The messages and phone calls didn’t make me suspicious, not even the invitations to dinner and the movies. She’s been married and has kids, so what’s there to fear? But when I started getting love text messages in the early hours of the morning and long kisses on the cheek...I started to wonder...then I pondered! :-).
Then she came out and professed her love! She thinks I'm 'The one'!
Chai! God, this is not how You and I planned my love life oh! No be so we talk am o...
LOL!
Am I a lesbian? No! Do I find lesbianism disgusting? I sincerely think everyone's sexual preference is their business. You are who you are I guess. Do I like being hit on by a woman? No! It makes me very uncomfortable. Give me chest muscles any day...lol
But seriously speaking...or writing, I want to understand lesbianism a bit more. How do you go from being heterosexual to being a lesbian? How do you start a lesbian relationship after having had no prior same sex attractions or relationships? How do you shift your sexual direction in that manner? She told me she's never had any same sex relationship before but she's convinced she could have one with me...
...No you can't sweetie, because you see, I have a vagina...and I'd rather have a penis...thank you very much!
LOL!
But seriously, how do you go from....
...This
...To this?
One minute you are into men, the next minute you want a woman. How does that happen? Is it psychological? Mental? Some kind of hormonal imbalance?
What do you guys think?
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31 comments:
Most of the lesbians i know were into men and even had kids.they claim that they became lesbians because they trust women more in a relationship than men,that they have been hurt many times too many by men.
they also claim that with a woman,they experience more pleasure without being under any pressure of acceptance.......
and on the other hand,some ladies are just experimenting...
Lesbians...
Here in Europe I see a lot of them. But most of them are disgusting. They want to be like man. 0 make-up, 0 sexuality. It's not cool.
I personally think its the Devil that takes over the individual's sexuality.
Because of the nature of the world, you're exposed to so many weird things. Naturally, your mind begins to wander, and then you fantasize,and then what differentiates who is gay from who isn't is the implementation of those fantasies. You ought to discard of those thoughts as soon as they seem to develop into feelings and for Christians, its by praying. Lame as this might sound to some, it is very true. What I often ponder about, however, is how do u explain those that are gay from birth? Any comments on that?
Hi Linda, I just tried reaching you on your 0803 number, but i heard you are in a meeting, i sent you an e-mail a couple of weeks back, i just wanted to discuss with you cos i didn't get a reply. please is there a better time i could reach you. tnx
Hello,
I hope I am first (!)
I did not want to this anonymously but owing to how judgemental people can be I have to.
I do not know that it is a case of going from pecs to breasts. A lot of Nigerian women (and men) will hide their homosexuality by getting married and having children but does not change who they are essentially.
It is more than a physical thing, I have found a lot of men physically attractive, but the deeper emotional connection, the secret smiles, stolen kisses and passionate love making, I can only imagine with a woman, I cannot explain it, Lord knows I have wished it away but it is still the way it.
I look at you and I think you're gorgeous, yes, I know you're not gay, if you were, you'd be my type lol.
I think it is a shame that the woman who liked you did, not because you're not great, I am sure you are, but the pain of rejection is so hard and I guess she trusted that you'd be okay with 'it' that is why she professed her love to you.
I read your blog all the time, I see you as a beautiful brave woman, one who is worthy of emulating. You make me proud as a young Nigerian woman.
I decided to write you a response to the post because it is one that has some resonance with me.
Anyway, I hope you are okay after she professed love to you and I hope she is too, I know what it feels like to be in love with a woman who I have no hope of being with, it hurts like hell, but one gets over it and moves on.
Anonymous.
O Linda here we go again. I think I like all your personal stories. They make your blog really worth reading. Interesting. You have a sense of humor.
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OK, I don't buy this, and I know its gonna generate a lot of heat. But there is a strong body of opinion that believes that every woman who hasnt been 'outed' is a closet lesbian. That there is something about the female makeup that makes her either a lesbian or less resistant when confronted with lesbian feelings. I think its a dangerous stereotype, but I have just been told not to dismiss it out of hand.
Thank God there are still sisters that have their brains in the right places! On my way from work today, yes only this evening saw an advert for a lesbian/bi-sexual counsellor job opening to help them "maximise" their sexuality. 21st century madness!
Dear Linda,
Please dont let them decieve you. Lesbianism is a grievious sin and the consequences are fatal......
Stop taking or even replying to their text messages cos many of them use medicine...You are a good girl and please remian straight..don't ever be tempted and may God help you overcome the advances of STRANGE WOMEN with strange sexual desires.
SHALOM!!!
lesbians sucks a lot,i dont know how they enjoy that ,instead of coming to we that have good dickson,they will be punching themselves,very bad
Linda, please my two cent. Do keep up with your blog topics - there's a lot to be learned. I'm serious
LESBI,,,,,,,WHAT? IT SHOULD BE A KIND OF MENTAL DISORDER WHICH OUR MEDICAL PERSONNEL STILL NEED TO DO RESEARCH ON.GOD FORBID . MIMI
This is the sad truth with what's happening around the world amongst women even the married ones...
It is an abomination the sight of God, full stop.
What people don't realise is that it is strong and wicked spirit and people who get involved will find that they need to go for deliverance to completely purge out.
She may have had lesbian affairs in secondary school. maybe as she is getting bored of her marriage, she is looking for fresh meat to rekindle old habits. There is EVERYTHING wrong with lesbianism irrespective of what the Western world makes it look like. it is what the bible refers to as perversion. if it was so right how come now in the USA and UK, those who have had same sex relationships for a long while are now opting for one of the two parties to change sex to male or female? Its of the devil. Simple.
@the last anon, seriously? Where did you pluck those non-existent statistics from? NIgerians and their bible/quran thumping, holier than thou ways. For most genuine (by this, I refer to non-experimenters) homosexuals and lesbians, sexual orientation is not a choice. It never has been. As to the rightness or wrongness of it, I am not in any position to judge. Quite frankly, I don't care. As long as you are good person in every other way, what you like is your business. I have been hit on so many times by women that it's actually become funny. I like prick die but it does not and should not offend me that a person, male or female, finds me attractive. Gays who were(are) married were not then heterosexual. They knew all along that they were gay but society does not make it okay to be gay and so they did what was expected of them and married and had kids. That didn't change their innate sexual preference. There are so many Naija couples who fall into this category. It's actually quite funny when you meet "happily" married men who are soooo gay or gbenshing a steady boyfriend on the side. Can't name names, but my 50+ papa was toasted by the same prominent SAN several times before his(the SAN's) death. This, a respected man, married with grown children. Just mentioning that as proof that it's not some horrible mental deficiency or depravity. Whether it is a sin or not is for God to decide since He in His infinite wisdom made them that way. So quit with the judgment.
It is a perversion quite alright, but every one has right to their way of life. Personally, I think its grievious for one to engage in this same sex thing but people have different reasons for doing certain things. Trust me, a lot of married women are lonely, and they look for excape into fantasies to make a balance, dont judge the woman, Linda, behind every behavior there is an underlying factor which is not revealed. Life can only be appreciated if we look past the surface...Remain blessed.
its demonic
there's no other way to describe it
and its not God's plan. i don't even care how it happens...
It's utterly disgusting..my dear God loves u and will give you your lovely husband you deserve..keep the faith!
A lot women are said to be bi-crious so not too difficult for them to switch. Are you tilting then?
... and he gave them over to a reprobate mind.
It's sad reading a lot of the comments above. Like the rest of the world, there have always been gays & lesbians in Nigeria, dating back centuries. Yes we all have heard rumours of prominent people in society being gay, most of which are true. When people start accepting that this is not a disease nor a curse then we can start to move forward in life.
No one likes to be shunned in public, no one likes to be made fun of, no one likes to be beaten, stoned & sometimes sadly murdered. If we had a choice believe me most of us would not choose to love the same sex. It's painful but we can't suppress it. You are free to love, why can't we be. I have never for one minute thought of myself as 'cursed'. I am God's child, He protects me. I come from a God fearing family, I pray, worship & treat everyone with respect & kindness. I've never questioned my sexuality, nor have I doubted God. He made me this way. I am Nigerian. I am a GAY MAN.
Homosexuality, lesbianism, is everywhere. The only difference is, everybody is quiet about it, and the western world gives people freedom to do whatever with their lives, and it's more acceptable.
I remember a friend that I had back in Nigeria, when we would have sleep overs, we will sleep on the same bed. Until one day, she touched me inappropriately, continued for some time, until one day I confronted her about it, because I was so confused, and terrified. I later realized that she does the same thing to her sisters, and some of her friends, but she always talked about guys, and had a boyfriend. Of course, it didn't cross my mind, if she was gay, lesbian or not, I didn't even know such words existed. So a lot of these things are going on in many countries, but they don't call it homosexuality.
It was when I came to the States, got older, and became a born again christian that everything made sense to me. So I will come from a biblical perspective. Whether people think homosexuals, gays, lesbians, are born with it, and they can't help it, or it's more acceptable, based on human standards, the Bible is very clear on it. God will not change HIS mind or WORD to please humans, just because there are so many of them or they are good people. The Bible says, homosexuals, fornicators, liars, thieves, sexually immorals etc will not inherit the kingdom of God, and no sin is bigger than the other, it's all the same.
Everyone has sexual fantasies about the opposite sex or the same sex, and it goes back to the lust in us. A woman thinking of how it would be, to have a sexual relationship with a woman, or a man thinking the same thing with the same sex, is something that is common, I think some people just feed it more than others, and take it to the next level, by making it happen instead of just having thoughts about it.
In a country like Nigeria, where homosexuality or lesbianism is not the norm or accepted, people will use marriage and having children to cover it up. There are best friends or friends who are married to the opposite sex, but have a sexual relationship with the same sex, and keep it low key.
The question is, Is it possible to once be married, had a sexual relationship, love opposite sex, probably prefer to be with the opposite sex, but still have strong feelings for the same sex. The answer is a big yes. Sometimes, women think it's better with another woman, because we both understand each other, we have the same thing, can please better, emotionally and sexually, and men think the same thing, we have the same thing, and can please better, mostly physically. People can analyze all these things all day long, give reasons, excuses, and they all sound reasonable or logical, but coming from a biblical stand point, it's a sin against God, and HE meant it to be a man and a woman, but since the fall of man, everything is perverted, but HE will still stand on HIS word.
i totally agree with Latisha, its DEMONIC!!! plain and simple.
God created Adam and Eve,not Eve and Eve!!! so wat the f...k are we talking about?
excuse my language, but the idea is just annoying
Anon 12 ;17,o un ti o da o da(wot is not gd is nt gd)u know wot the right thing is,so i wont even beat it
lINDA YOU'RE ATTRACTIVE AND SEXY AND I DONT BLAME HER.LOOKING AT YOU TOO MAKES ME IMAGINE THINGS I CAN DO WITH YOU.THE TRUTH IS EVENTHOUGH I'D LOVE TO TAP YOUR ASS TOO,BUT I CAN'T STAND UP TO TELL YOU TO YOUR FACE SAME REASON I'M DOING THIS AS ANONYMOUS TO AVOID THE RISK OF BEEN MOUTH WASHED OR BITCH SLAPPED.
Lesbos nawa oh dem done dey come out for naija? nawa oh we too dey copy all this oyinbo people nonsense for this world, and nigerians take that shit to far
It is not the right way to go. The word of God even frowns at it, so wot are we talking about?
God did not create ADAM AND STEVE but ADAM and EVE.
Amazing as always
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Please don't publish this comment (I could locate your email).
I came to this post because I was wondering if you (Linda) is a lesbian.
7years on and your claim to be still searching for a 'guy' in your birthday message today.
I want to shamelessly offer my marriage proposer. I know trust is part of the reason you are AFRAID to marry (which is justifyble in Nigeria because they too many vampires in this country), so I am willing to sign pre-nup (agreeing that in divorce or death, I get nothing, zero)!
This are my pros and cons.
1) I am from a nice christian family, but I lost my faith a few years ago (non_religious but would raise my kids the only way I know, which is the Christian way until they are old enough to make up their own mind). In fact I know scripture more than 80% of pastors in Nigeria but I no longer go to church.
2) Although I'm hardworking (10hrs everyday), I am poor but my family is well to do. May be it's the pride but I don't ask for help. All my siblings (including myself went to private universities) and half my nuclear family are in US (citizens).
3) I am from Delta State but born and raised in the North. 30 years old, quite, gentle and would defiantly love to be a background husband like Okonjo Iwala's husband. I don't like spotlight but am single.
Your enemies would guess until they are tire.
I desire to marry but from the way things are going, it might still be a few more year before I am financially stable to do it on my own. I am not teasing you, am serious and know if you are really matured and wants it to work, it MUST work. Please and please discreetly email me at: siing4zion@yahoo.ca God Willing, by the end of January, you could be a married woman and close that chapter of your life.
I am not gay, but I love and respect them
People should be free to express their sexuality without being disparaged and derided
Incidentally my BEST relationship was in University, with a pretty and affectionate bisexual girl
Bola
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