The idea that men are clueless allows them to get away with all manner of bad behavior that would have been intolerable just a generation or two ago.
Men know that most women want marriage. Women need to know that many men will do everything in their power to get all the benefits of marriage, except without commitment. While you’re getting exasperated thinking he’s stupid because he spends money on you, he’s running you.
Men understand women on a level that you can never begin to grasp, because it’s from the mindset of a hunter. And a good hunter has an intrinsic understanding of his prey. Women make the mistake of thinking that they are wiser than men. Immoral men understand a crucial component of the female psyche: For most women: Hope springs eternal, so if he plays his cards right, he can string you along for years without proposing.
Most of us know at least one woman who waited for a man to marry her, waited sometimes for a decade or more. She played house with him, took care of him, cooked, cleaned, etc. but he never married her. Finally she ends the relationship and he marries the next woman he dates after only six months or maybe less.
I think we all know a woman like this because it reinforces something we already know: MEN MARRY THE WOMEN THEY WANT TO MARRY. And if you’re not that woman you are not just it. It’s absolutely foolish to play wife for a man who can’t be bothered to actually marry you.
Bottom line is; if you've reached the point in your relationship where it’s time for “The Talk” and it hasn't happened, or he brushes it off when you raise the subject, move on. Why? Because men who want to get married, get married. It’s not that he’s not into marriage, or he’s still dealing with “issues” from a previous relationship, or whatever other folder he puts out there. There’s only one reason a man doesn't get married: HE DOESN'T WANT TO. At least, NOT TO YOU. Don’t fool yourself.
A man who wants you will be rushing YOU to the altar. Why? Because he’s terrified that you’ll get away from him. A man in love is all too aware that he has a pearl beyond price. Further he knows there is a plethora of other predatory males just waiting to snatch her away. You don’t have to beg him or persuade him or coerce him, trap him with pregnancy or fast for days. The only thing you’ll get for all your trouble is a decimated self-esteem and the knowledge that you wasted your skinny years on a man who didn't want you in the first place.
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I'M A LADY BUT I TOTALLY AGREE WITH THIS 100% COS IVE BEEN THERE. LOL. WOMEN GIVE YOURSELVES BRAIN. A MAN GOES AFTER WHAT HE WANTS, IF HE DOESNT WANT U HE DOESNT.
Nice piece!
Nice piece!
Nice piece!
Nice piece!
Why leak out our secret? lol
*we dated for 1yrs*...just Like the writer said.you be local woman wey only won be house wife that's why he dumped you,every successful man deserves a bright lady! You just wona marry,we not up for that crap Ma
True ooo playing wife for the wrong person ain't cool
We Women always come up with excuses for why he hasn't proposed, why he cheats, why he treats you like dirt, The thing is: a Man always knows what he wants unlike most women that are confused about what they actually want. You can call him baby all you want, but a Man is a Man and if you don't fit into the bill, He just plays along while looking for another option.
#smh - Nigerian men are the proudest in the world yet we can easily disgrace ourselves and we can beg for Africa (Happy Sunday, Happy Weekend, Happy Mid-week, Happy New week, Happy every, just to beg for money not good wishes). When did we get to this and it is worsening. :(
#smh - Buhari said he will build 4 Refineries in 4 years! why should we doubt him when he built 2 in less than 2 years while he was Head of State.
#smh - Why is PDP crying foul against Jega; when GEJ won in 2011 was Jega not there? We all voted for GEJ but he failed us woefully!!!
Sai Buhari.
True words.
whats with all the diss between men and women lately
Thank u my dear... well said! Happiness comes from within and a grumpy unhappy single lady cannot suddenly become all smiles and in high spirits cos even if she is so happy immediately after the wedding, its only a matter of time for her old countenance to return
Exactly my story. Glad that we ladies know our onions nowadays. Marriage.......not a do or die affair.
true talk; LADIES! shine ur eye, shine ur brain and shine ur heart as well, don't pause your life for a man who is not ready to settle with you. STOP waiting, he is not God that is coming soon ooo. smiles... wink
100% true
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