I'm in a 3yr old marriage with a 2year old handsome son, I must say he looks like his gorgeous mum. I recently sent both of them to the UK on holiday but I wasn't comfortable with it as she insisted on staying with her "town girl" friend that doesn't have a job but she's relatively comfortable (raised eye brows) and she's never in a steady relationship, unfortunately my wife, most times looks up to her. When I complain about some of the revealing outfits my wife wears, she often says "Tope wore something similar and everyone loved it on instagram, no one said it was bad". She's always comparing her self to the likes of Tope, single girls that are some what wayward. You see, after child birth, I noticed that my wife's dressing changed for the worst, I could sense that she wanted to prove she was still hot. She gets a kick out of her friends calling her sexy mama and all sorts and I keep telling her she is married and she should tone it down especially to her place of work. Continue...Well, back to the UK where my wife and son currently are. This past weekend, she said she was going out for a party with the Tope. I said fine as long as she dresses decently. She sent a pic of what she wore just before she left the house, a nice leather looking black dress. Not too short but a little too tight but I let it slide. She posed innocently with her hands behind her back, I thought it was cute even though the pic wasn't so clear as it was outside. The next day, I was on instagram and I noticed Tope had uploaded pictures from their night out, I decided to check and guess what, my innocent looking wife wasn't look innocent at all. The dress was actually semi transparent, the sides were exposed showing that she didn't wear undies as well as the cleavage area, NO BRA!! My heart rate rapidly increased and my hands were shaking holding on to my android. Matters got worse when I noticed she didn't have her ring on, that's why she had her hands behind her in the pic. I immediately rang her up at the top of my voice asking her to explain why she didn't have her ring on and why she dressed like a tramp and that I had seen the pics on instagram. She was silent for a while, she then said she didn't want to lose the ring that's why she didn't wear it and in fact she had kept it away as soon as she got to the UK because she would be doing a lot of shopping and didn't want to lose it.
Her excuse for wearing the dress was that the club was dark and no one would have noticed her dress. Can you imagine her utterances, coming from a married woman and a mum, NO RING in a foreign land for over a week!. I have called her names and decided to block my debit card that's with her, at least the bank alerts will stop. I have insisted that she leaves Tope's house with immediate effect because for all I know, she may have set my naïve wife up with a guy and that she should get on the next available flight back to Lagos. She is saying i'm over reacting and that I don't want her to enjoy her youth, at 28.. I am mad angry is an understatement. Those images are stuck in my head for life. Fellow LIB readers, am I over reacting?
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eeyah. very sorry situation. just take heart bro.
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my dear, u are a single man! no responsible wife would do dat....all dat story na oke n ochicha story....1 advice, go get ur son
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Guy, u no dey over react o. I am a female and when we do that, know that we are out for a good time and not just clubbing. Advice - be a man and lay down the rules P-R-O-N-T-O. It is either that or she should get O-U-T.
Come here mr poster, your wife is not naive, you are! Haven't you heard of the saying that birds of the same feather flock together? stop living in denial! Your wife is already cheating on you! Mumu.
No you're not. Its better to nip this thns in the bud sometimes because if u dnt register ur displeasure nw it may turn into full blown disrespect. Just find a way to handle it maturely and respectfully. All the best!
Come here mr poster, your wife is not naive, you are! Haven't you heard of the saying that birds of the same feather flock together? stop living in denial! Your wife is already cheating on you! Mumu.
ewu nama, u dont trust ur wife. lol. abeg go solve ur problems. tacky story.
My guy u get heart...oboy u let ur wife go align with oroscoe for uk?U r underreacting sef to me better get ur wife home and let her know hw u feel if she never ready to marry she shld tell u n stop giving u heartaches.....guy wise o all these nannies na oroscoe for uk dem nor dey marry oooooo...
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no u're not over-reacting. A married lady should always behave as such and not a tramp. and from what i read, it seems that you really care about your wife and would only want the best for her.
oga u know ur wife will see this post and know she is d one u are referring to right? nyway babe enjoy urself but dont misbehave
is it only the debit card u blocked? can u block something else?
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dem dey nack ur wife apako oo!
I don't swear often but Dude...calm the fuck down!
I think people who expect people to 'transform' when they get married or have kids are quite weird. Kids and marriage can change your outlook on life but why should it change your personality???
If your wife enjoyed partying and dressing a certain way, why do you suddenly think she should change? Just because she married you?
Sometimes girls really just want to have fun...btw fun doesn't mean dirty or sordid. It simply means letting your hair down!
If you have always had trust issues in your relationship and you went ahead to marry her then I can't really help you.
Double wahala for Dead body.
See Gobe!!!
My brother, you are not over-reacting,but you need to tone down your harshness because you can force a horse to the river, but can not force it to drink water.She is an adult so you need to go about it more maturely by communicating calmly.
YOU NEED TO LET UR WIFE BE..SHE MUST BE YOUNG AND STOP BEING INSECURE..YOU WILL BE THE FIRST TO START COMPLAINING WHEN SHE GETS FAT AND STARTS DRESSING FRUMPY, AND FEELING OVERWHELMED WITH MARRIAGE AND KIDS.. DON'T STIFLE HER...YOU KNEW WHAT SHE WAS ABOUT BEFORE MARRYING HER..IF U DIDNT TRUST HER WHY MARRY HER?? ALLOW HER BREATHE..U ARE HER HUSBAND NOT HER FATHER..
U aint over reacting dear,u married an Adultbaby,ur wyf needs discipline and she needs to stay away from dat tope bitch,she wanna ruin ha marriage
Nope, you are not! She obviously doesnt wana stay married and she should cut off from that Tope friend before she gets her into trouble (if she isnt already). Hian, women sha! mschew!
No no no no no no, you are not, let her come back. Does excuses are what any order woman or girl will say to dir man
You my friend definitely have every reason to be furious. I think your wife is running games on you and if she's looking up to the Tope chic that you just described then you know sey wahala dey sleep yanga go wake am.
That being said, I'm not saying she's done anything while in the UK but my advice to you is to investigate further. Also what was she like before you guys got married, she's 28 so in my opinion she should be able to discern what's appropriate to wear as a married woman that wants to look & feel sexy without coming across as a tramp.
Have a sit down with her and voice your concerns & allow her to state her point of view so you both can come to a middle ground. If that doesn't work then seek some counseling professionally or via other means. Goodluck!
Well, for sending this to Linda, i would say, yes sir...You are over-reacting.You are a married man and matters like this should be handled between the two of you. Pls be patient with your wife. Let her come home and then sit her down and talk like a married couple.
she is your wife and you are protecting your family. You definitely love her. She should come back. Her priority should be, how you see her.
Linda post my comment.Pls 4 onceeee
Mr Husband , i am sure you are overreacting , You have every reason to react and claim your stakes, cause she is your wife , but you are making a simple mistake of showing her your fears,reaction,and she is using it against you , you need to take charge of your house .. it is time she understands difference between Getting married and staying married , Cause the Magic is not getting Married, but the Magic is staying married ... God help you man
Nope youre not, sexy mama must come to her senses and come home
If you have a wife who does not fear God, then be ready to face anything between luckily good and expectedly bad.
Life is a choice.
You made the choice when getting married.
Carry your cross
your wife is loosing it i'm afraid, all thanks to the Tope friend. You are not overreacting o,am a lady and single and wouldn't even think of dressing like that even as a single lady. If you truly love her, help her before she goes ballistic and ruin the home with her stupidity. At 28, smh... eni to lori o ni fila.
Dear poster,please pay her and tope a visit unannounced..........and BRING your wife back yourself
u r a weak man . give ha d beating of ha life and send ha away peniles 4 smtime i knw dat she wil change . bad woman , hope u 2dnt cheat on ha
brotherly you r not overreacting, yes she should hang out but in way dat is decent and better still she should stop hanging out if she can't be decent...better send her back to nija cos next tin na she will be telling u dat she's no more coming back of which ur son might be stalk with her.
Hmm sha take it easy..u r not overreacting but d name calling not right whatsoever she's ur wife and d mother of ur son..so back to her not wearing d ring and wearing d transparent clothe that's to d extreme..she got something up her sleeves..talk to her normally let her see reasons with u,den she'll find a way to come back to nigeria..asap..nice one blocking d debit card to cut her excesses...but also tell her that u did that out of luv to reduce d spending and not make her feel u disciplining her..
No you are not,you have every reason to feel this way.
What does she mean by enjoying her youth,she married for Pete's sake and some behaviour aren't expected from her,you need to call her to other or even return her to Nigeria so you can talk some sense into her. Before it gets out of hand.
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brotherly you r not overreacting, yes she should hang out but in way dat is decent and better still she should stop hanging out if she can't be decent...better send her back to nija cos next tin na she will be telling u dat she's no more coming back of which ur son might be stalk with her.
You are not, but try and trust your wife
Dear brother u r nt over reacting, shes ur wife nd u have every right to tel her woteva u dnt like nd want, in d first instance i dnt knw why u r here nd ur wife is in d UK,hw many months holiday r they doing? if u r nt comfortable again,let her come down .woteva God has joined togeda let no holiday or wotsoeva seperate them.God wil giv u wisdom on hw to go abt it.
brotherly you r not overreacting, yes she should hang out but in way dat is decent and better still she should stop hanging out if she can't be decent...better send her back to nija cos next tin na she will be telling u dat she's no more coming back of which ur son might be stalk with her.
Bad friend, No ring, skimpy revealing dress, night club in uk for that matter...... Mmm. This is what they call warning signs you better be a man and hold your ground b4 it gets too late.... For your safety make her take STD test or you stay away sexually for some time... Life is to short
Wow!!!
Women want men to understand what is not understandable..Why on earth will you take off your wedding ring..why on earth will a married woman dress raunchy..why on earth will you lie to your husband and not follow is instruction..
Bro,you are not over-reacting..My advise is simple,unfollow tope on Instagram.Ignore all what you wife is doing,she will learn from the street..Because the street is the best teacher..and wiv dat she will appreciate you more.
I tell guy dat it is best to allow you gf have best of fun before you guyz get married,because whn she get married she would not be influenced anymore because she has already done most stuff b4 and she understands berra..
Presently you wife feels like she is in a bondage and Tope is flexing..
Bro,Continuing praying for her and dont spoon feed her..She will learn from the Street i can assure you.
Bikonu,tell her to take the next available flight back to Nigeria so u both can sort things out nd make ur marriage a success
O.Y.O
When you become someone's wife you discontinue living the "single life". She needs to decide if she wants to be a wife/mother or a "party girl". I'm thankful that the baby is not old enough to understand what is going on. She needs to mature before the child is old enough to understand what is going on. Also, while she's in a foreign country who is watching the baby when she goes out partying?
Simply Wow, u sure have a teenager on ur hands, being patient with them always helps, they usually learn with experience, not with insults or being scolded!
Ur wife though,where did u pick her from in the first place..
Wow, u need to talk to her, and noo ur not over reacting.. i feel she wants to still feel sexy n young .. U sound lyk a gentle faithful man, i pity women dat treats good guys lyk dis .. Wen shez bck in naija sit her dwn ve a heart to heart talk wiv her.. Hope all goes well.. Pls take it easy its well :)
i actually feel for the man 'cos, as i was reading i was feeling like twas me in his shoes nd i was hurt....just take it easy and hope she comes back as u asked her to...and pray u dont loose her 'cos from ur write up she's a bit naive and vulnerable and gullible(no offenses)...
This kind woman go dey accuse"all men are cheats"una dey faithful,
The babe dey catch fun jare.
u sound like u don't trust ur wife one bit .... however I would advice u sit her down and talk to her about this her so called friend/friends cos from what u narrated she's so wrong for not wearing her ring and lying to u about her dress ... her clique of friends could be very wild hence the "ogbonge" pressure on her could be strong too ..... if u talk to her and still no changes then bring an ederly lady u know she respect very well to talk some sense into her... goodluck
No u did what u suppose to do as a married man,is ur wife u have some right to choose what she should wear ad not what she should not wear!the best thing is for her to live that tope of frd.
Over react ke! Bro, u r not over-reacting in anyway. I'm sure she would do worse if u were in her stead.
What's her Instragam page?
Wonders shall never end!
if you are not playing away i dont think you are over reacting.
THE NEXT QUESTION IS WHO IS TAKING CARE OF YOUR SON?
Lmaoooooooo
Allow dis lady breath @ least!haba!
Nigger ort out your fam and dont bring ur shit here..best advise you can ever get...cos soon em shallow thinkers would curse ur wife out so bad that ur mind may not remember forgiveness. FIRST!!!
My dear u aint over reactin, plz she shud take d next available flight bck to naija, some ladies sef#smh#
This kind woman go dey accuse"all men are cheats"una dey faithful?
The babe won taste white prick.
My brother, totally feel your pain. But, if a woman is dressing like a tramp, talking like a tramp, hanging out with tramps, chances are that she is totally a tramp or on her merry way to becoming one.
Your wife is 28 but yet to catch up with her age. She wants to feel 18. I advise you do the following:
1. Calm down, cause if you don't you might just make things worse.
2. Have heart to heart with her and let her fully appreciate the import of her action and what your expectations her. Try to see if it is even remotely possible for her to get her act together and be a wife to you and a mother to her son. If she is willing to go the long haul, then set the terms and conditions (including the time frame of evaluation). Support her as best as you can without rocking the boat. Don't get dramatic, violent or unreasonable (remember, step 1 - be CALM)
3. If you sense she might not want to be penitent or compliant. Give the relationship a break for like 3 months. In that time frame, either she'd come back to her senses or she'd be so deep in a messy life style. Sinking her will be a piece of cake. You might also want to consider getting a PI to gather the hard facts.
Wish you luck bro.
This is what happens sometimes when young girls get married. They feel they are missing out.
You are not over reacting. If a lady did that to me with ordinary engagement ring, the wedding is off.
No u did what u suppose to do as a married man,is ur wife u have some right to choose what she should wear ad not what she should not wear!the best thing is for her to live that tope of frd.
My dear you aren't overreacting, evil communication corrupts good manner. You shouldn't have sent her to UK in the first place.
she need deliverance like seriously
Don't think so...bt women are all about feeling sexy after childbirth ,however it should not be too overtly and Beyonce aint helping matters too
Maleek Elias
U over reacted by blocking the debit card.I hope u try and work things out
Nope, I think the steps taken so far by u is very much in line. Put her in prayers...
I wish i had the chance to talk to you. The way you are going on, you are going to do your self some harm. What you need to do is relax. One thing i can say is that your wife is not really ready to settle down and that is the truth. You have trust issues your self which is going to make it worse. I know that you love your wife and she knows it. But you need to treat her like an adult and not a child. Telling her what to wear, how to dress where to go is not going to help matters. i know what i am talking about, there are better ways to deal with this situation. You are going to experience worse than this if you do not handel this is well. Another thing your wife is not naive, stop blaming the friend.
U r not over reacting bro... Drop the bitch.... Take ur son and lam!!!
Senor
She is indeed a bad wife,leting her frend influence her.
no dear..u not over reacting but their is always a 2 side to a story......
That is a despicable acts of hers,you are on a right path,a married woman shouldn't indulge in such flirtatious behavior,recall her immediately or she ceased to be your wife,period.
No you are not. your wife is very naive no doubt but you also have to act with wisdom. for instance you need to start giving her the validation she craves from her friends and also be a bit more involved in social activities with her among another things. you need to start speaking your wife's primary love language which is words of approval and encouragement.
Dumb excuse for taking out her ring. If you are both yoruba i heard its allowed in your culture for women to cheat. Good luck to you two.
That is a despicable acts of hers,you are on a right path,a married woman shouldn't indulge in such flirtatious behavior,recall her immediately or she ceased to be your wife,period.
Ur wife don follow breeze go....
My brother u're not over reacting, bt my question is was she dressing like dat b4 u marry her? If yes den I guess u have a big problem. Cos am having same issue with my gf and each time I ask her to change she will always say "dis is how u met me and dis is who I am" I just tank GOD we are not yet married,
SNOWYTE SAY S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡
*Linda. 2 sides to a story. You're either overreacting or you've lost your wife. Show the picture to a neutral person and watch their reaction.
I dont think u are over reacting. Guard what u have jealously.
No you are not overreacting... just get her ass back to Nigeria and talk sense to her ears
Fuk Dat bitch
From all point of view you are doing what is right as a loving husband you ain't overreacting my dear! But blocking the debit card isn't the right decision,she has your son with her,so how would they feed themselves?? It's okay if you have asked her to follow the next available flight cause she might get carried away with life over there especially when she is staying with a wayward girl! But then you should had allowed her to stay with such a person as tope,since you know the kind of life she lives you would have booked a hotel for them, its obvious that your wife had been exposed by tope,,you have to show her more love than you had showed her in time past so she won't totally go wide!! Women are somewhat fragile they are easily manoeuvred by flamboyant stuff.. Most importantly pray for her too...
#mr CODED PEN
fuk dat bitch
Nawao. Omo see gobe! When once you are married, you have to restrict ur wife from some certain things and friends. Take heart my dear! That's the opportunity cost of marrying a loosed woman. Hahahahahahahaha
Judging frm all this, she is planning on staying there for life....
Not @ all sir. Inukwa aruruala!
Oga chill joor
You re not overreactin to me.It just shows u lOve her.I just pray dat by d time she comes bac to her senses,I won't be too late.Tope is a bad influence
My broda,u r rite on track
Lol. I'm sorry this cracked me up
she just wanna phuck a lil'
LMAOOOOooooo #feartope
Nawao. Omo see gobe! When once you are married, you have to restrict ur wife from some certain things and friends. Take heart my dear! That's the opportunity cost of marrying a loosed woman. Hahahahahahahaha! Linda abeg post my comment
Some women sha smh
Guy you made a mistake marrying a young woman,thats what most young girls will say "he is depriving me of my youth". What youth? I feel sorry for you bro, you are in deep shit. Your wife needs to grow up, I really don't know what to advice you (because I won't say divorce her),but try as much as possible not to develop high blood pressure because this is the beginning of more misbehaviour.
Are you her mum?
Gosh, may women be saved from overcontrolling and egotistical males. May you find men who don't clip your wings.
She's an adult, and your wife. Your marriage should be predicated on trust. If you trust her, and you have NO reason to think she will cheat, then let her do what she feels.
I have a partner. If I like, I can go naked (I wear what I please (I'm usually modest as a PERSONAL preference), go where I may for the most part) but because there is mutual respect and trust, he NEVER questions me. He knows that I am there for him and he trusts me implicitly
Your wife is still young, do you want her to wear iro and buba for the rest of her life because she's tagged your missus. Let her enjoy her young body because hell knows that it won't last forever. You alone know why you married her, if you married her as a trophy then what you see is what you get.
And I'm sure the reason you don't trust her is because you're happily cheating away here in Nigeria.
Your wife sounds very immature. You shouldn't give her so much room to. Be on her own. She sound gullible as well .I would as her to return home immediately.
Chai! i feel u but wait a second, dont u guys do worse tins n xpect d iron heart lady to tolerate n understand. u see aw painful it can b? do unto others wat u'l like dem to do to u
U re not over reacting dude! Ur wife's crazy as he'll! Wtf?!! Am a woman, but dat's just plan stupid of her!! Bring her ass back to 9ja!
I do not think you are over reacting, but if your wife is posing as a single lady in London with Tope behind your back, I think you need to be scared. This woman is out to get fun by all means necessary. Pele my dear.
This is simple,she feels trapped and needs to be free. Its rather unfortunate she has a baby who will definately look up to her cos its obvious she does nt hav a mind of her own. just hope nd pray she gets better because u sound like u really love her.u can follow her around,its gonna drain u emotionally. all d best sir
no, u are not. she is not acting responsible but she is ur wife, give her a benefit of doubt and take ur issues away from the public. U are as guilty as she is
Plus yu are not overreacting in any way, yu love her dats why...... Pure and simple ur sexy mama wants to enjoy her life.....
pls forgive her for dont know what she is doing.
YES, I think you are over reacting somehow, you caused it all, then you started raking. Why staying with Tope in the first instance? Do not be of equal yoke with unbeliever so say the holy book. I guessed you married her in the company of people like TOPE, so she is missing their old days life. You should have just print out those pics you saw and keep quiet till she come. Then, give her a 3 months suspension. before she return let's know we will tell you what to do next
My brother nd friend, I feel nd understand everytin u say, I sure know u re a gud man from d words u write, bt its unfortunate u have a wife that loves u but still swim in youthful tots nd desires. U havnt over reacted bt try to be patient, nd handle. Things maturedly. Don't loose ur home home bt ask God always for guidance. May God grant u d patience, wisdom and strength to carry on. Tamuno.
Bia mister man NOT ALL SINGLE GIRLS ARE WAYWARD. I HAVE NOT BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP OR HAD SEX SINCE 2008. I LIKE MANY OTHER SINGLE WOMEN OUT THERE ARE GOOD, HONEST AND WITHOUT CHARACTER BLEMISH. BEING WAYWARD IS IN THE BLOOD AND FOR YOUR INFORMATION YOU IT SEEMS MARRIED A WAYWARD WOMAN!
THAT SHE HAS NOW DECIDED TO LET RIP AFTER MARRIAGE TO YOU IS IN NO WAY REFLECTIVE OF THE FACT THAT HER FRIENDS ARE TO BLAME.
SHE HAS LONG THROAT PERIOD!
pls forgive her for dont know what she is doing.
ur wife has been wit anoda guy,no ring,no pant,no bra.dats absolutely ubelivable.tope has influenced her.bro deirs touble.lynda post my coment o.
Yes u are overreacting. Dressing up and partying doesn't mean she'll cheat. If she really wanted to cheat she would do it and u won't have a clue. She's 28 and in the uk, let her party. As long as she doesn't follow any guy home, relax already
Omg! Why are people not contented, I think you should take the case to an elderly family member whom she respects
Omo nooooo ur nt over reacting at all, dats is ur wife dere, maybe she's nt ready 2 stay married becos no rite tinking married woman will do dat. Beta don't be deceived she want 2 remain single like her frd n she's tinking ur hindering her 4rm dat.
Hey Mr. I know exactly how you feel because I've been in your sheos before just apply a lil trust without doubt the reason why you're angry is simply because you don't trust your wife and is bad if you don't learn how to trust her I sense There's a problem....pls she is your wife. love,trust and respect her that's the key....goodluck
@SylvesterRayner
Let her come back 2 9ja fast
U blocked d debit card huh??? Bros u ve done well..u didn't over react
I may not understand how you feel but relationship especially in marriage is about respect. If she has done what you just mentioned, its far from respect but whoever you are, you can't deal with this issue on a high tone. You will need to sit down with your wife and discus what concerns you. I think the two of you are a little different but the beauty of marriage is that two become one. I always tell people' marriage is like two irons which needs to loose some particles to become one'. So discus with your wife, don't demand a change but instead, let her see why she needs to change. Why i said don't demand is 'Demand will only result in obedience when you are watching' Marriage is a long time and you don't want to live a life where you have to keep watch each-time.
bros ur not over reacting at all..
IF YOU WANT DONT WANT TO ACT MARRIED,BIKO DONT MARRY ITS NOT BY FORCE.BUT IF U WANT TO,PLEASE MARRY AND STAY FAITHFUL...
Btw..im still single:-)
Dude, you nor marry correct....you can force a horse to the river but you can't force it to drink. Leaving her friend's home won't change a thing, she is who she is unless she decides to change. But for now.....
eiyah...pele.
U arent bt i tnk shoutn @ her nd all wunt v any effect u v 2 sit her dwn talk 2 her calmly bt firmly tell her hw u fil nd ask her wat she rili wants nd y she does thoes tinz also tell her d differences btwn her nd her frnd (i sincerely tnk even d tope gal wuld luv 2 b in ur wifez shoes cus she as a man dat luvz her nd is redy 2 stick wit her unlyk her datz single she mite say shez luvin it nd shez in her youth bt evry gal wantz a carin man) plead wit her tell her hw much u luv her nd all nd remind her of d son u v 2geda datz my opinion i hpe it hlpz sha
No but just trust her
MY GUY U ARE OVER REACTING.PLS DNT PUSH UR WIFE IN2 WOT SHE NEVER INTENDS.
Show me your friend and i will tell who you are.......... your wife's friend is influencing your wife negatively. A Stitch In Time Saves Nine. Tell her to come back to Nigeria with immediate effect.
You are a very insecure man!!!! She's acting the way she's acting because you are always nagging her and you aren't open minded enough.
Yes u r. Both of y'all need counselling and fast.
Fikky.
You are not over reacting o. If it was me she'll be back in Naija the next day. Act fast cause your wife is already sitting on a long thing
You r nt overecting atall,even if u go to london urself nd drag her ass back home,u r still nt overeacting, but first of hve u spoken to her parent about dis?
I honestly dont think you are over reacting. I believe prayers and cool words can solve this. When she gets back as lovely as you can let her understand that she is blessed to be a step higher in life than her friend. Understand why she feels Tope is her role model and point out Tope's faults to her without condemning her , hence she will become defensive and you will loose her.
Again, she is a fun loving person, try not to make your marriage to be boring. Let her understand that she can still have fun while being married. Let her be your girlfriend not just wife, if you understand what I mean. I believe, with time she will see that she is blessed to be married acknowledging the fact that her friends might be jealous of her, hence seeking to ruin hers. Prayer and cool words wins all!
DIALOGUE AND LET HER KNOW THE IMPLICATION OF WHAT SHE IS DOING AS A WIFE AND MOTHER. AND INFORM HER PARENT TO TALK TO HER. MAY GOD HELP YOU.
DIALOGUE AND LET HER KNOW THE IMPLICATION OF WHAT SHE IS DOING AS A WIFE AND MOTHER. AND INFORM HER PARENT TO TALK TO HER. MAY GOD HELP YOU.
yes u are over reacting..infact over reacting dey worry u....its simple, if u can afford to send ur wife to uk for hols it means u can afford to go der urself nd drag her by the ear to the airport down home to lagos...women can be so inconsistent...u have a husband and a child, yet u go out hanging around with singles friends...after one lady will be praying for husband at the age of 35...na him be this oo...broda go and bring ur wife home *before it is too late* like obasanjo's open letter.
no u re not.if she refused coming bck ASAP tell her to get married to her okpo frd.disconnect her from dat tope ASAP for ur own good .
you are not over reacting.. it the best decision u made.. she should come back to you and talk some sense into her in a calm way.. is well oo
Yea you re over reacting dude, Try and trust ur wife all you ve said doesn't mean she is cheating.
Omg,I just can't blieve what I'm reading here,why will you send ur wif and your son to the uk alone,to make matter worse u allowed her to stay/mingle with her wayward friend! Guess you are the cause of your problems,u are not overeacting,smtin tells me she's been having extra marital affairs under your very own nose.gudluck
U sound like a very jealous and possessive husband, why will ur wife have to send you a picture of her cloth before she wears it out? I know ur kind of men. Fine ur wife hasn't done well probably becos u dont cut her some slack when she is around you hence she is seeing this opportunity as a means to be FREE and being in the company of a single friend is not helping her. Give ur wife some space my dear, u sound sooo possessive. GOSH
My brother na only God fit help you ooo.
You are not over reacting, but u should trust your wife and know what she is capable of doing. "And who sends his wife and son on vacation and stays behind?" The mistake started when u let her stay with her single lady friend.
no you are not overreacting at all my bro.
Really I think Tope is a bad influence on your wife and since she thinks you are over reacting maybe inform her parents about it so she can conform because she can be married and still be a modest sexy mama, she doesn't need all that rubbish, but Tope is the mastermind of this all.
Nope u are right on track
YOU DID THE RIGHT THING. SHE SHOULD COME BACK TO LAGOS AND FACE HER HUSBAND, SHES NOT SINGLE. WHEN SHE COMES BACK, U SHOULD TALK TO HER IN A CALM WAY.. IS WELL
You are not O.. All the signs are there.
U are so nt over-reacting. That ur wife tho...*lipsealed*
you see ya sef! Old man who doesnt know what he wants. when you see those of us that dress decently, you will say yoruba girls are smelling. my advise to you sha is to forget her and Tope. its obvious they are lesbian lovers.
Na wa o!..ur wife is apparently nt fully set 2 stay married..she still feels single n acts as such..I pray she doent do anythn nasty 2 call 4 a separation cos shez actin' funi alrdy...u aren't over reacting guy..just watch ur back cos dt lady would cheat on u in a blink..
I don't think he is over reacting , she is a married woman and therefore should respect , her husband, child , marriage and herself. I understand the fact that she feels she is losing her touch. women feel insecure sometimes. First you need to let her know she is beautiful. Maybe you do not let her know that enough. Bad friends are everywhere, at 28 she is old enough to make her own decisions and not do what her friends do .
Husband check yourself too. May be before she travelled you were doing small hide and seek with single ladies, post single in your profile and have more female friends. She's doing her thing just to be happy, that's one ugly thing abot women when they start. Dude another man has admired her. Period be more loving
Chai! Trouble don wear short nikka dey dance alanta. Oga check ur wife oooooo.Lips sealed.
I don't think you're over-reacting..I think you married an immature wife..who is not ready for responsibilities...
nahahahahaha sori gobe
WOMEN! WOMEN!! WOMEN!!!....God save us
She is not proud to be a married woman,Make i no lie you..your wife is still flirting.Better go do DNA test for your son
Wat an interesting story. I was laughing so hard.Oga go carry ur wife come back oh or else na divorce paper u go see. No u re nt over reacting.
u are not! protect what you have jealously
First of all, no you are not over-reacting, secondly, before you married her, was she wearing decent clothes?
Read the lines. i laff ur naive wife or ur naive self. It is men like u that give women d opportunity to misbehave. Theres 2 choices the right 1 or the wrong 1.
You're not, you're trying to protect your own. But correct her with love and let her see reasons. Shouting won't solve anything. Goodluck and God bless your union
Eeya sowie bro...God will lead u true.nd bring her back 2 lag quick..2 lok afta ur boy.mayb she will hav even abandon d poor boy.
When u allowed her to travel alone ђã†̥ do expect knowing the type of wife u married
Guy ur woman don enter 1 chance.u r nt over reactn at all.she had beter start comn bck imediately b4 water go pass garri
You married a prostitute with your eyes closed. When a woman wears one thing to give u an impression and changes it later and Ure still asking if Ure over reacting? She wears no ring, and is hanging out with an unmarried person who lives in another country without a job. Better send her back to her fathers house. She ain't naive. Wake up. This is 21st century. Anyone, and I mean anyone, can have fun with their ring on their finger. Stop sleeping
Man u need to grow up. Women feel confident when dey dress sexy and i don't see anything wrong in that as long as they don't look like a harlot. U stalk ur wife on instagram and instead of giving her money for the holiday u sent her for, u gave her your debit card so u can block it when she offends you. what a way to punish your wife. you really need to grow up
this wife dont know what she as am looking for a husband
she as one that cares about her not even cheating on her
You're not, you're trying to protect your own. But correct her with love and let her see reasons. Shouting won't solve anything. Goodluck and God bless your union
U did well. But pray she don't leave u soon cause of her age & if she hs tasted another man dat means u re history.
first you made a mistake for allowing her to stay with such a friend... but is never too late... u are not overreacting... and pls let her go for HIV screening test as soon as she returns... she has done the do... sex sex sex
You are not over reacting bro..you are just unbelievably dumb! To come on Linda Ikeji looking for advise about your home/marriage, you dont have friends? family? and besides you are a man for Gods sake and should be able to handle your shit like a MAN! mtcheww! about "..dear LIB readers.." ODE!
She's still a gud wife u knw,pls jes take tin easy wit her and am sure she loves u
Read Proverds 27: 4 and ask yourself if you're over-reacting.
No Sir! Love is jealous and possessive, dt Tope lady is a bad influence.
Over reacting ke? Dey inside water make soap enter ur eyes.
NO YOUR NOT!!! poor you!
You're not over reacting, your darling wife is just a little tramp! *excuse my french*
Hmmmmmmm dat is why we sld always ask God for a God fearing partners, not looks or pocket cos they r secondary. As for me her behaviour is bad/wrong, abi linda?(meemee).
the things we faze in life kz of women..lol...imagin ur wife on ur bill and messing around...funny. broda dnt take it too serz...sum dayz are like dt...swallow and move forward if u kan...if u knt..DIVORCE!!!!!!buh one thing is for sure...derz sumtin out der ur wife is interested in.
Well, Bros, Then That is not your wife
(whatever you choose to do with this information is your business). Sorry Bro
Which kind man be this sef? how do you know your wife gets excited when her friends sees her picture and dey say she is looking hot? that means u go through her chats. free your wife abeg
Dont tink u r ova reatin protect wat u av nd let her realise shes married nd shd learn ow to dress decent
nope ur not but infact u need a dirty slap oya send her packing from London to Lagos.
No.....I dont think you are overreacting but what makes u think your wife is naive. It could b d other way round plus she is just exhibiting who she really is.
Broda,u not over reacting in any way...guess shez had enough fun..she shld b taking the next flight to lagos...
So becos she is your wife u wan turn the poor girl to old woman over night. Young mothers of these days struggle to kip their looks... get used to it
Hmmmmm. I no fit talk for now. I will post my comment later
Yes you are overreacting. Is she not the mother of your son.
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Na u be the problem, its written all over this write up
chief you are not over reacting you just married a woman with low self esteem and needs approval from people all the time
so she constantly wants to be noticed and spoken to or spoken about
...u don enter just find a way to manage the situation and develop her self confidence
Withraw her passport when she comes back 1st....then you think of other actions. After all they will say all men are thesame even wen they are not yet married....See wetin married Woman they do.#sigh#
No,u are not over reacting.stand your ground and insist she comes back immediately.i dont knw y some women who are blessed to b married and in good marriages always allow d devil to use dem tear it apart.smh..
No.
No you are not. It is better to let her know your stand on sensitive issues. Let her just come back. She does not know that her friend Tope is not happy that she is married, she wants her to be like her. When women have head and cannot use it, hiss.
I dont think you are overreacting,
why will a wife pull her ring, why dont girls think, why do u want to cheat or be wayward at best. a 28 year old wife and u think u can flirt around and possibly cheat.
Noooooooooo,and you beta be watchful.
Your wife has self-esteem issue you need to help her workout. As I think that is the root of all her worries. Right now she get the attention she needs by looking provocative but it will not be enough for long, it might escalate to her requiring other sort of attention to make her feel beautiful. You complimenting her a lot might help.
i don't think you are overreacting hard luck brother your wife should really reevaluate her friendship with that wayward friend of hers
Loool. You are not over reacting,
Was Ur son at the club too? :|
Women! Here we r complaining d@ men cheat bt a lady is out dere giving her husband reasons2doubt her. Ild say u shd try2save ur marriage maybe talk2her pour out ur mind bt dnt b too hard,let her knw hw it's affecting ur marriage n d influence Tope is having on ur home(try2use us n nt u),go shopping with ha n pick out dresses d@ r young n vibrant bt nt revealing. Dis morning i read d@ marriages aint made in heaven,ur partners' action myt b soo shocking bt u nd effort 4it 2work.mk sure u talk2d Almighty ~Byen~
thats. bad she has to chnge
Never bother urself anymore, leave her to realises her mistake herself, d more you complain thats when she would think you are criticizing her. Allow her to fall, later she would learn how to stand up. Women with shit. #f**k dem.
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