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Saturday, 8 March 2014

Dear LIB reader: I don't enjoy sex...what can I do?

From a female LIB reader
I am in my mid twenties and will be settling down soon. My problem is that I do not "enjoy sex". I do not feel any sexual pleasure when my guy penetrates. To me it feels like he is playing and wasting his time. But when he romances me I feel it and can even climax. All my life I have never felt any sensation during penetration. When I hear people talk about their experiences during sex and how they can go for many rounds I feel bad because I don't experience such. I have seen a gynaecologist and he said I am ok. But am worried because I might not be able to satisfy my spouse because when ever he notices that I am not enjoying the love making it turns him off. Please Is there any where I can get help from, are there other girls like me? I really want to experience what sexual pleasure is like and also save my future marriage. Thanks.

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Anonymous said...

Go for prayers or deliverance #bright bravo#

Jerry D'poronsi said...

You need Jesus.

~~Success Has No Limitation~~

Anonymous said...

dear lib i also av d same problem wat can i do pls

bonita bislam said...

Visit your gynacolist again and female friends.they'll offer you better advice

Anonymous said...

It happens to me too and haven't found solution to it, am jst hanging on wishing dat change will come.

Anonymous said...

Bayb u r not alone, I wåS $ circumcised when I wåS $ 8yrs old and hv never felt any pleasure during penetration,mostly pain and discomfort... have you asked if u were circumcised?

Rosita

Raina Sadiq said...

Sorry babe! I can't help you.. Never had sex before

mildy said...

Try Erovit IHP, it works wonder. Had the same issue but the supplement has helped a lot. I enjoy sex now more than ever

Anonymous said...

Bayb u r not alone, I wåS $ circumcised when I wåS $ 8yrs old and hv never felt any pleasure during penetration,mostly pain and discomfort... have you asked if u were circumcised?

Rosita

Anonymous said...

Bayb u r not alone, I wåS$ circumcised when I wåS$ 8yrs old and hv never felt any pleasure during penetration,mostly pain and discomfort... have you asked if u were circumcised?

Rosita

@edDREAMZ said...

God... Ur case is actually spiritual, yu need prayers and a very big one.... Seriously this is my first time hearing such a thing, is really awkward though....
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Raina Sadiq said...

 can't help you here..

Omo Oba said...

Hehehe!you re dead.Anyway you can com over to Hilton @ about 9pm 7th floor 749.

Obie Benjamin said...

Stop na. Must you be doing what you don't enjoy? Them dey force you?!

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Seems the problem is from you guy since u feel the pleasure during romance.
Its either your guys tool is not so good or he doesn't know how to handle it.
Basin how to make u cry but beg him not to stop.
Never too worry dear u can help him locate ur Gspot whenever u both mate.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

D said...

you obviously haven't given me. If after, then you'll be sure there's a problem

Anonymous said...

You are gay and in denial . This Nigeria, never admit to that. You can always pretend you are enjoying it.

Obie Benjamin said...

Stop na? Why doing what you don't enjoy. Them force you?

Anonymous said...

I will advice to open your mind and free your spirit whenever you wona have sex with him again... Enjoy him.

Anonymous said...

Perhaps he is roo small? Don't marry him. If u do you may cheat!

Anonymous said...

I have d same problem too,no solution for me yet.I think ur partner nids to help in improving that or mayb ur patner is not that wonderful in bed.

Obie Benjamin said...

Stop na? Why doing what you don't enjoy. Them force you?

Anonymous said...

what will the gynaecologist tell you before??? please go and see an endocrinologist, it could be a hormonal problem.

@edDREAMZ said...

Go find a guy like me that got big d****, lots of energy and can do like five styles other than the missionary and believe me ur life will never remain the same...... Yu will luv sex like no other BY FORCE.... Ok pay for my service nw...lolx..
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Anonymous said...

Yes there are girls like you. I am a typical example too. I derive no pleasure at all. I seriously don't know what I can do cos am really bothered abt d same fears you are having too.Instead of pleasure most times what I even feel is serious pains.

Anonymous said...

Sadly @op I'm in ur shoes,its really sad,and I have not been able to talk to anyone about it

Sunmola Oluwatosin said...

Only ladies like u can explain more..guys stay out frm this

Anonymous said...

Its like we re on same boat, ℓ̊ kno Ђ‎​øƜ U̶̲̥̅̊ feel. ℓ̊ was told it was due to circumcision, and †̥ђε̲̣̣̣̥ clitoris was cut off. ℓ̊ pray God gives U̶̲̥̅̊ †̥ђε̲̣̣̣̥ strenght to carry on. But ℓ̊ ve 4given Mγ̲̣̣̥‎​‎ parents cos it was done out O̶̷̩̥̊͡ƒ ignorance.

APHRODITE said...

What da hell is "When he romances me" Lwkmd! Foreplay is Foreplay! Romancing is sooo nt da word. Nd dia is absolutely nuffing wrong wit u, ur man is obviously nt doing it well, he shud take his time to Kiss, Suck, Fondle nd Finger u to da point of Climax BUT...he shud nt allow u CUM, he nids to make u crazy with lust to da point dat u will start begging 4 d "D" by da time u're dripping wet nd ur Clitoris is swollen nd ready to burst, u will pull him close by ursef nd force d penetration. Its all a matta of knowing ur partner dear nd bin open to him. *Sips moi Zobo*

Anonymous said...

Babe just take ur time ok,sex is nt somthing u shd just Av....1 very essential thing u need 2 do while avn sex is total concentratn and try 2 know the style dat wud make u enjoy sex...

naughty girl said...

My dear, u spoke ma mind, dis questn has been bothering me but my fiance told me i am d cause of it.. He said its as result of not concentrating on wat am doing dats y i dont enjoy it... He adviced me to put my mind during sex so i can enjoy it. He is yet to com bak to naija so i wil try out his advice... Maybe u try concentrating while havin sex

Obam Jester said...

JUST SEAM TO FEEL THE WAY U FEEL WEN IT IS ROMANCE TIME,DAT U ENJOY.

hi said...

Well, i use to hv this same problem, I do not enjoy sex before,but now I do enjoy it, when am the one on top of the man,and it must be on the chair,so u hv to try all style,definately u will knw the one u enjoy most.

Anonymous said...

U r not alone my dear. Personally, I feel sex is over rated & just try 2 act like u r having loads of fun. As long as u don't feel "bad" so he doesn't too

Anonymous said...

When he romances U??? Hahha. Someone pls help me understand what that means

Anonymous said...

Babe just take ur time ok,sex is nt somthing u shd just Av....1 very essential thing u need 2 do while avn sex is total concentratn and try 2 know the style dat wud make u enjoy sex...

Anonymous said...

Am having same problem and I don't knw wat to do too

Anonymous said...

Yes sweetie I'm like you oh and it's a big problem to me

Anonymous said...

I'm not crazy about penetration and I don't climax tru sex,I hav to play wiv my clit before I can reach orgasm.even if u hav d biggest and sweetest dick in the world and u bang me from now till tomo I won't cum,I wil go dry.I don't pretend to my boyfriend,he understands my body,he cums then makes me cum too,I luv cumin after he does cos my body gets too sensitive and I won't want him touching me again especially my nipples.

Valentine N Egbuna said...

My dear sister u havnt received de right hammering. Is he de only guy u have ever had sex with? Dat could have explained de reason behind dat better. But de best option is dis, since u said u enjoy romance, den tell ur spouse to romance and caress u more if possible wit foreplay b4 penetration. I assure u dat with all these combinations u will definitely enjoy penetration and climax more on ur way to heaven. Goodluck in your marriage.

Okelo Madukaife said...

If a gynaecologist says there is noting wrong, see a psychologist with your fiance

Ogunbo Emmanuel said...

My dear we don't call that one problem all you need to do is contact me and I will help u out with it...u don't need to see me in person or send me any money..just contact and I tell u what to do about it and ur problem will be sorted for once!!!

lucky chukz said...

If medically you're sound, maybe its just your mind set. Pray and work on your mind set

Anonymous said...

I have the same problem...penetration does nothing for me and am worried as well..i just go through it because of my partner but I really want to get the pleasures of sex every other normal lady seems to get.

Shoutozone said...

I cant say thr's anytin wrng wit u... But I'd jst advice u to alwys act as if u ar enjoyin nd feelin it while u ar avin sex so dat it wil @least help u secure ur relatnship. Wen ur spouse dosnt enjoy u sexually, den its a big threat on ur relatnshp

Anonymous said...

It happens to me too. I discovered something and it's been working for me. I always caress my clitoris while my man keeps jerking me. From there I feel the pleasure. I feel smhw too when people talks about rounds in sex. I still can't explain why I don't enjoy sex naturally. You can try my own method sha. Since we have the same problem.

Anonymous said...

Chai!wen he meet tapioka wey like sex and sabi do d tin eh, omo ur don finish nai be dat. D guy go gbes as in dust.

Anonymous said...

I can feel u,so sorry,I think u shld xplain to ur guy if he cld increase d time he spend on sex with u,u will feel it.a friend was suffering frm d same nd dt solves her problem.(boya won da abe fun e)

Anonymous said...

My dear am like u d only time I feel is wen my man suck mi aside dt notin.solutn is all I seek

Anonymous said...

my sista i have the same feelings too. i prefare fingering more than s**x i don't know why. i guess i need some help too

Anonymous said...

4 me hv neva had climax b4 wit my hubby...hmmmm

Anonymous said...

My dear, you aint alone. There's something called faking it! Try it with all the owwwwwwwww ouuuuuuuuuuu hummmmmmmmmms you know. PC

Anonymous said...

same here

Anonymous said...

I suggest you read "No more Sheets" by Juanita Bynum you would get your answer there! There could be many reasons that you don't climax and enjoy sex!!! If you are someone who has masturbated whilst you are single, you are used to satisfying yourself, so obviously it is going to be hard for any man to satisfy you, anc for you to enjoy sex!!! Secondly if you have been the victim of rape, which is a very traumatic experience, then it would quite difficult for you to enjoy sex, you need to see a counsellor, who would advice and help you heal!!! Or maybe you grew up in a household, where you were taught that sex is very dirty, messy and something you do with your husband alone, believe me, that can affect your sex life. So only you alone know why you don't enjoy or climax during coitus!!!Hope you can get help!!! And for those that would read my comment, and start talking rubbish, which is typical of some libers, get a life, and whatever you say to me, goes back to sender!!!whizman

Bravehart said...

Well, seems u would be perfect for the sister hood(nun).#winks. But like seriously u re not normal, maybe u need prayers#wetinisabi

****Brave****

Anonymous said...

I enjoy sex but I don't get satisfied

NICKI said...

I experience the same thing too.. Infact I'm better off without sex. Just pretend u r enjoying it and you'll be fine

ugochysom said...

u hv got to discus it wif him... encourage more forplay n less penetration... sure works

Anonymous said...

My dear,fast and pray!

Anonymous said...

i av d same probs tew...d doc said am fine as well...*sigh*...

Anonymous said...

girl ur not alone

Anonymous said...

U ar a lesbian

Anonymous said...

Yea I have the same problem I am in my early twenties.and I donot enjoy penetration. Only once that I hav really felt it. Maybe I have to find the rite person yet that can give it to me. My dear is not only u I pray u start enjoying it.

Anonymous said...

Seek for solution Here.

chinny baby said...

Have u talked to a medical psychologist?

Anonymous said...

Its nt a problem, I experienced dt too whn I strted makin luv, I strted enjoyin sex almost 2 years afta dt naw I always wnt my guy's penetration

Anonymous said...

My dear u are not alone in dis.before i first had sex, i thought sex was going to make me feel the way i do wen i wank if not better.but i was very disappointed after my first sexual experience.to cut the long story short,I've never had any satisfaction from penetration unless the guy does it in such a way dat his dick touches my clit.there's nothing wrong with u.it's quite unfortunate our clit happens to be outside the vagina,not inside

Anonymous said...

Yes o, there is definitely some1 like u, and DT is me. I don't enjoy it one bit. Am married with a sweet baby boy. I jst pretend through out and life goes on.

Anonymous said...

Its de same for me. Funny enuf av neva shared dis wt anyone. av bin married for five yrs wt 3kids. De gyneo i saw also said am fine. Its really frustratin.

Anonymous said...

Read the penis and other stories? LMFAO

Idris Buhari said...

May be she is doing it with the wrong person. Try me sweetheart and I will be on ur dp for the rest of your life. Its not a joke. We have seen many of your cases, the answer to ur problems are not far fetch. Try some1 else.

Anonymous said...

The penetration period is for the man to enjoy, you most def should enjoy by making sure your beau is still touching your boobs, clit if need be. You can touch it yourself. Read books and movies about love making

Anonymous said...

And I'm sure there are other many gurls like you out there with this problem who do not have know they have this problem because they wanna marry as virgins. *smh......Virginity is overrated

Eric Uroh said...

U don't need enjoy sex
At least dat ll keep u 4rm cheatin on ur husband.
Jst open ur legs 4 ur husband 2 enter, get pregnant n give birth 2 beautiful children.

Anonymous said...

Yeah! They're other girls like u....

Anonymous said...

I ve d same issue

Anonymous said...

Go and get a vibrator

Amaka irozuru said...

Mmm jst put ur mine when havin sex u wil enjoy it

Anonymous said...

You should try watching pornography, search for a category that would turn you on and try experimenting with your spouse. I used to have similar problem (still do) and sex was painful for me but after talking to a doctor in d uk, he suggested I try fantazising about somethingelse during sex and see if it's still the same. I can't tell you what my fantasy is, but you can find it through porn. I was shy at 1st but I got over it with time.

cutest-love cutest said...

Yes oh my dear am like u I always feel so too...but I think is normal.

Anonymous said...

hmmmmm eleyi kidi gaaaaan abeg if my yoruba is bd i'm sorry. #THAT AKWA IBOM BOY

Anonymous said...

Foreplay. Lots of it

Anonymous said...

Yeah there are girls like you...... To us, sex is a "chore" and romance is the ding dong.....!!!Am sorry I don't have the sexpertise to advise you how you can save your marriage, Steve wonders hv no business with driving cobhams in car#cheezyjayne

Anonymous said...

Go and see a better gynecologist or better a sexologist. Ask yourself, is my vagina tight to feel his hard penis. If not there is a problem and there are daily exercise every sexual active woman need to be doing. Just see a sex expert. Shikena


Omo oba

Anonymous said...

Get spanish fly..it will make u sensual

Anonymous said...

It could be spiritual. If you enjoys it in your dreams then you have to go for deliverance. Spiritual husband at work.

Anonymous said...

I also experience dat too but hv nt met with any doctor.. I will also advise and welcome people' opinion here too.

Anonymous said...

my dear.same as me oo.smtymes I feel der is smtin wrong wif me

Anonymous said...

¶s not a food my dear sister.

George D said...

Where u cn get help? Wen u get to grand hotel asaba send me an email Zumbaaaaa

Dee Tee said...

@lindaikeji, hmmm. Nawa ooo. It could be psychological or maybe she's rigid. I fink she needs to see a specialist in sex matters. Wish her all d best. #NewsBlist

Anonymous said...

all the people you met ain't good enough in sex. may be the are rough. to enjoy sex it has to be slowly but steady. am Rilly good at that. sister sex is sweet ooh. blv me.

Anonymous said...

Na waaa oooo..re u serious.d tin iz u'v gt 2av diz banana knwn az kokomicin..wa gba ko yo!..


Na mee BANGA LEE

@MeetdrealEvans said...

Come and see me, send me an email, trust me u go climax to ur maximum...

Anonymous said...

Girl..we have similar problem only difference is that mine doesn't even penetrate ,I'm scared of his jnr as v had sex just 1nce its 10years now but indulge in foreplay,I need encoragement to rellax n let him ride in..

Anonymous said...

dis is so serious dear. take am easy.






see what this woman does to get her income everyday.

Apple said...

See a doctor.

Anonymous said...

Yes am like that too,I don't enjoy sex didn't even know what orgasm was @ 23.But I think mine is cos of the horrible experience I had when I was still a little girl.

ebere obeta said...

Eyah! I dnt knw of anytin u cn do medically. But wat I cn say is dat wit time u'll come around. Like trying new styles of luv making. Be on top most of d time, dat is! dnt let him alone go tru all d stress of doing d jacking alone, Change positions, watch porn movie together. Jst try nd fine wats suits u. Little by little u'll start getting d pleasure u wat. Dnt go cheating on him o #smiling#

411 said...

You er not alone dis is happen 2 me to, till rt now am talking 2 u have never felt anything, I mean anything wen having sex, have been married 4 8years now, any time I make love with my husband I normally pretend, I don't hide any tin frm him but dis I keep 2my self, I don't do anytin about it, or ask ?, I tink me try 2 find a solution 2 it migth course sometin else, like may be I won't be able 2 hold myself. Is better 4me not 2 feel anytin than 2 turn 2 a dog. So good luck with urs

ebere obeta said...

Eyah! I dnt knw of anytin u cn do medically. But wat I cn say is dat wit time u'll come around. Like trying new styles of luv making. Be on top most of d time, dat is! dnt let him alone go tru all d stress of doing d jacking alone, Change positions, watch porn movie together. Jst try nd fine wats suits u. Little by little u'll start getting d pleasure u wat. Dnt go cheating on him o #smiling#

Anonymous said...

Use the tip of your hair brush baby girl... You will come again and again... It will always be there for you darling..

Mayowa

Anonymous said...

I am like u. Here is my secret it myt help u. I play lil n allow my hubby reach his climax den we continue playinq n I reach myn too. B4 naw we discussed it n he understood so I don't hv dat prob any more.

Anonymous said...

Yes my dear...i have had same issue all my life ive never climaxd during penetration buh can wen touched or l*cked..am married now,ive tot my hubby how to mk me climax first before he penetrates...i tot it was a problem buh its not..thats how God created us...

Anonymous said...

I don't enjoy sex too. Maybe its because I was circumcised, I av never experienced vagina orgasm. only when my clitoris is thoroughly sucked that's when I do cum and it takes time too. My dear its so frustrating. Lilian.

Anonymous said...

Pretend ur enjoying it but let him know and understand the part you enjoy more, I did not say u shld let him ur pretending to enjoy it wen he penetrates, dat shld be ur secret.

Anonymous said...

Yes am also like you, not all girls enjoy sex...some just even pretend to enjoy it.

Anonymous said...

I never get wet or Cum as they call it... but enjoy foreplay than the act of Sex itself. is this also a problem?

Anonymous said...

Pretend ur enjoying it but let him know and understand the part you enjoy more, I did not say u shld let him ur pretending to enjoy it wen he penetrates, dat shld be ur secret.

Anonymous said...

Pretend ur enjoying it but let him know and understand the part you enjoy more, I did not say u shld let him ur pretending to enjoy it wen he penetrates, dat shld be ur secret.

Anonymous said...

y dear u r not alone. It happens 2 odas too. Maybe ur hubby shud b fondling u as he's penetrating dat way u enjoy it more. Try n talk 2 him abt it cos nt enjoying it makes dem feel like dey r nt gud enuf 4 u.

D J STELCH said...

Ma Dear, you've spoken well. I can't say anything, i'll allow Linda Give Her Sincere Advice!!

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Anonymous said...

This is a very common problem so don't be worried or embarrassed. A lot of women don't enjoy penetration, but luckily sex is about much more than that. Your best bet is to talk with your spouse. The good news is you do enjoy romance and foreplay.

Make a deal where you both work to give each other what you need to orgasm. It may mean you take turns or you find a way to incorporate both at the same time. For example, figure out where you love him to touch you or kiss you, and have him do that while penetrating so you both enjoy it.

Trust me, as much as he loves you, all he's concerned about is that he rocks your world. Just show him how he can do that.

Another thought is you may just have been doing it wrong. It's common. Women who don't enjoy penetration are usually stuck doing it in the wrong positions. Try getting on top. Even if you don't come, the sensations will be totally different and way more enjoyable. Also try role-playing, toys, blind folds etc. There's a host of solutions for women just like yourself.

Whatever you do, don't internalize, don't feel like a failure and don't feel like a freak. It's normal and solvable. Good luck!!

Opelicious Morgann said...

Were you circumcised? For you to feel it when your partner romances you shows you are not a log of wood. Is your partner the first and only man you've been with?

There are so many questions that needs answering but my guess is: Your partner has a SMALL pen*s. Probably it's so darn small, you cannot feel a thing. Try to relax and have him do certain positions that can make his pen*s rub your g-spot and as well as touch your clitoris in the process.

Hope that helps. Sorry, dear.

Anonymous said...

Mine is even worse. Maybe its because I was circumcised. I have never experienced vagina orgasm unless when my clitoris is properly sucked. Its so frustrating my dear. Lilian.

Anonymous said...

My dear,l had this same problem too in my mid twenties,but it change during my fist pregnace.I think my husband love me that why he went ahead with d marriage.Make sure u have regular sex.

Anonymous said...

Buy a vibrator and use it whilst your man penetrates. More pleasure and u wont get enough.

Sweet Mary ...@mzz_mary1 said...

Pretend to enjoy

Anonymous said...

Lol.......u neva meet oganigwe dick, dats y. U won't have any option dan 2 beg 4 more wen d dick go don ransack ur toto lyk hell........lmao

Anonymous said...

U need a good guy that can fuck you.
Tell ur bf to go and read 50 shades of grey and learn. Also,
I know one Benjamin guy, he has a long cock and hez so good at foreplay.
Hez a biker.
Contact him. Goodluck.

Anonymous said...

Lmao @Oganigwe

Vivian said...

Hmmm.. Very strange bt u can't do anything again since uve seen a doctor... Jst pretend like u enjoying it.

Anonymous said...

sorry see a gyneacolgist or maybe youre really a lesbian in the closet.

Anonymous said...

Lol.....so u rememba dat dick 4 dat movie? @Oganigwe........lmao.....naija sha, una no dey 4get sumtin? Hahahhahahaha

Anonymous said...

We both share dsame problem I don't enjoy sex iis usually painful Linda pls post my comment am in my early 20s tho

Anonymous said...

Ure okay joor, he shd give u head b4 penetration. Ur climax zone is ur clit.
~D great anonymous!

Anonymous said...

I ALWAYS SAY THAT SEX IS OVERLY OVERRATED.

IT IS THE ONE THING THAT PEOPLE CONSTANTLY LIE ABOUT......THEY JUST CANT HELP IT. I FELT THE SAME WAY AS YOU WHEN I FRIST EXPERIENCED SEX, I JUST DIDNT UNDERSTAND WHAT THE FUSS WAS ALL ABOUT. EVENTUALLY, I HAD TO FIND OUT WHAT WORKS FOR ME BY TRYING DIFFERENT THINGS.

HONEY, SEXUALLY PENETRATION DOESNT AROUSE MOST WOMEN........BUT WE WOMEN JUST LIE ABOUT IT. MOST WOMEN ENJOY FOR-PLAY AND SEXUAL STIMULATION AND NOT THE ACTUAL SEXUAL PENETRATION.....FACT.

TALK TO YOUR PARTNER AND EXPERIMENT ALOT. WHAT WORKS FOR ONE PERSON MIGHT NOT WORK FOR THE NEXT.

PERSONALLY, THE ONLY TIMES I ENJOY SEXUAL PENETRATION IS WHEN MY PARTNER STIMULATES ME WITH FOR-PLAY AND THEN CONTINUE WITH SLOW AND INTENSIVE PENETRATION (SOMEWHAT LIKE A MASSAGE AND NOT THE HARD CORE BANG-BANG) ....SORRY LINDA THIS IS X-RATED.

TALK TO YOUR PARTNER AND EXPERIMENT, PEOPLE LIE WHEN IT COMES TO SEX.....EXTREMELY. FIND OUT WHAT WORKS FOR YOU AND DONT TRY TO LIVE UP TO WHAT ANYBODY SAYS BECAUSE THEY LIE LIE LIE

ALSO TRY DIFFERENT POSITIONS, JUST EXPERIMENT. IF YOU ENJOY FOR-PLAY, ENCOURAGE YOUR PATNER TO STIMULATE YOU DURING PENETRATION. MAYBE HE CAN STOP FREQUENTLY AND EXPLORE YOUR BODY. THAT WAY, BOTH OF YOU WILL ENJOY IT MORE.

NOT EVERY WOMEN REACHES CLIMAX DURING SEXUAL PENETRATION......FACT. SOME WOMEN HAVE NEVER EXPERIENCED CLIMAX BEFORE........FACT. WHILE SOME WOMEN REACHES CLIMAX DURING FOR PLAY AND STIMULATION. PERSONALLY I ONLY REACH CLIMAX DURING FOR-PLAY (CLITORIS STIMULATION....NOTHING ELSE WORKS FOR ME). SO MY DEAR, SEX IS KINDA LIKE EXPLORING. TRY NEW THINGS.....BUT ONLY THINGS YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH. IT IS ALSO NICE IF YOU HAVE A LEVEL-HEADED PARTNER/HUSBAND WHO IS HAPPY AND WILLING TO SATISFY HIS WOMAN WITH PATIENTS. IF HE REWARDS YOU WITH SITUATION, REWARD HIM WITH PENETRATION.....GIVE AND TAKE, VISA-VERSA.

KEEP AT IT DEAR......

FROM OPK

Anonymous said...

Get a dildo/ vibrator and when you've seen how you can climax by urself,ull be able to explain to your spouse.

Anonymous said...

This is exactly for me,Thanks Linda,I feel the same too n I also get scared of d future, my husband

damilola fambegbe said...

Go see a doctor

Francis Okoduwa said...

An advice to the male folks be sure to taste the suya before you pay for it eventually .My advice to her pls get help also tell ur spouse ur problem now be truthful to him so u both can find a solution if nt ur marriage won't last.

Ella..!! said...

Ask your mum, u were prolly circumcised.

Anonymous said...

Maybe u were circumcised..I know who you are..ur name starts with a T

ibezim echezona MC jkcyno said...

ℓ̊ hope u weren't mistakenly circumcised ?

Ella..!! said...

Or he doesn't do it well.

Amarachukwu. said...

#just passing#

chemmywalata walata said...

U are not emotionally connected to the booty call I bet u once u are connected to dat sexual urge u will feel it deep down okay just be in tha mood dnt take ur mind away, think about ur man while having sex u will fantasize

kylie said...

Mydear,me too although there v bin a few times i felt a sensation. Infact there wz dis one guy dat i rili did enjoy it with. I v never had an orgasm either, altho i get clitoral orgasm wn i pleasure myself. I am 25. Right now i am not sexualy active but i hope to communicate n let d person i choose to make love with someday know that d clitoris is where my sensation comes from. So many girls cannot get orgasm by just penetration-u v to work the clitoris as well. I enjoy romance a lot n i satisfy...i dont just get satisfied myself n my ex wouldnt even know bcz i faked it. but i want to feel and enjoy sex n im really hoping i meet someone that can make me feel dose tins bcz i v felt it in d past so like my doc.would say,it is in me somewhere.

Anonymous said...

Watch porn it might help.u can go to ds porn website.www.xvideos.com.I had ds same issue bt d site helped me.cux my marriage was about to collapse.also visit pharmacy shops that sell sex stimulating tea.

Anonymous said...

Dear poster, I totally understand what you are going through. I am in a similar position....Penetration is a nightmare, I feel tortured during sex. I will be getting married in a few months and I am worried. In my case, I was diagnosed with endometriosis and painful sex is associated with it. I can only climax on foreplay...I will give anything enjoy full penetration

Anonymous said...

If d medical says U̶̲̥̅̊ hav N̩̥✽̤̥̣̣̣ problem, then U̶̲̥̅̊ need †̥ go spiritually "prayer"

uwadiae igbinomwanhia said...

Sorry to say where u dis virgin,badly dat's usually d cause of this experience or u got raped if any of this happen then it's a mind thing and u need help

Anonymous said...

Dear poster, I totally understand what you are going through. I am in a similar position....Penetration is a nightmare, I feel tortured during sex. I will be getting married in a few months and I am worried. In my case, I was diagnosed with endometriosis and painful sex is associated with it. I can only climax on foreplay...I will give anything to enjoy full penetration

mama said...

My dear, that's tough ooo. How can u not enjoy see. Am actually wanting more each time n wishing my hubby will indulge my extra craving soon. My advice would be u see a psychologist or u try different styles n see which excites u.

evalsam said...

Am sure there are alot of girls like u out der... mayb it's ur mind? or mayb u just havnt found d man dat ll make ur toes curl

Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

Thank you!! I feel ur pain my dear, I'm ok after foreplay. sometimes I have to quickly masturbate wit a video n Climax b4 he comes in....but I think he knows tho *thinking*. like y do I evn bother going into a relationship.....Evn wen i tell him wer to touch, his hand is just too strong abeg,smh, but I just cnt leave him, he tries so hard 2 please me, dat attitude I like:) BUT,wait..... I still think ders hope tho, I had dis "fling" with Dis guy a while back n DAYUMMM!! he made me think ders still hope 4 women like us....so, I just think it depends on d guy, #okbye

Anonymous said...

Are u bisexual ??

Anonymous said...

Dunno if I'm in d right position to give an advice cos I'm yet to have sex but if u say u enjoy all d plenty activity b4 penetration den ur case isn't so bad + ur doc says u're ok. See a counsellor, Read books, pray about it... Jst try to make ur partner happy so he doesn't get frustrated and go after other girls

NMA said...

Ur mind is probably not dia dats y u aint enjoying sex,give in ur all,be there,don't tink of anytin ,always tink ur spouse is cool,sweet sexy,u'll se a change

Anonymous said...

My dear u re not alone,but try getting high on alcohol n see if u will njoy it.bcos dats d only way it works 4 me.

Anonymous said...

Seriously I don't comment on lib even tho I read it a lot, but I want to think dis is a joke.. If for any reason u serious please don't go into that boundage called marriage cos I see u out in no time no disrespect please. His selfish if u say he turns him off a man who cares will put u first. I never use to enjoy sex but my husband made me do so and tot me most of d things I knw today. To say he turns him off am very upset cos he doesn't love u. Please d bible made it clear ur duty is to. Respect. Him while his is to love u he doesn't dem sorry u r wasting ur time. So back off cheers.

Anonymous said...

Read "The Act of Marriage" by Tim Lahaye. That might help.

Ella..!! said...

Ask your mum, u were prolly circumcised.

Anonymous said...

Hv u eva bin molested?lyk wen u were young?cos m jus lyk u.

Anonymous said...

nope I enjoy my man penetrating me more than anytin....sorry cant help u, on to d next post.

Chuks Ogamba said...

Dis is what u get for indulging in d lesbian act.
Ur past sexual life/history holds d solution 2 ur problem. 4 now, pretend 2 enjoy it (penetration) so as 2 encourage him & neva feel shy 2 tell him ur soft spots like romancing/caressing. Also engage him in a blow jobs 2 make up for ur problem. Penetration is important 4 procreation & can't b compromised.

Anonymous said...

It not u ooooo, there are so many ladies that feel same too

IRENEZUELA said...

This was me 3 years ago. I never enjoyed penetration and to me I just thought only guys were suppose to enjoy sex. I also said this prayer because i was very worried. One thing for sure is communication, u have to talk to ur partner and start by doing what you enjoy the most. The older we get as females, the higher our sexual desires.

IRENEZUELA said...

This was me 3 years ago. I never enjoyed penetration and to me I just thought only guys were suppose to enjoy sex. I also said this prayer because i was very worried. One thing for sure is communication, u have to talk to ur partner and start by doing what you enjoy the most. The older we get as females, the higher our sexual desires.

Anonymous said...

Nne u need deliverance

Anonymous said...

I hv d same problem u just hv to fake ur enjoyin it as far as he satisfies u

Debbie Chelsea said...

Since u feel him more wen u romance him,den Wen avin sex with him,try n b Romancin him alone side with d ♡ making,u myt feel sumtin n enjoy d ♡ makin well

Anonymous said...

its like u're a lesbian.....

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dat girl said...

It's psychological, u shud see a therapist. Wait do we have therapists in nig self? Sha u shud speak to a professional.

Anonymous said...

Glad I've got someone like me. I'm totally fine wiv the romance. Once he's in I feel like I'm being "pounded". It also takes a long time to climax. I jst put up wiv the whole session so he can climax but I rarely do.

Chinenye Iloegbunem said...

Sure there r others like. Jst try and relax during sex and stop thinking, maybe u will feel it esp if u r married and av nothing to worry abt.

Anonymous said...

My dear,we are init together.Exact story as mine.During love making,i even frown my face.I pls him to displs myself most times.I just want him to come but I don't get to enjoy it.I even read kama sutra sometimes to see if that would help,still no change.I fake moans cos it helps him come quick and he likes it.Seeing his arousal alone makes me horny but when he inserts, I don't feel anything.dont know what to do.

Anonymous said...

I have a friend dat complain abt same tin!!*confuse*

Anonymous said...

Last to comment! First, relax your mind and luv d person u're wit. Secondly,practice kegel during the process. You'll thank me l8r

bibi said...

I ve same problem. Will need help too

Anonymous said...

I hope it is okay to be a little explicit here. It is a good thing you still enjoy foreplay and your problem is just with actual intercourse. Explain this to your partner. Let him still touch you in those sensitive places while inside you, during intercourse, he can take breaks and fondle those places that "make you climax". There are certain sex positions that make it easier for your partner to touch you during penetration. You can learn to enjoy it, just research, practice, explore and get your mind off "I don't enjoy intercourse"

Anonymous said...

Kama sutra should fix that, get a dvd. If it doesn't work then it's your partner that is the problem, change em. *

ogunade tobi said...

just be relaxed

Anonymous said...

Kama sutra should fix that, get a dvd. If it doesn't work then it's your partner that is the problem, change em. *

OGUNDIMU ADEKOYEJO said...

Keep your self woman, Only God can give absolute satisfaction between couples only when you are both married and not premarital sex. Dont start stealing what eventually you will get enough dose and pleasures after you marry.let us keep ourselves chaste and pure, avoiding all defilement and compromise. Sex is worth waiting for. God help us.

Xtima said...

I'm actually good in handling such cases. Your guy ain't doing it right.. Best believe !!!

Anonymous said...

Maybe, you can try having sex with a female. You may discover something interesting about yourself. Just give it a thought.

The Beauty of Life said...

where you ever circumcised? that usually make a female have sexual pleasure. but extensive foreplay can help. you and your partner should have oral sex lots of it before the actual thing. hope that helps

Swaggs isimemen said...

I'll advise u 2 pray over it, 7 days dry fasting nd prayer, pray against spiritual husband with faith

Swaggs isimemen said...

I'll advise u 2 pray over it, 7 days dry fasting nd prayer, pray against spiritual husband with faith

AnnMarie said...

yes there are so many girls like you. maybe he isnt doing it the right way

Swaggs isimemen said...

I'll advise u 2 pray over it, 7 days dry fasting nd prayer 6-6, pray against spiritual husband with faith

Anonymous said...

Its not normal per se if u don't derive any pleasure during sex but u can work urself out of dat situation cos sex is a beatiful thing and is meant to be enjoyed so u have to position ur mind to start liking it cos sexual pleasures are more of immaginative than real,so for u to enjoy it, u have to accept it first &always want,only then shall u see d magic.Enjoy

Anonymous said...

Put ur mind and make sure you are wet before penetration forget about real life when he's thrusting and make ıt often especially wen Ʊ are ovulating ıt elicit ur arousal more and moreso you might be circumcise cos I hear gurls dat dnt have their clitoris don't enjoy sex, but if Ʊ aint then always put ur mind and best in ıt Ʊ can even discuss ıt wiv ur spouse if he's cool.

Anonymous said...

U re ok,I used to feel dat same way until I met my husband n now I enjoy every bit of it,I think the problem is frm ur guy, he is not giving it to u the way he should. Linda if u like make I luk 4 my comment or use am take do ofe olubo.

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm , Na over runz cause am , no remedy !##Laughing@u##

Anonymous said...

i've the same problem pls help us. Am getting married next month. i enjoy foreplay a lot but i don't enjoy it wen my man penetrate

Anonymous said...

My dear u are not alone o, a lot of women, me for example do not enjoy penetration, women are wired to enjoy romantic foreplay more than penetration. Penetration is for men's pleasure mostly but sadly, only few men understand this, bcos they use the pleasure they derive to measure wat women should feel, but it's so not same. If he is the kind of guy that cares to give u a head or touch ur G-spot till u climax and then penetrate in order to satisfy himself, u r lucky and that's wat u need. So tell him how u want it, it's ur right. And yes, u are perfectly normal! Goodluck.

e bonto said...

My dear,it's just a psychology problem,always focus ur mind and assume a pleasure riding trip while having sex with ur Guy. No medication can solve ur sexual problems.

Anonymous said...

Me dear im like you. Dont enjoy it at all n im about to get married. I n my man csn go months without. I dont know hw long he can take it. I need similar help

Peter Ogunnubi said...

Linda, many women suffer from this psychosexual problems ranging from frigidity,anogasmic syndrome, viginismus etc, I'm glad †ђξ lady spoke out. It is a psychological issue that requires psychologist intervention, no matter how you see a gynaecologists, they will always say nothing is wrong. I'm a psychologist/mental health physician i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ LUTH. She can add me on M̶̲̅Ɣ BBpin 2694ac7e or e-mail:petersoluseun@yahoo.com. I will try to be of help. Dr Peter.Thank you.

Anonymous said...

Linda is this you? Cos I hear u don't enjoy sex.

Anonymous said...

Spiritually see a cele pastor

Anonymous said...

It happens. Evn me too. Bt d gud part is jst realising itz a problem. Mayb u shuld confide in him. Tell him u nid his hlp. If he luvs u, he'd understand n u 2 can wrk sumtyn out.

Anonymous said...

I just feel like u dnt relax ur mind during the love making... My ex galfrnd was lyk u wen we strtd dating bt aft sumtin she strtd enjoyin it more. Anoda prblm culd be mayb ur boo dnt sex u wella..nd tell him(ur boo) 2 careless u during d process(sex).



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tosin ajayi said...

Seems u have a different sexual orientation from what women naturally have. U should see a sex therapist. It's something that can be fixed. And also talk to your partner about it, cos u may be a lesbian and u may not know. Wish u luck

tosin ajayi said...

You may have a different sexual orientation from other women. There is nothing wrong with that. It's advisable to see a sex therapist and also discuss with ur partner. From all indication, u may be a lesbian. Best of luck

Anonymous said...

Tot i was d only one o... It happens 2 me also. Pls is thr a solution 2 dis problem?

Anonymous said...

It could b a spiritual problem..seek help 4rm professional counselors n gynecologists,nt LIBers

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