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Wednesday, 17 December 2014

Flamboyant Psychologist Adejoro Olumofin writes to Single Ladies above age 30

Letter To The Ladies Volume 5. (Because you're 30 and single doesn't mean you should throw in the Towel) - written by Flamboyant Psychologist Adejoro Olumofin
As a result of the pressure from friends, family and close associates, when some ladies reach age 30 and there are no visible suitors in sight, they develop some Personality Traits or Defense Mechanisms which may not be in their best interest because they conform to societal views and build a mindset that makes them see less of themselves like they think society does. They then believe there's little or no hope at all for them anymore and they are emotionally tired of making themselves available to potentials..
For example they stop going out totally, stop bothering about their makeup or fashion acumen, they say things like " I'm too old to do this, I'm too old to attend this function / event" or too old to go to the club, looking down on every guy who may not be their preference because they have achieved alot at their age and some guys may not meet their standard or pay grade and all other excuses.
What they don't know is that by staying indoors and saying i'm too old for this and that, or being overly picky, they lose out on chances to network and socialise so how will they meet people or even Mr. Right?  If you're interested in settling down, no guy will break into your house to court you.
From my first hand experience, i have some lady friends who are 30 years old and above who still look smashing and stunning and also give  21 year old Ladies a run for their money, they also have loads of potentials and suitors.These ladies have not allowed the " 30 year Old syndrome" and societal pressure get to them, rather they are living gracefully while trusting in God. 

Ladies, If you don't see the good in yourself or your potentials, no one will. Say no to the societal pressure and live life rather than get broken.
You wont overcome this phase if you're emotionally broken. 

Lets encourage our sisters and friends dealing with this "Pressure" because society and its norms are not too friendly towards them. 

In my opinion 30 is the new 25 and age is just a number and state of mind. The way you carry yourself emotionally,  physically,  spiritually and Psychologically determine how a guy will treat you not your age.

#DoktorMofin #Psychology #Volume5
Read more articles on Adejoro Olumofins instagram page : @joroolumofin

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Unknown said...

he shld go and keeep quiet abeg...

Anonymous said...

hmmm nice

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Ceeflo said...

Beautiful stuff, the shrink has spoken

Anonymous said...

true

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Unknown said...

Gud one

Unknown said...

He is just a great talker

DORO CLASSY said...

Das true...... #DORO CLASSY#

susu cossy said...

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Anonymous said...

nice1

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Unknown said...

Abi ooooo tru talk

Cellen said...

Hear! Hear!

Unknown said...

Ok..ati gbo

Vivian Gills said...

you are right my brova

Unknown said...

Yes oooo 9ce one bro. Ladies the guy don talk oooo n he make enough sense

Unknown said...

just to say hi to u Cute G

reply me back if u care

jaybeyblu said...

Have to thank you Linda for not including moses smth smth in ur give away! * wiping perspiration *

Unknown said...

Gbammmm.. u don knack am already.. #trueTalk

Unknown said...

God's time is the best. Hmconcept2000@gmail.com

Unknown said...

on point...


#GodblessNigeria

Unknown said...

God's time is the best. Hmconcept2000@gmail.com

Unknown said...

[Image][Image] Letter To The Ladies Volume 5.
(Because you're 30 and single doesn't mean you
should throw in the Towel) - written by
Flamboyant Psychologist Adejoro Olumofin As a
result of the pressure from friends, family and
close associates, when some ladies reach age 30
and there are no visible suitors in sight, they
develop some Personality Traits or Defense
Mechanisms which may not be in their best
interest because they conform to societal views
and build a mindset that makes them see less of
themselves like they think society does. They then
believe there's little or no hope at all for them
anymore and they are emotionally tired of making
themselves available to potentials.. [Image] For
example they stop going out totally, stop
bothering about their makeup or fashion acumen,
they say things like " I'm too old to do this, I'm
too old to attend this function / event" or too old
to go to the club, looking down on every guy who
may not be their preference because they have
achieved alot at their age and some guys may not
meet their standard or pay grade and all other
excuses. What they don't know is that by staying
indoors and saying i'm too old for this and that,
or being overly picky, they lose out on chances to
network and socialise so how will they meet
people or even Mr. Right? If you're interested in
settling down, no guy will break into your house
to court you. From my first hand experience, i
have some lady friends who are 30 years old and
above who still look smashing and stunning and
also give 21 year old Ladies a run for their
money, they also have loads of potentials and
suitors.These ladies have not allowed the " 30
year Old syndrome" and societal pressure get to
them, rather they are living gracefully while
trusting in God.
Ladies, If you don't see the good in yourself or
your potentials, no one will. Say no to the societal
pressure and live life rather than get broken.
You wont overcome this phase if you're
emotionally broken.
Lets encourage our sisters and friends dealing
with this "Pressure" because society and its
norms are not too friendly towards them.
In my opinion 30 is the new 25 and age is just a
number and state of mind. The way you carry
yourself emotionally, physically, spiritually and
Psychologically determine how a guy will treat
you not your age.
#DoktorMofin #Psychology #Volume5

Unknown said...

Point blank

Ochuko Arhiakpore said...

Guy,u need a better career.This is a sticky shit

BIG BROTHER SAYS SO

susu cossy said...

u don marry?ozeisusan497@gmail.com

fhummie said...

I totally agree..
Dats y I luv Linda... shes chopping life... God will bless all my single friends and sister with d bone of their bone... Amen!

fhummie3@yahoo.com

CHERRY said...

Nice!

Unknown said...

ok seen clearly

Crystal said...

This doesn't apply to all ladies above 30 o. Yeah, age is a number.

Mr nice guy said...

Hmmm sorta deep


@lwkmd_naija

knowurway.com said...

Ok noted.Good evening Linda, please I was left out last year on LIB Giveaway, people like Bonario NNAGS VIA NOKIA 3310, now NOKIA LUMIA, and Onyx Godwin, and the rest of LIB here, them alloy chikezie, Bishop Dammy, and some of the LIB here are new here, the prince was also left out, and there was anonymous woman who burnt her food why she was commenting here on this blog last year, so I don't want to be left out dis year oh, I was among the people who thank u for the house u build for ur parents last year, and there was a guy who wanted google to block ur blog accnt even when google latter block ur blog accnt I was not happy about it @all, there was a time u and (olamide Y B N) hard misunderstanding that his expecting baby from his long time girl friend, I was here using Swagg isimemen to comment here, it was latter I start using google accnt to comment here, to u to no that I have been ur follower for 2 years and half now. But if i am short-listed among LIB this year again I won't be happy with u @all and i'll continue to disturb u until u give me my own LIB giveaway. Bobbyferafavorirabo@gmail.com

Unknown said...

On point, you shouldn't stop looking good cos you re 30, and also people should stop putting pressure on them to avoid desperation

khemorah said...

Preach!

Neks said...

>>>>> well written Olu,. <<<<<

Unknown said...

9ic 1 jare bro tell dem

Unknown said...

na tru yan oh chai tnk God say i be man

Unknown said...

While said bro

Bosslady said...

Thank you... Quiet encouraging!

Princess G said...

Attention seeker. Abeg take several sit back. All the ones them they preach since them no hear, na ur own them go hear.

Unknown said...

Its nt dia fault.....pple nparents made it so....wonder if de expect dem to kneel b4 a guy and ask will umarry me? Low mentality bu ihe anyi na aya

Unknown said...

gud

Alloy Chikezie said...

And sometimes at age 30 they so much under pressure they make lots of mistake like falling for anything and any guy. ladies should learn not to make marriage a priority it will help them cope under societal pressures.


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Bishop Dammy said...

Can't thank you enough Miss Linda! You are a blessing! 2015 will be a prosperous year for you..you shall be celebrated worldwide. Thanks a lot. Psalm 1:3. 3john 2. BishopDammy#

Daralohi said...

Nice one.


Miss indomie says so.

Unknown said...

kudos bro

Unknown said...

This is good bro keep it up.
And our ladies its up to u. While we guys don't look down on our self

@MEETD®EALEVANS™ said...

Linda d heading of DAT article shud av been "Flamboyant phycologist writes to Linda Ikeji" winks








#BuhariOsibajo42015 #itcanonlygetbetter

Unknown said...

First of all y should marriage b d ultimate aspiration of women? Mtcheww

Iam Simeon said...

Hmmm,keep encouraging them,but,it's not easy for them I must tell you.#NoLongYarnin

Princess G said...

Oya naw pick one of the 30's off the street, wenti u dey wait for to marry. Mtwwwwwww

Unknown said...

Gud one.Ladies wake up 30 or above should not lead u to despair.

Unknown said...

Nice, thumb up

Ucee said...

Thanx for ur word of encouragment

Unknown said...

Nice one

Mz CIA said...

Hmmmmnnn. Nice one. Cia_olamide12@yahoo.com

Unknown said...

Linda,Hope say u don hear.U beta do something fast

Everything Rosham said...

hmmmm!!! SIngle Ladies above 30

Anonymous said...

I don't care to read the epistle now but he need heal his low self esteem of always wearing sun glasses even when there is no sunshine or indoor.

Unknown said...

tell dem all

Unknown said...

Well composed, well written, well analysed, and well emphasised. Wish people will read these and understand it like it is not lash out @ the writer. Best article so far. »»»QU££NMA¥A»»»

Princess Chinasa Ukaegbu said...

Linda did I snatch your boyfriend? Why are you not approving my comments?

The Posh Yoruba said...

30 is old?

Richard said...

Well said my brother.

finest loves Bloglord😍 said...

So true nigga,btw linda u chose well in ur giveawy,am nt licking urr ass. Bt u'rre a nice person,tnks on behalf of d receivers hope to win someday as I have never been lucky

Unknown said...

some of dem go de put there self on tinkin asif dats d end of life n dem


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Unknown said...

seen

Unknown said...

He's sure right

Unknown said...

kk correct

NaijaDeltaBabe said...

He shld marry dem all na

Unknown said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
.
Linda i hope say yu dey collect ur money bcos the rate wey yu dey advertise this guy here dey fear me o..... Lolx.....
*GLO BRING 3G TO KONTAGORA*
.
.
***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

warri lawyer said...

I concur jor...
They always justify dier introvacy wt being too old.

Vikkyj said...

Nice word of encouragement. Ladies either pretty or beautiful don't be pressured and same apply for men

Bonita Bislam said...

Well written

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Same-old same-old.
Lindiway he's a psychologist, he's a psychologist not different from those with office at Yaba left, adding flamboyant doesn't change the output.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

Unknown said...

coorect man

Unknown said...

correct man

Unknown said...

correct man

Unknown said...

correct man tell dem abeg

Anonymous said...

YARN!!!

Uche Emma said...


And what is this one saying?

Anonymous said...

Thank you 4 dis advice.

Unknown said...

Aunty linda am so happy i finally get to comment on your blog. pleaaaaase post my comment. am an ardent LIB reader n i hv bin trying so hard to post a comment n i dont get to see it. i hope it appears this time. n a quick one i will also like to participate in the LIB give away. *wink* isioma.rosemary@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

Abeg wetin this one they yarn...commot for road jor aboki

Jay said...

True talk my brother.lol @ "no one will break into ur house to court u"

xquisite said...

Word! Nigerians be obsessing over marriage and age. Wrong marriage can destroy lot of fins. People divorcing anyhow, God said it in d Bible that He hates divorce Malachi 2:16 (NLT). Children frm broken homes if care is nt taken re affected psychologically.

Unknown said...

On point

Unknown said...

True talk tosinasisat@yahoo.co.uk

Anonymous said...

This one is just advertising himself

Unknown said...

"living gracefully while trusting in God..... I love dat

9janownow said...

I agree with you man, I had an experience recently myself. This lady just boxed up herself, she was just suspicious of everything. Even when I made honest compliments, she felt there was more to it. I moved on.

Unknown said...

Well said.

Unknown said...

Correct my brother.

Unknown said...

I DONT NEED TO READ IT SINCE ITS FOR 30 ND ABOVE

cy said...

My fellow colleague in behaviour therapy

Anonymous said...

Letter to linda biko... INDIGENOUS LIB... V_okunola@yahoo.com 2015 is your year

Unknown said...

Well said bros, preach on

Juleslouis said...

True talk. The first step to success is loving yourself. 30, 50 whatever d age, have fun and stop comparing υ̲̣̥r̲̅ lives with others.

Anonymous said...

Nice article

Anonymous said...

Congrats Adejoro. I always knew you will be heard.

Anonymous said...

thanks Adejoro, you spoke well

Unknown said...

well said...Adejoro Olumofin

Bode Badmus said...

Mr Suit

Anonymous said...

Lovely Content

Anonymous said...

He makes real sense

Anonymous said...

Na Prayer sure pass

Anonymous said...

Why does everything have to be about wedding in Nigeria? Abeg

Chidinma Grace said...

Very truthful n intelligent write up. Love that.

Anonymous said...

Correct , I agree with him

PHINITE said...

Roger that!

Unknown said...

True talk

Unknown said...

linda hav u heard?stop dat excuse of am nt d makeup kinda person,cud remeber u said dat d last time u tuk ur siblings and dad 2 dubai,look gud even at home,well stil talkin 2 my self doh

Anonymous said...

A Lady should make herself seen.. This is very valid

Anonymous said...

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Unknown said...

pls tell them. pls women he is right, I've seen lots of women act like dat. u are above 30doesn't mean ur life is over. men are still there who would want to marry u. even if they don't, there is no crime against not being married. people will talk in all u do. because of the fear of beibg single, most women stay in violent marriages. where domestic violence is met out to them. pls women appreciate urselves cos God appreciates u.

Anonymous said...

Lol.. This guy from Instagram.

Anonymous said...

Linda I won win money abeg.. I don comment oooo..

Unknown said...

For as long as you don't wear artificial eye lashes, have stretch marks, uneducated , I'm very okay with over 30 year Olds coz I don't want more than two kids. And yes, for as long as you are not an every day church goer as well

JULIET said...

I WISH DERE WAS A LIKE BUTTON COS I LOVE DIS ARTICLE

Unknown said...

True

Anonymous said...

Well done Adejoro

destinysweet said...

Aunty Linda dis message is for u,plz be going out more often.hire more hands to help u wit ur job...And stop saying u re too old for some certain things



Auntylindagoddaughter

Anonymous said...

True talk Doc., life starts @ 30

Olami said...

True talk. The Lord is our strength.

mamma mia luv said...

E make sense small!

yawanow said...

Who is this guy.
Linda im in love.
He has said it all.
Im not 30 but the pressures frm family and friends is alarming. Marriage is not a child's play coz if u rush in without looking, d next tin is to rush out.

Im living my life and trusting in God. All ladies should pls do d same.

Blog It With Olivia said...

Ewwwwww
Am so in love with this man, he said it all....
To the Ladies, if ur approaching late twenties or early Thirties,,,,pls don't allow pressure from family, friends or societies to push u into desparate mood....
Or u start looking down on urself, its not worth it
No matter what, stiil rock in ur world, go out to nice places where u'd get to see nice guys, socialise with ppl αи∂ don't look down on urself
Inferiority complex is very bad, don't say ur now too old or fat or whatever....
Just believe in God, pray fervently αи∂ above all good character counts too.....

Blog It With Olivia said...

Ewwwwww
Am so in love with this man, he said it all....
To the Ladies, if ur approaching late twenties or early Thirties,,,,pls don't allow pressure from family, friends or societies to push u into desparate mood....
Or u start looking down on urself, its not worth it
No matter what, stiil rock in ur world, go out to nice places where u'd get to see nice guys, socialise with ppl αи∂ don't look down on urself
Inferiority complex is very bad, don't say ur now too old or fat or whatever....
Just believe in God, pray fervently αи∂ above all good character counts too.....

bimsoty said...

Love u jare


bimsoty@yahoo.com

bimsoty said...

Love u jare


bimsoty@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

Abeg what were these women doing that they ended up 30 and single..

Blog It With Olivia said...

Ewwwwww
Am so in love with this man, he said it all....
To the Ladies, if ur approaching late twenties or early Thirties,,,,pls don't allow pressure from family, friends or societies to push u into desparate mood....
Or u start looking down on urself, its not worth it
No matter what, stiil rock in ur world, go out to nice places where u'd get to see nice guys, socialise with ppl αи∂ don't look down on urself
Inferiority complex is very bad, don't say ur now too old or fat or whatever....
Just believe in God, pray fervently αи∂ above all good character counts too.....

Amaka.u.l. said...

True talk.

Blaq said...

Yes dress how u want to be addressed and perceived but I want to know is if he is single biko linda help a lady out

Anonymous said...

Nice one dere!! Yemightbabe@yahoo.com

Unknown said...

His P

Unknown said...

good read. Say no to societal/family pressure. Being married doesnt giarantee true happiness. THE LORD IS MY STRENGTH

Unknown said...

U said it all.... thanks for encouraging a soul out there

Jules said...

Well said...

Chynell said...

This guy sha. Doin fyn boy no pimple wen pimples dey o *strollsaway*
#chynell#

Anonymous said...

This fellow has now wasted 150,000 in total on these posts he sends to Linda.

Thankfully we've all met people who actually know what they are talking about when it comes to human psycology.

Please Please face your Onod Politics and stop adding to the issues people have.

P.S: I am not 30, or close to 30, but i find this articul offensive.

Anonymous said...

Nicee

Anonymous said...

Lmaooooo.. Cool Story

theaccountant said...

On point. Some women once they are 30 and above the next level is.....am a born again Christian. She will join the choir, join youth fellowship, join this and that and her social life will become zero.

yemisi Z10 said...

Confirm

Yemisiolusola33@yahoo.com

Yemisi Z10 says so

Unknown said...

Hmmmm dats good

Unknown said...

Nice one wunmiomo1992@yahoo.com

APPLE said...

Very true.

Anonymous said...

Finally a good article..

Unknown said...

Linda please stop promoting this impostor who calls himself a doctor. He read psychology and is NOT a Doctor. If people need advice let them visit a real doctor'a blog.

Anonymous said...

Thanks alot.....

Anonymous said...

Shooo.. How 30 year old woman go dey picky again.. Na Okada rider sure pass for u

Anonymous said...

Senior Joro.. Bmjs repping! I see you

Anonymous said...

Nice read. Very apt

Anonymous said...

This guy vain shaaaaa

Horpe said...

oga ju

Unknown said...

My dr.....true talk,e no easy, many done die cuz of am,easier said dan done, i pray d lord empower us all to ovacome situations at hand

Anonymous said...

True 30 women and above think age 30 age is suicide. You can marry after 30 and be Happy

Anonymous said...

Mr Doktor Mofin advice yourself na

Unknown said...

Well said.

wale said...

Age is just a number.

Unknown said...

dem don hear.

Anonymous said...

Ashewo 2 kobo

Unknown said...

ODODO ORO..AKA..NEXT

Unknown said...

Women Affairs Adviser...lolz

fashanu Blessing said...

So true, Nice 1

Unknown said...

Good advice

Anonymous said...

Fresh Dude with Brains. Please Linda post more of this.

Anonymous said...

Dead

Ngozi Obu said...

I love the Snap back. Please Dr or is Psychologist. Letme have one please.

Anonymous said...

just what i need to read,thanks alot.

Anonymous said...

Lmaoo!! Make guy break into your house toast you na. Oshiiiiii

Anonymous said...

just what i need to read,thanks alot.

Anonymous said...

well said. age is just a number ooooo

Subomi said...

make sense... Dont know who ask him though

joyce Edun said...

I am 29 and single, I am scared of hitting age 30 but after this article. I feel so confident. Nice read

Unknown said...

valid point made! i hope the ladies in that age bracket read,learn and change.

Oladimeji said...

Him try.

Unknown said...

Gbam

Anonymous said...

Oh wow.. This guys articles on instagram make sense. Too many pictures sha.. Nigga chill

Unknown said...

True talk, even at 24years ther is pressure from your faily .i mean like really?

barbie said...

Nice one

Anonymous said...

Make we here word..

Anonymous said...

My Joro my Instagram Crush. Winks

Nonny said...

Nice piece, I tink I agree wit him on dis one

Unknown said...

he's saying the truth.

Anonymous said...

Too much Grammar.. We no say u go skol.. Shiooo

MADE IN NIGERIA said...

Nicely Written

Anonymous said...

Happy for you Man. More Salt to your rice

khalan said...

Nice piece man---thumbs-up

Annie said...

Word!

Unknown said...

U ve said it all #DoktorMofin..wld like to read more from u soon....#Django

Unknown said...
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Anonymous said...

This Stereotype and Pressure is so real.. Competition is too much in Lagos abeg.

nance said...

I have a question, is he married?

gbemsco said...

It makes sense

johnplanet said...

Who is he?
*
*
Niqquhz can show demselvex

Anonymous said...

Okay i think have had enough with this dude, If you want to cause a change do something active and stop writing letters to single men and women. Abi you don turn psychological journalist.

Anonymous said...

Amen!!!

Unknown said...

Oh boy... We need to be hearing these things instead of listening to ppl tell us we should be ashamed n then giving up on ourselves

Unknown said...

Ur so right

Unknown said...

Ok.... Respect! Nice one bruv

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