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Friday, 20 March 2015

Dear LIB readers: I'm about to marry a man who says it's impossible for men not to cheat

From a female LIB reader;
Linda, myself, my fiance and our friends were arguing last night as regards your Single vs Married woman topic and my fiancee blurted out that it is impossible for a man to be monogamous and any woman who expects that is deceiving herself. It was a heated argument and he may have forgotten I was there when he said this. I was shocked. I asked him later if he really believed men can never be faithful and he said majority of men but some can be. This was different from what he'd said passionately a few hours before. I guess he had time to think about it and didn't want to hurt my feelings. I've been confused since he said this because now I believe he's not faithful.

165 comments:

@lwkmd_naija - follow on instagram/twitter said...

We all cheat, someday we get over it...lindaobserve

wilheminna moses said...

Oh girl u never wan marry! De dia de think de confuse till dem go snatch am 4rm u. Mtchew!

christie benjamin said...

Lol...the guy is being honest.
Accept him the way he is or move to another
Person.
#simple truth#

Henry Eze said...

Its actually d best, as he told u d truth.....bcos its d ugly truth.....u don't expect him to stick with u forever........ He is a man and not a cartoon....... Wots d big fuss about cheating, as far as he comes bk to u, u have nothing to worry......

Henry Eze said...

Its actually d best, as he told u d truth.....bcos its d ugly truth.....u don't expect him to stick with u forever........ He is a man and not a cartoon....... Wots d big fuss about cheating, as far as he comes bk to u, u have nothing to worry......

Mercy Iheanyichukwu said...

LOL LINDA OYA GIVE YOUR ADVICE.... NA YOU START THE SHOW (TOPIC)

AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

Cheaters are cheaters,be it man or woman, single or married, just do ur best in d relationship $ leave d rest for Jah, shekenan!

NMaa said...

Lol!. He is not.

7F098C19 said...

The man must be Jesus Christ. So go ahead. Engr Emy

AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

Cheaters are cheaters,be it man or woman, single or married, just do ur best in d relationship $ leave d rest for Jah, shekenan!

Juliet Iwuno said...

Hehehehe, you are a learner. Go and read the second post of that CEO's reply to the singles & married women post. You may likely pick one or two things from there. Linda take note!

Juliet Iwuno said...

Hehehehe, you are a learner. Go and read the second post of that CEO's reply to the singles & married women post. You may likely pick one or two things from there. Linda take note!

Juliet Iwuno said...

Hehehehe, you are a learner. Go and read the second post of that CEO's reply to the singles & married women post. You may likely pick one or two things from there. Linda take note!

Anonymous said...

Lol....kill yourself... You better hold your soon to be husband o or else those single ladies will come and snatch him... It will be like nollywood to you

Juliet Iwuno said...

Hehehehe, you are a learner. Go and read the second post of that CEO's reply to the singles & married women post. You may likely pick one or two things from there. Linda take note!

Anonymous said...

Are you kidding? So you wanna dump him cos of that comment? Smh.... The problem is that most girls don't even know what they want.

SANDRA said...

Which Linda?? Ok, u re famzing with Linda abi? Wen ure serious about gettin advise, write smetin serious

7F098C19 said...

Sure it is impossible. Am unless u use a oat. Blood oat. Lol. Engr Emy

Nelo Ozojie said...

Wonder why we give ourselves headache.
I have never met a faithful man
Madam chill

Anonymous said...

YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN!

ROYAL PRIESTHOOD said...

Wht d heck is dis cooked up and fabricated story all abt pls??? Good riddance to bad rubbish.

Am sick of dis issue b forced on us every now and then. Too much of everytin is bad Linda. Enough of dis crap stories pls. Aha!

Ochuwa Oshio said...

You should be happy to have a honest man my dear... To be sincere most men cheat after marriage but it all depends on how you manage your home... Linda see me

Chidinma Grace said...

Why do women keep believing dt dia men is theirs alone? Anytime u put ur mind dt ur man can't cheat, dts wen u av Hbp or see some women fainting n having mental problem or even committing suicide after dde catch dia men on a ladies pussy. Pls grow up, dis is Africa, even in abroad dt women get half of d men's property after divorce, yet dia men still cheat everyday. Pls remove dt mentality dt ur man is faithful 100 percent from ur mind, n enjoy ur life. Don't let it border u much n u will see, dt u will leave long, but wen it obvious pls stop having sex wt him n save ur self from STD's.

RareSpecie Z said...

At least he was sincere enough to tell u the TRUTH. Only a fraction of the Men population are truly committed to their spouse. As 4 me , i

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Looolz women sha.
Oya iz owk, he said some so count him among the few that wouldn't cheat on their wives. And save yourself high blood pressure.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

Anonymous said...

we need help. most of us cheat...who do you think patronize the who*res everyday and then our side chicks? i jus think men where not built to stick to one woman...even from the days of the bible...help us Lord!!

Juliet Oranagwa said...

Lol get ready for the long ride. At least you won't say you weren't warned. Kudos to the guy for being honest

Anonymous said...

Haba women.. U guys worry so much abt a man cheating.. Sigh.. Madam U better get married if u want.. Stop worrying about him cheating.. He will cheat if he wants to and U can't do anything about it.. This is nature.. Prepare ur heart of it.. Who told u he hasn't been cheating since b4 now?.. U ladies jst worry over uncessary things.. Wat if he marries you and leaves u for another gal.. Isn't dat worst than cheating.. Sigh

Oluchi Lambert said...

Lol, this one nah gobe, original gobe.
See wetin Linda married vs single post dey cause

Anonymous said...

Madam, use your tong to count your teeth. Have a blessed day.

ary said...

He wants to marry you right? Marry him but now you know what his stand is on cheating, you would be better equipped to handle him and your relationship.

@MEETDREALEVANS said...

Are you faithful... In short u get faith? Oya move a mountain... Mtweeeee

igwe Adaobi said...

If you can cope with cheating
Then go on with the marriage
If not
Better relax now o
Because that man will definitely cheat on you

Anonymous said...

With God, nothing shall be impossible.

Worry creates confusion which solves nothing. Let God handle what you cannot handle. Even those you can...commit your ways to Him and the peace of God which trancends ALL understanding will guard your heart and mind.

The heart of man can never be understood or deciphered. Let God be your focus.

Anonymous said...

U mst b stupid to think a man cnt cheat

blackbeauty said...

Awwwww, if na me I will have second thoughts ooo abeg....... Men sef

Anonymous said...

What does being faithful has to do with how a man will love you? You women just like to have un-necessary head ache.

Majority of men that cheats are the ones that loves and pamper their wife the most! #FACT!

nife said...

Hey babe, don't even think of that for him to say it out doesn't mean he won't be faithful. He can keep it to himself and keep cheating on you. Relationship is mostly built on trust, forget what he sed nd move on dats if u truly loves him. Even married men cheat not to talk of young dude.

Anonymous said...

DNT LET DS WORI U...EXPECT IT,BT IF ITS DOESNT COME DEN U ARE LUCKY CUZ A FEW ARE STIL GUD....TOMJERRYSWIT

Anonymous said...

Girl! Don't be confuse about anything, hold on to him because men will always be men, do ur thing Satisfy him as a wife. no matter how good u r he will cheat if he want to.

Bonita Bislam said...

And how do we come in? In this perilous times,Falling in luv and marrying that person is an act of faith,a wager that against all odds things will work.Have faith or quit!

ELENA (HER MAJESTY) said...

Uv got 2options

Either u call the relationship quit or u endure,stick wv him and hope for the best

Omoye Zenki Moye Brown said...

The guy has honestly told you the truth....He is among those dat will cheat on their spouse........Now the reality is in front of you...........Its left for you to either accept or ..............The choice is urs nd urs alone....











Moye says so via BB Passport...Courtesy LIB....

Anonymous said...

You are not ready for marriage simple.
It is not a child play . when you are ready you will know.

mystery said...

Na quaker oat! Olodo

Flora Akunaeziri said...

My dear sis, nobi 2day nyash start 2 dey 4 back... E don tey.. Bros told u d truth, d earlier u accept dat, d beta.. Ur mom can tell u beta, or if u have elder relations dat are married, dey can also advise u further.. It takes d very special grace of God, 4 a man nt 2 cheat. And if u do not want 2 die untimely, dnt evn put ur mind dere at all..

Anonymous said...

U are really on ur own, u beta drag ur man to d church nd wed him sooner, if possible o

chioma oranebo said...

HELLO my dear (a yoruba accent) HOW are you(olamide) if you wan MARRY ehhh u go close one eyes ooo take marry my dear...Mehn sef get their own But no be this thing GO make YOU OPT Out...since you done get Small idea... You go try do thing wey he love wey go make am no go outside study am D way u d u dey study to pass exam...Becus The guys nEXt door fit no Open mouth talk make u hear But he go they do dat same course.....

Anonymous said...

On "a ladies" pussy? "Border u"; u will "leave long" #na wa!

angela akadakpo said...

Haaaaa, den u hvnt found d rite 1 yet plssss leave him jare. Wat if ur d 1 dt told him that jt imagined wat will happen na wa o.

gloria ogbu said...

Na una sabi

Anonymous said...

Don't do it.

Anonymous said...

I haff laff die ooooo, sotay I wake up again. Wetin we no go hear. Cheating ni, no cheating ko. Goodmorning.

Anonymous said...

My dear, just be prayerful. Men can be funny at times. We still have the faithful ones though. But when money don reach their ha ds,na in you go see their true picture. Also have your own good job or business running for you, so even if he ends up cheating on you, you worry less about it and have your mind occupied with your own personal activities and face ur children.

Anonymous said...

i don't know what u want to hear from us now, we should reassure u that he loves u so much and he wont cheat, or tell u dat u should just brace yourself and don't act surprised when it happens. the truth is we all cheat physically or emotionally but being there for someone no matter thats love. afterall how many times have u cheated on JESUS....

ELVIS EMEKA said...

Oh dear! Guess u been in a deep slumber to not realize ur boo been cheating since u met...he will do it again after u married, and again. Get used to it bae.

Juliet Godwin said...

Babe, so ur contemplating on getting married to him abi? The devil u know is better than the angel out there o...so fink very well.

ugob jhon pivo said...

Hmmmmmmmmmmmm
M a faithful dude dear,com toast yarn me~stay der_dey rant`mtcheeeeew

Anonymous said...

Hmm
~D great anonymous!

ROYAL PRIESTHOOD said...

All dis r personal issue's dat doesn't warrant b over flogged. It's lik asking a dead horse to stand up. No matter d advise's thereof frm LIB reader's it doesn't change or decide d person decision thereof. Long live LIB.

The Other Woman In Marriage said...

There is that thing around the men's waist that is always moving even if they don't want it to. Take the bitter truth and prepare your mind for it to avoid heart-break. Read the book “The Other Woman In Marriage” on www.okadabooks.com

Anonymous said...

U r complete definition of IDIOT on dis blog. Stupid and dumb words frm a retard called Henry Eze.

Anonymous said...

I'd advise u to snoop a d find out if he has cheated on u and if he has, leave him...nothing like getting married to a man who chases everything in skirts... Not all men cheat so forget that

Anonymous said...

@Henryfool, was dat how ur father cheated on ur mum and she didn't hav to worry? Monkey! Fooling himsef on dis blog in d name of making senseless comments.

Anonymous said...

4d first time u speak lik ur brains were@drite position.

kay elsie said...

Odiegwu,my sista he jst told u d sickenin truth,he has been cheatn unknown 2u,well na u get ur decision,even if we advice u,na u hrt u go folo last last,bt come o,wetin dey gv all dis men mind sef?hiaannnn,sistas majority of u r d cause,ccos u knw he has a girl n u wan stil die dia so y won't dey feel it's right 2cheat,mstcheeeeew,waka pass abeg.

Anonymous said...

Must u repeat ur comments foolish Aboki just for unnecessary attentions. Idiot!

Anonymous said...

Are u faithful? Have ever been and are u ever thinking to be? So u have tested many d**k. No go marry.

Anonymous said...

1st comment. Mumu

Obianuju Baby said...

My dear lv wit it or u lv d man oh,its not wen he starts cheating,u will start calling out singles girls for the cause of ur problem.

Owunari George said...

My dear if you know you can't cop with a cheating husband then this guy is not that "GUY". Faithfulness is far from him. I believe your prayers or the prayers of those that wish you get down with the man of your dream was answered that day when he opened his mouth to unconsciously disclose who he really is. Let me rephrase his words, "it is impossible for a me (your fiance) to be monogamous and if YOU expects me to YOU are deceiving yourself. The choice is yours to make. A life of unrest & choas & probably a divorce or end it now. NOT ALL MEN ARE CHEAT to add to it. I can never cheat because I love my life too well.

Anonymous said...

This is my first comment ever and it is because some of yours make me wonder! you must absolutely alwaysssss expect to give your best and receive the best in a relationship you were clearly not forced into. if you must cheat by all means tell your partner it is an open relationship so the person knows what to expect but if you want to be in a committed relationship, i repeat that no one forced you to be, you must respect and love and trust your partner . i am not saying everyone is perfect but you should not go into a relationship thinking its normal to cheat, it is a an absolute lie.
i am married and i am not sitting here wondering or assuming my husband cheats or is cheating, it is a deal breaker, and if you let your man know it is, he can decide to leave you but that just gives you the opportunity to find someone who will be satisfied with you.
what an insulting state of mind to believe you have to be cheated on!geeez!!! have some self worth!

Anonymous said...

Obey ur God and keep his commandment,u shall give account one day,that everybody is doing it doesn't make it right,wen God takes ur last breth dat wen d cry of had I known will creep in

FDA said...

Her spellings, tense and choice of words made the message she was trying to pass across lose its potency. It is well

Anonymous said...

Only u four copy and paste comments. Alwaz repeating comments lik an idiot and complete muron.

Amee said...

My sis b sure of wat u want, if u can wtstand him put head if nt take race.Marriage is nt where u xperimt things.think 2xce b4 u choose.its left 2 u alone bcos u face d consequences alone n only u alone.Just rememba Marriage is nt Rosey,its full of ups n downs.Sometimes its sweet,bitter n sour. U don't rush into it.n don't do it bcos of some1 or sometin. Do it bcos of urself if d nemesis catch up wt u ,u can console ur self .Word is enough 4 d wise .

E Rella said...

Take it or leave it. Pls visit rellanaija.blogspot.com

Anonymous said...

U talk like someone I know... having said d above, I need u to answer this ? What is marriage all about?

Anonymous said...

I swear @anonymous

Anonymous said...

Complete MUMU u r. Dumbed comment. Fraction indeed! Ass hole and oloshi u r.

Theodora Atoi said...

Henry Eze for real??? SMH

Anonymous said...

@Juliet Godwin, dummy u r it's "D devil u knw is better than d angel u don't knw".

Owunari George said...

To add to my previous comment. By your narration of how you got to know about his view on "Cheating Men". It mistakenly came out of his mouth. But thank God it did. So now all is in your hand; whether to end it or go on with the marriage.

Anonymous said...

Why has no one said she could cheat too? After all women can cheat as much as their husbands cheats, it makes the equation balance. They can still love n pamper each other. Cos u r all talking without listening to yourselves.

SUPERVISOR said...

MARRY HIM! OTHER LADIES ARE WAITING FOR U TO OPT OUT, SO BE WISE! IF YOU OPT OUT, YOUR NEXT GUY NKO? DON'T LOOSE SIGHT OF THE FACT THAT THE SIDE BABES CAN ONLY "EVER" TAKE A BITE.

LEAVE HIM ONLY IF HE IS THE TYPE DAT DOESN'T MIND POLYGAMY! - U WEY NO FIT ENDURE "ORDINARY" CHEATING, NO GO FIR ENDURE 2ND WIFE - RUN FI COVER!

adegunle dolapo said...

BABE DON'T BE CONFUSED PRAY AND STAY WITH YOUR GUY

Anonymous said...

All men do cheat



Pastor videod Touching a Ladies body during a Prayer section in his Office


Mother Teaching Her Daughter a Hard Lesson For Sleeping With a Neighbor


Married Woman Caught Cheating with a Business Man in his Packing Store

elizabeth nwankwo said...

I hate it when sm ladies lacks self esteem!...choi#imagining sm stupid comments like 'if ur nt ready to be cheated on, then don't marry, it's normal for men to cheat...little wonder some independent woman just want d children n different men to service them#smh#kudos. anony 11:19am...I respect u...thanks#teamself worth

APPLE said...

At least the guy is honest, women cheat a lot this days too you know. If you are uncomfortable please move on because the guy take style tell you say him go cheat.

LAURAAUJ KAHI said...

He's just being honest. cheating is inevitable for men. Don't assume the worst yet coz he spoke from the men's view. Be a good wife to him and embrace God as your all and all.

Shirley Shalokpe said...

Kaiiii he said what he felt was right at the moment and realised later but it better to know than to be surprised later

Promise Chika Ogan said...

Did you ever prayer for what you want? Do not be confuse because is of devil. Ask God instead OK?

Ms. Nicey said...

I advise you to read the come back article written by that single ceo guy. You have a lot to learn from there.

dami llionaire said...

The guy was being honest! Almost everymen cheats and that doesn't mean they don't love their wives, fiancées or girlfriends.

Anonymous said...

Yoohoo, I'm here reporting for team self worth. If you don't believe in cheating, don't accept it. Every man doesn't cheat. Many are and can be faithful.

Baby P said...

Not all men cheay.There are some good omes out there.Take ur time to find them.

Claris David said...

I see myself as a beautiful lady and my man have no reason to cheat. He admiting that every man cheats is very very wrong. I can't live with know the fact that my man frequents another womans v*g**a all the tym.
But let me give you the advice my mom gave me.she said "no matter how clean you wash your anus, when you dip your hands inside and smells it; it will still smell shit. " so my dear inother for you not to perceive shit don't put your hand deeper.

Promise said...

please start with yourself and try to know what you want, tell God he will see you through.

Gandalfs Bae said...

Good to know there are still sane people around. People are just suffering from low self esteem. I am married and we made our marriage all about God and it feels like heaven on earth. Live your youthful days well, serve God and he will perfect all that concerns you.

Promise said...

please start with yourself and try to know what you want, tell God he will see you through.

Sir Dick Longshaft said...

You females are so PETTY!!! You really think what attracted your husband in the first place begins and ends with you?! Henry, na man you be! Abeg, you dey take Star abi Gulder

Anonymous said...

well, so you'll know, you are definitely not about to marry a liar, but a man who doesn't know when to shut up

ed DREAMZ said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Lmaooo.... This linda marriage stuff don really cause wahala i swear.....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

Aj Gabriel T said...

As bitter as it may sound,it's the truth. My dear hold your Man tight. 95% of married and unmarried Men cheat Pastors inclusive. Unless you are not ready for marriage yet. I tell you the truth there is no saint or Angel out there if u loose Him.

Anonymous said...

Leave now- aids, chlamydia, witchcraft, herpes unnecessary drama such as baby mamas, a life of watching your back and wondering what he has done, ufos that dhow up at his burial, and of course his untimely death await you

Jules Louis said...

He said it doesn't mean he's done it or will do it. No man is 100percent perfect so also d women. Just play υr part as a wife and luckily for u he might be one of d few who doesn't cheat on their wives.
And pls don't start to snoop on him!

Anonymous said...

Who force you ... you better run because out of the Abundance of the mount speaketh.

Abdulateef Adepetu said...

Man and Animals are polygamous. Google it. It's researched and confirmed. Saw the documentary many years ago on National Geography TV. I don't understand all this talk. The person caught, his name! Cheat. Comprehend.

CeeBee said...

someone once cautioned,'when you find a perfect church, do not join it and spoil it with ur imperfection.' I doubt any of us who are looking for perfection can even live with a perfect person. Do not confuse urself, the ingredients for marriage to flouish IMOMO(in my own modest opinion); mutual respect, trust,understanding (these three usually translate to love) and faith in God. Any other thing is pointless.

Abdulateef Adepetu said...

Gotcha yah!

Anonymous said...

It is sad to read that women should accept that men cheat. I am a man and I think this statement is really false.

I have been engaged to 2different women in my life i.e. an ex and a fiancée. Before I started going out with my ex, she asked me this question - "How do you want me to dress for you". I tried to wave it off but she insisted that I tell her. When I asked her why ask the question. She told me that she likes attention and wants my attention to be on her alone. I told her, she impressed me and then some.

But we could not marry because my village told me that we were distant relation.

My current fiancée who I love so much, does not dress in such manner. And when I went out of my way to tell her what gets my attention including providing her with clothing expenses, - either she tells me that lagos roads are not good to walk with heels or she was not brought up in such way.

My adviser to the author, call your man and have a candid discussion with him. Ask him what he wants in terms of fashion, manners, finance etc. If you can meet to his taste , tell him that you will do all these but sleeping with any other woman is non-negotiable.

Anonymous said...

He is truly a big fool .........

Akintunde Jimoh Oyetunde said...

Fact, unimpeachable fact. If you ever get, it's 1 out of every 1000 men! Pls visit jimohakintunde.blogspot.com

t said...

Congratulations.

How old are you?

You don't want to f' around? Why? Is your fiance so fine? If you want to be monogamous, wonderful, but leave the guy alone to get his balanced diet abeg.

Honestly sha, Nigerian women and Nigerian men are like different species. They shouldn't marry each other looool.

Clean toto eater said...

Christie,this is the only good comment you have ever made on LIB.I am in love with you now.I will love to marry u.

RareSpecie Z said...

Who is this Cockroach crawling around pages and dropping its filth. I bet its one of those gays that are still Anonymous, pardon me, wanted to say still in the closet. And its better u remain anonymous cos the environment is still not conducive for u.
And , please don't 4get to slit ur wrist tonight cos of self hate, i think it will help. Bye

Anonymous said...

True talk but hard to believe.

Clean toto eater said...

Maddam, your guy is a honest guy.How do u expect him to be fucking only ur toto all the days of his life?That will make his life boring.

Anonymous said...

he really said the truth

Eze Chukwumereze said...

E be like say u never learn work, u think this is disney cartoon, better marry for better or worse.

Anonymous said...

it is highly impossible for men not to cheat

Eze Chukwumereze said...

E be like say u never learn work, u think this is disney cartoon, better marry for better or worse.

Eze Chukwumereze said...

E be like say u never learn work, u think this is disney cartoon, better marry for better or worse.

Clean toto eater said...

@Poster,Dont be selfish.How do u expect him to be fucking only your toto all the days of his life?Accept him for who he is or u can go marry the pope.

Clean toto eater said...

Marry him if 2 of u love each other very well.No man is 100% loyal when it come to toto.The thing 2 sweet.

Anonymous said...

Ladies and this their insecurity ish... All males cheat

Anonymous said...

babe marry the guy ooo...the truth is dat...majority of the cheat but we still hv the faithful 1s

Anonymous said...

Gbam!! Well said!!

advisor said...

lk seriously, m,en cheat but not all....only d kids amoung dem,,,haba afta all ds years of sleepin wt diff babes n he still wnts 2 cheat den na DOG be dt//..biko,,,d funny tin is sleping wont do him or u any gud...its left 2 u decide but its gud u knw now,,,so u knw wt ur prayer points wld be...thunder that tin he intends 2 cheat wit.....bullshit#men re monogamous but a woman shld be stuck wt d same dude 4eva even wt all comas,,,,,,,,,,

Subomi said...

I think its a very important topic for argument and I would have joined in to say yes no man can be monogamous but I kinda feel that's not true, some men probably can stay loyal to one woman, I strongly believe so

Anonymous said...

He's just letting you know ahead of time that he will cheat, honestly if i were you I would really think about it. But if u don't mind a cheat, then go ahead and act like he never said it. Good luck! Want to clear a common misconception too, all men do not cheat! Most do but not all. The good men are very few , if u have one, hold him tight

Anonymous said...

A CANDID ADVICE: NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS!!!

Anonymous said...

Pls tell him to give his life to Christ. He needs life of liberty in truth. y this act, his Creator will be pleased with him.

Anonymous said...

Godbless u 2, mine is perfect bcos of God,without God u can never never experience peace, devil is roaming about destroying homes ,keep ur hands clean wen ur young don't put asunder in other marriages, dat God is quite doesn't not mean dat he is not seeing,wat ever a man sows, dat u shall reapmine is soo sweet I must say,but it's just Godooo

Anonymous said...

Do not commit adultery!,do not commit adultery!do not commit adultery! Do not commit adultery!do not commit adultery: sin of d flesh,vanity upon vanity,those in the mortuary are no longer interested in sex,no one knows the our,,i could be dis nite, it could be tomorrow, no one knows,only God knows. Repent now dat thez still time :

Anonymous said...

This is my first comment ever also. I've always prayed for one thing from when I was 16,that even if there are only 4 faithful men on earth,that God should give me one of them as a husband. I got engaged and prayed that no matter how completely in love with this guy I was,that God shld nt allow me marry him if he is not the one.I asked God to drag me out if e reach to drag me. And amidst all the lovey-dovey prep for a future togeda,he made a slip ñ I caught him red-handed;I forgave him and broke up the engagement.Cheating is a deal-breaker for me!I don't cheat,so I don't expect to be cheated on.There are wonderful marriages on earth,and if you position yourself well and give your all to God,He'll bring the right man your way.For our dear sister,he will cheat on you,the ish is,"can you look at him the same ñ still call him lord when he comes home from his wanderings?","can you stay with the aftermath of the cheating?"step sons and daughters?" You have your answer right there!Selah#

Voltron said...

Cheating is WRONG on every level, NO GENDER IS EXCUSED!The likes Of Henry Eze and every other person accepting or endorsing cheating should be avoided like Boko Haram, they are wicked and dangerous people that lack good upbringing and home training, mostly inexperienced or just badly brought up with wrong morals, Jeeze! Cheating should never be celebrated. Cheats don't deserve any chance in a relationship. Once you're aware,leave the stupid cheat and with time, they'll start to behave themselves when they realize that no one is ready to settle for their nonsense. There is more to a woman than getting married immediately. Get married but get it right and stop feeding your mind with what this wicked, ungodly generation has to say. Even if the whole world cheats, it can NEVER be right. I don't believe people are even insulting you for not wanting to settle with a potential cheat, shame on this generation!

SIMPLYCOCK said...

It is possible for men to be faithful when they are poor or fearful!

udezeobumneme@gmail.com said...

Lol .. slip of hmm. Not all sha.

Chi Chimezie said...

Don't accept it one bit. Tell him if he cheats on, the only way you will forgive him is to cheat too. Let's see how he will take that. Please women, nigerian women stop accepting bad behaviors and irresponsible behaviors from men. They said those things to test you to see what they can get away with.

TOSAN said...

He is right! Sorry boo
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Cee speaks said...

So you can cheat on her @Clean ---C21

Anonymous said...

@henry eze...u r just a joke

Anonymous said...

Pls tell him to give his life to Christ. He needs life of liberty in truth. y this act, his Creator will be pleased with him.

Cee speaks said...

Thank you. Saying all men cheat is just devils way of perpetuating evil. ----C21

Anonymous said...

Ladies and their glorified illusions... lol

Ok, Hard Truth time. Ladies, know this and know it well - MEN ARE NOT MONOGAMOUS BY NATURE. Yes, i said it. It makes me laugh that society places a premium on just how much men can stifle that ever-present desire to have multiple mates, encouraging mind-boggling hypocrisy. I say that if your man cheats but provides for the family adequately, does not abuse you (mentally or physically), is caring and loves the kids, then do not begrudge him his flings. He will always return to you however often he goes away.

Anonymous said...

Hehe..Sorry but your soon to be husband is not only a dog, he's likely to be a bully too.

isidore mbianda said...

ohhhhhh there you go again, the faithfulness thing...who created man said ,a man would leave his parents and take up a suitable woman for a wife and build his own family. i am a bonafide lover boy ,am a deep one woman man.. until i finish i cant move to the next stop. i been through a few heartbreaks bcos i realized the women too cant be held down by one man. well ,what am saying i just got to the point where i noticed humans are so hard to please. being a one woman man, its so hard to be in this rare zone..

Anonymous said...

My sister, you sef cheat on him now. We women know we do it too but we are coded about our own. For the fact he has told you all men cheat, it means he plans to do it eventually. So you too, prepare yourself.

theresa urateh said...

Seriously speaking!

Anonymous said...

Some good advices, some bad, anyway, dear girl & other LIBers, I do tel my wife dat out of 10 men, only 1 is faithful, dat most men cheat, dats d truth but d unrealistic peeps among us say it is a lie, but dats d truth, though am married, nvr cheated on wife so far & am stil askn 4 God's grace nt 2.....

Anonymous said...

He told you the unspeakable truth! If you love him you will marry him and play your part leaving the rest to God.

Anonymous said...

Basically, he is already cheating on you. You know how he feels so if you choose to marry him do not complain if he cheats, he has showed you who he is so believe him.

Cornelius Chukwu said...

Well, if you want to stay married you not should think about that in any way.

Atinuke said...

Oh My God! It pains my heart so much to read some of the coments. For some people to say that it is a man's nature to cheat or that if she doesn't get married some girls will come to take him. And those are even coming from women's mouth.
For real? As if men is like a rare jewelry. Marriage is beginning to be more of " I have to accept whatever rather than be single" instead of " an agreement between two parties".
Why would you get married to someone with a mindset that you have to accept him being a cheater? And they say it as if it is a normal thing to do. So as a woman, you hold yourself for him but in your mind you are allowing him to do whatever he wants.
This is so sad for the women tho. I have to much ego in myself to allow myself to get married to a cheater. If he is able to lure me to get married and I figure he is a cheater, I am so walking off that marriage. There is no other way of shame. I got too much respect on pride to settle for less than I deserve. And for those saying there is woman out there that will be pleased to take men, they should feel free to do it and I feel sorry for them.

I am and will be a successful woman in my life. So at no point will I allow a man to damage my image ( our image) by him cheating. If I can hold myself and learn to love him everyday without cheating , she can do the same. Everybody has some kind of bad behavior it takes maturity and self control to hold yourself.
This publication really show the ratio of grown-boys compare to men in the world and the worst is women are the one increasing this with their tolerance for anything.

Anyway back to the writer, my dear he is kind of giving you a hint about who he is. As much as people might say that it slipped out of his mouth by mistake, believe his words" he is going to cheat". It is up to you if you wanna stay or not. But I will advise you to not fall under the pressure of " if I don't marry him , who am I going to find" or " there are woman out there who are going to take him" . Think about your principles and what you can handle. Marriage is supposed to be something for life and you have to make sure that even the " bad " of you partner you can deal with it.
Talk with him and try to figure out who he is. It is easier to walk out of boyfriend/ fiance relation than marriage. I am telling you! But please know what you can handle and what you can't . And don't settle for less than what you want . God will guide you. Good luck

Sorry for the grammatical mistakes I am a french speaker*wink*

Franklin Tobechi said...

Tell her oh!

QUEEN B said...

This men can like to decieve themselves, women even get tired of you more n thats y they keep giving excuses to avoid sex, or u think if they were to sleep wt different men each time, they will still b giving excuses. Pls stop deluding urself. We just hv self control!

Anonymous said...

At least you won't say he did not warn you.

onyedika victor said...

Babe u should be lucky he gave u an abitelary answer,unlike some who will confess their faithfulness till death,yet they end up being totally mischievous

Lekki Apartments said...

Welldone LIB, loke loke

Anonymous said...

I feel so sorry for this generation.......sumone actually said..he is a man..and ur point....mtcheeew......I'm a nigerian, I guess that makes me a fraudster....mtcheew. Stupid mentality......May God forgive una for such silly mentality.

Richard Afon Yinkå Ray said...

Hmmm but he may be faithful.

Anonymous said...

Atinuke's comment above is one to live by!

Anonymous said...

I bet you wouldnt call him a fool or a monkey iF you see him in person. He has his opinion and you have yours, why the insult

ty said...

That's why they need ewe jokoje. Mumu fellow

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