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Monday 21 November 2011

Too sexy, too laid back, too independent...Why some women just aren't wife material

An article written by Daily Mail's Frances Childs. Kinda like an eye opener. Enjoy...
We’ve all heard - or perhaps experienced - a version of this story: man meets woman, they fall in love, date for a while, move in together. They frame photos, arrange them on the walls, pick out furniture, make a nest.
A few years on, marriage is on her mind. But she puts no pressure on him - he’ll ask when he’s ready, right? He doesn’t. She doesn’t push it. The relationship stagnates. Man leaves woman. Man swiftly marries subsequent girlfriend, leaving ex mystified and heartbroken.

This is what happened to Laura Hall, a 34-year-old financial adviser from London. Laura had been living with Douglas for four years when he walked out. ‘I just let the relationship drift on, hoping he’d pop the question in his own time. But he never did. I was devastated when he left.’ 

And she was even more devastated when she heard he’d proposed to his next girlfriend within a matter of months. But why her and not Laura? Does it mean there are some women who are acceptable as a girlfriend, but not really quite the ticket when it comes to getting hitched?
A recent celebrity example that comes to mind is Pippa Middleton. With her long, luscious hair and legs to die for, Pippa is one of the most eligible women on the planet. The sister-in-law to the future King of England possesses an undeniable sex appeal, not to mention perhaps the most lusted-after derriere in the world.
Yet, according to reports, Pippa’s 18-month romance with Old Etonian Alex Loudon recently ended because his family considered her not quite ‘wife material’ — a phrase guaranteed to make female hackles rise. In this supposedly egalitarian age, is there really such a thing as ‘wife material’? 


Well, yes, according to John Molloy, author of Why Men Marry Some Women And Not Others. Molloy claims there are definite types of women that men marry — and, equally definitely, women they do not.
Molloy interviewed more than 3,500 people in his quest to discover exactly why men pop the question to some of us and not others. When he asked men who were about to be married to describe their fiancees, only 20 per cent said ‘gorgeous’ or ‘sexy’. The others focused on their future wives’ personalities.

One man summed up his future bride as ‘the kind of woman you can take anywhere and be proud of’ — a sentiment echoed by many other men in the course of Molloy’s research. More than 30 per cent of the men Molloy interviewed who were about to get married said their family’s positive opinion of their future bride had helped them decide she was ‘the one’ — and most parents aren’t looking for an incredibly sexy or very attention-seeking spouse for their son.

There’s another good reason why men eschew sexiness in favour of other qualities when they look for a wife. ‘Men don’t look for very sexy wives, because — at a very basic animal level — they want to be sure the children they are raising are their own,’ explains psychologist Dr Jane McCartney, an expert in human behaviour and relationships. ‘Men are attracted to qualities such as loyalty, discretion and kindness when they look for a wife. Feisty and flirty is fine for a girlfriend. It’s just not what men want in life partners.

Just look at feisty, flirty, gorgeous Cameron Diaz. Men fall for her in their droves, yet she always ends up single again. If we believe Molloy’s thesis, Cameron’s just too sexy — on some deep, evolutionary level, the men she dates don’t believe she’ll stick around. 

But while men apparently don’t want sexy wives, they do want women who take care of themselves. Molloy found women who are slim and well-groomed with nice hair and nails are prized, although those who wear revealing, attention-grabbing clothes are not. 

It all sounds a bit schizophrenic: men want to marry women who are sexy and fit, but not too sexy and fit. 


Another reason women find themselves without a ring on their finger, Molloy says, is that many simply do not push hard enough for it. He found 73 per cent of the wives-to-be he spoke to had forced the issue themselves rather than waiting for a romantic proposal. 


This rings true for Laura Hall. ‘I should have been clear about how much marriage meant to me,’ she says now. ‘I was living with him, doing all the things a wife does, but without a ring on my finger. He could just walk out and in the end that’s exactly what he did.’ 


While she concedes things had become stale between them, she says it happened precisely because the relationship had lost its momentum — the explicit acknowledgement of commitment that typically leads to engagement, then marriage, then children. 

Experts say this is common when couples live together. According to Dr Joel Block, psychologist and author of the book The Real Reasons Men Commit, women need to be wary of serial co-habiters. If a man has had more than one live-in relationship, he is less likely to marry than a man who hasn’t or who is in his first co-habiting relationship.

If you are with a man who has lived with someone before and you want to get married, you need to say so and stick to your guns early on in the relationship. Make your wishes known. It worked for Gemma Jones, 30, a childminder from Kent. ‘I lived with Mark for a year and then I told him I wanted to get married. He was a bit fazed at first and came out with lines like “it’s only a bit of paper” but I explained that marriage was important to me and to my family, who are Roman Catholics.’

‘Mark agreed to set a date when he understood that I really wanted to get married and that I wouldn’t be happy if the relationship just carried on,’ she explains. 


Research also demonstrates that men prize women who don’t cook and clean for them as a matter of course. As one man in the survey ungallantly put it: ‘No one marries a servant.’ It seems that men are attracted to women who are aware of their own self-worth. But nowadays isn’t co-habiting merely a sensible step to take before vowing to spend the rest of your life together? 


Psychologists agree that moving in together is fine — as long as both people are clear about where they think it will lead. ‘Simply put, most men place marriage on a higher level of commitment than just living together,’ explains Block. ‘While women might think that living together is a step towards marriage, many men view it as a way of buying time — or worse, a good option until they find their
John Molloy is equally blunt. ‘The statistics say most men propose after 22 months. For the next three-and-a-half years, the prospects of marriage gradually diminish. After seven years, the likelihood you’ll get married is virtually nil,’ he says. ‘If you want to get married, statistically speaking, you should start to look seriously for a husband at 28.’

Molloy also advises a little lowering of standards. Some women never get married, he says, because they are simply too fussy. Of the women he interviewed who were about to get married, 20 per cent admitted disliking their future husbands when they first met them. ‘Of course, you should have standards, but it sometimes pays to give men a second or even third chance,’ Molloy advises. 


Web designer Nicki Carter from Reading, who at 41 has never been married, worries that now she never will. She ruefully admits: ‘I was probably too picky. I finished with one boyfriend because I thought he wasn’t focused enough on his career. And I finished with another one because I decided he was too possessive.


‘In fact, he was madly in love with me, handsome, funny, well-educated and kind. He wanted to marry me but I wasn’t interested. I always thought I could do better and now I wonder if I was wrong.’
Joel Block argues that there is no such thing as perfect. ‘I think that women who are growing older as they search for Mr Right should reconsider. Would finding Mr “Almost Right” be better than a single life?’ he asks. For some it wouldn’t. ‘Some women just don’t want to get married. They aren’t the marrying type,’ Molloy says.
 *Ends*

Do you agree with this article?

57 comments:

Pentagon's Latest Tool for Diagnosing Disease? Semen said...

Pipa looks like a man... Sorry, that's my word...

Anonymous said...

I totally agree

Anonymous said...

awwww wot an epistle...i kinda agree wit the 1st 10 lines.


I LOVE LINDA AND I DONT CARE WHO IS LISTENING.

Anonymous said...

This article get as e be. I do not agree 100% Esp when they say you should start looking at 28. I am 21 and I hope to be married in the next 3/4 years so 28 is too far for me. I agree about the too much sexiness putting off men who want to settle. In my church, I see a lot of married "average" looking women and the really beautiful ones are unmarried. Maybe church men are too conservative. On the other hand, the ones who appreciate sexy women are not ready to settle down and are busy spreading their seed everywhere.

Sooo what I am saying is, there is nothing that is black and white. We as women should just pray we find someone who is right for us. I don't care what other men look for as long as one is looking for me ;)

LadyNgo said...

RME and KMT!

There is no magic equation that makes you wife material or not just like there's no guarantee that you'll stay married once you get married. Hoes, golddiggers, and all sorts of "undesirable" types of women get married every freaking day and some of them have longer happier marriages than those "wifey material" babes are getting beaten and cheated on.
In the case of that first woman (and many other like her) you aren't getting married because you're not getting with someone who is like minded. Why would you let your relationship coast when you could just be proactive about what you want?

I honestly tire for the whole conversation jare.

Anonymous said...

anonymous 11:24 i think anyone under 25 is too oyung to get married you are just finishing college starting a career trying to find yourself 28 for me is perfect 30 is even better you are way more mature to handle the challenges that come with being married.(and yes women still bear children after 30) and what is it with naija women wanting to be married before 25?? i have noticed it is a trend call me too westernised but marriage may not be for everyone so ladies don't rush just to end up with the wrong partner just because of "age limit" i know lots of naija girls now in thier mid to late thirties who got married young who either want to get out or are cheating on their spouses because they ended up with incompatible partners due to family pressure same goes for indian girls

Anonymous said...

I am not going to waste my time reading this crappy article. When are they going to come out with an article that lists why men are not husband material for a change? or does the pendulum not swing both ways? This are the kind of chuvinist, misogynist shit that will interest the average naija male. Their mates (whites) are here in the western world inventing cool things and all naija men know how to do is sit their diseased asses there, cheat and obsess on what and what women should do. Luckily I am off the market tey tey married to a gentleman who treats me like his queen. So, I will not waste my time reading this gibberish not even if I were to be single.

Modupsy said...

I think too much emphasis is put on marriage sha... A woman's life is incomplete without marriage yet a man can roam free without marrying and noone will bat eyelid. I see marriage as a part of life; a good , fun part of life, but a part of life nonetheless...not life itself. They shuld give we women a break jo! Somefin has to b wrong wiv us if we re not married on time or God forbid she shuld decide not have kids....o ga!

life is so beautiful without you! said...

....i agree with the 2nd to last line!

Oge (NR) said...

In general, I think the whole move in together thing is just a no go area. But I agree with this article completely.

Especially the don't go and become his housegirl part. All these african females now adays are simply trained to do the THREE Cs.(cook clean and conceive)

He left out the part how men don't want to marry more successful women...lol. I no fit shout

Unknown said...

At the end of the day, it is God that has the final say. I know a lady that had been desperate for a husband since she was 25. Men took advantage of that and dealt with her. She is 32 now is going to wed in a few weeks to a very handsome and God fearing guy who loves her to bits. She didnt even know it was going to be that soon as she had given up.
Women should try their best and pray that God gives them their own man who would love and respect them. Even if marriage comes rather late, let it atleast be with the right man. Chikena.

Ada said...

This article makes much sense.

Once as a woman you feel you are looking at marriage, dont end up with a guy who is far from it. Meaning only date one who is in the same position, or who conveys that to you.

Sex does not equal marriage. This means that if you are too easy to give it up, you end up looking more like trash that has been equally used by others and not a treasure. Any guy that wants you will actually wait and in the process, quickly put a ring on it. The wrong guy will quickly walk, and thats fine, cause you dont want him anyway.

A man will treat you the way you as a woman allows him to treat you. The sad thing is that many women have been abused emotionally that many dont even know how they should be treated. They have also seen men in their lives like their fathers abuse their mothers, and think its okay to do so.

Most importantly what this article doesnt talk about is pray for your husband, so that you recognize him when he comes across your way and you dont chase him off.

You want a king, remember what a queen is: one who is the bed rock of the King in every way, prayerfully, physically, emotionally. She holds down the fort.

Anonymous said...

@1st person to comment. Pippa is a beautiful woman. What are you on?

Anonymous said...

Okay can the writer explain WHY THE DIVORCE RATE IS HIGH?!!!! If these men carefully choose their wives then why do they get divorce?......Abeg there is no formula for these things jor...its only by the Grace of God....

Anonymous said...

"Sooo what I am saying is, there is nothing that is black and white. We as women should just pray we find someone who is right for us. I don't care what other men look for as long as one is looking for me ;)" GBAM!I agree 100%

Anonymous said...

As to everything in life, there are grey areas.Everyone wants to write article about relationships, but have they studied every relationship there is on earth?Story, story, story! If someone like coco (Ice T wife) can get married then any over sexy woman can marry!

laugh.reflect.smile said...

I'm not one to hate but that description of Pippa is quite generous :I

HISS said...

is it me or do i see a similarity between this article and that of amara that we all heaped insults on? hmmm....well, there is an element of truth..men want sexy girlfriends they can show off to their friends but when it comes to marriage they want a down-to -earth woman that would borne their children and take care of the home.

The truth is that every man born of a woman wants a wife that can cook, keep the children and home clean, respect his family and friends even if she does not like them! Be him educated, modernized, exposed or a stark illiterate, or a bush man, ALL MEN WANTS A SUBMISSIVE, RESPECTABLE WIFE! THIS IS A BITTER TRUTH! Many can lie or display a double standard, but deep in their hearts, this is what they crave for!

Living together before marriage kills the excitement of dating! THIS IS THE BLUNT TRUTH! That is why a man can propose to another woman within weeks or months of walking out of a relationship with a live-in-lover!

WOMEN SHOULD LEARN TO VALUE AND RESPECT THEMSELVES AND THEIR BODIES AND MEN WOULD BE FORCED TO RECIPROCATE / ACCEPT US AS AN EQUAL/ RESPECT US AS VIRTUOUS WOMEN!

Anonymous said...

So this whole marriage business is certainly not a 'naija' issue!

Anonymous said...

nonsense..there is no recipe for love/marriage/happiness.
1. Some people are in sad marriages
2. others have forced men to marry them
3. some are in adulterous relationships
go figure!

Linda's Best Post Ever said...

Linda Ikeji , for the last 3 -4 years I have followed your blog , this is the best Post in my own humble opinion you have made .

But I guess Most Stubborn Ladies will write it off as rubbish as usual .

Some girls are simply girlfriend materials - good for sex but not good enough to be he mother of your kids.

Sometimes the better a girl is in bed the slimmer her chances of getting married .

Because what goes through a man's mind when sleeping with such girls is " this girls most have gone around many men in her life time to know all these sex tricks"

Men want a woman they can feel safe with , a woman they can be proud off .

The problem with girls is that they rely on luck and fate to decide whether they will marry or not.

Your destiny is in your hands not in the hands on chance .

Signing ...........

melody said...

Dis over sexiness are only used as bed mates to satisfy their ecstasy is not useful anymore to trap a man,all men likes sexy women but wen it comes to marriage a real man dat knws wat he wants go for d loyal ones,but d idea of a looking for a man at 28 is ridiculous ,I bet is going to b tough 20 is better so at least by 24 u ve gotten all d idea u need to ve a perfect man

melody said...

Dis over sexiness are only used as bed mates to satisfy their ecstasy is not useful anymore to trap a man,all men likes sexy women but wen it comes to marriage a real man dat knws wat he wants go for d loyal ones,but d idea of a looking for a man at 28 is ridiculous ,I bet is going to b tough 20 is better so at least by 24 u ve gotten all d idea u need to ve a perfect man

melody said...

I no of α gurl back in my neighbour hood,she was dis crazy type always want to look sexy to d xtream at every simple event she is attending wearing clothes dat bare, at d end of d party every guy wants to get her number,get hooked wit her y̶̲̥̅̊ d less sexy ones always feel intimated but after she has slept with countless of guys with jxt gift items to show for it while d less sexy ones are now engaged,some are married,some jxt had their kids now leaving in happily in their husbands home but she is still out there waiting for mr right,the point here is dat ladies try to b ur self and wat is urs will always come looking for u don't try to act becos first impression matters a lot! Most gurls would ve settled down wit guys dey ve met but due to acting d guy took them for wat he saw and not wat they are.

Atobatele said...

Absolutely correct

Anonymous said...

The sooner people realise there's no hard and fast rule 2 dating commitment and marriage, the better for the unmarried ones out there...THERE are NO standards a girl has 2 keep to ensure she gets married to a particular person...this means that a person can only change 4 herself, u are sexy or not, a guy who likes what u possess wld come for you...there are successful marriages where the men married women who were domineering, didn't do much within the house, were ubersexy, attributes that have already been condemned by this article, doesit then mean 2 get and subsequently keep a husband u must be this person? NO! I have met sm1 who said point blank he wants a trophy wife, pretty, sexy, slut in bed that's his preference...just as lotsa other men have their preferences...
My point here is, if u want to change anything about your personality, let it be for YOU not for any1 else...a man who likes your total package wld marry you
NB no where in this article do I see them talk bout women's preferences in men...RME

Anonymous said...

Btw I'm below 25 and I look sexy even if I'm fully clothes, without make up and my hair toussled...I bet I don't stand a chance...tueh!

Anonymous said...

i love Amber Rose,anytime,anyday...Haters back off

Temi said...

I am 27 and am very sexy I am fair,full yellow bust,nice hips,flat tummy and killer bow legs,when you see me the first thing that would come to your mind is sex,one guy even went as far as telling me to my face that all he wants is to just f**k me and he is sure thats wat every sane guy thinks when they see me nothing more and nothing less,its so bad that when people get close to me both male annd female they say am nothing like the way I look,dis has affected my relationships cos dey always want to have sex with me even wen I dont feel up to it sometimes,well I have drawn my own theory,I went to God in prayer against people that only want me for my body and I have decided no more sex till am married and am in a happy relationship now,no sex....

Anonymous said...

relationship advice often times is garbage. Nothing quiet follows,the bottom line is to stay true to yourself.

@UgoChime1 said...

I don't know o jare! there's this babe my mom used to call a 'club girl'. Na 4 d club she met d oyibo man she married. all no be marriage? i know many pple that must have tot i wasn't 'marriageable', abi i no marry & born pikin. One thing 4 sure, d more one deviates from the 'norm' the narrower her options are. She helps herself if she can accept this and looks 4 d men who will be less judgmental of her.

that said, am against co-habitation. I think it's 'over see'.

James Adejare said...

@Temi, I swear, I won't want you just for your body. You seem like a very decent person. I'd like to get to know you better. Holla at me on kanyeast@37.com or add me on my fb page, James Adejare

You seem very special.

mikkymicho said...

Great article, I think this apply to me. I have a girlfriend and she is so sexy and attention getting that am begining to feel insecure around her. I have been planning of marrying her since i first met her but looking at her and the way she has so many male friends is making me to have a rethink on the marriage thing with her. men sure doesnt want somebody who is too sexy as a wife material but she can be retain as a girlfriend.

mikkymicho said...

tru talk

Anonymous said...

Temi!!! u don come knack us apako here

Anonymous said...

@James Adejare...Asewo!!!!!!na only description that make you start to confess already....
Men!!

Anonymous said...

Soooooooooo correct

jummy babe said...

@temi, lol we have the same problem...because all men want me for sex. i ve been single without sex for the past two years.. am stil gonna wait for two more years until i found the right guy..

Anonymous said...

You got to be very secure in your own self to handle a handsome man/pretty woman 'cos of the attention..
Tried co-habitation...it killed it..it's a NO NO!!..u just know too much..this things are best known when dating living apart..so u can both iron out ur faults..

Lami said...

What is wrong with a club? My good friend met her husband in a nightclub in Lagos and she is extremely happy. There are no rules for anything. But I agree that when you live together you reduce your chances of marriage. Why buy the cow when you can milk it for free?

wiseman said...

Pippa, a beautiful woman?,like someone said the writer of this article has been way too generous in describing her.I would pick kim k, despite all her bad publicity a million times over pippa.I even find linda more attractive than pippa

nabila said...

wow,,so sad wen i read peoples comments..i got married wen i was 20,had a baby girl,adorable girl GOD bless her..unfortunately it didnt work out not becos i'm shuwa arab n very attractive but cos my ex got bored of me'' yes he did...i was young naive n clueless so i agree with the girl dat says 28 is d best age 2 get married... secondly,am sexy every body says it,but very man i've been with has proposed 2 me within the 6th or 7th month of dating,,so wen people say its hard for sexy women 2 settle down it makes me laffffff...am 27 nd getn married 2 a yoruba guy from lagos nxt year in marcc insha Allah..so ladies please be prayerful be ur selves dont go searching..it'll cum 2 u @ the rite time

Anonymous said...

@Anon November212011 11:59 PM

Sharrap ur dutty mouth..anoufia!!..no be oyinbo write article for predominantly oyinbo audience wey Linda hijack..abi u no see Daily Mail UK??..see Kate Henshaw now..na so she dey shout 9ja guys this that and that..all men be the same just hope you get luck to jam better person..and u say u taken..u bloody wish!!..with such bitterness..go siddon joor..

sleekreek said...

To some extent,,i agree with this article though not completely.......a lady cohabiting with a man before marriage is pure nonsense to me.......

The idea of waiting till 28.....is not acceptable to me,,,if any lady is lucky and finds her ideal man before age 28 and they are both ready to settle,,,then they should go ahead

@ Annon Nov 21 11:24pm..........pls dont be too rigid as to having a particular age that u must get married......its better to get married late and have a happy home than getting married at an early age and not have a happy home.....ur prayer should be that ur own man who will love and respect u should find u.....

Anonymous said...

I beg juh! i just got disvirgined last year and the stupid guy that did it is going to marry a well known prostitute. im sorry to use that word but the truth is she has slept with so many of his friends and he knew it but he always told me that she was good at sexing him! so leave that thing.

adanma said...

I agree! Very generous description of
Pippa. The article ڪ nyc, but truth be
said, notin ڪ absolute in dis topic.
Am still praying for mine.

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm... I agree 100%. I married my wife within 6 months in 2007 i met her. Why? bcos my gut tells me she's a wifey type.It's written all over her. She got her career intact, family intact, she cook like a chef, she love her Bible as well...in short she jungles everything together with our 2 kids. (...he who finds a good wife, has found a good thing) Everyday i thank God for her. Bless her!

Anonymous said...

@anonymous 6:15..... she got her career intact..... its always uncounscious to human beings but we tend to list the most impoirtant aspects first...make sure you did not marry her for her capability therfore insuring your financial future... shameless men..mscheuw....

Anonymous said...

HIAN!! What else won't they come up with to further put down single women and mess with their self esteem. In that case guess we (hot, single, sexy, independent women) are all screwed and doomed to spinsterhood (except we start looking like mgbekes...then they will come and tell us another one). hissing in igbo!

C'bone said...

If as a woman I cannot stand being under a man or being humble as respect to man, then I have nothing to do with Marriage. I am not a marriable type ! Even d bible says so. WOMEN = EVIL !

Anonymous said...

my mum used to say somfin...if u tink u're too young 2 marry,den dnt do wot married pple re doing.am jst 22 n am seriously prayin 2 God 2 settle down by nxt yr cos d world is gettin in2 somfin x,men re becoming mor stupid n some gurls hv made it luk as if no moni no luv n d real virtues of marriage is disappearing n divorces evrywia,moreova,i luk big for my age,nt fat,bt tall n plumpy.I agree wit d aspect of d females tellin d guys dey want 2 marry wen d r'ship has gone quite far lyk a yr/2 yrs...cos tel me wot a comfortable guy ready 2 marry stil want 2 no abt u in a r'ship dt he has nt known for d past 1yr/2yrs u've bin dating.Itz nt gud 2 wait n kip datin 4 too long wen a guy is nt popping d ? Cos he may hv somtin x in mind...for me,afta a yr,i'll tel him bluntly n if he does'nt give me a reasonable ans or actn,i'll move.av known gurls dt dated for 6/7yrs n did'nt mentn anytin 2 d guy all in d name of ''i dnt want 2 luk desperate/i dnt want 2 pressurize him'' bt he wud'nt mind always fucking u as d yrs goes by..dtz bullshit.If a guy luvs u want to marry u,he'll pick courage n tk d move ahead cos most men re scared of commitments dese days nt to tok of marriage cos of d finances involved.dey want to be ''wealthy'' b4 dey marry,especially for d guys who re jst coming up.wot of d security guy/driver who earn 30k a mnth wit 2kids n a wife,dyu tink he's stupid? Dtz y u'll see some,dey'll be 70 yl dia first child is yet to graduate frm d university.Anywaiz,me i no get tym 2 dey wait 4 any man who want 2 make it big b4 he gets married cos my tym dey waste too.havin a career is gud bt 4 dis our naija,u must be married plus ur career 2 gain ur respect.In all,itz nt gud 2 rush bt som1 wit brains n gud initiative n wit prayers wil no if a man/woman is wifeable or husbandable within a yr.

Mena UkodoisReady said...

Ugo Chime nailed it...and who wants to bet that this female author is either single or a divorcee or in an unhappy marriage validating her current state of affairs JUST LIKE AMARA or merely fillig her quota for her wages sef?

From my experience almost all the bad in your face sexy girls get married.

while the wholesome goodsome goody girl waits and waits unless she is lucky like 'waity katy' who surely after 9years of "bein together" court of public opinion must have had a lil bit to do with her beau's proposal.

Absolutely no rules. Ecclesiastes captures it all that there is time for everything. God can be saving some spiritually good ladies from hell on earth you know.Yet people tend to ridicule them all bcos they are not married or their exes got married after dumping them.

This topic is just created for some misogynistic Nigerian men to come and gloat, please just like MJ (May he RIP) if you only keep running into certain types of ladies, look into yourself and make that change.

Read http://efemenaoreoluwa.blogspot.com/2010/06/what-about-your-males.html will help

Mena

V. C. Ta said...

@November 22, 2011 6:51 PM

"...in short she jungles everything together with our 2 kids"

1. Land densely overgrown with tropical vegetation.
2. A dense thicket or growth.
3. A dense, confused mass; a jumble.
4. Something made up of many confused elements; a bewildering complex or maze: sorting through the jungle of regulations.
5. A place or milieu characterized by intense, often ruthless competition or struggle for survival: the corporate jungle.
6. Slang A place where hoboes camp.

And then???

Menaukodoisready said...

Loooooool at VC

Anonymous said...

I totally agree wit dis article,i dnt rily believe or encourage a lady 2 live wit a man she's nt married 2,call me old skool bt it's nt African n ladies shld stop dressing 2 sexy,u can b sexy bt in a conservative way,nt xposing evri thing,leave a little 4 d imagination of d person u ar trying 2 get his attention,Now dats SEXY 2 me,shekina!!!

Eniola said...

A fact filled article. However,I think what the man was trying to say is that- one should begin to take getting married more serious if at 28,one is still single.I don't think he was trying to say that 28 is the exact age to start looking for a man. Then also, a Lady should not make washing and cooking her sole duty during courtship, especially washing, it should be done once in a blue moon. This is an age where laundry services are everywhere. I don't think a busy woman will have the time to sit down in a man's house( who is not yet her husband) and begin to wash every time as if the sun comes out sparingly...
Nice work Linda. Thanks for sharing.

Unknown said...

if men know exactly what they want, then maybe altering ourselves to be wifey materials would be worth the time. in my own opinion, most Nigerian men just drift into marriage after their girlfriends must have begged them with their bodies and monies to marry them.
I am 31, look ten years younger and still a virgin and all my exes knew dat. Still unmarried coz every single one of them them wanted a doormat who had no mind of her own dat they could fleece financially. dat is besides popping the cheery b4 putting a ring on it!
Everyone's time is different and no two situations are the same. As for me, I rather remain unmarried and untasted rather than marry a lazy, insecure man who continually runs me down just to make himself feel better(could never stand dat!). Cheers!

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