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Saturday, 6 September 2014

Dear LIB readers: Should I tell her?

From a female LIB reader...
My very close friend has been married for 4 years and I just found out that her husband has a mistress. My friend is 7 months pregnant and is in a very happy phase in her life. It hurts me not to tell her but at the same time I don't want to be the one to burst her bubble especially with her condition. Though this won't be the first time he's cheating on her. He once got a girl pregnant when they were dating just cos my friend was a virgin back then and refused to sleep with him. Though he made the girl abort the baby and moved mountains to make my friend forgive and come back to him. They dated for 7 years, he disvirgined her and she has invested so much time, sweat, energy in the relationship that now that it has finally materialised into marriage I just don't want to be the one to uproot her world.
So do I tell her or wait till she delivers or just let her find out herself? Please, I need your honest opinions.

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Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

I feel ur dilema bt pls don't tell her coz ₪☺ matter wat appens ur name wil always βε̲̣ mentioned as d 1 who brought news dat broke up d marriage or d one who wants to destroy d marriage

motunrayo olaide said...

Let her find out herself.....

Anonymous said...

Let her find out herself #bright bravo#

Anonymous said...

You don't have to fuckin tell her shit... is it from you they would hear that the teacher's mother is dead... Go get your self something doing.


#OpeNaati

Anonymous said...

It would be nice to mind your own business

Engr. Maknun said...

You need our honest opinion? Uhn??? Go get married and stop poking your nose in their lives.

Anonymous said...

It would be nice to mind your own business

bebetorshure said...

What is your business. Shut/seal your mouth atleast not now that she is very preggy abi you want your friend to have complications too.

Anonymous said...

I'd say mind your business,cos at the end of the day they will use u to settle..nd u'll be the bad friend that wants to ruin her marriage,as long as she is happy and her hubby aint rubbing it in her face..LET HER BE!

em jay said...

Wait till ur frnd put to birth,then tell her d story and make it look like its anoda of ur frnd dat is involve,den seek her advice on wat to do,if she ask u to go ahead and tell den tell her

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Anonymous said...

Pls do not tell her oooo,jst bcos of her state of health,wait till she delivers.Linda pls I need ur email adress,I have issues too bothering my mind.wch I need ur intelligence readers to advice me on.tnx

Trevorberg said...

It's either you forget about telling her entirely or you kindly wait till she gives birth to her child and nurture the child to atleast 6months. But sincerely I will advice you just keep shut about it and talk to her husband to desist from such sin that's if you and her husband can talk oooo

Oluwafunminiyi Omojola said...

It is a good thing you asked this question before ruining a happy place. Please mind your business. It is not your place to tell her anything. Even if you do, she will not leave her husband. And then when she finally gets to forgive him, your enmity with that family will commence. So shut up and save you and everyone involved the headache.

Eugenia Ekeji said...

I think u better stay away from it. If possible u can tell ur friend and let her not mention u to the husband. She can act like she knows the lady in question. That way u r free from the mess.

PURPLE said...

Shut dat ur mouth up and pretend like u don't know a thing!

MissW said...

Hmmm...Aunty mind ur biz o, let ur friend solve her issue herself.

williams robort said...

Get a new number SMS d husband and tell him to leave his mistress or u tell his wife, unknown number will be fine

Patricia Ikeh said...

It's better u tell her

Makz O said...

Beta mind ur own biz.

Anonymous said...

Do not tell, especially in her present condition, she will surely find out....ma se loogun mamo. Linda post comment mi

DR.WHO said...

Tell her when she delivers. By anonymous sms ooo, but give her enough evidence to know it's true. Cos, odds are that she already knows.

£ teddy said...

Let her know herself

jenny A said...

Pls not now, tell her later when she has put to bed, for her sake.. God bless

Anonymous said...

What God has joined together,let no man put asunder. The best u can do is to speak to him in a mature way. Nothing is hidden under d sun. She wud eventually find out herself...Zodiac

seun said...

What would she do if u were in her shoes? Act wisely!!!...#SeunLondon

Anonymous said...

Eyin agbagba ebawa da sioo...

ONEHUNDRED KAY said...

If u like go put mouth for matter wey no conceign u, na u they go use settle and by the time dey settle, u will become there enemy n that ur friend no go even see u as friend again.

Anonymous said...

When will women learn that all men cheat, if you break up Her home the next guy she date will cheat also, so leave him alone. As long as he's not robbing it in her face. So ma'am please face your own home cos I can guarantee you that your men is cheating too.

aunty betty lo so be said...

there are comments you just didn't post them

Anonymous said...

My dear, don't make your self look like a fool, I know you love your friend and all , but I can assure you she knows about his cheating but just trying to deny it to herself, so dnt interfere , she chose to be with a lying , cheating dog and she's living with it.

Bianca BRUNO said...

Let her find out by herself.
U can help her out by sending her proof thru anonymous email or txt...
Meanwhile go and find ya own hubby as well
Goodluck

edho faith said...

Pls let her find out herself

Anonymous said...

Knowing the way Nigerians think, I'm very sure the women will tell you not to tell her, then they would back it up with "all men cheat"
I won't be surprised if you get lashed for not minding your business.
Anyways from me to you, if you must tell her, pls give her evidence/proof.. Pictures etc...
Orally telling her will cause problems between you 2..

Anonymous said...

Aproko shut ur mouth joor!!!

Osarhiemen Agbonkonkon said...

I guess your friend is already used to her hubby's habit of cheating. Perhaps she already knows he has a mistress but has decided to leave it in God's hands.
As for her hubby, he's being wicked to his loving wife. Some men are terrible sha.
If I were you I won't like to be the one to tell her.
She may not even believe you .
Let the married people advise you.

alexiss said...

Dear let her find out herself cos u dnt wnt to be the 1 to ruin her marriage+ u no wht dey said wht God has join 2ger let no man put asunder

Tunde lawal said...

Pls learn to mind ur business and keep off her marriage. U av just mentioned that she's in a happy phase so why try to spoil it? Am not sayin wat he dis is ryt or taking his side all am sayin is its not ur business. Unless if u want him for ur self too and he has refused look ur way. Otherwise stay on ur lane my dear.

Valentine N Egbuna said...

U are just a home wrecker. Are u even married? How come u know so much about her husband more than her? Is he fucking u as well? Some gals are just pathetic. U need my advice right? Here it is: mind ur damn bizness and leave de family alone. Nonsense.

I'm out. ***CATCH ME IF U CAN***

Anonymous said...

Please let her be. She'll definitely get to know bt let it not be from you.

Anonymous said...

Don't tell her. She forgave him before when she didnt have much to lose. . So, now that she is pregnant for him she'll will most likely forgive him anyway and ul end up becoming the "jealous friend that wants to destroy her home"... I've seen this issh happen several times before

KWEEN said...

My dear, just keep it to yourself. Let her find out on her own. If you spill the beans now, you will be tagged as the bad belle friend or a jealous friend trying to ruin her happiness. The man will surely tell his wife that you're only trying to break up their home with your allegations. She dated him for 7 years, took him back after he cheated and married him as a virgin... ungrateful man. It's just a pity that cheating seems to be in the DNA of 90% of men. You said she's in a happy phase of her life right now. Let her enjoy it while it lasts. Do not burst her bubble.

Bonita Bislam said...

Zip your mouth and let your friend find out by herself.What makes you think she won't forgive him again? since she's a customer to his betrayal.At the end you'll end up being the wet blanket.

Anonymous said...

mind ur business...jobless hater

all men have mistresses

Rita okochi said...

Don't tell, it will break her heart, since she is happy with her man just let dem be. If u tell her it won't stop de man from cheating.

Anonymous said...

Aproko mind your business and find yourself a husband! Abi na u be the mistress

Atobatele said...

Tell her at your own risk.

Anonymous said...

Let her findout herself abeg!

Anonymous said...

Are you a snitch? If you truly care about your friend, you would mind your business and let her home be. Maximum you can do is to confront her husband with the facts and let him see why he should appreciate his wife better than going to break a home or kill an unborn baby. How would you feel towards your friend if she came telling you that the man you love so much who is making you so happy is cheating on you?

Henry Ifejika said...

Are yu married?if NO,yu bera shut up and mind yur business...yu wanna be a testimony one million girl,go to church and testimony if yur lips is verging yu out of yur mouth..Amibo,can't yu drive yur car without hittinh potholes?.......pls use needle if yu cnt shutup yur mouth...SUMU

La' Viv said...

Tell her with evidence,its better she knows...

Anonymous said...

These men I just don't get them, they hunt u down tooth n nail like u r all dat matters once they v u, its a different story. Y invest sooo much time if she isn't worth your loyalty, love n respect!!! Pls unmarried guys if u r not ready to commit no b by force to marry biko! To d christians na d same d same punishment for man n woman oooo

A fool’s paradise is a wise man’s hell said...

Erm! If you told her, what wld be d end result? You are just a bad person! I don't think u cherish your friend's happiness! PLEASE, MIND YOUR BUSINESS!!!

Anonymous said...

Let her find out herself. Telling her might destroy your friendship. If you are willing to not have a friend anymore, then by all means go ahead and tell her.

Anonymous said...

With all this description.. there is no need telling her.. she has probably read this already...

Anonymous said...

let her find out herself fool

bbm 7439955a said...

You no go find work. Ndi asiri. Cheers. ENGR Emy

jaybeyblu said...

Don't tell her pls. She will find out by herself when d time is right

Anonymous said...

How is it your business ? Amebo??

You won't face you'd own marriage and relationship! It's you that knows all about someone else's marriage and how she was disvirgined!!

If you know what is good for you, better just mind your own business, okay if you tell her what are you expecting?

That she should break up her family? Or she should be heartbroken while heavily pregnant? Ask yourself, What positive thing will come out of you telling her?

Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

Plz dnt tell her! Let her find out by herself, it wil pain her d most wen u tell her dan wen he find out by herself.

Anonymous said...

What is your business? Ladies sef..smh

Anonymous said...

Please mind your own damn business.You claimed the guy had done it before,so your friend knows she's marrying a serial cheater not a one off and she still went into it,so leave her alone to handle her shit.

Anonymous said...

Pls leave them alone and mind ur bz. If u tell now and they start having issues, what will be ur pleasure there? Leave them alone abeg u.

olumide abiodun said...

Don't tell her anything. If you tell her, a time will come in the future when she will even despise you for telling her.


Ask yourself; 'what will the knowledge that her husband has a girlfriend outside do for her?' And how did you even get this information?

Anonymous said...

Let her find out herself

Steveosky 4 Real. said...

Even if you must tell her not now plz. Secondly what if after telling her and he turns a new Leaf and now you will become her enemy. Av seen such situation happen severally..!! So think twice .!!!

Chy Somy said...

There is no point telling her is it because u v seen this one what of the once u v not seen, every man has one thing or the other, so please let their marriage be, bc tmorrow she ll blame u for her broken marriage.

Mena Peters Triflections said...

Face your .......

Anonymous said...

What exactly is your business?! Madam gossip don't go and break their home.. Tey will use you to reconcile

Anonymous said...

Please mind your business. Do not be a home wrecker

UcheeGod said...

Don't tell her!!! Men are all the same!!

chizzy jeremiah said...

u no go shut up mind ur own bizness...

Anonymous said...

Mind your business. It is not your place

Alloy Chikezie said...

Don't tell her, she will eventually find the truth someday herself, don't be the one to cause their break-up


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olumide abiodun said...

What would that knowledge do to your friend? That is what you should think about that first and foremost. I'd say, don't tell her.


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david ayuya said...

Abeg woman flee.. what is your business actually? Do u go around investigating? I guess u r not married? Ur line is boring.. Take a hike and mind ur Business # Busy body

Ezeh Ebere said...

Linda pls publish me comments,abi u no like my name

Funso Samuel said...

It is well o.Just dont tell her for now.The time will surely come for you to do that

david ayuya said...

Abeg woman flee.. what is your business actually? Do u go around investigating? I guess u r not married? Ur line is boring.. Take a hike and mind ur Business # Busy body

Shoutozone said...

U wil eventualy av to tel her but not yet. First make sure she had given birth to her baby since its just 2mnths to go. In the cus of d 2mths, go to her husband to talk to him and warn him of d likely dangers dat culd emanate from his actions. Watch him for a while, and if he refuses to yield, den advance to to his wife and tell her

Anonymous said...

Pls let them be, they r married now and she is happy. with time she will figure things out herself..

Ezeh Ebere said...

My dear ,them no dey put mouth for husband and wife matter oh,so that u won,t be used to settle the matter,

taibat hassan said...

Please don't tell her now,it not healthy for the baby,you should wait till she delivers the child.

Utomi Tommy said...

I think she deserves to know.. Becos sooner or later she might find out. But hold on till she is no more heavy.

Anonymous said...

Do not tell her.

Anonymous said...

its reaally none of your buiness, your friends marriage is her private matter. let her find ou herself and why do you think she doesnt know that story already.

the guy is a cheat,but revelation wouldnt change anything.

Anonymous said...

Shut ur mouth and let it remain like dat 4ever,,cos u stand 2 gain nothing when u tell her,,n u wnt 4give urself if d relatnship fails

Anonymous said...

My sister, you will live long once you start minding your business.

Anonymous said...

Go get a life!!!! What is ur fucking Biz there? Very obvious u don't have a hubby bcos, if u do u won't have time to tail her hubby..

chin said...

This issue is none of ur buisness. Go get ur own life straight. You would not achieve anything by telling her.Dnt be an asunder in her marriage. If your tongue is scratching you and you must talk, go talk to her husband and advise him to change. That is if you must talk oh.

chinwe assumpta said...

Pls mind ur own business, if d guy dn't value her he wuld't hv married her, let d mistress outside keep fooling her self, pls let d poor woman be,

halliday said...

Don't even try it bec u will be dragged in eventually!!!

Anonymous said...

No. Keep praying for him earnestly. There's nothing God cannot do cos He answers prayers. God can so affect his life that he will just change suddenly. Intercession is powerful trust me.

LINDA HUSBAND said...

LET HER KNOW BY HERSELF

Badoo of Toronto said...

Mind your own shit.. Don't say jack!.. Everybody is complaining that 24 hrs isnt enough for them.. you are here wasting yours doing amebo. I am sure you cheat too

JESUS BOY IS HERE said...

DONT FALL YOUR HAND JUST LEAVE HER

Anonymous said...

Let her find out for herself...and if the bubble bursts in the future don't let her know you've known for a while what kind of man her husband is.

Badoo of Toronto said...

Did you even read your senseless and clueless idea? What village are you from? Who does that shit these days... I am sure you are one of those that destroy ppl's marriage...what a local and uneducated idea. Seriously you need lots of exposure.

Anonymous said...

If you Ask Me!I Will Tell You To Go Find Something Tangible Doing•••Get A Life And Stop Meddling in Ya Friends Marriage #GiftedDiva#

Anonymous said...

Demon . Do you think she'll leave him if she finds out ? No she won't . she'll only leave you . How about getting your own life ? Joy killer .

olubukola luro said...

My dear let sleeping dog lie....men are like that, in as much as he aint treating your freind badly and shes "Happy" as u said .....zip ya mouth ....if shes bound to find out she will and if she does not let her be..

Anonymous said...

GBEBORUN,....dont u think its better u mind ur buisness cos if u dare try such,.u will b d cause of d marriage disorder and trust me,when they finally get settled,.u will be d number one ENEMY of state!!!!,..u warned

Anonymous said...

She already knows. Her woman's intuition has already told her. She's choosing to ignore it.

Anonymous said...

Shut up and mind ur own business. Whether she knows or not, she won't leave her husband. What u don't know won't kill. Why steal her joy

Anonymous said...

MY YOUR BUSINESS...... HOW SURE ARE U, THAT YOUR OWN MAN AIN'T CHEATING ON YOU? THAT'S IF YOU HAVE ONE. ENEMY OF PROGRESS

Anonymous said...

I agree with the comments made by @Williams Roborts &@Dr. Who. But wait until 6 months after her safe delivery. Women don't depend completely on ur husbands. Get a life.

Anonymous said...

Pls people especially ladies must don't get it, most home's happiness really depends on these mistresses, I'm married and I'm a guy and yes I love my wife and yes if I want to be happy at all, I sincerely NEED a mistress to fill in those holes my wife nay never fill. Trust me if mistresses were eradicated from this world, guys will be living lonely depressed lives. Mistresses makes you alive. A few women out there actually combine the roles but the same percentage of men who cheat will likely be the same percentage of women who are just not good enough especially in bed. Women conferences should be about being the complete woman for your man and not minding if you are not good enough and he respects you enough just to find alternatives dicretely. And pls we still love our wives still.

Anonymous said...

Pls people especially ladies must don't get it, most home's happiness really depends on these mistresses, I'm married and I'm a guy and yes I love my wife and yes if I want to be happy at all, I sincerely NEED a mistress to fill in those holes my wife nay never fill. Trust me if mistresses were eradicated from this world, guys will be living lonely depressed lives. Mistresses makes you alive. A few women out there actually combine the roles but the same percentage of men who cheat will likely be the same percentage of women who are just not good enough especially in bed. Women conferences should be about being the complete woman for your man and not minding if you are not good enough and he respects you enough just to find alternatives dicretely. And pls we still love our wives still.

Anonymous said...

Pls people especially ladies must don't get it, most home's happiness really depends on these mistresses, I'm married and I'm a guy and yes I love my wife and yes if I want to be happy at all, I sincerely NEED a mistress to fill in those holes my wife nay never fill. Trust me if mistresses were eradicated from this world, guys will be living lonely depressed lives. Mistresses makes you alive. A few women out there actually combine the roles but the same percentage of men who cheat will likely be the same percentage of women who are just not good enough especially in bed. Women conferences should be about being the complete woman for your man and not minding if you are not good enough and he respects you enough just to find alternatives dicretely. And pls we still love our wives still.

Chinomnso Anozie said...

Its pointless sounding this harsh... Simple #Don'tTellHer can do...

comfort said...

Just don't tell her anything unless she finds out herself and dat guys 4 u dey are not always faithtul if u like u be virgin or not some guys are just born to cheat likewise some ladies too shaa.

Anonymous said...

Aproko I think you need to mind your business and focus on how to get married..all men cheat even if you get married today your husband will do the same thing.

Anonymous said...

U no go shut up ur mouth b4 d go use u chop Amala

Anonymous said...

Why can't u mind ur business? Miss enemy of progress. I believe ur simply jealous of your so called friend.

Me said...

Wise approach! You are a wise person

Anonymous said...

How about minding your own biz. You obviously don't like the fact your friend is married and expecting while u're still busy poking into her biz, tryna destroy her marriage for her to come join u in misery.

Anonymous said...

Like seriously, mind your business....

Odubela Johnson said...

JOBLESS LADY,WHY CANT YOU GO AND LOOK FOR HUSBAND AND LET YOUR FRIEND AND HER FAMILY BE AT PEACE..KEEP WHAT YOU SEE TO YOURSELF AND SUFFER IT ALONE ....

FAMILY BREAKER....

Olamide said...

Don't tell her,I know you are a good friend that's why you are worried,but let her find out herself,like someone said there are odds that she already knows.If eventually you tell her,let's say she divource him,you'll be tagged as a home breaker,no matter the evidence.
I hope you make a wise decision.

APPLE said...

If you must tell her, wait until she gives birth. Then again that will depend on how close you are..Will i like to be told? YES!

hilary obiorah said...

Wait till she delivers and tell, with evidence oh! So you won't be accused of wanting to ruin her marriage.

Anonymous said...

I CAN READ SO MANY COMMENTS HERE WITH SOME OF YOU EVEN ABUSING THIS LADY.INTERESTING HOW NO ONE IS CONSIDERING THE HEALTH IMPLICATIONS FOR THIS POOR WIFE.WHILE YOU SHOULDN'T TELL HER TILL AFTER SHE HAS GIVEN BIRTH, ITS BEST SHE KNOWS BEFORE HE GIVES HER A TERMINAL DISEASE.

Rawlings Banks said...

The best answer so far....

Anonymous said...

Let her find out herself my dear, u don't need to tell her@ mercy

Anonymous said...

Am sure u can talk 2 the husband she must nt knw u can stil help her by talking 2 the husband make him c reasons ~ice princess~

tabsyyy said...

Place yourself in her shoe....then make the choice

Amarachukwu. said...

Is non of your business...

Musa Isa said...

Though that's none of ur business

Edosa Kevin said...

If u really her friend then tell her. If she is angry wit, fine. But as a friend u av done her a great deed.

Edosa Kevin said...

If u really her friend then tell her. If she is angry wit, fine. But as a friend u av done her a great deed.

Anonymous said...

If she reads LIB, she certainly know she's the one ur talking about from all d descriptions nd past experiences u've given

jaybeyblu said...

I feel u, in an ideal situation she shud tell her friend with/without evidence. Unfortunately we live in a society where adultery esp a cheating hubby is the norm. So telling her makes no difference tbh. It's only gonna make her unhappy, not like she will leave d man or he will stop cheating so what's d point?

Anonymous said...

I notice that most of the people saying you should not tell her are men because that's what they all do.

Please tell her after she puts to bed by anonymous sms.

Anonymous said...

Honest opinion? Ok,let me ask you: what is your motive for wanting to tell her, esp. as you know she's pregnant? What do you hope to achieve by letting her know? Are you interested in her husband abi na you be the mistress? Which kain friend you be? Babe, there are some things one doesn't say and this is one of dem. Go ask your mama if you have one! If the matter bothers you that much, please make yourself scarce in your friend's house. Wetin you dey find sef, you no get work??? Daleru daleru!!!(madam scatter house).

Soul said...

Don't tell her shit. Arrange for her to find out the truth herself. Oburo na onugi ka aganu na oku gbara Fada, gbakwuo afuonu a.

Anonymous said...

Is your friend matured enough to handle it? I think dts what matters. If she is then tell her, cos this era of disease and sleeping with dc enemy. I was once in a situation like this and thank God my friend told me sure it made me realise who I was with and it made me a smarter ands wiser spouse. It all depends on your friend's level of maturity and how well she handles issues

Anonymous said...

G

Soul said...

As in eh. Most sensible comment here. Yes oooo. Women know when a man smiles at another woman sef not to talk of straff. Taaaaaaa. She knows. We pretend like we don't so that we don't step out of our comfort zone. Lol

Anonymous said...

my good lady you already told her

Anonymous said...

You're very stupid for saying that Engr. Maknun. It's your type the lady is writing about. The lady in question is her friend so she has every right to be concerned about her flirty husband. So shut the fuck up if you have no advice for her. Nonsense

Shy said...

As her friend, you think you owe it to her to tell her but I've come to realize that though they say 'the truth will set you free', most times, it doesn't. It will only enslave you. And honestly, most people can't handle the truth. So, my dear, pretend you don't know jack. There's a high probability that she'll get to find out sooner or later and when she does, you may then tell her you withheld the info cos you didn't wanna see her hurt. The day she decided to marry him was the day she chose to live with his shortcomings too. So, for now, take a seat, sip a drink and tell yourself 'this is none of my business'.

Anonymous said...

Stupid girl, soboloyoke, Information career. Wot's ur own business. Dn't scatter deir relationship. Go and get marry and stop all dis Nonsense pokin into some1 home. Typical idiot.

Esh.... said...

Na wa o..... wetin concern u? Are u married... Or probably jobless... Mind. Ur freaking biz joor... Ode oshi..

H S C said...

My friend shut up and go and take several seats! Only God knows what kind of relationship you are in that you are so quick to haul insults. Abi do you know everything and never seek advice??? Type phoene join...#fakeassnigger#

mary prynce said...

why do you think you have a right to tell her? better still advice the man to tell her otherwise keep shut. my personal qstn to you ...are you married? if yes, face your husband if no, look for a man in your life and leave others in peace

Anonymous said...

guy na wetin i dey reason,she dey fuck d man

Shade Far said...

Good

Anonymous said...

Don't say a word! She will stay with the guy and end up very angry at you!

Anonymous said...

plz mind ur bizness and dont let ur name be linked to a broken marriage

yaya neji said...

My dear pls dnt tell her o! Cus u will brk her hrt and der might see u as a home brker cus der will surely makup oo.

charles obanor said...

Shut up and mind ur own business...tatafo


C.E.O

Anonymous said...

Dats d best advice here.

Anonymous said...

Tell her anonymously. I would expect my friend to tell me if she know s for a fact that my husband is cheating. Just send her an anonymous note with the details. You can wait till after she has the baby. Women need to stick together.

MEREZE said...

Bitch!Dont be a home wrecker

LEEZ said...

No please don't tell her! Cos people will think u want to break their home! And your conscience won't be at rest if they end up living like cat and dog in their home, so please keep mute!

LEEZ said...

Lol cool too

LEEZ said...

Nah....but she still shouldn't tell her!

Anonymous said...

Does the fact that all ye commenters are not following the more difficult and narrow path mean that we are all wrong to advise this lady to keep her mouth shut? The world will always hate you for doing the right thing. My friend's husband is cheating on her. This one pass fling as he has been seeing this other woman for more than four years. And the relationship seems to be very hot because they are always at it like rabbits in the guy's car on my street corners most nights. He knows that I know but does not care o! He always travels alone for the summer break and holidays and it's ok with this my friend. But she won't hear of his philandering from me because it will strain our relationship. Is this selfish of me?

Anonymous said...

Exactly!! Cos e nr consine u...

Anonymous said...

It's none of your biz, so stay off it

Anonymous said...

D simple truth is that,telling her will never solve his cheating but scatter d home faster.As long as there is sugar,ants will not cease to exist.a man with some cash n a little opportunity will always cheat except he s not loaded n d 3rd leg is not agile .We men will continue to try our best.it s not a good thing though.it s not easy.A woman that divorces a man 4 dat reason will continue to divorce until he meets a not too sterile or loaded man.D woman shld just continue to pray n manage his man.Shikena!JD

Anonymous said...

I agree with u totally... Let her find out herself

Mrs CJ said...

Mind Ur biness

Anonymous said...

Put to bed, not put to bed, i know U̶̲̥̅̊ will say tenk U̶̲̥̅̊, ur welkom

Anonymous said...

Wetin person no sabi no dey kill, I don't know why cheating is an issue with todays women when u know u won't quit d marriage, africa men are polygamous, as long as he is responsible to his responsibilities I no see am o. O girl shut up and drive, face ur problem.

Gee said...

What 4 her 2 deliver. I know u owe her a duty as a friend but u must also consider other factors. 2ndly LIB is not d right place to get honest opinion on any useful issue.

Gee said...

What 4 her 2 deliver. I know u owe her a duty as a friend but u must also consider other factors. 2ndly LIB is not d right place to get honest opinion on any useful issue.

Gee said...

What 4 her 2 deliver. I know u owe her a duty as a friend but u must also consider other factors. 2ndly LIB is not d right place to get honest opinion on any useful issue.

Anonymous said...

Wait after she gives birth then give her clues so that she finds out herself...angeleyez

baby oku said...

Let it slide n she Will eventually find out some day

NaNcY DreW said...

Exactly

Anonymous said...

I would say it is not your business but NO ! If she is like a best friend to you and she has done a lot for you, tel her when she delivers, all she has to do is have some space , she doesn't have to divorce, men are weak, staying makes them weaker, divorce makes them stronger

Ada said...

Chic pray she finds out but not from u! Men are wicked sha. With all the diseases out there they still put their wives at risk. All of u men sleeping with demons and drinking their poison, beware, God don't like ugly.

Anonymous said...

E get wetin u dey find? Ur friend too enjoy pass you for your eye? You mean say you go just settle down, without any prior discussion or prompting, talk dat kain thing to your friend? E get wetin you dey find.

Okoro said...

NO

Anonymous said...

in the voice of Toke Makinwa.... " have you seen how married women shun their friends when their friends have seen the real deal of their marriage?..." it's the new norm nowadays...My best bet will be 4 you to pray to God to speak / reveal it to her. The Lord has mysterious ways... this is bc that extra marital affair is at the risk of your friendship and the pregnant mother. what if STD comes into play etc... Friendship like that of Jonathan and David one of the basis was to protect and provide for each other. Nowadays friendships are questionable. So if you truly believe she knows you got her best interest and protection tell her. By the looks you asking the question meaning you don't have peace about it... warn the husband if you are that open eye bold girl.

Anonymous said...

Ameeebor tatafo...mind ur fucking business

Anonymous said...

YOU ARE A VERY FOOLISH WOMAN FOR COMING TO ASK THIS QUESTION. WHAT THE HELL IS YOUR BUSINESS IN ANOTHER PERSONS MATTER? LET ME GIVE YOU A PIECE OF ADVICE LADY LEARN TO MIND YOUR GADAM BUSINESS YOU GERITT AND STAY OUT OF OTHER PEOPLES BUSINESS OKAY MSCHEW

Anonymous said...

Tell the husband, you know about his indiscretions; and he should get his shit together... promise him you will be quiet for at least one year, and leave it at that. Any woman would appreciate this way of handling the situation at this time...

Neroxides said...

U are jst a friend to her, and nothing else, so let her find out herself...Finito

Anonymous said...

Mind your business, seems like u're idle and I would call u a bad friend, get your eyez off your friend's man cos if u don't got eyez on him how would u know he's cheating......

Anonymous said...

She clearly has no man. That is why she is idle enough to be finding out people's crap.

AYO said...

Babe, What if u mind your own business?.. Let's see d outcome.

Anonymous said...

Let her give birth to her baby, then tell her. You may want to reveal it to her anonymously, but she needs to know.

If she contracts HIV from her husband's cheating and later found out that you had information that could have helped her prevent it and you did not let her know, she may never forgive you and you may never be able to forgive yourself.

It's risky but if you care about your friend, empower her with the information she needs to protect herself.

Anonymous said...

Plss tell her,if you are ma frnds nd see sumtin dat is hurting me nd u dnt let me know you are evil ,tell her before it is too late

Anonymous said...

Let her find out herself

Anonymous said...

Re u a private investigator? I advise u face ur family if u re married bt if nt better find a way of hooking wit ur own man n stop poking ur nose in some1 else's family affairs. A word is enof 4 d wise

Victor Ekeleme said...

No dont

Anonymous said...

How will we know ure not the mistress???
~D great anonymous!

Anonymous said...

don't tell her ooh, that will be wahala for you!! don't be the bringer of bad news

funmiD said...


please just do yourself a great favor,stay out of the matter.Its none of your bizness.

Anonymous said...

If u are a true friend, u shud tell ur friend but do so in an anonymous way. Get a new sim, send an anonymous text and orchestrate events for her to catch her cheating husband in d act. Why I say so is BC am a medical Dr and just last month, I lost 3 patients to AIDS-faithful wives who faithfully stayed at home while their philandering husbands paid them back with HIV. There are worse diseases so if u love ur friend, lead her to find out but do so with wisdom (I.e. under cover)
Its for her safety

Anonymous said...

I AV NOT RECEIVE My LIB GIVEAWAY MONEY. Lemsworld@yahoo.com. Number 19

Sue said...

Don't tell d hubby oh, he'll lie against u or biff u forever or even harm u secretly, tell her anonymously with proof or lead her to where she would catch dem, either u use anonymous text or call or note but don't tell her now

glory imoloamen said...

Please don't tell her. Let her finds out her self

omolara akinola said...

Madam narrator pls mind your fucking bizness

onye nsogbu said...

Drink lipton and mind ya own business...better still, go and marry!

Anonymous said...

Miss Wealth? This sounds like you truly.

Anonymous said...

Rili can't bliv som of all dis comments here!! It isn't easy seein som1 u call a frnd or care abt fooled by som1..most pple callin ha home wreckers here r probably doin same n see it as no body's biz....my dear wait till she delivers n tell her d truth cos she deserv to knw.it wil b rili bad if she finds out n knw u kept it to ursef.or try n tell dier pastor or som1 u knw dey both respct n will listen to...mind u ladies not all men cheat

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