From a LIB reader:
Dear readers, I am in a relationship, about to get married next year. I have been dating my man for over 8 years, he proposed last year when we went on holiday to Paris. We both own our business, and we very okay financially. My man loves me very much, and I know he will do anything for me. The only problem I am having is my pastor is not happy about the relationship. I am in the choir and a committed member of my church. My pastor saw a vision during choir practice, and he called me to his office, saying my future husband is not the one for me, and the marriage will no last. He said he sees him walking away from the marriage, and I should not think about it.
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Now, I am very confused, I love him very much, and I know that he won't hurt me. Should i take a huge risk leaving the man of my dreams, or listen to the man of God. My heart tells me to stay, we all know no marriage is perfect. I have invested so much in our relationship, we both have actually, and breaking his heart is the last thing i want to do. I am 29, and my man his 31. We are both ready to tie the knot. I have prayed about it, and honestly, I am ready to take a risk, and i have read articles, and people's testimonies that sometimes its better to follow your heart, and pastors can be wrong at times.
Now, what do you guys think?
Confused Bride To Be......
531 comments:
«Oldest ‹Older 401 – 531 of 531God is not an author of confusion. He instituted marriage and that makes it a good thing. Now God must have spoken to you and given you a go ahead as per this relationship of yours. All you need to do is to go back to Him to reconfirm what He told you. Since you are His child, He will speak to you trust me. Your pastor could have seen something truly but it is left for you to either believe it or stand your ground and tell the devil his plans would not work. God sent Isaiah to tell Hezekiah that he would die but he chose life instead of death and it was so for him. It all in your hands dear. You are God's child and He loves you. Talk to Him and you'll be fine. Cheers
My dear sometimes it hard to choose, but I just want you to know that God is not an author of confusion. I had a similar experience, but today to God be thy glory I and my husband have slept 18years together as husband and wife and believe God for more years. However, I got that strong conviction from God. I knew what God said concerning the relationship was different from what brethren said; hence I went ahead and I have never regretted my marriage for one single day in the past 18 years. However, my sister's marriage that came with such revelation that her marriage will not last with her man truly they had problems and today they are not together today. We are believers in my family, but I can tell you is that my sister now claims that she knew that the revelation concerning her fiancé then was true but she went ahead because she knew the guy was a Christian and that they loved each other. The story might be long but the bottom line is that you are the one to know whether or not you should go ahead. Knowing your status in Christ will help you determine that. Good luck.
My dear Pleaseeeee follow your heart dont mind these fake pastors always using psychology, the next thing is to hook u up with his son if not himself sef..SIGHS!!!
Hello Dearie,
Follow your heart,pray about it, confess positively and cast out every imagination that is lifting itself above the knowledge of Christ,because in Jesus there is safety.Jeremiah 29:11.
He saw a vision? How come his vision was not of good? Please my dear, pray and believe in God. Some of these pastors have worse off homes and they don't seethe vison to end their marriage or turn things around in their homes. Yur pastor is NOT God. Pray.
God changes prophecies too so u can go into prayers and God can touch the guy's heart in future and make him ur dream man,... u need prayers and tolerance
My pastor also said the same thing to me and I do not intend to follow his advice. I love my fiancee so much and do not intend to leave her because my pastor says so. Even the bible says that sometimes God gives prophets fake prophesies for various reasons. If you love him like you claim, please go ahead with your marriage. Couples will always have their challenges even it married someone else, it might be good but it still wont be perfect.
this is the first time ever that i will leave a comment. the RCCG overseer pastor E Adeboye said "Those of you who go to your pastor to pray for you and tell you who to marry, if care is not taken, you will become a victim of lies. You are simply lazy. No pastor or prophet should tell you who to marry. They are to pray along with you, counsel and guide you using the Word of God. If you fail to pay the price to hear from God on that matter, you may be deceived. God can use your pastor or a genuine prophet of God to confirm what He had already told you. Many homes have been established on falsehood and that is why things are falling apart and the center can no longer hold. Some pastors are seriously into match-making. They have taken over from the Holy Spirit. Match-making remains God's prerogative and He has not delegated it to any pastor."
although your pastor didnt match make you but am so sure he was aware of you two dating for a long period of time so why didnt he say anything earlier? i suggest that you should pray about this and if you have and you still feel you want to marry him then go ahead all you should start praying is that your marriage should be fruitful and nothing shall make your husband walk out of the marriage.
Its obvious you've already made your decision. Just follow your heart n put everything in prayers as you've already done.. I commend you for doing that.
Since there're no known apparatus for authenticating the callings of nowadays pastors, i'd say it would be a bigger mistake to believe that which hadn't be proven..
Mark 10:9....What God has joined together, let no.......man (i repeat no 1) put asunder. Take the risk dear n shame the devil by enjoying your marriage to the peak.
I'd advice you tell Your fiance so the both of you can achieve you overcoming goal together, if n only if you believe he loves the way you do..
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MY DEAR, MY ADVICE IS IF YOU ARE SPITITUALLY STEADFAST IN FAITH, YOU DO NOT NEED ANY PASTOR TO REVEAL TO YOU WHO YOU SHOULD OR SHOULDNT MARRY. WHY NOT GO AND SEEK THE FACE OF GOD YOURSELF. ASK HIM TO REVEAL IT TO YOU, THAT THIS MAN IS NOT THE ONE FOR YOU. YOUR PASTOR MAY BE RIGHT OR WRONG AT THE SAME TIME, BUT THE ONLY CONFIRMATION LEFT IS THE ONE YOU HAVE TO GET FROM GOD HIMSELF. FASTING AND PRAYERS WOULD GO A LONG WAY IN ANSWERING YOUR QUESTION. REMEMBER THE SAYING THAT ""A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP IS BETTER THAN A BROKEN MARRIAGE"" THATS ALL I WILL SAY FOR NOW. ALL THE BEST DEAR
Pastor Chris Okotie said Stephanie was God choice for him....... years later he has back track. Take that as clue.
Pastors are not always right. You self God na your papa, go on your kneels and pray that God if he is not for me , let the relationship scatter before the wedding as a sign. In the meantime continue the relationship as normal and let God decide . If you dont break up then thats ur answer. My mum said my ex boyfriend was not for me, that some prayer people said so. So i prayed that if he is not then God should scatter it .... Shortly after , the ex boyfriend woke up and said he doesnt think i am the one so we broke up. I feel , it God that showed me he was not the one as i am happily married to someone else, although my ex boyfriend would have also made a good husband,
Go on ur knees and talk to God to show u d way. No marriage is perfect! My cousin once fell for a pastor who prophesied that the man she was marrying was the best. The "best man" died 3years after they got married and it was then she discovered he was married to another woman and had 3kids. So my dear talk to ur God and follow ur heart. Majority of the divorce we v in our society is caused by pastors.
Follow your heart
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I tire for una. Is this how God and the Bible taught you to find a long term partner. My rule is that as soon as someone begins with ' God told me...', i just turn deaf ears to them.
You are the one in the relationship and not your pastor. There are no guarantees in life. Your pastor does not know the future else he'll tell you when he will die. Now go ahead and marry the man your desires. If it doesn't work out, at least you know you did it in good faith. Your pastor sounds like a fraud. Don't let him destroy your life.
Its obvious you've already made your decision. Just follow your heart n put everything in prayers as you've already done.. I commend you for doing that.
Since there're no known apparatus for authenticating the callings of nowadays pastors, i'd say it would be a bigger mistake to believe that which hadn't be proven..
Mark 10:9....What God has joined together, let no.......man (i repeat no 1) put asunder. Take the risk dear n shame the devil by enjoying your marriage to the peak.
I'd advice you tell Your fiance so the both of you can achieve you overcoming goal together, if n only if you believe he loves the way you do..
Regards
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The decision to get married absolutely depends on you and the families involved. There's nowhere in the bible where a priest/pastor had anything to do with anyone's choice of partner.
If you truely have a relationship with God then you will commit it all to Him and if you feel a peace in your spirit please go ahead and get married
Why on earth are you listening to the views of a human like you. Why do you need to get through to God through your pastor. This pastor thing is well overated. All you need to do is pray to God on your own and go with your decision. You will be very foolish to go with your pastors decision!!!
And it is the same pastors that will swear heaven and earth that God has revealed that this or that is your husband/wife. Trust my an uncle of mine went through that...because of that, the chic was hounding him. He just bounced from the church quick! Not saying your pastor is fake because I don't know him. My point is we all tend to forget that we also have a direct link with the father. Get on your knees and pray. A "prophetic" word really is just that....you have got take action against/in line with it. GOD FIRST!
Easy with d harshness! She's just asking 4 our opinion. U mustn't give urs abeg.
My Sister, let me ask you this? Do you know when God speaks to you? Do you know His leading? if you can answer these questions; please one more step: speak with your God to definitely give you direction. Whatever the direction: i can gurantee you is His impression about your fiancee. Jer. 29:11
Fear is as strong as faith (my opinion).
If you dwell on the fears of your marriage not working based on your pastor's prophesy, then be sure to have the devil establish those prophecies in your home.
However, if you believe in your heart that you are a good thing onto this man and he is the one you will spend the rest of your life with, then heaven will back you up.
The word of God should be our standard.
Anon 11:03am has said it all. Please dear, if God is concerned about your marriage, He will give you a hint. We all hear the voice of God but some of us refuse to listen. Please, ignore this interfering pastor and listen to your Alpha and Omega. The Great I am that I am created you and He is the only one you should listen to. I had a pastor that tried to interfere in my marriage because he wanted to match make but I put him in his place. Let God lead you, not man
See this mumu.....u dey bring this delicate issue come LIB. Let me advice u don't listen to that pastor o! U better just pray to God and marry that bobo as u aren't getting any younger. And its ur life and urmistake to make. What kind of daleru pastor be this!
I will say, God never sends anyone to you without confirming it to you. "Outof the mouth of two or three witnesses..." If you really want to obey God, ask HIM to confirm to you his perfect will concerning this situation and He is faithful to do just that. You will be fine!
If I were you, I will tell the pastor that I want to see the vision too, He should beg God to show you what he saw. Also, I don't know how much you've prayed, I was told to fast and pray for 3 days specifically for it and ask God to show me in my dream that he is the right one for me.
Goodluck dear, May God help you make the right decision.
EVEN A MAN OF GOD SAID PASTORS SHLDNT MAKE DECISIONS FOR U BT SHLD PRAY WIT U. GOD IS GOD ASK HIM TO REVEAL IT TO U.HE IS UR FATHER AND UR CREATOR.TELL HIM WHAT U WANT N ASK HIM WAT IS RIGHT......FOR HIS PLANS FOR US ARE DAT OF GOOD. YOU CNT TELL THE INTENTIONS OF UR PASTOR.......ASK GOD AND FOLLOW HIS COUNSEL!
this is a very tight case because ur Pastors word could be a voice from God or the Devil. but there's a way out. did u know God can speak to you provided that u realy love ur fiancee. call on God he is ever ready to listen to you. let me give u a strategy, talk to him as if u re talking to a friend it work, provided that u re in christ and if u re not here is the best oppt to get to know him.
ANON 11:23 God bless you
Slow news day linda? *yawn*
You are a Bigggggggggg Fool!!
Olodo!!!
It happened to me all the Pastors told me a man was my husband and I wasted 3 years of my life, almost went mad and is still suffering from a broken heart.
DO NOT listen to any fake man of God, very soon he will start to chase you and say that God said he should sleep with you.
Go on with you wedding plans and start to attend a church like MFM!!
Dear Linda,
kindly proof read your articles before publishing it... as you have a lot of bloggers who are inspired by your work.
You are a Bigggggggggg Fool!!
Olodo!!!
It happened to me all the Pastors told me a man was my husband and I wasted 3 years of my life, almost went mad and is still suffering from a broken heart.
DO NOT listen to any fake man of God, very soon he will start to chase you and say that God said he should sleep with you.
Go on with you wedding plans and start to attend a church like MFM!!
Romans 8:16- The Spirit of God also testifies with our spirit that we are children of God.
bia lindus ke my comment na..... i no ready to type anoda one oooo.chokwaya
The Bible says u shld test all spirits, if u hav a gud relationship with ur maker, he doesn't have 2 reveal anytin 2 ur pastor wen He can always tell u. Hav u seen a father dat would rather give d gateman a message 2 u instead of knocking on ur door & relating the message 2 u in person? God loves u way too much 2 do such, & He wld be happy to caution u wen He sees u aint heading 2 d right path, so my dear, talk 2 God, He Hears & He Speaks, If only u're ready 2 listen.
If you are a committed Christian as you say, then you should hear from God yourself. In the mouths of two or more people, God's word is confirmed/established. My pastor recently said to us in church that prophecies are for edification and comfort. They are not meant to bring fear or confusion. I refer you to 1 Corinthians 14:3, 31. This prophecy by your pastor, does it edify you or comfort you? The answer is within you my sister.
Sisi london and the other Anon insulting the bride to be,please be cautioned. obviously she is trying not to be a fool like you, that is why she is asking for advice. i am sure if u had known about linda's blog then you would have asked for advice also.
bride to be, your best bet is to pray to God, He always listens to his children, besides you are a christian, so you know what you should do. fast and pray for a week and ask God for a sign so that you do not get signs and you start to doubt.do not tell your fiance about it or anyone, let it just be between you and God. i wish you all the best dear. do not let any one take your happiness because at the end of the day, you have to bear it all yourself.
(1) Your Pastor is not God. (2) YOU also have the Power of Attorney to call upon the Name of the Lord and ask Him to show you His thoughts regarding marriage. Ask Him to give you His Perfect will for you. Unselfishly give up your will to His. (3) Like you rightly said - no marriage is perfect. Go into it with the mind to make it work. It will be tougher than this "fairy story" relationship of yours, its not the same thing.................its not the same man. you'll understand better when you get in *smiles*. Just note that when something is broken, you repair it, not throw it away. (4) when you're done seeking God's Face (since you're already a church worker, i guess i do not need to point out that you should be fasting while at it), let your Pastor know your decision. (5) YOUR PASTOR IS NOT GOD.........................Here's wishing you Bliss - whatever direction you decide to go in. Cheers!
ZINGO
@ Adele and Miss Lawyer - spot on!
Am a celestian and i can tell u dat i hav seen people havin suitation lyk yours bt wat u need 2 understand is dis;some prophesies cometrue and some can be hindered by prayer there is 1 tin God cherish most love and marriage.I would conclude dat u should seek other prophet(d one u can trust lyk going 2 a celestial church u know very well),pray and fast abt it dats 4 spiritual and 4 physical see a marriage counselor who can help u with questions u need to ask ur hubby 2 be abt d present issue.
Bride to be!all u need to do is pray commune with your God.eight years is too long too waste God is not a waster if your finance is not yours you will have gone separate ways since...what if your pastor is interested in you?all you need is get on your kneels nd pray...it is well with you
What makes you think God loves your pastor more than he loves you that God will only reveal your marriage in the future to your pastor and not to you. Commit the situation in to God´s hands and follow your heart after you have prayed. God will see you through. Your pastor is not your God. And if your pastor truelly thinks that God revealed to him the future of your marriage, then what your pastor should do if he is a real man of God is to ask for God´s blessing so that God will bless your marriage and make it last forever or till death do you apart. Because with God all things are possible. God love his children and will not delibrately hurt his children. Therefore God knows you and you man loves each other and so will not hurt either one. Stay blessed and good luck
Ehmm.. This is not a discussion for public opinon, go and pray ! God is not an author of confussion, let him guide your steps, what r your parent saying? Your siblings ?...that can also serve as a guide
Even if d vision is true,go down on ur knee n tel God wot u want u r a xtian nau........or avnt u read abt d stori of hezekiah wen prophet tld him dat God ask him 2 prepare his hauz cos he is goin 2 die,wot d he do,he went down on his knee n pray 2 God n God stil send d same prophect 2 him dat he has added anoda fifteen yrs 2 his year.am nt sayn d vision is true or nt buh u knw wot u want ursef so pray 2 God n he can stil speak 2ru dis same pastor dat u shld go ahead wit d marriage...........all u need now is prayer. Bukkie
Everyone has said it all. FOLLOW YOUR HEART.
I remember wen we were pretty young, our pastor then saw a vision concerning my parents marriage. Fast forward 30years later and they are still together, now grandparents. Whilst my dad wasn't a strong xtian then, I remember him goin 2d pastor and shouting that he shldnt be telling his wife wateva vision he sees concerning their marriage because they have a God. 3 out of 4 of us are now married and one thing we always say we learnt frm our parents is to always seek the face of God in all situation. Whilst I don't doubt d honesty of ur pastor, he is also human and one may never know if really God spoke 2him or its for selfish reasons. So pls seek the face of God concerning this and all other issues you may have. God bless
This is always a situation i don't understand with pastors and their vision. OK he had a vision and saw there would be problems with the marriage after awhile, so why doesn't he offer counseling the couple regularly say once a month to ensure they are on track with their marriage i.e. spiritually, emotionally etc. instead of saying don't get married and casting the marriage to hell. I
have hardly heard of pastors offer such..
Regarding you making a decision, i think you need to be positive and speak to your fiance about this and both of you can work with the target of preventing the "vision" from happening.. Good luck and all the best.
Mr J
Is your pastor Chris Oyakhilome? I hear he is notorious for doing this.
My pastor once said that we should always make some decision on our own bcos he is of flesh like us,he said the only power pastors have over his members is just that fact that he was called to stand before us to preach . That being spiritual is not for pastors only but for every human being. He said pastors can't decide our destiny.
I hear some people say their pastors slap them lol,their pastor take their gf,their pastor disapproved their wedding lol,my pastor said no pastor have the right to do such except he has turned the church to be a military zone where orders are taken by force.
Dont you have parents? If not cant you make decision and be responsible for it as an adult? Has your pastor been making decisions for you whether to go to school? What course to take? Where to live? How to make love? How to dress? Do you also let your pastor decide when to go to bed? When you see your period do you tell him bcos he is a pastor?
I don't understand people these days. Pastors too have problems and they cry to God,some pastors are divorced,some are it yet married struggling to be married,some are looking for fruit of the womb,some have diseases that hasn't been cured,some don't even know how to approach a woman. So what do you make out of all these?
Hey I am not saying its not good to meet your pastor for advice,but I think you should be able to decide on your own most times,some pastors disapprove because of jealousy,some of them do so because they are interest in you,some just want to prove to others that their decision counts and works a man of God.
When ever I see or hear this kind of story I burst into laughter because it reminds me of how some pastor snatched someone's wife,how some pastors rape,how some pastors scam,how some pastors steal and yet they are people who beloved in them before they found out what they have been doing.
Again I am not saying all pastors are bad but hey how will you know which is good when you don't live inside their heart? The bad ones we found didn't we trust and see them as pastors we can take advice from? That some of us even can't do a thing without their approval?
My dear you are a grown woman,a child of God,pray over your plans,fast,talk to your pastor about it again and tell him/her that you want to go ahead because the kingdom of God taketh by violence .
After all we have had so many people Marry for years still with kids and they never did church wedding,they didn't ask for advice from pastors,they didn't publish their wedding on paper or appear on TV,they never went for honeymoon,they didn't buy wedding gown yet they have kids and are still happily married while some with the above mentioned things and ceremony split and end their marriage after all the paparazzi things.
So what is the yardstick for a successful marriage? Is it until ur pastor approves your wedding?
You don't know how much I am disappointed at you question! So you mean if your pastor says no you will say no to your man ? Common already haba,where is your sense,other things you have done on your own that didn't work out did you kill yourself for it? This is life ma'am face it squarely and triumph but if not life goes on and keep your head up because for every Dark night there's a brighter day ahead.
Again respect your pastors view but doesn't mean you must follow it,he is human and can make mistake. Pastor chris Okotie did say Stephanie was God sent right! But now what happened? It became devil sent or what! Answer me Abeg.
Recently a lady divorce in America amicably and this is a lady that her father is a well respected pastor ,so the father couldn't see that they were not meant for each other? So many gospel singers have been in heart broken by their man in that naija e.g keffe ,Kenny saint blue,etc so with all the shouting they couldn't see they were not compatible?
Once again ma'am Marry your man and be set free pls .
dear friend, despise not prophesyings.(1 thess 5:20)but i am of the opinion that God will minister to you concerning it. I will also like to let you know that some visions are for a particular season so you still need to pray and cry to God (Isaiah 38:1-5). my question to you is are you seeking God concerning this issue or you are just interested in getting married because you have dated for 8years.your 8 years of courtship should have been to seek Gods will concerning the issue of marriage. Darling, a bad marriage is like experiencing hell on earth.so pls dont just go into it.PRAY!! God hates divorce(Malachi 2:13-16)
To those saying "go ahead dont listen to fake pastors" please do not be quick to judge. yes some pastors have a bad reputation but in the end they are humans and dat is why God said we should test all spirit. I will also like to let you know that the pastor doesnt necessarily have to be fake. take for instance when God told prophet Isaiah to tell Hezekiah that he should set his house in order because he will die, but hezekiah cried to God, and God heard his prayer and sent Isaiah to tell him he has heard his cry and that he will add 15 years to his years. one could have thought Prophet Isaiah was fake. lets be careful of what we say abt men of God (real or fake)except you have a proof.
Advice to young ladies, dont just go into relationships for the fun of it. seek Gods will!!!how many guys do you want to date before you settle down.stop trial and error.no relationship is perfect but God is all knowing, he knows what is good for you.his choice is the best so allow him. your choice might not be what God wants. LET GO AND LET GOD! let he that has an ear listen to what the spirit is saying.
You need approval from 3 people.
1. God
2. Your parents
3. Your spiritual father.
Now, the most important approval you need is from God.
So if you are very very sure God is giving you a go ahead, and you are very sure that its God that is speaking to u and not ur emotions or the number of years and resources you’ve invested in the relationship. By all means go ahead.
But based on this ur story... it seems ure more concerned with how much uve invested in the relationship rather than the most important thing which is God’s approval
So my dear, go to God in prayer, with an open heart and know his opinion, Don’t base one of the most important decision in your life on your pastor or emotions.
Go and pray through yourself and seek God’s face(with an open heart)... then make your decision.
All the best dearieee....
I guess ur fiance does nt attend d same church wit u,so smtimes it bcoms an issue when a dedicated member wants 2 be married away..how well does ur pastor knw ur fiance?U hv been wit dis guy 4 8yrs n y hasn't dis revelation come up @ any point until now?God wuldnt want 2 cause u pain,if God didn't want u guys 2gether,it wuld hv been history by now.Go b4 Him(God) n make ur request known,dis is a time 2 prove ur commitement wit God,be a seed sower!!go on wit ur man.all d best* J
It is better you follow your heart. Why has pastor not said anything for the past eight years and just saying it now? No marriage is perfect, every marriage turns out to be what the actors make it to be. If you are determined with your man, Prayer is the key. Remember, prayer change people and people change things. Nothing is above prayer my dear.Both of you can make it happen.
Please... like others have said, our God isnt a God of confusion. Weve seen cases where a pastor said someone is someone's husband and the guy ended up beating them black and blue everyday. seek God yourself and pray about it. Uve been together for 8 years and things have been good so far... Just follow your heart and pray that all would be well....
I can never understand why all these pastors are getting so powerful, we have become weak ... my dear pray & ask God for his wish for you ... I lived abroad for so many years and never did i hear of an UK pastor or American pastor seeing vision that one man or woman isn't meant for you. Marriage is hard enough and by this pastor's so called vision he has already made the future difficult .... because now every fight you have will be questioned weather its a sign .... the wise thing to do is to pray about it and not tell your future husband.
If your man isn't a member of your church then i say its possible the pastor is afraid he will loose you as a member an your 10 percent
THERE IS A WAY THAT SEEMS RIGHT TO A MAN, THE END THEREOF IS DESTRUCTION. I WILL ADVISE THAT YOU DONT GET MARRIED TO HIM WITHOUT GOD'S APPROVAL.ITS RISKY BCOZ YOU CAN ONLY SEE THE SWEET THINGS NOW. BUT, GOD KNOWS HOW FAR, AND HOW THE MARRIAGE WILL BE,PLS DO NOT LISTEN TO PEOPLE SAYING GO WITH YOUR HEART,YOUR HEART MIGHT BE WRONG,NOT GOING GOD'S WAY DOESNT WORK FOR EVERYBODY OH! PLEASE FAST AND PRAY TILL YOU HEAR FROM GOD BEFORE YOU GO AHEAD,DO NOT THINK ITS IMPOSSIBLE FOR YOU TO HEAR FROM GOD,IT IS VERY MUCH POSSIBLE YOU DONT HAVE TO RELY ON WHAT YOUR PASTOR SAYS,YOU CAN HEAR FROM GOD YOURSELF,WHEN GOD SEES YOUR HEART AND YOUR CRIES, HE WILL SPEAK TO YOU..................ALL THE BEST DEARIE.......
I find it hilarious, but why do people follow pastors blindly? who do you worship? Pastor or God?
My dear, pray and follow your heart, whatever happens in your future marriage is always of ur own making, how you lay your bed is how you would sleep on it, God has already given us a gift; the brain use it wisely & don't be a zombie to anybody.
if ur really a christian then i think all you have to do is pray to GOD and ask him for a sign....either positive or negative and you have to know this!!!!Nothing should be taken for granted, not even d slightest of signs and make sure u keep an open mind about your husband to be.We all make mistakes but some we can avoid so my advice for you will be four key words...pray - listen - watch - wait.
Bride to be, I plead with you to seek the face of the Lord!!! What God tells you is most important. Please Pray! Pray and Pray until you hear from God. God help you in Jesus name, Amen
Marry your man
This is a tough one, do you believe that your pastor is a true servant of God? What kind of relationship do you have with your pastor? How does God speak to you? Have you heard from Him concerning this matter? God is not a God of confusion, maybe He has been trying to speak to you all these years and you did not listen, now that you are about to take this step, He wants to warn you one last time. Marriage is no joke, getting in it with the wrong person is hell. So please search within yourself if you have any reservation whatsoever about your partner, pray about the situation, and let God reveal it to you. Sometimes or most times it looks good from outside, but it's only God who knows the heart of man and Who also knows tomorrow. We don't know these things except He reveals it. Just take time off from your partner and pray, trust me you don't want to make a grave mistake. And for people saying prayers changes things, if it was God who revealed that to the pastor are you saying she should pray to God to change the situation or change what He said, if He said it?
WHY NOT APPROVE MY COMMENT
Please marry your man.
NO ONE KNOWS TOMORROW EXPECT GOD. U HAVE BIN WITH THIS GUY FOR 8YRS AND DECIDE TO MARRY HIM, MY DEAR FOLLOW YOUR HEART AND BE VERY PRAYERFUL.
a smell sometin fishy here!!!are you sure that this your pastor does not want you for himself girl be careful it is not pastor that would leave with the man but you and if you are happy then go for it as 8 years is a long time for you not to know what you want and the rel has even lasted longer than a lot of marriages sef. so go for it
Anon sept 18 8:33am said it all....follow ur heart. Better to regret the things you did than the things u wish you did!! ""he who Finds a wife, not he who the Pastor finds a wife for"" that was funny
my dear is a pity that the so called pastors have mislead many marriages n individuals today all in the name of God said when God didnt say an thing,plz my dear if u love the young man go ahead n marry him.
this is a high time u girls should learn to keep pastors away from ur marriage,pastor is not someone like Chris Okoti?
Dt ws hw some men of God i net said dt i hv a spiritual husband dt ws y an nt married one of them said dt he did nt c dis ny hubby married me.an a catholic i attend mornin masses.am a choir member.whn these men of God me prayers to do i flung them away n continued my way of prayer to Gox.nw am married to dat man they said he nevr saw him marrin me.pls ur own prayer is wht dt matters.b strong in prayer God will surely answer u.
I wud say d pastor may even want him to his self or maybe he might be right but sum tymz dis pastors are nt to be trusted.my advice for u is to follow your heart and pray about it
Babe..nor think am twice ohhh....marry am 1st as ordained by God...then make we cross the run-away bridge later.na so ur pastor pastor c vision 4 am wey e turn reach? abeg....shuooo!!!!!mcheeewwwww!!
Babe..na u know ohhh...marry the guy as ordained by God Almighty,when u reach ''the marriage will not work'' bridge...God go still give u canoe cross am..abi na so ur pastor...pastor c vision wey he one marry him wife? ABEG EEE...SHUOOO!!!
Huh? I'm perplexed...Well, then again everybody interprets the bible in their own way, and everyone's relationship with God is exactly that. 'THEIR' exclusive one on one relationship with God. I think its ok to respect and try to draw from a pastor or fellow Christians opinion and link that back directly to the word, and seek God in its interpretation... But in so far as destiny, future, plans, possibility... I NEVER EVER EVER! Restrict myself...I believe that only God knows these things, you pray, you fast and you leave it to him. No human has any right to speak negativity contrary to what God has planned for you in your life. Your pastor is lucky he said that to you and not me. He is not God. That said, do make sure you SERIOUSLY commit your relationship into God's hand, walk with him and seek him personally every step of the way.
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Those saying u should listen to heart are only confusing you the more. At this point, your heart is saying two things: go ahead with the marriage and don't go ahead with it. U don't need a man of God to tell what to do, get down on your kneels and tell God to lead in the right part. That is what u should be doing, not asking one million ppl to tell you the right thing to. We are all short of wisdom.
WITHOUT YOU SAYING IT, IM CONVINCED YOU ATTEND THE HOUSEHOLD CHURCH IN OREGUN AND FROM YOUR STORY, THE PASTOR ALREADY SET HIS EYES ON YOU.
I PITY YOU DIE IF YOU DITCH YOUR FIANCE FOR PASTOR.
ADVISE YOU READ YOUR BIBLE MORE THAN YOU OBEY YOUR PASTOR.
my dear sister if you had a personal relationship with God you would not be asking that question.why are you acting so ignorantly.God will never and let me repeat never talk to any human being about you without informing you first!!! the Bible says my pple perish because they lack knowledge.my pple means christians coz we are his,so if you want to perish go ahead. am yet to see where the Bible says if anyone lacks wisdom let them ask the pastor. have a relationship with christ and be set free t=from the law of ma!!come on.you are the ones who are making pple see christianity as foolishess!!
God are still using some annointed pastors to direct our footsteps.In a case like this,u ve to go down on ur knees and pray to God to take absolutely control,if he is ur husband let nothing separates both of u.if he is nt ur husband,let him disappear and u will see it happen. i still believe in visions depending where it is comin frm.A woman of God told my sister not to travel last xmas that she saw death around her that if it is important that she has to travel,she shld pray seriously to avert it and use anointing oil on her cpd when she gets to the village.Bt she didnt listen or carryout the instruction.she jst pack her things and travelled to her husbands village where she was poisoned.she left lagos on 28dec 2011 and died on 11 feb.2012 there in the village.she didnt make it bac to lag.may her soul continue to rest in peace.Amen
If I am right, u dated dis man for the period of 8yrs without ur past being n d know, and when he proposed, u decided it was time to intimate him. My dear , he may be ryt, seek counsel elsewhere and also pray dear, pray.
PLEASE DO YOURSELF & YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND A FAVOUR, DO NOT LET THAT ''PASTOR'' CONDUCT YOUR MARRIAGE O!!! IF YOU GUYS HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR SO LONG AND HAVE TRIED FOR ALL THAT TIME, MARRY THE GUY. EXCEPT HE OR YOU DO SOMETHING REALLY UNBECOMING BEFORE THAT DAY!!
IF YOUR ''PASTOR'' WAS GOING TO BE YOUR FATHER IN THE LORD.. HE SHOULD HAVE BRIDGED THAT GAP FOR YOU IN PRAYER, BUT INSTEAD HE CHOSE TO SCARE YOU.. DO NOT BE AFRAID. LET YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD LEAD YOU ON. GOOD LUCK, THE LORD BE WITH YOU IJN..AMEN
Girl, no need to be confused. Follow YOUR heart and not your Pastor.
Pastors are unfortunately prone to mistakes and do not "hear"/"see" correctly. Please don't let him derail your plans. You have invested 8 years into this, I am sure you would have seen the signs if your boyfriend is irresponsible or unreliable.
Let God continue to take charge and you'll be fine. Go ahead with your marriage and share the pictures on LIB when it happens!!!!!
Good Luck.
@isso you are so correct!!!
Well if u arent sure about what your pastor said, what majority of ppl in the thread says shouldnt be of any relevance either. if i was in ur shoes, i'll follow my heart and face wateva comes my way than follow the advice of another man and leave with the tought of "What would it have been like following my own heart"
50 shades of RAW-BISH!!! i am so angry, ive bin dating my fianace for 8yrs too i cld nvr leave him bcs sm1 said so, only if ive d inclination to do so....pls pray and follow ur heart n all the best. God still speaks to al of us...watevr kept u dis long will keep u forever. God bless you!
Listen to your pastor. In the meantime, can i have your boyfriend's number?
Ok ooo go marry your pastor na rubbish mshewww
THIS IS WHY CHILDREN OF GOD MUST KNOW GOD FOR THEMSELVES. URE A CHRISTIAN. THE SAME WAY GOD SPEAKS TO UR PASTOR IS THE SAME WAY HE SPEAKS TO U TOO. YOUVE DATED DS GUY FOR 8YRS AND IN THOSE 8YRS IF THE HOLYSPIRIT HAS NEVA TOLD U TO CHCK YOURSELF N UR RELATIONSHIP...MY DEAR GO AHEAD.OUR GOD IS NOT AN AUTHOR OF CONFUSION. HE CNT TELL UR PASTOR A AND TELL YOU B. SO PRAY ABOUT IT..CHECK IF URE AT PEACE WITH IT..I MEAN PEACEEEEEE....GO AHEAD IF U ARE.
Infact baby, am passing through the same issue now.A woman of God said the same thing to me, that the guy i have been dating for more than two years is not my husband and we have few months left before marriage.i nearly left him but we realy love ourselves so much that i had to talk to myself.
The war is still on in my family but i dont give a dam. Am ready to face the consiquences. Pls marry the one u love cos u may not see his type again.
but how can u date sumone for 8yrs and u neva told ur pastor. And ure in d choir
My dear just pray about it and go ahead and marry the man of your dream, my friends pastor told her to marry one man, that Gods hand is in it and my friend did, lo and behold she saw hell in that marriage before the marriage scattered. so marry him if you want to.
This may sound harsh but, I think your Pastor is right. Do you know why? Bcos if you have been dating this guy for 8 years, chances are you must have slept with him, forgive me if i'm assuming.. and there is NO WAY God will sanction such a marriage if you are. You can pray from today till tomorrow, He has already become an idol in your heart. I am speaking from experience, trying to 'pray' my fellow fornicator into becoming my husband. Of course it didn't work, God had nothing to do with it because I apparently did not respect his command enough to make the right decision. Open your eyes.
Please pray to God for this. Either your pastor wants you for himself or some man in your church has bribed the pastor to see false vision and steer you to this unseen man. Marry the man of your heart. Most of these pastors are fake.
My advice is get @least 2 diff ppl d@ u knw dey are spirit filled and are closer 2 God dan u, tell dey 2 pray along wit ur concerning ur relationship d@ u need 2 know d mind of God concerning it. Also, dnt mention anytin abt wht ur pastor has said. On d oda hand, put all ur emotions aside and pray 2 God 4 clear revelation abt ur relationship wit d guy and stop any form of romance wit him so d@ u can hear clearly 4rm God. May God bless u as u do dis IJN. #obarune
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See hen som pastor are worth listen to ooo!
A man of God told my younger sis 2 brk up her relationship wit her so called fiance and she refused and dint boda 2 pray abt it. She got married 2 d@ guy and d angel of a guy later turned a monster after 2 kids. Last year, d guy sent her packing and now shez stayin wit our parent wit her kids. So, dis lady needs 2 put away her feelings and emotions and pray 2 God 2 reveal everytin 2 her. ##talkin 4rm experiece
my dear please follow your heart
pls we should listen to God and not human pastor is just human and not God after all pastor okotie said he heard from God to marry his wife and what do we have now,may be we should ask the pastor if he has any body in mind to give the girl to marry what they the pastors do now in church is to matchmaker he must have an interest.
i know this is very delicate issue,but dating a man for over 8yrs doesnt mean he is your husband oo. u two might have been good as bf/gf but not as patners cos once it is called marriage,alot starts to unfold thts why you see many Ppl divorced cz you will alwz say hes not d man you married... pray and ask God to direct ur path also there re some men of God that re been used by God to see things and i wouldnt know how well you know tht yur pastor cos i had a friend who d pastor told same stuff wen she wanted to marry a guy.. she felt devastated at first but few months later d man died and she wz super happy else she would av been a widow. so dear ask for d holyspirit at dz point cz MARRIAGE NO BE BEANS OOOO! ERRONE SHOULD BE HAPPY IN DER MARRIAGES.... GOODLUCK
Its sumtimes surprising.Does ur Husband-to-be attend same church with u?cos sincerely speakin I think ur Pastor is scared of loosin ur membership(alongside ur contribution)...God is not far from any of us,so seek his direction and if it doesn't come 'go ahead and marry ur man'.The God that has brought u dis far,has not abandoned u & will neva.Moreso,u have a choice to 'Probably seek God in anoda Church'.God Bless U,as I also pray wit u(for the success of this marriage)
My dear follow ur heart. Don't mind dat pastor. Ask ur parent who prayed for them b/4 they got married. If the two of u luv n understands each other, go ahead n marry ur guy
My dear follow ur heart. Don't mind dat pastor. Ask ur parent who prayed for them b/4 they got married. If the two of u luv n understands each other, go ahead n marry ur guy
Marry ur pastor then... ode!!!
It is well! Please pray and reconfirm it from God himself if that was the vision.
I am ready to take a risk, and i have read articles, and people's testimonies that sometimes its better to follow your heart, and pastors can be wrong at times.
You've said it all my dear, go ahead and marry your man the risk is worth taking and marriage is not always about the good times.
Anonymous 8.07am nailed it. That's is the most sensible comment I have read so far. Btw, following your heart is not scriptural. You really need to seek God's face, you need to hear him clearly before you marry your fiancé. May God help you.
you didnt tell us if he is strong christian. Ur fiancee that is?
After 8years????
Hmmm, seek a 2nd opinion.
I DON'T trust any pastor!
Marry ur pastor lol. since he makes all ur decisions.
All des pastors, dey see only bad vision. Never good stuff. Pls my dear, there is notin impossile for God. Put ur marriage in d hands of God not man(pastor) and he wld see u tru cos he never fails! NEVER!!! U penticostals hav learnt to worship ur pastor and dat is a big sin oo.
my dear.....if u go to another pastor and he says d same thing, my advice to you is to take a walk. a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
hello i know you should have probably got the right answer to your question already but i just want to add a little, the foundation of every good relationship is love and understanding which i think you people already have for each other, my advice therefore is follow your heart pastors are not always right my dear expecialy some pastors of our present generation, i'll advice further that you pray more and seek the face of God yourself thank God for Christianity you can go to God yourself without any medium. He will speak to you when you open your heart to Him remember his word in Jer. 29:11 for i know the thought i think towards you a thought of peace and not of evil to give you hope in your letter end (Asv) some other translations say i future you hope for. the question now is what do you want? take it to your father in Prayers and he will answer you. don't leave your man because your pastor says so your pastor is not God listen to your heart that's God speaking to you. God bless you
Babe..na u know ohhh...marry the guy as ordained by God Almighty,when u reach ''the marriage will not work'' bridge...God go still give u canoe cross am..abi na so ur pastor...pastor c vision wey he one marry him wife? ABEG EEE...SHUOOO!!!
Your Pastor is not going to live your life for you. You need to do more for yourself than to rely entirely on your pastor vision to determine whether or not you should marry the one you love. Do you believe his vision/revelation, based on your previous esperience with him, as his church member? If you are a christian and you have maintained your right part in the relationship, then you should talk to God for confirmation. Be open minded and asked God to drag you out of the intended marriage even if you are making a mistake or else you are going ahead with the marriage. Remember your hell fire may begins on earth if you get into a wrong marriage. So while you should not abandone the relationship just because your pastor said so, his prophecy should prompt you to do more for yourself in deciding weather to go ahead or not with the marriage. Chumaason
You are in the church and at the same time dating for eight years. The truth about it is that if the voice is from God...it will surely come to pass. Believe it or not!
Everyone that indulge in dating is still of the world... surrender your life totally to Christ and He will give you the needed peace. Crisis in marriage is as a result of absence of the man of peace in the family. Jesus is the man of peace. Embrace him and you will not have a broken marriage.
I don't think you have a problem if your pastor is the reason for your excuse problem. secondly, if you indeed a Christian then you should know the scriptures better. If however, according to you, your pastor said you should not marry your fiance, then he does not only have a hidden agenda but also a wolf in sheep's clothing. A hypocrite.
If your Pastor had to confide in you by telling you what he saw why don't you adhere to his instructions.What does he stand to gain personally in your relationship or your intending partner. He has given you his counsel based on what he saw and he will never force you.God gives you choices which ever one you choose is up to you.It is disheartening that many folks don't trust the clergy.Always remember that once you are married you are married and there is no outing ceremony. Many have said pray and God will talk to you,that's true but I want to say that many folks have never heard from God except when it is time for marriage.
You are obviously not ready for marriage, why did your so called pastor wait till this time before telling u that he's not the right man for u,after 8 solid years of relationship, who knows your guy better, u or the pastor.plz if u don't want your man abeg give me his number cos am interested.
Pray seriously and meditatively about it, whatever comes to your mind immediately after the prayers do it without a second thought. A man you've known for 8yrs cannot suddenly become a chameleon except if the devil caused that. Of which we know you must protect your marriage with prayers.
Never follow your heart in this matter. Are u still a christian? Is your fiance a christian? In eight years of being together have you been intimate with your fiance? Dont go with majority of the comments here. Many in the public have no relationship with God even though they are church-goers. If it is an unequal yoke, the marriage may not work. If both of you are backsliders, there is trouble ahead. You know yourself, you have all the clues and intuition. Do u have God's word to back the marriage plan? You know what to do, but like most women, you may wish to settle with your emotions.
You said you prayed but did not say wether you prayed to the extent thatyou had peace that the man was God’s will for you.
You should go and pray and ask one or two serious Christians to also pray with you without telling them what the pastor said.
If you genuinely desires to hear from God and you are sensitive, God will surely speak to you in a way you will understand.
There are fake pastors and there are genuine pastors.
The pastor may be right or wrong.
But you should hear from God yourself.
If however, after praying earnestly, God says of a truth, he is not the man, you should trust that God will bring your own man and walk away from the relationship.
What kind of investment is are you talking about here? Broken courtship is better than a broken marriage.
I’ve found out that when girls say they have invested so much in a relationship, more often than not, they mean they have given their bodies to the man several times and they don’t feel good going to start afresh with someone else.
Young girls should always try to keep themselves and avoid sex before marriage totally.
Thank you,
Abeg oh...my sister make u run like a tiger. Nqwa make you pack up and commotu from that yeye church. Soon the yeye pastor go see vision where god go command him to yash u and god go tell am say make him ask you to make plenty donations.
Sweet heart, Nigerian Pastors are all crooks...listen to your parents about their views on this man, and most of all follow your heart. That never lead you wrong, if you really listen to that tiny quiet voice in your head, you can't go wrong. All marriages requires work and compromise, no matter who marry and how rich they are..relationships needs time to cultivate. That pastor is a crook...don't be dissuaded by lies.
Sincerely, i think weather your Ps is real or fake is immaterial, so does our (LIB users) thoughts.
Just turn to God: nothing takes the place of hearing God FOR yourself BY yourself...thats the only thing that will keep you going when the chips are down esp in marriage.
Wishing you the best.
Ur heart can only lead u right if it is subject to he word of God, which s the light. If u ve bn fornicating with ur guy for the past 8 years, ur heart will only lead u from a sinful state, which is darkness. Repent n seek God's face. 8 years is not a guarantee for a lifetime commitment. Being in love s a dreamworlds, marriage is the wake up into reality. Best wishes
Ur heart can only lead u right if it is subject to he word of God, which s the light. If u ve bn fornicating with ur guy for the past 8 years, ur heart will only lead u from a sinful state, which is darkness. Repent n seek God's face. 8 years is not a guarantee for a lifetime commitment. Being in love s a dreamworlds, marriage is the wake up into reality. Best wishes
Dear you are not God's GRANDCHILD oooo you are his CHILD d apple of his eye and where 2 shall agree as concerns a thing it shall stand for what God has joined together............... let God guide you through this phase you'll come out victorious
Hmmm, this is highly sensitive my dear and i want u to be very careful. God will never change. it happens to some1 i know. he met a lady in secondary school then for about 14yrs just friends then after school they parted. but some how they knew they had some feeling for each other. the lady had child before the guy find her again. but the guy still did nt border. 7yrs later the lady start to cheat on the young man. now the man forgave as love covereth all things. pastor gave go ahead bcos the told pastor that they still love each other. yes they do but the young man did nt trust the lady anymore. he couldn't sense it but he knew he was not secure or nt in peace of mind once this lady travel. but his parent had contradictions toward the wedding. not till towards their marriage before thing blow and start reveling.
what i'm i trying to say wen it is the will of God, he wont allowed you to make mistake falling it to it and that is if you seek his face concerning it.
the most paramount thing is not ur feeling as it will dwindle five years latest,neither the love cos its driven by feelings. "but it the peace of mind that pass all understanding" secondly, his and ur parent once they agreed muchigaba... pastor are just to guide u what to do before & in marriage inline with scriptural injunction.
step out of feelings, clear your mind, thing of issues you've had and how u were able to settle it. are u accepted in his family (parent) if no what was their reason if it not on sentimental issue, my dear go ahead. and remain faithful no matter what. Goodluck
The best thing I like about Christianity (unlike other 'religions') is that we have God, in Christ as the Spirit living in us to guide us in all matters in life. Thats why Paul says it is longer I who lives but Christ who lives in me. Be it in your relationship and marriage Christ in you should guide you. As Christians our lives are not governed by an outside being but an indwelling God!!! I just love Christ in me. let Him direct you. Ask for pastor, friends, relatives, and all to pray for you but not to control you. i cannot say marry or dot marry him but turn to your spirit and touch God
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