I would like to share my problem and hopefully get some good advice on this predicament I have found myself. I am 24 and grew up in a Christian home where going to church was the only recreational activity allowed in my house. My parents are pastors and they pastor a large pentecostal church in lagos.Growing up in my house felt like a military camp, friends from school weren't allowed over and the only kids I got to associate with were pastors kids like myself and all we were allowed to discuss was the bible because watching TV wasn't even allowed except its a gospel program.
So naturally not having friends turned me into a quiet girl and I was the obedient and perfect girl to everyone and most parents wished they had me, but what all didn't know was that behind the quiet charming girl I was a totally different person. Years of being monitored and not being allowed to interact socially had messed up my sanity and sexuality, because since I was allowed to play with only girls I had learnt to develop emotional feelings for only girls.
Fast track to 4months ago, I have always kept my sexuality in check because I'm a pastors kid from an influential home and I couldn't just act out even if i wanted to. So one evening I was visiting a friend after work hours and I got introduced to this other friend of hers, and from the minute I set my eyes on her I knew I needed to have her and nature smiled on me and somehow we became an item.
She was everything I wanted and she fulfilled all my guilty pleasures and she was my first, thou I kept my last name and family background from her. Two weeks ago she calls me up and says that I haven't been treating her right that I never told her I was from a super rich home and since I had a name to protect that she needs 5million naira for Christmas shopping.
At first I thought she was crazy but now she's threatening to tell my folks and the entire church. My parents may have gotten it wrong in the child training section but they are good people and it would ruin their reputation if the church finds out.
So do I tell them the truth about my sexuality and impending disaster or do I pay her the N5m or do I just take the long rope and walk away from home and never return. Because either way I can't change my sexuality and I have 2weeks to go before all hell breaks loose.
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«Oldest ‹Older 1601 – 1663 of 1663Can you record her blackmailing you and submit it to a lawyer for prosecution for extortion? If you have access to large sums of money, you can hire a lawyer to handle the matter discretely for you. Should getting a lawyer resolve the matter, the next step is to tell your parents about your sexuality. Ask to be sent abroad so you can live openly. If you stay in Nigeria, you'll dodge the bullet today and face another one tomorrow from someone else who knows your family and your secret.
Babe u get #5m to really pay? Chai! Hunger hol man for neck here, shey na bold tie? Your sexuality is your identity. Church or no church, famous or not, what people think don't matter, cuz their thought will never rhyme with yours. Brace yourself up, talk to mummy...be yourself! U'd be surprsie to find out most people in your church will come for u. Live your life, pay no magger! U fit borrow me small thing sha, country hard die! @Judiniokwy@gmail.com
Your mum ought to be your best friend. And if that's the case then talk to her about it. Beside, where do you get the 5m naira from? Be prepared to give more. Your parents upbringing of you wasn't the reason you're a lesbian. It was your choice. Talk to your God and your mother, then your father. Put blame game aside.
Thank you Biko, don't mind Linda and her poor man mentality, with all her success she hasn't learnt how to be polished even with giveaways. See how ppl are comenting on the post, just putting their email addresses and opening themselves to fraud. Linda if you like don't post this.
Open up 2 ya parents,esp your mum...your problem bcomes large if u decide to give her money....its well
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Oga no all u have knowledge nd u r still struggling for Linda's giveaway rubbish. I've read ds ur comment several places,wat is it. Pls takes several seats
MY HAND IS NOT IN THIS ONE PASSING, WELL DONE I DEY GREET
The problem at hand is the spirit of lust. Not the blackmail.
Firstly do you think this is a sin?
If yes, every week fast for three days rededicate your life to Christ. Fasting quietens the flesh and builds your inner man up. The word of God will fuel and you will be so conscious of Christ love it will get rid of a lot of things.
If your parents are the type of parents that are unsupportive. From the looks of things. There needs to be a balance with control. Without it control leads to abuse, abuse opens the door to alot of things which are kinds of outlet for children.
If your parents are unsupportive they might lead you in a trend of being condemned. So you will always be guilty and conscious of this predicament.
Read Rom12:2 Fast and pray daily. The word will free you. Talk to Jesus Christ tell Him. This will bring you closer to God. Rebuke the spirit of lust at it's root and cast into the sea.
The Love and acceptance you are looking for Jesus Christ will provide it.
Get rid of any sexual promotions, be it romance novels, sexual talks and avoid that friend.
This is like any problem anybody has but because they promote the notion that you can't be free. People label people like as if you have a doomed disease like Aids or etc. Yet people believe promiscuous people can be delivered. It's all sin falling short of the glory.
There is no book for parental guidance so forgive your parents who thought they were doing the best for you. Fear makes some parents be extreme. You don't know their journey maybe they were molested when they were young.
So my dear the blackmail isn't an issue. The reason you concerned about the blackmail it's because you know you will be ashamed.
Tell God to help you and I pray God helps and delivers you from this predicament. You see that lifestyle is not of God. Focus on Jesus Christ all is well.
Don't give her any money, just tell ur mom about urself n she will help u.
Why does the story sound fakey? angelo8z8@yahoo.com
I agree wit u, don't give her anything ,talk to ur parents let them pray for u is a problem u are battling wit befor u fell into temptation. Dey can't kill u there ur parent but a stranger u call a friend can
hmmm lesbian seek the face of God
She knew who u are but acted up cos she wanted to dupe u some day. It's a plan. If u pay, u will keep paying. Tell her to do d worst, at least some pple might still respect u for who u are. It is well sha.
If u give her 5 million she ll want 500 million thereafter. So in my opinion, tell your folks everything + the all black mail thing. Now if they decide to pay her off @ least it was a family decision. After they have "handled" the blackmailer likely they ll send you off to some spiritual booth camp for cleansing but at least the head of the snake "the blackmailer" has been cut off.
P.S choose your partners wisely next time.
Don't give her Nada.....let her report...there is nothing new under the sun
Na so one useless girl wan blackmail me for skull.......let her spill bikonu
If u come to Me as lesbian partner with business in mind...tell me
..I fuck u and give u money....
But if we are an item...and u think u can blackmail me....na Ogun go kill u....to love person na beans?
Ds kind thing can dey vex me....desperate bitches every where....dey fuck dick...dey eat pussy...all for business..not minding how other people feels.....u gave her all ur love...now she wanna blackmail u?...let d Moro go ahead
@Galore
Tell your parents,don't allow anybody to blackmail you. If they hear it frm an outsider it can kill them so do it fast.About ur sex preference u need help, go for counselling in center for sex education and family life.
Nobody has the right to judge her. Truth is whether you lie, steal, fornicate, commit adultery or lesbianism, sin is sin.
My dear tell your parents and don't give in to blackmail.
Tell ur parents. Dey can't report u 2 de authorise. And ask dem 2 really pray 4 u or visit any Dunamis gospel center 4 deliverance. Don't b shy
Why did you involve in Lesbianism,just pray to God for forgiveness.Exposing you does not make you saint or been forgive.I believe for her to decide in doing that it means God really want something good out of your life.
hmmm as for meK
in dis part of d world if ure a les ure are inferior so sit her down and talk sense to her cos both of u wud spent 14years if caught: if she refuses den pay cos ur parents cant take the blow
Even if you give her the money now, she'll still come back for more. so brace yourself and confess to your parents and also ask God for his forgiveness.God is your strength, he'll see you through.
REPENT JESUS IS LORD
REPENT Oq!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
REPENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Call her bluff and talk to your parents.
Or, buy her a gift and fuck yourselves well!! And be nice to her from now on until you can peacefully dump her arse
{I can't believe I said this}
Be careful too. Its a freaky world now.
REPENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Let her do her worse. Talk2peaches@yahoo.com
Talk to your parents and if you can't, look for someone u are close to in the family may be ur Sister, brother cousin uncle or Aunty, then talk to God to have mercy on you and deliver you becos from the beginning it was not so. Take care
CRAZY WORLD
My dear der is no sine God wnt 4give u off..so ur parent wud do d same..so let dem no abt it..nd 2 aviod d ds temptation nxt time all ocuupy ur sef wit d WORD of GOD..nd do let 5min stupid enjoymnt ruin ur future nd race 2 make heaven...may GOD B wit u
Na wa ohh. Guy relax
Come out plain to your parent and don't even atempt to pay her that money.
Quess you need a time off for sober reflection.
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My Dear please tell your parents and donst give in for blackmail because she will keep asking for more money.
Promise your parent you will change and embrace God that's all you need. Do not go back to lesbianism, it is a sin before God.
My Dear please tell your parents and donst give in for blackmail because she will keep asking for more money.
Promise your parent you will change and embrace God that's all you need. Do not go back to lesbianism, it is a sin before God.
Linda, whr my post since morning on this nw, I want the babe to see it o
my dear girl, no matter what you do,do not give into blackmail. if you do so she would keep coming back for more and before you know what is happening you would be in a spider web where there is no escape. you can end up being psychologically impaired.
tell your parents because they are your parent . no matter what you do, they would accept you and if you find it difficult opening up to your parent try seeing a counsellor.
note: do not give in to blackmail because when you start it is difficult to escape from.
better tell them before it is too late
Better to open up to your family n let them find better solutions than been allowed by so called friend to cause alit pains n shame to the world...
Better to open up to your family n let them find better solutions than been allowed by so called friend to cause you alot of pains n shame to the world...
Better to open up to your family n let them find better solutions than been allowed by so called friend to cause you alot of pains n shame to the world...
What u did was demonic and a sin! Please, go and confess...
then go for SERIOUS deliverance!!!
Denial it... if she has proof, tell ur parents u fell into temptation and need their prayers..dont give her a dime..
Plz confide in ur parents,especially ur mom,dnt pay her d 5m,its blackmail and she will keep calling for more
Support this motion. People should be tasked to use their brain. Beside, star response that speak solutions to people issues.
Telling your family is the best thing to do and forget about giving her a dime.
runaway far, as far as u can
Na wa sha. Go to the police. She is a criminal and should be arrested for extortion. AS for whether or not she can shame you, if she has no pictures, it is he said she said. She could be threatening to lie against you to extort you. Then STOP SINNING. That is why you are in this trap. God gives second chances.
Tell that ur lesbo partner 2 fuckin go to hell... 5m nairaa my yanssh.. thief.. stop acting scared my dear. she can tell d world if she can.. do u fuckin care?? After all there are no proof...
Linda this story is fake! Lesbians don't act like this for crying out loud!! We aint blackmailers!!!jeez!
There is light @ the end of the tunnel. I pray you see this.
Lesbianism is a sin like any other sin. Unfortunately people label it like it's a doomed sin irreversible. You see the Lord said we should replenish the earth. The devil hates mankind and will try to do everything not to procreate. You see this spirit of lust it is.. is part of the plan to destroy the society.
Your blackmailer is bitter that you are the one who indulged her in sexual activity. It's anger she is retaliating.
The root of any addiction is guilt. When some experiences guilt they repeat the addiction. Every time you condemn yourself you are doom to repeat what you condemn. Every time you fail say Father I thank you, my sins are forgiven. Don't get into guilt. Sin has no dominion over you because you are not under law but under Grace.
Repent and pray for your friend also. Fast thrice during the week. Half day or full day. Read the word and pray the psalms. The spirit of lust will leave because your are conscious of Jesus Christ and the word will dominate your flesh and inner man.
Forgive yourself, forgive your friend and your parents. Note that there is no manual for parenting. they did what the best they could.
Speak to yourself you are loved by God. Rebuke the shame and guilt in both you and your friend. Maybe even do it during the midnight hour. In Jesus Name. Jesus Loves you and paid for your sin. Embrace his love. You have to love yourself first and also be conscious of God's love for you.
I have reservation you confiding in anyone including your parents. This is because you might be conscious of being guilty and condemn. And them being strict and controlling might not understand you. They might not handle it making you condemn.
Balance always has to be exercised. And fear can make parents over do it. This turns out to be abuse in any kind. Most people who fall in this perversion. Either sexually abused when they were kids. This another open door. As elaborated by other Pastors rejection and all. Now lets forget the open doors but focus on the finish work of Christ.
Avoid places that will remind you or block your blackmailer number. Get rid of any literature, or movies that will stimulate sexual lust.
If after two weeks this spirit of lust hasn't left. Then confide in your Mum. Apologize, and I pray they embrace you with love. This is because children look for affection be it being promiscuous or just a sexual partner. They are looking for love affection and to be accepted.
off topic ..but I got the magic stick.. I can fuck you straight lmaooo
see stupid pastor, may God forgive you people
Pls Dnt give her. Tell ur mum 1st fr thr she will tell ur dad. But my dear u need to go back to God.
tel d truth
What do u mean by u can't change ur sexuality. U need to give ur life to JESUS. I don't care abt her scandal it Will definitely pass away. I'm concern abt ur life in JESUS. Repent And Take to a counsellor frm another church b4 approaching ur parent. Pls don't give her a dime. shodyboddy!!!
the blackmailer doesn't know a thing about rich people worldwide...for a case of this magnitude, they just need to send the girl abroad for a course where she can cool off and practise her sexuality.
Then, who wins??
when do i qualify for a giveaway, ms Linda?? talk2dele16@gmail.com
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TELL YOUR PARENTS. ITS ALSO A LESSON TO YOU NOT TO DO THIS KIND OF THING AGAIN. IF YOU TRY MEN YOU WIL NEVER DO WOMEN AGAIN. REPENT AND TURN AWAY 4RM THIS WICKET WAY.THAT IS THE BEST THING TO DO CUS ITS PARTLY THERE FAULT. TELL THEM WHY YOU WENT IN2 THAT HABIT AND THEN BE REPENTANT
I believe in equality! Tell your parents! And open up to me too. I have that listening ear. Lol
Sorry lesbo girl. But it seems u have no taste. Even if you wanted to date a babe,u shud have gone for arich classy girl. Now uve learnt. Anyway I don't think u shud tell ur parents. Don't do anything. Just sit down and watch. If she tells ur parents, hearing it from u won't make it any easier for them. Ur only problem now is if she has pics. If she dos net and she tells dem u can deny or come out straight.
Open up to ur parent. Nd ask God for forgiveness.
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