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Sunday, 19 October 2014

Dear LIB readers: My man wants me to invite another woman into our bed

From a female LIB reader
I've been married for just two years with a 17 months old baby. My husband has been pressuring me to invite another woman into our bedroom for a threesome to spice up our sex life. Unfortunately we have two married friends who do this and he now wants us to include that element in our marriage. I am curious about it after hearing of it from our friends who indulge in it but I'm not comfortable with going along with it.
When I asked one of the women why she agreed to it, she said she would rather have her man cheat in front of her than behind her back like most husbands do. I don't want him to cheat on me at all but he keeps insisting on this and I don't know how to talk him out of it. Should I agree? I don't want him cheating on me. Please help!

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Anonymous said...

Personally, I think it's very selfish for a person to pressure another person to do something that they are not comfortable doing. It is sad that your husband has succeeded in putting fear into you in believing that if you do not agree to his request then there's that chance he'll do it behind your back. If I was in your situation, I would agree to his request only on the condition that we also invite another man into our bed. Of course you wouldn't do that, but all you wanna see is his reaction to your condition and see if he feels comfortable letting another man have sex with you

Anonymous said...

U should not even think of it all u have to do is find out what is makin him cum up wit such develish idea, and if it z u dat hav not been doin it 2 his satisfaction employ any strategies 2 spiece ur sex lyf up n believ me he wil neva tink of it again

Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

Pray about it. What type of demonic request is that. I can't handle sharing my man I will either shoot the woman or him. Just pray about it. Is your husband even a christian?

Anonymous said...

What kind of man is that, he doesn't love u at all.talk to God abt it

Daralohi said...

My dear the moment you invite another woman,your home is set 4 destruction.

maha said...

That is the kind of stories you hear ladies, when u marry a man who does not fear God and not a christain.

Anonymous said...

hmm association matters a lot,u need to pray hard sweet

Unknown said...

I tink your hubby and his set of friends are sick, do what your mind tells you, but know that you can never satisfy a man, if u like agree to it, that will not stop him from cheating on you

Anonymous said...

Prayer is the key, how can u even consider such an insult to ur person. Do not cave in, God is ur strength.

Toronto Finest said...

Threesome Oya! Lol

Toronto Finest said...

Threesome Oya! Lol

Unknown said...

Very wrong thing to do as a couple. Don't allow that except ou want to bacome a slave in your marriage cos that will be the beginning of your marital trouble.

Anonymous said...

In one word,you do it, you have aided abetted his sin of adultery. Am married meanwhile.

Ijanyimitch said...

Na wa ooo hian

Dr Yemi said...

approach this in prayer pls. don't ever agree to this. If he doesn't change his tot, divorce him. He's a beast.

linsadris said...

I dont like the idea, hand over the situation to God, there is nothing impossible for him to do
.

sexynerd said...

If he will allow me organize the next threesome by bringing another guy i will consider it. Useless men one sees now adays. End times things

Anonymous said...

You are a big fool.Is that how to keep a man? Shameless woman.Sure he knows marrying you was a favour he did you . Tomorrow he will ask for ur daughter and u will submit her.U have lost ur dignity as a woman.The man has no single respect for you and ur union.What a shame.

Anonymous said...

for this our Nigeria?

Unknown said...

And who told you having threesome will make ur husband not to cheat if he want. Be wise

Anonymous said...

Uwa mmebi. Please don't even think about it. It's totally wrong. Be praying for your husband and find a way you and your husband to cut off from those so called friends. They are bad influence.

Engr Obi said...

Swinging is something that should be done only when both parties are comfortable with it and it doesnt stop the man from cheating on you with another woman.Swinging is mentally draining and its after effects are immense.if you really love your woman i dont tink u can imagine her with another man sexually.My dear,talk to him,perhaps his pastor or his parents.There are a million other ways to spice up ones sex life apart from swinging.Be strong...

Anonymous said...

If he wnts you to invite another woman for a threesome,I hope he will also consider you inviting a man too. Dont agree,I consider it an insult, and that will also not stop him from cheating on you in future.

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Anonymous said...

A threesome wat? Beta allow him cheat on u behind u dan do dirty tins wit him on ur bed. Which kind enjoymnt be dat one.yamayama.

Anonymous said...

unfortunately these things happen.I know a married couple who does this and they are Nigerian.It's also very rampant among unmarried couples.my advise is ,if u arent comfortable,don't do it.My boyfriend once asked me for anal sex but i refused because i wasnt comfortable with it.He didnt insist and has never brought up the topic.love

ebony said...

Wat sort of a dumb question is this? Pls help? Help u with Wat? Make I come be d other woman? ODE!!!!!

Anonymous said...

My dear, also try to suggest to him to bring another man in. Hit me up if he agrees. Thanks. Yours in Fantasy World, Zuby

jbankzE said...

Awon ur still in d bush so try come out frst bfr u say wat u dnt kw......
Madam to save ur marriage u beta do d threesome coz if u dnt ur husby will go out.....Nva do wif pple u kw,is beta to take a random babe fr t.

~@iamjbankz SA to President Jonathan 2015~

Anonymous said...

Perverse Generation.what is this world turning into.

sexynerd said...

Ewu! Have you experienced it? Be saying what you dont know. Bloody faggot. You want to turn her to a sexual pervert like you. Idiot. Mscheeeeew

Anonymous said...

Swtie, Nigerians are no different 4rm human beings so they can have these kinds of problems but maybe I'll just bet with ya that this is some silly man checking 2 see if he'll be supported. Is he mad? Does he have no selfrespect? Dear writer, ask him if u can invite a man in2 ur bed to spice up ur sex life.. Let's see how he takes it. I bet he's a selfish man 2. I bet he thinks its easy 2 have sex with him alone cs he's maybe the sex god!! Na who frce him marry ni.. See wahala o. If he wanted 3somes. He should've stayed single Some wives have seen somthing sha..smh He shuld hve said it when u didn't have a baby so I can advice u 2 kick him 2 the curb but I see I can't say such so easily cs I'm thinking of u n that baby. Sry boo this world is full of unstable people like the persons that'll say things like not a bad idea or if u love him why not ----C21

Anonymous said...

I hope ur future wife suggests it boo u knw with another man so we'll test n see whether it kills you that she's even thinkin of other men. Please sayin Amen right nw will nt kill you ----C21

Ella said...

Two years marriage and he is already talking about spicing things up, what will happen when the marriage is 15, 30 years. Maybe he was doing it behind your back while he was still single. If you are leaving in South east London and require a Childminder please contact me on 07863678893

Anonymous said...

Uwa nmeibi, may God have mercy on him. That is why when u want to marry, marry a God fearing man don't marry money

Anonymous said...

Wow. Marriage has really lost it's sanctity in today's world. What an abomination. He doesn't have to be married if he wants to indulge in threesomes. Many ppl are heading straight to hell, no gallop. Heaven is real, so is hell.
I always say, even if you don't believe in all things transcendental and spiritual, the fact that there are volcanos that we can see with our eyes proves that there is something boiling, hot and fiery down there.

Unknown said...

Her husband is having threesome with other family already! This is what westerners use to spice up their marriage

Anonymous said...

What u re is disgusting!

Anonymous said...

If all he really wants to do is spice up your sex life, ask him if another man can come and have sex with you in his presence.

Anonymous said...

10000000 likes....... Jeez, you just cracked me up.

Anonymous said...

Exactly

Anonymous said...

Are you ok?

Anonymous said...

Don't just conclude to say it's a lie. They might be living abroad & want to copy what some whites do. And no you shouldn't agree, its just dirty & filth. I'll rather divorce that kind of man.

nwachuchu said...

consequences of too much porn

Unknown said...

I love ur comment. Lmao! Reduce his potency

Anonymous said...

Hahahaha. So hunger dey catch U. Sorry o

Unknown said...

Your husband has no atom of respect for you. Period! You too, agree to have the threesome, but insist that the invited guest must be male. Don't just stop there, list out your preferences. He should be tall, handsome, have a broad chest with 6pacs, have huge muscles, as well as long/big down there. Am sure your husband will never mention this ever again.

Anonymous said...

LMAO! We just love to deceive ourselves in Naija. So threesome is "white man's problem" but sleeping around on your wife tradition? Imbeciles.

Anonymous said...

Your thinking is so myopic - white people problems!

Woman I suggest you let him know where you stand. He doesn't need to cheat to spice up his marriage, such a new marriage as well. You both Gould get counselling, change your friends, find a good church where you can be involved with the things of the spirit and I proay God helps you.

I doubt he'll like it if you told him you wanted another man in the bed with him.

#Joshua

Anonymous said...

Some women think very shallow. So u think because u satisfy his so called sexual fantasy, he won't still cheat on u outside? Things like this don't change anything, instead it will get worse.

Anonymous said...

From the tone of your message, I think the MOST fundamental & pertinent advise is for you & your husband to GENUINELY find Christ and be born-again. All these immoral urges are symptoms of a carnal mind which can only be cured by the conviction of the Holy Spirit and the washing by the Blood of Jesus Christ. Kindly locate a Faith & Bible Preaching Church closest to you. You'll find help. God bless you!!!

Linda ike said...

Stupidity is a sin.women should don't allow men make them act stupid,No matter the situation.know ur worth.

Utonwa said...

This is what i dread!

Anonymous said...

#word

Linda ike said...

Stupidity is a sin.women should not allow men make than act stupid,No matter the situation.know ur worth and also know ur right as a woman.

Anonymous said...

D both of u nid Jesus in ur lives.....

Anonymous said...

Fucking fool. That's cos you ain't got no self esteem..... and you're a dumpbag. We all know your "man" is married.....l laugh at you. Cheap ass bitch. Shut that bin you call a mouth if you ain't got nothing good to say.

IWP said...

my fantasy .....pls...oo very sweet .two two b****s ...www.iwonpopular.com

Anonymous said...

Bonita you have spoken well. I do not understand why people get married when they are sooooo not ready for it. Woman, get ready for some serious heart ache if u agree to this nonsense.

omee said...

Hope you read this: set your standards now. Since your conscience is not comfortable then dont. Tell him no. Plain and simple. Cos after this, it could be anal sex or dogs. Just dont. If it gets too bad, then leave. You cant control cheating cos trust me he is already cheating on you. Step up your game, look hot and tell him he can have only you at a time. Also suggest std tests. Cos he is not safe as long as he keeps fooling around. Lastly talk to someone important to him. Do not be seduced and do not be afraid.

Anonymous said...

Ha! Ha! Ha! I know right? But my sister's Nigerian fiance asked her for the same oh in Lagos, not one but six times. Men! He is ex now, my sister had to Waka.

eviliciouspepe said...

You don't want him to cheat on you, but you are "ok" with him wanting to bring sin into your household. That man is already cheating on you in his heart, what kind of company are you guys keeping? U have a 17month old, is that the kind of household you want your child to grow up in? Both of you need help, go for Godly counselling and get rid of those so called married friends, they are not healthy for you guys.

Anonymous said...

Big idiot ...I had a gf say that too . Bringing in another guy. Na there I know say my D*** no fit do her again so I gass run for my life @adedarkdick

Anonymous said...

I pity the womb that carried you for 9months! U need Jesus desperately!

Unknown said...

Wahala.

Unknown said...

Lmao! Why another woman. Tell him na another man u want make e join and see how he likes a taste of his own med. Mstcheew. Pls this life is not a bag of bricks. Dont spit in my face if u dont want me to spit in urs. Oshi ati iranu. Someone that is already cheating on. Why wud he suggest another woman if he loves you. Some men can be so utterly selfish. Instead ooof thinking of ways to make a better life and be more supportive of raising his child. He's looking for women to spice up his sex life. Why not put curry and ata rodo? Those r spices too. It simple logic, if he needs a woman then u need a man, shikena. Make e be foursome. The more the merrier. Mstcheew

Anonymous said...

I don't understand how you need Linda Ikeji's commenters to tell you what to do. This is YOUR marriage, if you're not comfortable with it don't do it, simple! Otherwise please knock yourself out.

yawanow said...

These days adultery means nothing to married men/women. It is a sin to cheat talk more of threesome.
The marital vow should be sacred and not toiled with.

JOYCHY said...

Sometimes I just feel lyk beating some sense in2 some female brains. Dis is so absurd mehnn, & who told u he wouldm't cheat on u after a 3 or 10some.
Dis are one of such issues u don't need 2 give a 2nd thought or even ask a 3rd party. Goshhhhhhhhhh

ITS A NO OOOOOOO, kEEP SOUNDING IT INTO HIS DUMP EARS!! U married a jerk.

Unknown said...

Since he wants to spice it up why not also suggest to him to also include another fresh bobo in ur bed too. #dumbasshusband#!!!

ivanez said...

Ma dear, if diz story is really true...I will advice u to b prayerful it's not a normal it, it's spiritual! Nd bringing another woman into ur home...it means ure ready to face it.




Anonymous said...

Call a family meeting ooo & let everyone know wht is going on....chinekemeh!!we see dis tins in movie nvr thght it cld happen oo..may God av mercy ijn!!

Nana said...

And you wud know because...? Dumb ass! LIB poster don't listen to this moron...your husband is a HO! Say no! Don't give the devil an upper hand in your home! Be prayerful, nne...

Nana said...

Let me not look for my comment o

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Anonymous said...

kai! story of my life... I posted similar story on SDK's. mine, I have been married for 7yrs and the pressure is still there....

Anonymous said...

pls tell him that ur okay, but u will start first by bringing in a man first to spice it up

Anonymous said...

Your husband is a whore Hehehehe, tell him it's cool. Then go bring some dude and have him tear his asshole. Sister he won't think of Sex again for a long while. He's a stupid pussy sucking whore of satan

Anonymous said...

You pple be blaming the devil for the foolishness of man.

Anonymous said...

This is what you get when you marry money and not true love.

Anonymous said...

you're stupid for even considering it!! this is why your husband can even boldly ask you such rubbish. he has no regards for you and you make it easy for him by being weak for even asking in the first place!!

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