God : My son you have been so good to me, you have kept my commandments and have lived a righteous life. What do you want me to do for you?
Man : Pls God can you build a bridge from Nigeria to America so I can go there regularly as I please.
God : My son it's not that its impossible for me to do but pls could you ask for something else.
Man : Ok, God pls I would like to know what's going on in the heart of my wife.
God : Hmm, pls that bridge you wanted, do you want it to be single lane or double lane?
Moral: its easier to build a bridge from here to America than to know whats going on in the heart of a woman.
LOL
Men always say they don't understand women, just like we don't understand men...right ladies?
Now here's the thing; in our mag, we have about 10pages dedicated to men and we have a particular page where women advise men on different issues.
In the next edition of our mag, we want to tackle the topic below...
What Men Still Don't Understand About Women
One of our writers actually submitted an article to us with the above title, but after going through the questions men frequently ask and her answers; as a woman, I didn't agree with some of them, so I decided to bring it here to get different opinions from the ladies.
Since they seem confused about us, let's enlighten them.
Here are some questions frequently asked by men...please pick one and answer for us
1. After you've broken up with a guy, do you ever think about getting back together with him?
2. Do you consider online chatting cheating?
3. Why do you nag us?
4. Can you live without sex?
5. Why do attached women flirt with single guys?
6. What does it mean when you won't say the L-word? 'Love'
7. What's the deal with wanting a big rock?
Please, we need at least 5 answers to each question...you guys need to come through for me...abeg, it's for the mag!
Oh, by the way, why do we nag? That's because you guys have ears but you never listen, so we have to repeat ourselves over and over and over again. Call it nagging if you want ;)
Waiting for your responses...
Meanwhile, check out pictures of the Karaoke event @ Swe Bar that held last weekend.
Enjoy...
An evening of karaoke at Swe Bar
Banky W
Noble Igwe
Eldee and Banky W
Djinee
Tosin Bucknor, Kel and Anthonia Ajibola
Pix thanks to Anthony Ayana Ajibola
We need articles/writers for the magazine...if you're interested , please email me lindaikeji@gmail.com
Will bring you Naija Ent. News next.
Thanks.
17 comments:
1. After you've broken up with a guy, do you ever think about getting back together with him?
sometimes.......especially if the break up was not a bad one
2. Do you consider online chatting cheating?
nah..it could be termed flirting but i dare say...cheating...no...
3. Why do you nag us?
we dont nag- we just need to remind your little brain time and time again what needs to be done
4. Can you live without sex?
in another life......yes
5. Why do attached women flirt with single guys?
if the man we are attached to is doing his thing with unattached females who says we cant do same????
6. What does it mean when you won't say the L-word? 'I love u'
it means i dont L you
7. What's the deal with wanting a big rock?
cos it sparkles.....every woman needs her diamonds
@ Ibiluv...it sparkles? lol girl, ure too much.
please i need more responses o
1.After you've broken up with a guy, do you ever think about getting back together with him?
Yes, if it was not a bad break up and the feelings is still there.
Do you consider online chatting cheating?
I wouldn't call it cheating as am not actually seeing the peron physically and only communicating via email, maybe call it flirting.
3. Why do you nag us?
Because you just don't listen and have to keep going on about the sme thing over n over again.
4.Can you live without sex?
O yes, but something you just want.
5.Why do attached women flirt with single guys?
cus he's doing the same thing.
6. What does it mean when you won't say the L-word? 'I love u'
too scared and don't want to chase him away.
7.What's the deal with wanting a big rock?
beacsue Diamonds are girls best friend.
1. It depends on the guy and why we broke up. If I broke up with him, it was for a reason and I don't want him anymore. If he broke up with me, there might be some unresolved feelings and issues and I'd want a chance to explore/fix them. It really depends on how much I like the guy.
2. Like ibiluv said, it's flirting... to an extent. If he's telling her deep secrets that he doesn't share withe me, then I'll consider it cheating. That can actually hurt as much as physical infidelity.
3.When you ask a woman a question or tell her something, she'll respond to you in detail with words and actions right? But ask a guy and you'll get a shrug or a grunt. Not a real sign of acknowledgement. Also, guys are more laid back about certain things and these same things are big deals to us so we want them to react with as much er... speed as we would.
4. I can live without it, but I'd rather not.
5. Because things sometimes get dull and stagnant in relationships. The man is so used to the woman that he barely compliments her or bats an eye when she changes her look or something. The woman wants to feel attractive and wanted, so the flirting is just for attention and confirmation of the fact that she is still desirable. But then again she might just be a h... kidding, kidding!
6.It means she's either scared that you don't really love her, or that she actually just doesn't love you.
7. We like shiny things :) We want to show off to our friends and show them that our man is something special... a good provider, better than their man and that we have him on lock ;) I don't really like diamonds though. Gimme rubies or sapphires or something :D
Why do attached Ladies flirt with Single Guys?
Interesting question! The fact that some of us are attached is not an automatic sentence to the dungeons of total exemption from the flirting scenes. Every human loves attention and so do the attached ladies.
I will give you 5 reasons why we flirt to satisfy your curiousity:
1.We love the attention...it brings a feeling of validation that you are not totally unattractive to the (especially young)male folk.
2.It gives an ego and confidence boost.
3.It rejuvinates the feeling of SELF...as a single entity.
4.Temporary mental liberation...you "feel da free"
5.An oppurtunity to get back into the dating scene...even if for a little while....lol
I hope I have satisfied your curiousity Linda.Enjoy!
NB: You can examine my blog...if you like my work,hook me up to be one of your writers. "M"
i need an advice...how do u run your magazine???
i need an advice...how do u run your magazine??? bigboyobi72@yahoo.com
1. After you've broken up with a guy, do you ever think about getting back together with him?
If it wasn't a bad breakup, you end up thinking "what if?"
2. Do you consider online chatting cheating?
Depends on what is actually being "chatted"...hardcore stuff? Then you are definitely cheating!
3. Why do you nag us?
You need to be reminded constantly! Because your minds only hold on to three things - Sports, Sex, Food!
4. Can you live without sex?
Yes...and I could always "Do-It-Yourself"
5. Why do attached women flirt with single guys?
Ego Boost - that other men still find us attractive, even though we are attached.
6. What does it mean when you won't say the L-word? 'Love'
Then we don't love you, because you know we are usually quick to blurt out the word.
7. What's the deal with wanting a big rock?
I'm not really bothered about this one, i like simple things.
Hi Linda,
I love your blog and I check it daily. Kudos on the advice and keeping people informed on key topics.
I dont know how to send an email directly to you, but I need some advice. I am 37, single, relatively attractive etc. and I desperately want children, but I have been told that I 'intimidate' men because I am very succesful in my profession and have several degrees from top schools etc. Many people consider me down to earth and very sociable etc. but I just cannot seem to find a man! Granted in my 20's I was very very picky and in my early thirties was very career oriented so I did not really give men a chance because I was focused on my career only and wanted no distractions. The problem is I am a very strong christian as well and grew up in a loving 2 parent home and the thought of becoming a single mother makes me cringe - not because I look down on them or anything, but I want to give my children what I had (i.e.) with my parents. Clearly the biological clock is ticking and many of my friends are married with 3, 4 or even 6 children. My older sister keeps telling me how 'fabulous' I am and should be patient etc., I keep meeting losers or men who want to use me, but I really want to be a mother, and feel like I would go through life totally miserable if I did not have children of my own. I have considered adoption as well, but think if possible I would like to have at least one of my own. I feel deep down, I would disappoint my family and my parents if I did such a thing - HELP!!!! I am confused. By the way, I dont live in Nigeria.
Its just bugging me a lot lately and you seem so wise and have people who give such great insight. But any thoughts or comments would be great.
And to answer your 'quiz'
1. No I dont. I think I give a really long rope before I walk away. So once I walk away, its over.
2. Well, it could lead to cheating, so I would consider it a form of cheating
3. Yeah cause men REALLY rarely listen. Some do, but most dont so you have to repear it loads of times to get the point across.
4. Hmmmmmm.... for a while I can, but after a while you just 'gotta have it!'
5. hmmm... I dont usually do that, so cant answer
6. Cause we are really scared that you wont say it back
7.Well to us its a sign of how much you love us..... but the older I get, I have realized that I would rather have a good, strong, reliable and accomplished man than a huge rock....maybe a medium 'rock' is okay! ha ha ha Some of my friends with the most 'bling' are in the worst hell hole marriages..........so focus on the 'intangibles' not the 'tangibles'
1. It depends on what you guys broke up about, if it was not too bad, and both of you guys are still interested in each other, instead of acting like you both have moved on, get back together if you both are ready to work it out, but it has to be both. The part that we women forget is the fact that just like we feel hurt or heart broken, men feel that way too, but they don't show it. Women think about what you do also, because men are not always at fault.
2 and 5. Human beings love attention. Men or women want ego, confidence,want to feel loved or wanted, so if it's by flirting or chatting with someone else, they will do it just for confirmation and to feel special. I believe that men and women should deal with their insecurity, low self esteem from inside, and love themselves for who they are first, but don't be arrogant about your confidence. Some women think confidence means bad attitude, talking bad about other females, snobbish, thinking they are all that, and forgetting that inner beauty is what makes a woman beautiful and is the true beauty. If you are in a committed relationship or married, online chatting or flirting might not be called physical cheating, but it can be emotional, so it can't be justified.
3. Men are wired different from women. It's something i had to learn, adjust, and accept with my hubby. Our talking or explaining, trying to make them get it can sometimes mean nagging to men. So when he says he does not want to talk about it, especially when he's adamant about it, women let it go. Try to be calm, make him feel comfortable, he will talk about it, and even open up, when you don't ask, it works with my hubby, but i can't say for every men.
4. I lived without it before i married, but now that I'm married, I love it, even though i don't feel it all the time, but it comes with been married.
6. Love is something that is deep. So, just because both have sex, and have fun together does not mean both are in love. For women if the men does not cater to her emotions, she might like him but not love. Men are more physical, but a man can have all the sex he wants, and still not love the woman, so he wants more, maybe for the woman to support him in other areas and make him feel like he's the man, and special, just the same way we women want to be treated and feel.
7. Big rock means nothing. The man should get what he can afford, because at the end, the competition, showing it off to your friends, the bling bling is temporary but the love for each other is what will last long, and matters. But if he can afford the big rock, that's cool, but the love should be first not the bling bling or showing it off.
hei Linda,
Have u noticed u hardly find ASA in most events in the country....
hmmm...some responses u are gettin
1. After you've broken up with a guy, do you ever think about getting back together with him?
Depends on how and why we broke up. I rather stay away from the relationship sha because whatever broke us up will reoccur again in the future i believe.
2. Do you consider online chatting cheating?
I won't say it is cheating but don't do anything that will leave you suspectable to cheating
3. Why do you nag us?
sometimes you lot don't listen when we say it nicely.
4. Can you live without sex?
good sex no! bad sex heck ya!
5. Why do attached women flirt with single guys?
Some women love the attention.lol
6. What does it mean when you won't say the L-word? 'I love u'
Means i don't feel that way about you.
7. What's the deal with wanting a big rock?
who doesn't want a hard, fat and long thing? If they say no they are lying! I don't want to sit there and ask if it is "in" yet! lol
@anon 5.58p, are u prayerful?. Because if u ask the Lord, He will definitely send Mr.right your way. You sound resigned to whatever u get and dats not the right attitude if u really want to be a wife and mother. I am talking from experience. God is forever faithful.
1.After you've broken up with a guy, do you ever think about getting back together with him?
Nope. EX - EXpired, EXtinguished lol.sometimes
Do you consider online chatting cheating?
Nope(subject to the amount of time spent and the nature of discusion)
3. Why do you nag us?
Because you like it. if you didnt then you probably would have taken out the trash the first 10 times I asked.
4. Can you live without sex?
Yes
5.Why do attached women flirt with single guys?
Do they...?
6. What does it mean when you won't say the L-word? 'I love u'
It probably means I don't love u(yet)
7.What's the deal with wanting a big rock?
Its pretty and I like pretty things
1. After you've broken up with a guy, do you ever think about getting back together with him?
YES..... its d normal thing. only if Ur relationship ended in the most heart wrenching way possible. We Women like to give our men 2nd, 3rd and 4th chances
2. Do you consider online chatting cheating?
I think this depends on the kind of conversation u r having wit that person. You can't be chatting with a man and be telling him u wish he was besides u doing God know what to you and not consider that cheating. So i'll say it depends on d type of conversation.
3. Why do you nag us?
To Nag means to continually complain or find faults. Women Do Nag!!! And this is because Men have given Them the reason to. Nobody is perfect and Nobody can live life without a fault but if ur spouse continually complains about it, Then Stop whatever it is that triggers that Nag
4. Can you live without sex?
No that is Impossible for both men and women. Well only Virgins in which case they still want to be touched and have that feeling of love.
5. Why do attached women flirt with single guys?
A Woman Doesnt want to feel like she's unattractive to the opposite sex!! So i think the reason why an attached woman would do this is to get confirmation from that single guy that she is still extremely sexy and attractive. and that is something her man might not constantly remind her of
6. What does it mean when you won't say the L-word? 'I love u'
It simply means you are not enough for me!!!! think about it if u r everything he wants in a woman and he's attracted 2 u both physically and emotionally, he will love u. it doesnt take a million roses to make a woman fall in love with u. and a woman doesnt have to bend over a million times to make a man love her. so if he wont say the L word, HE"S NOT THAT INTO YOU!!!!!
7. What's the deal with wanting a big rock?
Because after staying with you through thick and thin, enduring in the worst moments together, giving me a million reasons to cry having to fight all those unilag girls off, lets just say i deserve it because it will constantly remind me of how much work and effort i have put into that relationship to get it to dat point. And that is the only Thing i have left to remind me of how skinny and sexy i was before i got pregnant for "OUR" first child..
Oh and 2 Make my Girlfriends jealous!!!
Anonymous 11:27pm March 17th, thanks a million for your kinds words. I do appreciate it - been waiting on God all these years. Will continue to pray and hope for the best.
Love, me!
@4.29, will put it on my blog as a post...may God guide and bless u.
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