'I suffered sexual abuse in high school & physical abuse in university – Lola Omotayo | Welcome to Linda Ikeji's Blog

LI_Leaderboard_4

LI_Leaderboard_1

LI_Leaderboard_2

LI_Leaderboard_3

Wednesday, 17 December 2014

'I suffered sexual abuse in high school & physical abuse in university – Lola Omotayo

While addressing a group of young women at Kinabuti's Dare2Dream Master Class event which happened in Lagos recently, Peter Okoye's wife and mother of 2, Lola Omotayo revealed that she suffered sexual abuse by a priest when she was in secondary school and beaten black and blue by a boyfriend in the university. She said she never told anyone about the molestation because she didn't believe anyone would believe her
"I couldn’t tell anyone because everyone would blame me, so I carried on the guilt and bitterness with me for years. I was filled with hate and I became an angry person, I was rebellious, I didn’t want to listen to anybody…and because I wanted to be expelled from school to avoid seeing this person, I would do so many terrible things, everything around me was just so negative, I felt I wasn’t good enough."
‘I moved on to the university, met the love of my life and I’m like, okay this guy is cool, he loves me but he started to abuse me. I was beaten black and blue all the time, in front of friends, in public and at a point, I felt, you know what, I am not worthy enough, there is nothing about me that is nice, nobody loves me but I hid this from my family. I felt like a loser, so it was hard for me to focus. But one day, I woke up and said I am going to change my story and I dumped that person, focused on my education and decided to be serious and be something. I decided to get a job and go to school full time in America.’
She said she worked hard to make her own money so she could be independent and not have to rely on any man. She said being independent and making her own money helped her build her confidence and pushed to achieve more in life. She then talked about her husband, Peter Okoye
"Look at my husband, when I met him, peeps were like what are you doing with him, he has nothing but I stood my ground and chose to stick with him because he had a dream. He and his twin brother did not let their dream die, they worked hard, look at them today! I stuck by him because he had focus and drive and today I am happy, I have a good life, we are happy and we have got a beautiful family. No one can make you a loser.’.
Watch the video below..

240 comments:

1 – 200 of 240   Newer›   Newest»
Bianca Bruno said...

Sorry dear.
Take heart.
Thank God you came out stronger.

Unknown said...

Ok next!!!!

Anonymous said...

Awwww



Amakadarlyn@yahoo.com

eka said...

encouraging epistle 4 our young girls........................

Goziem Oh LORD said...

Hmmm,nawaa ooooo

Unknown said...

Simply why u wan abuse our own peter.......clap for yasef inugo?

Unknown said...

That's right dear! U have to be courageous in life come what may...

Unknown said...

Okay oo




Oladiti.atm@gmail.com

Married Woman Caught On Cam Cheating In The Hotel Room With Another Man

Club in PH where Ladies take off their Clothes to Entertain Customers


Maheeda Posted New Photos Of Her Self


How Some Wicked Married Men take Advantage of Innocent Poor Girls

Unknown said...

wow datz gud

Unknown said...

Eeya that's determination

Unknown said...

Lots of untold stories hanging in the air.

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Sorry dear.
Seems Psquare are about to release a new single.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

LGM said...

Ok,Nice...we al nid tu stand up for oursevss n fight for our rights#bliv#av self-confidence...we re worth more Dan we ever fink we re

Unknown said...

Peter really married a beautiful wife....sorry for the double abuse.....like the saying goes.....everybody has a story to tell. Nobody is 100% perfect. »»»»QU££NMA¥A»»»

Unknown said...

Story for the gods.....attention seeking flamingo. #my opinion

Agu nwanyi1 said...

No wonder she acts d way she does, she has not 4given herself,

Juleslouis said...

Clean skin. We all have a story to tell.

LGM said...

Al sorts of abuse av gut to stop n we al do dis by standin up 4 oursevs

Unknown said...

Indeed! No one can make you a loser.



Congrats to d winners, it's a pity I didn't win any thing. Maybe I wasn't dat lucky. But pls Linda give me a waist trainer. Thanks n God bless. funmicare55@gmail.com

Unknown said...

I do feel lyk am not worthy enouqh too..wise yarn.

Omogbolahan said...

Does lola look like Janet jackson???

Unknown said...

Wow!!

@MEETD®EALEVANS™ said...

I see

Princess G said...

Thank God it's all in the past.

Anonymous said...

Great speech!!!

mzmaris said...

We hear

Unknown said...

E be lyk all de female celeb wer sexually and physically abused...... Jus saying.

mamma mia luv said...

I bet u that 80% Africa women have suffered sexual and physical abuse at one point of their lives and it's such a shame cos it's even those that are meanwhile to protect us that end up committing this atrocities!
I totally can't imagine the trauma u went through but thank God u came out strong.

Unknown said...

E be lyk all de female celeb wer sexually and physically abused...... Jus saying.

Unknown said...

Hmmmmh, pathetic story, sexual abuse can really tear one apart. It is always better to talk to someone when it happens to you so you don't lose ur mind and also get the help you need

Unknown said...

Hmmm touching story

Unknown said...

You are a strong woman

Unknown said...

NICE ONE LOLA.........WE KEEP PUSHING FORWARD NO MATA WAT

Goziem Oh LORD said...

Fine face shaaa but good talk anyway

UK GLOBAL ONLINE FINANCIAL ADVISERS said...

What a strong woman, wife and mother...

Okoro said...

Determination, focus, hardwork and belief will take you there... *in frank donga's voice*

Unknown said...

Good for you
Thank God


#Commenting thru Glo 4G LTE

jbankzE said...

Priest?evil men too much ooo.....she moved pass her pain n anger,nw she is happi...

~@iamjbankz SA to President Jonathan 2015~

MUVA said...

Wow! I'm inspired

Sampson's Child said...

Strong lady.
Inspirational tinx

Awon Stephen Oshi said...

If it happened multiple times in your life then b**ch you brought it upon yourself.

Even a child doesn't touch fire twice.

Unknown said...

Interesting. I don't loose hope on people I know their future is sure

Unknown said...

So touching I'm happy she dumped d a** of d infidel dat was abusing her. Thank God for how far she's gone. Happy for Her! In d end it all comes down to Hard work and God been by ur side.

Horpe said...

True talk

Anonymous said...

Mental abuse nko

mary said...

wow, and most times we judge people harshly without knowing what they have been through in life.

Anonymous said...

Nothing good comes easy, we will all definitely pass through shit, embarrassment and humiliation..it depends on how firm we stand... 9ce 1... I learnt a lesson in wah she said...INDIGENOUS LIB... V_okunola@yahoo.com

Unknown said...

Truer words have neva been spoken

Plato said...

Wat a challenging storyy

Vacancies in Nigeria said...

Okay

Unknown said...

Touching

Unknown said...

World people....d evil men do sumtyms surprises even d devil....hmmmm

Unknown said...

What a pity, thank God for ur life

CHUKKY ABLE said...

Touching Story, Even a Priest would do something like that .. GOD HAVE MERCY ON US ALL.

dollynkikky said...

We all have s story.. I hope it all becomes a testimony

Anonymous said...

Anger or bitterness has never been the answer. Me I'll do nothing at all, let God and karma pay the cruel. The next week I'm moving on. Thats how it should be. No time 2 be bitter. Lifes 2 short. Thank God 4 u. There are weak and sad people on earth who are no good 2 the lives they come into so walk 1nce u realize that. By the way Lola u're beautiful ----C21

Zuzu King said...

No sane Guy would beat a pretty lady black & blue for no reason... #JustSayingTho

Jeni_zee said...

Tk God u are a better person wt a gud hubby

Unknown said...

Quite inspiring.

Anonymous said...

Men and all their insecurities.... am not surprised, it takes a real man to handle such beauty and never get intimidated!!! say no to violence against women!!!! lola your beauty is sensational!!!

iyaoyinda1@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

For once I see maturity in ur talk u touched me today lola thank u

Peter said...

is good you spoke out. we want all women abused or molested to speak out. gist.naija@yahoo.com

Unknown said...

Pretty woman with ambition, focus and determination. May God continue to bless your home.

Anonymous said...

Bcux she is pretty-nashcurty@yahoo.com

Unknown said...

Coz she fine

Richard said...

Ok heard

Anonymous said...

Wa-oh! Wat a lovely woman with intelligence.

ukbliss said...

Dis woman is divine

Unknown said...

Words of encouragement

Unknown said...

everyone have his/her story..this is yours.mine is with me...


#GodblessNigeria

Unknown said...

Thank God 4d strengthen u

Unknown said...

Nice one,very well said especially the part she talks about been independent as a woman.....thats what most women should hold strongly to,no matter how rich your man is always have it at the back of your mind that he would hold you in high esteem if you are independent. That much said she is a beautiful woman even after two she still looks like a single lady.

Unknown said...

Wow, what a beautiful face. So u actually went tru all ds ? Thank God ur a happy woman today. P4dworld@gmail.com.

Crystal said...

Eeyah, thank GOD you are over it, better times ahead, darling

afolabi said...

what a story in everything we do in life we just gotta put extra effort to make it in life and be independent I'm so touched tho.

AQO said...

Hmmm.

Jesus is Lord.

Unknown said...

Inspiring... This is what young girls need to hear..

Ayodele Jay said...

Hmmmm.....From grass to grace...everybody has a story to tell!

Unknown said...

well said...beautiful woman

Temmy said...

9ce 4 her

wyzzhi said...

nice talk sweedy* jez like linda* #IndependentWomen# nobody wil feed u guys

Atobatele said...

That's nice of him

Angie Cape said...

We suffered especially sexual abuse at one point in our lives.. Those days, things were different because most people were ignorant of what was happening.
It's high time we begin to speak up and heal..; the resentment that comes with abuse most times, drives one to suicide.
Well done Lola, wishing you and your family all the best.

*My R1.50c comment*

laulipop said...

Eyaa

Bosslady said...

This lady fine like mami water, I never see...

Angie said...

We suffered especially sexual abuse at one point in our lives.. Those days, things were different because most people were ignorant of what was happening.
It's high time we begin to speak up and heal..; the resentment that comes with abuse most times, drives one to suicide.
Well done Lola, wishing you and your family all the best.

*My R1.50c comment*

Tendency oby said...

Nice words focus on ur dreams

Unknown said...

Its good she came out wit d story. Bcos ull find out dere are a lot of pple going thru worse. May God help us

Unknown said...

Sm guyz can be cruel tho. Why would u even want to abuse any lady physical talk less of smbdy as beautiful as dese. Smh. May God help us sha

Unknown said...

Life!!

Unknown said...

Sm guyz can be cruel tho. Why would u even want to abuse any lady physical talk less of smbdy as beautiful as dese. Smh. May God help us sha

Handlemewithcare2014 said...

Yea moral lesson, believe in urself own self

Unknown said...

Wow, nice speech

Unknown said...

Story for the gods...@harbey_207@yahoo.com

Unknown said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
.
God has really been gud to yu.... God bless yu abeg....
*GLO BRING 3G TO KONTAGORA*
.
.
***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

Anonymous said...

Are you the only one to suffer such?

In short yo dont have talk


How To Grow In Faith

3 Things That Make People Cry

3 Things Christian Churches Can Do to Fight Ebola

Anonymous said...

Awwww dat's nice #smiliyB

Unknown said...

Nice one

B n B said...

That's lovely! Enjoyed d talk. God bless u Mrs Lola!!
#ThisTooShallPass

johnplanet said...

Eyaaah...pele
*
*

REXOVIC said...

Gud to know u didn't give u on urself........

Anonymous said...

What happened in Ife? Inspiring speech to the girls of today. Lola you try.

Unknown said...

Well said Mrs Lola Okoye.......God bless you 4 d inspiration

Unknown said...

ok if u say so

Unknown said...

Mostly it's we women dat are mostly abused bt d power to dust urself n stand up again is ur greatest weapon tank God she forgave herself n ppl dat hurt her n moved to achieve her goal in life.its gud to always share our experience wit d younger generation to help dm grow.kudos

Anonymous said...

I'm really touched. What a strong woman!

Unknown said...

Exactly.no one cn make you a loser unless you choose to lose.

Unknown said...

You are still here and Happy now so why bring it up?

Unknown said...

Awwwww so hurting and disheartnening, thank God u waved if off ur way. plus dis woman is a million beautiful

APPLELIPX said...

Eyahhhh
Behind that sad-looking-hateful-rarely smiling face is a bitter story
Sorry we judged u wrongly.... learn to smile all d same

Unknown said...

when you re too beautiful nko?
-------LIB prince --------
-------LIB prince --------
-------LIB prince --------

Unknown said...

I pray dis kinda tin doesn't fall on me... Here i am thinking fine fair girls have d best life. Pls I advice if u have such hidden under ur closet. Com clear, don't be ashamed. Lola took a bold step

Zombie huntress said...

Eyah,well she's really a beauty

Anonymous said...

Abeg sister Linda, wat is d matter here .every time I comments for ur blog u no dey approve am.....Wetin I do u now.on Monday I wokeup a early as 5:30am just Bcoz I won win 25k commented u no approve why why!!! Remember there's God ooooooooo.all money u r sharing and bablackberry pp.tboy_woo@Yahoo.com

Unknown said...

Thank God for her

Anonymous said...

Abeg sister Linda, wat is d matter here .every time I comments for ur blog u no dey approve am.....Wetin I do u now.on Monday I wokeup a early as 5:30am just Bcoz I won win 25k commented u no approve why why!!! Remember there's God ooooooooo.all money u r sharing and bablackberry pp.tboy_woo@Yahoo.com

Unknown said...

Awwwww, thank God for your happy ending. That priest ought to be ashamed of himself. What is the world turning into?
Independence is the key ladies. So stop feeling sorry for yourself and quit waiting for Prince charming to come to your rescue.
Be wise!

Unknown said...

Beautiful woman! Everyone has a story, only the wise ones make good use of their predicament by turning obstacles to stepping stones. I love great women!

Unknown said...

I love Lola.
I always thought she was reserved and shy.
Men can not do much for you. You have to make your own money and build your own life. Look at Lola, Linda and some Nigerian that are out there doing there thing. There is a clear difference between them and the ones sleeping around. Squint your eyes, you will see the difference.

Unknown said...

Beautiful woman! Everyone has a story, only the wise ones make good use of their predicament by turning obstacles to stepping stones. I love great women!

Vivian Gills said...

Say no to violence

Unknown said...

Hmmmm, true talk

King Dave Anya said...

It's a pity but I think some men did experience physical violence by their women and sexual abuse

Ynnon said...

This video has changed my perspective about her. Used to think she was just a pretty girl and baby mama turned wife, probably because I also hadn't heard her speak. She speaks so well, is obviously intelligent and certainly has a lot of passion. Kudos, Lola!

OMG!WOMAN said...

Wow

Unknown said...

So she too don turn celeb? Ok!

Unknown said...

She is right self believed is what matters.

Unknown said...

Continue

Unknown said...

always believe in urself

Unknown said...

For cring out loud watin she don achieve sef .

xtr112 said...

Beauty and brains!

Bold Kid said...

Seems these days the latest trend for these celebrities is "abuse" kmt!! Y'al can't tell us shii...we see thru you all. The real 'abused' tell real stories and you know. Not these half baked slimy stories y'all propagating...let's hear word jor!!

gossip girl said...

Kool

Unknown said...

Eyaaa. Crazy tins dat happen to people.i hope I wuld be able to tell my story one day

Anonymous said...

Chai some men are just living animals, prity lady u have overcome. micheal4rig@gmail.com

Unknown said...

Please always write the husband along with hers,she is married for christ sake. okoye lola omotayo.

Unknown said...

Please always write the husband name along with hers,she is married for christ sake. okoye lola omotayo.

Jeni_zee said...

Thanks for sharing, hopefully it wud inspire ppl

Unknown said...

Pretty woman she is with Natural colour. Xxxxxx Ndubuaku

Unknown said...

Eya sorry ma'am.
^^^™THAT EDOBOY.COM~

Unknown said...

Eya sorry ma'am.
^^^™THAT EDOBOY.COM~

Unknown said...

Eya sorry ma'am.
^^^™THAT EDOBOY.COM~

Subomi said...

hmmmmm, I'm impressed. nice of her to speak about this so people can learn from it.

Unknown said...

Hmmm,finally it tks d strong to mk it in dis world, and here u r my dr, showing evry woman, u can mk it,only if u can dare,tnks lady,still wishing u a happy married life,xoxo d duchess

General said...

Just like a nollywood movie

Ayolah Samuel said...

She is really pretty. If u like eat my comment again o linda.

Ayolah Samuel said...

She is really pretty. If u like eat my comment again o linda.

nnukwunwanyi said...

She is right,dont let anybody bring u down,develop confidence and work towards ur goals.

LIFE WITH GIGI said...

Noted ...

Unknown said...

I love dis,dis is actually d 1st time av heard her talkin and am inspired.
Heaven on earth#

Anonymous said...

Lola Omotayo, very beautiful woman, I have just started loving her now having just realised that we share a similar past. I was also abused by an ex I thought loved me and was the love of my life.

Blog It With Olivia said...

Eiyaaa.....

Unknown said...

Hmmmm. Obumnemeudeze@gmail.com

Unknown said...

She fine sha. Obumnemeudeze@gmail.com

Pretty Aify said...

Lovely Woman, Very Humble too

Unknown said...

Thank God yu survived. Obumnemeudeze@gmail.com

Unknown said...

Dis woman be like mammy water. She too fine abeg. Haba! Na only u waka come?

Unknown said...

Obumnemeudeze@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

She's just too beautiful.. love her much!! Yemightbabe@yahoo.com

umoh Linda said...

So gorgeous, I luv d fact dat she shared dis its so nice of her...

Peter said...

good u revealed it to them. gist.naija@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

So gorgeous, n I luv d fact dat she shared all dis so odas can learn..kudos.

Kenski2008 said...

Nne! You are pretty jor!

Unknown said...

Lovely woman......toyinwilliams2@gmail.com

Prettybee said...

Beautiful being

Manuel Kunmi said...

Every woman has to say this sha........hmmmmmmmmmmm welll sorry oooo

Unknown said...

waiting 4 dat day wen we realise men respect a hard working and independent lady,nt some random chick who depend on them to foot their bills.

Anonymous said...

Thank you Lola 4 dis words of encouragement u don't know Hw much dis mean to me! Tank u again n God bless ur marriage 4eva!!!

Unknown said...

Beauty beyond description..

APPLE said...

So sad.

gbemsco said...

Pretty woman

Unknown said...

some said it was her uncle's that were dating her...well thanks for the reveal anyway

bookdgims@gmail.com

Paparazii said...

I sure bliv gurl no one can mke mua a loser true talk I'm me n no one can b me based on bliv

Anonymous said...

Wow..Strong woman

snowflix said...

Once you believe in yourself you can change your situation no matter how terrible it may look. We all got stories to tell someday 'smiles' #onelovefromSnow#

Chidinma Grace said...

So touching!

Anonymous said...

May God have mercy on u

Anonymous said...

Everyone have their own past anyway... http://mizzyxclusive.wordpress.com

Anonymous said...

Is it me or does she talk like Genevieve Nnaji

Anonymous said...

She went to O AU briefly before she moved to America...she a boyfriend ....I know his name oooo....fid he abuse her?

Anonymous said...

Common shut the fuck up!!!!! See your very ugly face. Rather than you learning something positive from what she has said, u're here yarning shit!! FOOL!

Fast Weightloss in 9days said...

Touching story. Its good she has been able to overcome the challenges caused by the abuse.

The major lesson is in believing in your dreams not allowing your yesterday to determine your future.

poshrose said...

I dnt see how dis abuses anybody...shez tellin her story....pple might benefit.

Anonymous said...

Jacked from BELLANAIJA

ary said...

Awwww, you look at some people and you think: 'these guys have always had it good.' Apparently not! You'd never think bad things happen to some people.

Unknown said...

Lol! Funny dude.

Unknown said...

Why would she give you? Is your name receiver?

MADE IN NIGERIA said...

Yea sure, everyone does have a story to tell......Sorry dear. our experiences in life either make or mar us

Anonymous said...

Wilheminna Moses is a sad and hateful person.
L.S

Efizzy1 said...

God is ur strent

Chigo said...

And u ar happy today, so proud of u!

Muobs said...

Most women suffer these abuses in silence and it affects their attitude and perception towards life. Thank God for your survival mechanism and for sharing same with young women. I hope this will give someone out there the needed courage and hope to begin afresh, confident that she too can make it and be a better individual no matter what. God Bless.

elovi said...

Hmmmmn okay lola

Unknown said...

I think ladies should start speaking up whenever they being molested and they should never take abuse because they are better than that

Unknown said...

wow good speech

joejoe omoh said...

Ooo as pretty as u are! Some guys are really stupid see wat he missed out now, thank God 4 ur Life now

becckyd said...

LOla you are so pretty...thank god u are a strong woman now..

Anonymous said...

Sometime, you just need to listen to some people to know how wonderful and inspiring they can be... Nice words Lady. You rock!

becckyd said...

Fine woman

Unknown said...

Awwwww sorry dear, you have become better and stronger . what women go through at times, the heart can't imagine. Whatever u go through in life, don't let it hinder u from moving forward and becoming better. *Gods jewel* gracensikan@gmail.com

«Oldest ‹Older   1 – 200 of 240   Newer› Newest»

Recent Posts