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Friday, 20 February 2015

Boundaries - By Charly Boy (interesting read)

Article written by Charly Boy...read below...
Boldly displayed in front of my house is this signage: We Shoot To Kill. Trespassers Will Be Violated.
Why this provocative warning? Many may wonder, perhaps many more are careful to hang around my property, before they get shot for loitering, for nothing. Well, just putting people on notice that I will violently defend my territory at all times; just like the dog and animals generally, pee on objects to mark their boundaries/territories. Yes, I don mark my territory be dat, no messing around.

Though I have not shot anyone yet, I will not hesitate to use extreme violence in defending my territory if push comes to shove. Yes, I will shoot to kill first, then ask questions later. Yesooo.
When there is heavy rainfall, we need umbrella; when our homes are dirty we need broom to sweep off the dirt, and when there is unfettered increase in crime/violence, we need weapons to defend and protect us and our loved ones at all times.

We all should know that we have a right to do so; and that we not only have the right, but also the duty to take responsibility for how we allow others to treat us.

We need to be able to tell people when they act in ways that are not acceptable to us; to either shape up or you trash them. Yes, like dorty.

Setting boundaries is not about manipulation or wanting to be a control freak. Mbanu!It is impossible to have a healthy relationship with someone who has no boundaries, someone who cannot communicate directly and honestly. It’s like playing football without a goal post on a pitch that has no demarcation.

Learning to set boundaries is a necessary step in learning to befriend ourselves first.
It is one's responsibility to take care of oneself, and this is not possible if we don't first of all, own ourselves.

Boundaries define limits; they make clear separations between different turfs.
One of the most correct perceptions about the CharlyBoy brand is that he won't take bullcrap from anyone and he will speak his mind at all times on matters/issues without fear or favour. After all, him send anybody?

Going forward, we need to start becoming aware of what healthy behavior and acceptable interaction dynamics are, before we can start practicing them ourselves and before we start demanding the proper treatment from others, abi? We need to start learning how to be emotionally honest with ourselves, to start owning our feelings, and to communicate in a direct and honest manner.

It is important to say our feelings out loud; by so doing, we are affirming that we have a right to feelings. Emotions do not define us, they are a form of internal communication that help us to understand ourselves and a vital part of our being, as a component of the whole.

It is vital to own your own voice, to own your right to speak up for yourself. There is no time to be weak and not live. Find your own method to tell people shut the fuck up and they would.Shey you dey hear?

Mark your boundaries, don't let people shit all over you or use you as door mart.
Enough of the nonsense, people taking advantage of people, fire burn dem.

83 comments:

Chelsea Nwajei said...

Seen!!!

mary kabiru said...

Nice one

Anonymous said...

VErULE says-again.

@MEETDREALEVANS said...

Okay, If u like kill everybody DAT walks past Ur gate...Ur biznx

Chidimma Ezerioha said...

OK Charley papa

Bonita Bislam said...

This weird guy is a fine writer. I wonder where he gets his inspiration from.His virgins maybe!

Ifeoma Onwuka said...

I guess

chimaobi simeon said...

Nice house

Nekis Iwejua said...

Is he licensed to have a gun? Does the Nig law accept citizens having personal guns? I thought you could hire mopols, police, etc in ur homes to do the shooting for u, or am I wrong? #justasking

Ifeoma Onwuka said...

I guess he is referring to politicians......this 2015 elections eh....GOD will protect us all and Nigeria as a nation I pray in JESUS Name, Amen. I live close to his house, so weird looking.

Anonymous said...

CHARLY BABA WE VE SEEN...TOMJERRYSWIT

Tamia lixir said...

The area father has spoken. Let the timid and the fickle minded take note.

tamara splash said...

Whatever

igwe Adaobi said...

I think the article is nice
Boundaries should always be respected
Even in relationships

Nathaniel Shok said...

Is kind hash but is d truth, some ppl can be so stupid sometimes u know, "truth is better but bitter.... take am easy shaaaa ooo

Alloy Chikezie said...

Really interesting.


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Chinonye Sarah said...

NIce one! His use of broom and umbrella tho #raised eyebrow

RareSpecie Z said...

Word Charly. WORD. Haterz u HEARD. Give me some ELBOW room or Get Da Fuck Off my TURF.

christie benjamin said...

Crack head......no time to languish......


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Neji Takon said...

Nice one Mr Charley man. But it's time for u to remember that age is fast catching up with u n start behaving like an adult u are. Linda I hail thee.

Anonymous said...

Mtsheew! Pirate of elegushi beach

Rex Aniah said...

Hehehe. Crazy felo. Nyc one!

Neji Takon said...

Nice one Mr Charley man. But it's time for u to remember that age is fast catching up with u n start behaving like an adult u are. Linda I hail thee.

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Nice piece Area Fada. You stand for something or you fall for anything.
I have taken a stand, I stand for change, that is my boundary, faceless anons can't make me change my mind.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

Uchechi Favour said...

nice

Anonymous said...

Charly, you are right. If you don't take care of your own, no one will.

victor dafe said...

Lovely piece. truth all the way..... that signage though... Lol. #SetBoundaries cos they are necessary.

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wilheminna moses said...

Take style de show us ur house..... All dis talk na bullshit

EDDY WIZ said...

MR EDDY said this heat wan kill person o.


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EDDY WIZ said...

MR EDDY said this heat wan kill person o.


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udeze obumneme said...

well said..

Shina Shine said...

we don hear




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Anonymous said...

Wow! wonderful piece....read and understood. Nice one again @the Area fada #DatOwerriMan

Mrs TC said...

I kind of like this write up. Setting boundaries and not letting people shit all over you. Protect your self and your own. Hmmmm.

Julius Tha Freshboi said...

Charley boy?! Baba nla weyrey! Lol

Anonymous said...

We have seen your house ..next

Anonymous said...

"Military zone keep off, trespassers will be shot, survivals will be shot again". That's a signage by some military officers close 2 my hauz.

ary said...

GBAM

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Oluchi sampson said...

it dosent make sense

Anonymous said...

I quite agree with this. I have boundaries myself. It's just necessary, sometimes people don't understand there are some things that they need to hear a NO for. It's just part of life...

Lady nicer Y said...

I just love this insightful write-up.

Juliet Iwuno said...

Yesoooo, fire burn dem big time. I hear you big Broda & I completely understand & have taken to heart that beautiful piece of advice. Linda take note!

Juliet Iwuno said...

Yesoooo, fire burn dem big time. I hear you big Broda & I completely understand & have taken to heart that beautiful piece of advice. Linda take note!

Juliet Iwuno said...

Yesoooo, fire burn dem big time. I hear you big Broda & I completely understand & have taken to heart that beautiful piece of advice. Linda take note!

Juliet Iwuno said...

Yesoooo, fire burn dem big time. I hear you big Broda & I completely understand & have taken to heart that beautiful piece of advice. Linda take note!

glowy shoe said...

Okay

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@Osirmah said...

Linda pls remind me of who charley boy help??????


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Anonymous said...

Broom and umbrella...I see. sarcastically well written

Damolia De Best said...

Beta Fada,Responsible Man!!!... Am prty sure say na politicians Hin dey refer to..

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Damolia De Best said...

Uhnnn see women oooo den don strt ooooo *Even in relationships*

Anonymous said...

I understand his point but think the shoot to kill metaphor kills it, lol. Too strong. A picture of the fence would have been enough.

Anonymous said...

area papa.well said.no go form loyalty till u being bend warka

Anonymous said...

Lol! The area fada himself!

ndidiamaka said...

ok charly i've heard

carina jacob said...

Lol.. We have heard

kester eke said...

It's for the best tho

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fredy obot said...

An I stand for transformation not even buhari great grandfather can change me from dat

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Anonymous said...

A very good write-up. Visit www.amamife.co.uk for books by black and African authors.

kester eke said...

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prettiyz said...

It's kind of d right tin to do

Oluchi Lambert said...

Well written Charly boy. And thanks for that

ruth sam said...

Dis granfada na agbaya!

She said...

Subomi said...

He is a good writer, who would have guessed

AprokoManagerApril said...

And the ditch in front of your house nko, that make cars slow down nko? The big shoe and skull dey fear me any time i pass there

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Area Fada himself.... click on my name for sports news

RareSpecie Z said...

Holy Shit, looks like Charly's sermon has further embolden this Bae to do more of that ish.
Baby girl, u seem 2 misunderstood what Dude Charly was tryin 2 say as it does not relate to ur "Linda take note things". U ve tormented my soul to the extent that my body had to painstakinly manufacture antibodies which has rendered me immune to ur sting. Itz not too late 4 u to change. Cheerz Juliet Iwuno. Cheerz.

susan chukwuka said...

Charlie boy,,,Na so.

chinwe Nzeh said...

Interesting.

DAMSEL said...

Pls d signage is 2 harsh,bt its d right tin to do+so good to be back here.

Miss indomie says so.

Vivadrew said...

Hey, obviously he is making reference to the happenings in our political terrain. Meaning high time we take the bull by the horn and chose wisely rather than accept any damn pie shove at us. Vote wisely, chose wisely.terrain. (Umbrella to cover for the rain....Broom to sweep dirt off the floor... and weapons to protect and defend our loved one). Read through the lines..

frank lucas said...

Nothing new here. We see signs like these everywhere in the US. Even worse "We don't call 911, we shoot to kill"

sodablog said...

E be like say somebody don become threat to Area Fada lyf, anyway I support u

Edeemeka. said...

Vivadrew is like you and me only understand that Charly was writing metaphorically. I have always known that this dude is full of intellectual swag, only for people who have depth. Really outstanding, am not surprised though. Most timid Nigerians will miss the point, is not about having a gun permit, it's not about showing us his houses because most of us know he has estates. Wish people could stop being so narrow minded, am sure Charly will be laughing his head off reading some of you's comments. Rock on Charly, indeed you are the Rock.

Cornelius Chukwu said...

Old boy, careful o, before we go hear of another unknown soldier story. Kalakuta Republic is still fresh in our memory.

Jules Louis said...

In a nut shell, rather than dying in silence, speak out. Nicely written and interesting.

Betty K said...

Charly Charly Charly, you are too real for Naijas. I still am not too sure what to make of you, but I always visit Linda's blog now because of you. You are as real as they come. I truly love your openness on issues. Love you.

Damilola said...

Pssssssssst

Anonymous said...

You mean“ metaphorically" @Anon 11:12

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