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Thursday 6 November 2014

Dear LIB readers: Please help me beg my fiancee

From a male LIB reader
I recently went on a trip and left my fiancee in my house in Lagos. On my return I was hinted by my security guard that she had a man in the house in my absence and I went off the handle to the extent that we were constantly fighting over the issue ( bottom line is in the end after grilling the guard for more info, his account was not true ). I cannot fire the guard since I only live in a flat in the building and truly will not want my neighbors hearing such about my intended wife to be. My fiancee is seriously mad at me and she cannot seem to forgive me for not trusting her until proven guilty. How can I get this woman back? Somebody help me, I am deeply worried and I have tried everything I can to show her I am sorry. Ideas anyone? I know she reads this blog, someone please appeal to her on my behalf.

116 comments:

Anonymous said...

Awwwh get a band to sing for her!!

Amablaze said...

Wat is her name n lib..gateman tell u blive naw see d condition u put ursef in..

Marcel Duplexis said...

Women!

Unknown said...

U should have had from her...don't beat a woman ,it is nt gud.....

Anonymous said...

you are a foolish man. you accuse your wife-to-be with the words of a general security man?
you don't deserve her. no trust. the relationship is useless.

Unknown said...

Let her be for some times. Only time can heal the wound you caused in her heart.

Unknown said...

I dnthave any advice to give to u..... But please can I see that ur gate man? Ka nsuo ya akwu! U bera fire him. Goodluck!

Peejay said...

So touching. Number 1 advice, fire the guard as her wound will be reopened every time she lays eyes on him. Number 2, get her a gift that you know will sweep her off her feet. It doesn't have to be very expensive (unless that's her thing), you could cook a meal, give her a pedicure, have an "I'm sorry" cake delivered to her office/home (yeah, you will be humiliated and she feel it's even), or get her a pet.
Hope this helps.

Unknown said...

Just persevere, she'll tk yu bck surely... She's just angry @ d moment n dis phase will pass trust me.... Everyone mk's mistakes..

Uche Emma said...


Fiancee, we dey beg ooo

Unknown said...

Trust in a relationship is very important ...my dear forgive him..,if u love him so much...mistake have been made..forgive him

Anonymous said...

Are you sure the guard is not telling the truth??????? I am just saying oh!!!!!!

Unknown said...

U should have had from her...don't beat a woman ,it is nt gud.....

ary said...

This a good first step and if she reads this, she will probably take it as an act of atonement and forgive you. BTW have a broken a bottle over the gate man's head? He's probably had an eye for your girl, that explains his misinformation.

Anonymous said...

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Unknown said...

Mtshewwwwww
I feel like knocking ur whole 32 off ur mouth
So u believed aboki wey no sabi anytin, u those kind of guys who sits down with aboki to discuss other ppl, if not a guard wont have the effontry to discuss ur babe with u, haba he no dey fear ni?
Mtshewwww

Oya madam u too forgive am na love they shack am inugo?
Lindodo hope this solves the problem of this fake story cus in a nut shell I dnt believe the story sounds fabricated nd dont add up lol

Livvsreamblog said...

Buy her ferrari

ugo said...

Seen

Unknown said...

Story for the Gods. All the same, ur fiancee wil calm down, keep apologising SINCERLEY.
U guys shld be careful with dat guard.
He is a time-bomb waiting to explode.
He will still frame up so many other occupants of that property. Alert your co-tenants and sack dat guy.

Daralohi said...

In a relationship there are three things that are required,they are love,trust and communication,if you love her without trusting her,it will not work,try to trust her,and if she truly loves you she will forgive you.

chibaby said...

d first sign of failure in relationship is bringing in a third party. d deed has been done and u ve realized ur mistake just let her be she will come around on her own what is yours is yours.

dear sis, kindly forgive i feel ur hurt he has realized his mistake best of luck

Francis said...

How or why will ur security guard tell u she had a man in d house in your absense if it wasn't true??? You haven't found out d truth yet. A security guard won't tell u such a tin if there isn't some atom of truth in it. Am thinking ur guard told u d truth but found out how far the quarelll btw u td escalated and he changed his story. Don't mind me I might be extremely wrong but all d same. U should never beg anyone to stay in ur life. If u r truely sorry keep showing her that u r sorry if she doesn't agree I suggest u moveon with ur life.

Unknown said...

@ poster, u are a pong ass. U need to slap urself multiple times. Dear sweetie LIB visitor, kindly forgive ur Kpaf of a fiance for believing an aboki on top matter wey u no sabi. Biko gbahara.

Anonymous said...

Fianceee........... i feel your hurt and pain, nut my dear sister, from a sister, please forgive him.... you know you love him very much from the bottom of your heart.

chibaby said...

d first sign of failure in relationship is bringing in a third party. d deed has been done and u ve realized ur mistake just let her be she will come around on her own what is yours is yours.

dear sis, kindly forgive i feel ur hurt he has realized his mistake best of luck

chibaby said...

d first sign of failure in relationship is bringing in a third party. d deed has been done and u ve realized ur mistake just let her be she will come around on her own what is yours is yours.

dear sis, kindly forgive i feel ur hurt he has realized his mistake best of luck

Unknown said...

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Go buy her a Range Rover and believe me all this long begging go stop instantly....
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Unknown said...

Woman, forgive am nau! Im love u na im make am misbehave.

Unknown said...

Babe forgive Na, that guy love u and if him no vex say another man chop u them his not honest

Anonymous said...

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Unknown said...

First of all, don't listen to what people say n that's good for you, you men will just listen to things from outside n conclude..... E good for you..... Tell her that you are an idiot n you sorry for listening to ur guard.....maybe self he has a crush on her....linda post am oo

Unknown said...

Why in the world will u believe him in d first place?especially without evidence! Shows u never trusted her!fear God!

Anonymous said...

I will advise u kip beggin en askin 4 forgiveness en try 2 trust her more en wife 2 be biko ur bobo is sorry 4give him he won't doubt u again

Unknown said...

You need crious spanking... How dare u trusth ur security ova ur wife 2 be, Ur crazy! She shuld dump ur silly ass cos she deserves better!

Caroline Okere said...

Give her time. Then slowly try to get her back with all the things you once wooed* her with. Time heals.

Anonymous said...

Pls forgive him,he is ur man

Anonymous said...

You are a dim witted person! Your gateman told you she had a man in the house and you took it without thinking twice and now you're asking her to forgive you? Forgive you for what? You must be silly! This is someone you claim you want to spend the rest of your life with and you clearly don't trust can you see you are an unserious human being? If somewhere along the line now one idiot posing as family or friend comes and tells you she's cheating again you'll take it na intact family is even good. You'll take advise from a goat clearly since you can listen to a clearly idiotic gateman without question. And as for that home breaker bastard of a gateman you better look for a way to get him out of there before he ruins anymore homes. RUBBISH!

Grocery said...

so thats why u can't confront her before loosing your madness on her.......well LOVE please try and see reason to forgive him. we are all Human

Anonymous said...

Come marry my friend, she really need a man

Sean Manuel said...

Dont be fooled. She did it. She just change am for you. Dont be suprised that Mai-Guard Changed his story after being bribed. I am laughing so hard. Men think we know how to cheat. We only cheat more but women cheat better. (once she has decided to cheat, that is). I feel sorry for you, because you are about to marry the worst kind of woman, that kind that will commit and still make you feel guilty. Chai.

Unknown said...

Hasty decisions and its effects
Buh why would d security man be his singing lil birdie
Anyways,there is more to this
And as for u ma guy,u don fuck up
U neva know wetin xup and u don conclude to d extent of interrogating ur wife to be
U hv lost her mehn,buh if she's urs,she will 4give u





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Anonymous said...

Just tell her you're tired of begging her and if she can't forgive your honest mistake, she should bounce. Trust me, she go gentle#

If she nor gréé, ping me joor. Plenty fishes in the river

Anonymous said...

Hahahahahaha..that security man is an idiot oo and you don't want to fire him...

Unknown said...

I beg carry that flower throway. U no know say ur fiancee Don go threaten d security man? Na hin make d man change him story.

Anonymous said...

The guy is daft, believing his Security man over his so called wife to be. He must be a very mad man

Unknown said...

????????

Unknown said...

If after sseing this post, she doesn't accept you, my guy let it go. To show your love for her you had to let the world know, it shows the depth of love you have for her.

Anonymous said...

Linda won't ever answer a mail until she see 'Dear LIB readers' mstchew..

Anonymous said...

please forgive him o, biko

ibeakwadalam said...

First admit that you head no dey house. That you were stupid. Abuse yourself first. Then beg, beg, beg and beg again.

And like all Nigerians, blame it on the devil.

SalmaLena said...

Laugh don tire me "tell her you got really jealous blah blah blah

Unknown said...

Gateman told you your wife brought a man and you started quarrelling with her?#Things we hear#, she will forgive you give her time!

Anonymous said...

Please forgive him if you reading this, for him to have come this far it shows he really loves u.

Pls if u've got my voodoo doll, help me scratch my butt i'm in public. Call me **THAFINEXX**

Unknown said...

with these flowers? okay ooo

Unknown said...

Pls fiancee punish him well till you are satisfied and forgive him afterwards.

Sugar Sticks said...

Maybe you should talk to her parent

VICTOR... said...

Go and marry your security man

Unknown said...

If u cnt trust den y do u want 2 marry go nd marry d guard now.......ewu

Anonymous said...

Don't worry just give me her phone number. Here's my pin 32E87121

Unknown said...

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Anonymous said...

ODE!!

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Well,..fiancee,if u are reading this..I would want u to please calm down..and reason wth your boyfriend...like dey say,..deres is no smoke without fire..ur boyfriend only exploded that way ..cos he was so in love with you..he literally went mad..with just the tot of another guy being in ur arms..he loves u that. Much!..I personally reckon gentle confrontations about relationship issues to non challancy..that's means the person doesn't even care enuf..or probably is even with some other person..so why get a headache for ur matter!...but wen u see ur spouse furious..sweating..(Not hitting u tho)..but very tensed cos he suspects u had an affair..and u knw he is not a naturally. Aggresive person,..then u knw d love he has for u is so great..re interprete. His actions for love,sweety...instead of some other thing u have made up in ur mind...get back together baby!...it aff teyeed I eat parry rice...I wan come yua weedding!..k?

Mama D said...

Babe biko abeg forgive the brother, he is really sorry- don't worry I will deal with him under this post ejor!!! Hmnnnn


Well done oh, so you now believe the security guard over your gf abi? I almost wanted to say serve you right but every one deserves a second chance. Love her right ok!

Unknown said...

#lolz. When yuh re doing the Main thing yuh no tell us o! Now yuh want us to beg on ur behalf. Anyway! Dear fiancee on behalf of ur hsbnd to be l plead to 4gv his act Nd 4get okey. In any r/ship the must be crash Nd after dat settlement follows. Xo don't let devil to destroy ur happiness thnx. For the hsnd to be pls try ur possible best to trust ur woman is important for the future


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Anonymous said...

Plsss o if u reading dis blog forgive him o......qudratadenike@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

Young man free her. There are one million and one gel who are ready to die 4 u . Comon!

Thywill Be Done said...

Imagine how shallow you can be??? Without grilling the guard further, you went into fighting with your fiancee, now you know better.
However, your actions afterwards shows commitment.
And so, dear fiancee, please find a place in your heart and forgive him. People who only trust you after you've been proven innocent sometimes act out of experience.
This is also a blessing in disguise - his initial judgement has just promoted you.
Henceforth, every trust issues have been settled. Just forgive, forget and take him back (other things remaining equal).

Unknown said...

If u don't trust her in courtship, is it marriage u will trust her. Just keep on begging

Anonymous said...

Jump in frontof a train...simple

yawanow said...

Shower her with gift and love. Apologize to her in a way she never imagined. She will forgive you if she truly sees the future with you.

Mr_SouL Get Naija Twitter/IG followers/7AB109CB said...

climb 3rd mainland bridge, call NTA reporters , threaten to Jump off is she doesn't come, if she comes n forgives u drive her straight to the alter, buh if she doesn't come... erm erm, im outa ideas here

Subomi said...

her parents ... simple

Mystique said...

How could you believe d words of a security guard over the woman u clam you want to marry? Dat been said, wifey pls forgive him, I'm sure he has learnt from is mistake.

Unknown said...

Dear Fiancee,
Men are jealous naturally and we can't share our spouse with any other man, we can't stand it. This guy did all of these because he loves you. Believe me, if this guy is not in a serious relationship with you, he would have ignored and be like.... what the hell..... please forgive him, he really loves you.

Emjay said...

Pls forgive him wife to be


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Anonymous said...

you have to be patient and just keep trying my dear. we all make mistakes. just keep trying and waiting for her to respond. i presume you would know something about her and her soft spot. try to push those buttons..

Dotted lines said...

Yes o common security man.......4om guys r nt ok.....marri ur security man

Anonymous said...

He didn't beat her, mind you. Why not read and understand post before making comment

Anonymous said...

wife to be forget n forgiveooooooooooo.

Anonymous said...

In every rumour there must be an atom of truth, u neva can tell if ur gateman is telling u the truth. 4 hw lng hv u be 2gether (i mean the gate man) dn't 4get he's d1 dt allows pple in nd out in dt vry gate so ma broda u cn neva tell. Yes u did said he chnge his wrd later on, let me ask u, did u ask him abt ur fiance or did he jst wrk up 2 u? U nid 2 ask urcef dis question which is y did he chnge his wrd or did ur fiance threaten him? I de smell rat sha

laulipop said...

Abi

Unknown said...

U go dance moonwalk to makosa... she go surely forgive u. she sef suppose understand say e hard to trust women dis days..

Nkaylicious... said...

Buy her a 2014 Range.. Im sure that will pacify her. . Thank me later.. :)

prettycounsel said...

Commenting for the first time

Anonymous said...

To the man: u need to be flogged.. Nonsense. Go nd marry ur security guard now. Btw beg her well. Beg her seriously.. Sit outside her house for days till she answers you. Buy gifts, call her a million times, be dramatic, do all sorts
To the woman: do shakara very well Cos I still believe u still live him and then after a while forgive him. Pls ehn.. Now that every body is begging u I expect ur heart to be soft now nd u'll be blushing..

Tetsara said...

lmao! Juliet please forgive this Romeo! But Romeo, u sef for don misyarn and you are not telling us. Anyway, Juliet,please forgive. To 'hear'(gist) is human...lolz

Anonymous said...

I believe the guard's story about her cheating. You have a master manipulator on your hands.

KWEEN said...

She did what? Listen to yourself!!! Did the leaky mouthed gateman provide any proof of any shady moves? Even if she had a man over at the house, does that mean something happened between them? He could have been a colleague or a friend. Even if she wants to cheat, do y'all think she'll be dumb enough to bring the side guy to her fiance's house? Where any one of his neighbors and not just the gateman can see her?why say he is about to marry the worst kind of woman? Do you know her personally or were you there and know everything that happened? Judging people hastily. Msheeew!

Anonymous said...

Mehn guy u b correct person!i support dis guy!becos hw d security go talk dat kin tin if e no see m

Anonymous said...

If I were you, I won't have confronted my fiancee outrightly. I would have followed a more logical course of action....say nothing about it to her while not discounting the security man's story. This would give you ample time to investigate secretely. Never let anyone know what's on your mind and where you are coming from. Why wld a security man say what he didn't see? Bcos he wants your fiancee for himself? Or your fiancee was disrespectful to him and he is habouring a grudge and wants to deal with her via you? Is the apartment yours or hers? That said no responsible lady, waiting to get married will bring another man to her place that easily. But you never know

Anonymous said...

Pong? *sigh*

Anonymous said...

You did the right thing. Don't feel guilty. She only wants to stress it so that when she eventually does cheat, you will be afraid to even confront her. Some women can never be trusted.

Anonymous said...

My thoughts exactly... The story seems too summarised to be true.
Something definitely does not add up.

Unknown said...

Dear wife to be please forgive him we know he was stupid enough to quarrel you over what aboki man said mana gbahara ya o

snowflix said...

Buy her a ferrari she will forgive you trust me 'lol' Adamu like you, you didn't seek advice before reacting now you need advice. Come and kiss my *** #onelovefromSnow#

Anonymous said...

Lmao! Kween the lib debtor yaf vexed.....hope you've cleared your debt shaa. Don't come ranting here while owing.

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm u must be a romantic person

Anonymous said...

You must be a romantic person and that's sweet

Anonymous said...

Anonymous November 6, 2014 at 7:43 PM your head dey there

Unknown said...

You just have to learn to trust your woman more. But for now try to get her to sit down and listen to you, explain openly and honestly to her how you felt when you heard it. Admit that you were wrong and don't try to deny anytin just openly show her that you are sorry and that you will try to improve.

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Anonymous said...

(ex-girlfriend of "please help me find my fiacee'' (because we are ex now))Linda don't know how you are going to post this but this guy literarily came to my house, parked on the road, his car full lights were on with ignition on (about 11:30pm same night he came into town), told my gateman to call me, I came out and stood inside the compound peeping out thinking he had come to apologize (he had upset me earlier that same day), i said "yes what do you want?'' and his response was in an angry voice "what do you mean by what do i want?''. He came towards me and dragged me outside the compound by my night wear and started shouting in an angry tone "you brought a man to my house and came to fuck on my bed, he even used my condom, the gateman heard you moaning, on the bed i bought''. I thought he was going mad so I kept calm, i asked him to leave my hands because he held them so tight. I immediately told my guard that was there to call my friend that was with me, and when she came, I told her about the accusation and she said "i was with her last night at your place" (and this guy kept on shouting on top of his lungs with my neighbors and Landlord watching and hearing my supposed fiace accusing me i took a man to his house (my mum heard too - she dint answer my greeting the following morning)…

Please how do women forgive men that would listen to his gateman and react before asking the woman he claims he loves (Mind you,, he dint tell his gateman he was traveling, so two days without seeing his oga, he assumed it was his oga and myself that entered the house because its was late at night (12:30am). All the guard said to him the following day when he got home was "oga i think say na you enter house yesterday"...

Anonymous said...

Lol..come and take it na

NaeTi said...

Finally somebody...the guard might be telling the truth at the first place. .the woman might have gotten to him...just saying still

Mrs Fash said...

Very sweet... take this advice man!

Mrs Fash said...

Very sweet... take this advice man!

Anonymous said...

Da sometime might b too l8 for u.because he never trusted her

Unknown said...

Why begging woman where full everywhere?... Mumu things

JOYCHY said...

Dese are d kind of men we have dese days. A gate man told u stuff & u swallowed it hook line & sinker, dat goes 2 show d kind of person u are, & I guess he chose 2 pull d stunt on u cuz he knew u wld fall 4 it.
Dat security man has got some effrontery.
Keep begging & keep begging & keep begging, dough d trust has been lost. Try rebuilding it!!

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Anonymous said...

Olubukola.... ur head really dey on top ur shoulder. how can he bliv an aboki?? #smh#

Anonymous said...

re u blind or jst dumb. did u read frm anywere tat he'd beaten ha? na wa o

KWEEN said...

Anon 11:08, may God punish you and you entire generation. I'm not owing you or any Bastard and God is my witness. Those of you peddling this lie will see how your lives will turn out. Mark my words. You people have apparently underestimated the power of the tongue and Curses right? Loool. You will regret it. It's a promise.

Anonymous said...

Women full everywhere but 'wife' scarce.
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Unknown said...

Victor, from your comment, one can rightly deduce that you are a Fool!...nonsense!

Anonymous said...

victor is simple a big goat and tout! nonsence

Anonymous said...

So a security person isn't a human being anymore. I agree that he handled the situation poorly but don't talk in such a demeaning manner abt ppl

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