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Friday, 22 August 2014

OAP Toolz talks about the time a guy she liked broke her heart

In a recent interview with Entertainment Express, radio personality Toolz talked about the time a guy she liked told her he wasn't interested in pursuing a relationship with her. What she said below...
"There was this guy I met during my final year at the University. He had just moved from Houston and didn't know a lot of people in London and after a few random conversation about course work, he asked me out. Our first date was amazing and after about a month of seeing each other a few times a week, I was almost certain he was "the one". After dancing around the issue for a week or two, I was finally brave enough to bring up the "where are we" issue. His exact words were "I really like you Tolu, but I'm not looking for a relationship right now". I had to take a moment to mentally pick up the fragments of my broken heart, then I smiled at him and said "No worries, it's okay"
What is the biggest lesson you have learnt from heartbreaks?
"I did learn a valuable lesson from this. One of the worst things you can do in life is to lie to yourself and potentially rob yourself of what you truly deserve. Whether it be a relationship, a job, whatever situation it is, do your best to be honest with yourself. If a situation isn't giving you what you need, don't fool yourself. Have enough self respect to say " I am not getting what I want from this situation and I honestly won't be able to settle" she said

99 comments:

Anonymous said...

AWWW

wilheminna moses said...

Eyaaa! D guy only wanted ur gp tank waist.....

EbonyAma said...

Nice words der.

Anonymous said...

true talk tolu. kathylicious

confesoor said...

Guys always acting lik they av so many in thr hand and don't knw which to choose...

olumide abiodun said...

Haha! Funny thing...that must have been like a blow from Mike Tyson in Toolz face. No, scratch that, more like Ether...that sh*t that make Toolz soul burn slow. Ether doesn't stop burning...just like that heart break that dude gave Toolz still burns her heart. That's why she still remembers it.



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ed DREAMZ said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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If she call this one breaking of heart then nobody break her heart then.....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

#king said...

true talk..dont waste ur time on people that dont deserve ur time..move on..once loved a gal bt she refused to stay with me..she likes me according to her bt she preferred to stay with a nigga who beats her almost evri day cos m nt alwaiz arnd..Till today I still miss her..bt life will continue..now I have a girl I truly love that understands d type of work I do...................................#KingOfKings

Angela Richard said...

Hmmmm

Steveosky 4 Real. said...

Fair enough. At least she was honest about it. Sure you did learn your lesson., But am sure the guy go don chop you wella.. Hehehe.!!

MB.C. DORIS said...

Looks like she's shed some pounds.
I like sincere and real people.
If it ain't working, take a walk!

Sweet Mary ...@mzz_mary1 said...

Heartbreak makes u learn
Buh Toolz fyn shaa

BONARIO NNAGS said...

And Lindiway this is news?

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

hilary obiorah said...

Thought they said she was still a virgin? Anyway good advice from her.

Anonymous said...

emmmmm how is this news?

barmmie creamy said...

Wow toolz,i love u for dis*kisses*there are so many deceivers out there who has got nothing to offer,a lady has to be really careful,and she always have to be wise enough to close her legs becos sex is not love!even wen u eventually have sex wif d guy,its not certain he won't cheat on u,wif anoda gal lmao,so why waste ur time on such?ladies any guy asking for sex or who isn't sure about u and proud,should be flushed out immediately,he's not worth it.aunty tolz I'm glad u made a gud decision!buh dat isn't heartbreak,its a lesson,heartbreak only happens wen d said gal can't keep her legs close!it is well*btw*r/ship is not an achievement,one has to be very sure and prayerful,kisses*

Mirabel said...

eeya sorry girl.

kelvin happiness said...

First to comment

glowy sofiscated said...

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fly guy said...

after one month of dating, u are already asking where are we? no wonder d guy jaa

glowy sofiscated said...

Ehya

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kelvin happiness said...

Now to their matter toolz I think ure bin heartless u know y ok now listen 1. I denote dah den u weren't dah fine 2. Am pretty such obesity was d order of the day 4 u, 3. I fink u hvnt workd on ur ass den , so gal why wud u want to let him eat spoilt meat whn there are many fresh ones in the market.

Anonymous said...

My dear your right, don't need to lie to your self a good one from u, some men are bad. CHI.

ADERONKE AROGUNDADE said...

C'mon Tolu, I won't term that as heart break. You should be happy he was sincere enough to tell you he was not ready for a relationship instead of leading u on. He did not commit any crime. Not guilty.

Tunie. said...

Noted. Strong valid points.

TONIA said...

well said Toolz. Thats exactly what am xperiencing in my rlship ryt now. #FuckingTired#

Anonymous said...

She don pancake her "ila"
...lol

Anonymous said...

The probably isn't news. So how's the like & unlike option coming?

Anonymous said...

NICE ONE!

lilian ogede said...

Good that she is now in a relationship with a man that loves her.

Wanas said...

This lesson just made me cold. Many times, we settle for less, for fear, it might get worse...thank you Toolz!

mary prynce said...

this breakup must av really hurt you so baaaaaad,she's always talking about it

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APPLE said...

True talk..Chineke! What did she do to her face???!!!

Anonymous said...

9ice one Toolz but takes inner strength to embark on this especially when one of the partners is genuinely in Love.

Anonymous said...

Ds was nt a recent interview jor.read ds smwhr mnths ago

GALORE said...

nice comment from an intelligent OAP....and to think that, am watching her interview with @rita dominic on ndani tv...youtube


@Galore

GALORE said...

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@Galore

GALORE said...

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@Galore

GALORE said...

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Anonymous said...

you are very right my dear

mia.E

MY TURN said...

True talk

Anonymous said...

He jst wasn't feeln u,nd ,so its jst ur university u did dere mtcheeww,I tot u were born dere,u ll b disturbing sm1 wit ur accent,rubbish.d guy probably tot u were too fat 4 hm,may b d real story was,'luk I rili like u bt u ve to work on ur weight' dat z wat broke ur heart.

chidera robert said...

True talk my dear

odobo grace said...

After giving him yansh, he dumped u. End of story

Mabel said...

Toolz, i beleive u were so much in a hurry. Jesus loves u.

Anonymous said...

Tolu dear, I am a woman, but in this case I will say you were too quick to conclude already. I have made same mistake too. in my own case, he came so hot after me that I was already having plans in my head. He was actually talking of seing my parents and plans for our future together but I was at a loss when my christian brother broke my heart and stopped talking to me just because I refused to open legs in less than 2 weeks of the love from Tokyo. Guy would have felt you were toasting him sha. But thank God you took it well as a big babe that you are just like I took mine back then.

Anonymous said...

Food for thought,I'm taking a bold step ASAP

otogears said...

... relationships dnt have to be forced, I have no clue why girls bring it up so much. if he wanted a relationship you would've known from jump street

Henry Ifejika said...

Buh you informed us abinitio that u re a virgin?y hrtbrk?cos hrtbrk goes with breaking of virginity!

glowy sofiscated said...

Ehya

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glowy sofiscated said...

Ehya

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Anonymous said...

Hmm...true talk,people should never settle for less.

getnnenna said...

Cant see the co-relation btw the story and the lesson learned though!
Lesson can be: always allow the guys be the first to broach that subj., and if he dont, make yourself scarce...and if he still dont, PLATONIC minus benefits it must become.

PURPLE said...

I swear

Anonymous said...

the worst pain is trying not to let go even when the truth was obvious...N'ima

Anonymous said...

Broke

SEYI OLOGE said...

LINDA, ABEG, THIS IS NO NEWS.

Juliet Johnson said...

Hmmmmm it hurts tho bt it's better Dan 4 him 2 lead u on nd hurt u Ltr on.

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ukwumaka theophilus said...

Lolz. People and funny comments. Are you not lucky the relationship was only a month. The truth of the matter is no heartbreak. The guy was honest and he didn't waste your time.

Anonymous said...

hmmm

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Shoutozone said...

Thank God u wr able to pick urslf up and move on. I wish alot of oda young ladies out thr do d same, instead of wallowin in selfpity

Steveosky 4 Real. said...

Hehehe. Gbam. I just love this comment die. Chop knuckle Nne..!

lauren thomas said...

So she schooled abroad n still has a little Nigerian accent, while Toke will b deceiving herself, smh

Anonymous said...

U r just sooo daft and stupid..it is ur type dat date worse girls....

Anonymous said...

Wat do u expect from a guy wit western mentallity?
Wen dey go into rltionship wit u, dey tell u wat exactly dey r lukin for....e.g.
1) Sexmate
2)Friendship
3)Friend wit benefit
4) Marriage without kids
5)Have kids out of wedlock E.t.c

So, GF wake dis isn't heartbreak.....

Olatee_seun@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

Toolz, I believe say the guy go one or two times, if yes sorry o! Next time zip up my dear

Anonymous said...

Aaaaabi??
I'd gladly do same.

baby oku said...

Interesting

justice richard said...

When Love Isn't Reciprocated....
JAY→P

Anonymous said...

Go and Develop ur Blog!

Greene said...

she didnt say they were intimate na

suzybeetle said...

eyaaaaa

Betty said...

Hmmm... d guy was very sincere to her,I like guys like that.

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Anonymous said...

Houston guys have soo many women to choose from and pussy don't mean shit to us so Tools or whatever her name is must have thought she was the shit because London guys are wack but Houston boys get women all day so its just hit and run with us.

Anonymous said...

The guy was honest and didn't play you. What else were you looking for? That he should go ahead with the relationship by fire by force.
This is why you girls are difficult and always end up with problems. You simply cannot handle the truth and should stop looking for a guy that is honest.

Louis O KinGs said...

Just one month and you're already
Asking where the relationship is heading...

You have to crawl before you walk
One step at a time
Most ladies are too fast to ask such question...

The guy go fear now...

Anonymous said...

Your ukwu too much so the guy wan taste am hahahaha. Guys are not smiling..... (There is God oh)

dessymal said...

Make dis ur story a movie plz...

Christian said...

Am a guy buy that is too early..this babe sef wasn't sure of herself.

Anonymous said...

2 weeks, 3 weeks and you are already asking the fella where you are headed? Some women know how to push men away. She should have given things more time. A guy she just met 2 weeks/3 weeks will feel very pushed to the wall and suffocated when posed with such desperate questions.

Anonymous said...

Wow. It's a good thing you moved on. Some others would have spent yrs sobbing over nohing.

Anonymous said...

Your mean

Anonymous said...

@hilay I tire oo no mind dis lie lie celeb and their fake lyf, tolu stop lie ooo.anyway sorry for dat,

Anonymous said...

@hilary I tire oo no mind all dis celeb and their fake lyf.

Anonymous said...

@hilary I tire oo no mind all dis celeb and their fake lyf.

nsi CAN! said...

The sight of it..was all he wanted##..nowadays,few guys are real..like i met this girl..and told her point blank.."U know i like u"..and the way things are goin..it seems u wld b my next girlfriend..and she said.."Im patiently waitin"...

Anonymous said...

I saw this same story sourced to her months ago. Does she still want the guy or what? Why still talk about him if she's moved on and learned her lesson? #justsayinboo

Anonymous said...

What nice words? Who be dis yeye girl wey them just dey worry us with sef?

Anonymous said...

My brother! Thrash all the way. Wasted my time reading rubbish. Linda don dey miss am oo!

Anonymous said...

Come to me Tonia. I will give u rest.

bubbling butik said...

Life is unfair itself,but with God all things re possible.

Gifted hands said...

Ok. We have hear o.

Anonymous said...

Haahahaaahaaha what a story, by dobis112@gmail.com

Aj Kamal said...

she didnt tell us of when she opened nyash for the guy to shag oh

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