Dear LIB readers: why do some women find it hard to contribute in the home?
From a male LIB reader
I have been married for a year and a half and my marriage is not what I thought it would be. My wife does not like to contribute financially in the home. Given that I make more money than she does, but it's not a crime to help out with little things. Sometimes I come home to no food or food without meet or fish and when I ask her she says I didn't drop any money before leaving. Sometimes I come home from work very tired and there's no light. When I ask her what happened to the generator, she tells me there's no fuel. So she can't buy fuel? I have to do everything? She says her money is hers alone and to help her family but she keeps forgetting that I and our daughter should be her priority.
What can I do to make her change her ways? I'm not asking her to do much, just little things like buy the chicken or fish for stew and soup, and fuel sometimes when I'm not home. And maybe soap, toothpaste, pure-water, salt, maggi, and onions?
Tnx man 4 ds complain! So dere r women lyk ds?! Ds s jt selfishness, Na women lyk ds dy gv man high bp, too much 2 think nd complain about! I will neva marry a LIABILITY!!! Women pls contribute, I knw dere r soo many of u lyk dat out dere! Dnt mak ur man tired, He must cheat cos I wld jt belittle u no mata hw rich He s! Sha ma man tanks 4 ds complain, its jt increased d numba of tests I wil put a gal thru b4 I marry her! Lots of bitches ou dere :).....The Architect
My brother they are the same. Mine earns more than I do, yet she expects me to buy everything in the house including tissue papers and her sanitary accessories. I wonder what they do with their money?
I tink it is the duty of a man to drop monthly/weekly allowance for home keep.Just like my husband, he prefers to use his money to buy drinks for his fwends dan dropping money.If he drops N2000 ds wk, he won't drop for anoda 2 wks.If i complain, he will say ''what exactly do u use your money for.Men should learn how to drop. If it is not enough, we can add more.
Young man, pls know its ur main assignment to take care of your home. Non excuses. Ur wife is a help meet, pls note that. U guys need to get ur expenses listed, and both contribute towards it. Nt that wife buys butter husband buys salt like that like that.
I think that's pretty terrible but it's probably the way she's been brought up? She must've seen her mum rely on her dad for everything. What you should do is to ask her to write you a list of everything she will need to keep the house running for a month, then you give her the money for the list. Buy things in bulk, they should last beyond one month. Things like fuel, you should have a big keg to store it up. It's her mentality that needs changing. I have an aunt that does not wait for her husband before she takes the initiative to fix things up. From stocking the house to fixing the door knob, she does it all. You just have to make her understand you're both partners. If possible, you both should open an account and be dropping a certain amount of money for the house, and you should keep inventory of how both of you are using the money to avoid problems. I think everything will be fine if you make her understand why she needs to start doing things differently.
You are a cow! It is morons like you that give us men a bad name. If you knew you couldn't take care of your responsibilities, you shouldn't have married her. Our wives have already sacrificed a lot to be with us. Asking them to do any more is unreasonable and uncalled for. If she wants to, its her choice. If she doesn't, or she can't, its her right.
mr man, u r not even ashamed to be saying this nonesense! did she marry u or did u marry her? Marriage is all about taking responsibilities and if u cnt take responsibilities as a man, y did u marry her. So u xpect ur wife to be putting food on ur table with her own money! u must be a joker!! she plays her part by cooking d food, u shld also play ur part by droping the money for d food! Damn! men of nowadays! u never cease to amaze me; yet u call urself d head of d house, but u wnt to be sharing ur responsibilities with ur wife and still remain d "HEAD"! No way!if u call buying fish,meat, salt, toothpaste and fuel...little things, then it shouldnt be hard for u to do! You better cut d crap and start taking care of that woman!!
9ja guyss now ehnnn, you all just don't know your responsibilities, Lazy lot. Ehenn if you drop the monthly allowance then you will get fish and chicken to eat. So your wife should be buying fuel ehnn? Is that a woman's. Job? Anofia. I'm sure you are a yoruba man and your wife is from another tribe. Lazy thing.
She's just very selfish and wicked..... but den again some men are d reason y women behave dt way bcs once d woman starts bringing the man holds back all his money...
When you make your wife feel that house cleaning, laundry, other household chores and sex are very important contributions in a family, she will ignore the financial aspects.
If you want her to contribute financially, contribute actively in household chores and cut down drastically on your demand for sex from her. Always allow her demand sex from you and not the other way round.
When you do all that, she will see the need to reciprocate the contribution and assist you in providing financial support.
But note, once she starts assisting financially, your position as master of the house, begins to reduce, because cash is king. I hope you know the second golden rule? "He that has the gold, makes the rules."
When you make your wife feel that house cleaning, laundry, other household chores and sex are very important contributions in a family, she will ignore the financial aspects.
If you want her to contribute financially, contribute actively in household chores and cut down drastically on your demand for sex from her. Always allow her demand sex from you and not the other way round.
When you do all that, she will see the need to reciprocate the contribution and assist you in providing financial support.
But note, once she starts assisting financially, your position as master of the house, begins to reduce, because cash is king. I hope you know the second golden rule? "He that has the gold, makes the rules."
Your case is quite strange and I feel sorry for you. However, at this point, all we hv is your own version. Cld it be that you are a womaniser, alcoholic? This might hv made your wife a bit selfish in her dealings with you. If this is not the case, then your wife really has some personality issues. She probably doesn't knw what marriage entails and her duty as a help mate. At other times, such issues arise when a man and his wife were never friends before gettn married. This is why friendship and courtship matters so much. It exposes you to certain character traits that can signal a red flag, allowing a potential victim time to make a detour. Presently, I think you should both seek some counselling. Wish you the best.
Cos God has already made it so, A man who can't provide for his family is worst than a fidel. Leave d. Poor woman alone and take responsibility. It creates respect. Before God created Eve, he made sure. Adams field were ready, he was a whole man in authority. Don't get married if ur. Fields ain't ready.
Hey man! Provide for your family!! She needs the money to take care of her sef and the daughter so u don't expect her to be using her money all the time. You want her to be asking u for money to get sanitary wears body deodorants, hair???? Etc.... hello man! work harder!!
Oga, with all that you mentioned, wetin come remain? School fees and house rent? Does she get an allowance? if not, do you provide for her personal needs too? Those things we see as little are what really consumes money in a family o. Have a talk with her, you two should agree on how much each should contribute for the house monthly and what percentage to keep for personal needs.
If her salary is very little, doing all those things you mentioned might just leave her koboless when she needs transportation to work, wears, Lunch, toiletries, some baby needs, etc.
Your nuclear family should be her number one priority before siblings, maybe you need to make her understand.
Are you stingy to her? You two should sit down and talk Ok? See More marriage and relationship advice and tips at: www.wivestownhallconnection.com
Empty food for oga, fish on drawing? Some women sef, but if she ate too, then she didn't have.
Wifey please don't think that your money is for assorted aso ebis while oga's is for the family. Your family is YOU. When everything else fails, family will be there for you.
I had to end my relationship becos of this same problem. I asked my ex-Gf about her contribution to the relationship and she mentioned sex. Just imagine that!
Mr Man shut up and face your responsibilities, if she does all you mentioned, wetin come remain for you to do?. Drop every money needed by the beginning of the month and all these stories no go come up.
In my own opinion,a wife shd b a hlpmate which means dt she shd b able 2 hlp in ways she can wich includes financially.I don't c d reson y a workin wife shd nt contribute financially in her home in d lil way she can *jus sayin*
I think a woman is suppose to be her husbands assistant, partner not a liability........I'll suggest you try talk things out with her, I mean try to have a heart to heart conversation with her first and see if she will change or not.
You are irresponsible! From buying Maggi to buying the entire pot of soup. From buying fuel to buying generator!!! People like you will never know how much a sanitary pad costs talk more of buying it for your wife. When last did you change her wardrobe? Do the little things for her and see the change you desire in her. I'm a married woman and I know that we only need our guys to go half a mile and we complete the entire race for them
eh ya.i,m a wonderful woman o.i practically use almost all i earn fixing little things..why do i need to wait?i guess that's wicked ness.men appreciate your loving and caring wives as some are in hell....btw that 2 dimensional fish looks yummy :) jesus should turn it to 3d.let this man at least eat well . lol!
I don't believe there are still people who behave this way. She suppose to know that she is married and has responsibilities as well. The home is yours to build and not anybody's prime responsibility. She needs to change. That mentality isn't nice at all.
Your wife must be a naturally stingy person.I see no reason why she can't buy little things at home if she is working.we are like helper to our husbands so let's help them in the Lil way we can.
Have u heard of maintenance money where u give ur wife money weekly or monthly to take care of little expenses in the house.You are so stingy that u forgot to leave feeding money but u dont forget to expect food when u get home.
hehehe.....Ders nothing someone will not see ooooo.......I jes can't stop laughing haba....Linda you have been eating my comments hope ure satisfied...
Sorry I can't fault her in this, you are pay as you go husband. What stops you from estimating the cost of running the home weekly or monthly with her,then you provide that. NOTE, WOMEN ARE WIRED GARBAGE IN GARBAGE OUT.
She is not a help mate she is a leaching woman! How can someone not contribute to the house? It doesn't have to be that much but still you need to help.
Salt, pure water, maggi, onions lol, na em she no fit buy?, and u why u no dey give money for foodstuffs?, how much does she earn?, and u must be a stingy man to see all these little tins as sometin.. Lol
Nah... ur wife is damn right u gotta do everything dude u really need to work harder to en more, then you wouldn't have to complain anymore u such a lazy man please leave your wife alone To take good care of her parent am pretty sure if she ask for some money to give to her parent u wouldn't do that so??? Just let her be when your daughter is grown up she did do same for u too ask KARMA but that's really non of my business.
Please stop whining and give her the money to run your home.She didn't suddenly start behaving like this or didn't you notice when you were courting?There are two sides to every coin And meanwhile ,I know of several men who have shelved their responsiblities to the woman at home. You married her,so pls oga ,be the man and bring ya money*strollsaway
Hehehehehehehehe! Stil laughing! This one na hungry man o! It's not biblical for d woman to contribute financially in a marriage. If she do it shd b out of her own volition. D bible said a man dat cannot provide for his family is an infidel! Ur money + her money is hers to spend! Were u ever ready to get married b4 jumpin in? She shd help out so u hav spare money to spend on gals outside? Guy I suport ur wife 200% way to go gal!
hahahahha i beg make i shine my teeth. na real pkekele pkekele arugbo je gbese ta ni o soun. Well you are right that is what i call selfishness and she best get her act together cos i pity her.
The me me me first is something that she can never stop which is a pity
abeg tell her that her percentage contribution is xyz and if she doesn't contribute then when she wants big money from you simply say NO
Haha haba. They are helpmates now. Mr man talk to your wife n if she refuses stop buying what she ll benefit from in the house n start getting something for ur own daughter and pray for God to spk peace in your home. Some ppl are just selfish.
Just say u want her to be providing the food. Don't make it sound its just salt pepper maggi! Buy oooo she is ur sole responsibility, when u don't have at all she will help. Its ur responsibility to provide all the basic wants!,food, shelter and clothing, so maggi, pepper, salt, chicken,fish follow just like the way u have mentioned. Take heart, to marry no easy!
Just say u want her to be providing the food. Don't make it sound its just salt pepper maggi! Buy oooo she is ur sole responsibility, when u don't have at all she will help. Its ur responsibility to provide all the basic wants!,food, shelter and clothing, so maggi, pepper, salt, chicken,fish follow just like the way u have mentioned. Take heart, to marry no easy!
Just say u want her to be providing the food. Don't make it sound its just salt pepper maggi! Buy oooo she is ur sole responsibility, when u don't have at all she will help. Its ur responsibility to provide all the basic wants!,food, shelter and clothing, so maggi, pepper, salt, chicken,fish follow just like the way u have mentioned. Take heart, to marry no easy!
Oga dere z more to dz story yhu Neva Talk d truf o d Mata.Nobody on earth intentionally discomforts himsef or hersef.Mayb yhu are d type dat Neva appreciates her little effort so she decided to PARK.oga Examine Yhur Ways
Sit her down and then you both plan your home income .After that, share the bills between yourselves in that way everyone will be contributing towards the home front. *All the best*
oga sir the only way u can make her change her ways is by giving her small cash to hold for the upkeep of the house,by so doing she will be using her money when the one u give her don finish cos she go know say oga go soon drop pocket money...
Every woman should contribute to her marriage; even financially...that's why men will never respect us women, because we belittle how selves to kitchen and bedroom...honey you need to talk to her.
U jst av 2 commit every tin 2 God nd let God av is way,bcos dats a bad prb,hw can a woman nt helping her husband it tyms of little ous need?or mayb u urself ao nt playing d roll of a husband or father 2 her
U. De mind d fool? Even after admitting he earns more than her! Men are not worth it! Shop 4 dose lil thangs n keep in d house n allow her takia of her family n u won't say she doesn't care 4 ur kids too! And lol @ maggi? Oga na maggi be d only seasoning? Just like saying close up (tooth paste) omo (detergent) gala (beef roll) indomie (noodles) hehehe! Iti mpataka. Just advertised for maggi! Oga takia of ur wife n children n stop bothering. Us! Mtchew!
Thats just weird. I know women who help pay part of the rent,contribute to pay school fees and even buy car. So I wonder why this one can't spare small money to buy fish,maggi and toothpaste?How much is fish for goodness sake. The man isn't saying he won't give her the money but that she should not be waiting for him for some things. And I agree. My mum never waited for my dad for anything, And he too respects himself by doing his part. Thats what marriage is.one person shouldn't have to shoulder all. God forbid the man dies. won't she feed her child?
I once went wit my uncle 2 his frnd's huz, and while we were talking, his wife sent the maid to cum collect #100 to buy sumtin 2 use 2 cook...how much is #100 dat u can't take frm ur pocket, dat u wud hve 2 embrace ur husband....even if he is d stingy husband, sumtins tins aint jus worth it....change if u re like dat o.
I may believe this story because I know women who say their husbands can never see their kobo (backwards thinking) marriage should be about sharing... haba!!!these day couples share responsibilities now because alot of women work these days.If she has the money and she is not helping then she is stingy... Me I hate dis-comfort o!!! the only reason I will stay without Gen is because I don't know how to on a Gen till today that shit freaks me out. I cant even eat food if there is no meat so I wont wait for a man to give me money to feel comfortable that is why I am working towards making my own money so when I marry am not depending on a soul for comfort.
May be you aren't doing something right, May be u aren't treating her with love n respect May be she caught u sending recharge cards to side chicks Maybe u buy booze n cigarette often Maybe u r just a stingy man Maybe she is also stingy
May be you aren't doing something right, May be u aren't treating her with love n respect May be she caught u sending recharge cards to side chicks Maybe u buy booze n cigarette often Maybe u r just a stingy man Maybe she is also stingy
I have been married for 5 years and I take responsibility for 60% of all the spending at home. It didn't happen as a design but reality on ground because I earn 3x more than hubby. I wouldn't expect him to be borrowing money to fulfill his obligations. If the table turns and he starts earning more, the equation would definitely change but I will still contribute. Its almost like a common sense thing to help in the home. Your wife is definitely myopic and she's even wading off blessings that come with marriage. She needs counseling!
Dear Libers, don't be too quick to judge. I don't blame the woman,it depends on what she has seen with her eyes. If u want meat and chicken in the soup why not give her money to cook it? You can say " I will bring money for stew so u bring money for chicken/fish" . That's just rubbish. Believe me if u give her money for upkeep, when the little things finish, she will take care of it. Besides, are you loving? Do you help out with your daughter and chores? Abi you leave all the chores,cooking and cleaning for her and at the end of the day u still want her to spend her money on u? Do u give her money to do her hair or buy her clothes or your daughter's clothes? If you don't then don't expect much from her. When I married my husband, we were both earning well but my salary was more than his and I used to make substantial contributions to the home. Unfortunately,after some time, I lost my job. For me to get money from my husband na wahala. I will practically be begging him and its if he wants to and what he wants to dat he would give me. I haven't bought myself a pair of shoes since I lost my job. All the bags, shoes and jewelry I use are the good ones I bought for myself when I still had my job. And they are all falling apart one after the other but oga's money is too precious to spend on me. He has a standing order for his own parents. Every month he sends them money but I will beg and quarrel and fight before my folks get even one-quarter of what he sends his people, if they are lucky, once in four months. So Mr. Complainer, if I get a job tomorrow,do u think I will chicken or fish for him? Hell no. I will behave just like your wife. My money would just for myself, my kids and my family members. I will have to save for my future so that I don't find myself in the same situation again. So be the MAN, after all you men deprive in beating your chests and letting us know you are the HEAD. So be the head and take care of your family. Remove your eyes from your wife's money, and it will surprise you how she will start supporting you.
Kia! I de vex! After goin tru some of d coments I can't help but feel sorry 4 nija women. U pple hav lost it! Wel dtz y dey marry u 2 breed and den tro u out afterwards. And boys of nawadays, u want her to contribute financially Bcos she ought to b a help mete, realy? A u contributin to d house chores, do u wait until she ask for Sex? Ofcourse she is a help mete dtz y her place is in d kitchen & to also satisfy u in bed. For those of u makin reference to western lifestyle did u take into consideration dat dey share house chores? D man has d tym whn he goes to d mkt, cook, clean d house, take care of bby etc? So den dy split d financial responsibility! Boy dnt manup and tak ur position as d man of d house, Jst b dia decievin urslf. So if she share out of ur responsibility, u wil stil want to remain d head of d home. Dat ur not even ashemed to say dis out givs me more concern. Smh
Pple shudnt rush to blame d woman. Although am not workin but when I start I would rather pay bills dan buy food items cos my husband would want 5 pcs of meat @ I meal n he won't eat food if there is just one piece. I have to cook seperate meat frm d one I put in the soup/stew or food I prepared cos the meat will be finished b4 d food itself. And he will enter fridge remove d reserved one n micowave it then wash it down wt beer.I don complain tire I wud also tk of toiletries cos I must cover d toilet water with tissue b4 I shit,even tho I use water to rinse my yansh I will use tissue b4 water,use 2 tissue rolls in a week
@ Breanna Mag...."...and WROTE down some things...."???! LMAO! You gotta be very meticulous when correcting someone else darling, or you get clowned yourself! Have a beautiful day ;).
@ Anon 1:45PM, not sure if that's the right solution. The way this woman sounds....if he stops giving her money, she'll probably go and "get it" somewhere else for her selfish self!
@ AYO, that's a gross generalization about Nigerian women! If anything, I'm seeing more of a trend where men in our generation plot just to marry a woman that can hold the financial burden. Congrats to you and your American wife!
Girl I fink ur a slave n a proud one @ dat... report ur case ASAP.. I fink d ryt NGOs should b able to help u!!!. u really need help...m Phewwww!!!!!!!
Oh puhleease!!! @ Anon 3:19! It's not just women, I've seen men do it too...especially those that think they've hit the jackpot by "marrying rich". Once they get in, they just chill or saying they are "doing business" while waiting for Parent-in-laws to take care of them just because they don't want their princess to suffer. Mssscchhheeww!!!!!
And she will also go the "immature" route and find that money somewhere else, if you know what I mean. Then the problem gets compounded. So your 3-month solution is not a good way to handle things in a relationship that is supposed to be between two adults.
Ha ha ha Bonita.but truth is this,we assist a man when things are rough but soon as he picks up financially,he assists himself to a brand new, younger version and in most cases,assists the older woman out of the brand new banana island home!!! Lesson to girls: save your money,it will come in handy when the asshole decides to show himself.
No mind am. See the long list he is writing for her to add to. Why can't you keep the money down for the fuel. At least when you turn fuel a day before, you will know you don't have enough for the next day. Before you know it now, na she go de pay house rent.
Some women are naturally stingy But, sometimes women think if the husband is not spending money on the family another woman is collecting it ( which is often the case)
For me I wil advice u don't insult his wife. She may have her reasons. The truth about men is dat once u start assisting they will gradually reduce their spending and before you know it the woman will turn into the bread winner. This happens most times
I like dis topic. Tnx Linda. Guys and ladies as well, pls b4 u get married u need to know who u r going to leave with. I do believe dat no matter how much he/she earns, all persons much bring 'food' to d table. More esp now they av a child.
Bros, If this true, take a hike off this ship you in... i dont support divorce but hate users the more. your marriage is going nowhere, imagine, God forbid though, that you lose your job.... frustration go kill you o.. move while you still can... candid advice
Its not abt bin wicked nd lazy, its jus dat Naija men dz days r bcomin somtin else, once u start bringin out mony, make sure u must continue 2 d end, as in 2 d extent of payin d rent nd kids fees while dey tak dia mony nd lavish on oda girls. Bt wait ooo, why wil a man eva get up nd liv d house witout dropin mony 4 d family's upkip nd u xpet 2 com home nd find evrytin ok. Plz my dear women, am talkin frm xperince, STOP spendin ur mony coz once u start, it'l b biz as usual, he wil NEVA EVA remba again dat hez suposd 2 drop mony @ home. I rest my case
Maybe you packed all your family members into the house and they tend to finish everything in the house without contributing. It could also mean that she does not love you and just married you for your money.
If the men would also do little little things in the home like sweep, fetch, dust etc sometimes then no wahala women can also contribute their own quota. Umu nwoke ndi uru ahia
It's funny how nobody asked if the guy helps her to cook and clean. Partnership doesn't have to be financial. If he is not being her partner in the kitchen then he shouldn't even complain cuz she ain't complaining about that one!
A man that cannot provide for his family is a gay twat. You ought to marry a man like your self so that both of you can contribute fifty. Idiot I hate little sissy idiots that call themselves men meanwhile they are less than woman who can provide at the same time carry pregnancy and other things. The only thing God has blessed u to do u are complaining about. No real man with normal level of homones will go looking into his wives pocket. So shameful. If such a homo idiot marries my sister I will bend his gay neck.
That's rather harsh u only heard his side of the story have u heard hers. Do u know if she is the only provider for her family and that's where all her money goes. There is always two sides to the same story
Anon @354. Spot on!!!. Gay tinz indeed. After them go say gay no dey for naija . Weak brothers. She even try to remind u of fish and draw you a beautiful picture. If you can't provide stay at home and watch the children. Cook food as well and make sure you prepare food for her when she gets back from hustling. Small time your stupid ego will get in the way. God forbid that kind of weak shit man. Go and put on a dress because u are what you are. Yeye dey smell.
its funny how we try to expose other people's mistake even though we are caught in the same web. It's not wrote down somethings but write down some things.
I do pay school fees buy cloth for my kids,food stuff etc,my hubby hav no job he is so kind but d most annoyed thing is dat he hav not buy things in that house marriage if 8 years is like he left everything to me, if he hav lil money he won't like to spend all d burden left in me very stingy
Gbam! When you marry your friend, then issues like this won't come up cos she won't mind spending on the family and you won't mind helping out with house chores.
Men!!!! u cant always eat ur cake and still have it.....you want ur wife 2 make financial contributions @ home? you shld also be willing to Share in house chores.....by so doing, u are also helping each oda.
we dont have to blame the woman, the question is: How good is the man to the woman in terms of money? When I newly married,once i collect my salary, i stock up the house, i now realized that when its mid month and am broke, my hubby will find it difficult to give me money. I now had to reset my self. Unless I see that he is EXTREMELY broke, thats when i help out.Some men stingy to the core so when u marry one u also do like a STINGIER....LOL Although the woman has gone too far to the extent of maggi and salt...................
hmmm. bible divided d job. man 2 provide 4 family woman 2 give birth. y listing all ds. if d woman should do all those listed stuff. which one will d man do? to use his money and go 2 other women outside. pls think b4 u defend man here. Even if a woman should assist not with all d things he listed.
A real man provides for his family. Period. Not all these boys that call themselves men these days. That is how they out live their women by over working them. When they finish pafukaing the wife they will replace them with younger model.
342 comments:
«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 342 of 342Tnx man 4 ds complain! So dere r women lyk ds?! Ds s jt selfishness, Na women lyk ds dy gv man high bp, too much 2 think nd complain about! I will neva marry a LIABILITY!!! Women pls contribute, I knw dere r soo many of u lyk dat out dere! Dnt mak ur man tired, He must cheat cos I wld jt belittle u no mata hw rich He s!
Sha ma man tanks 4 ds complain, its jt increased d numba of tests I wil put a gal thru b4 I marry her! Lots of bitches ou dere :).....The Architect
Not all women are like that. Didnt you guys talk about finances before marriage. This is why counselling is important before getting married.
My brother they are the same. Mine earns more than I do, yet she expects me to buy everything in the house including tissue papers and her sanitary accessories. I wonder what they do with their money?
Ur wife is wicked. ...just pray God to give u money,more money,much money cos her type will nvr help when u re down.
try not 2 buy some of those tin. and c wat her reaction would b. if she ask tell her tins are nt too good from ur end. pls try and cook up a good lie.
Individual differences!! Maybe you married the stingy type or rather self centered wife.. Mine's wonderful..
I tink it is the duty of a man to drop monthly/weekly allowance for home keep.Just like my husband, he prefers to use his money to buy drinks for his fwends dan dropping money.If he drops N2000 ds wk, he won't drop for anoda 2 wks.If i complain, he will say ''what exactly do u use your money for.Men should learn how to drop. If it is not enough, we can add more.
Young man, pls know its ur main assignment to take care of your home. Non excuses. Ur wife is a help meet, pls note that. U guys need to get ur expenses listed, and both contribute towards it. Nt that wife buys butter husband buys salt like that like that.
ur wife is just mean. Try n talk to her if she love u she will understand if not keep on buyin cos na u go marry her.
I think that's pretty terrible but it's probably the way she's been brought up? She must've seen her mum rely on her dad for everything. What you should do is to ask her to write you a list of everything she will need to keep the house running for a month, then you give her the money for the list. Buy things in bulk, they should last beyond one month. Things like fuel, you should have a big keg to store it up. It's her mentality that needs changing. I have an aunt that does not wait for her husband before she takes the initiative to fix things up. From stocking the house to fixing the door knob, she does it all. You just have to make her understand you're both partners. If possible, you both should open an account and be dropping a certain amount of money for the house, and you should keep inventory of how both of you are using the money to avoid problems. I think everything will be fine if you make her understand why she needs to start doing things differently.
True story?
Well... These are the eesues.
There must have been signs, but no time to brood over spilled milk.
It might be a good idea to make another search.
Or, I just might have thought out loud....
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Maybe she thinks you are stingy?
Be more free with your own money and eventually, she will be free with hers.
the woman is not building her home.she is called the helpmate.she needs to help if she wants to be respected.
You are a cow! It is morons like you that give us men a bad name. If you knew you couldn't take care of your responsibilities, you shouldn't have married her. Our wives have already sacrificed a lot to be with us. Asking them to do any more is unreasonable and uncalled for. If she wants to, its her choice. If she doesn't, or she can't, its her right.
mr man, u r not even ashamed to be saying this nonesense! did she marry u or did u marry her? Marriage is all about taking responsibilities and if u cnt take responsibilities as a man, y did u marry her. So u xpect ur wife to be putting food on ur table with her own money! u must be a joker!! she plays her part by cooking d food, u shld also play ur part by droping the money for d food! Damn! men of nowadays! u never cease to amaze me; yet u call urself d head of d house, but u wnt to be sharing ur responsibilities with ur wife and still remain d "HEAD"! No way!if u call buying fish,meat, salt, toothpaste and fuel...little things, then it shouldnt be hard for u to do! You better cut d crap and start taking care of that woman!!
Un serious man!
9ja guyss now ehnnn, you all just don't know your responsibilities, Lazy lot. Ehenn if you drop the monthly allowance then you will get fish and chicken to eat. So your wife should be buying fuel ehnn? Is that a woman's. Job? Anofia. I'm sure you are a yoruba man and your wife is from another tribe. Lazy thing.
She's just very selfish and wicked..... but den again some men are d reason y women behave dt way bcs once d woman starts bringing the man holds back all his money...
Ur wife is so stingy believe me....hers is out of d game..there re some certain tins a woman should do
When you make your wife feel that house cleaning, laundry, other household chores and sex are very important contributions in a family, she will ignore the financial aspects.
If you want her to contribute financially, contribute actively in household chores and cut down drastically on your demand for sex from her. Always allow her demand sex from you and not the other way round.
When you do all that, she will see the need to reciprocate the contribution and assist you in providing financial support.
But note, once she starts assisting financially, your position as master of the house, begins to reduce, because cash is king. I hope you know the second golden rule? "He that has the gold, makes the rules."
When you make your wife feel that house cleaning, laundry, other household chores and sex are very important contributions in a family, she will ignore the financial aspects.
If you want her to contribute financially, contribute actively in household chores and cut down drastically on your demand for sex from her. Always allow her demand sex from you and not the other way round.
When you do all that, she will see the need to reciprocate the contribution and assist you in providing financial support.
But note, once she starts assisting financially, your position as master of the house, begins to reduce, because cash is king. I hope you know the second golden rule? "He that has the gold, makes the rules."
Your case is quite strange and I feel sorry for you. However, at this point, all we hv is your own version. Cld it be that you are a womaniser, alcoholic? This might hv made your wife a bit selfish in her dealings with you. If this is not the case, then your wife really has some personality issues. She probably doesn't knw what marriage entails and her duty as a help mate. At other times, such issues arise when a man and his wife were never friends before gettn married. This is why friendship and courtship matters so much. It exposes you to certain character traits that can signal a red flag, allowing a potential victim time to make a detour. Presently, I think you should both seek some counselling. Wish you the best.
Cos God has already made it so, A man who can't provide for his family is worst than a fidel. Leave d. Poor woman alone and take responsibility. It creates respect. Before God created Eve, he made sure. Adams field were ready, he was a whole man in authority. Don't get married if ur. Fields ain't ready.
Hey man! Provide for your family!! She needs the money to take care of her sef and the daughter so u don't expect her to be using her money all the time. You want her to be asking u for money to get sanitary wears body deodorants, hair???? Etc.... hello man! work harder!!
Oga, with all that you mentioned, wetin come remain? School fees and house rent?
Does she get an allowance? if not, do you provide for her personal needs too? Those things we see as little are what really consumes money in a family o. Have a talk with her, you two should agree on how much each should contribute for the house monthly and what percentage to keep for personal needs.
If her salary is very little, doing all those things you mentioned might just leave her koboless when she needs transportation to work, wears, Lunch, toiletries, some baby needs, etc.
Your nuclear family should be her number one priority before siblings, maybe you need to make her understand.
Are you stingy to her? You two should sit down and talk Ok? See
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Empty food for oga, fish on drawing? Some women sef, but if she ate too, then she didn't have.
Wifey please don't think that your money is for assorted aso ebis while oga's is for the family. Your family is YOU. When everything else fails, family will be there for you.
The woman is so stingy
I had to end my relationship becos of this same problem. I asked my ex-Gf about her contribution to the relationship and she mentioned sex. Just imagine that!
U wife must be an igbo woman.. pls bv look out for an edo gal for a wife..
It baffles me, 2!
stfu you have a bad wife, dont add other women in your matter
Mr Man shut up and face your responsibilities, if she does all you mentioned, wetin come remain for you to do?. Drop every money needed by the beginning of the month and all these stories no go come up.
In my own opinion,a wife shd b a hlpmate which means dt she shd b able 2 hlp in ways she can wich includes financially.I don't c d reson y a workin wife shd nt contribute financially in her home in d lil way she can *jus sayin*
I think a woman is suppose to be her husbands assistant, partner not a liability........I'll suggest you try talk things out with her, I mean try to have a heart to heart conversation with her first and see if she will change or not.
You are irresponsible! From buying Maggi to buying the entire pot of soup. From buying fuel to buying generator!!! People like you will never know how much a sanitary pad costs talk more of buying it for your wife. When last did you change her wardrobe? Do the little things for her and see the change you desire in her.
I'm a married woman and I know that we only need our guys to go half a mile and we complete the entire race for them
eh ya.i,m a wonderful woman o.i practically use almost all i earn fixing little things..why do i need to wait?i guess that's wicked ness.men appreciate your loving and caring wives as some are in hell....btw that 2 dimensional fish looks yummy :)
jesus should turn it to 3d.let this man at least eat well .
lol!
I don't believe there are still people who behave this way. She suppose to know that she is married and has responsibilities as well. The home is yours to build and not anybody's prime responsibility. She needs to change. That mentality isn't nice at all.
Your wife must be a naturally stingy person.I see no reason why she can't buy little things at home if she is working.we are like helper to our husbands so let's help them in the Lil way we can.
Have u heard of maintenance money where u give ur wife money weekly or monthly to take care of little expenses in the house.You are so stingy that u forgot to leave feeding money but u dont forget to expect food when u get home.
Dis woman gangster o.maybe she grew up watching her dad not been responsible for them n probably made up her mind neve to spend on any man
hehehe.....Ders nothing someone will not see ooooo.......I jes can't stop laughing haba....Linda you have been eating my comments hope ure satisfied...
Linda have I wronged you? I don't understand again ooooo
Sorry I can't fault her in this, you are pay as you go husband. What stops you from estimating the cost of running the home weekly or monthly with her,then you provide that. NOTE, WOMEN ARE WIRED GARBAGE IN GARBAGE OUT.
Dis man should just stop vexing me! Dis generation of men...only God can help! tufikwa!!!
She is not a help mate she is a leaching woman! How can someone not contribute to the house? It doesn't have to be that much but still you need to help.
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That woman she is not serious, my brother don't stress urself in this month of August God we Add more to ur income in Jesus Name
Salt, pure water, maggi, onions lol, na em she no fit buy?, and u why u no dey give money for foodstuffs?, how much does she earn?, and u must be a stingy man to see all these little tins as sometin.. Lol
Nah... ur wife is damn right u gotta do everything dude u really need to work harder to en more, then you wouldn't have to complain anymore u such a lazy man please leave your wife alone To take good care of her parent am pretty sure if she ask for some money to give to her parent u wouldn't do that so??? Just let her be when your daughter is grown up she did do same for u too ask KARMA but that's really non of my business.
Please stop whining and give her the money to run your home.She didn't suddenly start behaving like this or didn't you notice when you were courting?There are two sides to every coin
And meanwhile ,I know of several men who have shelved their responsiblities to the woman at home. You married her,so pls oga ,be the man and bring ya money*strollsaway
Hehehehehehehehe! Stil laughing! This one na hungry man o! It's not biblical for d woman to contribute financially in a marriage. If she do it shd b out of her own volition. D bible said a man dat cannot provide for his family is an infidel! Ur money + her money is hers to spend! Were u ever ready to get married b4 jumpin in? She shd help out so u hav spare money to spend on gals outside? Guy I suport ur wife 200% way to go gal!
This fish is so good becos it is not perishable...They can use and use lots of times and it's quite cheap too...
kai!!! I haven't stopped laffing, this is the funniest thing ever...
This woman is jes crazy, nothing more. ..
Mia. E
hahahahha i beg make i shine my teeth. na real pkekele pkekele arugbo je gbese ta ni o soun. Well you are right that is what i call selfishness and she best get her act together cos i pity her.
The me me me first is something that she can never stop which is a pity
abeg tell her that her percentage contribution is xyz and if she doesn't contribute then when she wants big money from you simply say NO
Dats so bad I can't stand a woman like dat
Haha haba. They are helpmates now. Mr man talk to your wife n if she refuses stop buying what she ll benefit from in the house n start getting something for ur own daughter and pray for God to spk peace in your home. Some ppl are just selfish.
Lolz ma mom aint so oh. Let him cum ask ma mom how she does it. Becus ma mom sumtymz put food on our table wen dad fails###
Just say u want her to be providing the food. Don't make it sound its just salt pepper maggi! Buy oooo she is ur sole responsibility, when u don't have at all she will help. Its ur responsibility to provide all the basic wants!,food, shelter and clothing, so maggi, pepper, salt, chicken,fish follow just like the way u have mentioned. Take heart, to marry no easy!
Just say u want her to be providing the food. Don't make it sound its just salt pepper maggi! Buy oooo she is ur sole responsibility, when u don't have at all she will help. Its ur responsibility to provide all the basic wants!,food, shelter and clothing, so maggi, pepper, salt, chicken,fish follow just like the way u have mentioned. Take heart, to marry no easy!
Just say u want her to be providing the food. Don't make it sound its just salt pepper maggi! Buy oooo she is ur sole responsibility, when u don't have at all she will help. Its ur responsibility to provide all the basic wants!,food, shelter and clothing, so maggi, pepper, salt, chicken,fish follow just like the way u have mentioned. Take heart, to marry no easy!
Oga dere z more to dz story yhu Neva Talk d truf o d Mata.Nobody on earth intentionally discomforts himsef or hersef.Mayb yhu are d type dat Neva appreciates her little effort so she decided to PARK.oga Examine Yhur Ways
Sit her down and then you both plan your home income .After that, share the bills between yourselves in that way everyone will be contributing towards the home front.
*All the best*
oga sir the only way u can make her change her ways is by giving her small cash to hold for the upkeep of the house,by so doing she will be using her money when the one u give her don finish cos she go know say oga go soon drop pocket money...
Lol! You go learn... But on a serious note, the wife though, serious akagum!
Every woman should contribute to her marriage; even financially...that's why men will never respect us women, because we belittle how selves to kitchen and bedroom...honey you need to talk to her.
You are a FOOLISH son of a DOD @anon11:14
DOG i meant 11:14
Hahahahaha . So true. Oga examine ur ways oooo
I second you anon 11:14. LINDA post my comment!
Some women sha. This one must be extremely stingy Lol
U jst av 2 commit every tin 2 God nd let God av is way,bcos dats a bad prb,hw can a woman nt helping her husband it tyms of little ous need?or mayb u urself ao nt playing d roll of a husband or father 2 her
Hmmm Dtz vry bad of d wife..women shld alwyz try 2contribute lil2 4family..it reali helps n goes a long way in d marraige
U. De mind d fool? Even after admitting he earns more than her! Men are not worth it! Shop 4 dose lil thangs n keep in d house n allow her takia of her family n u won't say she doesn't care 4 ur kids too! And lol @ maggi? Oga na maggi be d only seasoning? Just like saying close up (tooth paste) omo (detergent) gala (beef roll) indomie (noodles) hehehe! Iti mpataka. Just advertised for maggi! Oga takia of ur wife n children n stop bothering. Us! Mtchew!
Thats just weird. I know women who help pay part of the rent,contribute to pay school fees and even buy car.
So I wonder why this one can't spare small money to buy fish,maggi and toothpaste?How much is fish for goodness sake. The man isn't saying he won't give her the money but that she should not be waiting for him for some things.
And I agree.
My mum never waited for my dad for anything, And he too respects himself by doing his part. Thats what marriage is.one person shouldn't have to shoulder all.
God forbid the man dies. won't she feed her child?
Na wa sha
Oga u no make sense o! So u give her money for soup n stew n she go buy all d ingredients she no buy meat! This story get K leg!!
I once went wit my uncle 2 his frnd's huz, and while we were talking, his wife sent the maid to cum collect #100 to buy sumtin 2 use 2 cook...how much is #100 dat u can't take frm ur pocket, dat u wud hve 2 embrace ur husband....even if he is d stingy husband, sumtins tins aint jus worth it....change if u re like dat o.
Bekeee. Try and go back to school
You certainly are the stingy type . Anyway I refrain from judging you but then check yourself n speak to your wife
I may believe this story because I know women who say their husbands can never see their kobo (backwards thinking) marriage should be about sharing... haba!!!these day couples share responsibilities now because alot of women work these days.If she has the money and she is not helping then she is stingy... Me I hate dis-comfort o!!! the only reason I will stay without Gen is because I don't know how to on a Gen till today that shit freaks me out. I cant even eat food if there is no meat so I wont wait for a man to give me money to feel comfortable that is why I am working towards making my own money so when I marry am not depending on a soul for comfort.
u can make it an habit to drop feeding money every morning or allowance every week with dat she can be able to buy what is needed and also fish
May be you aren't doing something right,
May be u aren't treating her with love n respect
May be she caught u sending recharge cards to side chicks
Maybe u buy booze n cigarette often
Maybe u r just a stingy man
Maybe she is also stingy
Working Married Couples should have 4 ACCTs
1.Family Project acct
2.Bills n other expenses acct
3.Husband acct
4.Wife acct
May be you aren't doing something right,
May be u aren't treating her with love n respect
May be she caught u sending recharge cards to side chicks
Maybe u buy booze n cigarette often
Maybe u r just a stingy man
Maybe she is also stingy
I have been married for 5 years and I take responsibility for 60% of all the spending at home. It didn't happen as a design but reality on ground because I earn 3x more than hubby. I wouldn't expect him to be borrowing money to fulfill his obligations. If the table turns and he starts earning more, the equation would definitely change but I will still contribute. Its almost like a common sense thing to help in the home. Your wife is definitely myopic and she's even wading off blessings that come with marriage. She needs counseling!
Dear Libers, don't be too quick to judge. I don't blame the woman,it depends on what she has seen with her eyes. If u want meat and chicken in the soup why not give her money to cook it? You can say " I will bring money for stew so u bring money for chicken/fish" . That's just rubbish. Believe me if u give her money for upkeep, when the little things finish, she will take care of it. Besides, are you loving? Do you help out with your daughter and chores? Abi you leave all the chores,cooking and cleaning for her and at the end of the day u still want her to spend her money on u? Do u give her money to do her hair or buy her clothes or your daughter's clothes? If you don't then don't expect much from her. When I married my husband, we were both earning well but my salary was more than his and I used to make substantial contributions to the home. Unfortunately,after some time, I lost my job. For me to get money from my husband na wahala. I will practically be begging him and its if he wants to and what he wants to dat he would give me. I haven't bought myself a pair of shoes since I lost my job. All the bags, shoes and jewelry I use are the good ones I bought for myself when I still had my job. And they are all falling apart one after the other but oga's money is too precious to spend on me. He has a standing order for his own parents. Every month he sends them money but I will beg and quarrel and fight before my folks get even one-quarter of what he sends his people, if they are lucky, once in four months. So Mr. Complainer, if I get a job tomorrow,do u think I will chicken or fish for him? Hell no. I will behave just like your wife. My money would just for myself, my kids and my family members. I will have to save for my future so that I don't find myself in the same situation again. So be the MAN, after all you men deprive in beating your chests and letting us know you are the HEAD. So be the head and take care of your family. Remove your eyes from your wife's money, and it will surprise you how she will start supporting you.
Kia! I de vex! After goin tru some of d coments I can't help but feel sorry 4 nija women. U pple hav lost it! Wel dtz y dey marry u 2 breed and den tro u out afterwards. And boys of nawadays, u want her to contribute financially Bcos she ought to b a help mete, realy? A u contributin to d house chores, do u wait until she ask for Sex? Ofcourse she is a help mete dtz y her place is in d kitchen & to also satisfy u in bed. For those of u makin reference to western lifestyle did u take into consideration dat dey share house chores? D man has d tym whn he goes to d mkt, cook, clean d house, take care of bby etc? So den dy split d financial responsibility! Boy dnt manup and tak ur position as d man of d house, Jst b dia decievin urslf. So if she share out of ur responsibility, u wil stil want to remain d head of d home. Dat ur not even ashemed to say dis out givs me more concern. Smh
Pple shudnt rush to blame d woman.
Although am not workin but when I start I would rather pay bills dan buy food items cos my husband would want 5 pcs of meat @ I meal n he won't eat food if there is just one piece.
I have to cook seperate meat frm d one I put in the soup/stew or food I prepared cos the meat will be finished b4 d food itself.
And he will enter fridge remove d reserved one n micowave it then wash it down wt beer.I don complain tire
I wud also tk of toiletries cos I must cover d toilet water with tissue b4 I shit,even tho I use water to rinse my yansh I will use tissue b4 water,use 2 tissue rolls in a week
Bosss!!!!
Ahahahhaahahhahaha!!!! Ur name na sorry! American? Sorry oo!!!
"Wrote"? Teacher, don't teach me nonsense
DUDE IS LIKE is stingy..give her monthly upkeep money, not daily peanuts
This her attitude is exactly why he will send her packing the day he hits.
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You are a fool!Wife beater!!Your mate go slap your throat,strangle you and kill you.Fool!
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U re correcting sm1's spellings yet u re so bad in English
Olodo. U talk with ur eyes and think with ur mouth. CHANGE is d only CONSTANT thing. She can nd will change.
Keep working harder and make enuf money. Make money more than she can spend.
I hear u sister.... preach to dem preachers... Uve forgotten too soon '' as u lay your bed....."
@ Breanna Mag...."...and WROTE down some things...."???! LMAO! You gotta be very meticulous when correcting someone else darling, or you get clowned yourself! Have a beautiful day ;).
@ Anon 1:45PM, not sure if that's the right solution. The way this woman sounds....if he stops giving her money, she'll probably go and "get it" somewhere else for her selfish self!
That is what is taught in schools these days.
Father brings home the money
And mother spends, sorry spreads the money.
Ask your child's social study teacher.
@ AYO, that's a gross generalization about Nigerian women! If anything, I'm seeing more of a trend where men in our generation plot just to marry a woman that can hold the financial burden. Congrats to you and your American wife!
Girl I fink ur a slave n a proud one @ dat... report ur case ASAP.. I fink d ryt NGOs should b able to help u!!!. u really need help...m Phewwww!!!!!!!
Oh puhleease!!! @ Anon 3:19! It's not just women, I've seen men do it too...especially those that think they've hit the jackpot by "marrying rich". Once they get in, they just chill or saying they are "doing business" while waiting for Parent-in-laws to take care of them just because they don't want their princess to suffer. Mssscchhheeww!!!!!
And she will also go the "immature" route and find that money somewhere else, if you know what I mean. Then the problem gets compounded. So your 3-month solution is not a good way to handle things in a relationship that is supposed to be between two adults.
BE A MAN AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES OGA BLOG VISITOR. NA UNA DEY SHOUT MAN MAN MAN NO FEMINISM NOW ITS MONEY TIME YOU WANT EQUAL EQUAL.
AGAIN I SAY BE A MAN AND PROVIDE WHOLLY FOR YOUR FAMILY!!!
Wow!!! You were so fixed on correcting his 'meet' that you didn't see your 'wrote' and 'been to ur helper'... lmao!!!
Smh!!!
You're there correcting the poster's spelling blunder whereas your write up is crap and full of grammatical errors. Typical Nigerian
Ha ha ha Bonita.but truth is this,we assist a man when things are rough but soon as he picks up financially,he assists himself to a brand new, younger version and in most cases,assists the older woman out of the brand new banana island home!!!
Lesson to girls: save your money,it will come in handy when the asshole decides to show himself.
Gbam
No mind am. See the long list he is writing for her to add to. Why can't you keep the money down for the fuel. At least when you turn fuel a day before, you will know you don't have enough for the next day. Before you know it now, na she go de pay house rent.
Some women are naturally stingy
But, sometimes women think if the husband is not spending money on the family another woman is collecting it ( which is often the case)
Yeah, "wrote" down
For me I wil advice u don't insult his wife. She may have her reasons. The truth about men is dat once u start assisting they will gradually reduce their spending and before you know it the woman will turn into the bread winner. This happens most times
I like dis topic. Tnx Linda. Guys and ladies as well, pls b4 u get married u need to know who u r going to leave with. I do believe dat no matter how much he/she earns, all persons much bring 'food' to d table. More esp now they av a child.
Bros,
If this true, take a hike off this ship you in... i dont support divorce but hate users the more.
your marriage is going nowhere, imagine, God forbid though, that you lose your job.... frustration go kill you o.. move while you still can... candid advice
Its not abt bin wicked nd lazy, its jus dat Naija men dz days r bcomin somtin else, once u start bringin out mony, make sure u must continue 2 d end, as in 2 d extent of payin d rent nd kids fees while dey tak dia mony nd lavish on oda girls. Bt wait ooo, why wil a man eva get up nd liv d house witout dropin mony 4 d family's upkip nd u xpet 2 com home nd find evrytin ok. Plz my dear women, am talkin frm xperince, STOP spendin ur mony coz once u start, it'l b biz as usual, he wil NEVA EVA remba again dat hez suposd 2 drop mony @ home. I rest my case
Maybe you packed all your family members into the house and they tend to finish everything in the house without contributing. It could also mean that she does not love you and just married you for your money.
She must be an Igbo woman. That is why they call them 'Oraiku'(Wealth Consumer)
You just nailed it my sister
Abeg shut up!.That is how u will get married and your mum will be basis of comparison in your home
If the men would also do little little things in the home like sweep, fetch, dust etc sometimes then no wahala women can also contribute their own quota. Umu nwoke ndi uru ahia
It's funny how nobody asked if the guy helps her to cook and clean. Partnership doesn't have to be financial. If he is not being her partner in the kitchen then he shouldn't even complain cuz she ain't complaining about that one!
U don't work and u provide for ur hubby. Where do u get th money from abeg??? Ur hubby shd suspect u
Yes oo
Exactly. My Tots exactly!
Don't use your money to call a guy to make your relationship work ok? Just remain I'm your father's house.
Its your kind we talking of
A man that cannot provide for his family is a gay twat. You ought to marry a man like your self so that both of you can contribute fifty. Idiot I hate little sissy idiots that call themselves men meanwhile they are less than woman who can provide at the same time carry pregnancy and other things. The only thing God has blessed u to do u are complaining about. No real man with normal level of homones will go looking into his wives pocket. So shameful. If such a homo idiot marries my sister I will bend his gay neck.
That's rather harsh u only heard his side of the story have u heard hers. Do u know if she is the only provider for her family and that's where all her money goes. There is always two sides to the same story
Gbam! Man of the house and wife material tinz. It's time for action, he's complaining. Let him say the whole truth
Anon @354. Spot on!!!. Gay tinz indeed. After them go say gay no dey for naija . Weak brothers. She even try to remind u of fish and draw you a beautiful picture. If you can't provide stay at home and watch the children. Cook food as well and make sure you prepare food for her when she gets back from hustling. Small time your stupid ego will get in the way. God forbid that kind of weak shit man. Go and put on a dress because u are what you are. Yeye dey smell.
its funny how we try to expose other people's mistake even though we are caught in the same web. It's not wrote down somethings but write down some things.
I do pay school fees buy cloth for my kids,food stuff etc,my hubby hav no job he is so kind but d most annoyed thing is dat he hav not buy things in that house marriage if 8 years is like he left everything to me, if he hav lil money he won't like to spend all d burden left in me very stingy
Gbam! When you marry your friend, then issues like this won't come up cos she won't mind spending on the family and you won't mind helping out with house chores.
Men!!!! u cant always eat ur cake and still have it.....you want ur wife 2 make financial contributions @ home? you shld also be willing to Share in house chores.....by so doing, u are also helping each oda.
Linda post ooo.
Its unfortunate that some men don't appreciate it when a woman contributes.
we dont have to blame the woman, the question is: How good is the man to the woman in terms of money?
When I newly married,once i collect my salary, i stock up the house, i now realized that when its mid month and am broke, my hubby will find it difficult to give me money. I now had to reset my self.
Unless I see that he is EXTREMELY broke, thats when i help out.Some men stingy to the core so when u marry one u also do like a STINGIER....LOL
Although the woman has gone too far to the extent of maggi and salt...................
hmmm. bible divided d job. man 2 provide 4 family woman 2 give birth.
y listing all ds. if d woman should do all those listed stuff. which one will d man do? to use his money and go 2 other women outside. pls think b4 u defend man here. Even if a woman should assist not with all d things he listed.
A real man provides for his family. Period. Not all these boys that call themselves men these days. That is how they out live their women by over working them. When they finish pafukaing the wife they will replace them with younger model.
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