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Thursday 31 July 2014

No matter how rich you are, should there be a limit to how much you spend on your young children?

Listen I love designer items, but even I have a limit. Unfortunately I can't share the pics because its from very private individuals but I saw a pic of a 13 year old Nigerian girl wearing a $3,500 designer dress. I heard she has plenty of those, even a dress as expensive as $5,600. One of her watches is a $21,000 Rolex. Her father is extremely wealthy, even owns a private jet, so it makes sense that he wants to spoil his little girl BUT...shouldn't there be a limit, especially if they are that young?

Take for instance, boxing champ Floyd Mayweather's 14 year old daughter, Iyanna, she can't drive yet but she has a Mercedes Benz s550 and G550 (pictured above). She has Hermes bags, diamond watches and a lot of stuff many of her followers describe as obscene for a girl that young.

So what do you think? No matter how wealthy you are as a parent, should there be a limit to how much you spend on your young children? Let's discuss...

109 comments:

Anonymous said...

There should be limit to everything, b except love...
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Bishop Dammy said...

Yea I think there should be ..neither am I saying u make them suffer .NO buh as u train them with cash include the "ROD". Ps 127:3. BishopDammy#

Bonita Bislam said...

Linda if people can spend millions of naira buying caskets and wears for the dead,how much more for a living human.Its all about the money and how you choose to flaunt it.There's no rule on how you spend your money.

Unknown said...

Mchewwww!vanity.......With the money Abacha had,where's he today ?Help one anoda with the money.

SWS said...

To the super rich, very expensive things are par for the course for their children. It's only natural that a parent likes to give their children the best things they can afford, so for them it's simply not a big deal.

Faith Ogaga said...

Well, money talks and bullshit walks ..
If I have it I wil definately spoil dem bt nt †̥̥Ơ̴̴̴͡ this extent...am a very strict and disciplined Mother ...I fmy kids f**k up even wen outside , me go f**k dem up badly!
Never Spare the rod and Spoil d child ..

Unknown said...

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Bianca Bruno said...

Of cos. There should be.
Otherwise they won't know the value of money and will grow up to be wasters/spend drift
No matter how wealthy u are don't spoil ur kids wit unncessary items eg d cars above. Makes no sense

Anonymous said...

In mm own view Dias no problem buying expensive things 4 ur daughter bt u av to guide her on hw to use dem but wen it comes to things dat did nt make sense Dias no mid wasting money.#ifuhaveyouflautit first to comment.

chinma said...

In as much as parents mk dis money 4d family especially d kids,i strongly bliv der shld b sm limit.. 2mrw if d pikin no fit see dt kain tin nko?yawa don gas b dt. chydyveil@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

I for one think that depending on the child it is not, some children are well disciplined n can handle themselves well, while others caan't but then buying things a child caaan't use is not right. But if you can afford n she can use n still be disciplined why deny them.

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Growingup,my parents made sure we had all we needed and not all we wanted. That way we were thought to be contented with what we have.
When it was time to own bicycle,video games and toys, we they gave them to us.
When it was time to own a handset,and they found it reasonable for us to have phone,they provided us with phones.
And when it was time and right for us to drive,we were thought how to drive and even at that were only allowed to drive under strict conditions.
There's time for everything,and parents should know that.
To avoid raising children who would be under pressure at,every point in their live to live up to the high and luxurious life their parents have introduced them to at an early stage.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

Anonymous said...

The truth is that....how is it your business?

Anonymous said...

Yes o, for me I think there should be a limit_____ happyprudence

Anonymous said...

There has to be a limit else dt child will grow up being arrogant n spoilt,she won't be able to manage anytn in life

MeenatNigeria said...

People work in order to meet up with their children need..... If u ave the moni and won't spend it for the children, who will u spend it for......... If u die and something happens to ur wealth, the ones u gave to them when u were alive will be of help to them.... Spend it on them if u ave it in abundant. As for me,I spend it as I get it... We will die someday and another will take over..... I AM MISS LIBER*MISS MEENAT

Unknown said...

Every thing shld b in moderation too much of anything is bad

Unknown said...

Yes I honestly think there should be a limit to parents spoiling their young kids with expensive gift especially when they are still teenagers. A case where they buy these expensive items and keep for them for future use probably when they are 16 and above is very okay. Children who gets really spoiled at young age miss out on the vital part of having a childhood, they assume they are an adult already, independent and can live freely as they want,later they regret it. Its okay to give young children gifts but when its too expensive that's wasteful.

otevee said...

No comment

yemi. said...

There should not be a limit pls!

Immaculate said...

Yes despite the fact that the parents are rich, they suppose to allow the girl to reach up to 18 years before spoiling her with expensive things.

Gaia said...

Personally, I think there should be a limit. There is something about enabling your children to grow up with a good work ethic instead of them growing up feeling there is nothing they can not get simply because they want it... But then, what do I know? Money in my account no reach 50k -_-

Steveosky 4 Real. said...

I think it will all depend on the parents of the child in question, u can as well spend much on her with dsicpline and not allow it get to his or her head. Besides, money is meant to be spent!!

Anonymous said...

It is what it is. If you have the money, I mean why not. The important thing is teaching them the morals and foundation. Letting them know you have to work hard to have good things. Teaching them healthy competition. I mean I will spoil my baby silly if I can. But you have to show mama you deserve it and earn it.

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Unknown said...

I see nothing wrong with spending money on your kids , they in a different class, what we see as a lot of money is change to these MFs , what re they gonna do with the money, mayweather makes over a 100,000,000$ per fight , what a NFL player or NBA player will make in 10 years if you re good enough.

Walata said...

There shud be a limit #myownopinion

Unknown said...

of course there should be a limit,else the child will grow up to believing she must get all she wants no matter what and no one can stop her...it will cause too much ego as well

Eugenia Ekeji said...

There really should be limit on how a parent or parents should spoil or spend money buying stuffs that expensive on their kids. I think sending a child to a better school and spending more money if possible to get him/her better education is preferable, lead them right and allow them to grow up and work 4 their own money and spend the way they like. It will help if u make them independent.

Unknown said...

Isokay.

bolanle said...

personally, i feel it is wrong on so many levels but am gonna stick with this one point. every parent's job is to prepare their kid for the future, a child given so much at such an early stage will find it super difficult to cope if circumstances change or if she got married and her husband didn't have that much to offer. #justmyopinion#

Unknown said...

hmmmm> that's a real woman talking there, i understannd the aspect of you in which you are talking from. good one linda

Unknown said...

There are so many ways you can show love to your kids. You don't have to buy them expensive things to show that you love them.
What some of these kids need is parental love and affection. Besides I think God has blessed certain people so that they can help the less privileged in the world. $3500 dollars on a single dress for a little girl will do a whole lot for plenty of families in Africa.
Anyway it's theirs. They can spend it anyway they want.

Anonymous said...

What you consider expensive is cheap to them...besides we are working for our children now..its vanity whether for a child or an adult..but if you can affort it why not...

Anonymous said...

In an actual sense there shuld be limit so that that child can grow up having somtin in mind to fight 4 sometin her parents dint get 4 her not coz dey kant but 4 her 2 learn 2 get dem her sef wen she grows

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Angie said...

There should definitely be a limit!

Their needs definitely will be met; they won't lack, but.. they'd also know luxuries don't fall from the sky. They've got to be prepared to work towards theirs.
Most spoilt kids tends to be the most notorious around the world...
Me no want wahala abeg; when I'm done taking care of them, they should also take care of me.


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Anonymous said...

Wealthy parents shuld strike aa balance on hw they spnd money on their young children so dat it dnt affect them whn d moni is nt there. LIB Princess! Pretex4luv@yahoo.com

Unknown said...

hMMM. This is coming from a real woman, i understand the heart where is coming from, you are gonna make a good mother linda, you are right with this

Anonymous said...

yes oo..it should hav limit,else they wil bgin 2 fnk money z evrytin,they wont lyk 2 work 4 theirs,they wil start underestimatin ppl nd bcom rily lazy.am not sayin yu aren't supposed 2 spend on dem @ all.All am sayin z it shld hav limit.datz y i lov bill 4 sayin his children shldn't xpect a daim frm him..

teenah

Unknown said...

I totally agree with u Linda, this is obscen.

Jessica law said...

For me there should be a limit.u don't buy a child everything he or she needs but I can buy the most expensive cloth for my child.

Anonymous said...

That's just irresponsible spending on a child who doesn't know the value of the money spent on him or her. That parent is destroying that child's life, there is a huge difference between giving your child the best and spending lavishly on your child. it may look to you as the former but in the nearest future...

Unknown said...

Very soon they will become spoilt brat insulting people nd calling them trash.

Anonymous said...

I'll just satisfy my children wif whateva they want and not to spoil them with too expensive things in other for them not to be arrogant and learn hw to survive if they had to manage. omowumioyedele91@gmail.com

Emjay said...

Chaiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii,wen ve been trying so hard to be a parter of Lindada's give away,14yrs is using Hermes bags,diamonds,and cars,chaiiiiiii daris God ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Unknown said...

LindodO,d dad Has all dis,so he can afford it, U̶̲̥̅̊ dnt tell a wealthy man ow 2 spend is moni....nnd linda wait until U̶̲̥̅̊ av ur own baby,den. U̶̲̥̅̊ wuld knw d ryt ans 4 dis....

**John Cena Mistress**

Anonymous said...

There shld definitely be a limit. omowumioyedele91@gmail.com

mystic Sun said...

The best thing you can do for your child is to make them appreciate value... have value for everything worth living for. Showering them with expensive gift items in the name of love is over doing it and the same tym spoiling the kids. They grow up without having value for anything and as such lose the true essence of living.

Nyc to be rich, but give the kids the best of quality value not spoiling them in the name of expensive gift.

Anonymous said...

MICKY: MICKY: of course there should be a limit. One can't give a newborn eba n soup,y?, bcz the limit of the baby @ dt tym is milk and the likes. Or buy a toddler very high heels. It is the same thing. How much you spent on a child depends on the age/stage and how the child hw handle such items. Buh mehn,if u cn b dt generous,spend it

Anonymous said...

Madam linda ...y u mad? is it your money?

Unknown said...

What is anyone's biz hw I spend for my kids

Skyqueen said...

I so love your comment

MISS E said...

There should def. be a limit. Ofcourse i'd probably give my child the best of items and love but also teach and imbibe in them the spirit of giving and caring for the needy. Take them to see disabled and motherless babies. They should be taught to appreciate what they have, Thank God for them and learn to give and share with those who do not have. Never forgetting disciple and respect.

MISS E said...

There should def. be a limit. Ofcourse i'd probably give my child the best of items and love but also teach and imbibe in them the spirit of giving and caring for the needy. Take them to see disabled and motherless babies. They should be taught to appreciate what they have, Thank God for them and learn to give and share with those who do not have. Never forgetting disciple and respect.

Anonymous said...

Yes. There should be limit because limit is part of moral.

Okoro said...

There surely. MUST BE A LIMIT !!

Anonymous said...

Ko bad @all... #call me indigenous lib#

Amarachukwu. said...

Of course there shld be limit,if not they will not value what they have,there is time for everything n of course you have to teach them that life is a bed of roses n how can you do that when u have expensive things even before they get to use n value those things.Too MUCH of EVERYTHING is BAD.

ary said...

na them sabi! it's their money and you can't tell them how to train their kids, unfortunately. so you leave em to their whims

Anonymous said...

There Should ßƹ Limit, Thou Parents Work Cause Of Their Children, But There Should ßƹ Limit On Ђδw They Buy Xpensive Things 4 Their Kids. (Linda's Man)

Beautygeekng.com said...

Its not easy to have much money and not spend it on your kids. But you have to think of them and their future. They should know how to build and manage wealth

Anonymous said...

If I was that rich, I'd rather invest the money on things for their future that will enable them to make more money for themselves. instead of buying materials things for them now and then when they grow up, they have no value for money or don't know how to make their own

Anonymous said...

there should be limit to everything....cos when the money is gone, it automatically becomes a problem.


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Anonymous said...

Ur definition of LET'S discuss is you putting out people's comments and no extra input or moderation from you. Smh...

Oma said...

There shd be a limit to everything.needs are different from wants.parents shd never go overboard as kids won't value money.i heard Richard Branson who owns virgin never allows his kids to fly 1st class but economy till they are grown and start earning some money.loving isn't showering kids with expensive gifts.Pls parents shd be guided.

Unknown said...

AS FOR ME,I WILL RATHER SPEND MUCH MORE ON HIS OR HER EDUCATION THAN SPENDING UNNECESSARY ITEMS.
SHIKENA!!

barmmie creamy said...

Yea u can pamper them wit d good things of life,buh there should be a limit. They ought to know that they are jst opportuned to be born with a silver spoon effortlessly,so whatever they have,has to be used judiciously,they should be independent and always be a cheerful giver becos their are so many pple out there working frm sun up to sun down wit nothing to show for it. So future kid,even if ur dad and i are the richest in nigeria,they is sure gonna be a limit to y'all spending,becos their are 1thousand and 1 orphanages out there who needs help,and u aint better than them,u're jst opportuned. Aunty linda thumps up on dis one,i agree wif u 100percent

Opecole said...

It all depends on the child's character. Some people need to be limited if not they run out of control,some don't. And also some parents do this because of where they are coming from. Personally I think it's best to blend the both worlds

Anonymous said...

Mind your business! When you didn't have were u posting stuff on IG? No? Now you have you do all that! To thy tent oh Israel!!! Mind your business

Anonymous said...

Linda, na story u dey fine. If am very rich tomorrow , I will buy more than that for my baby.

DARE DEVIL said...

sometimes i laff at u LINDA IKEJI whenever u say 'LETS DISCUSS' like u have ever replied comments....i really admire bloggers dat do reply their readers. so pls enuf of the 'lets discuss'

Anonymous said...

My money...my kids...expensive gifts..after all they are the reason why i am making the money in the first place.Also they are well grounded kids in the LORD and socially too.DEAL WITH IT!!!!Kapish?

#king said...

lool..linda abeg if u hav such moolah u wont mind..if u hav it spend it........................................#KingOfKings

SOLA said...

Hey,to me no limit. why am I rich or let say why do I work? if I don't spend on my kids who will I spend on? Keep in mind its the parents that are buying it for the child and they must have been buying expensive stuff since the kid was a toddler. If I can afford it I go for it, someone like me didn't have that opportunity as a kid now that am blessed I go really hard for anything for my kids.

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm, and here am i still struggling to even have $100 of my own. Let them us to start business ni. Sufydam@yahoo.co.uk

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Anonymous said...

Yes, o course their should be a limit. My being rich does not mean that I should spoil them that naught. If they want something of such,my dear they should work for it. My responsibility is to provide them with basic amenities and when they go out they can easily be pointed to as my children with their manners, sense of reasoning, personality and a host of others. Thank you

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Anonymous said...

First of all, I hope the parent's source of income will continue to flow as it currently is. However, knowing the "Nigerian system" that is highly unlikely.

Second, who will marry this girl. How many Nigerian men in her generation can keep up this standard? That is why she like many other daughters of wealthy Nigerian men, will end up married to a man who is using her as a come up.

Anonymous said...

Wit all dis ur parents did for u yet u r here commenting on evry post? A man dat wil run a home for dat matter,bros no insult meant get a life

LEEZ said...

Too much of everything is bad! #Train up a child the right way! Btw there's time for everything hence there should be a limit.

Anonymous said...

@ Bonario: it is ' we were taught...' And not we were thought.

Unknown said...

Anything done over limits most times looks foolish or childish. Moderacy is the key word!

Anonymous said...

I dont care How much u give to ur children,but if they are not spiritually insured,then there future is uncertain

Unknown said...

Well I will give them the bestof what they need, so that they wont have the taught of stealing, especially when they know I can provide.

Anonymous said...

Bigger is not always better. In fact, sometimes having more leads to a disadvantage, and the example given is of parents who are so wealthy they struggle to instil good values in their children. Of course, the parents need to make enough money to meet the family's basic needs, but there comes a point where too much money makes little difference. This reminds me of the law of diminishing marginal utility. Definitely agree with this fact that sometimes having more is not always better.

Anonymous said...

Linda u're a such hypocrite! You always talk about its people's money when they spend excessively on designers & here u are criticizing the child. You are not any different from her father. You claim its because you can afford it. Guess what?! Her father can afford it too! Next!

Anonymous said...

For me, i feel there should be a limit until the child is old enough to understand that just because daddy or mommy is rich, don't mean things would be handed to you all your life. The child should understand and appreciate the dignity of labour and hardwork. At 18, you can get most of the nice things.

Anonymous said...

When linda says ''let's discuss'' I don't get what she means, when she hardly ever chip in a word after the original thread...its ok, let's disikussi oo!

cheekychinny said...

Anonymous @ 2:46pm, I shake my head for u. Eeeuw. What had Bona done to you? Too much hatred and jealousy. You need Jesus as soon as possible.

hrm paul ojeih said...

Linda boo na too much moni ojare let them spend it om d kids life is too short biko but there should b a limit

Anonymous said...

I envy people in such positions. I wish I have/had such privilege. Wish I could wear a $2000 dress at my disposal or carry any bag of my choice be it a Chanel or Celinè. I grew up in a comfortable home but my dad was never the type to spoil us... Always gave us excuses of how there is no money even when there was obviously money. A stingy man who always got agitated when ever the talk of money arose but was willing to spend on mistresses and side attractions. I pray I never marry a man like him. That being said I hope I can work hard to make this money that I have not been privileged to enjoy yet in my life and I hope I marry a man who would be comfortable enough to take care of me outstandingly ... I may come out as being materialistic but hey! Who isn't in some type of way? We live in a materialistic world. Xoxo

Unknown said...

U compare odd with odd..dats shallow

tykvzj said...

Truth be told, I don't think it's really anyone's business how much a parent spends on their child. When it's not your own money they're using. Y'all need to chill

Anonymous said...

Their kids will just end up suicidal or on drugs or taking unnecessary risk like climbing peaks or racing cars. Why? Every human being needs something to aspire to. It could be a better job, a happier tomorrow, a fancier dress, a more expensive shoe, etc. When you have lived 80 years and more in 10 years, what is there to live for? Nobody has asked Abdulmutallab why he would become the underwear bomber despite all his father's wealth. I am certain he will tell you he was searching for purpose. THe very essence of humanity is the quest for the next best thing. Keeps us going, keeps us optimistic and helps us keep have a sense of purpose.

Anonymous said...

true talk chemicalx52003@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

@Linda,'Even you' you say...comparing ur chicken change 2 money-may's loot #DeludedMuch

Idijuwon omo-Ibadan said...

It's reverse psychology,he knows by d time she's 18 she'd see dese tings 4 wat dey really are(just material stuff) n won't be too impressed by dem.

Anonymous said...

na wa o.. Well, most times parents get carried away in a bid to make their children more comfortable, than they were nd end up doing the extreme.. Its not easy..we need wisdom to raise our kids... #Mili

Anonymous said...

Hundred likes @ anonymous 6: 28. Best comment ever. Your understanding of psychology is unrivalled. People will laugh but most people I know who snort coke are stinking rich men' kids. They wanna escape frm wat? All d wealth? They feel they've seen it all. Nothing more to life. They can go wherever in d world dey wanna go, buy wateva n whoever they want. They start looking for another high-risk life. Mountaineering, serial killing, artic exploration, cocaine/heroine, art theft.anytin 2 excite dem

Anonymous said...

As long as they are grounded, i have been fortunate to meet Atedo Peterside's kid and no one will believe who the father is. God give me the money to provide a comfortable life for my daughter.

Anonymous said...

Yes there should be a limit. $21k dollars on a watch in in useless Nigeria? Nigger please. With all d fucked up roads with no electricity too? How can you enjoy it. I can't. That only shows how ignorant they are. We have beggars every where. Sick motherfuckers all over this fucking country and worst of all bad smelly air every where. It's like wearing Rolex in a Latrine. I guess shit don't bother us African booty scratchers. We can live inside the gutter and eat and ball all day long. Lol. Nigeria as a country is a looser. Shame on our country. Go to Lekke estate and houses are so expensive but none of the stupid motherfucker living in the community wants to gather together and fix the fucking Lekke nieghbourhood roads. It's so bad that when it rain people can't even come our or drive out of the compound. And no body is ashamed to say their house is worth a kobo. Road pot holes are as big as a lake And you can actually witness frogs and snake swimming in d pot hole lake. Sorry to say but most of us Naija people are born of the devil. That's why most if them use rituals to make money unlike most countries. And when you see people that made money that way their live style is off and senseless. The will not mind dinning untop off gutter, pointing and killing fish if not human beings. They will not mind living in a huge fancy house but outside that gate is a dead body or dead dog rotten away for days and smelling. It will not bother them bcus they are balling of the devil.

Anonymous said...

You no say most of our people get monkey brain.

Ajaka tayo said...

For me, no limits. Its my money and its ma kid. ajakatayo@gmail.com

barmmie creamy said...

@bonita,i wonder wen some naija women will start acting smart*smh*that was sooo shallow,tho its his money,buh dnt justify his actions,their are pple out there who needs help.

Unknown said...

Na God give dem joor

Anonymous said...

linda u cant afford it all thats why u have a limit, allow those who have spend as they wish.

that girl said...

yes if you have o much money you tend to spoil kids but definatly not a car or clothes like that.

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