Letter To The Ladies Volume 5. (Because you're 30 and single doesn't mean you should throw in the Towel) - written by Flamboyant Psychologist Adejoro Olumofin
As a result of the pressure from friends, family and close associates, when some ladies reach age 30 and there are no visible suitors in sight, they develop some Personality Traits or Defense Mechanisms which may not be in their best interest because they conform to societal views and build a mindset that makes them see less of themselves like they think society does. They then believe there's little or no hope at all for them anymore and they are emotionally tired of making themselves available to potentials..
For example they stop going out totally, stop bothering
about their makeup or fashion acumen, they say things like " I'm too old
to do this, I'm too old to attend this function / event" or too old to
go to the club, looking down on every guy who may not be their
preference because they have achieved alot at their age and some guys
may not meet their standard or pay grade and all other excuses.
What they don't know is that by staying indoors and saying
i'm too old for this and that, or being overly picky, they lose out on
chances to network and socialise so how will they meet people or even
Mr. Right? If you're interested in settling down, no guy will break
into your house to court you.
From my first hand experience, i have some lady friends who
are 30 years old and above who still look smashing and stunning and
also give 21 year old Ladies a run for their money, they also have
loads of potentials and suitors.These ladies have not allowed the " 30
year Old syndrome" and societal pressure get to them, rather they are
living gracefully while trusting in God.
Ladies, If you don't see the good in yourself or your
potentials, no one will. Say no to the societal pressure and live life
rather than get broken.
You wont overcome this phase if you're emotionally broken.
You wont overcome this phase if you're emotionally broken.
Lets encourage our sisters and friends dealing with this
"Pressure" because society and its norms are not too friendly towards
them.
In my opinion 30 is the new 25 and age is just a number and
state of mind. The way you carry yourself emotionally, physically,
spiritually and Psychologically determine how a guy will treat you not
your age.
#DoktorMofin #Psychology #Volume5
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391 comments:
«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 391 of 391Nice writeup. Ladies should individually give strict adherence to this and finally, put God first. MC BABA OLOYE SAYS SO. EGUEBEDAVID@GMAIL.COM
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Words of encouragement for the Mamas out there.. LOL!!
Ok I am very impressed....since I moved back to Naija, the look I get for being 31,unmarried and attending functions is unreal!
I won't mind smashin dis guy.
Honestly when I saw this write up, I thought it was going to attack the person of age 30 and above but I like it. Very encouraging. Thanks Adejoro
Encouraging write up. God bless
Hmmmmmmm it's not really much of a gud right up to me, ppl should just stop emphasising on dis marriage before 30 abeg
cuteeeeeeee
Good Job.
He is indeed a flamboyant psychologist. Never seen a fashion conscious one. I totally agree with what he said
Plz remind d choozy ones that there are only 2 saturdays remaining in 2014...
Linda how u take see am with all the fan Base that keeps commenting on go marry.... Meanwhile they don't let us rest at home because we are not married....
Plus society sef make it seem like married ppl are better of and more respectable
Plz is he blind? wats up with dis shade syndrome abeg
Linda how u take see am with all the fan Base that keeps commenting on go marry.... Meanwhile they don't let us rest at home because we are not married....
Plus society sef make it seem like married ppl are better of and more respectable
Oya o,ndi thirty hear n do....pheww,anytin more exciting?
Ok imma follow u right away.... Enough!
Very true. Nice one bro.
Yes deir u r right o! But @times one needs to respect her age n not do some certin things lol
Aiit
Amakadarlyn@yahoo.com
More Positives please.. Lift women up unlike saying pot belly issue
Gbammmm!!
Gbamest
I don't like dis dude..
Datz a good boost for deir self-esteem. Linda are u among dis category! Lolz
Can't read this now
Well done....He suppose visit the topic of men intimidated by we 30 something and successful ladies sha, that's y they don't date us
Ok, tnx. Very true oooo!
Dts a very good advice sir, ladies take ur time nd dnt be pushed by societal pressure God's time is d best
Hmmmm tell dis to the african mothers
The part they play in all dis ehnnn
Anyways me still dey frosh in my 20's
Article nt for me
Bravo
I'm impressed. And 2 think that I didn't even want 2 open this. Is this the same guy that wrote 1 shitty article about pot belly the other time. Wow!! He really has stepped his game up nw hasn't he? Keep it up man ----C21
Very true.I like this guy.
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^™THAT EDOBOY.COM~
Very true I like this guy.
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Linda,dis is 4 u......ur own suitor will come,just keep being u.
Seen!!!!!
Linda u are inclusive in this write up....don't let ur age weigh u down be courageous okay n also don't let ur achievements make u feel u have arrived n u HV got all d money n comfort...one day ur Mr right WL definitely locate u
I dnt have much to say but all I have to say is tank u very much 4 ds relive
WAt. A lovely message.......
This sounds too drake jor.lol Well said, oya ladies free yaself from yaself.
Well said Mister
He is right!
Thank you very much, you just lifted my spirit wit this article.
Am nt in a relatioship and am nt 30 yet,but sometimes so. Alone and nt interested in aTtendin events like he. Just said....am dis evenin am holdd onto dis words of encouragement.thanks Dude.
So damn right
I have never commented on linda ikeji buy on this post, I agree totally with this guy. Especially the last sentence.
Well said
I agree with Adejoro.
Women are their own worst enemies. You should hear women tearing each other down. Would you prefer married and miserable?
Nothing is as sexy as a confident man or woman (I no tok arrogant o).
Dis wizkid wanna be should stop fooling himself thinking hour knows everything, and should focus on being a model. Apparently.
Spot on mate, always telling some of my friends who's above 30s to calm down, no rush in life u will get ur man..
gud one. linda shey you hear too?relax and continue flexxing
WAt. A lovely message.......
Linda...haff u heard....change that ur everyday hairstyle...leave that ur black gate alone,be more daring and adventurous,wear things above ur knee...u have great legs...club once in a while...biko...I want to read about ur wedding...get a few tips from Laura Ikeji...but dont go over the top like her o....lolz....NB: That ur sister na kolo sha...shes fun to watch on instagram....pls tell her to follow me back @hauwa_okpanachi.
Yes o... this is so true. Once a lady is up to 30 and not married, pple will be like "when are u getting married now"
Mumsy will be like "what are u still waiting for"
And if u attend a friend's wedding, they'll be like "when are we going to buy ur own asoebi"
It happened to someone I know wen 2 of her younger ones got married and she didn't
Am sure linda has bn under this presure too. Many LIBers always telling her to get married.
#awomanslife#
Goodevening Linda,
Compliments of the Season. I do not intend this to be publicly posted as a comment since is intended for you. I am Njoku .T. Chidiebere, in the least, an ardent follower of your blog since Youth Service days in 2012 and must confess that I have become almost addicted.
Moving forward however, I will appreciate a kind gesture from you. I have been the beneficiary of unmerited grace, my foster mother has toiled to send me through graduate and postgraduate education, financed by earnings during her banking days. While working she selflessly used her personal money to offer free medical care to thousands, thereby bringing back many from the brink of death.
At this point in time, being a believer in the impossible, she has thrown herself in to contest for House of Representative in Surulere Constituency 1, truth however is that we are driven by the possibility of the impossible occurring. We are dime-less that we can not even print posters, yet we sail on, transiting from banking to private practice has had its fair share of challenges.But I must say that we are not in this for personal gains. I will appreciate if you can give us a glimmer of hope by putting up our banner on your blog, even if its for a day. My email address is njokutc@gmail.com.(08163597030) any enquiries you may need will be gladly provided. Thank you so much in anticipation for a positive response.
Linda is it true? #SeunLondon
Yea nice words!!!!
Thank you for the encouragement.
Linda God wee giv u ur own Man..Amen n me tew ooo,its not easy
Linda you hear!!! Lol
Very good advice for ladies who are interested in settling down but at 30 you decide to retire from life..psychologically.step out,look good for you,try to be happy.keep a positive spirit..dont be grumpy.i married at 32.did not miss a heart beat when I crossed 30.i arranged myself and became more attractive..physically and deep inside..The suitors fell over each other..one even went to pay dowry without informing me(lol)..i was 25 at 32...all the best my sister's and friends.
Gbam!
Linda I done tell u say no dey call this guy flamboyant Abeg ..... How is he flamboyant now? Person way no dey anywhere and nobody even know am abi u dey trip for the guy?
Head knowledge.how old is your wife or sister when they marry.this is the type of men that useless girls and pick under 20 as wife
true talk..this is me. no makeup.no outing.depressed thanks for this article
Hello Dr. Adejoro, have u bothered to ask the so called 30+ ladies what they were doing to the suitors at their late twenties. Make dem fade joor.
Nice one, I love t
Wow gr8 talk
Na Linda u write this thing for?
True talk
Yea dats sooo tru
That's a good one...oshe
Me like......:-)
Gbam
True talk tell them
This is so absolutely correct. I am a victim of this pressure and I wish every girl would just concentrate on making herself happy while God bothers on the "Husband" issue.
This is so absolutely correct. I am a victim of this pressure and I wish every girl would just concentrate on making herself happy while God bothers on the "Husband" issue.
i disagree with u
Linda you hear? Dey attend functions!
If I may add to his write ups, I will like to advise our young ladies above 30 not to worry much,just present ur issues to God,trust me he is able to do all things. It is better late than rushing into a relationship that will never give u rest.
......optimalgoal@gmail.com......
Linda take note! Bitter truth
30 is the new 25.. Love Love Love it
This article make sense die
God Bless you for this
Zombie o Zombieee
Lindodo Nice. Pls post more of this. Thanks
Great
Dapper
Babington Boy.. Loool
Cute man.
I love I love I love. Adejoro thanks for this
Story for the Gods..
OK now
A lot of women especially in Nigeria are scared of the age 30 syndrome. I am happy a professional has spoken out to let women know age is just a number. Have faith in your self. God bless you DOKTOR MOFIN
Hope! Thanks
Age no be any number.. The younger the better to knack
Preach
Sociologist of Life
Voice of truth
Apt
A billion likes! Very nice speech. :)
Good Article but very Short.. More content and examples next time
Forget Story..
Awwwww.. My Insta crush @joroolumofin
Pls tell dem....dts if dey would listen. ...after all d shakara wen dey a younger they now resort to shiloh and prayer ministries sèekin for husband. ...
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Uwa umunwayi gwuru ike shaa
Linda u hear? Hope u learnt something from him,
Thanks for this.
Preach it bro
Preshhhhh it
Thanks for your words of encouragement dear, well spoken, @least you brought our mind down. Ladies 30 & above take note. #########OTUoCHA
Well said, thou I wish to get marry b4 I clock 30 sha!b
Age is a number. What about single 40 year olds
Nice one bro. Single ladies, neva lose hope. Ok? Your man is on the way
U r a good man. At least most ladies out there will be inspired after reading this
True word
I agree with him 100%... He hit it right
Well written bros
Lmaoooo
MOFOOOOOOOO!!!
419 Article
God bless you Mr
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Oga thank you.. Dueces!!
Mr Wisdom.. Thanks for the words, your page is Interesting too..
When U tell Nigerians u 30 or above the next thing they ask is 4 ur husband and kids. Sad!
Dress Code on point Sir
Verule said-okooo verule14life@gmail.com
Thank you for lifting up my spirit. God bless you!
Thank you for lifting up my spirit. God bless you!
Never known this guy before but TWALE!!!! #LOVE&RESPECT is what I have for him....Am in my early 20s going on my mid 20s so i've not exactly experienced all he's said but i can relate to them because I have older sisters,friends and relatives in that age bracket who are still single ...He's obviously someone who is very exposed...Thank you Adejoro for the words of encouragement and you idiots should leave these women alone;Genevieve nnaji,Linda ikeji Etc....They're grown women who know exactly what they want#people need to respect that
True
Well said
Coughs* coughs* ok now
hahahaha..... sadly but true!!!!! iyaoyinda1@yahoo.com
I am not exactly sure what this individuals credentials are in regards to his analysis in this subject area. As a long standing #ResidentPsychoanalyst on this blog, I would like to hazard a prognosis that women’s inability to retain a drive towards pursuing romance is due to two factors predominantly.
These I would deem...
1) Societal recommendation fatigue...whereby society pressurises young females to conform to certain expectation that demean their own sense of self determination and takes away any ability for them to determine what is suitable for them in regards to their own personal happiness and self fulfilment.
2) Peer Recommendation fatigue... whereby after years of bombardment on subconscious psychosystematic level , a young woman has had herself conditioned into believing that failure to meet certain societal/parental expectations equates to failure in general, that requires her to quit, this is then further confounded by the fact that perhaps some of her friends and peers are being apparently successful in their pursuit and she isn’t, not being capable of replicating said success.
When these factors are confounded, you have a situation where a young woman wars her frustration on her face and her demeanour becomes unattractive to those who she excessively and proactively pursues.
Society needs to stop pressurizing conformity and women need to live according to their desires and predestination.
So on point!!
Jesus is Lord.
Trrue talk
Correct!!!
Who is this one trying to be relevant?
Hmmmmmmm. Obumnemeudeze@gmail.com
good advice. gist.naija@yahoo.com
Ladies above 30 ova to you...
Davido's GF
Nice one
Na true ooo dere is one anuty like that in my hood
Truth to an extent. Obumnemeudeze@gmail.com
Obumnemeudeze@gmail.com
God bless you
God bless you
God bless you
Gbamest...
Nna igi ya...
Linda hope u av hrdooooooo.
Pls dis idiot shld go and sit down jo
i'm 200% guilty of everything. Any married woman that opens her rusted mouth to ask me why i havent married will bring badluck upon herself cos na dem sabi criticize person pass
Word! Ladies in that category should read this
Mmmmm-hmmmm,preach son
~@iamjbankz SA to President Jonathan 2015~
Nice
No Comment
*flips hair*
#truetalk #fact
So women above 30 have now become like AIDS patient, we are now preaching against stigmatization , hehehehehe.Nigeria and their I must marry syndrome, even the men sef don they start to dey panic by age 30 make them no give them 14 years on suspicion of gayism, mehn I laugh in Spanish. Nigeria my motherland, which way?
Linda inan ti? U don hear abi. Ladies over 30 still got the goods so they really should feel confident enough and mingle with guys both below their age likewise those above their age. #ThatArdentLIBe®
Well said..
This poorly written essay should be directed at everyone. The people who pressure and those who buckle under the pressure should both be reminded that there's life after 30.
Well said bro, God bless u..
Haba e don do nah..begi begi..abi d tin don dey touch ur brain make u nor go run mad oh
Sorry Mr Psychologist, as a Psychoanalyst, I'd suggest: Firstly don't blame women for a broken society where their self determination is tainted by pressures that demean their existence to mother, wife, child bearer...
I am not exactly sure what this individuals credentials are in regards to his analysis in this subject area. As a long standing #ResidentPsychoanalyst on this blog, I would like to hazard a prognosis that women’s inability to retain a drive towards pursuing romance is due to two factors predominantly.
These I would deem...
1) Societal recommendation fatigue...whereby society pressurises young females to conform to certain expectation that demean their own sense of self determination and takes away any ability for them to determine what is suitable for them in regards to their own personal happiness and self fulfilment.
2) Peer Recommendation fatigue... whereby after years of bombardment on subconscious psychosystematic level , a young woman has had herself conditioned into believing that failure to meet certain societal/parental expectations equates to failure in general, that requires her to quit, this is then further confounded by the fact that perhaps some of her friends and peers are being apparently successful in their pursuit and she isn’t, not being capable of replicating said success.
When these factors are confounded, you have a situation where a young woman wars her frustration on her face and her demeanour becomes unattractive to those who she excessively and proactively pursues.
Society needs to stop pressurizing conformity and women need to live according to their desires and predestination.
Snap, I just read your piece properly. I have to admit that I had my "I already know what his prognosis will be" spectacles on, so before fully digesting your argument, I had drawn conclusions in the hopes of countering what you wrote, but to my utter embarrassment, I've just realised our arguments are synonymous.
Pardon my premature lapse in judgement and well done on your insight and excellent conveying of a solid argument.
#ResidentPsychoanalyst #BeIlluminated
Nice write up,kind way of encouraging ladies in their thirties.
Yay! Another hope 4me to smile again hehehehe tot I was off due to my old age hmmm nw I can put myself together and move on 'lol' tnks bro 4d advice you made me stronger 'lmao' #onelovefromSnow#
Okay!
Linda u need to stop promoting this impostor who calls himself a doctor. He read psychology and is NOT a doctor. If people need advice let them visit a real doctor's blog.
Same old shit, old news. next
True!
That's true....
Just like to be heard.
He tried sha by encouraging dem.
He said what no govt has told dem.
Its nice all d same.
Ladies have u heard. No dey form form wen u see a guy dat is below yur pay grade asking to be a friend
Hmmm! Nice
Very correct!
Its all about the money ole pls don't reply cute G.
Go and sit down you nagging boy abi man sef.
nice one
NICE ONE....KEEP IT UP....THE SKY IS YOUR STEPPING STONE
You're the one who shd shut da hell up!! Idiot!!!!
So true. Nice piece.
After doing runs babe and ashawoh,u expect a girl over 30 yrs to marry..hahahaha..Mayb u will be the lucky guy to marry a babe without womb..law of karma,what goes up must come down..
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