Dear LIB reader: I don't enjoy sex...what can I do?
From a female LIB reader
I am in my mid twenties and will be settling down soon. My problem is
that I do not "enjoy sex". I do not feel any sexual pleasure when my guy
penetrates. To me it feels like he is playing and wasting his time. But
when he romances me I feel it and can even climax. All my life I have
never felt any sensation during penetration. When I hear people talk
about their experiences during sex and how they can go for many rounds I
feel bad because I don't experience such. I have seen a gynaecologist
and he said I am ok. But am worried because I might not be able to
satisfy my spouse because when ever he notices that I am not enjoying
the love making it turns him off. Please Is there any where I can get
help from, are there other girls like me? I really want to experience
what sexual pleasure is like and also save my future marriage. Thanks.
Mtscheew! Wat wouldn't happen to u, wen God said don't fornicate u were there openin ur legs to guys for pleasure ba, stupid ! Dats d price u pay for fornicatin. Pleasure ma ass! U're on ur own o!
Try staying ontop whenever you are having sex. My ex gf had the same issue until I started making her stay ontop while doing the driving then all hell was let loose. Just stay ontop ur man while wriggling ur waist and f**cking him at d same time. Position urself/pussy the way you want and make sure his dick touches ur viginal walls while looking for the right sensational position. You must surely get a perfect position that match ur profile and make u enjoy sex with him. Sex instructor 112. Thank me now for the lecture,not later.
What you are experiencing is not uncommon. Most organsms women claim to experience are fake. The truth is over 80percent of women in ur age range experience organsms same way u do. Most women begin to climax thru penetration from their 30's. Its nothing to worry abt. D main pleasure point for most women is d clitoris. Get ur man to hit it while he penetrates u wld notice a difference. Discuss it with ur man so that he is aware and attends to you well in Dat regard. Nothing is wrong wit u
Your gynecologist wasn't entirely correct. I believe you have a medical condition that can be managed. You need to see a therapist who can advice you on how to get the best out of your libido. Its good you noticed on time.
Am a guy so I shouldn't knw D cause or a lasting solution to it, but all I knw is that you are not the only one going through such experience, its common wit some ladies out dia.
My dear indeed there are girls like you, I am expressing d same tin and I am hardly ever wet. No matter how much I love my bf n want to satisfy his want. I need help too.. Linda pls post my comment
It's natural to feel that way my dear,it's d way some clitoris' are.like mine for instance,I enjoy foreplay but when it comes to penetration,I don't feel nada,there's nothing we can do about but to try n enjoy the ones we can n let our partners know it's no one's fault
My dear it's a mind thing. You have to just put yourself in that state of mind and think of things that turn you on. Then you'll enjoy it. Besides 85% of people lie about their sex life and all the pleasures they say they get from it.
Have been married over a year and i till dont enjoy sex at all,my husband gives me a BJ almost everytime i once in 20times enjoy the BJ. but my organsms only last 20seconds,my husband understands so i make sure i ask him if he is enjoying it so we dont be a loser in both sides. Examine your problem with him so he can try carry you along.
I was once a lesbian cos I didn't hav any man in my life to satisfy my sexual urge. So I restored to lesbianisim. Little did I know it has its own consequences. Wen I met my spouse, I realized dat I was no longer interested in penetration.it almost runied my life but prayerd my way out of it. God delivered me n I hav vowed never to practise lesbianism again.
Maybe his dick is TOO small and your pussy is TOO wide....lol....you are a lesbian! Travel out of the country or get medical and spiritual attention...14 years no be beans
With my ex, who was my first, I used to go dryall the time and jjust pray for him to climax; no matter how excited I was before the act. However, with my new partner, I discovered that what made me go dry and irritated all the time was the condom! I found out rather late that latex rubs me the wrong way and caused me to go dry and sore; thus every penetration then was a nightmare. If you are using condoms all the time, calculate your safe days and experiment without one. Like me, your solution might be something as easy. Sex is nice. I enjoy it now and you should keep searching for answers till you find your solutions. Cheers, sister!
I believe it has a lot to do with a lot of factors like the individual in question, age etc. When I was in my 20s, I never enjoyed sex except foreplay, infact I never came with sex. Now I'm in my early 30s and I enjoy every bit of it now. Infact it gets better. Then I thought I had a problem. Now I know better. Don't let anyone make you feel bad and tell you there's something wrong with you. Like your gynae rightly said, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. With time, you'll get to love it. Just have an open mind and enjoy it as it's meant to be enjoyed.
Fake it. Just like most women. Sometimes it is a question of matching. You have to find your perfect match. At times the man may be too small for the girl, or too big for the girl. In this case it may hurt. It is hard to find the right mix. That is the problem in most cases. If u find the right match, hold on to him.
The fact is very few women get pleasure from penetration. Google it. U can get pleasure from clitoral stimulation from your partner. But please try saving yourself till marriage girl!!! U R NOT EVEN GETTING PLEASURE yet u r committing fornication
I read an article that suggested that Anxiety could affect your sexual orientation. If you're too worried about whether you're going to enjoy it or not or if your partner will notice that you're not enjoying it, it will affect you. All you need to do is relax.
My dear, there is nothing wrong with you. I also don't climax or get an orgasim through penitration, I also don't feel anything except the thrusting. But foreplay does it for me. When my man goes down on me that's the best thing. Many women are like this and it's normal... Just try to go with the flow and play along don't show your lack of interest just play along.
It's because you haven't start having orgasm yet, by the time you do, trust me, you will enjoy sex more than any thing...first of all, try and identify what can make you have orgasm and that will lead you to heaven...Hahahaha
Why won't people ask questions if they don't know sometin. Y blame difference on evil spirits? Kai! 4 ur Info so many women do not enjoy 4k! Dey dnt enjoy penetration. If a girl must orgasm u hav 2 eida b touching her nipples or her clit. Inshort research has shown that more than half of the world's women don't orgasm till dey die. So pls it's nt awkward. Young lady, learn to tell ur man to touch ur clit yl he is penetrating. U 2 learn 2 b active, moving and whine your waist. Stay ontop and bang him n let ur clit b touchin d down of his Dick side. Also use ur imagination. Imagine dat it is so sweet. My last tip: Tighten ur pussy muscles yl he is penetratin. It Kald Kegel. #LindaPleasePostnHelpDisYoungLady. 4giv d vulgarity. It's necessary.
You are so right! Used to date this wide-hipped girl back in naija who complained of same thing. I'm above average in the endowment dept, so I was puzzled. One day while making out I ended up fisting her and she went wild, screamed the place down. I concluded you must be hung like a horse for her to get vaginal satisfaction.
I can't believe am not that abnormal. I have never enjoyed penetration from day1. Took my husband almost 6 months to penetrate(i married as a virgin) when my husband fingers me I cum but besides that nada. Am so tired of it. Tots of sec depresses me. Mshew o ga ooooo. Sex is over rated ojare
Dear poster, I suggest to explore your "body parts" to known what stimulates you, if any. Then you known how and what to tel your partner when talking about it. Remember to compliment him and not give him an impression that he can't "perform". Try different and new things they u r comfortable with. I have read that sex gets better with age, mainly Cuz mature women are more direct and vocal about what they want and how they want it. Read a lil about the female reproductive system, jus to be sure u have all parts fully intact to rule out circumcision. If there is pain, it could be due to dryness, and there are lubricants like ky jelly etc, DAT u can use. Der r even healthy foods dat boost sexual activity ish & al dat.Your partner can only meet u half way in helping you find a solution. Sex is a physiological need, and when not satisfied, deer is fear, worry, low esteem '& all that. Most women duno any tin abt d big 'O' so u r not alone. Good luck.......MS.
I got married few months ago and i had the same problem but i came to realize that its psychological, you have to free your mind, tell urself you want to enjoy this and stop being afraid and you will enjoy it.
@ anony 5:58 ur spot on, dear poster. Hv u been molested in ur child mood? Dat's jst d prblm wit dis type of stuff. (My ex galfrnd hv d same prblm lyk u nd she was molested @ a little aga)
I got married few months ago and i had the same problem but i came to realize that its psychological, you have to free your mind, tell urself you want to enjoy this and stop being afraid and you will enjoy it.
The problem is not wit u women, d problem is wit ur men cos they're inpatient. They think it's all bout havin a big dick n doin d wham bang. It's not d man's xperience that helps a woman cum but his skill and it's not a one-off skill that d man learns once n uses always na, it'll get boring. Every time, a new skill. Women stop beating urselves up bout it, beat ur men up instead cos they're to blame. The nxt time u gon make love, let ur man kno he's gonna have u to himself all nite n u not running away so he shud take his time to get u to ur destination. ..dnt just have sex dear, MAKE LOVE.
I found the solution to my own the day I decided to make love to my hus (as in f**k him the way I wanted him to f**k me) it wasn't easy, I wasn't bold or adventurous but I just tried reverse physiology and it worked for me. I took charge that day, instead of allowing him to lead with the foreplay, I did to him all those things I wanted him to do to me, I even threatened to tie his hands if he touched me, and instead of allowing him penetrate I took him in,and rode him and it was wonderful I tell u, it also marked a shift in our sex life. U have to find urself first, know what the prob is. Is it that u don't enjoy sex atall or u don't enjoy it with ur man or u r not well lubricated thereby causing pain during penetration or u believe u r committing sin? Me I discovered that my problem is I love being the one to give the most pleasure, yes, if I lie on my back during foreplay it won't turn me on but if I do oral and think of it that am the captain then, BAMM! It's all a matter of mind set
So her problem would no longer be solved by prayers but your dick and the number of styles you can perform? The hypocrisy of the Nigerian Christian is baffling! Smh
90% of women don't orgasm from penetrative sex. It takes a matured man to understand this fact. Try stimulating your clit during sex, be on top during sex so you can grind your clit against him, use a vibrator. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
There is NOTHING wrong with you. Majority of women do not climax by penetration, but only by clitoris stimulation. Tell your spouse to give you a blow job and suck your breast too. Also, you can try being on top in order to be able to set the pace & stimulate your clitoris with his dick.
from a female lib reader i think linda is cooking jollof stories 4 us 2 read. i find d stories hard to believe. i know we visit the blog to get entertained but i feel linda shud spice these stories up once once. some sex stories wont be bad, get graphic baby
i was once in your position…i will get horny but never enjoyed the sex…you probably have no connection with your partner…make him go down on you…you may not like d*ck much. (you don't enjoy his sex or you haven't discovered what you like most).
i didn't know d*ck was so heavenly until i stopped being a good girl and met a guy that gave me diabetes he's d*ck was so good it was almost sickening and tongue action dannng. i couldn't HUSBAND him he was too bush for me…but he put in the work! *you shud see my face*lol
This is not a joke, thanks linda for posting this, kudos to all the beautiful, understanding ladies out there. Men will not understand cos they are the most that enjoy sex, if you a lady and u do enjoy well done.Most women don't enjoy penetration. But the area we do enjoy tell your hubby to concentrate more on it. With time we will get use to it. Goodluck Ladies.
I am also I'm the condition oh and due to the whole non enjoyable sex I broke up wit my Bf and stpoped having sex 4more than 2yrs . Now I really need a Bf nd A Sex life but am scared of the boring sex..... Pls I need help
Is there an urge to talk without reasoning,she clearly stated she is worried for future reference and clearly sex matters when you marry,why not shut up if don't have something to say,why say something stupid.must we always talk??? So annoying
I used to have the same problem,but then I figured out "woman on top" position,it helps u control how and where you want the "D" to go,and since den sex has been wonderful...
Tell your man to go down on you first before penetration or ride on your man, this will allow you to control the tempo(just like when you are masturbating with a dildo). You can also imagine other sexual fantasies while at it or you can use adult movies during sex.
I think first and foremost uve gotta identify ur REAL sexuality. Keep in mind that there are Asexual people who don't like sex at all. They can be hopelessly romantic but the idea of sexual intercourse repulses them. Also have u ever found a woman sexually appealing? Lastly, a good number of nigerian men are really terrible in bed, they grab u, deposit thier siliva in ur mouth, suck ur ' tenders' like their life depends on it, then jump straight to humping, they don't take their time to tease, they hardly talk dirty, or give favours. worse still, they never study how the gurl responds to their touch, most of them do not care (them just wan do) and dont even get me started on their personal hygiene. So uve got lots of things u need to consider. Maybe its just ur man tht turns u off...maybe its most men or hell, all men. My advice: Uve gotta take a break from ur crappy sex life and explore urself n sexuality, only then can u discover what n who gets u off! Life without orgasm is no life at all (unless ure asexual) *shit dis babe don sleep* #theregoesmyweekend
Hello... I think you were circumcised. Same thing with my fiance but we found a way around it. Before we have sex, I tell her how much I love and adore her. Then I have a lube by my side cos she doesn't get wet to ease d pain and voila ... There's your solution
Hello... I think you were circumcised. Same thing with my fiance but we found a way around it. Before we have sex, I tell her how much I love and adore her. Then I have a lube by my side cos she doesn't get wet to ease d pain and voila ... There's your solution
@Anonymous 4:04 Exactly my sex life My husband understands that I can never cum while f**king me so he enjoys himself and later plays with my clitoris, that's when I cum. I thought I was in this alone
Gal ure nt alone. There was a time I used to enjoy sex, then suddenly I started experiencing severe pains after sex. I usually dnt stand of sit properly after sex unless I take a pain reliever. It continued for years which my bf knew abt, as time went he starting losing interest in sex wit me due to my pain(pitying and nt wnting me to be in pains). So I started lying to him pretending I wasn't feeling d pain. I do not know what happened but I dnt feel d pains again. I suspect its infection dat causes d pain, cos dere was a period I had an infection and I didn't treat it properly, but now I hv done d right ting. So try go for test. As for enjoying and climaxing, im still yet to find a solution to dat. I can stay years without sex and I wudnt feel honey. I have a serious problem.
Went through almost all the comments on here and it is just surprising that about 85% of the ladies that published their comments go through this. Maybe i should write my thesis on this cos it most definitely seems lyk a "social problem" waiting to occur i.e collapse of marriages/stress/depression. Sexual gratification through penetration: Case study of Nigerian women.
You need to clear your head during *love making*, stress can cause a lot of disorder. Also research vitamins or natural herbs that can increase your sexual drive and estrogen level. If u are in nigeria then I doubt you'll hear anything strong from a gynae. Don't pretend to enjoy it, talk it over with your bf/hubby and he may even have a better advise for you....you are not in this alone <3
Seriously all this issue is not about what you feel it about you imagination. Creativity and passion for it example is that what you love doing you do it well it because u have develop a passion for it .if you need help I can help
There's more to dis ur story jare... size of the maldini is not an issue here, you've not told us the truth... Many lesbians have dis issue.There's always a price to pay.
My dear u dnt ve a problem. D fact remains dat everybody has one problem or d oda. If u dnt enjoy it. Pretend as if ur enjoying it or try a new method each time. My problem is dat I can't feel penetration if am nt wet and I can't reach orgasm while he is inside me I prefer coming outside. So u see everybody to his issue.
You could try to see a Marriage Counselor or even a psychiatrist (it could be psychological). You never can tell their suggestions can help. Above all, pray about it.
Nice one.Research shows most ladies never reach orgasm,dey just feign it to make their partners happy.Truth is dat males reach orgasm a lot faster dan females so a guy dat cares for u ll spend a lil more time getting u to reach orgasm.Couples shud be able to talk about sex eg sensitive spots,preferred positions etc. Love making is an art n not most men are selfless enough to invest in making their partners reach orgasm during sex.its not abt having d equipment but abt knowing how to work it and make ur partner happy.Dearie I think u shud talk wit ur partner.it is also worthy to note that often times female don't orgasm wit lovers out of guilt,cud also be due to psychology or also due to vaginismus.talk to a psychologist.dont feel u r abnormal
WARNING (TMI).I was like you in the early days of our marriage. The truth of the matter is sex is a learning process and until you guys get your rhythm you'll still be complaining. What you and your partner need to know is that it isn't only penetration that makes a woman come, most times I come during foreplay while on top of my hubby and he's sucking my boobs,sometimes the 2 nipples in his mouth. Try it and see,lol.
U re right...it her mind set and family background...she needs to concentrate.... take her mind of her parent advice and be in d moment...it is not the size
By all means don't pretend if you're not feeling it like some people are advising here! You're just digging a grave for yourself bcos he will think everything is fine and you will never enjoy it. My advice is to be on top, that way you can have pleasure bcos it's all about the clitoris. no woman feels pleasure with only penetration, so there's nothing wrong with you, just bad sex positions my dear!
Where u circumcised? I hav same problem too. I've Neva had an orgasm via penetration b4 nor via blow job. Try out diff positions. I discovered being on top can get u close to an orgasmm if d guy let's u.
I have the same problem too and i talked to my hudband about it. So he romances me and give me oral sex till i come then he penetrates me and come. Problem solved.
I don't enjoy penetration too..I like massage on my clitoris.i get horny from a hard dick but once its inside I hate ir ..so I pretend. . Satistically very few women will come in their life times from penetration. ..a girls pussy can make u come. ..thats d best and most addctive way to come..too sweet.. however ur mans knees or fingers can do it..oreven his dick if u can guide it and prevent him frfrom going in..pls go get fucked by a hardcore lesbian...just so u can get that orgasm once in ur life ..take ur experience to an exposed partner...
eriously some guys re impossible u think d size of ur dick gives pleasure...it showa hw immature some of u are gosh!! babe wt u shud do is discuss it with him it wil make him be more patient with u.....prolong foreplay and help u find orgasm ....and i think u should guide him(i pray he is patient enuf) and maybe u guys aint trying different positions
Girl you are not alone, guys are not romantic, they don't touch you at the rite spot all they do is to go in quickly and out. The problem are from the guys especially Africa men
All these guys talking about how big a penis is or her bf not doing it well....check well,they are even weak in bed!! Girl if you were circimsized then that should probably be the reason,but if you were not,its probably an abnormality in your hormones or body....I think you find a way that makes you cum,make ur partner know the same and you let him get his penetration though there is a possibility he will always cheat with a girl that squirts.....no offence!
My sister,please you need to be very prayerful, my advice to you is that try to go any of your choice place is either church or mosque ask your pastor or your imam to pray for you.
Ask God for forgiveness for premarital sex which is fornication, Accept Christ into your life if you are yet to. Then when you get married to God ordained man for you, you will enjoy every bit of it. Its a sign you are not meant to do it outside marriage, you are a special person.
U may need to help him find d rite spot! Until u do, u will neva enjoy sex! Try touching urself while ur at it or beta still let him touch ur clit while penetrating! U could also try watching an erotic movie b4 u start!
Adequate foreplay n oral sex may help. U may not be frigid as some peeps think. Study ur body n tell ur guy how n whr to touch u. U'll have ground shaking orgasms.
If you can be able to go to SCOAN Prophet T.B Joshua, you will receive your healing in less than 24 hours from when you go for the prayer. Try it and testify
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 353 of 353You are not alone. A number of women don't reach orgasm during penetration. Clitoral orgasm happens to be their portion.
Mtscheew! Wat wouldn't happen to u, wen God said don't fornicate u were there openin ur legs to guys for pleasure ba, stupid ! Dats d price u pay for fornicatin. Pleasure ma ass! U're on ur own o!
Try staying ontop whenever you are having sex. My ex gf had the same issue until I started making her stay ontop while doing the driving then all hell was let loose. Just stay ontop ur man while wriggling ur waist and f**cking him at d same time. Position urself/pussy the way you want and make sure his dick touches ur viginal walls while looking for the right sensational position. You must surely get a perfect position that match ur profile and make u enjoy sex with him. Sex instructor 112. Thank me now for the lecture,not later.
Am like you my dear! About to wed in May and am ready for the journey just the sex aspect that bothers me though.
What you are experiencing is not uncommon. Most organsms women claim to experience are fake. The truth is over 80percent of women in ur age range experience organsms same way u do. Most women begin to climax thru penetration from their 30's. Its nothing to worry abt. D main pleasure point for most women is d clitoris. Get ur man to hit it while he penetrates u wld notice a difference. Discuss it with ur man so that he is aware and attends to you well in Dat regard. Nothing is wrong wit u
Pretend yhur enjoying it
Oya let the comments roll in ooo...i'm in the same boat. Although people say i'm very uptight and if i can loosen up more it will help
It happens to some people e.g moi.
Try to get very turned on before engaging and loving the person you're with makes it so much more fun.
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Your gynecologist wasn't entirely correct. I believe you have a medical condition that can be managed. You need to see a therapist who can advice you on how to get the best out of your libido. Its good you noticed on time.
Why have sex b4 marriage??one advice..keep urself..nd stop testing d waters..#linda post please..dis is y I hate commenting here..cos u don't post it
Yeah, it may help
Linda Ikeji Married to Jim ...... ?
D reason is bcos u are engaging in pre marital sex wait til u get married
Honey, penetration isn't only 4 men's pleasure..I enjoy penetration like crazy and am a woman..
Rotflmao.
Am a guy so I shouldn't knw D cause or a lasting solution to it, but all I knw is that you are not the only one going through such experience, its common wit some ladies out dia.
Gbam
My dear indeed there are girls like you, I am expressing d same tin and I am hardly ever wet. No matter how much I love my bf n want to satisfy his want. I need help too.. Linda pls post my comment
Abeg, no be only u, been married for over 3 years wth 2 kids and mid twenties too, gynacologists home and abroad believes I am ok
Same with me
Oga go and take several seats. Did she ask U any of your self righteous nonsense. U're prob a hipocrite anyway.
Again... Useless advice. But at least U aren't judging
It's natural to feel that way my dear,it's d way some clitoris' are.like mine for instance,I enjoy foreplay but when it comes to penetration,I don't feel nada,there's nothing we can do about but to try n enjoy the ones we can n let our partners know it's no one's fault
My dear it's a mind thing. You have to just put yourself in that state of mind and think of things that turn you on. Then you'll enjoy it. Besides 85% of people lie about their sex life and all the pleasures they say they get from it.
Have been married over a year and i till dont enjoy sex at all,my husband gives me a BJ almost everytime i once in 20times enjoy the BJ. but my organsms only last 20seconds,my husband understands so i make sure i ask him if he is enjoying it so we dont be a loser in both sides. Examine your problem with him so he can try carry you along.
I was once a lesbian cos I didn't hav any man in my life to satisfy my sexual urge. So I restored to lesbianisim. Little did I know it has its own consequences. Wen I met my spouse, I realized dat I was no longer interested in penetration.it almost runied my life but prayerd my way out of it. God delivered me n I hav vowed never to practise lesbianism again.
try get this book "sensuous woman" by J
Aphrodite, u r very much on point
Correct
EITHER YOU ARE'NT IN LOVE ANYMORE OR HORMONE IMBALANCE. TRY TO DRINK ROOTS. #MEET YOUR DOCTOR FIRST. BYE!
Sorry to hear that,I wish your Man can perform Cunnilingus with you i m damm sure you will enjoy it,or if you cant tell him,contact me i will help you
Maybe his dick is TOO small and your pussy is TOO wide....lol....you are a lesbian! Travel out of the country or get medical and spiritual attention...14 years no be beans
Girlie, you better fake it til you make it. Most girls fake it so you better start faking it o. Buy ky gel if you have to
With my ex, who was my first, I used to go dryall the time and jjust pray for him to climax; no matter how excited I was before the act.
However, with my new partner, I discovered that what made me go dry and irritated all the time was the condom! I found out rather late that latex rubs me the wrong way and caused me to go dry and sore; thus every penetration then was a nightmare.
If you are using condoms all the time, calculate your safe days and experiment without one. Like me, your solution might be something as easy. Sex is nice. I enjoy it now and you should keep searching for answers till you find your solutions.
Cheers, sister!
Am afraid with all these comments from girls,ladies and women below stating that they are like her.....I hope my gf is not among them!
Fake it. Just like most women.
You aren't alone in dis babes *sad face*
#That happy sister!
You always take more than one comment space and never type anything reasonable. You need help.
Chineke nna le. Una done come again o. Hehehe
I believe it has a lot to do with a lot of factors like the individual in question, age etc.
When I was in my 20s, I never enjoyed sex except foreplay, infact I never came with sex. Now I'm in my early 30s and I enjoy every bit of it now. Infact it gets better. Then I thought I had a problem. Now I know better. Don't let anyone make you feel bad and tell you there's something wrong with you. Like your gynae rightly said, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. With time, you'll get to love it. Just have an open mind and enjoy it as it's meant to be enjoyed.
Fake it. Just like most women. Sometimes it is a question of matching. You have to find your perfect match. At times the man may be too small for the girl, or too big for the girl. In this case it may hurt. It is hard to find the right mix. That is the problem in most cases. If u find the right match, hold on to him.
Errrrrm ahem *coughs*. Testing, testing. Testing the microphone, 1, 2
The fact is very few women get pleasure from penetration. Google it. U can get pleasure from clitoral stimulation from your partner. But please try saving yourself till marriage girl!!! U R NOT EVEN GETTING PLEASURE yet u r committing fornication
Sweetheart all you need is a strong aphrodisiac, some lube, a vibrator and a VERY patience guy and you're good to go!!!
My dear watch some porn!!!! And let him go down on u, he probably ain't doing it right! Explore!
same here girl,just have to pretend like i enjoy it buh no no,i dont.
I read an article that suggested that Anxiety could affect your sexual orientation. If you're too worried about whether you're going to enjoy it or not or if your partner will notice that you're not enjoying it, it will affect you. All you need to do is relax.
ALL OF A SUDDEN THE GIRLS ARE COMMENTING WITH NO PICTURES...Put your pictures...Chioma and Esther fit dey here o!
Hahahahaha...you people will not kill me in this blog...
My dear, there is nothing wrong with you. I also don't climax or get an orgasim through penitration, I also don't feel anything except the thrusting. But foreplay does it for me. When my man goes down on me that's the best thing. Many women are like this and it's normal... Just try to go with the flow and play along don't show your lack of interest just play along.
It's because you haven't start having orgasm yet, by the time you do, trust me, you will enjoy sex more than any thing...first of all, try and identify what can make you have orgasm and that will lead you to heaven...Hahahaha
Gbam!
Hahahahahaha...Omo see gobe
Hahahahahaha...Omo see gobe
You're probably into women lol
5styles + missionary =6 , so only 6styles you sabi? And you are bragging about it. Loool fake boy.
Why won't people ask questions if they don't know sometin. Y blame difference on evil spirits? Kai! 4 ur Info so many women do not enjoy 4k! Dey dnt enjoy penetration. If a girl must orgasm u hav 2 eida b touching her nipples or her clit. Inshort research has shown that more than half of the world's women don't orgasm till dey die. So pls it's nt awkward. Young lady, learn to tell ur man to touch ur clit yl he is penetrating. U 2 learn 2 b active, moving and whine your waist. Stay ontop and bang him n let ur clit b touchin d down of his Dick side. Also use ur imagination. Imagine dat it is so sweet. My last tip: Tighten ur pussy muscles yl he is penetratin. It Kald Kegel. #LindaPleasePostnHelpDisYoungLady. 4giv d vulgarity. It's necessary.
You are so right! Used to date this wide-hipped girl back in naija who complained of same thing. I'm above average in the endowment dept, so I was puzzled. One day while making out I ended up fisting her and she went wild, screamed the place down. I concluded you must be hung like a horse for her to get vaginal satisfaction.
I can't believe am not that abnormal. I have never enjoyed penetration from day1. Took my husband almost 6 months to penetrate(i married as a virgin) when my husband fingers me I cum but besides that nada. Am so tired of it. Tots of sec depresses me. Mshew o ga ooooo. Sex is over rated ojare
U have an std
Dear poster, I suggest to explore your "body parts" to known what stimulates you, if any. Then you known how and what to tel your partner when talking about it. Remember to compliment him and not give him an impression that he can't "perform". Try different and new things they u r comfortable with. I have read that sex gets better with age, mainly Cuz mature women are more direct and vocal about what they want and how they want it. Read a lil about the female reproductive system, jus to be sure u have all parts fully intact to rule out circumcision. If there is pain, it could be due to dryness, and there are lubricants like ky jelly etc, DAT u can use. Der r even healthy foods dat boost sexual activity ish & al dat.Your partner can only meet u half way in helping you find a solution. Sex is a physiological need, and when not satisfied, deer is fear, worry, low esteem '& all that. Most women duno any tin abt d big 'O' so u r not alone. Good luck.......MS.
She is just gay
I got married few months ago and i had the same problem but i came to realize that its psychological, you have to free your mind, tell urself you want to enjoy this and stop being afraid and you will enjoy it.
@ anony 5:58 ur spot on, dear poster. Hv u been molested in ur child mood? Dat's jst d prblm wit dis type of stuff. (My ex galfrnd hv d same prblm lyk u nd she was molested @ a little aga)
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I got married few months ago and i had the same problem but i came to realize that its psychological, you have to free your mind, tell urself you want to enjoy this and stop being afraid and you will enjoy it.
The problem is not wit u women, d problem is wit ur men cos they're inpatient. They think it's all bout havin a big dick n doin d wham bang. It's not d man's xperience that helps a woman cum but his skill and it's not a one-off skill that d man learns once n uses always na, it'll get boring. Every time, a new skill. Women stop beating urselves up bout it, beat ur men up instead cos they're to blame. The nxt time u gon make love, let ur man kno he's gonna have u to himself all nite n u not running away so he shud take his time to get u to ur destination. ..dnt just have sex dear, MAKE LOVE.
I found the solution to my own the day I decided to make love to my hus (as in f**k him the way I wanted him to f**k me) it wasn't easy, I wasn't bold or adventurous but I just tried reverse physiology and it worked for me. I took charge that day, instead of allowing him to lead with the foreplay, I did to him all those things I wanted him to do to me, I even threatened to tie his hands if he touched me, and instead of allowing him penetrate I took him in,and rode him and it was wonderful I tell u, it also marked a shift in our sex life. U have to find urself first, know what the prob is. Is it that u don't enjoy sex atall or u don't enjoy it with ur man or u r not well lubricated thereby causing pain during penetration or u believe u r committing sin? Me I discovered that my problem is I love being the one to give the most pleasure, yes, if I lie on my back during foreplay it won't turn me on but if I do oral and think of it that am the captain then, BAMM! It's all a matter of mind set
So her problem would no longer be solved by prayers but your dick and the number of styles you can perform? The hypocrisy of the Nigerian Christian is baffling! Smh
Wat if u re shy to touch the clit ursef?? Runs away...
90% of women don't orgasm from penetrative sex. It takes a matured man to understand this fact. Try stimulating your clit during sex, be on top during sex so you can grind your clit against him, use a vibrator. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
If you can call me i will advise you with useful information to change your sex habit for ever.
There is NOTHING wrong with you. Majority of women do not climax by penetration, but only by clitoris stimulation. Tell your spouse to give you a blow job and suck your breast too. Also, you can try being on top in order to be able to set the pace & stimulate your clitoris with his dick.
-FDK
You be real Aphrodite! Goddess of love and sex
Then shut up
from a female lib reader
i think linda is cooking jollof stories 4 us 2 read. i find d stories hard to believe. i know we visit the blog to get entertained but i feel linda shud spice these stories up once once. some sex stories wont be bad, get graphic baby
i was once in your position…i will get horny but never enjoyed the sex…you probably have no connection with your partner…make him go down on you…you may not like d*ck much. (you don't enjoy his sex or you haven't discovered what you like most).
i didn't know d*ck was so heavenly until i stopped being a good girl and met a guy that gave me diabetes he's d*ck was so good it was almost sickening and tongue action dannng. i couldn't HUSBAND him he was too bush for me…but he put in the work! *you shud see my face*lol
This is not a joke, thanks linda for posting this, kudos to all the beautiful, understanding ladies out there. Men will not understand cos they are the most that enjoy sex, if you a lady and u do enjoy well done.Most women don't enjoy penetration. But the area we do enjoy tell your hubby to concentrate more on it. With time we will get use to it. Goodluck Ladies.
Ders ntin lk foreplay it happens even 2 me tank God am nt d oly 1 tot I was may God hlp us
Amazing! A lot of our women dont enjoy sex.
Pls shut up...must u tell evryone u avnt had sex! Must u comment? @raina
Yes her enemy decided punish her with sex. Everything in life is not spiritual. People like you makea pastors rich
I am also I'm the condition oh and due to the whole non enjoyable sex I broke up wit my Bf and stpoped having sex 4more than 2yrs .
Now I really need a Bf nd A Sex life but am scared of the boring sex..... Pls I need help
Yes I was told that as well.
mshewwww stupid comment,I don't know if its compulsory to speak when you don't have something valuable to say
Is there an urge to talk without reasoning,she clearly stated she is worried for future reference and clearly sex matters when you marry,why not shut up if don't have something to say,why say something stupid.must we always talk??? So annoying
So babe u've started vnin sex b4 8? Lolz# nawa oooo
True that.... we have same sex life tho m married n is been a bit challenging but be referred to a psychologist. ....hope it works
Is not all about having good penis. Some women don't enjoy sex. Meanwhile let him touch us where arouuses u. Men sorry u won't understand.
Me too
Bonita, I no believe say na u make this mistake but then again it's a mistake. It can happen to any1. It's spelt Gynaecologist.
I used to have the same problem,but then I figured out "woman on top" position,it helps u control how and where you want the "D" to go,and since den sex has been wonderful...
Tell your man to go down on you first before penetration or ride on your man, this will allow you to control the tempo(just like when you are masturbating with a dildo). You can also imagine other sexual fantasies while at it or you can use adult movies during sex.
Watch porn
I think first and foremost uve gotta identify ur REAL sexuality. Keep in mind that there are Asexual people who don't like sex at all. They can be hopelessly romantic but the idea of sexual intercourse repulses them. Also have u ever found a woman sexually appealing? Lastly, a good number of nigerian men are really terrible in bed, they grab u, deposit thier siliva in ur mouth, suck ur ' tenders' like their life depends on it, then jump straight to humping, they don't take their time to tease, they hardly talk dirty, or give favours. worse still, they never study how the gurl responds to their touch, most of them do not care (them just wan do) and dont even get me started on their personal hygiene. So uve got lots of things u need to consider. Maybe its just ur man tht turns u off...maybe its most men or hell, all men. My advice: Uve gotta take a break from ur crappy sex life and explore urself n sexuality, only then can u discover what n who gets u off! Life without orgasm is no life at all (unless ure asexual) *shit dis babe don sleep* #theregoesmyweekend
Hello... I think you were circumcised. Same thing with my fiance but we found a way around it. Before we have sex, I tell her how much I love and adore her. Then I have a lube by my side cos she doesn't get wet to ease d pain and voila ... There's your solution
Hello... I think you were circumcised. Same thing with my fiance but we found a way around it. Before we have sex, I tell her how much I love and adore her. Then I have a lube by my side cos she doesn't get wet to ease d pain and voila ... There's your solution
Mumu, wats spiritual abt nt enjoyin sex? M sure u've neva had sex b4 in ur life!! Fink b4 u comment
@Anonymous 4:04
Exactly my sex life
My husband understands that I can never cum while f**king me so he enjoys himself and later plays with my clitoris, that's when I cum.
I thought I was in this alone
Gal ure nt alone. There was a time I used to enjoy sex, then suddenly I started experiencing severe pains after sex. I usually dnt stand of sit properly after sex unless I take a pain reliever. It continued for years which my bf knew abt, as time went he starting losing interest in sex wit me due to my pain(pitying and nt wnting me to be in pains). So I started lying to him pretending I wasn't feeling d pain. I do not know what happened but I dnt feel d pains again. I suspect its infection dat causes d pain, cos dere was a period I had an infection and I didn't treat it properly, but now I hv done d right ting. So try go for test. As for enjoying and climaxing, im still yet to find a solution to dat. I can stay years without sex and I wudnt feel honey. I have a serious problem.
Yes is true ur right.
Went through almost all the comments on here and it is just surprising that about 85% of the ladies that published their comments go through this. Maybe i should write my thesis on this cos it most definitely seems lyk a "social problem" waiting to occur i.e collapse of marriages/stress/depression.
Sexual gratification through penetration: Case study of Nigerian women.
You need to clear your head during *love making*, stress can cause a lot of disorder. Also research vitamins or natural herbs that can increase your sexual drive and estrogen level. If u are in nigeria then I doubt you'll hear anything strong from a gynae. Don't pretend to enjoy it, talk it over with your bf/hubby and he may even have a better advise for you....you are not in this alone <3
U r soo right
Goodness not everything has a spiritual lining to it! A Lot of girls actually suffer this in silence. I'm sure u are a man.
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Seriously all this issue is not about what you feel it about you imagination. Creativity and passion for it example is that what you love doing you do it well it because u have develop a passion for it .if you need help I can help
Uhmmm all u need is to have passion for it
That pain is yhe pleasure but u not feeling it
U never see correct hausa kayamata, u go fear
Uve been circumsized
There's more to dis ur story jare... size of the maldini is not an issue here, you've not told us the truth... Many lesbians have dis issue.There's always a price to pay.
My dear u dnt ve a problem. D fact remains dat everybody has one problem or d oda. If u dnt enjoy it. Pretend as if ur enjoying it or try a new method each time. My problem is dat I can't feel penetration if am nt wet and I can't reach orgasm while he is inside me I prefer coming outside. So u see everybody to his issue.
You could try to see a Marriage Counselor or even a psychiatrist (it could be psychological). You never can tell their suggestions can help. Above all, pray about it.
Nice one.Research shows most ladies never reach orgasm,dey just feign it to make their partners happy.Truth is dat males reach orgasm a lot faster dan females so a guy dat cares for u ll spend a lil more time getting u to reach orgasm.Couples shud be able to talk about sex eg sensitive spots,preferred positions etc. Love making is an art n not most men are selfless enough to invest in making their partners reach orgasm during sex.its not abt having d equipment but abt knowing how to work it and make ur partner happy.Dearie I think u shud talk wit ur partner.it is also worthy to note that often times female don't orgasm wit lovers out of guilt,cud also be due to psychology or also due to vaginismus.talk to a psychologist.dont feel u r abnormal
WARNING (TMI).I was like you in the early days of our marriage. The truth of the matter is sex is a learning process and until you guys get your rhythm you'll still be complaining. What you and your partner need to know is that it isn't only penetration that makes a woman come, most times I come during foreplay while on top of my hubby and he's sucking my boobs,sometimes the 2 nipples in his mouth. Try it and see,lol.
Lesbian talking in disguise oooo
Gay idiot please give the girl a good advice. She needs treatment and rehabilitation just like you.
And unlike her,you need some jail term.
It might sound crazy, but try using a CLITORIS VIBRATOR before or during sex... And tell me what happened next lol
CLITORIS VIBRATOR
U re right...it her mind set and family background...she needs to concentrate.... take her mind of her parent advice and be in d moment...it is not the size
Eeyyaa, sorry babe #Virgin ;D i never taste cork yet :)
By all means don't pretend if you're not feeling it like some people are advising here! You're just digging a grave for yourself bcos he will think everything is fine and you will never enjoy it. My advice is to be on top, that way you can have pleasure bcos it's all about the clitoris. no woman feels pleasure with only penetration, so there's nothing wrong with you, just bad sex positions my dear!
Where u circumcised? I hav same problem too. I've Neva had an orgasm via penetration b4 nor via blow job. Try out diff positions. I discovered being on top can get u close to an orgasmm if d guy let's u.
Good girl.
Perhaps you're Bisexual and don't even know it.
I have the same problem too and i talked to my hudband about it. So he romances me and give me oral sex till i come then he penetrates me and come. Problem solved.
I don't enjoy penetration too..I like massage on my clitoris.i get horny from a hard dick but once its inside I hate ir ..so I pretend. . Satistically very few women will come in their life times from penetration. ..a girls pussy can make u come. ..thats d best and most addctive way to come..too sweet.. however ur mans knees or fingers can do it..oreven his dick if u can guide it and prevent him frfrom going in..pls go get fucked by a hardcore lesbian...just so u can get that orgasm once in ur life ..take ur experience to an exposed partner...
Sex is not trial and error, It's for married people
sex is not for singles, It's for married people.
Sex is not trial and error, It's for married people
eriously some guys re impossible u think d size of ur dick gives pleasure...it showa hw immature some of u are gosh!! babe wt u shud do is discuss it with him it wil make him be more patient with u.....prolong foreplay and help u find orgasm ....and i think u should guide him(i pray he is patient enuf) and maybe u guys aint trying different positions
Girl you are not alone, guys are not romantic, they don't touch you at the rite spot all they do is to go in quickly and out. The problem are from the guys especially Africa men
Wow! U sound gud n hawlt!
All these guys talking about how big a penis is or her bf not doing it well....check well,they are even weak in bed!! Girl if you were circimsized then that should probably be the reason,but if you were not,its probably an abnormality in your hormones or body....I think you find a way that makes you cum,make ur partner know the same and you let him get his penetration though there is a possibility he will always cheat with a girl that squirts.....no offence!
My sister,please you need to be very prayerful, my advice to you is that try to go any of your choice place is either church or mosque ask your pastor or your imam to pray for you.
Talk to your doctor. Also, there are sex positions that cant help but make you experience pleasure. Explore!!!
Mumu, she don't have a clitoris. She was circumcised.
you can come to my bedroom let me confirm and or prove to you otherwise
you can come to my bedroom let me confirm and or prove to you otherwise
there are supplements that can help, talk to your pharmacist
YOUR GUY IS BAD IN BED! SIMPLE. DON'T MARRY HIM. HE'S AWFUL IN BED.
Ask God for forgiveness for premarital sex which is fornication, Accept Christ into your life if you are yet to. Then when you get married to God ordained man for you, you will enjoy every bit of it. Its a sign you are not meant to do it outside marriage, you are a special person.
Gracias
U may need to help him find d rite spot! Until u do, u will neva enjoy sex! Try touching urself while ur at it or beta still let him touch ur clit while penetrating! U could also try watching an erotic movie b4 u start!
Adequate foreplay n oral sex may help. U may not be frigid as some peeps think. Study ur body n tell ur guy how n whr to touch u. U'll have ground shaking orgasms.
If you can be able to go to SCOAN Prophet T.B Joshua, you will receive your healing in less than 24 hours from when you go for the prayer. Try it and testify
After all d comment, u Neva still see solution..ur case is really critical
Ify
That can only happen to women who were circumcised, please ask ur parents if you were circumcised.
If the answer is yes, then that is certainly not a spiritual or medical problem.
Seek for a gynecologist advise on how to live with it.
That can only happen to women who were circumcised, please ask ur parents if you were circumcised.
If the answer is yes, then that is certainly not a spiritual or medical problem.
Seek for a gynecologist advise on how to live with it.
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