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Saturday, 4 July 2015

Nigerian transgender Stephanie Rose formerly known as Dapo Adaralegbe speaks on her life

More on Dapo Adaralegbe, the first Nigerian transgender who was born a boy, but now lives in the Netherlands as a woman named Stephanie Rose. I shared his photos here some days ago. Below is something the former Law student of Obafemi Awolowo University who was expelled in 2001 said in an interview talking about his life, growing up and sexuality before he eventually left Nigeria
“I was studying Law at the Obafemi Awolowo University, (OAU), Ife. I am of the 1995 set, but I had to leave school in 2001 because of pressures. People were too harsh on me; they did not understand me at all. When I was in school, the school authorities got to know that I slept with my fellow male students. There was also an incident when I had to be admitted in the hospital. I was bleeding from the anus and I had bad pile arising from sexual intercourse.
“When the school got to know the kind of person I was, they sent me to meet a Guidance Counselor, Professor Roger Makanjuola, who was the Vice Chancellor, who took care of me. You know he is a re-nowned Psychiatrist. He handled all issues relating to psychiatry with me.
He said I was okay and that nothing was wrong with my preferences, sexual-wise. He said it was just because I lived in an environment that did not tolerate that kind of behavior. He recommended that I should meet another Guidance Counselor but I did not follow up. Even at that, there seems to be very little assistance one can get medically in Nigeria.
“After a time, I tried going back to school but they told me I have stayed too long away from the system. I applied to change over to University of Lagos (UNILAG) and OAU authorities promised to assist with my transcripts, but they did not send it early, that was how I lost the chance of changing to UNILAG. I eventu-ally dropped out of school.”
 “I know this will shock you but I started having sex at the age of six. I had this cousin of mine who used to bring his friend to our house. He was the first to make love to me.
“Since I was small, I realized that I had this feeling that I was a woman. I used to paint myself up and wear girls’ clothes. Nobody stopped or cautioned me. My mother later died when I was 11 years old. My father has other wives and no one particularly bothered about me. I am the last child of my mother, she had four of us"
"I started having sex at the age of six, but no one in my family noticed the problem until I was 14 years old. My father is a Professor of Education. My mother was also a Professor in the same discipline. When my dad got to know, I think he was among the people who made Professor Makanjuola to examine me.
“The truth is that I had gone too far, and I don’t want to talk about my family in this issue. I have slept with a lot of people but my problem is that they were not faithful to me. They were not committed; we just have sex and they go away. I wish to have a committed partner that is why I have been trying to get a real lover, one that will care about me. In the alternative, I will like to relocate abroad where my kind exist.
In the University, I had several lovers but they were not serious. I have several men that I sleep with, I won’t mention their names. They cut across the low and highly placed, just let’s leave it at that. What I want is a committed partner. If I had a choice between getting cured and go¬ing for a surgery that will change my sex to a woman, I will prefer becoming a full woman.
“I am already a trans-sexual, the difference between me and other homosexuals are that while they just have the preference for sleeping with fellow men, I feel that I am a woman; I feel that someone should be making love to me the way men do to women. Since I started having sex, I am usually the female, the dormant partner. But do you know that right now, I need two things; a lover that is committed to me or help me to relocate out of this country,” he said.
He left a few months later

194 comments:

Unknown said...

Mtcheeew gal story

Unknown said...

these transgender people are blame God. nawaoooooo.

Unknown said...

Tired of all this transgender talk, enough already

Unknown said...

Excuse me ... Him don pray for him sins? I mean HIM,,, if they'll even b mercy.

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Your life story is disgusting, sorry nothing to learn from your irritating story.
Tueh! Almost made me puke on my breakfast.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

Anonymous said...

LOL another bruce in the making

Unknown said...

Uwa mmebi

Destiny said...

He is sick actually Bruce wanna b

Anonymous said...

Linda you must be an agent of the Devil.why are you giving publicity to all this nonsense? What exactly is your aim? Perharps you are a lesbian and trying seriously to prepare the ground for announcement? This perverts need help.parents pay more attention to your children.

Eze said...

Is this yeah all abt transgender and gays......Igbos and Hausa can't try this dou

Cute G said...

Oh dear child. I know it's hard for you bt u need to spend more time in the psychiatry. U'll be fine with time.

Unknown said...

Shame on you....







*K'O_Official*

Unknown said...

Gbagaun

eka said...

this gay thing na wa oh...pile plus what again
May God help all his children

Anonymous said...

jesu!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

COLLIN said...

So linda y did u hv to mk me read dz b4 eating

Unknown said...

I advise u go for deliverance... trans-sexual or transgender is evil

Amusan said...

Women can also be dominant in sex. These trans-genders that think they know what it's like to be a woman have no clue. How can you feel like a woman when you have never been one. But good for him/ her...as long as she is happy.

Unknown said...

who im don help????

Unknown said...

Hmmmm! END TIMES!

Anonymous said...

You are sick , Go to MFM for deliverance and stop blaming other people for your satanic mission.

NaijaDeltaBabe said...

I wish him all d best

Anonymous said...

You should relocate from earth.

Anonymous said...

Shame on the cousin. If still alive, he would read this.
@ Matiti, Dapo is not Bruce Wanabe, he s been like this since 2000/2001 in Ife.
I pray he finds help and gets healed.
I wish you a better life than this, not the kinda life you want for yourself, but to find Christ, know Him better and see how great His love for you is.

Unknown said...

Oh! Dis story is realy pathetic, and not touching@all. Parents hope u read dis "Nobody stopped or cautioned me".

Homosexuals r trap of d devil, and shouldn't b practice bcos those dat engage in dis act r making their pathway to Hell except they truly repent.

Those who hav ears let them hear, and a word is enough 4d wise.

Anonymous said...

To be honest I also believe Linda is a closet lesbian or has very close gay friends hence her 'empathy' on issues surrounding LGBT. Wateva it is I trust time would reveal all.

Unknown said...

Hmmmm! So disgusting to knw, it's a big pity u do not realise wht u are up to. U simply mean dt God made mistake creating u as a man! Is dt not? Well, I pray u realise on time. Linda, reduce this shit if u don't want us to loose interest.

shortman said...

I know is our Yoruba brothers that can do such rubbish ..lucky you FOOL..

Anonymous said...

i wish her well

This is what you need to succeed in life

Anonymous said...

This is so irritating. God plz help ur children.

knowurway.com said...

Com what is ur name Dapo, shift go that side with ur demon ok? Never u border us again with ur dead story u hear? Idiot mtcheew!!!!

josh kome said...

mtcheeeew

Aluko Temiloluwa said...

Speechless

Bonita Bislam said...

Choi *weeping for God*

Anonymous said...

Baba get hell ticket already

AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

Abeg next»»»»»»»

Anonymous said...

Stupid man days wat u will forever be. Waste

Unknown said...

Gbagauner gbagaunest....anyways this is one hell of an ugly transgender..

Unknown said...

All the way



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Unknown said...

Hmmmmmm.holyghost fire,u are evil.

Unknown said...

Jesus christ

Anonymous said...

Gbaga

yawanow said...

People that have been in worst situations survived without turing to gay or transsexual. I feel no pity for your story coz its disgusting and irritating. All you need is God and he will see you through.

Anonymous said...

I knew this guy in Ife 'Dapo Girl' as he was called then... Wow, paid him as he left Nigeria, he can enjoy himself now

Unknown said...

Who cares. I refuse to read dis epistle on abomination. Linda take note!

TheRealAkon said...

Don't criticise. Be open minded about life issues. Let 's leave it to the experts- psychoanalyst & psychiatrist to inform. Don't judge. It is a very vital issue to share. Thanks Linda.

andre kelvin said...

Yawns*

Unknown said...

Dude really needs help. Trans are evil.
Linda cogitate

GOLDEN GOLD said...

I remember Dapo very well @OAU.His make up was scary, his feminine dressing was digusting, his hairstyles were irritating, his heels were nothing to write home about. Infact nothing was nice about his look. We thought he had mental problem, others said he was possessed. Then transgender was align to us.
I never saw him walking/talking with anybody on campus , he was more like an outcast. Today, different blogs, newspapers n magazines pay so much attention to transgender as if it's sometin to b proud of.

Olu said...

When will Linda stop promoting these..

Adetunji Saka said...

I no fit comment abeg. This na superstory!

"Slow and steady wins d race"

Anonymous said...

This man suffered abuse as a child, was not cared for enough by anybody in his educated parents polygamous family for them to notice that his innocence had been stolen and corrupted.
And this went on till he had gone too far out to be helped, and in ignorance, people insult him?
I wish for him otherwise than he currently wishes himself, but I do not condemn him, 'cos truth is, no one has the right to.

Cicee said...

God knew LGBT will exist!!! He knows the end from the beginning. Y'all should let him be the judge.

Anonymous said...

Sick, sick we agree that you are mentally sick. You need Jesus.

GR8BABE said...

GOD FORBID. evil will never prevail. AMEN!

Unknown said...

Abeg you need help and prayers.please ask God for mercy

Unknown said...

Been a girl is so beautiful, all men are now changing to woman, i wont be surprise soon a girl will marry her follow girl, not knowing that she/he was once a man that changed into woman.... this world is really in trouble ooo, God bless no time again, come and deliver us.....

Unknown said...

Ooooooooh my...!

What does dis have to do wit tribe those criticizing tribe this idiot comes from?
Anyway mr he-she u ar a big disgrace to d whole Yorubas.

Anonymous said...

Mr Henry Eze on this comment section.
Gays in Nigeria are predominantly Igbo, you're ignorant of it because you are probably straight.

I personally don't understand how men want to do sex change to become women, it's beyond what i can fathom, it's against God and against nature. Are you saying God was imperfect in creating you.

Anyway, I'm in no way judging, i'm into men too, but not this bad.

Anonymous said...

Homophobic maggot

Unknown said...

Linda, now that you are carrying guy and transgender news, are you planning to turn to one? it is clearly stated in the Bible in Romans 1:32, that those who support them is as guilty as they are; Please be guided. No offense please.

Unknown said...

Oyibo! Supu oh

ASAMPOKOTO said...

You sound bitter. Are you bitter.
I'm sure you are one of those CHRISTIANS, instead of you to call him, befriend him pray for him and give him a shoulder to lean on, you probably Jst stood and judged. Smh!

Unknown said...

TAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA.Shut that thing you call mouth up!

Anonymous said...

Linda u are promoting dis demons in human form. Mind what u post on ur blog

Anonymous said...

Woman that changed into man u mean.

ASAMPOKOTO said...

That you people cannot figure that his own is probably as a result of the sexual assault he suffered as a child is baffling to me.
All you prople want to do is judge and insult other people. Face your own lives and Jst dont comment if you have nothing positive to say.
Thank God he left this damned country.

Unknown said...

Linda, im constantly dissapointed in the kind of story you post and delight yourself. I wonder how you can feel that going to church on Sunday makes you a christain

Cicee said...

I guess u skipped Romans 2:1???

Unknown said...

@ bola...wetin sef?take it easy mbok....

Anonymous said...

As in, very disgusting.
Yuck.

Anonymous said...

So d bleachin cream nko, Trans-Oyinbo....plz remain in dat country ooo

fgtf said...

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Anonymous said...

Linda pls is this an LGBT website? Tired of all this kind of news and you promoting life style that is criminal in Nigeria. Stop influencing the mind of our youths. If you are one of them say so pls. Have you seen American bloggers and media promoting polygamy? Pls change style

Anonymous said...

Linda,who's ur boy friend?Do u 'poke' with the opposite sex at all?

GALORE said...

Eya. ....



Jesus fix it!!!




@Galore

Paris said...

Abasha!!

Damola Gbadegesin said...

Hummmmm everyone always have a story.It is well.

Unknown said...

Ooooooooooh my...!

Let Derele know ur mind now so dat he can wife u

Anonymous said...

Boring, uninspiring story.......That's the judgmental me, but I experience The Love Of Christ Everyday and I know he's never tired of loving: its his nature. So I'll say Christ loves you and he is all you need sir abi na ma,including Linda too, He loves you with an unchanging love. I call you blessed.

sydexy said...

It's still very difficult to believe your heart irritating story. How can you tell us you started having sex from 4 or 6 years old and your parents didn't notice but you started bleeding from your anus when you were in the university and people started noticing it. You need no other help than just being delivered from the evil spirit that is possessing you.

Anonymous said...

i pray God shud help him.all dis is bcos he lacked parental care.his parents left him to be on his own nd he treaded d wrong ppath.Good for him if he finds satisfaction in it.nobody understood him then nd there wz nobody he could talk to.God save his soul.

Anonymous said...

Well.. from his story it just shows that he is a promiscuous fag..

Chei!!!! He even boasts of having different partners from the highly placed to the low...

If you ask me... I think this guy's sexual urge or fantasy is just way out of control..

DA FUCKS WRONG WITH HIM?!!!!?

sucree said...

Linda am warning you
stop wit this gay story. Am warning you

Unknown said...

So, what happened to his skin.... almost looking like an albino now...

Unknown said...

U only ned one tin broda..... Dat z eehh kill ur stupid self ewu

Anonymous said...

All these years later, he doesn't realize that he was molested as a child. I'm sad for him that his innocence was stolen, contributing to him being the lost broken person he is today. Hope he's found peace in his new life abroad.

Unknown said...

End time tinz. Can't juz bliv diz#

Unknown said...

Oh Maheeda where at thou? You seem to be the only sane human right now.

Anonymous said...

Dapo has been dressing up as a woman since 97. he firsted started with makeup and then he fully changed into womens clothes in the 2000.

This is a guy that went to Kings College , it appears when he was very young his mother died in front of him in a burning car.

Boys use to beat him in ife

PURPLE said...

This story is just bizzare. Lord

Anonymous said...

From his writing many Nigerian married me are closet gays. These guys sleeping with him at University have gone on to marry women. Very sad.

Emmaculate said...

U very wise for analyzing the originality of the problem

Balogun Olalekan said...

God, please have mercy on us. Heal and cleanse our land. This is just arrant nonsense. which kind life....chai. Cheers. Don Casey

PURPLE said...

Anon shut d fuck up! Damn. God wipe these people off this earth already! :(

PURPLE said...

This story is just bizzare. Lord

Anonymous said...

Linda or whatever your name is, stop this nonsense you're posting cos u won't be able to stand the wrath of God, so don't let Him face u ok

Juleslouis said...

Most of these trans and gays are always abused children. And what children know and understand is what they see. Once a child start getting drilled in d anus he will grow up with that type of pleasure. So parents be careful with your children. They r like a clean slate whatever they see and experience affects them more that what they r told. God help us. Wonder how big his butthole will be now! Can't imagine biko!

Anonymous said...

Make d guy neva travel out o. Make una help me call am back abeg. Person wey go marry am and love am more dan he culd eva imagine do dey here o abeg. And na ME. Make he sha first help me with 5billion naira. Then we will become bone to bone and flesh to flesh

Anonymous said...

U've said it all

Unknown said...

And what is d moralof dis lesson?????


Moye says so via BB Passport...Courtesy LIB......

Unknown said...

Only God can deliver this guy

Otuonye Chidera said...

Linda, and transgender news self...


This is what you need to succeed in life

Nky said...

Story for the gods..

Unknown said...

Nice comment

Unknown said...

God bless u

Unknown said...

Nice comment. A balanced mind

Unknown said...

Onyx when are you finally coming out of the closet to tell us your own story?

Unknown said...

He must have been a very ugly boy..🙈

Unknown said...

Very ugly looking boy...🙈

Cianci said...

The Bible’s answer
God created humans to engage in sex only within the arrangement of marriage between a male and a female. (Genesis 1:27, 28; Leviticus 18:22; Proverbs 5:18, 19) The Bible condemns sexual activity that is not between a husband and wife, whether it is homosexual or heterosexual conduct. (1 Corinthians 6:18) This includes intercourse, fondling another person’s genitals, and engaging in oral or anal sex.

While the Bible disapproves of homosexual acts, it does not condone hatred of homosexuals or homophobia. Instead, Christians are directed to “respect everyone.”—1 Peter 2:17, Good News Translation.

Can a person be born homosexual?
The Bible doesn’t comment directly on the biology of homosexual desires, though it acknowledges that we are all born with a tendency to go against what God commands. (Romans 7:21-25) Rather than focus on the cause of homosexual desires, however, the Bible prohibits homosexual acts.

How to please God despite having same-sex urges.
The Bible says: “Don’t be controlled by your body. Kill every desire for the wrong kind of sex.” (Colossians 3:5, Contemporary English Version) To kill wrong desires, which lead to wrong actions, you need to control your thinking. If you regularly fill your mind with wholesome thoughts, you can more readily dismiss wrong desires. (Philippians 4:8; James 1:14, 15) While you may struggle greatly at first, it can become easier. God promises to help you to “be made new in the force actuating your mind.”—Ephesians 4:22-24.

The same struggle is faced by millions with heterosexual desires who wish to conform to the Bible’s standards. For example, those who are single with little prospect of marriage or who are married to a partner who is unable to function sexually choose to control their sexual urges despite any temptations they might face. They are able to live happily, and those with same-sex urges can do so as well if they truly want to please God.—Deuteronomy 30:19.

Anonymous said...

Wow.. Dapo used to be my very good friend back then in OAU .. I remember back then on several occasions in front of SUB . he got the beating of his life on different occasions .. I was force to sit him down and asked him a few questions sometime in the past but i feel his parents were to be blamed for neglecting him.. Well'' too late .. the guy don cut rope no be today .. T Black ...

Anonymous said...

Henry Eze, there are more gay Igbos than any other tribe in Nigeria. When I saw your comment I laughed out loud...

Unknown said...

Nawa to all these people o. Mr. Henry spoke bcos of this news and you are disagreeing saying they are predominantly igbos. State ur proof mbok. U can't just shut someone up without proof. State names abeg

Anonymous said...


PLEASE GO TO MFM FOR THOROUGH DELIVERANCE AND REPENTANCE

Unknown said...

My dear ooo .....

Unknown said...

Very stupid story. U started receiving since 6yrs choi. GOD forbid. Dis guy is finished. Just come bak to Nigeria so dis angry youths will beat d hell out of u and maybe bring back ur senses.

Tri. said...

You little homophobic nitwits should both concentrate on the betterment of your own lives. Linda Ikeji is living her dream, how about your? Silly cowardly hypocrites hiding under anonymity.

franklin said...

God pls come and destroy dis world...look at wat someone is saying and Linda pls we dnt read ur blog to get dis kind of shit

Ebonybright said...

There are more hausas in it than you can imagine.

Ebonybright said...

Its not about tribe, there are igbo guys who are into it too, I ve met some who asked me out when I was in school

castro said...

Linda pls stop promoting homosexuality pls abi u b one of dem, if its not homos its eggplants are u lonely and need help?

Unknown said...

Hmmmmm

Ebonybright said...

There are more hausas in it than you can imagine.

Anonymous said...

Dapo Dos deiz in ife(OAU) was d talk of D town na...man! E don tey ooo Lord Av mercy.. we will soon av a generation Of Gays nd lesbos...... .

Stellas Grove said...

As if you can stop. She's trying to educate people and create awareness that people like this exist, that way you can be cautious when you approach girls.

Stellas Grove said...

Her aim is to educate ignorant people like both of you and create awareness about people like this so that when you approach girls, you keep an open mind that they may be men who changed to women. Did your weak brain think of it that way. Mumu people. Ignorance is not always bliss.

olusamjide said...

Lord have mercy. May God forgive you all your sins, you people are telling God that he is not perfect that you are not contented with the way he created you

castro said...

Lonely stella

Anonymous said...

Chief Zebrudaya

Anonymous said...

Please na.... Learn to speak and write proper English!

Unknown said...

Linda next plssssss.....#letlovelead

TONIA GREEN said...

When you see the abomination of desolation spoken of by the prophet, standing in the holy place, know ye that the time is near.

Repent and make peace with your God.

Shalom!

❤❤❤ THE PROPHETESS ❤ ❤ ❤

Anonymous said...

Did he also tell u that after he was rusticated in ife, he end up standing on Allen round about at night before he travelled ? He was not accepted in awo hall nor fajuyi and neither moremi also want to accommodate him as well. At the end he had to go.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Anonymous said...

lindodo tell this he/her that less is more in the fashion world. that if she want to get a partner or lover he/she should quit this awkward makeup and locol makeup and panya bleaching she looked better wen she was dark. this pattern will not help her ministry. in between God is watching on His 2018 model 8d television. He will judge

Vivian's blog said...

Ignorant fellows! She's trying to educate people like you on this.

Diaspora 1 said...

I remember d day some mechanics at Ibadan road gave him shishi .a guy came to Ife back 2003 picked him up to CC and discovered he was a guy the guy manage to take him to d mechanic workshop men I saw fukefuke used as bra .. God will help u sha

Anonymous said...

Linda, tell me again how been gay is a nature thing. The guy has said it all. He was nurtured. His cousins and his cousins friends sexually molested him. How do you think you'll feel about you've been sexually molested from age 6 by people of same sex? He grew thinking he was a woman. Thank God he didn't end been a predator himself unless he left out that part of the story. But guy, you don't need to bake yourself to look like a woman. You looked better in your former skin color. And reduce the makeup and the wig or hair extensions or better still ask for professionals to do them for you. You'll scare your clients away if you keep looking like this. Now the competition is getting tough by the day and your looks is not helping. Even Caitbru Jenner that just got into the biz is doing better and s-he 65years old. You are too young to start looking like Caitbru's mom

Angela said...

Nigerians are the most callous and wicked people I have ever met. Most people are focused on him being gay or transgender. People ignoring the fact he was RAPED at 6??? Why do we decided to turn a blind eye to this? All of you commenting he is nasty etc, you are just as guilty. God instructed us to LOVE. You might not agree but all the hellfire talk is bs, God knows what sins you are all doing behind closed doors that will also end you too in hell fire. God's grace is sufficient for all of us!! If God can forgive you he can forgive him.

Anonymous said...

Let this transgender dudes leave our women alone. Before you have to think twice before marriage, now you have to hire a detective. I think "transgender" should b a gender on its own...

Anonymous said...

Maggot? Better than an animal like you. This is not civilization it is absolute stupidity and devilish.

Anonymous said...

Linda!!!!! Weldon o. For the past 3wks, all we hear if transgender or gay news. Enough said! I know it's u who came under the guise of "Stellas Grove". Oloshi!

Unknown said...

So many ignorant comments here, unfortunately, some of these comments are from seemingly educated sounding folks. So sad!
This man was grossly sexually, emotionally, and morally abused as a child with no where to go for comfort or help and all you can do is insult and ridicule him...He was six years old for jeez sake and with a trusted family friend too...Ignorance is indeed a terrible thing! Baby girls and toddlers are abused in unthinkable ways in Nigeria daily and these kids end up being damaged mentally as well but everyone turn blind eyes and deaf ears to their plights.They label them with all sorts of names...shame on you all and i can bet that many of the commentators were in one form or another abused as kids but too ashamed or scared to publicly admit it.

Unknown said...

So many ignorant comments here, unfortunately, some of these comments are from seemingly educated sounding folks. So sad!
This man was grossly sexually, emotionally, and morally abused as a child with no where to go for comfort or help and all you can do is insult and ridicule him...He was six years old for jeez sake and with a trusted family friend too...Ignorance is indeed a terrible thing! Baby girls and toddlers are abused in unthinkable ways in Nigeria daily and these kids end up being damaged mentally as well but everyone turn blind eyes and deaf ears to their plights.They label them with all sorts of names...shame on you all and i can bet that many of the commentators were in one form or another abused as kids but too ashamed or scared to publicly admit it.

Unknown said...

So many ignorant comments here, unfortunately, some of these comments are from seemingly educated sounding folks. So sad!
This man was grossly sexually, emotionally, and morally abused as a child with no where to go for comfort or help and all you can do is insult and ridicule him...He was six years old for jeez sake and with a trusted family friend too...Ignorance is indeed a terrible thing! Baby girls and toddlers are abused in unthinkable ways in Nigeria daily and these kids end up being damaged mentally as well but everyone turn blind eyes and deaf ears to their plights.They label them with all sorts of names...shame on you all and i can bet that many of the commentators were in one form or another abused as kids but too ashamed or scared to publicly admit it.

Anonymous said...

Shit happens though

Anonymous said...

well the moral of this story is to always ask your children be male or female if they were touched by anyone inappropriately? see this pedophiles have no boundries and they prey on children who keep secretes from adults.



Egbe says

Anonymous said...

People have different thresholds for absorbing abuse before they crack one way or another.

Anonymous said...

First it was badmus, Alimi Bisi and now dapo, mtcheew, may God help us! HIV is real

Anonymous said...

I know him in Ife. Crazy Dapo. His story is sad sha. May God heal him

Anonymous said...

That is why parents should always take the pain to protect their children....especially mother. Enough with chasing money up and down or chasing career. If his mother had taken enough interest in DAPO he wouldn't have gotten to this stage. I will bath my sons myself until they are teenage and watch them like a mama hawk, ask plenty of questions too.

oluwatoyosi said...

At that age, can't he or she now caution himself. Shame....God have mercy

PATALEX said...

And this is supposed to be a nice story.

Unknown said...

My dear Stella,don't u know dat ignorant is a disease?they are both foolish,blaming Linda for keeping us informed & updated,if u both are tired,why don't u take ur silly asses out of dis blog

Anonymous said...

The most rational response I have read! Thank you for this

Anonymous said...

Do I agree with homosexuality, transgender culture or any of the lgbt community, absolutely not!!!!! But do I condemn or judge them? Absolutely not! Jesus was friends with thieves and prostitutes. He did not deem them unworthy of entering into the bossom of friendship with hiim and they faithfully served him as I faithfully serve the Lord. I don't agree with or condone it, but it's for God to judge not me.

At the core of a lot of what society will consider wayward people is usually a traumatic experience. Imagine being raped at the age of 6 and repeatedly through the years until someone noticed at age 14. That kind of trauma cannot be easily overcome, if it was a girl, she often turns. Hyper sexual and very promiscuous and similar to the runs girls but our society tells those girls to get their $$$ or just calls them ashawo. You see this innocent 6 year old was made to feel subservient or how our society thinks women should behave and so he began to identify with women. Again, I don't agree with it, but I can see how the outcome was a path he was pushed onto at age 6. It makes me sad and while I cannot change him, I won't condemn him. His actions and character are for God to judge not me. I was tasked by God to love my neighbour. My task now is to keep an eye out for the little one and try to steer them on the right path. If I ever come across Stephanie/dapo or someone like her/him I will share my view that Ii don't agree with them. I will however fight any bastard I see trying to take away the innocence of a child whether a boy child or girl child. It is time we look after ourselves, our children and our future and stop turning a blind eye to say not my problem. Clearly it grows to become a problem in the future

Mamapapa said...

The middle picture is ok. The last picture, pathetic. That last picture looks like a person who will soon contemplate committing sui...., leaving a note saying the world never understood him.

Anonymous said...

Aunty Linda said he was expelled from OAU and made it sound like they expelled him because he wasn't straight. That's a lie! He simply left! If you are out of school for more than two semesters you are no longer considered a student of OAU and I am sure that's what happened in his case(as he already mentioned). I knew when he was in OAU and the school authority wasn't harsh to him because of his gender identity.

Anonymous said...

Hmmn!
Oga u don talk am. Uv sed it urself.
This goes to show dat pipz are not born gay or wateva.
If u hadnt bin abused as a child(unfortunately), maybe things would be different. What more can I say?
May God bless you

Anonymous said...

If u t not ok with it.go to another blog.dats how uI Wil end up marrying ur own sex without knowing

Jasmine Joseph said...

Stupid bastard, hope u bleed out of ur Anus real soon

Anonymous said...

Linda is determined to force this gay/ transgender stories down our throat... how is this news??? What is it with you? Are you gay, Linda? it's okay. we still love you, but atleast we'll know your motivation.

Anonymous said...

God help u


HOL

Anonymous said...

Dapson gal... I hail ooo. He has always being like that at OAU. I leave you in the hands of God.

Unknown said...

Pls, can we stop insulting LINDA? U can always skip d stories u dnt like.

Anonymous said...

I want to fuck your anus

Anonymous said...

This is a sad case, God, please prolong my life to be there for my children as a mother

concernparent said...

Nigerians are the most wicked and unreasonable people in the world..why is no one paying attention to the facts that he was molested at a very tender age.i av seen a lots of prostitutes who were alleged being raped from 4years old continously and at that time they thought it was normal until their life were destroyed.this is a lesson for parents becareful who u allow to stay around your kids.i remember while growing up parents still allow relatives to share room with their little children they never knew what transpire when they were not looking until things are damaged beyond repair.
Are u telling me this guy cousin doesnt know the type of friend he was moving around with??a friend that come with you to ur uncle place and sexually molest his little cousin..probably dapo cousin was part of the stupid act himself.where was he when his friend was molesting his little cousin.why did he allow it to continue.hmmmm.sad some people we call family!!if it were in civilsed country both of them would be rotten in jail right now .
And the other questions was where were dapo parents when all this illicit acts was going on.even if the dad had many wives what was the mother doing that she didnt suspect something was not right under her roof!! She only had 4 of them for Gods sake!
I am a mom of three lil kids ,sometimes i employ child minder to come and sit with my kids when me and my hubby are at work.but that doesnt stop me from calling the house every now and then to see whats going on with my kids.and when i come bk from work i sit my children down and ask them what happen at home today and made them write essays of what they do when mommy is not hope.and i ask them if they are happy .if they av any issue to discuss with me .if any did anything wrong to them.as a parent u must always be vigilant and at alert cos there are wolves out there.and parents should allow anyone to share rooms with thwir kids no matter what even if they are unclea.cousins whatever.i av seen a case where an uncle went to visit his cousin and started rubbing the head of one of the children with his hand with a strange ring in his fingers then he stoped suddenly qhen d mom appeared from the kitchen..yes we live in a wicked world.but b4 judgemetnt is done the life of d victims is destroyed.
Dapo seems like an intelligent person even from his way of speaking and educational background.he was admitted to the great oau to study law.probably someone might av seen what he would be in future and they decide to destroy him but God is able he is d alpha and omega .what we dont see he sees..please God forgive him,arrest him Take control of his .show the world that u are the almighty God regarding dapo ..let his eyes open to see you..as a mother myself please God do ur wonders and let ur name be exalted

Anonymous said...

Bola u drink?what did u write biko

Anonymous said...

Thank you for your words. Am shocked and baffled at the low mentally that some Nigerians have. Linda posted this for parents, brothers and sisters to be more careful and pay close attention to their wards but instead of them to appreciate it, they r casting stone like they r saints. A child was abused continously since the ripe age of 6yrs and u abuse him? May evil deeds never come our way. Pls let's help and advice our brothers and sisters instead of throwing stones so the world can be a better place. Practice the love that God asked us do and see how things in life will change. May God help u Dapo

Unknown said...

He kwn he hv a problem...praise God...now is Wot is dway forward

Unknown said...

How dare u open ur filthy mouth nd call Linda a lesbian........? De publicity is jus to educate or to enlighten pple more on d issue. Jus be careful b4 I spite venom on ur skin now.

Udybabes said...

For once I feel so sorry him , I heard So much about him from his days @ ife , unfortunately his father who was supposed to be understanding pushed him away , of course because of the society and whatever they were saying .

But you had all those years to step out and overcome it now , you never had the determination , what a pity , and I see you are still confused , cause you seek commitment when you suppose to give your life to Christ .

Kpele.

Anonymous said...

God really bless you!

Anonymous said...

YOU ARE NOT HURTING ANYBODY EXCEPT YOURSELF .
EVEN GOD HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT ,

IF YOU LIKE YOU CAN PUT TWO STICK INTO YOUR ASSHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOLE , WHO CARES ,
IT IS YOUR BODY, AND IT IS YOUR LIFE YOU ARE DESTROYING, BUT MAKE SURE YOU BUY MORE PAMPERS

Anonymous said...

Come on! How much can one kid take?? Raped repeatedly from age 6, watches parent and seemingly only care giver die in front of them at age 11 when most of us were still running around playing 10-10 and dancing to musical chairs. Innocence lost!

Anonymous said...

Rape is realer

Unknown said...

God is a Good God, in His Goodness he sent Adam and eve out of the garden of Eden so that they wont forever live in their sinful state, Thank God for His Goodness for creating Hell Fire for those that rejected salvation, and they weep and lament and burn and never die for billion and trillion of years but of no significant to time.

Anonymous said...

O ye righteous pple dnt condem bcs if u hv ben thrugh wat he has ben thrugh mst of u insultin him wil do worse nt 4getin dat mst of us pretend alot.Only God sees wat we do in secret.This guy has ben molested 4rm age 6 u expect him 2b lik u dat had a lovin mom nd dad nd a complet family.Der is a psychological effect dat taks plc wen a child grows lik dis.Dis moni stephenie u ar ma prayer point bcs it taks God 2 help u.I wish u wel wherevr u ar nd i hop u find love...

Anonymous said...

Stay off her blog and stop warning her ... idiot

Anonymous said...

Can u comprehend what u just wrote?? Ode

Anonymous said...

Exactly!

Unknown said...

Anon you cannot blame straight people forbbeing Homophobic. In the US you haves gays grabbing peoples crotches or pinching bottoms in the clubs knowing fully well the are straight. When the straight person reacts, people like you scream homophobia. The worst part is you can get slammed by the authorities for reacting to form of sexual assault.

If you kept to yourselves you'd have less to fear. People who don't mind will roll with you but you can't force those who won't.

Unknown said...

Mr. Jude please read carefully before you comment.

Where did she express approval? Is enlightening you on the existence of such a person wrong?

Unknown said...

Imem, I wonder how you can call yourself a Christian will this judgemental attitude

Unknown said...

I tire o!!!!

Anonymous said...

it all started when he was abused by a male...if only his parents or someone knew on time this would have never happened. God will judge all the older men leting the devil use them to abuse small children....i feel sorry for him

Anonymous said...

U mke sense. God bless u

Anonymous said...

Hmmm! No other definition of ugly wen it comes to him/her Dapo Rose, ma dear u look quite scary and a nightmare pls. I wonder if d parents will call dis their child cos it's a disgrace and shame

Anonymous said...

Read Galatian 6:7 and your beloved friend has sowed her seed and will reap it. Molested or not that doesn't give her d right to open her filty mouth to blaspheme and he looks so ugly n yuck! Tell him wen u c him dat even an ape is even more cute dan him.

Anonymous said...

So he should blaspheme? Your friend is so so so ugly and wud hve remained a guy but nw his making d females world look ugly cos one ugly looking semi female was added

Unknown said...

Rubbish, may God deliver you.

Anonymous said...

I refuse to judge you, being a parent myself I can imagine all that you went through. Being abused at age six by that uncle friend. The only parent you knew died very early, no love no concern waoh. Am sure you were wondering where was God when all that was happening to you, he was always there and never forces himself in us. God isn't man and always gives us chances, you can never find peace outside of God. I was abused by my step fathers driver at age 8 and found my joy and happiness in God,

Anonymous said...

Amen

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