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Saturday 21 February 2015

Dear LIB readers: My boyfriend is always turning down my sexual advances.. should I be worried?

From a female LIB reader
My boyfriend of six months is a super gentleman who respects women a lot, a trait that endeared him to me but I am getting irritated with his over gentlemanness. I have approached him for us to get down countless number of times but he keeps telling me he wants to respect me and my body and that he has the tendency of loving me less once we have sex. I have understood with him for 3 years now but it's beginning to give me concern. I love this dude I want him to have me, to scatter me, for him to Peter me up and down (his name is peter) but he is refusing. Says I'm his queen. Should I be worried?
You should be! Very very...lol. Men hardly turn down sex. How much more from someone they 'love'. Turn down for what? Hehe. What say you, people?

298 comments:

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Unknown said...

STFU, the guy is gay Jooor, nd u like u can do same. Useless fool, ure jst like those gay pastors out there, u preach something nd do the opposite. Hypocrite

Anonymous said...

Thank u so much Jennifer, I saw DAT too. U tool d words ryt out f my mouth

Anonymous said...

A girl had a similar experience with me.sh luvd me nd did everything possible to have my attention via sex.I cared for her too but couldn't because of her freaking smelling vagina.even touching me irritates too.check ur neatness sweetheart

Anonymous said...

Well, he might b principled. Dia r men who r like that, u shd strt bringing up d topic of marriage. You musnt v sex now, luv is mur important. Yo man is a rare breed.

Anonymous said...

LINDA gi na SEX...nawao

Effiong M said...

Quiet interesting bt it seems fabricated. Ma dear his d.... Is nt healthy.

Unknown said...

He has a broomstick dick, no doubt.

Unknown said...

Keep your body till you get married.. this d kind of man I Want.... oyaaa com knock for my door ooooooo Mr man

Anonymous said...

whats it with you girls sef? always having complaints if the dude was the one asking now you'd still be the one to say "he just can't do without "X" but now he chose to stay clean and it's same you that's complaining.

Unknown said...

Turn down for what!!? Like seriously? Linda don spoil finish

Miss K said...

linda this message is fake. First it said three months and then 6 years whcich one na???? or coorect me if i am wrong

c.wendy said...

6months...3yrs?! A mistake or confusion... well you should worry, there's something obviously wrong, guys don't even need to love you to have sex with you.

Unknown said...

Lol, I like the fact that he is a gentle man but is three years not too long? He should do all he has to do so that you both can get down lol

Unknown said...

Linda, funny you.

Unknown said...

Lolz...onyx you funny.

Unknown said...

I Just de wonder if na 6mnths or 3yrs. Linda sef no de edit something before posting! Why wunt she confirm first.

Unknown said...

Human beings with dia different behaviourals. Some Love more after sex while others love less.

Unknown said...

Babe at least you de get once every month, de girl say her own na nothing in 3years. Your own gentleman is not gay, hez only trying to make it interesting by not doing it too much, like someone like me, anytin I eat toomuch, I hate it eventually. Mayb dats wat de dude is avoiding, so abeg manage de once a month straffing Biko

SG said...

Biko. The guy like asshole jare. Dump him. He is gay.

This happened to someone I know. She later found out he was gay.

SG said...

Gay things.

Anonymous said...

Put d guy to some test

Unknown said...

Maybe he's gay

tessy said...

He mit b a gentleman n had a terrible past abt sex or he's impotent but seriously stop showing urself off like a whore

Unknown said...

Well for most guyz like that its either they are attracted to awkward stuffs like clean toes or finger nails

Anonymous said...

Ds raeli shud b ur first question. Mayb uu dnt kn ur bf is born again

Unknown said...

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Anonymous said...

God bless you for this! Some useless people that even think their men don't have a problem because they sex often don't even realise that a lot of them guys rely on drugs for performance. The guy is just saying no to sex before marriage.he may also have taken an oath before God to hold on till marriage.

Anonymous said...

You may not be a very intelligent person,many men wait longer even after they may have lost their virginity.some very busy men,some for spiritual reasons etc.stop saying most men,say the ones you have met OK.

Anonymous said...

nigga dats rude of u to speak to someone in dis manner

Anonymous said...

Chei lmao.....u r wicked. Looool!!!!

Anonymous said...

God bless u!
Bf of 6months,...understood wt him for 3yrs???
Obviously a dirty fake write up.

thankgodshakes said...

@ Linda, I seriously disagree with ur position on dis with all due respect. There are still men out there who really believe in sex after marriage ish. That our moral values ve bin urinated upon & Christian teachings desecrated is nt a yardstick for eating up wat ought to be preserved. If d rltshp is marriage oriented & vision driven, den y rush to steal wat belongs to her perpetually? Dough m nt ruling out d fact dat d guy may b a painted sepulchre sha, bt she ought to take her time in this....

thankgodshakes said...

@ Linda, I seriously disagree with ur position on dis with all due respect. There are still men out there who really believe in sex after marriage ish. That our moral values ve bin urinated upon & Christian teachings desecrated is nt a yardstick for eating up wat ought to be preserved. If d rltshp is marriage oriented & vision driven, den y rush to steal wat belongs to her perpetually? Dough m nt ruling out d fact dat d guy may b a painted sepulchre sha, bt she ought to take her time in this....

Anonymous said...

Once he sleeps with you forget your respect. The guy is normal. Do you have the fear of God in you. I think the guy should leave you. You want him to go against his will. Go and sit down. Many girls pray to have guys that will say no to sex till after wedding and you have it on a platter of gold.

Mercy seat said...

Lol @ Udeze, " if he doesn't Peter u, try Paul!

Unknown said...

Women self..... If the guy always want sex, you will talk. When the guy don't want sex, you will still talk.
That's why I say Nigerians don't communicate before getting into relationship.
I don't think there is anything like love in Nigeria because if you really know this guy you would have understood his status in that aspect.
If you like to have sex with your man you are in a relationship with then just let him know how serious you are about that aspect and I believe at the end of the day he will understand your state on what is on ground.
Stop tempting the young man, after all...is a Sin to have Sex before Marriage.
Come to think of it, Is it not better you go for test at the hospital before having sex with a man without condom because I know you women forget about that condom of a thing or allow men go in there without it based on your so called love.
I believe if they ask you somethings about him you won't have any answer to some questions about him. I normally tell women about my sexual strength because I don't want girls like you to post in online. Sex is important in marriage not in a relationship.
Repent and give your Life to Christ. Go find another because he has his reasons and if you truly love him you will leave him alone.

Anonymous said...

Itz sad hearing diz 4rm galz,he's gay,he's impotent. So pathetic! Y sud u even assume sex makes relationship stronger...I'm very outgoing but once I'm in a serious relationship I don't sleep arnd and I don't ask 4 sex coz I knw once I do I'm gonna get sick of u coz funny enough most galz become so demanding after d very 1st tym @tyms u get pissed coz every busy man want to test ur sexual resolve 4 future reasons,I knw u hv ryt to it buh we ain't married yet we r only doing it wen we knw itz morally wrong..not worried abt d compliant buh pples comments...u all kip cursing after a sure G that love u dump u fu*king ass not knowing he doesn't knw d difference btw u and a whore...was expecting liber to advice her to investigate via romance, stylishly feel his manhood and if he's hard try investigate if he's gay,by trying to knw his past and all 4rm his male and female frnds and if he's not stop bringing such up wit him...be free arnd him he'll com 4 u 1 day possibly be4 marriage self! What sud I expect tho 4rm a generation that celebrate Kim and Amber's marriage...most of u galz r whores in d regalia of decency more reason we can't stop breaking ur heart coz wen we offer fling u all say relationship coz I'm decent...if it sex u want get a frnd wit benefit...Oracle says so! Gbam!

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Unknown said...

You should read that again. She didn't say she only started knowing him when they started dating. It is possible she's always been friends with him till they started dating.

Anonymous said...

I read this with my mouth open, it's as if I wrote this but obviously I didn't. Same thing my guy told me years back and am suffering it now. He's the best man any woman could wish for except that he may not touch me in 3 months sometimes even longer( no side chics, I can bet my life on that),We live like siblings most of the time, don't know if there will ever be an end to this.
I don't know what to advice you cos ur story may not end like mine.

Anonymous said...

bogus,bullshit..tz a lie,a fabricated one @dt,first u said ur bf of 6months,then u claim 2 hv been wv him fr 3yrz nw,i mean I'm I d only one seeing thz!!
xyz(dara-ima/aittyfinest)

Unknown said...

Asin ehh...wetin una want nw na? He loves u..even without sex y d fuck are complaining..?

Subomi said...

I'm lost.. your boyfriend of 6 months but you have ''understood with him for 3 years'' whats that

Anonymous said...

Boyfriend of 6months, and you exercised patience for 3years,.....u have seen morons here shey!!!

Anonymous said...

Peter is sooooo gay!!!

sodablog said...

D guy is RIGHT

Anonymous said...

Tank u ooo! I thot d same too

Unknown said...

Dunno, am jas a kid *thamixbreed*

Unknown said...

first of all, u are contradicting urself with d 6months and 3 years tin. but dat aside,u shouldnt be dat worried if he rejects you,but there are signs of erection on him. though its rare, but we still have some principled men out there. but i advise u check out if he has anoda chick,cos he may not be banging you cos he wants to marry you,but he may be doing same to other gals,inorder to calm his sexual tension.
on the other hand any tym u try to seduce him or get him to make love to u,and u notice dat there is no erection,u should be concerned,cos he may have issues,which may range 4rm erectile problem to being an homosexual

Anonymous said...

Oya mi lenu

casino said...

Bby leave Dat fool ND cut to me. My name na peter too and I promise to peter front and back...dis one no be up and down. call anytime 08117705836 anytime sweetie

Anonymous said...

Has decency totally disappear? Sex before marriage is a sin my dear and no twist to it. He's not a fornicator. Sex doesn't determine marriage ooo. Even if he sleeps with you everyday, he might end up with your best friend. Iam married and I didn't have sex with my husband before marriage. Be guided and give your life to Jesus. Respect your body and your life. Health is wealth

Anonymous said...

Thank you oh.... same thing got me confused

Anonymous said...

U aint evn ashamed to spit it out to public,if d guy's clean,he wld feel betrayed u went public wen he reads this

Unknown said...

dat's what I am talking about. dat's d kind of man I need. hearin d word sex alone freaks me out. he's a perfect gentle man. if u don't lik him lik dat den refer him to me immediately

ini said...

Bonario you too much..thanks for that response

ini said...

True talk

Francissub said...

I am d boy friend....pls am not gay...i love her so much

ini said...

Madam some men abstain ok..it's not a crime to stay without sex if u truly fear God..Repent..

Unknown said...

u c, dat's what I'm talking about. dat's the kind of man i want. he's a perfect gentle man who knows a woman's worth. Pls refer him to me immediately if u don't lik him being gentle.

Baddie said...

Girl this is sort of weird! Are you a virgin though? That may be the reason. If not, erm he may really just want to save that for later because he loves you so much as he said. OR he may have another babe somewhere or he just might be a GAY (Sorry to say) and another question! Are you sure your toto no dey smell? Are you clean hygiene wise? Cos something is off ABEG! Trust me, if a guy is attracted to you, he's definitely gonna be craving to get down there & get some of that kitty! (My two cents)

Anonymous said...

Oloshi u no dey duck? Hypocrite

Anonymous said...

You shld go and fuck urself

SexySkolly said...

Bros, you be gay, no lie

Unknown said...

Maybe he's just being a gentleman but after 3yrs together, no move from him, hmmmm...its a bit scary sha o!

Unknown said...

It true o!...fake story...

Unknown said...

Word.

Unknown said...

Wch kind born again?

Guys rarely dnt wait dat lng but 3years....babe u shld b worried!
By dway send mi his nom. I lyk his gentleman :)

Unknown said...

Lool, funny!!!!!

oynka said...

I could not agree more with u

Unknown said...

Your boyfriend of 6 months/ 3 years! Get your fake story straight joor!
Everybody wants Linda to publish their trash and make them popular....idiots of Canterbury!

Unknown said...

Some women are just confused, i don't want to have sex until my wedding night, now see who is ready to wait, you're talking shit.Please pass your man to me. Thanks.

My Facebook love story up on the blog.
www.udokajane.blogspot.com

Anonymous said...

EMM. i HOPE YOU WILL SE MY ADVICE SHA. HE MIGHT HAVE CONFIDENCE ISSUES WITH HIS ...U KNOW...MAYBE U MAY SCORN HIM.

JohnCrown said...

The problem with ladies nowadays is that when you don't have sex with them, you are either gay, not in love with them, screwing another person etc And when you have Sex with them and leave them, then you are either an animal or evil. My question is, must a man have Sex with you before you know he loves you? I dated three girls before I got married and all of them forced me to have Sex with them on different occasions which I did because the last one even went to the extend of calling me impotent and even after I told her my reasons, she still wanted to have me and I did. I was always afraid because I had a problem with Sex, 1. Once I go down with them, they keep demanding EVERYDAY 2. as soon as I have Sex with a lady, I'll start developing this feelings of running away from the relationship (Maybe it's because of the first reason above). The same person will come the next time, I'll sleep with her and always want her to leave immediately. So the guy might be afraid of losing you. So chill and find out the truth before you back out and will never be able to get him back because that's what my last girlfriend is regretting now. Now you can see I am not saint but I tried to stay clear. What's your problem with Sex anyway? Talk marriage with him with wisdom and you'll know where you belong. Good luck

Unknown said...

Lol

Unknown said...

Na fabu jooor

Trevorberg said...

Fabricated gist....six months n then 3 years? Confused?

FIZZICHILLIO said...

That's for you to know that Linda ikeji makes up most of these love/sex stories!!!

#Fizz

Anonymous said...

Maybe it's Bishop Dammy lol

Unknown said...

Anno 3.01... its means ashawo

Kenturky said...

I cannot reconcile the timing u gave. Six months or three years which one? I do not have a problem with your boy friend. U need to know whether he is waiting to have u after marriage.

Fela/Osun/Otemi/DeMayor said...

6 months and 3 years

Anonymous said...

come make i teach u

Unknown said...

sorry dear, your bf is gay as fuck... he just has u for charade... sorry, but it's the truth..

Anonymous said...

Maybe he's an impotent.

Anonymous said...

nigga is gay men....

Anonymous said...

He is a great guy ,,,, and haba why are you worried

Anonymous said...

I am maniacally bewildered by the blatant refusal of the guy in this hypothetical discuss to embrace the amorous advances coming from the one he loves it seems more of an abstract ideology than a concrete reality. That is like going against the tide just a very few would take such stand that's why it seems absurd and obscene to hear that because we now believe no one refuses sex, therefore those who refuse it are some sort of psycho's with problems or gays. Flowing logically from the aforementioned story one can deduce that there is quiet a discrepancy in the fact as regards the 6months and 3years as portrayed by the writer but nevertheless

The truth is that guy is either guided by his religious idiosyncrasies as either a born again christian or a devote Muslim who believe in abstinence from premarital sex, or is someone with a psychological and emotional problem he hasn't done stuffs like that before and is scared & certainly not prepared for it, or have a medical issue as regards his potency, and probably could be gay as suggested by many, but if the reason is solely based on religious belief I fink that lady should be thanking her stars such people are not easy to come by becos that guy probably has the fear of God and in as much as he loves her he doesn't want to offend God his creator the author of sex in marriage, probably also he doesn't know how to express his feelings as a shy, coy gentleman that he is.
just my thoughts on this piece of shit.
peace!
Barr sam

Anonymous said...

Sealing. As in marriage.

Anonymous said...

Hes just like me. But why do girls beg for sex always, and when you say no, for the whole day or days you won't see their good side. Thank God I have explained fully and My Baby of 2yrs plus have understood and now am in talks with her mum.

NowConfirmNews said...

you self, sex na food?

Anonymous said...

I have same issue as well, dated this fool of a guy for 2years and he never tried to touch me for once,i loved him for that initially until it began to bother me ,after trying to force myself on him just to see his reaction which didn't even work, I jejely dumbed his numb ass.

Unknown said...

awwww Your Man is Sold Out To JESUS!!

vanessa said...

i love men lik dat, kindly 4wd him 2 mi..winkz

Anonymous said...

by now you should know if he has a full erection or not. Not having sex with you is not an excuse to be ignorant about his sexual capability. find out if he is capable. if he has had any previous experience, find out his history. there is no cause for alarm except otherwise. if so its good to keep it until you have reached a certain level of commitment. marriage or engagement

Anonymous said...

Sweetheart, good men are hard to find. He claims he loves and respects you and prefers to abstain. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that as that is what the BIble teaches us. Causing him to commit a sin he is clearly trying to avoid would probably cause friction between you two. Better be okay with it or push! You just never know, he may be diagnosed with some kind of disease that he doesn't want you to contact just because he loves you.

Anonymous said...

God bless u.

Unknown said...

This lady is lying. She said her boyfriend of 6 Months, later she said 3 years.

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