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Friday, 7 November 2014

Dear LIB readers: How do I forgive? (ex-gf of "please help me beg my fiancee)

Part two of yesterday's Dear LIB (read part 1 here). The fiancee has reacted...
Linda don't know how you are going to post this but this guy literary came to my house, parked on the road, his car full lights were on with ignition on (about 11:30pm same night he came into town), told my gate man to call me, I came out and stood inside the compound peeping out thinking he had come to apologize (he had upset me earlier that same day), I said "yes what do you want?'' and his response was in an angry voice "what do you mean by what do I want?''. He came towards me and dragged me outside the compound by my night wear and started shouting in an angry tone "you brought a man to my house and came to f**k on my bed, he even used my condom, the gateman heard you moaning, on the bed I bought''. I thought he was going mad so I kept calm, I asked him to leave my hands because he held them so tight. 
I immediately told my guard that was there to call my friend that was with me, and when she came, I told her about the accusation and she said "I was with her last night at your place" (and this guy kept on shouting on top of his lungs with my neighbors and Landlord watching and hearing my supposed fiance accusing me I took a man to his house (my mum heard too - she dint answer my greeting the following morning)…
Please how do women forgive men that would listen to his gate man and react before asking the woman he claims he loves (Mind you, he didn't tell his gate-man he was traveling, so two days without seeing his oga, he assumed it was his oga and myself that entered the house because its was late at night (12:30am). All the guard said to him the following day when he got home was "oga I think say na you enter house yesterday"...

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Flexy said...

To forgive is divine....if u still have feelings for him, why not.

Anonymous said...

Me I will not forgive oh. My dear move on.

Nura Abdullahi said...

Lolxxx dis guy funny ooo... that's side when he "d maiguard even heard u moarning"

SUE JORDAN said...

This is no issue....settle with him and move on.

Now if you said he got physical and hit you...then it's a "flee while you can matter"...

You two should just settle. There are bigger problems out there!!!

Flexy said...

ok now i just read it and this got me laughing....by this sheer act, it shows that ur bf's jealousy knows no bound. but still forgive him if u love him.

Nura Abdullahi said...

Gatemen and their gossips.. chaaiii

BONARIO NNAGS said...

But there's no basis for forgiveness here, since he hasn't shown remorse.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

Anonymous said...

...who did you now enter the house with by 12:30am?

Moonshine said...

you better forgive him already hian whats wrong with you self? the guy had apologize and even came here to tell you he was sorry, he was obviously jealous and furious reason he did that madam, you better go back to your man cos there are thousands of ladies out there who's praying to just have a serious relationship talkless of fiance you better behave and go grab your man madam oversabi.

Alloy Chikezie said...

Well I don't know if you should forgive him or not, whatever happens between you both is your business, don't have anything to say about that, but the only thing I want to say is when getting married, one of the danger signs you should look out for is "Anger". Please nobody should ever get married to someone that have high rate of anger or is easily given in to fits of anger, that person is really dangerous. And your fiancee has a high rate of anger and is easily given to anger. So just watch it.


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mandy said...

oops!
kasala don burst..hehehehe

Iniabasi George said...

Gentlemen! Pls learn to be patient before reacting to issues like this. Now u begging for forgiveness after embarrassing your fiancee and more importantly, yourself. I wish you the best bro. As for you fiancee, if he has had issues similar to this in the past then I think it's time to move on cos more hurt wld be on the way if care is not taken. My two cents

Anonymous said...

To me, he is acting out of jealousy! Just frgv him dear.

ibeakwadalam said...

Nollywood productions.

"Gateman"

dii-mma said...

All of una no well...

Zenki Moye Brown said...

well U just av to forgive him if trully U love him.......nd talk to him..he also has to apologise to ur mum, since she heard him accusing U

LAZY READER said...

Season 2 Episode 1 [How do i forgive] exclusive only to LIB!

Anonymous said...

Mtchhhewwwww! Jobless ness abeg take ur fake stories and shove it down ur butt! Response ko. Highly childish and annoying. linda sef post responsible news biko.

ELVIS EMEKA said...

Hmmmmmm!!! See action film.

Anonymous said...

Dont forgive him...let him go and find a better lady...i dont think you are innocent.

Anonymous said...

h"other night" has not been answered however the man was wrong not to confirm before accusing he's fiancée.

Anonymous said...

Oga you should have asked the lady first b4 any other person. 2ndly madam so who was the 'oga n myself' that strolled into the house at that time since you people have decided to go public? Abi make public ask now..you both at fault.

Chinonso Daniels said...

everybody on earth is full of errors to er is human to forgive is divine forgive him,if you people are heading somewhere in the future there is need for you to let it go

Anonymous said...

.... this isn't funny at all, cause my cousin went through same but hers was so unfortunate that she was even carrying his baby, but with such scandal, same as this, till date, the child doesn't know her dad.. its painful!! Gurl, I will advice as you have turned ur back to him, let the back remain turned cause a man who listens to outsiders will always do the biddings of outsiders for they are his priority in the school of his thoughts...
It's his loss. watch it also that he doesn't embarrass u further..
Your parents needs to know the truth and an apology for the insults so far.. you need their help also.

-Bliss

Anonymous said...

Hahahaha....the gate man na bastard.sorry sister forgive his big head,that's how some of we guys roll,those that react and shout sometimes could be safer than those that calmly ask u wasup....I blame that mumu gateman,the idiot no get sense loool.na bad belle dey kill am....just forgive the guy ok,am quite convinced he wouldn't listen to that guy again lol,be a sweetie n forgive him.than kuu :d

MISS DAKOTA said...

This is so not nice.if the story is true,then the supposed fiance made a terrible mistake.it shows he doesn't have a mind of his own and doesn't trust his fiancee,and this could have a huge toll on their relationship/marriage should it happen.poster,I'd advice you to sit ur fiance down and tell him how you feel and forgive him,no one is perfect.he will change.

funmi care said...

Is dis true?

Posh Stuff said...

Is wa o....

Anonymous said...

This is gobe ooo, if u be my sista, pls drop em with every fibre in u, e didn't digest on wat he heard, anger management issues.

Via linda, u finally realized we ain't robots right, u do well
Gab2shoessaysso

Anonymous said...

I will never forgive such an he goat of man. next time he come to your house pls pour him acid. what a disgrace, that guy really disgrace you to the point of creating a sceneand your neighbor was hearing all the rubish he was saying, they will actually think udid what he accused u of and u will now be the talk of towm. May God punish him so much. useless man. i don't know why men has no regard for women.i pray he sees this comnent and plus he is also a liar and he is not faithful as well hence the reason he believe the Gate man.He came here yesterday to lie. u deserve a better man not an insecure he goat.

ELIZABETH O said...

FORGET HIM THEY DON'T CHANGE. I MARRIED ONE LIKE HIM 13 YEARS AGO, HE IS STILL THE THE SAME IDIOT HE WAS WHEN WE WERE COURTING UNFORTUNATELY IF YOU DIG DIPPER YOU WILL DISCOVER WHAT I DISCOVERED MY IDIOT HUSBAND IS SLEEPING WITH THE HOUSE GIRL WHO HE CLAIMED GIVE HIM INFORMATION OF WHAT I DO WHEN HE IS NOT AROUND. I HAVE TRIED SEVERALLY TO LEAVE HIM BUT MR IDIOT IS ALWAYS BEGGING, HE DID NOT WANT THE KNOWN SECRET TO GO PUBLIC. WALK OFF WITH YOUR HEAD HIGH BEFORE YOU MARRY ANOTHER MR IDIOT.

Cash said...

please *hit happens..........forgive him and move on....lol funny, if u expect a man to calmly sit u down and ask u if u had sex with someone on his bed when he thinks so, you must av a dummy as a bf......

Anonymous said...

Th guy na epic fail. .but girl by now you should know the kind of person ur fiancee is . .if extreme jealousy is one of his flaws then consider if you can live with and accept it or not

Anonymous said...

Honestly....you had me until "you went home with your friend at 12:30am" don't know if you are lying but it sounds sooo cliche. He fucked up for making a scene

Subomi said...

just forgive and move on.. its not that serious

Anonymous said...

just forgive him if you still love him

Anonymous said...

If I were you which I am ot. I would leave him. But then maybe you are getting on in years and feel the pressure to settle down and will forgive him, just know you are on a long thing. As for your Mum, give her the silent treatment too.

tayo oyelami said...

pls just forgive him,he has realised his mistake

Anonymous said...

hmmmmmmmmmmmmm......am speechless..

Anonymous said...

Please my dear just let him go. DO NOT FORGIVE. I have experienced this in a relationship and believe me he will keep getting worse. The accusations and embarrassment from him will not stop. He will be the first to scream to the whole world how much he Loves you, but he will always look to other people to validate his trust for you. If you continue with him he will hurt you in more ways than you can imagine right now. Don't in any way blame yourself or feel bad, you have done nothing wrong. Men like him have mental issues and are highly insecure. You deserve better

Anonymous said...

Abeg me I don tire for una, make una go settle una wahala una slf leave person alone . CHI.

Anthony Dugbo said...

Pls forgive and move on.

charles obanor said...

Wahala dey ooo, d dude sef fuck up joor..


C.E.O

Dennis Power said...

Lolz... Funi

Mrs Fash said...

A man in love reacts to the idea of his woman with another in various abnormal ways. Of cause you have to be sure his jealouse streak is healthy before you choose to forgive and get back with him...but i l tell u something for sure,if he didnt love you,he will have just ditched you without any explanation to you-trust me,that would have been more painful and worse than him accusing you in front of your loved ones... In my opinion,weight your options about his sincere love for you well before you decide.

Anonymous said...

The problem between lovers is just the celebration of their love for each other.

school Life said...

ok

Mrs Fash said...

On a lighter note, make him knock on every door in your compound and tell everyone who opens that he is sorry about the scene he made and you didnt cheat either....hahahahahahaahaa

px said...

anger; bad trait. He got it all wrong, follow your hrth.

ary said...

SO who enter house the yesterday or was it a case of mistaken identity?! Well try and forgive him if you can, if you can't, it is your decision too!

Porsche Quinn said...

Sis plz dump his silly ass! What manner of embarrassment is dat? How will he trust his gateman over u! It means he has neva eva trusted u! I can't deal abeg!!! I feel sooo pained as if he did it 2 me. I can only but imagine how u felt that day.sister u deserve better. Mbuk!

Anonymous said...

The guy should forget it, the game is OVER!!!!

Anonymous said...

Sweetheart, I'm so sorry to hear that you had to go through such humiliation from your 'fiancé'. A man should love and respect you, and he's not displaying that unfortunately. Whatever you see in courtship will be more pronounced in marriage. If he could do this to you, you need to think about whether or not this is something you can live with for the rest of your life. I don't think anyone deserves a man who does not love and respect her enough to be wise in dealing with accusations against her. Please think and pray about this. I know you love him, but this is a bright red flag. You deserve so much more respect, and for the fact that you didn't even do what he irrationally accused you of is just horrible. Even if you did it, that is a very immature way for a man to handle matters. I wish you all the very best, and please don't be afraid to walk out of that relationship. You deserve a lot more.

Rukayat Bello said...

Don't really get the story well cos I didn't read d part 1 yestdy. Pls linda can I get d gist well.

Anonymous said...

Tori for town!

Anonymous said...

Pls forgive him. He loves u so much

spax classic said...

DEEP SHIIII

Anonymous said...

Without been tld, this fiance of a guy must be an ibo man because they are the only ones that have sure animalistic character.

Anonymous said...

abegggggggggggggggggggggggggggg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!pick race!!!! dont even bother responding......

Hot Couture said...

Hmmmm

Clement Ejembi said...

Dats very funny linda

Anonymous said...

He's sick down down. Pls be careful with people like this. Staying with him will not teach him instead when you walk away he will learn from experience and mature.
He hasn't matured. Marriage is not for boys like him.

Anonymous said...

Plssssss......dont go back to that yeye man!

Anonymous said...

The guy is stupid the way he confronted u was wrong...assuming u were already married dat is d way he would ave embarrass u in front of ur neighbours

Ask Ralph said...

Well you can just try and focus on the fact that he gave a public sincere apology. You know him more than the rest of us so you know how to handle him better but either ways you need to try and draw the line. Trust should be a priority in your relationship if you want to be happy. He can change but he might need you to show him how also.


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Anonymous said...

Stories that touch. Never wash your dirty linen in public, i am sure we were thought that.

#DEE said...

Its easier to say you trust someone, than to act it when the situation warrants it.
#DEE

Anonymous said...

My dear, there's no trust in that relationship and beside he's a clown. I'm a married woman so if you like take my advice or else you'll get worst in marraige. There is no trust and communications.

Anonymous said...

wow!!!!!!!!!!! the chick just implicated herself. if she is inferring that she was in the house with a female friend and a gate man heard moans, hmmmm and then!!!!!!!!!! your guess is as good as mine = to LeLe things!!!!!!! hehehehheheheh the drama just began. phew!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@MeetdrealEvans said...

Where were u coming from by DAT time of d night with Ur frnd? Story for d gods...

Jay Blaze said...

Gbegborun gateman

hotgirl said...

run!run!! run!!!
maniac.
He will do it again and again.

ukwumaka theophilus said...

So who did you enter the house with at that time? The guy fucked up big time.

sisiclara said...

Wen he taught it was d oga did he greet to get a male response from the supposed oga?..even when her friend told u she was wiv her y d late night embarrassments..which sane responsible geh will bring anoda guy to her supposed hubby to be's house with neighbors n d gateman?! Abi wen d girlfriend was leaving in d morning gateman no see her ni?...u need to be patient n calm wen nxt u r upset

Anonymous said...

haha....drama that goes on in relationships though #priceless

Anonymous said...

KICK D NIGGA TO THE CURB, HE IS INSECURE AND WOULD DO MUCH WORSE IF U MARRY HIM

Anonymous said...

Babe do whatever your heart tells you, after all the advise it is still you who will live with the man. # but he no try walahi

Barry9ice said...

Dis one pass my mouth,don't knw how to judge dis, if i may ask why did u stay late? how did u enter? Who opened d gate 4u to come into d compound? Does it mean d gate was opened at dt hour of nite dt enable u to hv free pass. Well u cant blame him, he's only been jealous, d same can happens to u, u can als over react hearing such abt ur guy, both of u should calm down & settle it amicable. Oko won lode

Anonymous said...

Lol so funny,he's a dog not a man very stupid,I hate man dat doesn't av control over deir emotions,No matter what public arrasment is d worst thing eva!! MY fiance tells me one tin always "No matter d height of ur offence,in as much s I know dat I still want to marry u,I can't let a 3rd party hear about it. Y? Because yous cannot go back to all d people wu heard about d accusation and explain to dem what rilly apend! Its a mess,a stigma! So he should just get out!

Anonymous said...

Please babes...forgive him but truthfully, please you need to move on. like you rightly pointed out, he shuld have given you the benefit of doubt before acting on what his guard told him .Also matured men dont act the way he acted that night.
thats my candid opinion...going back to sip my Smoov Chapman.

Anonymous said...

As for me that's the end of the relationship, it shows my man has no trust for me and I can't stand that. For it to happen now, it will still happen in the future.

Anonymous said...

That's so wrong. For someone who claims to love you to publicly embarrass you...And if that is all his gate man said, then u shld dump his sorry ass

Emodi Chidinma said...

wow....please forgive him dear. men are like babies. they make alot of mistakes. i'm sure he has learnt his lessons.

Occupy nijja said...

Dont mind Nigerians and our religiosity. None is sincere and that includes me. So, no matter the advice to forgive Please leave this man you will find a better man . If you marry him it will only get worse not better..

Anonymous said...

are you fraking kidding me?? this guy is such an arse!!!

damn!! i fully understand just how mad you are..imagine the humiliation in front of your guard and neighbours and the silent judgment from them, esp your mum! wow!

biko, pls it's your choice whether to forgive him or not.. personally, i'll forgive him but not go back to him bcos i cant date someone who seems gullible and has no idea how to contain his anger. he will probably humiliate me again in future..

Olabode Ladipo said...

Which ever way,the gate man heard someone moaning,so who could it be?

Anonymous said...

no need to forgive him...shows u the kind of person he is ...this is a sign so if u marry him, this man can potentially be violent when a serious argument ensues...make him go find another woman biko

Sandra Ify said...

My dear forget that guy like my G.O and his wife will say a man that slaps you in courtship will bet you whn you become his wife and that means he can take the life out of you tooo. a word is enuf for the wise.

delphine Chinyere said...

Bt babe's u didn't give us d story about who u brought in2 d house by dt time of d night.tho I strongly believe d babe didn't bring som1 she's dating cos it's only a stupid person dt'l do such.d gateman ws jst being an olofofo n d fiance didn't try by nt askin d babe 4 explanation thereby goin 2 her house 2 embarrass her in such a way. Pls jst try n 4give him cos he won't try such again. Ds is real drama

Anonymous said...

You better leave this mad man o. When you marry and someone accuses you falsely na beating you go receive. God has used the gateman to save you. Do not be fooled by the Linda Ikeji begging, it is not a sign of anything. Controlling men do that a lot.

Anonymous said...

Okay, but was there any moaning truly??

Zems said...

Forgive him. You have no reason not to, since his accusation is love-driven, even if he went about it immaturely. You two will face situations tougher than this in life, so will keep holding back your forgiveness?

Anonymous said...

Dat guy nor mature @ all

damsel lohi said...

i read this story yesterday.

Nkemdilim Christabel said...

watch out,woman beater bt u can stil 4giv sha if u hv d strngth 2 condone him,bt guy u 4kup o,hmmmm i wudnt knw if can 4giv such sha bt i believ i can cos love supercedes

Anonymous said...

FROM YOUR FIANCEE: This was why i came to Linda ikeji's blog ( consequently the whole world) to beg you and seek further ideas on how to apologize to you.. Please somebody, help appeal to her, i am truly sorry. please forgive me.

Kingsley Bassey said...

Hmmmmmmmm sister if u luv him just forgive him,remember to forgive a wrong is a best revenge.Thanks.#THAT AKWA IBOM BOY#

Anonymous said...

this ur ex..omaga oh..
its as if he values what your guard says more than what you say..he should have confirmed b4 reacting like a mad man and humiliating you like that..

Anonymous said...

The guy is a big fool but he has apologised. please just forgive and continue your relationship.

Anonymous said...

You can forgive him but move on with your life without him, he's still a kid maybe mummy's boy or maybe he's on drugs too

niffyt said...

What do are forgiving again ehn this lady. Please just allow this unstable man be. Am sure he believes you did the deed and he is angry beyond reasons. Really if u go on with him the disrespect will continue. I don't know you and I don't know him God knows you both. Try n explain to your mother most especially and raise your head high if u didn't do that babe. Cheers

Anonymous said...

Is there a cafe around in here so I can respond to this? I already hav a pin mounth charger...

Anonymous said...

Lol.Men and their jealousy. He added pepper and salt in his accusation.well it's up to u to sha

Anonymous said...

Forgive ke? Nne biko move on!!! He'll neva trust you. Just give him the ring and zoom. cos shuga, he wont change.

Anonymous said...

Why are all ladies the same? are u tryin to say the gateman is blind n cant differentiate btwn a lady n a man?
u said it was ur friend that was wit u that night and u dey moan? seems u r a lesbian if not then beg the guy else u go penta gon...

Amdi said...

It doesn't sound well...I don't think this will turn out fine if u both eventually get married. Pleading, begging and another episode and another episode...save urself d heartache on time. That is if you can.

ed DREAMZ said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Lolx.... This is one gud script for a movie..
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

blessing adesanya said...

Too much to bear

Anonymous said...

Nne, i understand your plight. Please do all the shakara you want. You should be angry in all sense but at the end please forgive him. Don't let unforgiveness steal ur love, your happiness except the guy was an ass before this incident. It's only pple we love that can get us pained, that's y i know you love him. You need to set out rules before you forgive him. I do not believe in easy forgiveness o!. Tell him your mind, how it hurt you really bad. tell him to put himself in your shoes. After you are done. Give it time, the pain will subside. He may have acted without thinking but the extent he has gone shows he knows he acted foolishly.

Anonymous said...

hmmm,dis is tough..oga didn't tel us all dis ystrdy oo..follow yur heart,but if i were yu,i might consider marrying him cos wen yu guyz finally say i do,wat wil hapn next,wil he bliv any word outsiders say to him instead of believing yu??he "dragged"yu..he might evn gt violent in future(jst sayin oo).its true no partner is perfect but thr are sum signs we shldnt ignore...like i said earlier,follow yur heart..nd ogah yu try oo..nawa 4yu

ada onyema said...

Did you come home with a man around 12:30am or not??I don't understand o

adekitan ademorin said...

hmmmmmmm! guesss you are a bi-sexual. if the gateman heard you screaming, it implies you went to your fiancee's house to make out with your girlfriend in the absence of your guy. you are still cheating anywayz. its easy for you to quickly refer to him as your-ex cus you already had a companion. its either you tell the whole truth to the guy and ask if he could be the side guy while you keep your preferred girl or you quietly ask your girlfriend to back off just so you could marry this moron of a guy. Na Naija be dis, u can't openly come out as gay. bottom line, you are not innocent!you, ur girlfriend and d aboki knows what went down. the aboki was smart enough to use a subtle innuendo to pass a message across to his friend. the aboki is the wisest of u all.

Shina Shine said...

Serious issue but u know what to do

BORN TO SHINE!!!

Anonymous said...

This is Super story, this is Super Story...

After you guys have finished exposing yourselves and your life on social media, I hope social media follows you home to help you grow up and learn how to resolve issues. Una hear ba?

In mama peace's voice #Na only una Waka come? OK. Continue.

christie benjamin said...

I don't even understand but I will chilax and read comments.......*****QUEENMAYA******

www.chidinmaonyejiuwa.webs.com said...

All I can say is, it is well.

Anonymous said...

short of words anyway...but we guys need to grow up in every relationship u have made up your mind to keep,not fling.trust must be imperative.the last woman i met is the one im marrying today.never dated her for once,but i put trust first because i believe her...despite the fact i was doing my stuffs with other babes then(wrong of me though. dear lady,i feel ur hurts,but if he would come and apologize truly,give another chance since u r innocent.men apologize to ladies to truly love and care for and would always want to get them back....stan

Mystique said...

Now this is more serious than I thought and he told us the story as though it wasn't so serious. Who is lying now o?

Anonymous said...

He is an insecure, immature and a very stupid guy. as a guy I will advice you to run far away from him.

Anonymous said...

My dear u jst have 2 be careful becos such person can do worst than this when u get married 2 him.Their is no trust.

Anonymous said...

Trust is very Important in a relationship.Maybe you've given him some reasons to doubt you before.Forgive him cos love covers a multitude of sin.Find other ways to punish him but don't break up

Anonymous said...

Guys ehh, dey can overreact. But wait oh what is ya friend doing in his houz only 2 days he traveled?

Anonymous said...

Your boyfriend wrote to Linda yesterday saying that he has accused you of having intimacy with another man(this was information he got from the watchman)and he subjected you to humiliation based on what he was and not what his fiance said.
You need space to think things through ..my dears red flags never ignore them things happen for a reason.Id advice you to proceed with caution

Anonymous said...

lol, let him beg well

Anonymous said...

Heeen, the matter no too hard, if he wants forgiveness let him come to ur gates with his car headlights on, come with a microphone and ask all ur neighbours to beg you on his behalf after explaining that he wrongly accused you. Better still he could go on radio programmes to beg you. After which you either dump him or forgive depending on what you feel for him. This man is insecure and also a jealous man, I honestly think he's still too immature to settle down.
Seek advice from your mum also.
He doesn't trust you, remember that.

em jay said...

Haaa! that was too much oga sir,u came here yesterday,without giving us all dis dedail,u do not trust her @ all,cos even if ur gate man told u he heard her moaning or even saw her entering wit anoda man,u are were not suppose to behave like dat for crying out loud,haba! I believe u re educated even if u re not,dat why we ve common sense,my dear wife to be,forgive him,if only he will come to ur house @ dat same time to rant and shout dat he is sorry and dat he was lying,inorder to clear ur name,with ur neighbours and mum listening as well period.sorry ohh if I used some harsh words,d matter provoke me joor

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Mmaivy said...

if he knew the way he came by 11.30pm to scream and shout the accusations, let him come by that time too to scream and shout out for forgiveness and he should do that on his knees with his headlights on and horn blaring so that everyone will come out and see him begging. That should be before you even listen to him.

Jessica law said...

My questions are, do you love him? Secondly do you think is someone you can leave with for the rest of ur life? thirdly does he respect you! Now back to your question love can make ppl do stupid things at times tho ur fiancee went too far, buh if u truly love him and he has apologies u can forgive him but if the questions above are No move on with ur life.he offended u big time by not trusting you

Cynthia Iyede said...

Gosh! Dis is so freaking annoying. Babe I don't blame u jare. Get angry all u want, he's insane. He's not even married to u yet n he behaved that way? What will happen when u guys get married? Just try n 4give him n encourage him to work on his temper. I'm still angry sef

pumkin said...

D guy is so immature honestly dn't knw wat to say

Anonymous said...

I don't usually comment but I just had to this time. He is a total idiot! DOn't go back to him. I'm not even saying he had to believe cos we are all human beings but the way he handled it was totally inappropriate. He basically has no respect for you if he could disgrace you like that and he's def not gentle man.

BUSAYO KANJUNI said...

Ofcourse, he was so so wrong for not trusting you but dear, pls forgive him, believe me he loves you, if not he would not keep begging you. Unlike my ex boyfriend, very rude, he won't even beg, thank God i left him.

Anonymous said...

Heeen, the matter no too hard, if he wants forgiveness let him come to ur gate with his car headlights on at past 11pm o, come with a microphone and repeat all d drama he did earlier but this time he should say he wrongly accused you and ask all those listening to beg on his behalf. Better still he could go on radio programmes to beg you. After which you either dump him or forgive depending on what you feel for him. This man is insecure and also a jealous man, I honestly think he's still too immature to settle down.
Seek advice from your mum also.
He doesn't trust you, remember that.

Anonymous said...

How do people enjoy reading this things

Funmy Kemmy said...

This is disgusting. Move on with your life. He does not deserve your love.

phinite said...

Imagin dt! All these insecure men wit dia trust issues. Nw he's hia beggin 4 4givness afta all d embarressmnt, anofia. Pls dear dnt mk it easy for him even if ure going to 4give him.

BUSAYO KANJUNI said...

But if you feel you want to follow the wrong advices that yiu should not forgive him, pls let me have him, i'm sure he's a rich dude. I'm going to make a gud wife. Wat do u think?

urchman log said...

Chai!!!! This girl might b a Lesbian ooo, I quote "I immediately told my guard that was there to call my friend that was with me, and when she came, I told her about the accusation and she said "I was with her last night at your place" " so who was moaning? I quote him (d guy) "you brought a man to my house and came to f**k on my bed, he even used my condom, the gateman heard you moaning, on the bed I bought''. ........ Hehehehehe the truth keeps unfolding small small. Linda if u want no post my comment

Thompson Tosan Oluwakemi said...

Dump his sorry ass cause if you don't he'll do something worst than this next time.

Anonymous said...

Ohh ohhh

Anonymous said...

Good question

Iffycandy said...

Nne calm down, he sha dint hit you? He's just being jealous n angry I bet you 90% of Naija men would've done same or even worse. Ndo o? Y'all should kiss and make up already. Ignore anybody that tells you otherwise some are going thru worse things!

Anonymous said...

THERE IS FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN!!! RUN! RUN!! RUN!!!

Rosenkrantz said...

Y'all are missing the point here. Who is the guy you entered the house with at 12:30 am?

Anonymous said...

You will come here tomorrow now telling us how you made mistake and married a junk. Forgive him because God wants us to forgive but no more relationship with such man. Haba!!

Anonymous said...

Heeen, the matter no too hard, if he wants forgiveness let him come to ur gate with his car headlights on at past 11pm o, come with a microphone and repeat all d drama he did earlier but this time he should say he wrongly accused you and ask all those listening to beg on his behalf. Better still he could go on radio programmes to beg you. After which you either dump him or forgive depending on what you feel for him. This man is insecure and also a jealous man, I honestly think he's still too immature to settle down.
Seek advice from your mum also.
He doesn't trust you, remember that.

Anonymous said...

my dear please forgive him, if u truly know that u love him and he is ur kind of Man, dont be bother with wat ur friends or neighbors wil say, cos they got bigger issues that they are sitting on, but please put him on probation by watching him for a while

Anonymous said...

@Urchman, Ewu is exactly what you are. A man accused his babe falsely and you don't see anything wrong? Moaning ko, munner ni. what was the gateman doing at his oga's window and listening to moaning if it ever happened. Same way he will listen to his oga and babe moan too. You are the same. Idiot

Anonymous said...

lol. funny story. well if the gateman heard sounds at night and u were with ur frnd, guess u were making out with ur female frnd den. lmaoooo. that one sef dey

Anonymous said...

That's the million dollar question! Where was she coming from @ 12.30 midnite? If she had come in @ reasonable time the gate man won't mistake your female friend for your bobo! And your bobo wouldn't have jumped to conclusion too.

Anonymous said...

What he just showed you is the tip of the iceberg. Do not confuse madness with love. Even if he caught you on top of a man, a man that truly loves and respects you will still not react like this your boyfriend. Some might even tell you that he reacted like that because he loves you but when you will understand that it is not love but madness is if you go ahead and marry him...everything he is doing now will be x2. He dragged you in your night rail now, after you marry him, his type will beat you up and throw you out of the house in the middle of the night because his neighbor in the village told him that he saw you in a dream with another man. He will keep disgracing you and apologizing. The saddest thing about people like him is that they are the biggest cheats ever...do not be shocked if he was coming back from another woman's house when the gateman accosted him. A man that cannot control his emotions is a dangerous man.

Nkemdilim Christabel said...

trust ke,i dnt trust nobody nt even myselff

Anonymous said...

I knew you were never smart...these people just don't or refuse to see it.

Anonymous said...

Which kind soap opera be dis? abeg make una pack one side make ppl with real problems come to the front...

Anonymous said...

Stop copying Stella. Nobody writes u for advice.make e here. How come u have this segment all of a sudden. Greed. Be humble with what u already have. Tomorrow u will delete d blog and pit it back dat Google took it

Anonymous said...

Please email me, I have candid advice for you that I can't write here due to the length. headpresident@gmail.com.

Anonymous said...

Who are the people asking for advice from kids?it's not all about making money k. Stella will always have what you don't. Have u stopped bragging? U wan advice. Mstcheew

SkiWeezy said...

Who did u entered the house with around 12.30am???

Abeg goan sleep! No smoke without fire! Yeye

Nkemdilim Christabel said...

vry true

Anonymous said...

Spot on!
Hisssss! Foolish man, pride arrogance at its peak!

ellajohn said...

They too dey gossip

Anonymous said...

She impacts life k. I am number 1. Chop am. Nonsense. U won't go and advice e ur rude and manner less sister. And itself. Posting show off to people suffering in ur blog. There are many ways to inspire. U need to tush up. A blogger does not try to be friends with entertainers cos u have to write about dem. U dey find friends.

Anonymous said...

its nt d guys fault sha,poster if u were d one u wud hav reacted same way i bet u,hmm,its nt easy 2 hear dat ur partner whom u love cheated on u nd u just kip calm 2 discuss issues,lailai,u must react somhw o,somtin of such hapnd 2 me i just packed my tins out off his ouse nd wrote a letter he shud nt border 2 look 4 me cos he wont find me,didnt even ask him weder he did it or not o,lolz,i wish i get power reach am i 4 slap am,we ar humans abeg,VERA

Anonymous said...

nt funny

Motunrayo olaide said...

Hmmmmm he'll have to make such loud noise to apologize o cos I can imagine d scandal this must hav caused you....... Sorry dear, bt love can be funny sha

Anonymous said...

It looks like it was her female friend. The gateman just saw two people and jumped into conclusion.

Anonymous said...

Thanks prettie...you've seen this from my point of view,I even find it funny,just forgive the guy its not that a big deal.he dint hit u,for someone that heard u did shiiit in his house and dint hit u,he's not so bad...guys don't always question like u girls when we hear stufs.we dint go all *dont lie to me* stuf,we just get pissed and wonder Why!!! We are **sholes Lol....just forgive the dude,he would grow with time and learn to ask you first or not even listen at all.and please most of these comments that advice u quit the relationship they are just angry Nigerians,dnt let their bad experience ruin ur relationship,they are not entirely happy,the country is tough and their men are fighters,how can they judge for you.be wise

urchman log said...

D fact is that SHE fucked her Girl friend that night..... Mr. Man, I don't blame u that much at all but I blame u on disgracing her out there without confirming from her, my advice is for u to calm down for now cos u hv really tried, if she's urs, she's gonna calm down n come back to you, that's if u will want her oo cos dat girl fucked her fellow girl that night... bsides, which babe go dey do shakara reach dis level? nawaoo

sandra ayode said...

A good relationship should be built on trust..no matter what we should learn to forgive

Anonymous said...

This story get as e be, but you two should quit your volatile relationship. There's no trust there. i personally would not settle with a man that embarrasses me publicly. Had a douchebag bf like that....when i left him, he dint believe. Begged for years. Abeg goodbye to rubbish, happily married to a perfect gentleman now, bless his wonderful heart.

Winifred Nkiru Iyama said...

Do u use condom with ur fiance? Una nor wan born kwa? If not ask him who he's using them on. #Passing by

Adeola oduwole said...

He has touch of madness. Free him biko

snowflix said...

Lwkmd!! Some men are so mumuciousity I swear down. My dear punish him very well before you forgive him so that next time he will learn to trust u. Stupid man! #onelovefromSnow#

Anonymous said...

Sincerely speaking your bf is silly to believe what his gate man said..he suppose to trust his gf more than his gate man...am very sure you guyz having been dating for years...so such a thing suppose not to happen..i think you guyz should sit down and settle to d issue among ursef as lovers


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KWEEN said...

But who was the man you went into the house with at 12.30am? You didn't explain that part well o.

Anonymous said...

Ha! Ha!! Ha!!!

Anonymous said...

Linda you have a thing for Bonario,how can u prefer him over us,u don't let anyone talk real to him.just painful u know,,how could you not post that comment.i feel sad ryt now

Peps said...

True...! He's insecure, lacks trust and you most definitely cannot change him. The change has to come from himself and willingly too. Move on dear but first hear him out. All the best!

Anonymous said...

D guy doesnt trust u so there is no use wasting ur time...it wld most likely still happen in the future. Av seen such guys...immature n insecure...I suggest u give d relationship a break and tink of if u can cope wit such if u marry him

Izulu Nimi said...

Come u dis bonario guy, u beginning yo puss me off. Bcos u have small lib fame u think ure dbanj. What dyu even do for a living? Who knows u outside. Get a life dude.

Anonymous said...

Eyah, that's always the problem. Misunderstanding ... Understanding is all that matters. Pele Bae. Forgive your guy, na LOVE. LOL

JESS JESS JESSY said...

Biko two you should solve ur issues n leave us out of it.....Man go n marry ur mai-guard n Woman pray to God to find you a better man.... Mind you Man, anyman can come seek for anybody n maybe he just asked after ur woman..... Two of u shd stop disturbing us..... Settle everything n tell us if we are to wear correct dress or beat d mai-guard

Anonymous said...

Thunder will fire u! Wicked u! Pple lyk u won't get good men. Ezi.

Anonymous said...

It's true, we don't deserve women lyk u dat can't even type express themselves. Look at u....fowl!

Ijebugarrideysweet said...

There is more to this story. Ya all busy saying she should dump his ass.Some pple on this Blog don't even know what Love is all about and yet they are here giving all d wrong advice.The girl in question came home around 12:30am is that a sign of a responsible girl who is supposed to be engaged?..The gate man is not a fool for saying he heard a moaning sound coming from the bed room.Sorry to say but the girl is Lesbian.Even though she did not cheat on him with a guy,its still cheating.

Fifi said...

@kween didn't u read that she was with her friend d night before

Valerie said...

Girl, forget all these comments about dumping or forgiving....You knew what you had to do before all this propaganda...so still do it.Honestly, you didn't need to respond to his post on this blog....you will almost never find the full support you need from a blog least of all from people that do not know jack about both of you. Talk to the people that matter to you in your life e.g. your family members esp. your mum....For all you know and care, we are gossips feeding off your drama as this week's episode of life. Next week, we comment on another...

Anonymous said...

BETTER RUNNNNN FAST & FAR!!!! One day he will kill you because of what your cook says!!! LOL!!!

Isaac Jacob said...

How can I be an LIB reader?? How can I share my story??

Anonymous said...

Linda pls post.


Dumb the guy's sorry ass. He didn't respect the fact that your mom was home, ur landlord, co tenants etc.....,.
At that time of the night. In ur night dress. Haba!
Next time Na street he go beat u.

Dump him. He's not worth it.

Anonymous said...

Well! Dude if she was moaning and had a female around ..you even have a bigger p.ask her if she is a lesiban

Demi Posh said...

Forgive him and take him back. Let your guards down before he says he doesn't want the relationship anymore. Good men are rare. Enough said.

Demi Posh said...

@Anon 5:32pm. You are so so right

Demi Posh said...

God bless you oh. My thought exactly

David Uche said...

Haha, why d hate na. D guy only gave an opinion.. Dear Mr Nnags, the bf has asked for forgiveness. Surely he must be feeling remorseful now to ask forgiveness via LIB.

David Uche said...

Anon 8:32 u hut it, she could've been having sex with her gf..

Anonymous said...

Thunder will not fire anything there! That is an insane mane right there. Marry him tomoro n let some male colleague talk to her n c if she will live to tell her own sidw of the story.

This how women end up dead cos they must marry at all cost.
My dear girl, this is a sign of major horrors to come. A word is enof for even d mumu much less tge wise.

Anonymous said...

Did anyone read the part where she said he "dragged" her out in her "nightgown" ? Abi we did read the same post here?

Girl open ur eye. If this one doesnt kill u for talking with a male co-worker, he will definitely strip u naked in front of everyone screaming for them to com see ur nakedness. I kno his type. Just from ur explaination of his reaction to a perceived truth. Be very careful. And i will say to forgive him but be wise as a serpent n move on.

Anonymous said...

God bless u for this comment

Jules J said...

These peeps r just so dump... did u guys evn read that story? Plz read again you will know who she went into the house with... Ode's

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