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Wednesday 17 December 2014

Flamboyant Psychologist Adejoro Olumofin writes to Single Ladies above age 30

Letter To The Ladies Volume 5. (Because you're 30 and single doesn't mean you should throw in the Towel) - written by Flamboyant Psychologist Adejoro Olumofin
As a result of the pressure from friends, family and close associates, when some ladies reach age 30 and there are no visible suitors in sight, they develop some Personality Traits or Defense Mechanisms which may not be in their best interest because they conform to societal views and build a mindset that makes them see less of themselves like they think society does. They then believe there's little or no hope at all for them anymore and they are emotionally tired of making themselves available to potentials..
For example they stop going out totally, stop bothering about their makeup or fashion acumen, they say things like " I'm too old to do this, I'm too old to attend this function / event" or too old to go to the club, looking down on every guy who may not be their preference because they have achieved alot at their age and some guys may not meet their standard or pay grade and all other excuses.
What they don't know is that by staying indoors and saying i'm too old for this and that, or being overly picky, they lose out on chances to network and socialise so how will they meet people or even Mr. Right?  If you're interested in settling down, no guy will break into your house to court you.
From my first hand experience, i have some lady friends who are 30 years old and above who still look smashing and stunning and also give  21 year old Ladies a run for their money, they also have loads of potentials and suitors.These ladies have not allowed the " 30 year Old syndrome" and societal pressure get to them, rather they are living gracefully while trusting in God. 

Ladies, If you don't see the good in yourself or your potentials, no one will. Say no to the societal pressure and live life rather than get broken.
You wont overcome this phase if you're emotionally broken. 

Lets encourage our sisters and friends dealing with this "Pressure" because society and its norms are not too friendly towards them. 

In my opinion 30 is the new 25 and age is just a number and state of mind. The way you carry yourself emotionally,  physically,  spiritually and Psychologically determine how a guy will treat you not your age.

#DoktorMofin #Psychology #Volume5
Read more articles on Adejoro Olumofins instagram page : @joroolumofin

391 comments:

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DEguebe said...

Nice writeup. Ladies should individually give strict adherence to this and finally, put God first. MC BABA OLOYE SAYS SO. EGUEBEDAVID@GMAIL.COM

Megoli said...

Satisfied

Anonymous said...

Words of encouragement for the Mamas out there.. LOL!!

Unknown said...

Ok I am very impressed....since I moved back to Naija, the look I get for being 31,unmarried and attending functions is unreal!

Anonymous said...

I won't mind smashin dis guy.

hauwa sani said...

Honestly when I saw this write up, I thought it was going to attack the person of age 30 and above but I like it. Very encouraging. Thanks Adejoro

Anonymous said...

Encouraging write up. God bless

ukbliss said...

Hmmmmmmm it's not really much of a gud right up to me, ppl should just stop emphasising on dis marriage before 30 abeg

Abby said...

cuteeeeeeee

Anonymous said...

Good Job.

Roselyn Zuyeali Verkouille said...

He is indeed a flamboyant psychologist. Never seen a fashion conscious one. I totally agree with what he said

Josh Atuanya said...

Plz remind d choozy ones that there are only 2 saturdays remaining in 2014...

Unknown said...

Linda how u take see am with all the fan Base that keeps commenting on go marry.... Meanwhile they don't let us rest at home because we are not married....

Plus society sef make it seem like married ppl are better of and more respectable

ukbliss said...

Plz is he blind? wats up with dis shade syndrome abeg

Unknown said...

Linda how u take see am with all the fan Base that keeps commenting on go marry.... Meanwhile they don't let us rest at home because we are not married....

Plus society sef make it seem like married ppl are better of and more respectable

Unknown said...

Oya o,ndi thirty hear n do....pheww,anytin more exciting?

Anonymous said...

Ok imma follow u right away.... Enough!

Unknown said...

Very true. Nice one bro.

Agu nwanyi1 said...

Yes deir u r right o! But @times one needs to respect her age n not do some certin things lol

Anonymous said...

Aiit




Amakadarlyn@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

More Positives please.. Lift women up unlike saying pot belly issue

chineye A said...

Gbammmm!!

Anonymous said...

Gbamest

Unknown said...

I don't like dis dude..

Sutorf said...

Datz a good boost for deir self-esteem. Linda are u among dis category! Lolz

Goziem Oh LORD said...

Can't read this now

Anonymous said...

Well done....He suppose visit the topic of men intimidated by we 30 something and successful ladies sha, that's y they don't date us

yemmy said...

Ok, tnx. Very true oooo!

Unknown said...

Dts a very good advice sir, ladies take ur time nd dnt be pushed by societal pressure God's time is d best

Unknown said...

Hmmmm tell dis to the african mothers
The part they play in all dis ehnnn
Anyways me still dey frosh in my 20's
Article nt for me

kay said...

Bravo

Anonymous said...

I'm impressed. And 2 think that I didn't even want 2 open this. Is this the same guy that wrote 1 shitty article about pot belly the other time. Wow!! He really has stepped his game up nw hasn't he? Keep it up man ----C21

Unknown said...

Very true.I like this guy.
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Unknown said...

Very true I like this guy.
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POTABLE viv said...

Linda,dis is 4 u......ur own suitor will come,just keep being u.

Unknown said...

Seen!!!!!

Unknown said...

Linda u are inclusive in this write up....don't let ur age weigh u down be courageous okay n also don't let ur achievements make u feel u have arrived n u HV got all d money n comfort...one day ur Mr right WL definitely locate u

SD 08034621634 said...

I dnt have much to say but all I have to say is tank u very much 4 ds relive

Unknown said...

WAt. A lovely message.......

Anonymous said...

This sounds too drake jor.lol Well said, oya ladies free yaself from yaself.

Anonymous said...

Well said Mister

Ayodele Jay said...

He is right!

Anonymous said...

Thank you very much, you just lifted my spirit wit this article.

Unknown said...

Am nt in a relatioship and am nt 30 yet,but sometimes so. Alone and nt interested in aTtendin events like he. Just said....am dis evenin am holdd onto dis words of encouragement.thanks Dude.

Unknown said...

So damn right

Anonymous said...

I have never commented on linda ikeji buy on this post, I agree totally with this guy. Especially the last sentence.

flave said...

Well said

ibeakwadalam said...

I agree with Adejoro.

Women are their own worst enemies. You should hear women tearing each other down. Would you prefer married and miserable?

Nothing is as sexy as a confident man or woman (I no tok arrogant o).

Anonymous said...

Dis wizkid wanna be should stop fooling himself thinking hour knows everything, and should focus on being a model. Apparently.

Unknown said...

Spot on mate, always telling some of my friends who's above 30s to calm down, no rush in life u will get ur man..

sassychicnaija said...

gud one. linda shey you hear too?relax and continue flexxing

Unknown said...

WAt. A lovely message.......

Unknown said...

Linda...haff u heard....change that ur everyday hairstyle...leave that ur black gate alone,be more daring and adventurous,wear things above ur knee...u have great legs...club once in a while...biko...I want to read about ur wedding...get a few tips from Laura Ikeji...but dont go over the top like her o....lolz....NB: That ur sister na kolo sha...shes fun to watch on instagram....pls tell her to follow me back @hauwa_okpanachi.

Unknown said...

Yes o... this is so true. Once a lady is up to 30 and not married, pple will be like "when are u getting married now"

Mumsy will be like "what are u still waiting for"

And if u attend a friend's wedding, they'll be like "when are we going to buy ur own asoebi"

It happened to someone I know wen 2 of her younger ones got married and she didn't

Am sure linda has bn under this presure too. Many LIBers always telling her to get married.

#awomanslife#

Unknown said...

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seunLondon said...

Linda is it true? #SeunLondon

Nkay fundz💋 said...

Yea nice words!!!!

Kekere-ata said...

Thank you for the encouragement.

LGM said...

Linda God wee giv u ur own Man..Amen n me tew ooo,its not easy

Unknown said...

Linda you hear!!! Lol

Anonymous said...

Very good advice for ladies who are interested in settling down but at 30 you decide to retire from life..psychologically.step out,look good for you,try to be happy.keep a positive spirit..dont be grumpy.i married at 32.did not miss a heart beat when I crossed 30.i arranged myself and became more attractive..physically and deep inside..The suitors fell over each other..one even went to pay dowry without informing me(lol)..i was 25 at 32...all the best my sister's and friends.

Unknown said...

Gbam!

Anonymous said...

Linda I done tell u say no dey call this guy flamboyant Abeg ..... How is he flamboyant now? Person way no dey anywhere and nobody even know am abi u dey trip for the guy?

olagokearemu said...

Head knowledge.how old is your wife or sister when they marry.this is the type of men that useless girls and pick under 20 as wife

Anonymous said...

true talk..this is me. no makeup.no outing.depressed thanks for this article

Walsmorgan said...

Hello Dr. Adejoro, have u bothered to ask the so called 30+ ladies what they were doing to the suitors at their late twenties. Make dem fade joor.

Unknown said...

Nice one, I love t

Unknown said...

Wow gr8 talk

Anonymous said...

Na Linda u write this thing for?

Anonymous said...

True talk

Unknown said...

Yea dats sooo tru

Unknown said...

That's a good one...oshe

Jojo said...

Me like......:-)

opeade said...

Gbam

Unknown said...

True talk tell them

Anonymous said...

This is so absolutely correct. I am a victim of this pressure and I wish every girl would just concentrate on making herself happy while God bothers on the "Husband" issue.

Anonymous said...

This is so absolutely correct. I am a victim of this pressure and I wish every girl would just concentrate on making herself happy while God bothers on the "Husband" issue.

Unknown said...

i disagree with u

Anonymous said...

Linda you hear? Dey attend functions!

Unknown said...

If I may add to his write ups, I will like to advise our young ladies above 30 not to worry much,just present ur issues to God,trust me he is able to do all things. It is better late than rushing into a relationship that will never give u rest.

......optimalgoal@gmail.com......

Unknown said...

Linda take note! Bitter truth

Anonymous said...

30 is the new 25.. Love Love Love it

Anonymous said...

This article make sense die

Anonymous said...

God Bless you for this

Anonymous said...

Zombie o Zombieee

Anonymous said...

Lindodo Nice. Pls post more of this. Thanks

Anonymous said...

Great

oyin adejo said...

Dapper

Anonymous said...

Babington Boy.. Loool

Anonymous said...

Cute man.

Anonymous said...

I love I love I love. Adejoro thanks for this

Anonymous said...

Story for the Gods..

Anonymous said...

OK now

Anonymous said...

A lot of women especially in Nigeria are scared of the age 30 syndrome. I am happy a professional has spoken out to let women know age is just a number. Have faith in your self. God bless you DOKTOR MOFIN

Anonymous said...

Hope! Thanks

Anonymous said...

Age no be any number.. The younger the better to knack

Anonymous said...

Preach

Anonymous said...

Sociologist of Life

bayo said...

Voice of truth

Anonymous said...

Apt

Anonymous said...

A billion likes! Very nice speech. :)

Anonymous said...

Good Article but very Short.. More content and examples next time

Anonymous said...

Forget Story..

Anonymous said...

Awwwww.. My Insta crush @joroolumofin

Unknown said...

Pls tell dem....dts if dey would listen. ...after all d shakara wen dey a younger they now resort to shiloh and prayer ministries sèekin for husband. ...
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Anonymous said...

Linda u hear? Hope u learnt something from him,

lami said...

Thanks for this.

Anonymous said...

Preach it bro

Anonymous said...

Preshhhhh it

Anonymous said...

Thanks for your words of encouragement dear, well spoken, @least you brought our mind down. Ladies 30 & above take note. #########OTUoCHA

Neymar said...

Well said, thou I wish to get marry b4 I clock 30 sha!b

Anonymous said...

Age is a number. What about single 40 year olds

Unknown said...

Nice one bro. Single ladies, neva lose hope. Ok? Your man is on the way

Unknown said...

U r a good man. At least most ladies out there will be inspired after reading this

elovi said...

True word

Anonymous said...

I agree with him 100%... He hit it right

Anonymous said...

Well written bros

Anonymous said...

Lmaoooo

Anonymous said...

MOFOOOOOOOO!!!

Anonymous said...

419 Article

Anonymous said...

God bless you Mr

Anonymous said...

Downloaded!!

Anonymous said...

Oga thank you.. Dueces!!

Anonymous said...

Mr Wisdom.. Thanks for the words, your page is Interesting too..

Rita said...

When U tell Nigerians u 30 or above the next thing they ask is 4 ur husband and kids. Sad!

Anonymous said...

Dress Code on point Sir

Anonymous said...

Verule said-okooo verule14life@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

Thank you for lifting up my spirit. God bless you!

Anonymous said...

Thank you for lifting up my spirit. God bless you!

PRETTY GIRL said...

Never known this guy before but TWALE!!!! #LOVE&RESPECT is what I have for him....Am in my early 20s going on my mid 20s so i've not exactly experienced all he's said but i can relate to them because I have older sisters,friends and relatives in that age bracket who are still single ...He's obviously someone who is very exposed...Thank you Adejoro for the words of encouragement and you idiots should leave these women alone;Genevieve nnaji,Linda ikeji Etc....They're grown women who know exactly what they want#people need to respect that

mzmaris said...

True

SB said...

Well said

Funto said...

Coughs* coughs* ok now

Anonymous said...

hahahaha..... sadly but true!!!!! iyaoyinda1@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

I am not exactly sure what this individuals credentials are in regards to his analysis in this subject area. As a long standing #ResidentPsychoanalyst on this blog, I would like to hazard a prognosis that women’s inability to retain a drive towards pursuing romance is due to two factors predominantly.
These I would deem...

1) Societal recommendation fatigue...whereby society pressurises young females to conform to certain expectation that demean their own sense of self determination and takes away any ability for them to determine what is suitable for them in regards to their own personal happiness and self fulfilment.

2) Peer Recommendation fatigue... whereby after years of bombardment on subconscious psychosystematic level , a young woman has had herself conditioned into believing that failure to meet certain societal/parental expectations equates to failure in general, that requires her to quit, this is then further confounded by the fact that perhaps some of her friends and peers are being apparently successful in their pursuit and she isn’t, not being capable of replicating said success.

When these factors are confounded, you have a situation where a young woman wars her frustration on her face and her demeanour becomes unattractive to those who she excessively and proactively pursues.

Society needs to stop pressurizing conformity and women need to live according to their desires and predestination.

AQO said...

So on point!!

Jesus is Lord.

Unknown said...

Trrue talk

Anonymous said...

Correct!!!

Wild Child said...

Who is this one trying to be relevant?

Unknown said...

Hmmmmmmm. Obumnemeudeze@gmail.com

Peter said...

good advice. gist.naija@yahoo.com

AZEEZ RIZQAH said...

Ladies above 30 ova to you...
Davido's GF

Unknown said...

Nice one

Unknown said...

Na true ooo dere is one anuty like that in my hood

Unknown said...

Truth to an extent. Obumnemeudeze@gmail.com

Unknown said...

Obumnemeudeze@gmail.com

Unknown said...

God bless you

Unknown said...

God bless you

Unknown said...

God bless you

Anonymous said...

Gbamest...
Nna igi ya...

Anonymous said...

Linda hope u av hrdooooooo.

Anonymous said...

Pls dis idiot shld go and sit down jo

Anonymous said...

i'm 200% guilty of everything. Any married woman that opens her rusted mouth to ask me why i havent married will bring badluck upon herself cos na dem sabi criticize person pass

King Dave Anya said...

Word! Ladies in that category should read this

jbankzE said...

Mmmmm-hmmmm,preach son

~@iamjbankz SA to President Jonathan 2015~

Unknown said...

Nice

Unknown said...

No Comment

*flips hair*

Unknown said...

#truetalk #fact

Anonymous said...

So women above 30 have now become like AIDS patient, we are now preaching against stigmatization , hehehehehe.Nigeria and their I must marry syndrome, even the men sef don they start to dey panic by age 30 make them no give them 14 years on suspicion of gayism, mehn I laugh in Spanish. Nigeria my motherland, which way?

Unknown said...

Linda inan ti? U don hear abi. Ladies over 30 still got the goods so they really should feel confident enough and mingle with guys both below their age likewise those above their age. #ThatArdentLIBe®

Anonymous said...

Well said..

Anonymous said...

This poorly written essay should be directed at everyone. The people who pressure and those who buckle under the pressure should both be reminded that there's life after 30.

umoh Linda said...

Well said bro, God bless u..

Anonymous said...

Haba e don do nah..begi begi..abi d tin don dey touch ur brain make u nor go run mad oh

Anonymous said...

Sorry Mr Psychologist, as a Psychoanalyst, I'd suggest: Firstly don't blame women for a broken society where their self determination is tainted by pressures that demean their existence to mother, wife, child bearer...

I am not exactly sure what this individuals credentials are in regards to his analysis in this subject area. As a long standing #ResidentPsychoanalyst on this blog, I would like to hazard a prognosis that women’s inability to retain a drive towards pursuing romance is due to two factors predominantly.

These I would deem...

1)      Societal recommendation fatigue...whereby society pressurises young females to conform to certain expectation that demean their own sense of self determination and takes away any ability for them to determine what is suitable for them in regards to their own personal happiness and self fulfilment.

 

2)      Peer Recommendation fatigue... whereby after years of bombardment on subconscious psychosystematic  level ,  a young woman has had herself conditioned into believing that failure to meet certain societal/parental expectations equates to failure in general, that requires her to quit, this is then further confounded by the fact that perhaps some of her friends and peers are being apparently successful in their pursuit and she isn’t, not being capable of replicating said success.

 

When these factors are confounded, you have a situation where a young woman wars her frustration on her face and her demeanour becomes unattractive to those who she excessively and proactively pursues.

 

Society needs to stop pressurizing conformity and women need to live according to their desires and predestination.



Anonymous said...

Snap, I just read your piece properly. I have to admit that I had my "I already know what his prognosis will be" spectacles on, so before fully digesting your argument, I had drawn conclusions in the hopes of countering what you wrote, but to my utter embarrassment, I've just realised our arguments are synonymous.

Pardon my premature lapse in judgement and well done on your insight and excellent conveying of a solid argument.

#ResidentPsychoanalyst #BeIlluminated

lolade said...

Nice write up,kind way of encouraging ladies in their thirties.

snowflix said...

Yay! Another hope 4me to smile again hehehehe tot I was off due to my old age hmmm nw I can put myself together and move on 'lol' tnks bro 4d advice you made me stronger 'lmao' #onelovefromSnow#

ary said...

Okay!

Unknown said...

Linda u need to stop promoting this impostor who calls himself a doctor. He read psychology and is NOT a doctor. If people need advice let them visit a real doctor's blog.

Black Anchor 2 said...

Same old shit, old news. next

jummymat@yahoo.com said...

True!

ebonyz... said...

That's true....

Unknown said...

Just like to be heard.

Unknown said...

He tried sha by encouraging dem.

Unknown said...

He said what no govt has told dem.

Unknown said...

Its nice all d same.

Unknown said...

Ladies have u heard. No dey form form wen u see a guy dat is below yur pay grade asking to be a friend

Unknown said...

Hmmm! Nice

Anonymous said...

Very correct!

Tessy Ese. said...

Its all about the money ole pls don't reply cute G.

Tessy Ese. said...

Go and sit down you nagging boy abi man sef.

favourite said...

nice one

Busolami said...

NICE ONE....KEEP IT UP....THE SKY IS YOUR STEPPING STONE

Anonymous said...

You're the one who shd shut da hell up!! Idiot!!!!

Unknown said...

So true. Nice piece.

Ojalosky said...

After doing runs babe and ashawoh,u expect a girl over 30 yrs to marry..hahahaha..Mayb u will be the lucky guy to marry a babe without womb..law of karma,what goes up must come down..

charlzdoxzy@yahoo.com

Unknown said...

Nice piece

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