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Thursday, 19 March 2015

If you're a single woman looking to settle down soon, then read this!

No truer words have ever been written. In addition to this, here's what I want to say. Dear ladies, if a man shows you he doesn't care, believe him. He doesn't care. Now read this deep stuff below which I found online written by a man about wasting your time with a man who doesn't want to marry you...
The idea that men are clueless allows them to get away with all manner of bad behavior that would have been intolerable just a generation or two ago. 
Men know that most women want marriage. Women need to know that many men will do everything in their power to get all the benefits of marriage, except without commitment. While you’re getting exasperated thinking he’s stupid because he spends money on you, he’s running you.

Men understand women on a level that you can never begin to grasp, because it’s from the mindset of a hunter. And a good hunter has an intrinsic understanding of his prey. Women make the mistake of thinking that they are wiser than men. Immoral men understand a crucial component of the female psyche: For most women: Hope springs eternal, so if he plays his cards right, he can string you along for years without proposing.

Most of us know at least one woman who waited for a man to marry her, waited sometimes for a decade or more. She played house with him, took care of him, cooked, cleaned, etc. but he never married her. Finally she ends the relationship and he marries the next woman he dates after only six months or maybe less.

I think we all know a woman like this because it reinforces something we already know: MEN MARRY THE WOMEN THEY WANT TO MARRY. And if you’re not that woman you are not just it. It’s absolutely foolish to play wife for a man who can’t be bothered to actually marry you.

Bottom line is; if you've reached the point in your relationship where it’s time for “The Talk” and it hasn't happened, or he brushes it off when you raise the subject, move on. Why? Because men who want to get married, get married. It’s not that he’s not into marriage, or he’s still dealing with “issues” from a previous relationship, or whatever other folder he puts out there. There’s only one reason a man doesn't get married: HE DOESN'T WANT TO. At least, NOT TO YOU. Don’t fool yourself.

A man who wants you will be rushing YOU to the altar. Why? Because he’s terrified that you’ll get away from him. A man in love is all too aware that he has a pearl beyond price. Further he knows there is a plethora of other predatory males just waiting to snatch her away. You don’t have to beg him or persuade him or coerce him, trap him with pregnancy or fast for days. The only thing you’ll get for all your trouble is a decimated self-esteem and the knowledge that you wasted your skinny years on a man who didn't want you in the first place.

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Anonymous said...

GOD help us the woman not to be fool by men even the one we so so faithful to.

Anthonia Nwoshim said...

True talk.

dami llionaire said...

#WORD#

Moji said...

I'M A LADY BUT I TOTALLY AGREE WITH THIS 100% COS IVE BEEN THERE. LOL. WOMEN GIVE YOURSELVES BRAIN. A MAN GOES AFTER WHAT HE WANTS, IF HE DOESNT WANT U HE DOESNT.

Anonymous said...

Nice piece!

Anonymous said...

Nice piece!

Anonymous said...

Nice piece!

Anonymous said...

Nice piece!

Eze Chukwumereze said...

Why leak out our secret? lol

Anonymous said...

*we dated for 1yrs*...just Like the writer said.you be local woman wey only won be house wife that's why he dumped you,every successful man deserves a bright lady! You just wona marry,we not up for that crap Ma

Shirley Shalokpe said...

True ooo playing wife for the wrong person ain't cool

Anonymous said...

We Women always come up with excuses for why he hasn't proposed, why he cheats, why he treats you like dirt, The thing is: a Man always knows what he wants unlike most women that are confused about what they actually want. You can call him baby all you want, but a Man is a Man and if you don't fit into the bill, He just plays along while looking for another option.

Anonymous said...

#smh - Nigerian men are the proudest in the world yet we can easily disgrace ourselves and we can beg for Africa (Happy Sunday, Happy Weekend, Happy Mid-week, Happy New week, Happy every, just to beg for money not good wishes). When did we get to this and it is worsening. :(

#smh - Buhari said he will build 4 Refineries in 4 years! why should we doubt him when he built 2 in less than 2 years while he was Head of State.

#smh - Why is PDP crying foul against Jega; when GEJ won in 2011 was Jega not there? We all voted for GEJ but he failed us woefully!!!

Sai Buhari.

DoroHookup said...

True words.

Subomi said...

whats with all the diss between men and women lately

Anonymous said...

Thank u my dear... well said! Happiness comes from within and a grumpy unhappy single lady cannot suddenly become all smiles and in high spirits cos even if she is so happy immediately after the wedding, its only a matter of time for her old countenance to return

Bassey said...

Exactly my story. Glad that we ladies know our onions nowadays. Marriage.......not a do or die affair.

biii said...

true talk; LADIES! shine ur eye, shine ur brain and shine ur heart as well, don't pause your life for a man who is not ready to settle with you. STOP waiting, he is not God that is coming soon ooo. smiles... wink

Ade Olasengbe said...

100% true

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