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Friday, 19 December 2014

Dear LIB readers: I've been suicidal since my boyfriend left me

From a female LIB reader
After 3 and a half years with my boyfriend, he broke things off on September 30th. He said he was no longer happy and wanted to be single again. I've been begging him for the past two months for another chance but he's adamant. Now, I've been having these suicidal thoughts. Sometimes when I'm sleeping, my heart just stops and I literally can't breath for close to 5 seconds. I don't function normally anymore. My friends keep telling me I will heal with time but the way I'm feeling, I feel like I will one day just drop dead. I have headache 24/7 just from thinking about him. I've tried, I've even gone to church, I can't stop hurting or stop thinking about him. Just this weekend I thought dying would be the best way out but I don't want to die but how do I stop my heart from hurting so much. The headaches has turned my eyes to bloodshot red. I can't live. Help me!

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MISS WORLD said...

eyah tak heart

glowy sofiscated said...

my dear suicide is not an option ...just move on nd do something better with your life

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khemorah said...

You will actually either heal with time or get worse with time. Seek help.

MISS WORLD said...

just watc and pray

fabolous ogun said...

Lmao! when its nt like you look like Mother Gagoo! i have felt this way jus like many other have, jus relax this too shall pass, learn to live and u wld be good in no time, Life is Beautiful...

KELVIN dat EDO BOI

wilheminna moses said...

Boyfriend not even husband.....ma dear he's nt worth dying for. If u die, de'll bury u and life goes on. He'll still be alive and happy. So remove dat evil tot frm ur head. U can if u want to. But if u dnt want to, come I get sniper! Mtchew!

Anonymous said...

dear girl, u jst av to forget him,always think that there are better men out there,u cant take ur lyf bcos of sm1 bcos if u do....life still goes on.

Oritsebubemi Okposio said...

With Time you'll get over it & someday you'll look back and laugh over it.. Don't kill yourself over it, he pro'ly wasn't the one and God let him leave for a reason..

remsco remmex said...

Lolz com marry me nw

Anonymous said...

You'll find someone better. It's he's lost. It's not worth it. There's so much to live for. Be open to meeting new people. Good luck hun.

OLURONKE IDOWU said...

Babe no die because of a man ooo dey arennot worth it, it is not easy tho but go out, mix with people, don't be alone, go to parties n before you know it u've forgotten he ever existed

fabolous ogun said...

Lmao! when its nt like you look like Mother Gagoo! i have felt this way jus like many others have, jus relax this too shall pass, learn to live and u wld be good in no time, Life is Beautiful...

KELVIN dat EDO BOI

remsco remmex said...

Lolz why? Mayb she don do somtin 2d Guy joo




Remsco2sure@gmail.com. In da buildin

Henry Eze said...

My dear plsss die off...world population is drastically increasing....u are suicidal bcos of a boyfriend....that's wot happens wen u build ur world around a man.....the best way to get over a man is to get under another...go fcuk somebody else..u will feel better

Don Meritson Mba said...

please find meaningful things and engage your self,the guy does not deserve you..just let him go off your heart..but your self together and move on..the future have the best for you.


#GodblessNigeria

Anonymous said...

Miss, your mates are counting money you are being suicidal na wa ooo why not try the nearest and busiest railroad in your location. That one na mercy suicide...nonsense.

REXOVIC said...

YOU SHOULDN'T TAKE YOUR LIFE BCOS OF ANYONE! PRAY THAT GOD WILL DIRECT YOUR PATHS MY DEAR....IT MAY NOT BE EASY BUT JUST KNOW THAT IF YOU DON'T LET GO OF THE BETTER IN YOUR HANDS THE BEST WON'T LOCATE YOU....I PRAY GOD WILL HELP YOU THRU THIS PERIOD

Henry Eze said...

My dear plsss die off...world population is drastically increasing....u are suicidal bcos of a boyfriend....that's wot happens wen u build ur world around a man.....the best way to get over a man is to get under another...go fcuk somebody else..u will feel better

Anonymous said...

u be mumu. .. the guy is there enjoying himself and u are here talking about rubbish... move on abeg

Neekee said...

Pele u got to move in even those that r married divorce

Henry Eze said...

My dear plsss die off...world population is drastically increasing....u are suicidal bcos of a boyfriend....that's wot happens wen u build ur world around a man.....the best way to get over a man is to get under another...go fcuk somebody else..u will feel better

remsco remmex said...

Na lie she de talk oh. No mind am

Akamelu Emmanuel said...

Forget about him and move on. All I can say

Don Meritson Mba said...

please find meaningful things and engage your self,the guy does not deserve you..just let him go off your heart..but your self together and move on..the future have the best for you.


#GodblessNigeria

Anonymous said...

my dear trust me when I say that you can and will live, it is not the end of the world, u are beautiful and deserve better, find something to focus on, try to pretend like he is nothing, trust me he will come running back, and guess what you should do? Drop him for good!

Amaka Onwodi said...

Hey Lady take it easy. You will heal with time just make sure you are around positive people. I have been there before and today i am a better person.

pope benedict said...

sorry,its nt easy to let go but look for anoda guy.thats the best

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Phew! My dear there's more to life than a boyfriend that doesn't deserve you. You can't afford to loose on both sides. If you die he lives and moves on as if nothing happened.
Is this how you intend paying your family back after taking care of you?

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

becky emmanuel said...

Dis is serious!! Hav u tot dat if u drop dead now. Wil d man mourn u? Wil he stay single? No. He has moved on already. Babe, u hav to move on. Though it ain't easy. But try. Keep urself busy wit anytin. And u'l overcom dis temptation..

Anonymous said...

I know that feeling, I have been there but trust me the saying time heals all wound is very true. It will seem impossible right now but U will be alright and fine. With time it gets lighter and the hurt will reduce. Try and keep yourself occupied and busy.Also remember that he is somewhere not bothered so gather yourself and move on.

Angie Cape said...

My dear.. No one can help you but yourself.
Are you saying your world evolve around the loser??; you need to show him and the world otherwise. Be positive about life and start doing those things that makes you happy plus now is the time you need to be close to your family.
Goodluck, and remember if you commit suicide, hell awaits you!.

*My R1.50c comment*

Olabode Ladipo said...

God's on ur side..

Chinenye Amaikwu said...

If u kill urself cos of a man na hell fire straight!!!!!!

Lauhrex Akins said...

My dear its not the end of the world,if he feels he can't cope anymre,you also have to learn to live without him,its not easy though but its what's best for you..suicide is not even an option,if u die will he die too? Trust he will move on,might even marry someone you know,so my dear it normal for you to think but believe me you wil survive it with tym!! Just get your self busy with things you love doing most

Abiola Balogun said...

You need to see a psychiatrist that can help you out

Shina Shine said...

You b mumu
U wan die cos of man. Idiot



#Commenting thru Glo 4G LTE

Abiola Balogun said...

You need to see a psychiatrist that can help you out

Annie said...

For a man? No one should consider suicide because a man/woman decided to take a walk. My dear, you ve to stop hurting to see the light, he probably is no good to you, i suspect you are feeling like you won't find love again? He probably never even loved you, so get up from where you are seated, wallowing in your own tears, dust your shoes, wipe ur tears, wear a cheerful look and get ready for 2015, a year of fresh start, a year of transformation and growth. Love will surely find you again but first of all you need to be ready to be loved, you need to make yourself available, throw away the sadness, the hurt, the bad thoughts and replace them with a positive energy. God bless you real good and may 2015 be a wonderful year for you. Amen!

BLE BLE said...

Hey easy, it happens but u need to take it cool on your self and move on, better things/people ahead in life....

imade love said...

Liked!!! Kill ur self kwa? I reserve me comment.

gossip girl said...

Mtshwwww stop thinking about the fool nah...

remsco remmex said...

Kk seen.

Okorie Nelly said...

Chai all this because of a boyfriend that broke up with u. I fee your pain dear but u have to let go. Find things that make u happy and do a lot of it.

VEE said...

May God hear your prayers and give you heart and courage you needed to move on with your life.

Anonymous said...

hang out with more guys but this time dont fall in love. if you have a bad boy as a friend and you will see the way he treats ladies you will forget about your boyfriend

remsco remmex said...

Lolz women self.

Royalty Sinach said...

With time,u will get over it bsids suicide aint an answer. Austinsinach@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

Pls snap out of it dear. life is precious. jacksoninem@yahoo.com

ebonyz... said...

Ahhh!!! give your heart time, you'll heal. Involve yourself with activities, friends, etc.

Anonymous said...

Sweetie, don't kill urself cos of a man o. Move on and be brave. But no one said it is going to be easy, but u got to move on. Bury urself in wat makes u haPpy.

Ola,Me said...

Please die quick... so a thousand guys can wait pass your grave.

Okoro said...

Babe, you have so much life ahead of you, many dreams, purpose too! Don't let one guy that has moved on without you tey tey kill them.

mamma mia luv said...

The funny thing is only u can help yourself. No man is worth dieing for cos weda u dead or alive he's gonna carry on with his life. I had beta wipe those tears and get ur butt up.

cika4j@yahoo.com said...

The sooner you let go and start living again, the sooner you will be able to love again and live will continue....Look unto God now and occupy your thoughts with that of life and not death. I will be well...

Amadi chikezie said...

be urself, tink about d best tinz in lyf. knw dat dia re 2 many people out there lookin 4 people they wud luv. don't kill urself over some1.

Anonymous said...

sorry o o but Jesus can become ur friend if want.

ugwugladys@yahoo.com

Chilaka Christian said...

Ds 1 Pass My power, Jst tak smtym off, maybe travel far Frm him

Anonymous said...

My dear is not the end of life,just sit up and move on better person is on the way.

remsco remmex said...

Den comit suicide nw as him leave u. Rubbish. Wen Men full outside


Remsco2sure@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

Linda I hope you have reached out to the lady and help her.

remsco remmex said...

Eyaaa sorry dear. Kilowade

Princess G said...

U are doing ur self more harm my dear. The man u want to die for is out there living his life to the fullest. My mum always tell me that if u die bcos of a man, twenty women will walk thru ur grave top to sex him. U are in control of ur emotions. Don't allow ur past destroy ur future.

Olamide Taiwo said...

if you feel this way bcos a human being left you, how will you feel if jesus christ decides to leave you. Common girl! shake it off, keep ur head and shoulders high ad move forward. No human is worth dying for.

Anonymous said...

Time will heal

Awugosi Precious said...

You need to get busy. Work more. Distraction is one of the best ways to not think about him. Go out with friends. Then pray to God for direction and he should help you heal and fix your broken heart. learn to love yourself more and remember always wear a pretty makeup and dress fab. Take a selfie too. Try and laugh harder and give yourself more love. Than giving it to some1 who doesn't want it anymore. Then u'll be shocked things will work out better.

Joseph Uba said...

My dear, you definitely will heal with time.I have been there before. But i ill recommend you try and keep company with your friends. Go And Stay over with one of your supportive friend. taking your life is never an option..

Amadi chikezie said...

i don't know y u don't post ma comments am always d first pson 2 comment 2 everi news.

Sunmola Oluwatosin said...

Live goes on girl..d better than him nd basically that's y he left u.#YMYB

susu cossy said...

sorry dear. get yourself busy and go out with friends to nice places. it helps.ozeisusan497@gmail.com

Uche Emma said...


Please, move on. Don't kill yourself

Cute G said...

Oh dear!!! Heart break is an emotional trauma that can gradually snuf the life out of you...Please no none is worth dying for. Do things that will make you happy . indulge in hobbies you enjoy most.Stay around friends that will encourage you and try to look your best at all times.
Most of all always expect the unexpected.

Anonymous said...

Change your environment, hang out with new friends and you will be healed with time. Stop begging him pls.

REAL. PIKIN said...

Oh Babe move on with Ur life Now, and make Urself happy I was in Ur shoe last year. But Now am the Most Happiest Lady on earth. I found out that been single is not a disease.

azeezat Yahaya said...

My dear poster, with time you will get over him... a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage he is not ur man, if he is he will stick with u and u will wither all storms together.. Give ursef a break for now. But don't forget to brighten up be happy, I know its not easy o but just take ur mind off him. Thank ur God that the guy paved way so that ur destined man can reach you. Its well with you

Anonymous said...

Kill him...dat will help

Kolawole taiye said...

You must be crazy! Don't u know when u kill urself, ur so called devil of a bf will com to ur funeral with anoda chic? Be wise babe... just take thins easy and before u know it ur heart will heal.


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Anonymous said...

Nne that's what you think, and that's part of the reason he has been adamant to your plea, cos he thinks that you can't go on without him, its now up to you luv to show him how foolish he is, by distracting your self, either by letting new good friends in, or by working, avoid telemundo series, try to do those things you call fun, life is too short to worry about one riff raff. Open your self to new interesting friends, I promise yu wuld love the brand new yu.

Linda Nwachuya said...

Babe wakeup.if u die he will live on

Anonymous said...

u seriously need Jesus and d help of ur love once. becareful,pause for a minute and think is he worth it.Jesus christ is the only savior that died on our behalf and his death is worth it bt apart from him no any person on earth worth ur precious and wonderful life. abigail_mabeh@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

Biko, Visit a good hospital and Doctor. Your health is paramount. Reasons chics arent suppose to build their life around guys. Am a Guy but guys are evil.

Anonymous said...

Why? Because of a boy? Common babe there are many men out there. Men that are 4 u. I'm sorry u feel this way but forget him. It'll be fine, I promise. How to get over him? Go out there and have fun, keep busy, delete his pictures, block him 4rm ur social networks,if u dnt want 2 block him then atleast dnt check on him. if u have great sisters like mine then talk about it with them 4 about a week, its called venting. After that tell them that if u ever talk about him they should remember to stop you. Viola!! U won't remember him 4 long if u do all these. Lastly date sm1 new ----C21

Anonymous said...

Die nah. Your Bobo will marry one of your friends and you will be dead. Your family will be inconsolable. They will be wondering what they did wrong. But you will be dead and cant give them answers. .to tell them its not about them, that its about a man, a mere man. Oh you will also miss out on all the good things of life. That food u enjoy, that ice cream you love, all that u wanted to be. Cos you'll be dead. All because of a man, a mere man. So dont die darling. Stay Alive. Fight to stay alive. Be grateful to be alive. And stop feeling sorry for yourself. There's no glory in being dead. So jes forget it.

Folashade Anthony said...

Every woman can leave with or without a man. you are just depressed and frustrated which is understandable, but dwelling long on it is so dangerous. since you've done all humanly possible to get him back and its not working, please dust your body and move on, if you force things with him it might be a disaster. be yourself, go out with friends watch comedy skit and movies. listen to gospel music. believe me you will get over it in no time if you really want to. be strong. May the Lord heal you

Chinwe Okonkwo said...

You're simply going to heart break; my advice is you should allow yourself feel those thing you're feeling now, it's completely normal and we've all gone through that at some point in our lives. It will hurt, yes you feel like dying, yes you cry your eyes out, and then you get headaches from crying. It's normal, it's like you're morning the death of a love one, and just like everyone who has lost someone in their lives they'll tell you it hurts like hell, and then as time goes by, it stops hurting so much bit by bit....so give yourself time, no one does from broken heart. And one more thing, you need to realize that he broke up with you, that means he doesn't want you anymore, so get up, dress up, and show up somewhere, hang out with your friends. If you kill yourself, life will still go on without you, so do yourself a favor and live. If we all died of heart break, no one would be here today.

June said...

Of course you can live because God created you to have life in abundance. No human has a right to control your mind. if you commit suicide today the guy in question will marry another lady the next day. Time won't stop for a second. Pick yourself up my dear, no man is worth your tears, you people did not come to the world joined to the hip. Someone out there is seriously searching for you to make you the happiest woman yet. So i advice you stop thinking about him, erase everything that reminds you of him, facebook, phone number, pictures and the the like. Get busy, develop yourself and love yourself. You are a princess at least that is what i call myself. Stay focused there is so much to live for in this our sweet world. Above all draw closer to your creator he has the best love for you.

Igwilo Afoma said...

Suicide is sin! Forget him! he is not the only man on earth and also stop thinking about him and avoid staying alone and keep your self busy. Wish you the best.

Anonymous said...

Y beggin him!wat 4 ni?some girls can sha fall hand oo...my dear get busy wit ur life cause dat guy has moved on wit his..n if u still wanna harm ur sef cause of him make sure u love n appreciate him more than ur mom..

Amie Prince said...

This is touchng.I really don't have much but it could help to put aside every memory of him and go out:club,party make friends.Time heals all I have been there before.

Tomi Abike said...

My dear... If U die or have heart attach because of a guy, omo na sorry case please freshen up 100 of guys are waiting for you.

Anonymous said...

Die na! Anu ofia. That is why he left you in the first place, because you have no value for yourself. Common shut up and clean your eyes. Better yourself and go out there, there are millions of men in Naija and u want to let one send you to an early grave. One day u'll be glad he left u.

Babalola Samson said...

That's really pathetic but a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. There might be a reason for the break but need to be strong, keep believing in God and a better man would come in due time.

Chris Nwogu said...

just give another person a chance that the best thing to do dear

Efe Isoghomwen said...

Honey,my own bf of almost three yrs broke up with me d day shiloh ended on bbm nd deleted me bfor I got the chance to ask wat his reasons were...everyone tot we were gonna end up getting married, people still dnt bliv we ve broken up.. I found a way to b happy by thinking it was part of God's plan for me n nw ve met a guy who is ready to die cos of me nd has bn begging to b Jst frnds with me first.. my advice,pick up ursef nd find reasons to live n u ve friends so focus ur tym nd energy in building ursef nd focus on ur family dey re all u gat..gud luck

Chris Nwogu said...

just give another person a chance that the best thing to do dear

chemmywalata walata said...

1st of all my dear AVOID SECRET PLACES AND LONELY PLACES please do not be LONELY at all and no 2 join a peer group or an open organization, interact with ppl, share ideas with ppl, before u know it u will start liking a guy from the group u will join, n then the feelings of ur ex bf will vanish as u get intimate with the guy u are gonna mingle with, but more importantly pray dat God will grant u ur heart desire Amen

Anonymous said...

O dear, I can't even pretend to know what you are going through. Try to preoccupy yourself with work, activities, frends. Do not allow urself to be idle. Thoughts of him will occassionally pop up in your head, make it a habit to brush it off, dont dwell on it.Think of him as toxic in ur head.look beautiful,and put urself out dere. Make new male frends, hang out wiv dem if u want to and lastly tell ursef u deserve better. Pray too ma dear, it eases the hurt. A very short prayer is enof: God pls take dis hurt away. Plssssss DON'T do anything harmful.

Chris Nwogu said...

just give another person a chance that the best thing to do dear

Elgiver James said...

D way am seeing tins ur already dead...... How would u wanna kill urself for a guy dat doesn't care...... My dear, take ur bath, dress up and hit d salon.... Make a nice hair.... If u have moni go for shopping ,... Have fun and u will forget abt him...... He's not worth ur crying

fissy dada said...

We've all be there before u will get over it.
Go on holiday, friend get together, pls pls try and take your mind off it. U sound so young to me so there are still good guys out there for u. Easy girl.

Chris Nwogu said...

just give another person a chance that the best thing to do dear

Aisha A said...

Ds is serious

Augustine O. said...

i know how hurtful it can be...just early the year i had to counsel a young girl who had bought "rat poison" to kill herself as the one she loved was about to get married. I will tell you a bitter truth, if you kill yourself, you go straight to Hell fire. Just pull yourself together, if you have the resources, change town or leave town for a while...a month or two, engage yourself in activities, see some movies, go out shopping or relax at amusement park occasionally and NEVER STAY ALONE but with friends and well wishers. very soon, you will get the rhythm back again and never say, "i can't love again' as that is the greatest lie you can tell yourself! you can really love and love deeper than the last time! be happy with yourself and smile, because you have a very beautiful package coming to you! Chao!!!

swt b said...

kill urself na bcos of boy ode.he wil bring anoda girl to ur funeral.shiorrrrr

Bold Kid said...

U dint even say husband. Just die please. Mcheww

UGBALA MAC-CHARLES said...

A broken heart is nt d end of d road

Augustine O. said...

i know how hurtful it can be...just early the year i had to counsel a young girl who had bought "rat poison" to kill herself as the one she loved was about to get married. I will tell you a bitter truth, if you kill yourself, you go straight to Hell fire. Just pull yourself together, if you have the resources, change town or leave town for a while...a month or two, engage yourself in activities, see some movies, go out shopping or relax at amusement park occasionally and NEVER STAY ALONE but with friends and well wishers. very soon, you will get the rhythm back again and never say, "i can't love again' as that is the greatest lie you can tell yourself! you can really love and love deeper than the last time! be happy with yourself and smile, because you have a very beautiful package coming to you! Chao!!!

christie benjamin said...

You have been suicidal because a guy that is not your husband or God dumped you? You're emotional traumatised because of a guy. That's not fair because when one door closes another one open...don't kill yourself because of guy, move on better man will locate you.

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chinenye glory said...

Bretty girl,he dose not deserve u,u are a strongh girl,shake him off ur system and get a life.Tanx

Ochakpor Onyeka said...

my dear get a good hectic job that wuld take yur mind away frm him or u relocate ni..trust me it works

Augustine O. said...

i know how hurtful it can be...just early the year i had to counsel a young girl who had bought "rat poison" to kill herself as the one she loved was about to get married. I will tell you a bitter truth, if you kill yourself, you go straight to Hell fire. Just pull yourself together, if you have the resources, change town or leave town for a while...a month or two, engage yourself in activities, see some movies, go out shopping or relax at amusement park occasionally and NEVER STAY ALONE but with friends and well wishers. very soon, you will get the rhythm back again and never say, "i can't love again' as that is the greatest lie you can tell yourself! you can really love and love deeper than the last time! be happy with yourself and smile, because you have a very beautiful package coming to you! Chao!!!

Cherrykoko said...

Turn to Jesus, he alone can give u peace. N u av to love urself first dear. I kip telling ladies, u r not ready to love if u are not yet emotionally independent. Love urself, dnt depend on any1 to be happy, value urself, be at the top of ur emotions, den and only den can u be ready enuf to love or handle any hrtbrk.

Anonymous said...

If you kill yourself he will still move on with his life without you. Don't think of taking your life because you don't know the plans God have for you. When I broke up with my boyfriend I felt as if my whole life has ended,now I am married to the best man on earth,he adores me.I rejoice that I didn't allow my first broken relationship to spoil my chances of meeting my man.Move on and see that someone better is out there for you

gracie offor said...

Get urself busy. Don't spend time alone.

Heartbreaks happens to everyone at some point in life but u can't kill urself for a guy who doesn't deserve u.

And pls stop begging him. He doesn't deserve u and he's not the will of God for u.

It's better to end things now than get married and then feel sorry.

So I suggest u go out often, hang out wit friends, watch movies and with time u will get over it

Anonymous said...

You will live my sister this is part of lessons that life teaches everyday. I was once in your shoes, rejected by a man I loved very much but Sis, life goes on. Just when I thought its all over, there is another man far better than the that left hmmm it doesn't worth suicidal. Brace up, socialise, wear a happy face & start life afresh, you will see that there is always a light at the end of the turnnel.

God Bless

Anonymous said...

It's normal to hurt but it's abnormal to hurt yourself becos one man or anyone hurt you! You may never know what God has saved you from until you see women who died of broken marriage.Broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.How exactly can you get out of the hurt? Read Luke 17 v 21,Matt 12 v 28, the whole book of Ephesians.This will help you regain confidence in yourself and in the God that made you. If my relationship packed up,it would have been better than being separated at 35yrs after years of beating.But seem today,I have done well for myself,my kids and my family.Get busy with your job.That will take your mind of him.Pls do not get into another relationship to heal,it will not help you but make you needy and vulnerable.You are beautiful beyon description,God sacrificed alot for your life with the Life of Christ,the best revenge is to wake up and live again! Ask Linda for her story with her Ex if she took her life,or managed the relationship,she will not have been a success today,there wont have been LIB. So my dear FIGHT BACK! you are coming out Stronger and better.Love yourself cos no man can love you that much! God bless you.

Anonymous said...

You have to be stupid and moronic to want 2 kill urself over a guy that is really dumb no matter what u feel for him if u die he would probably bring another girl to ur funeral so dust ur self up and go on a date it's Christmas try and be happy

Nimelda Richard said...

waiting be our business for inside...........if u like kill urself becos of man nah u short

Udeh Agatha said...

oh bby I understand how u feel,but u just have to try and get on with ur life.just see the breakup as a stepping stone to other rosy relationship DAT will come your way soon.pls u just HV to snap out of the heartache n get on with ur life.

Anonymous said...

Even though you get back together... Do you think your relationship would work after all the pain he's caused you during this period.. You only live once.. Its going to take a long time to heal but believe me, one day your wounds are going to heal and you'd move on

Jasmine Banks said...

Am sure dis guy in ? Is chilling wit anoda babe. Btr get ur eyes nd teeth together nd move on

Anonymous said...

You would get over it one step at a time. But you have to hasten the process by being active and reducing the obsessive thoughts about him. It might seem impossible but you'd get through it someday. It will stop hurting as much.

mzmaris said...

No guy is worth that much pain....then again am called a robot even by my bf.....so what do I knw?.....well, except detaching myself from my feelings most times..box, stamp and shelve them....that way it doesn't hurt much......am indifferent, u r pissed am nt hurting........the world is a better place.....life goes on.

APPLELIPX said...

How did u let it get to d state of him breaking up with u first...
The fact that u had to beg n stalk him to take u back will only mk u look worthless to him

Getin over him mayb difficult, buh u hav to. Even if he eventually accepts u back, it can never b love jst pity.....

Help ursef by not spending too much tym alone, hang out wth frnds, do things for fun, make up ur mind dat he is gone for good n smethin better is awaitin u, learn to love n enjoy ur company, take ur self out, work on ur self esteem

If u kill ursef he wont even drop flowers on ur grave.... wise up

Gift Lawrence said...

I was once in ur shoes. At a point I said to my self why hurting myself over someone that do not care? I took to God in prayers, shared with my close friends and family, I made the Bible my companion, tried to keep myself happy no matter what. I came out of it. My dear that man do not deserve U, Hold on tight, go to God in Prayers, always hang out with ur close friends and try to catch fun. he's not worth dying for. A MAN who deserves and know ur Worth is on his way so hold on tight for him. As for that Olokpa he will come back crawling when he realize he has lost a diamond when busy chasing peanuts.

Anonymous said...

Pls my dear move on as fast as u can cos even when he comes back it will never be d same again, he will end up hurting you over n over again, try to mk ur sef happy doing tinz u love must with time it will pass spend most of ur time around people who mk u happy with u will be over him

Tayo Oladunjoye said...

My dear, you just need one thing that is, always hang around friends for the time being and stop thinking about him. Testimonies are already coming in from the hard working people. Check it out http://monthlyyouth.com/?ref=741191

Anonymous said...

My dear hv faith and trust in God, God know why he leave u , he is not for u. i know is not easy to endure bt with God are thing are possible. stop crying and killing urself, tell it to Jesus. one day God will connect u to ur man.

GALORE said...

Please dont force him..let him go...

Don't belittle yourself bikonu....he has made up his mind

God will give you ur own better half


Ladies should stop dating for long..pls 9mth is enough Bcos of all ds stories that touch

Suicide is a sin......remember u have ur loved ones around.. They still want u around alive and well


@Galore

@lwkmd_naija - follow on instagram/twitter said...

I can help you I am a good and loving bf. Tweet at me @lwkmd_naija. :)

@lwkmd_naija - follow on instagram/twitter said...

I can help you I am a good and loving bf. Tweet at me @lwkmd_naija. :)

lilyswt okafor said...

U jst made a simple matter difficult 2 ursef, jst get busy wit somtin 247 or start reading inspirational books, by d time u do it everyday, dat negative thinking wil leave ur mind.

Cagey Berry said...

Firstly, you hav to be a born again. This ιƨ the only ticket to dine with the one who has loved you like no other... And then relax and watch your pains rolled out. Once he comes ιηтσ your life, your pains wil Just melt away. In other words Christ ιƨ the solution.

wama ruth said...

U own ur life and as such ur d one dat determines how u want ur life to be...just have it on ur mind dat he left u cuz he does not deserve u..it mite not b easy but try to put ursef together and pray for God to give u d strength to carry on....

mayree said...

just 3 and a half years and you are suicidal? you will survive, but first, you need to find a way to love yourself first. No advice can help you here cos they are things you already know. find the will to live, only then can you live!

mayreeze429@gmail.com

@lwkmd_naija - follow on instagram/twitter said...

I can help you I am a good and loving bf. Tweet at me @lwkmd_naija. :)

ammy becky said...

Go ahead nd die u hear...
Every time suicide this suicide that...what is it sef. People with better problem neva kill themselves na becos of a boy u want to die...msheww

Anonymous said...

You need to put more effort to win back his love. The way you sounded, I can say it categorically that your boyfriend will be having the same feelings. Remember men has got ego's some women do have as well but not all. My candid advise is that you should go for your love whichever way and whatever means it will take as long as this will make you happy.....GOD BLESS YOU.

Anonymous said...

my sister, pick your pieces and move on. Even if you die, nothing will change. You will still be the looser. I am in your shoe right now but i will not die for any bastard. I am too beautiful and focused to be rubbished by any human being. Live and let him know that you can live without him. Once you get the feeling, get up and shade it off. With time, u will get over it

Anonymous said...

You need to put more effort to win back his love. The way you sounded, I can say it categorically that your boyfriend will be having the same feelings. Remember men has got ego's some women do have as well but not all. My candid advise is that you should go for your love whichever way and whatever means it will take as long as this will make you happy.....GOD BLESS YOU.

Anonymous said...

Awwwww! *big hug* Only God can console you, seek solace from HIM

Juliet Godwin said...

Ahah bcos of a man?? Babe abeg move on with ur life o...God knows best

lilyswt okafor said...

But seriously is he d only guy in dis planet?

carlos iyke said...

There are thousand and one guys out there. If he is not interested again, you will get another if not better one. In fact thank God that he left cos he is the wrong guy. Happiness and joy are the medicine for ur situation now. Make him feel you are above him.
$.
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@Mr Endowed via iyke

Chidinma Eze said...

Oh my!!! I know hw dis can be my dear. Only God kan heal you. Just take it he doesn't love you anymoree, or do yoyu wanna live wit someone who will hurt you forever?NO! Pls move on. Go out wit frnds, go to social functions and I know another good broda will come along wen you least expect. Just be happy no mata what it takes. One love babez

Anonymous said...

pls my dear dont stop die die die.

Zinny said...

Oh dear so sorry abt ur hurting heart but pls dnt kill urself b'cos of a man who doesn't care anymore abt u, he's not even worth a single tear but I knw its not easy,jst take heart and get up frm morning over him believe u can do it, dying isn't the best over a boyfriend whom God knws why he separated him frm u,bcos he has a better plan over ur life.

Anonymous said...

Please young lady since you know you are not the owner of that life just assume he is dead in life and wait for the next sweet person God will give you he will be the best bet it. God can not bring you this far and let you down.

Juliet Godwin said...

Ahah bcos of a man?? Babe abeg move on with ur life o...God knows best

Bimbo Adesanya said...

This one is strong. God will help u.


*that igbo girl.

lilyswt okafor said...

Like seriously is he d only guy in dis planet?

Richard Afon Yinkå Ray said...

Keep calm and start believing in urself, it's hard but u have to move on. Time will heal ur wounds.

Anonymous said...

I have been through this before, it's just normal and it's because of rejection feelings .
Pls, take some time to go out more , meet new people and discover yourself.
You have a bright future ahead.

oge eme said...

You have every reason to be alive.......clean up,go out.....hang out wt frnds and family......you will be aiit.time heals.

Amaka Ngenegbo said...

Sometimes, its easier to give advice than to heed them. But what I want to let u know is that no man is worth u taking ur own life. And don't 4get that its a sin from the religious point of view. Ur bf has moved on and I suggest u do same too, though it won't be easy, 'cos obviously u loved him way too much. Just do the following and though it won't be easy, but with time, u'll get over him.
#go out with friends have fun. Our friends know to make us feel better sometimes.
#cut off every means of communication wit him.
#do what makes u happy, eg movies, baking, etc, and u'll be surprised how time flies without u thinking a bit about him.
#remove those things that remind u of him. Like picture.
#if its possible, travel for a while, especially this season of celebration. It'll do u a lotta good.
#talk someone, prefarably a friend u can trust.
#take time off relationship for a while, get to heal b4 embarking on that journey again.
#get busy. If u are student concentrate more on ur studies. If u work, delve into it with dexterity.
#finally, know the ur relationship for a reason. U may not knw it now. What's the point in making him take u back outta pity. It'll only compound ur problems. Know ur worth as a woman and don't beg him. Don't force him to stay when he doesn't. Carry ur shoulder and be proud that u can love even though the affection was not returned. Wish u all the best sis. I know and pray that true love will find u someday. I luv u...#peace#

sweetnma said...

take heart and take care of your self.

Anonymous said...

Girl u need to get a grip of Urself! Do u knw the same guy that u are killing Urself over has moved on and probably barely even thinks abt u these days. Is it worth killing Urself over? Get Urself together and move on! U deserve better. It's hard but it's not the end of the world and better options will come. Explore! Things like this happen, u r not the first! Seen pple who been together for longer and still split. It's best to let him go than for u to cage him and have him constantly hurting u with lies and cheating. Remember u can take a horse to the river but u can't force it to drink.

Bakare Motunrayo said...

only you can help yourself. think of several things that are worthy esp that some will buy life if possible. why waste yours? it hurts we know,just get over it.

Anonymous said...

Gosh I feel her pain...:(

chocolate said...

Luk for a cancellor to cancel u,and fast and pray God wil surely heal u

oseyi gabriel said...

Hmm, things of the heart. You have to be strong and know his part in your life is complete. Just know their is better person for you coming your way.

This will help you!

adetomiwa said...

A better Guy is knocking on your door soon girl. The guy is just a jerk. We guys can be baboons sometimes

Efizzy1 said...

Mydear this is not the end of the world cuz have bn there b4 and i almost do dsame tin bt i came out of it and now am doin good bigtime with alot of them around me, believe me i feel u deep down.pls dont do it cuz u will com out of it

mabogunje femi said...

You need a deliverance first cos he as left with your other heart and pray stop staying alone

Lanre Salvador said...

Take heart its well

Easy-E said...

Com on babe, y wuld u tink bout suicide wen in dis life nw, nobody is worth dyin 4...i jes want u 2 bury dat suicidal thought nd tink bout hw 2 move on. Dia ar many guys who wants u n won't get tired of u no matter wat...d only constant tin bout life is change so learn hw 2 deal wit situations....bye

Chynell said...

If u were my younger sister I for don flog u make u strong small, #kiddingbutserious*
Anyway to d matter; not everyone can deal wt heartbreak but in ur case I think u need to let a new man com into ur life, sometimes that's the best option fr dez cases.
On d death matter, have u thought of wat will happen when u kill urself, sweety NOTHING will CHANGE, LIFE WILL GO ON, ur ex will hear d news and shake his head and say 'may she RIP, not even sure he'd lit a candle fr ya, ur frnds will cry on ur burial day and after dt they will FORGET you, same with ur family, life will go on with or without u, so u see honey, ds aint worth ur life.

Next time u entering a relationship, tell urself d truth, 'this could end someday' therfore u need to brace urself and be ready for anything.

As a lady shouldn't ever cry over a man, u don't beg to be loved cos u won't enjoy it.

Finally, listen to music, do things u love, go to d movies, dnt b idle, hang out wt friends, just have fun and then u either get urself a new man or take ur time in taking one.
You'd b fine

#chynell#

Princez Hendrix said...

Biko go to church 4 deliverance nd let ur mind be in church o

Chynell said...

If u were my younger sister I for don flog u make u strong small, #kiddingbutserious*
Anyway to d matter; not everyone can deal wt heartbreak but in ur case I think u need to let a new man com into ur life, sometimes that's the best option fr dez cases.
On d death matter, have u thought of wat will happen when u kill urself, sweety NOTHING will CHANGE, LIFE WILL GO ON, ur ex will hear d news and shake his head and say 'may she RIP, not even sure he'd lit a candle fr ya, ur frnds will cry on ur burial day and after dt they will FORGET you, same with ur family, life will go on with or without u, so u see honey, ds aint worth ur life.

Next time u entering a relationship, tell urself d truth, 'this could end someday' therfore u need to brace urself and be ready for anything.

As a lady shouldn't ever cry over a man, u don't beg to be loved cos u won't enjoy it.

Finally, listen to music, do things u love, go to d movies, dnt b idle, hang out wt friends, just have fun and then u either get urself a new man or take ur time in taking one.
You'd b fine

#chynell#

Iriri Aiye said...

Sorry...the ladder to cross life is as long as a life time...u r just at the beginning....common pick up your wager and move forward.....

Uche Edoka said...

this is serious. i don't think all these has to do with just your boy friend leaving you. please visit an psychologist asap. i think it is a type of mental disorder

Anonymous said...

Go to Daystar Christian Centre, my Pastor Sam Adeyemi teaching will heal you trust me but i know Linda won't post this comment bcoz she would think it is an advert

peter said...

By now you should know that you are the only one who can make yourself happy.there are a thousand and one nice guy who will lovve and cherish you for who you are.
my advice is. get someone to talk to,so your attention is taken away from him, try not to have a quite time or be by yourself for long, try to always be among friends that will cheer u up.
get comedies to watch and you will feel better.

zoe said...

So if he is your hubby and he left u with 3 kids, u would have committed suicide already. Boyfriend is not husband, get that into ur brain, they will always go except the one that want to marry u.
I just hope u are not a yoruba chic that ca't differentiate the two, a guy ask them out today just cox he want a freebie, tomorrow he is refer to as oko mi. If you can not celibate, pick up the next available guy. When one door close another open. Simple.

ORE said...

You definitely don't believe u deserve better,if u do and have gone to church,prayed, tnen u would knw God usually over compensates ppl in ur case if truly u will wait on him...Now start loving yourself all over again ,attend functions,treat urself n u will attract a good man to urself again.

GR8BABE said...

HELLO,MY SISTER THAT IS NOT AN OPTION, DO CONTACT ME .JESUS LOVES YOU

Ada lolo said...

My dear, I know how you feel. Do you have a hobby? If not develop a good hobby. It is the only thing that help you start forgetting hurts. Engage in sports, develop reading
books, bible, koran, novels etc.
You are precious before God, your BF is Jesus He has not broken it off with you. Talk to him to heal you and take away the pains. God bless you

Chynell said...

If u were my younger sister I for don flog u make u strong small, #kiddingbutserious*
Anyway to d matter; not everyone can deal wt heartbreak but in ur case I think u need to let a new man com into ur life, sometimes that's the best option fr dez cases.
On d death matter, have u thought of wat will happen when u kill urself, sweety NOTHING will CHANGE, LIFE WILL GO ON, ur ex will hear d news and shake his head and say 'may she RIP, not even sure he'd lit a candle fr ya, ur frnds will cry on ur burial day and after dt they will FORGET you, same with ur family, life will go on with or without u, so u see honey, ds aint worth ur life.

Next time u entering a relationship, tell urself d truth, 'this could end someday' therfore u need to brace urself and be ready for anything.

As a lady shouldn't ever cry over a man, u don't beg to be loved cos u won't enjoy it.

Finally, listen to music, do things u love, go to d movies, dnt b idle, hang out wt friends, just have fun and then u either get urself a new man or take ur time in taking one.
You'd b fine

#chynell#

sexy mama said...

My dear, rise up, dust yourself and move on. No guy is worth having headache, commiting suicide or dying for. Free yourself from hyper abeg.

Chynell said...

If u were my younger sister I for don flog u make u strong small, #kiddingbutserious*
Anyway to d matter; not everyone can deal wt heartbreak but in ur case I think u need to let a new man com into ur life, sometimes that's the best option fr dez cases.
On d death matter, have u thought of wat will happen when u kill urself, sweety NOTHING will CHANGE, LIFE WILL GO ON, ur ex will hear d news and shake his head and say 'may she RIP, not even sure he'd lit a candle fr ya, ur frnds will cry on ur burial day and after dt they will FORGET you, same with ur family, life will go on with or without u, so u see honey, ds aint worth ur life.

Next time u entering a relationship, tell urself d truth, 'this could end someday' therfore u need to brace urself and be ready for anything.

As a lady shouldn't ever cry over a man, u don't beg to be loved cos u won't enjoy it.

Finally, listen to music, do things u love, go to d movies, dnt b idle, hang out wt friends, just have fun and then u either get urself a new man or take ur time in taking one.
You'd b fine

#chynell#

Anonymous said...

I'm finding it hard to believe its all because of man. what is dis guy doing to/for you that you cant do or get elsewhere biko?? you now want to kill yourself.???? some girls are just eishh.. mtcheww

Anonymous said...

@Ayuba ;u are a fine girl,move on wit ur life pls,heaven is a journey of no return Oooo#biko

onyekachi Ahaotu said...

Believe me my dear this is d time u nid Jesus more,pray more eat read more and try to hang out wit friends and make sure u don't rush into another relationship due to loneliness trust me d right guy for u will come and sweep u off ur feet and take u to d alter dat will not waste your time in d name of courtship.it is well my darling .d time wen things seem so bad it's actually d time it's getting beta

Estée Chris said...

Mumu kill yourself na. the boy will come and eat puf puf at your funeral.. olodo.

Adeola Akanwo said...

There are many single guys outside waiting to give you more love than the guy that left you can give, please engage yourself always, mingle with people and move on with your life better days ahead..life is too short to ponder on mirage..my dear broken relationship is better than broken marriage.if you kill yourself because of a man, thousands of men will pee on your burial ground.Get a good job be focused and prayerful your own man will come.Though you need to ask yourself some questions like; what have you done wrong? are you a liability to him? after answering these questions then you can work on yourself and move on. i wish u the best

AK said...

My dear,
Right now i have no much time to discuss with you about this matter because there's no problem without solution.

I will later talk to you. Check back.

Ak
stephen.akpan@atlanticfluids.net

@jennysuccess said...

My dear I can understand your pains, and the trauma you're going through.
It very painful to see the ones we love leave us
But all this same you can make it just like your friends advised you.
Some of us had been there b4. It wasn't easy @ all

My advice is this......LET IT GO!!!
I know is not gonna be easy: but you can do it ok. Don't worry the lord will give you your own, a man that can never desert from you again irrespective of the situation

Wipe your tears n be strong for your future family

Pls be prayerful n love everybody that comes your way, do not belittle any man.
IT IS WELL!!!

@jennysuccess said...

My dear I can understand your pains, and the trauma you're going through.
It very painful to see the ones we love leave us
But all this same you can make it just like your friends advised you.
Some of us had been there b4. It wasn't easy @ all

My advice is this......LET IT GO!!!
I know is not gonna be easy: but you can do it ok. Don't worry the lord will give you your own, a man that can never desert from you again irrespective of the situation

Wipe your tears n be strong for your future family

Pls be prayerful n love everybody that comes your way, do not belittle any man.
IT IS WELL!!!

Dennis Avro said...

get you mind occupied and busy. try to have as many male friends as much as you can...you will get heal faster that way..i tried it ones

olivegrey said...

Every dissapointment is a blessing dear... u guys are not meant to be together believe me and it's not the end of the world either. Make sure u are not alone, hang out with friends this Xmas season and before u know it u will forget him. You deserve better.

NaijaDeltaBabe said...

U need to see a psychologist asap

Anonymous said...

I know the feeling. It felt like I was dying. We even have a child together. I broke up the relationship because I had this feeling he was not happy and the last thing anyone deserves is to be in an unhappy relationship. Both parties have to want to be in it. It cant be one-sided, u will be miserable. Its been 3 yrs now for me, and to be honest I thank God we didn't end up together.

Take this time to enjoy yourself, date, go to parties, change ur wardrobe, build ur self confidence, work on your self and build u to be an indispensable girlfriend for your next boyfriend.

Ohumotu said...

Girl Please you need a good dick to reset your button *not interested* you can't sleep ko...

Jino said...

Move on gal! Lyf s not a bed of roses

Jino said...

Move on gal! Lyf s not a bed of roses

Angela Odikapikin said...

You don't need to kill yourself because someone who doesn't know your worth want to be single.
You should think of staying single for a while.
My advice....Change environment, be in the mist of people that make you smile....always take a stroll and admire nature. Tell yourself you worth more than to kill yourself. Start telling yourself while you need to stay alive and move on. Be strong please.

onyekachi Ahaotu said...

My dear if u check ur self very well u might even be surprised dat u don't really luv him mayb becos u guys hav bin together for soo long and u now feel u can't do without him but my dear u can d only person we can really live without on earth is God

yemi ijeoma said...

My dear if u die ur ex would bring 20girls to ur burial ground. Infact Wat am I saying dat won't stop him from dating a million ladies. Their are many fishes in d ocean ooo, don't be stupid and die because a man. U will heal with time release urself stop causing more pain to urself. Do things that make u happy. U'll feel greater with time. No man is worth dying for oo, or are u JESUS CHRIST! Have fun love will definitely find u, stop running after love. Ladies are to be Queens without Pride so biko eat, dance,swim,live well. Life is too sweet to die ooo..... Jaiye Ori ehh!

Rita said...

Hmmm, dis is serious o. U need to give ur life to christ, make bible ur friend u will get over it, start asking God for forgiveness, study ur bible day and night, u will see de different.

Anonymous said...

My dear what you are going through is a genuine heart break, I was once in your shoes and considered taking my life on several occasions. I was close to jumping off my university building on the 8th floor when God arrested me. I may have been Lucky but not every 1 can be as lucky. I had all the side effects of a break up u said and I had enough more. I woke up middle of the night screaming from night meres, I was constantly talking to my self, my grades fall drastically I had to take a semesters off school to heal because my university adviced it. It may be ur fault or that of u r boyfriends but it dosnt matter its your happiness that counts. in my case it was all my fault and I kept blaming my self endlessly for our breakup. Today I am married with 2 kids and my wife is an amazing woman. My ex is also happily married with kids so it's not a matter of what went wrong but how u can move on from where you are right now. Pray to God to help you let go and he will answer you.

Jino said...

Move on gal! Life s not a bed of roses.

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