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Wednesday, 12 March 2014

Dear LIB readers: I had abortions, now I may be barren

Dear LIB readers
I dated this nincompoop for four years and in that four years, I had five abortions for him. The last abortion was particularly traumatic. We broke up four years ago and within a year he was married to someone else. He has two kids with his wife who is a co-worker he cheated on me with. I moved on with my life and fortunately met a great guy in 2012. I married him in early 2013 and a year later I haven't gotten pregnant yet. I went to see a doctor in December last year and after carrying out tests he asked me if I'd ever had an abortion. I initially lied but owned up after I realized how serious it was. The doctor said that I may have destroyed part of my womb but will keep treating me and I should be hopeful. I know that my ex and his wife are expecting their third child and this makes me very angry. I may never be able to have children and the cause of all this is living a fulfilling life. Short of having him killed, I don't know what else to do. The anger I feel inside is immense and I'm gradually losing my sanity. I wrote an email to my ex and copied his wife explaining what was going on with me, and they both ignored me. How do I forgive this man and myself? There's nothing I want more than to be a mum. I'm going out of my mind and I am so bitter. Can anyone help.
Meanwhile, (this is Linda writing now) I will be MIA for at least 16 hours. I'm going to the US and won't be able to blog for a bit as I fly. As soon as I land, I will continue blogging. Thanks guys and God bless every one of you...

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Anonymous said...

That's a lesson for the girls #bright bravo#

Anonymous said...

Kia, I feel sorry for you oh but what has happened has happened. Just keep praying to God to have mercy. He alone is capable of delivering you. Stay strong oooo.

Anonymous said...

You now realise he's a nincompoop. Sorry, you can't eat your cake and have it! Live your life how you've found it right now.

-CHQ

Anonymous said...

I feel ur pains dear just be prayerful and beg God for 4giveness of sins he is mercyful

Anonymous said...

Safe flight linda luf

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Since u called him a nincompoop I guess you should choose the nearest adjective coz you are no different.
My only advice is for you to pray and hope have this cake after eating.


~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

Pamela Ugochi Orji said...

Linda choppin money ikeji, enjoy oo nd do hav a safe trip. Aunty trust in God nd let d anger go, u'll conceive. Rmba He maketh d impossible possible. Pray nd cry 2 Him, He'll answer thee.

cute mee said...

I feel ur pain,men are so wicked,pls remove every negative thought against him,God is d giver of children,call on him am sure he will answer u,I guess bcos of d multiple abortion dats y ur ex left u,pls ladies let's be smart,men will come nd tease u,at d end leave u 2 suffer,d lord is our strenght,

BEAUTIFUL ONYINYE said...

sowie abt d barrenness. At the second abortion, u shud hav known that nincompoop was not ready for any responsibility. if God's plan for you was 4 kids, u hav lost them all. Reconcile urself baq to Him (God). there's nuffin He cannot do. good luck

Okoro said...

5 Abortions???? For d same man...na so ur love big reach? Well have faith in God!

Anonymous said...

Linda baby enjoy yourself...

Anonymous said...

You used your heart instead of your head. Five? Talk to God to have mercy on you....!!!

NMA said...

Safe flight linda,hmmm Am speechless,ladies pls let's be careful of all these destiny breakers and joy killers dat call demselves guys,lady jst keep trying ther is nothing God can't do,jst belive

zinnia Rudolf said...

Just be positive and have faith that you'll be a mom soon, allow the doctor treat you and also make sure you're close to God everything will be fine

Urbane Hanger said...

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Opelicious Morgann said...

Hmmm Hmmm and more Hmmmm

It's stories like this that makes me feel a complex variety of emotions. From disgust to pity to annoyance. Why in God's name would you do 5 abortions for a man???? After the first abortion, didn't it occur to you to use protection??? It's like you were enjoying pain after pain. And you have the nerve to write a mail/letter to your ex and his wife. What were you expecting from them? A miracle? Or an apology?

As much as your ex had a part to blame in all this but when you were enjoying the skin to skin with your nincompoop lover, it was all fun and orgasms right?

Girls should please stop being dumb!!! No glove, no love! Period! Or IUD or Pill or whatever!!! All you can do is tell your hubby the truth and go for options like IVF, Surrogacy or adoption.

And for other girls out there, please use your head and don't allow some sugary words land you into trouble later. Its highly exceptional for a man to marry a lady who has done several abortions for him. Worse, he might not even touch a girl he will plan to marry. Remember, love is over rated. Think Like A Man!!!

Ifedili said...

you need to forgive the man so that God can forgive and heal you.you also need to make atonement to all those children killed. abortion is a grievous sin.

Anonymous said...

There is nothing else to do but to forgive absolutely, that might just be ur only test to be whole again.God bless u.

Alloy Chikezie said...

How can you have abortion for a guy five time? Even once is too much, talk more of five time, well what goes around comes around, you can't go around fire expecting not to sweat, and you can't be outside while the rain is pouring expecting not to get wet, so I will say this is what you signed for, so carry your cross

But there is hope for you, and that hope is called miracle, continue praying, God is a merciful God he will surely answer your prayer someday, and you have to forgive your ex if you want God to forgive you and give you a child, that you had abortion is your decision, I suppose your ex suggested you had it then, but it was a matter of choice, you went ahead to carry out the abortion, he never forced you, so forgive him, and God will forgive and possible perfect a miracle in your life

May your story be a testimony, God bless you


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Anonymous said...

we kw U ve done wrng @ d past bt dat doesn't chng a thing......wen God wrks his wrks in a mystry ways....jst kip d faith n shw luv 2 d little children arund U.....God 'll surely ansa you

adeniyi opemipo said...

Talk to your pastor about it!



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ziggey zims said...

What happened is in the past ... forgive yourself, ask HIM for forgiveness and trust HIM for a miracle about to happen in your life.

Think about it, if you get him killed, you would simply be adding to your list and that would surely count against you and wont make you bear any kids.

Its well with you.

Shalom

Olaleye Adisa said...

I think is only prayer that can solve the problems u create for ur self, love does not blind. U allow ur X to play u that way. So, sorry. And for u lindodo, I wish u successful journey. ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥♡thanks ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥ 

Anonymous said...

I fing wat i cn advice for U̶̲̥̅̊‎​​‎​​ ɪ̣̝̇ș to pray n av Hope in God,forgiv yur ex,and allow him to be,cos i cn't imagin aw at D̶̲̥̅̊is 21st century,100 yrs of dwarf Nigeria dat sm1 cn stil do abortion,wat happen to yur Sex Education?........Lindybaby,safe journey buh my question ɪ̣̝̇ș er U̶̲̥̅̊‎​​‎​​ going on vacation or secret wedding wit ur unkwn hubby like Tokinwa....ː̗̀=Dː̖́ℓσℓzː̗̀=Dː̖́.

Anonymous said...

kill ur self. Dumbass

Anonymous said...

Eyaaaaaa :( what a pathetic story...
My Dear,just go on your knees and ask God for Forgivness. Writing to ur ex en he's wife will not solve the problem...I believe ur prayers 2 God will hlp issues..
I wish u d best...........
*ASANYA JULIET UC*

Anonymous said...

Gal u r d nincompoop wat where u thinking to v 5 abortion for a man Se una no two dey mad,my word for u is to jst hope&pray God shld shine his light over u shikina

NK said...

My dear, I knw how painful it is, trust God u will ve ur own kids. Vengence is God's, 4give him so God can 4give u n bless u wit children. Linda baby safe journey oooo! I wan be like u when I grow up

Anonymous said...

In as much as I sympathise with you, most of this is your fault! With all the birth control measures out there, you CHOSE to go through the not one, two but FIVE abortions! Haba!
He might be a cheating, lying asshole but the fact remains that it takes two people to get pregnant abi was he getting you pregnant in your dreams?
I wish you all the best with your treatment. Just purge yourself of all that hate because it's your fault also as much as it's his.
Cheers.

chibaby vera said...

The mercy of God overool judgement>He will have mercy on u and open ur womb to bear children "in Jesus name


AMEN (pls dnt judge her,even u'ur not perfect)

ifeoma amah said...

Pls forgive him and pray to GOD for your own child he will answer you

chibaby vera said...

The mercy of God overool judgement>He will have mercy on u and open ur womb to bear children "in Jesus name


AMEN (pls dnt judge her,even u'ur not perfect)

Obinna James said...

The deed has been done, pray to God and ask for forgiveness.

Anonymous said...

A lesson for women out there - Use your sense in every relationships - dont be carried away by the illusion of love. When the chips are down, the lady in the scene who always have herself to blame. Pls ladies lets be more smart the next time, dont do nasty things in the name of love - even if you guys are heading for the altar, anything can still happen - dont send your nude picture to a fiance; if he was to see it, he should be patient till when you guys are around. So help us all!

Able Oluwayinka said...

Am sorry for u cos u ve learn't ur lesson in a very bitter way.

Relax, GOD IS ABLE but needs ur geniue repentance.

Ask for forgiveness from HIM and HE will restore / heal your wound.


ableoluwayinka@yahoo.co.uk

Chris said...

Journey Mercies our Lindodo! Queen and King of all bloggers. And for the lady seeking advice, Pray for forgiveness of sin and seek no revenge whatsoever. God knows the reason for everything and hopefully it is not all over for you to have your own kids.

Anonymous said...

Safejourney lindy,buh i hope no be secret wedding U̶̲̥̅̊‎​​‎​​ D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ Go do ℓi̶̲̥̅ke̶̲̥̅ tokinwa

Anonymous said...

WELL, U KEEP PRAYI TO GOD AND I KNOW HE IS A FORGIVING GOD, HE WILL FORGIVE U AND BLESS U WITH THE FRUIT OF THE WOMB. ABORTION IS BAD, ME TOO AM GUILTY OF IT. IVE HAD FOUR ABORTIONS IN THE PAST AND I REGRET EVERY BIT OF IT. BUT GOD HAS BLESSED ME, IMMEDIATELY I GOT MARRIED, I TOOK IN JUST ONE MONTH AFTER MY MARRIAGE. I WENT ON MY KNEES AND ASKED GOD TO FORGIVE ME AND HE DID. THE GOD THAT DID IT FOR ME WILL ALSO DO IT FOR U. PEOPLE WILL CURSE U HERE, BUT U NEED JUST GODS FORGIVENESS.

lucky chukz said...

Did you realize you were dating a nincompoop during those 4 years or after?? Because I'm sure that makes both of you... 5 abortions in 4years?? What were you thinking? That when you're aborting the man's sperm count will be reducing?? Like you said, both of you has moved on. Find a way and sought yourself out and stop hating on the blessings of another innocent woman.

Anonymous said...

The lady nah big mumu 1st ,2nd... Shoooo that no b love ooo.as for the guy what goes around comes around.''nemesis''

Anonymous said...

Lindiway...nothing do you. For my friend here,if you can,please pray. There is nothing God cannot do. Find it in your heart to forgive ur ex...for ur own sake.Sorry

bonita bislam said...

Have a safe trip Linda.As for this nincompoop of a lady,oyo for her

miss rollaz said...

Oooh dear, I knw how u feel..just forgive him and asked d lord to forgive u, he's a merciful God and I knw he'll forgive u and replace evry missing part of ur womb.

Alloy Chikezie said...

Wishing you safe journey Linda dear! Buy something if you they come back o, something eatable


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Anonymous said...

Sorry to say dis pls, bt some ladies re d one's causin misfortune upon themselves, God dat created u knew d reason y he said, abstain ur self from sex till marriage, how can a useless guy get u pregnant 5 times n still tell u to abort n u follow his useless advice cos u love him, now see how he ruind u life n he's there enjoyn, pls send me his contact, I will make his live a livin hell. Haba am a mum n I feel ur pain seriously. Pls ladies let's be wise. Wen a guy pregnate u for d second time n tell u abort, pls run for ur live he's ur enemy not lover, if he won't marry u know dat u're jst a sex toy. Allah will avenge wat he did to u in diffnt ways, shey he has daughters, he will see.

Amarachukwu. said...

You killed your self!what the hell were u thinking when u were doing that?sorry ooo. Meanwhile linda enjoy your stay in US n bring bk goodies oooo

Anonymous said...

Hmmm...well its gud 2 knw u were able 2 pik up d pieces of life. One year is still 2 early 2 decide. Jst kip prayin nd using wateva prescribed. Medication. Wish u all d best. Bt 4 d record... u were once really VERY STUPID.

Anonymous said...

Sorry to say dis pls, bt some ladies re d one's causin misfortune upon themselves, God dat created u knew d reason y he said, abstain ur self from sex till marriage, how can a useless guy get u pregnant 5 times n still tell u to abort n u follow his useless advice cos u love him, now see how he ruind u life n he's there enjoyn, pls send me his contact, I will make his live a livin hell. Haba am a mum n I feel ur pain seriously. Pls ladies let's be wise. Wen a guy pregnate u for d second time n tell u abort, pls run for ur live he's ur enemy not lover, if he won't marry u know dat u're jst a sex toy. Allah will avenge wat he did to u in diffnt ways, shey he has daughters, he will see. N u linlin bring mama oyoyo come, safe journey. Regrds to oprah!

fatee said...

First you have to forgive yourself and your ex then go to God with a clean mind ask for forgiveness and believe he has forgiven you. Belive in your treatment and trust God only. Linda the God that did it for you thru hard work and persistence will bless the works of my hand too. Have a safe flight.

Osarhiemen Agbonkonkon said...

Linda!!!
Enjoy urself,dear.


Poster,am so sorry.
But there's nothing God cannot do.
I suggest u go to God,beg for forgiveness and forgive ur ex.
Then,beg God to have mercy on u and bless ur womb.
I pray God helps u.
Ladies,pls abortion is not good!
May God strengthen us all,Amen.

NK said...

If u need 2 treat wit native medicine contact me so I can direct u, I knw u will be fine.

Anonymous said...

BLAME YOURSELF ALONE!!!! YOU CHOSE TO HAVE THE ABORTIONS!!! LIVE WITH IT!!! EMAILING YOUR EX IS VERY SHAMEFUL TO YOU. HAVE SOME PRIDE!!!

ShayDee YSG said...

Aunty linda safe trip
I pray dat ur plane won't go missin.amen
lol

Anonymous said...

What are u copying the wife for? What's her own? What do u want her to do

Anonymous said...

I'm sorry lady.. but instead of the regular D&C, you could have used abortion pills, it's safer. I trust most of the comments to be judgemental but the harm has been done, don't make it any worse for her. Keep up with your doctor and hope that God forgives and smile on u. God bless you

Beauty said...

Hmm...What Has Happened Has Happened, I just Suggest You Dont Conclude About The Fact Of being Barren, Try finding time to see A doc that can give you comprehensive details about ur chance of bin able to give birth. Peace

Anonymous said...

Eeya as the saying goes "as you lay your bed so you lie on it" I am sure even when you had the first abortion the guy had put you off marriage list. No one who really loves a girl will make her abort 5 times. The writings were on d wall but you refused to read them. Now you are paying for it. I pray God heals you sha.

Anonymous said...

IF YOU ARE WAITING FOR A REPLY OR AN APOLOGY FROM YOUR EX, THEN MAYBE THAT WILL BE WHEN YOU START GROWING GREY HAIR........ MY ADVICE IS TO LET BY-GONE BE BY-GONE, HIS APOLOGY OR CONCERN WON'T HEAL WHAT IS DAMAGED...YOU NEED TO FOCUS ON THE PRESENT CHALLENGE AND WHAT YOU NEED THE MOST IS YOUR HUSBAND BACKING AND SUPPORTING YOU AS YOU OVERCOME THE CHALLENGE.... PLEASE LEAVE AND FORGET EX AND LET GOD BE THE JUDGE..... ABEG NO LOOSE YOUR SANITY... THANK GOD YOU SAID YOUR HUSBAND IS A GREAT GUY, HIS SUPPORT IS WHAT YOU SHOULD BE AFTER AND NOT UR EX' CONCERN OR HIS WIFE'S APOLOGY.........

Anonymous said...

awe my dear..it's your past catching up on u..there is nothing u can do but hope that the treatment works out and pray ernestly for forgiveness for killing 5 kids...nawa oh u let ypur ex useu like that?

side note to other ladies: see these and countless other examples?u people should fear God and wisen up!!! guys have nothing to lose when u have abortions

Anonymous said...

Wish u safe delivery Linda. *winks*

Miss X said...

This is what is happening with your ex and his wife - THEY DON'T CARE

So keep visiting the doctor to sort out what ever might be the problem. Prayerfully hand it over to God.

Also remember babies are looking for parents as well so do not ignore adoption option as well.

Pray for peace to remove the bitterness you feel because it is toxic.

It is well with you.

Anonymous said...

And u are soo insensitive. U couldn't put ur announcement on a separate post. Ur usual mgbekeism still dey ur blood

RHOSE E said...

SORRY IS UR MIDDLE NAME. SHARP BABES DONT GO IN ABORTION AGAIN BCUS DE KN D REPERCUSSION. NW D GUY IS MARRIED WITH KIDS ND U ARE HERE REGRETTING WAT U DID. FIVE ABORTIONS IN FOUR YEARS? GOOSHHHH, GOD WIL VE MERCY ON U

kendrick Oke said...

kill urself

Anonymous said...

U need magical cock and holy water inside u before u'll get pregnant again. Sucker. After 5 abotions you now want a child lol, the problem was u,is you and will 4ever be u. Don't blame anyone for your mistake, take responsibility for your own action, your ex didn't put gun on your head to av those abortions, did he? U should have known he won't marry u. You are a murderer

haters-slayer said...

you bitch,you brought this upon your self,how could you be so foolish that you got ride of 1,2,3,4,5 men your so screwed,i pity that hubby of yoursthe lord is your strength

Anonymous said...

You such a sweet soul linda.....to the LIB ready girrl didnt you know there was concentraption? 1 or 2 arbortions i can tolerate but 5 is taking it too far but anyways you cannot change that now.the only thing you can do right now is to pray and ask God to bless you with chidren.Stop ruining that man's marriage you were a willing participant in the whole thing...

Anonymous said...

Gat no words 4 dis babe at all
Meanwhile, linda hun have a safe trip.

PURPLE

YMCMB said...

I dunno what to say about this.....but like u said move on,God will give u ur own child

folake alice said...

Wow I totally get u cos I have a close friend who us going thru same thing as u. The best thing to do Dere is go to all dis ijo women that are massaging for treatment,it is expensive but it surely works. So if Ur ready or u need any help getting to one u can email me(alicefolake@gmail) know this lady all hope is not lost,be prayeful and just forgive him. Let it go he is not worth it. Ladies u better be careful cos most men are not what u thing they are

Anonymous said...

Hey dear,i know becos of love..we av done stupid things..please start gathering ur money 4 surrogate....u hear,,,God bless u

Anonymous said...

Please do not take this the wrong way but the blame is mostly on you...Condom you no insist on using, Birth control pill you no use, Postinol 2+ you also no use....even going native, salt and water you no use, bitter lemon with Andrews liver salt you also no use. Now you want to blame the guy...WHY?? Me as a guy if i say i want to do it without a condom you as a girl should consider if you are safe or not and learn to say NO CONDOM NO TOTO (see me wain dey talk like say i go gree lool). Just pray to God and all will be well. IJN

Royalnaire

dupe said...

Smh, five abortions!!!!!! This life tho. My dear its not the guys fault alone, u sef are too blame o, just stop hating and turn the matter to God there is nothing he can't do, your ex is there living happily with his family your harboring hatred and contempt for him. Free the matter and pray to God for forgiveness and hope, and if you tell your husband pray that he will be understanding and patient. Take everything to God because thats all you have right now.

Anonymous said...

oh pls forgive yourself, the guy and even the wife, then pray to God for forgiveness trust me in no time you will be pregnant even as the doctor has said. FORGIVENESS IS HEALING IN ITSELF. IT IS WELL

RAI said...

Am not sorry for you, you are obviously a waste to the human society. Mtcheeeeeew

Anonymous said...

All have sinned and come short d glory of God!.. First thing first, Give ur life to christ.. Confess ur mistakes to ur pastor.. Forgive ur Ex.. Make sacrifices to God and watch him turn around ur story!! There are people ur better than!.. So don't give up yet.. Gods Grace dear.

Anonymous said...

Sorry o but five abortions and you are still alive? Na wa o. Eya o- you better go before God and pray and seek forgiveness not only for yourself but also your ex too. Move on from your past. Then your womb will open

Anonymous said...

But babes, you know you are a big fool. In this day and age, I can't believe babes still sleep with guys without protecting themselves. How can you have one abortion not to talk of four.

Ask God to have mercy on you and give you children. This should serve as a warning to young girls, no guy is worth aborting for. If he doesn't like condoms, he should go to hell. Better still abstinence, something wey you go chop tire when you marry, why u dey rush chop am come spoil for future sef. No wonder some people are already spent and used up by the time they get married. Why send the wife an e-mail? Really it none of her business, she didn't tell you not to be cautious when having sex. I wish you the best.

Anonymous said...

Jst forgive and move on. Bitterness n anger can be contributing to your inability to conceive. Also try natural herbs.

Anonymous said...

Hmmm I feel dsame way u do sister bt am nt yet married 2 knw if I cn bear children or nt bt I trust God 4 positivity nd am askng u 2 do dsame there's nothng God cant do keep praying nd make sure u 4giv ur ex ( thuh its difficult bt try).

Igor said...

Dear lady,your's is a case of one abortion too many.How could you have allowed yourself to be used in this manner ?.And now that you are suffering,he is busy living the life with another woman that you lost out to.Well,whatever you see in your new marriage should be your fate.

Anonymous said...

Girls self.Na onli u code how u feel..back den in ur relationship.. Did ur ex ever forced u into making love or having an abortion?I guess ..no.."it takes two to tangle"..if u kill ur ex will dt guarantee ur being pregnant in future?a fat NO is da answer..so my dear..u should bend down nd pray nd sort ways to b well again..instead of tinking anoda evil.."it normal to transfer aggression sha Buh its ain't wise "..##salesco##

Oj said...

Nincompop who you or him. I think you re the big nincompop how can u get belle 3 times . Next story plz.. some girl re stupid of d highest order

ADEBOLA said...

Lindodo too much moni,,,anyway safe trip muah

fadig said...

Five abortions?
Maheeda beta pas u ..

tally said...

The first step for you is to forgive this ur ex and urself completely because God cannot even help you if you are harbouring hate and unforgiveness against anyone or urself. Then pray to God to help you conceive and bear a child. He is still God and he will do it for you, just trust and obey him, best wishes.

mercy macauley said...

Wow! Women re always @ the receiving end. Pls u need spiritual counselling, u need the Holy Spirit to intervene... Pls go to a bible believing church and seek help. I know and believe that in no time u'll ve ur own children... Don't listen to any insult from libers, cos no be is holier. God'll see u through. But plssssssssss FORGIVE ur ex and ask GOD for mercy ok? It's well. Meanwhile, safe trip Linda.

Fashoranti Oluyemi said...

Safe trip jare

Olufunmi Akindele said...

give ur life to christ. you will feel peace and will be able to forgive them easily....though its a tough one but the holy spirit will help you through it all. remember, non shall be barren in the land so you cannot and never be barren. though it may tarry for a while but it will eventually come. focus on God, work in his vineyard and he will hear ur cry like he did hannah....God bless you.
Linda dont go naaaa *crying* will miss you plenty. boredom of life...

motunrayo olaide said...

I tot everyone knows abt protection during sex? Well keep praying n hopefully God hears soonest... @linda'safe trip.

Stanley Nzegbunam said...

So sorry dear..keep praying to God.

Anonymous said...

Hmm,I understand perfectly how u're feeling. I was in a similar situation 10yrs ago when I dated this stupid guy who happened to be my first boyfriend. He m$ade me do three abortions and even called me dumb for allowing myself to get pregnant. I felt naive,stupid and trapped. Finally mustered up enof courage to breakup with him and I met a superb guy who i'm married to. I told him everything that's happened and he was prepared to remain childless with me. We've bn married for 6yrs now, and now have a miracle. Have a daughter now bt not sure I can have any more kids due to d abortions and tough time I had having my daughter. Just be strong and prayerful, talk to ur hubby.if he loves u he'll be helpful. As for d loser guy, don't worry......Nemesis has a way of catching up with everyone. we all get paid for our sins no matter when. While my life was miserable, My ex was rockin life overseas. I hear he's now going wacko and is in a serious medical condition,abandoned by his family. Leave them be, take care of ur hubby and try to make ur marriage work.
@Lindiway,hope u have a safe trip. I'll miss u.

Anonymous said...

My dear u hv to understand first dat ur ex has notin to do about it,u made d decisions urself wen u were aborting,u just hv to pray to. God to forgive u n ask for a second chance

Oluwaseun Bamidele said...

what a pity..... my side is that if you put this in mind you might end up committing a crime and get caught, my advise to you is that, just move closer to God and have your faith in Him, Truly your ex is an unforgettable past but just let it go. linda please at least make i see my comment for once.

Anonymous said...

Put ur faith in God,D great Doctor,he can 4give ur sins and give u a new womb...though, it may seems impossible 2u but by Faith and prayers God can change d story 2testimony.

Anonymous said...

Both of you are sinners in this This is your reward he will get his #Mankind

Swaggs isimemen said...

Lol is only laugh I laugh @ u, nd dat is d end nd u hv already killed all d children God give 2 u, so don't tempt God my dear, u said u did five gooooood abor what? Abortion, hahahahahahaha Nigeria girls ehn una matter 2 worst, u re a fooooool

Swaggs isimemen said...

Lol is only laugh I laugh @ u, nd dat is d end nd u hv already killed all d children God give 2 u, so don't tempt God my dear, u said u did five gooooood abor what? Abortion, hahahahahahaha Nigeria girls ehn una matter 2 worst, u re a fooooool

Anonymous said...

Girl d damage has been done, all u can do is look unto God only him can safe u .

Anonymous said...

Woah Dhts much na. Nt1 or 2 bt 5. Just pray to God, he is d only one dht wl help u.

master b said...

Linda as you fly no enter plane wey go miss oh!!! put on a tracker

Anonymous said...

Pre marital sex this is what happens o! Girls out there men will never marry a girl that has done series of abortions, its in very rare cases that they do...madam I'll advice u see a counselor and be patient, since the case has not been zerod yet, u still have hope...pray

Anonymous said...

young ladies that still have their v cards learn frm this. it isnt worth it ohhhh. lin lin. have a safe flight

Anonymous said...

my dear God will give u ur own children<just believe in him,ask for forgiveness forgive the guy and his family.i had six times abortions,i pray everyday of my life for GOD to forgive. tears

Anonymous said...

Well only God will forgive u. You are a fool o.you opened ur tiny legs for a man who claims to love u only for you to abort 4 times 4 him.my dear abortion is not licence for marriage.He didn't rape u now. I'm just angry.women are just so gullible.

Gloria Essien said...

Lin, Lin, safe journeyoooo!!! As par our abortion girl, U no try. 4? Haba! Was this during the condom age or b4? You cheated yourself girl. Sorry about your situation. I hope others learn from it.

Oluremi Gold said...

Pray for a miracle...safe trip linlin

Anonymous said...

Linda, can you help track the nollywood football match that held in Ghana.

Anonymous said...

Ask God for forgiveness.....am sure he will have mercy on you.....sori for ur predicament......safe flight linda.....
STEPHNUELA

Anonymous said...

Do not involve Ur Ex n his family, he dint force u into d abortion u agreed to do it. All u ve to do now is, take n follow up Ur medication, pray to God also for help... if u ve mind, u tell Ur husband b4 things go out of hand. ....... As for Linda, 16hrs is almost a whole day na, beta keep us busy yl Ur away o. safe flight Luv!!!! XoXo

Osarhiemen Agbonkonkon said...

Poster,pls read Psalm 51.
God bless u.

Anonymous said...

sorry but you can't blame anyone but YOURSELF. If you wanted to be a mum so bad maybe you shouldn't have killed the ones you were blessed with. :)

diamondblinqZ said...

Sorry dear. Just 4qive urself n ask God 4 a 2nd chance. He is merciful he will 4qive u.

Lyndy said...

Safe journey Linda. Back to d poster, u nd ur ex re two of a kind. U re so heartless nd foolish. How can u kill five innocent lives? Didnt u kno it was murder then or we only rembr God in times of misery? Why didnt u hang on to one of those pregnancies, seeing dt he was ready for mrg? U thought committing five abortions wil mk him see hw much u loved him? Gosh! U re sooo dumb. As for ur ex, forget abt him cos he did nothing to u. U also consented to it. Pray to God to forgiv u for murder. This is why men degrade women nd insist on pregnancy bf mrg. And this is why I say, never live ur life to please any boyfriend. He wl stay if he wants to. Ladies, pls set ur standards. One silly bf is not worth it

@MeetdrealEvans said...

Linda this girl wanted an advice, nia u use ur MIA block am, nw who's gonna speak on her issue...

Anonymous said...

THERE A WAY THAT SEEMETH RIGHT UNTO A MAN OR WOMAN...

BLESSED CHILD said...

MY GOD WILL BLESS U WITH UR OWN CHILDERN,U ARE A BLESSED CHILD NOT A BARREN WOMAN,JUST TRY AND FORGIVE UR EX AND HIS FAMILY,I HAD SIX ABORTIONS,I M SO ASHAMED BUT EVERYDAY OF MY LIFE PRAY DAT GOD WILL FORGIVE ME,I M NOT MARRIDE YET.

Anonymous said...

Dis babe dey craze.. u had five abortions. Nd ended up nut marryin him u re so senseless

Mistyk said...

Lindyyyyyyyyyyy gurlie. safe trip, n buy something better than chocolate for me when coming back o

Maslow said...

Linda do have a save trip to the USA and buy me some chocolate for my kids when coming.

eazybaba said...

Let go and let God deal with it...keep praying and be hopeful,evrythn wil be fine!

Edidiong said...

Wooww!! I dnt mean to sound judgemental....but y wud u have 5 abortions for a guy in 4 years!! Common sense alone wud have made u realise urself after doin it once....'once beaten twice shy'. U've neva heard dat before? I seriously I'm short of words to say to you...I know we make mistakes n all...I'm not self righteous either, but @ least der shud be a limit to ur mistakes and not u making them with reckless abadon. Hmm! U beta pray

Anonymous said...

Who is the real nincompoop, stupid girl. Linda sha buy chocolate come o...chucky.

Anonymous said...

So linda u have had abortions for ur bf,tufiakwa

cynthia. aka cynthero said...

Linda baby, buy me a nice human hair and chocolates.

Anonymous said...

sally p said.... dear linda as u dey go, abeg buy me something oooo.else i wont be ur friend anymore.as for that young lady that did the several abortions God will heal you.just av faith.....when there is life there is hope.

Anonymous said...

pls ask God for forgiveness there is nothing he cannot do then please let your husband know but before letting him know make sure you pray very well for God to touch his heart

Pele

Oluwayemisi Olayemi said...

You just have to forgive him and yourself ,then pray to God to forgive you of your past,prayer work my dear

Anonymous said...

Who send u message before, Ode! U knw dat abortion is vry dangerous,,, u still wnt to do it! Biko carry ur croSs by urself..... Some girls re dull sha

Anonymous said...

Linda na u dey enjoy oo, safest trip boo

Anonymous said...

As a woman you should have known better. Very heartless of you to kill 4 babies. You are not any better than the guy. You should have put your foot down and picked your babies over a man. You are an irresponsible, heartless piece of shit woman. Your ex will also get what is coming to him. 1st time was a mistake but 2nd,3rd and 4th???? Are you a devil???

Anonymous said...

Who send u message before, Ode! U knw dat abortion is vry dangerous,,, u still wnt to do it! Biko carry ur croSs by urself..... Some girls re dull sha

Rosey O. said...

She has to forgive herself, and forgive him too, because they are both to be blamed. Everybody is responsible for their own happiness, and it is not dependent on someone else. So, she has to remove the jealousy of her ex from her mind, ask God for forgiveness and keep praying for God's mercy. There is nothing impossible for HIM.

Anonymous said...

Eyaa my love I feel ur pain more than u do, I will specialy put u in my prayers ok DERA MI


Son of God said...

the fact remains that those of you that believe in sex before marriage will surely go through such obstacle and regret. Anyway, there is nothing God can not do, go to him in fast n prayers, confess your sins of murderer n others. Ask him to break n remould your polluted foundation, i believe he will have mercy on you. You have just laid a very bad foundation for yourself, you have to pray against it before it becomes generational...

Oluwayemisi Olayemi said...

You just have forgive him and yourself ,be4 God can forgive you but as for you having babies, you need to pray to God and he will hear your prayers the bible says old things are gone keep faith .

omonbrenda said...

confess ur sins to God and ask him to hv mercy on u bcs u were a fool to hv done as much as five abortions for a guy. If he ever loved u, d first one wld hv bn d last and he wld hv married u thereafter. Or maybe u dated him bcs of money dt was y he ws able to use u to dt extent. U hv learnt ur lesson and others shld learn frm u too. Ask God for forgiveness. He's a merciful God.

Anonymous said...

Dear poster,U re the architect of your misfortune.Vengeance is for God.U nid to go to him with genuine repentenance and forgiveness. I also suggest you seek treatment from other renowned gyaenocologist and compare notes.U shld be careful idolizing your current Doctor.In your interest please let your ex be and build a formidable home with your husband....U ve neva thought of your ex reaching out to your husband and telling him all you went thru.Pls let go.Babies come in a peaceful enviroment.God will give U yours...Hold on to Him.

Ayamre Don Terry said...

Dont Give Up so fast......God is always Merciful. It is well

Anonymous said...

Well not to jugde even though i already did previously (sorry tho) the only thing you can do is to be prayerful and hopeful, God will see you through

Anonymous said...

Wish u safe trip

Anonymous said...

why do I have a feeling this story is made up? Some of these readers that send emails like this just need attention. not buying this one cus its such a cliché.

WWW.ONYITEXBLOG.COM said...

NAWA OOH...I KNEW IT!
IVE ALWAYS TOLD PEOPLE WHO COME TO ME FOR ABORTION ADVICE THE RISKS INVOLVED,ESPECIALLY THE FACT THAT YOU MAY NEVER HAV CHILDREN AGAIN..GOD IS NOT A FOOL..YOU JUST REAP WHAT YOU SOW..
MY ADVISE FOR YOU,YOUNG WOMAN IS TO TURN TO GOD NOW,AND ASK FOR FORGIVENES...HE MIGHT JUST RE-CONSIDER YOU..BUT THATS NOT A GUARANTEE THAT HE WILL GIV YOU CHILDREN..HE MAY WANT YOU TO FULLY PAY FOR YOUR EVIL WAYS..
HONESTLY I SYMPATHIZE WITH YOU,DEAR...JUST DO AS I SAID.. GOD WILL RE-CONSIDER YOU..

VISIT WWW.ONYITEXBLOG.COM,TODAY

Anonymous said...

LADY FORGIVE! FREE UR MIND AND TRUST IN GOD. LINDA, HAVE A SAFE TRIP! UR PLANE SHALL NOT DISAPPEAR IJN! AMEN!!

dee said...

Fervent prayers dear der is notin God cannot do

Anonymous said...

Sorry woman.After killing all ur kids.Hmmm.Maybe a child of destiny who culd save dis nation was among dem bt u destroyed d@ blessin 4 u frm God.1 tin women don't no is tins like dis don't affect men directly bt it affects women a great deal.D@ guy has notin 2 loos, bt u've got all 2 loos.Women ar delicate.Dou d@ man won't escape his own punishment frm God dou.Well, have faith & pray,God might hav mercy & grant u a 2nd chance.Calebsy!

osatuyi idowu said...

U need to pray harder not to contact ur ex & his wife..to do what 4 u? Linda,hav a safe landin.stay sweet & blessed. *««*CROWD PULLER PLEASER*»»*•

Anonymous said...

Sorry woman.After killing all ur kids.Hmmm.Maybe a child of destiny who culd save dis nation was among dem bt u destroyed d@ blessin 4 u frm God.1 tin women don't no is tins like dis don't affect men directly bt it affects women a great deal.D@ guy has notin 2 loos, bt u've got all 2 loos.Women ar delicate.Dou d@ man won't escape his own punishment frm God dou.Well, have faith & pray,God might hav mercy & grant u a 2nd chance.Calebsy

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chukukere chikaodi said...

Lost for words!!Forgive me I don't intend to sound judgemental but 5 abortions for a guy who you were just dating? I really pray for you.. You have to move on and let Posterity take care of that.. I wish you well..

Anonymous said...

Baby linda safe trip buy me Agege bread. Monic

Cynhams Cakes, Abuja said...

The only solution now is God.

Pray for forgiveness and you will see the mercies and grace of God at work.

ONYX GODWIN said...

Karma is always a bitch...

Aishah said...

You don't hav to kill him, you are as guilty as he is neither do you need sympathy from him nor his wife. You are the one with the problem and can only find solution to it urslf.I think you hav to tell your husband( its hard I know) you need to repent cos your a sinner after killing 5 souls, receive salvation and ask for the fruit of the womb and be ready to wait or you simply adopt. Tho you can still be helped medically all things are possible through christ jesus. Just do the right thing don't compound your problem and don't think too much or else you will kill your slf.

Anonymous said...

Pls ladies let's be becareful wit men, all the know is to satisfy their sexual urge anything that comes out of it, is always on our holders , u see the fool is even happily married wit his wife and kids chai chineke, when we hear say dis person don kill dis person abeg make reason with the killer, I just hate men with passion the are all fools, my dear I no knw what to say cause am going crazy with you right now , I think guys will be in position to give u an advice because as for we the ladies we will go crazy on issues like dis . Pls I want a manure guys advice, no insults pls. DERA MI

Cynhams Cakes, Abuja said...

The only solution now is God.

Pray for forgiveness and you will see the mercies and grace of God at work.

Anonymous said...

Eyaa my love I feel ur pain more than u do, I will specialy put u in my prayers ok DERA MI


Anonymous said...

What ladies do please guys! And at d end they become worse. My opinion? Don't please urself 4 any reason esp when he hasn't put a ring on it!

Justice said...

Trust in God nd b patient notin is imposible wif him

Anonymous said...

It is well..that is why youth should abstain from sex till marriage..keep waiting for those that wait upon the lord shall renew their strength

Anonymous said...

Dats how stupid some women could get,u risk ur life &ur future happiness at d same time all in d name of love,love gbakwaa oku.now ua living in fear and torment.well deal wit it &i hope other young girls wil learn from ur story

Anonymous said...

You better be yourself and pray to God for forgiveness. The guy and his wife have moved on and mind you, you never tell us what transpired between you guys. Pls, my dear go for your medicals and pray for God's mercy, if possible try and advice young girls on implications of premarital sex and abortion. I pray God will heal you and you will promise God to evangelize on implications of premarital sex and abortion to the world. Don't be depressed pray that God will bless you for the sake of your husband.

ammy becky said...

Hei Aunty Lin Lin
I bu onye otiti biko for real
Anyways enjoy ur flight. ..back to d story
Madam u shouldn't have had an abortion for anything or anyone in dis world. ...which we all know but u styl did it anyway, not even once but 5 times
For wat nah, all in d name of love!!!!
Well u made ur bed so its time to lie on it So pray to God for 4giveness nd beg him to have mercy on you

Mab said...

how can a girl have 5 abortions for a guy how dumb is that, after the first and a guy still says u shld remove it then he does not have a future with you. its a pity him living happy and you now looking for a kid, if your husbands loves and is understanding you guys can adopt or use other means, since there are options now.

chemmywalata walata said...

Ahhh linda baby after 16hrs okay safe trip to USA and as for the Lib reader I feel for u, the guy used u n dumped omg dis is heartless n now he is married with kids, all u need is prayers as u meet doctors also meet a serious pastor or reverend father so dat he will pray 4 u! Nothing is impossible with God, but pls women make una no dey open legs for guys who doesn't intend to marry u (dis is for the ladies as from 25 upwards not for the kids) thanks I'm out

Anonymous said...

You better be yourself and pray to God for forgiveness. The guy and his wife have moved on and mind you, you never tell us what transpired between you guys. Pls, my dear go for your medicals and pray for God's mercy, if possible try and advice young girls on implications of premarital sex and abortion. I pray God will heal you and you will promise God to evangelize on implications of premarital sex and abortion to the world. Don't be depressed pray that God will bless you for the sake of your husband.

Anonymous said...

i feel you caused your own pain why do u listen to a man when he says abort .its your life own up to it and leave him and his family.wat do u think wen judgment comes u will be judged together with the man???don be silly

Anonymous said...

Being a mum is not that important to u, if not u would nt av aborted 5 pregnancies. Its a matter of every woman should b able to give her husband kids syndrome dats worrying u! God help u!

Anonymous said...

Have a safe trip...

Anonymous said...

It's a pity! I ld advise you to adopt a child as soon as possible and lay a curse your ex for d damage

hannah oyindamola said...

Safe flight linda

ijeoma ogbonna said...

I feel ur pain,but its not only d guy dat shld be blamed.u two were in it together,so its not entirely his fault.I just pray tins turn out well for u so u cn stop blaming him.remember they both ignored u even after reading ur mail,pls leave them alone and concentrate on ur family.God will give u ur own kids once u let go of ur anger.

Anonymous said...

Sorry ma dear,jst carry ur cross cos u choose to use ur heart not ur head cos u saw it coming,Li Li pls buy m chocolate y coming bak,Safe flight ma dear

Anonymous said...

Very pathetic,all u need do is genuinely ask God 2 forgive u. Stop living in ur past,have faith & believe in d Awesome Power of God,read books dt will lift ur faith,forgive ur Ex,when u do all these i bet you God will show up in ur case. God can do all things including replacing ur Womb with a new one,remember he formed n created u. Expect ur baby soon!

Anonymous said...

It's like you're very stupid.

Anonymous said...

u could go and adopt a child na

Anonymous said...

go adopt na

Anonymous said...

Linda biko O carry me 4 bag let's go 2geda.. O gini di??

MY TURN said...

MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEN!!!This is serious, but hating the guy won't heal your womb just pray for forgiveness, have faith and seek good medical help. Truth is it's not entirely the guys fault, it is your body you had a choice. I imagine the fear of stigmatization drove you to have those abortions but you did it willingly no body put a gun to your head. So beg God for mercy.

He also needs to beg God for mercy because, he may have 3 kids now but when karma catches up with him, he'll have long forgotten. Guys beware o

zeel said...

lindodo!!!! gbogbo bigz geh@ usa tins...
to you, i will advice you to try and part with anger. dnt be angry they are expecting their 3rd child.... dats not a good tin. ori omo lo'n pomo waye.
just keep praying and take your medications. God will answer you soon.
you neednt write a letter to ur ex; worstil u cc his wife.. i dnt tink thats called for. keeping asking for God's forgiveness. God will answer your prayer.

Anonymous said...

ok, but sha come back. No go lost MH370.

Anonymous said...

God will bless u with children at the right time just forgive him and you should also ask God to forgive u.

Nabella Oluchi said...

There is nothing God cannot do..all u need do is open up to him nd he wud see u through meanwhile Linda buy me something when u coming frm the U.S

petra ojinnaka said...

I love you Linda !!!!!!!!!!!! Your favourite LIB reader Petraaaaaa!

Nabella Oluchi said...

Wishing u a safe trip Linda

petra ojinnaka said...

I love you Linda !!!!!!!!!!!! Your favourite LIB reader Petraaaaaa!

petra ojinnaka said...

I love you Linda !!!!!!!!!!!! Your favourite LIB reader Petraaaaaa!

petra ojinnaka said...

I love you Linda !!!!!!!!!!!! Your favourite LIB reader Petraaaaaa!

Tovia babe said...

Pls Anty Linda buy lipstick for ♏ε while coming. For the Lady, keep praying to God for forgiveness and healings. He ɪ̣̝̇ș ǡ merciful God and therez nothing too hard for him to do. At this point ђã†̥ u need ɪ̣̝̇ș prayer

Anonymous said...

Linda is jetting out again,na wa o, see level Linda is really balling,and for this lady,my advice is that she should repent of her sins and ask God for forgiveness and he will hear her,she should forget the man and his wife and just trust God he will do it for her.Sandy Berry.

Anonymous said...

Kidnap his children or better still kill him. But of course these will not solve your problem. Be hopeful nd forgive him. God will do it.
But u get mind sha, 5 abortions ma sista is too much. If a guy ask u for abortion sistas, he is not ready, leave him. Eeehhhh
Bola

Anonymous said...

Safe trip lindodo

@edDREAMZ said...

Yu just use ur hand and kill urself...... Five abortions. Na craze dey worry yu and may that ur husband find out and send yu packing IJN..... Amen....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

plenty money said...

Its you that is the nincompoop. Having 5 abortions for a guy in 4 years. MUMU dey call person nincompoop.

Anonymous said...

Safe trip lindodo

Anonymous said...

My dear lady, no doubt you made mistakes that are costly. However, it is time to forgive yourself and see what you can do to move on with YOUR own life. Unfortunately I doubt you will ever get acknowledgement from that man and/or his wife. If you push further it may even lead to a worse outcome: them dragging the dirt out on you in front of everyone. My suggestion to you is to rather face your husband and tell him the truth. Once more this may lead to consequences, but rather sooner than later. Is there anyone you can confide in who can support you? The three most important 'people' to seek forgiveness from are 1. God, 2. yourself, and 3. your hubby. Tell these three the truth, pursue reconciliation, and don't give up hope of having a baby. Also, seek another opinion about your current condition. There is no easy way to deal with this, but I believe if you pray and strategize how to take action you will be able to pull through. Wishing you the best, and please update us as to how it goes

@edDREAMZ said...

Na ur husband i dey pity self nobi yu.....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

MY TURN said...

Bia Linda i thought we had this discussion last year? You still haven't employed someone to assist you in blogging? I work in IMC and know that you recently increased your rates by 100% and you can't pay someone to assist you? haba... Babe this is part of why our nation isn't moving forward. People like you want to eat it all yourself.SMH... if Dangote gave his business a 16 hour break i am sure he won't be the richest man in Africa today.

Tovia babe said...

Anty Linda don't forget to buy lipstick for ♏ε º°˚˚°º

Anonymous said...

Y did I keep having unprotected sex? We ladies can be stupid sometimes. U didnt lookout for yrself hon. Y copy letter to his wife, u ain't right for that.

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