currently that the two of you may discover and enjoy together?
Hope this helps...Chin up :) and don't throw away what you have!!!
Hmm most men can't do with their wife alone.if u place 100 men it hard u will see just 4 that's is faithful to der wife.though I don't really knw y.but what I ll say is u re a flirt, if u reallY love ur wife d way u claim and she has all d characteristics u listed above den what on earth re u looking 4.no one is a addict to anytin if u really make up ur mind to stOp den u will.be satisfied with what u av so u won't loose it
You are a sex addict...period!!!!
Go and get help!!!! Geez
No one cares about you and your problem for real
Mischewwwwwwwwwwwwww
Sir i believe that if u pray abt it, u wl be set free n God bless u 4 even realizing dat it is wrong, May d God i serve show up in ur case IJN AMEN......tak charge
Serious advice abi...ok here goes:
1. Recognise the circumstances in which it has occured in the past to see if there is a pattern or particular times when you are vulnerable.
Three times you are most likely to follow temptation (not necessarily sexual) and fall:
-when you are hungry
-when you are angry
-when you are lonely
2. Once you recognise your trigger - write it down.
3. Think about what you gain from following through on those impulses - write them down.
4. Think about what you may lose from following through on those impulses - write them down.
Writing - gives your introspection some teeth...you see it before you in black and white and you can take time to read it later for more insght.
5. Weigh them against one another and answer the question IS IT WORTH IT???
Write your answer down too!
6. Do be VERY honest with yourself.
This is solely between you and God!
7. When you have come to a decision about the value of that temptation to you as opposed to keeping your happy home complete with a wonderful wife and amazing children.
8. Choose!
9. If you choose your home, then ask God for help in doing the right thing each time - this is not going to be a one shot wonder for you!
10. When you see the opportunity arise - you will need to CHOOSE to remove yourself from that situation, person...etc.
11. You will need to learn to get what you need from the right source - your wife!
12. Is there something you crave from those encounters that your wife is not providing currently that the two of you may discover and enjoy together?
Hope this helps...Chin up :) and don't throw away what you have!!!
You just need self discipline, because if you continue and that woman finds out, you'l lose it all.. And believe me! Thats gonna be the end...have you seen the Movie by Tyler Perry??? Temptation... You should and learn, because its heartbreaking that you cannot just Flee and be faithful for once, kindly see that Movie and give your life to christ. As well... Am not a preacher, but this is just too much for me to comprehend.
ExorticEyezMiMi pls dont forget what i said i want us to do ok. its very hard now as i type.
Go for deliverance shikena!
ExorticEyezMiMi pls dont forget what i said i want us to do ok. its very hard now as i type.
Dear male liber,its a thing of the mind...the journey of a thousand miles they say begins with a step,and as u know,a problem known is half-solved....for u to have identified "the behaviour",as a problem,you've solved the problem half way...In my opinion,I suggest that you pray hard(God answereth all things),then you put in ur own personal effort,by cutting all ties you have with things that lead you to the sinful act......BELIEVE you can STOP IT,and have FAITH in GOD,you will be fine*I hope to hear your testimony of having stopped in the nearest future,AMEN!!!
Cut your penis.
drop mic*
ExorticEyezMiMi pls dont forget what i said i want us to do ok. its very hard now as i type.
Pray that God will deliver u from Rebellion spirit, and give u the grace to overcome sin and lustful pleasures.
being unfaithful begins by a seed been sowed... you have to break away from everything that sows the seed in ur heart. change you lifestyle, if you hang out alot...try doing it with your wife, seeing other men drooling over ur wife will no doubt help. start a new life that evolves round your wife, do things with your wife more, cinemas, dinner...all these will help the seed of unfaithfulness from been sowed in ur heart
Anon 8.12 ur childishness is amazing. U think he doesn't love his wife bcos he sleeps around? Do a research and find out the number of men unfaithful to their wives at some point in d marriage. It doesn't mean dey r not in love with their women, has a lot to do with maturity n decisions. My dear, wen u r ready to stop sleeping around, u will stop. U won't need anybody to walk u thru it. Pray for urself n ur family. Spend all ur free time at home with dem n away from temptation. If possible give ur wife ur spare money to save for d family(den u won't have excess cash to lure women with n pay hotel bills). Occupy ur free time. Pray! Pray!! Pray!!! May God help u bro.
Every man is programmed to be unfaithful.
Serious nothing is wrong with u, am in the same Predicament as u, thou am single,I can't give the numbers of females have slept with from my university days till date, but I discover one thing that I never love those ladies,recently I meet a young lady whom I fell in love with and she told me if she ever caught me cheating on her that is the End of the relationship becos I don't want to loss her I was forced to stop flirting,if truly u luv ur wife u won't have cheat on her,if truly u her search ur heart very well something is missing in your marriage,may be is SEX dat is missing in your marriage
If you really love your wife as you claim, tell her about it and ask for her forgiveness. If she loves you , she will work with you to overcome the habit. That is the beginning of the healing process.
linda post ma comment mbok! I dont like the way u delay people comments bf u post em
U just need to wrk on ur self and be true to urself,if u knw u rly luv ur wife as u've said respect dat luv and treat her justly.linda pls post
Well my dear, I know how u feel. Its in de nature of men to cheat especially African men. I oly takes de grace of God to hold back those who have control. All u need to do is understand urself, discover you strengths and weaknesses when it comes to issues with women then u will know how to advice your self to stop. Its not automatic but its a gradual process
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