I'm in a 3yr old marriage with a 2year old handsome son, I must say he looks like his gorgeous mum. I recently sent both of them to the UK on holiday but I wasn't comfortable with it as she insisted on staying with her "town girl" friend that doesn't have a job but she's relatively comfortable (raised eye brows) and she's never in a steady relationship, unfortunately my wife, most times looks up to her. When I complain about some of the revealing outfits my wife wears, she often says "Tope wore something similar and everyone loved it on instagram, no one said it was bad". She's always comparing her self to the likes of Tope, single girls that are some what wayward. You see, after child birth, I noticed that my wife's dressing changed for the worst, I could sense that she wanted to prove she was still hot. She gets a kick out of her friends calling her sexy mama and all sorts and I keep telling her she is married and she should tone it down especially to her place of work. Continue...Well, back to the UK where my wife and son currently are. This past weekend, she said she was going out for a party with the Tope. I said fine as long as she dresses decently. She sent a pic of what she wore just before she left the house, a nice leather looking black dress. Not too short but a little too tight but I let it slide. She posed innocently with her hands behind her back, I thought it was cute even though the pic wasn't so clear as it was outside. The next day, I was on instagram and I noticed Tope had uploaded pictures from their night out, I decided to check and guess what, my innocent looking wife wasn't look innocent at all. The dress was actually semi transparent, the sides were exposed showing that she didn't wear undies as well as the cleavage area, NO BRA!! My heart rate rapidly increased and my hands were shaking holding on to my android. Matters got worse when I noticed she didn't have her ring on, that's why she had her hands behind her in the pic. I immediately rang her up at the top of my voice asking her to explain why she didn't have her ring on and why she dressed like a tramp and that I had seen the pics on instagram. She was silent for a while, she then said she didn't want to lose the ring that's why she didn't wear it and in fact she had kept it away as soon as she got to the UK because she would be doing a lot of shopping and didn't want to lose it.
Her excuse for wearing the dress was that the club was dark and no one would have noticed her dress. Can you imagine her utterances, coming from a married woman and a mum, NO RING in a foreign land for over a week!. I have called her names and decided to block my debit card that's with her, at least the bank alerts will stop. I have insisted that she leaves Tope's house with immediate effect because for all I know, she may have set my naïve wife up with a guy and that she should get on the next available flight back to Lagos. She is saying i'm over reacting and that I don't want her to enjoy her youth, at 28.. I am mad angry is an understatement. Those images are stuck in my head for life. Fellow LIB readers, am I over reacting?
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 400 of 500 Newer› Newest»In fact u are under reacting!!!! Those excuses she's giving are so flimsy and stupid!! U better ask her to fly back to naija before they collect ur wife from u....
You are too possessive jare. I didn't see u write at any point that she has cheated on you the past three years of ur marriage. If she wants to dress like her friends and wants to look hot then let her be. women love such things alot
Never bother urself anymore, leave her to realises her mistake herself, d more you complain thats when she would think you are criticizing her. Allow her to fall, later she would learn how to stand up. Women with shit. #f**k dem.
Miss Jade sef...
Haaa Tope wan spoil ur wife life, plus ur wife sef no get sense, anyways guess its still youthful exuberance...
You aren't over reacting o my brother! if i were u sef i will show her parents/her siblings the pix.
plus good move for blocking your master card!
Iyawo oniranu jatijati
U are not over reacting!!! You wife is not a wife material finish!
LMAO... dis guy go get heart attack o!!! tho ur wife is 100% percent wrong not to always dress appropriately and shouldn't be looking up to her single girlfriends. But plz calm down
You married a runs girl without knowing it, a runs girl is always a runs girl! And who sends his wife and son to holiday in winter??
I don't think you're over reacting.
Infact,you are acting just the way a good husband should.try to get her back here as soon as possible.talk to her,and let her understand that there is a way a married woman carries herself.and let her understand she is a mother.and most importantly,pray for her.with time she would change.
Ladies with shit. Her network go soon fail .
Women! Here we r complaining d@ men cheat bt a lady is out dere giving her husband reasons2doubt her. Ild say u shd try2save ur marriage maybe talk2her pour out ur mind bt dnt b too hard,let her knw hw it's affecting ur marriage n d influence Tope is having on ur home(try2use us n nt u),go shopping with ha n pick out dresses d@ r young n vibrant bt nt revealing. Dis morning i read d@ marriages aint made in heaven,ur partners' action myt b soo shocking bt u nid effort 4it 2work.mk sure u talk2d Almighty ~Byen~
Hmmm this your wife need a long rope. But take it easy.
I think your wife is trying to enjoy life outside marriage life. but you need to curb her before is too late. if matter gets out of hand it'll be worse for both of you. You aren't overacting if am in your shoes i'll do more than that!!
Women! Here we r complaining d@ men cheat bt a lady is out dere giving her husband reasons2doubt her. Ild say u shd try2save ur marriage maybe talk2her pour out ur mind bt dnt b too hard,let her knw hw it's affecting ur marriage n d influence Tope is having on ur home(try2use us n nt u),go shopping with ha n pick out dresses d@ r young n vibrant bt nt revealing. Dis morning i read d@ marriages aint made in heaven,ur partners' action myt b soo shocking bt u nid effort 4it 2work.mk sure u talk2d Almighty ~Byen~
Lol. Ur wife reminds me of myself.d only thing I see here is u dnt trust ur wife. Now lemmi tell u my story. I hv been dating a guy for 8yrs now he proposed last year nd my wedding will be in may. Problem is I love to look sexy not for anyone but myself not even my fiance. I love to look at myself in d mirror cause Im hot. No jokes wen I walk pass pple I knw I turn heads and not jst men. My friends also call me sexy. Wat I would love d most is for my man to appreciate my looks but he doesn't he wants me covered up . I'm 30 nd pple say I look 25.but I want to be sexy now cause I dnt hv a life time to keep d body I hv. I also take out my ring wen I hv to go out at night or to a party same reason ur wife gave.i hv never cheated on him.nd he trust me.he jst has a prob with being too sexy.i think it comes with age.at some point u tell urself u dnt want to look old den u try too hard.wat ur wife is having is called "girl time" I dnt knw hw to further explain this but take a chill pill man she is on holidays let her hv her time.d more u allow her be sexy d better ur sex life especially wen u dnt make a force. Thank me later
Bitch you are an over reacting wimp!
LMAO... dis guy go get heart attack o!!! tho ur wife is 100% percent wrong not to always dress appropriately and shouldn't be looking up to her single girlfriends. But plz calm down
Guy chill out,wen u already no d Tope y did u allow her go der.woman wrapper u go pay bill for wat u re not comfortable wit.
Noooooooooo
-daisy
Go and sit down in one corner, u want to say u havent slept with another girl since u sent her to uk. holy holy
She is a kind of stupid wife,dat has forgotten where she is coming from.
Of course u'r not over reacting! Old age doesn't have anything to do with maturity. I think u married a girl not a woman. She might not have dis opprotunity before and thinks it's d right time to do dat. Just sit her down and talk sense into her or betterstill, threaten to divorce her.
I don't think you're over reacting.
Infact,you are acting just the way a good husband should.try to get her back here as soon as possible.talk to her,and let her understand that there is a way a married woman carries herself.and let her understand she is a mother.and most importantly,pray for her.with time she would change.
Wouldnt take the same.. this is called bullshit..
no you are not overreacting but thats what happens when you marry a young lady who didnt really explore all the fun as a youth. thats why u think before people get married both man an woman, they should have explored all that is out there, with caution though. because when they get married young they feel like they have been caged.
You wife still want je igboro..she wan chop town...You are not overeacting my brother. Am a lady and a wife and i think shes wrong..She doesnt need to be deceptive.
Bro you are 'underacting' damn!!!! You married to a whore! Sorry!!! But that's true!!! I would have said she is going through a change; that is trying to still prove she is still a babe. But it is obvious that Tope is a very bad influence and your wife needs to severe all links with her! She'd better be in your house ASAP or she turns to somebody else's. And you need to put a rein on her.
I am a married woman with 3 kids who married at 23 and had all my kids before 30. NO!!!! You are not overreacting. If my hubby did this, he would be in for it! She needs to check it fast. Don't get me wrong I hand with my friends but nothing that would ever cross the line like this. Bitch pls!
by the way, you are a good man!
You better find a way of restraining your wife. That's why some people say they prefer to marry a woman who is already in her thirties. Young girls (you married her at 25) still have their eyes outside. Do something about it decisively before you run yourself down
my dera broda, u aint ova reacting and i would do the same if i were in your shoes. your wife has got no reason not to wear her ring. i advise men to look at the friends their wife keep as the may be bad influence on them.
You married a lady not ready for marriage.
Jes sayin...
No you are not overreacting and I must say the naive one there is you. Your wife at 28 is not a child. Tope alone cannot be responsible for the doing of a grown up. If she valued her marriage, she would know to protect herself from sexual harassment particularly at the workplace by dressing appropriately. I think that you are giving this Tope too much credit and that you should wake up and see that your wife is a pretender.
Yes u are a pig! Don't u club or fuck other women abeg free the babe joor na her time biko when u stole her youthful age from her nko
You know what's funny about this post, with a little investigation you can find who the girl in question is on Instagram
No Mr! your not over reacting....infact your on the right track...her so called friend is trying very hard to break her marriage....make sure she comes back and talk sense into her head...
Let her enjoy her life na. I doubt your missus is cut out for the conventional wife/motherhood style as you know it. Learn to live with it or start shopping for a replacement. Who says the replacement will have it your way sef?
This marriage thing tire me, na by force?
It's so unfortunate how a lot of women are praying and hoping to be in this position of being a mum and a wife then the ones who are lucky enough to be dere are misbehaving. Lord have mercy on some women
You`re not overreacting,the truth is ur wife is not ready for marriage.
Dats very bad of d woman
You're not my brother. I am a Lady and newly married. Mad for me is understatement. Make she fly... Wait! I mean disappear back to Naija ASAP. What nonsense. Naive at 28? Nya bia nuo ara. *BIG SIGH*
I think you are overreacting, just a little bit. Monitoring never stopped anyone from cheating since the world started. In other news, whom were they leaving your kid to when they went partying? That should be your chief concern now
U are not over reacting at all...u did the right thing. As a married woman and mother she should keep away from her single friends
you re not over reacting but i will say you re under reacting.....Abeg make she fly down to 9ja asap and never let her travel alone again.....and for Tope u have to separate them asap.
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At NO BRA!
Ma dear ur not over reacting!
Atal brah...drag her back fam
NO YOU ARE NOT! She should actually respect and obey you. Besides married or not, you are not supposed to dress in an unbecoming way. She should come back home sharp sharp
NO YOU ARE NOT! She should actually respect and obey you. Besides married or not, you are not supposed to dress in an unbecoming way. She should come back home sharp sharp
U r not over reacting anything, berra mak her cum bk here asap if not u r on a long thing o. Dts y I'm scared of marrying a yoruba man. Infidelity runs in dr blood.
errr....yeah.....err.... she doesn't want to lose the ring. That sounds genuine. First off, the fact that your writing to LIB says it all doesn't it?
Do i really need to spell it it out for you?
Really?
My dear, u are not over reacting at all.u are doing what a man would do. What a man who truely loves and cherish his wife would do. Hurry up and get her out of that place b4 single ladies hook her up with the men here. Better still go there and drag her out of her friends place. This is what's trendy now.married but single. Whereby the men remain in naija and the wives lives abroad.
Pls u are not over reacting. Cut dat friendship with Tope. Ur wife is still naive and can easily b deceived. She can look hot and decent not hot and naked.plssssssss
Trust me ur very soft with her,u married her 2early probably and u love her way 2much to complain most times. Look ur not over reacting and u have to stand ur ground as d husband if not u will loose her for ever,or maybe father another man child with her. With people like her u don't know what to expect. Just keep ur calm pray about it and be a man
Yes you are over reacting. You are seeing a problem where no problem exists. The biggest problem here is that you use an android device. Young man, hath thou no shame?
You're going about this all wrong. Instead of telling her to catch the next flight back you should have called your travel agent and extended her stay for an extra two weeks. After that, hit town hard as a single man in Lagos. Trust me the "Single man in Lagos P" is deeper than the "single woman in the UK P" ya dig? she'll eventually wake up.
You are not over reacting oh my guy, you are doing the right thing. Am sure she has parents or older siblings i think you should let them know as well
NA wa o...I tot married women usually stay away frm single frnds and draw closer to married frnds.
I dnt think u r over reacting.
My Brother you are not over reacting. I understand your fears and truly you should be concerned! I mean a married woman should be proud to wear her ring anyday, anytime! What is she trying to prove pls. Who is she dressing seductively to attract? Is she in the showbiz? Is she looking for more fans! Why really can't she dress nicely and decently to please her man? Men, that girl eyes dey outside! Wetin she dey find abeg? Better get her on the next flight home b4 u loose your investment to another man! Imagine you even sponsored the trip and she's still mis-behaving. Pls get her to come home fast and have a heart to heart discussion with her. She is hurting you with her way of life and she needs to sit up and wake up to the realities of marriage! I don't mean a married woman shouldn't have some level of freedom but for heavens sake she needs to learn to respect herself, her marriage and her husband! Gosh! This your wife needs some good monitoring if u ask me. Some people can like to enjoy d freedom of single life and still want d bliss and sweet benefits of marriage. My dear, u can't eat ur cake and have it. So better make her sit up and act like a responsible married woman! Becos, trust me, plenty of irresponsible married women out there in our society today! Help your wife not to fall into that category! She sure needs Help fast!
ofcourse not dear,that what a man in his right sense will do.We ladies,give us a little freedom and we misbehave.Anyways you cant tell her to stop associating with the tope,as she matured enough to know what she wants,and besides its her right,freedom of association.The only thing you need do is try to talk to her calmly and make her see reason with you.
You are not over-reacting. How can a married woman go out without undies and even wearing a transparent cloth....You have done the right thing to question her because she is your wife.
You re not over reacting jare wich kind wife be dat?
You are not man. Speak some sense into her when she returns. If she remains adamant and unrepentant, use your discretion. Better still, pray! pray ! pray!
My dear...ur wife is not innocent at all, meanwhile caution ur wife ooh...evil communication corrupt good manners.
No Jare My Brother.. U re doing the Right Thing... Just take things easy wit her.
i dont think you are over reacting,ur just doing what a spouse should do.I suggest you make her see reasons and remind her of her status as a married woman.
No u ain't over reacting...
Maybe u gave ur wife a little 2 much leverage. What youth is she talking about? Wen she signed off 2 be a married woman, didn't she kn wat she was getting into. She thinks she is still a baby.
some women just use dere hands 2 ruin dere homes.
U really need 2 cub her excesses, since she doesn't kn, sit her down & talk some sense in2 her skull.
Probably she wants 2b in an Open relationship.
Dat Tope of hers wld neva do her any good.
*Naughty Girl*
Hmmm....girls of nowadays, my brother you are not over reacting. She should come back immediately.
Hiss
My dear, I sincerely tell u that u are not over-reacting. I was once in ur wife's shoes and I got shockers of my life. Pour ur jealousy on her, stop her from being friends with Tope, complain to her family and friend's(the good one's though) and above all, pray for her and specifically for the marriage.
husband wey no get confidence. you're being overly possessive and protective. take a chill pill abeg and several seats too.
FIRST, YOUR WIFE IS NOT NAIVE FROM WHAT YOU'VE SAID. SECOND, YOU NEED TO FIND CALM AND DEAL WITH THIS IN AN APPROPRIATE MANNER. YOUR REACTIONS MAY PUSH HER FURTHER AWAY FROM YOU.
Fuck your wife nigga....
She aint around...This is a free pas to fuck every single woman around...Let the slut, slut it up with someone else.... A hoe is always a hoe...
Fuck bitches get money my nigga
Doggy for shizzle
No sir, you're not. A married woman should carry herself with the dignity her position demands. Why take off the ring which by the way is more likely to get missing off her finger? Is she ashamed of being married? And what kind of stupid enjoyment of youth is she on about? There are many ways of having fun decently. Your wife comes across as not having a mind of her own which is really sad seeing as she has a son for whom she should be a beacon of light. I applaud you for the steps you've already taken but best believe you have your work cut out in deprogramming her of her friend's venomous hypnosis. Good luck.
Not at all, but at the same time i wonder if you didn't know who you got married to, anyway marriage is for life so you either learn to live with it, or you have to effect a change....to other guys this is a lesson, make sure you know a woman thoroughly before marriage...and treat her well so she stays that same woman you got to know.
Yes you are over reacting.... She was like that before u married her. Old habits die hard.
Free her joor. She is on holidays. I take my ring out too wen I go for parties or hoildays. I hv never cheated nd will never cheat. D more u get use to her sexyness d better ur love life.thank me later. Nd besides she will grow out of it sumday.she will not hv het bod forever.so tke a chill pill u hv d rest of ur life with her.enjoy d sexyness while it last
Yep u r overreacting learn to trust ur wife
U re even under reacting except u don't ve authority ova her nd u re wasting tym. Ask her 2 cum back straight wit ur son be4 it's too late,she can only go again wen u re going bcs she has misuse dis opportunity.
My dear , you should have read the hand writing on the wall. From her utterances prior to her travel, u could gave imagined her likely behavior in Tope's company. It us an absolute impossibility that a wet black paint will not stain a white paint in close proximity.
loooooool awwwwwwww so sweeet .
Yes u are haba let her be.
U av done de right tink!! Pls do make sure u are carefully wit her wen she comes back to de state
The irony of life...people are complaining that their wives dress like old women and my guy is complaining that his wife dresses like a tramp. Oh well, your wife to me seems like an immature young lady who is easily carried away. My advise: sit her down and talk to her softly.
No ure not, u did the right tin, so sad ur wife doesnt know tope wanna crush her marriage, show me ur friends and I would tell u who u are. Your wife needs to be tamed for her own good.
Dude, stop over reacting jooo....Learn to trust.
Take your mind off it and ull be very fine.
Stop stalking the poor lady. Shes too young for that at 28.
What if you didnt see her pix?
YOU BETTER GO GET YOUR WIFE DUDE B4 ITS TO LATE
tell her to pack out and see if she will not repent...if she wants to continue enjoying,she should leave your son n continue enjoying.
Bro. Your actions are right, Let her take the next available flight back home else her friend will be a catalyst for crashing your home.
Find a way to isolate and insulate her from the so called tope,else she make your wife a captain in her "ship" if u know what i mean.
meanwhile in london some wife didnt ve her wedding ring on
Well i think you wife is influence by her friend and you need to talk to her but pls allow to finish her vacation.That's shows you are more mature.than make her see things from your perceptive.
U r nt stand ur grand n hav her com bak to najia or u stand achance of lossin ur family
yes u are,i think u are over reacting,and i think u are too jealous.Just let her be,if she loves u,which l think,u dont have to be afraid of anything, my hubby trust me to a fault,and that is one reason l we forever love him,and we never cheat on him, cos to my ,he is the best.l am a mother of 2,l love dressing real hot,hubby never complain about my dressing or me not putting on my wedding ring,he calls me angel,he loves me the way l am.l am 32 happilly married now for 10yrs and still counting.let her be period.
Hmmm!!! Bros! I sympathize with your situation as it can be very un-nerving to be married to someone that gives out the vibe of still wanting to be in town and not even coding it at that. However patience and alot of tolerance will have to come into play here unless you are ready to head to the divorce courts. Your wife is not too young to be a wife and mother but e be like say she no rock enough in her youth... Also she seems to be very influence-able. Be patient and since you know say she like groove, try to be taking her out more often and even get her some of those racy outfits she craves so much. With you by her side, it will be more of a look don't touch scenerio. Before long when she sees say you are kinda down, the whole ting go tire her. Also by the time she born more kids, which time and energy she go get for all that wahala. Welcome to the institution of marriage where you will have to practice all the tolerance and patience you may or may not have within you. All the best and stay blessed.
Not at all my brother! Its very obvious she does not know what she has and how jealously guide it before she loses it. Obviously you do love her and care for her, hence you are also trying to protect her from the danger behind what she sees her friend does. If she know she wanted to enjoy her youthful age first, why getting married in the first instance?? Give her your rules and she has to obey them,else you put where she wants to be. After all you married her. Or did she pay your bride price?
@Poster, you're not over reacting at all. It seems your wife no enjoy life while she was still single! What's her family background? Is she from a poor home? Cos this is how they behave when they finally marry a well to do dude... Forgive me, I'm just thinking out loud. You better rebuke that Tope. "Rebuke the devil and it will flee from you" The earlier you seperate your wife from that Tope, the better for your marriage, I am telling you, that's my 20cents advise. So you wunt be surprise if tope was the one who convinced her to come to UK so she can introduce her to other men. Cos I'm wondering, why will a married woman dress in such manner without her wedding ring for that matter??? *sigh* Things are happening oo. @Poster, don't be cought sleeping on a bicycle.
Some of you men are the cause of your problems. Likewise women! I always say, except you are blind or you don't have sense, the handwriting is always there before marriage. Everything we encounter after marriage, the handwriting has always been there, we have thought the brain to think less or forget about certain things in our partners. Nobody is perfect but we must all look for people that complement us. Youmust have seen it in your wife that she is easily swayed or she doesn't have a mind of her own. people always damn d consequences of some bad traits u see in ur partner. Sorry maybe I am being to harsh or maybe because I studied psychology. People do not change except for the grace of God. Marriage does not change people. Infact you should study your partners flaws not the good part. Ask urself can I deal wiv it! Be observant. No matter how anyone pretends, they cannot pretend for more than 6 months. For a novice u can no who your partner is within 6 months. Your wife and tope were doing the same kind of bullshit before yourwife hooked u. Am sorry, am painfully truhtful. It is either u saw it but u were clouded by her beauty. No responsible woman would remove her ring and go to the club looking like that wivout her man! It was like she has been looking forward for that freedom. Your wife probably f,,,,,,kd that night too! What was her motive for removng her ring and dressing that way? Maybe she just went to taste wine.... Oga, when she comes back home, give her a good talk! I hope she listens...
nooooo you arent. at all!! infact your anger is little. what kind of wayward living is thAt???? not only 21st century. shouldnt she be happy she has a man that loves her and provides??? yet she still has her eyes outside her marriage. nawa ohhh!!! women!! her excuse is sooo useles. not only shopping!!! i wish i could speak to her. only prayers can deliever sef. Goodluck men. let her come back now now now let her head clear. stupid girlfriend that doesnt have someone to settle down with is who she is following. she doesnt know the girl might be very jealous. your wife sholud understand what the Bible says about virtuous women., if she didnt want to settle down she should hav stayed single...i rest my case
Your wife is staying with an old friend whom u dont know so how did u find her on instagram, you are not only stalking your wife but also everyone around her. you will soon have high blood pressure. idiat
M̶̲̅Y̶̲̥̅̊ guy Y̶̲̥̅̊o̶̲̥̅̊и̣̣̣̣ did not over react because women don't use to ting a friend did not marry she W̶̲̥̅̊Ƹ̴ confuse her J̶̲̥̅̊u̶̲̥̅̊ƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇̇τ̣̣̥ a minute , J̶̲̥̅̊u̶̲̥̅̊ƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇̇τ̣̣̥ ℓƸ†̥ her com back first after this opportunity don't try Ȋ̝̊̅†̥ again.
No u are not sir. Divorce her and come marry me. I'll be wearing jalabia 2 the club... lol
no you are not. your wife is a hoe,and she gat complex. you've gat a lotta work to do
My fellow LIB reader you are not over reacting your wife is not serious. unfortunately you married a shallow minded woman that allow friends to influence her. well done as you try to call her in order.
No u are not dear, you are just protecting what is yours. But some girls self won't respect their self, y did she get married since she want to enjoy life that way.
Hmmmmmmm! Ur wife neva ready ohh...
Hmmm! Been jealous comes with luv n care towards some1, @ 28 she's still blabbing nonsense, she should ve told u earlier so dat u should choose sum1 worth been housewife, some ladies sef, yl oders re prayn for her opportunity, she's still follown tope, handle d situation very well b4 its too late o. N she shuld learn to behave responsible.
You are protecting your thing
Hmmmm....firstly calm down and talk 2 ur wife, i mean face 2 face wen she comes back. Communication is key. Ask her wat she rili wants cos as it is she has fantacies in her head nd u have 2 b part of them. Secondly do an honest self appraisal on ure self weda u ar a control freak if u ar den work on it and lastly communicate ur values wif ur wife nd make her understand.
And yes u overreacted.
So where was the boy when ur wife and her friend went to party? if he was with her then u shouldn't accuse her of hiding her status cos she didnt have her ring on. i'm also a married woman and i put off my ring once in while
Let her come back before its too late. Hotlaface.
Sincerely, u r not. If she wanted to live d single life, she shouldn't v gotten married na. U can't eat ur cake n have it. I hope u son is safe tho
Well...I believe one's wife has the right to still remain sexy after childbirth but in a more mature n special way....you should get her to know this
If I hear u r ova reactin,its ur tin if u stiII vaIue her n want her den find a way 2 gt her back.report her 2 her mum or sum1 u knw she Iisten 2 veri weII tope is a bad infIuence on her Oº°˚˚°ºoo
LOL...as a female sympathising with another female, I have to say that just because you're married doesn't mean you can't enjoy a little vacay or look sexy or enjoy the occasional compliment. You as her husband can even build on all that and take it to the bedroom so the general idea is that she can look sexy as long as you're the one getting the benefits. That being said, her taking off her ring is an absolute and utter NO NO, so you're right to be furious about that. If you're not comfortable with the way she dresses that's a conversation you guys have to have again. While I don't think you should run around in hot pants once you're married, the way you dress is somewhat a personal thing but you need to come to some kind of compromise. She may just be being immature and acting out because she has finally experienced some "freedom". If you let her be who she is, she may in turn respect your opinion and meet you halfway when it comes to how she dresses and acts when you're not there. My two cents: don't act like an ogre and start issuing threats and ultimatums because you may just push her away (into Tope's house permanently sef) and you sound like you love her.
Madam Linda please tell me why I should comment when each time I do u refuse to post it,I'm actually a new LIB reader n u refuse t post mine,carry waka
#yawns!
~D great anonymous!
Dude u r not over reacting, IF U DONT CHECK HER NOW U R IN TROUBLE
truth be told your wife is eager to get laid, she wants to get some!!!!...........and hell no ur not over reacting.
The wife is stupid and you Julit you are daft
No, you are not over reacting. She can be sexy but responsible. Jeez, without underwear....thatz too much.
Two things I noticed. The husband is controlling. Probably a control freak. (Men can like can make you want to strangle yourself. )
The single girl life is still "hungrying" the wife. Her eyes are still outside.
Good luck to both parties.
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Hell no, you are not over reacting at all. just let her know how much u missed her & that she needs to be back, that Tope of a friend is a bad influence and she needs to be avoided, unless you want to loose the wife you had. Joy.
u r not over reacting. she needs to be checked and must change her role model. bcos Tope will keep advicing her even in Nigeria.
Like seriously what is Julit 4:27pm saying??? The woman is not serious and do not value her husband and family. Seriously, I dont think you are over reacting. If I were a man I will do worst.
don't worry,holiday will soon be over nd she will b back to her normal life wen u both re together.
Is he over reacting???hhmmnn.
Ur such a stupid person. How will u feel if ur husband goes around without his ring nd go clubing den tykin pictures with girlz? She's a married woman so she is meant to respect herself nd stop all single attitude.
Dt's ain't ryt no matter which way U̶̲̥̅̊ look at it. So D only way to enjoy one's youth is by being a tramp? Oh pulizzz! She's married wit a child, she ain't single no more. Bsyds even as a single, dt outfit is quite trashy. Nuff said!!!!!
NOW THAT'S REALLY MESSED UP!
Thats not right of her and u r not over reacting. Many men wold have done worst. Maybe catch the next flight to uk. Tope is no good friend to a married woman. She( ur wife) has to come bk biko, before u loose her to another bigger dude. She is not behaving well as a mother with a a husband. I did nt say she shld not party, bt must she? Without u? And wht she wore is too ba, without undies? Naaa..., atleast u have learnt from this. Dont u ever send her abroad again if u will nt go with her. Then who tuk care of ur son? Its well
Yu aint in any way,a wife shd remain so anytym anywhr so if possibl use barrow go bring am bak
Get ur wife nd call her to order we have culture and tradition my friend.
Nope u r not over reacting..there's nothing wrong with her having fun bt she can also have fun with her ring on n in a decent dress n still look sexy!!!! U also have to pray that God should break up her frendship with "tope" ooooo this one that she doesn't have a mind of her own before it turns to something else...
@ Thoughts of Wandering mind... If girl life is still ''hungrying'' her why did she get married? And I think the husband is not a controlling freak, do you expect him to close his eyes where his wife shares what is his? I pity you. And for you Julit, go and sleep.
I feel she still wants2 look sexy as a youngmum.u shud allow her wear sexyoutfits dat are not too revealin. Am sure d xperience she's avin dere she hasn't had dat in a longtym,cos I'd ask wen was d last tym u tuk her out on a romantic dinner?she's jst usin d opportunity cos u not dere 2 quest evrytin don't b ova protective let her enjoy her youthful age b4 she fades away in a decent manner. #Vivian says so ........flipshairandwalksaway
You don enter one chance!
Next time do not send her abroad all alone. Better still,you can get a private detective to monitor her actions.I have an uncle who lived abroad,but had his wife based in Nigeria due to her schooling.She formed this habit of not wearing her wedding ring whenever she is in the company of friends. Since she was in my school,I discovered that she was messing around not just with guys,but girls as well.I complained to my mother and her sisters over my findings, since she was so stupid as not to even discreet about it .They took punitive actions,which led to the end of the marriage.
Unbelievable comment coming from Julit 9if she isn't the person in question though). If it were the other way round, would you say the woman has no confidence?
Anyway, people are entitled to their opinions; no matter how good or bad.
Get ur wife back and ask her what she wants. I think she is not just childish but she isn't ready yet.
HOW DOES LINDA CHOSE THE COMMENTS SHE PUBLISHES?
U love her dats why u are worried, but please allow her to wear whatever she wanna wear, but be firm and let her know dat u don't like it when she does not wear her ring especially now dat she is not with u, just take it easy with her sha
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guy bring your wife back home b4 its too late
Pls it has nothing to do with confidence or being over protective and possessive, if you don't caution her now, it might be too late then. She needs to understand she can still dress sexy as a married woman but in a decent way. She can wear a short dress, but not too short. On your part, you should take it easy on her because if you are too hard, you just might lose her. With a friend like Tope, it wont take too long for her to brain wash your wife and convince her to leave you
Hmmmm, Juliet na wa ooh. The truth is do you go to war just because you "feel" you will win? That dressing and invitingly not looking married in any way, may just invite some chap who is ready for the chase and things go shelle, no story. We all need to be careful in our relationships give cause for your partner to have doubts and ...... Now why exactly is this lady, advertising herself, does she want to confirm how hot she is, and when toasters start coming she will resist or what. Men this packaging can be dangerous. Take am easy ooh sexy mama, cos some rude boys who are good finishers may just bump into you. And you cant tell, if it will end up a fling, relationship or whatever, of cause none is good for you.
Yeye people! So surprising you all are not telling him to send her packing quick! If it was the other wey round the women thugs here would have advised her to leave the marriage! =))º°haha°º=a&a=aº°haha°º =)) =))º°haha°º=a&a=aº°haha°º =))
@julit am sure u r nt married and obviously nt in a steady relatnship!if u were married and ur husband had taken off his ring gone clubbing and denied he ws married!hw wld u feel.its obvious her frd is misleading her!its such a pity if she goes on she mite end up single lik her frd and then wat next she wld turn to an old hag...Charmie
His fears were justified when his wife started partying around without her wedding ring.Why in the world will a married woman be walking around without her wedding ring ?
My 1st comment, Truth be said bro...you need to check her. The other ladies saying you are overprotective or a jealous man are probably related to Tope or are their own Tope's. Act like you are not bothered and keep an eye on her to know what she's up to while she's back in the country with you. It is obvious she wouldn't own up to anything till she's caught. I see no reason for such behaviour, if as a married woman she still clubs and removes the ring. That's an early sign.
There is no issue with wanting to look hot and still sexy after childbirth,but she should know that as a married woman she needs to be more responsible pertaining to everything...
Dear Anonymous 4:51,most guys in abuja do it ALLLLLLL the time (go clubbing n all without wedding bands on and yes they are married)! So YES he should go and take seeeeeeeeeeeveral sits!
I'm not saying the woman is right (I dnt even bloody care) but they should both find a way to work their marriage.
Julit be chatting nonsense! He made a good move by blocking his debit card! How will she explain her 'semi-naked' self to her child!. I blame the husband for letting her put up with the Tope sef. #babecantbemessingaroundwithmymoneywithoutmyring!
Well said. Am Impressed!
@ julit! are u married? am sure u are not. you are not in anyway sensible to advise a man that is married calling him overly possessive and protective.whats the meaning of OVERLY?grammatical chicken.
HUSBAND-That's not overreaction,its cos of the feeling of a husband towards his wife.You married her and that why you have a SAY in everything that concerns her.Please take note that tope is not a friend of hers,she's a destructive friend,if tope is a good girl,why isn't she married? She's a bad influence and ur wife has to choose between a friend and her marriage.and if she chooses tope then better for her,she can then live with tope and behave alike with her.but if not,then she should use her head and keep her decency that got her into marriage in the first place.as long as she stays under ur roof,she should follow ur advise and take them as rules to keep her husband happy and save her marriage.
@veracious you are a very stupid person. he married her so what? she should lock herself up in the house. people like u will tel their husband its okay to cheat. mumu
Wife wey no dey hear husband advise. Abeg send her packing jare
=))º°haha°º=a&a=aº°haha°º =)) =))º°haha°º=a&a=aº°haha°º =)) !!! More than one chance. The guy is probably boring!
I pity you my brother.my ex wife almost made me run mad with similar issue. At a point in my life I was almost going crazy as she made life more than miserable for me. I woke up from everyday regretting why I married her and blaming myself for not listening to pple when they warned me not to marry her.Her frnds were all single girls and to worsen the already bad situation, she told them so many horrible unbelievable lies about me that one couldn't imagine a wife could say about her husband just bcuz she wanted a justifiable reason to start sleeping around.just like ur, when she travelled out out of the country, she stopped wearing her ring which I found out also from the pictures on her dp.Funny emough I loved her so much and could do anything to make her happy but it turned out she was more interested in promiscuity and adultery. Funny enough, I cought her cheating and after her confession, i decided to end the marriage. All her attempt to try to resolve with me met brick walls and she started with blackmail. She went about telling everyone I was a bully, I was maltreating her etc. This is one of the reasons why I don't believe women again when they say their husbands abuse them. Women can lle chei expecially when they want to cover their shame so pple don't blame them.I thank GOD I ended the marriage bcuz I almost died in it if not for GOD. I am young and very good looking but I fear women and marriage more than anything now. I still feel the trauma of her evil deeds towards me till now after many months of ending the marriage. Poster, to be very frank with you, you don't have a wife. If you put ur mind so much on that woman, you might end up dying before ur time. Some women are evil.
No your not, dat tope gal is not her friend and ur wife is not a baby now, she shld know her left from her right. Yes a married woman can look sexy and Responsible not reviewing everything. She need to come back
Dressing sexy doesnt mean been naked,you should let her know when she crosses the red line,marriage comes with responsibilities,girls of this days just want to get married,but they dont want to know the responsibility that comes with it,that is why lots of broken marriages litters the corners of every country,so much for civilization.
Your acting lyk a teenager. Beta be a man.U married her not the other way round be a man and save ur family esp ur son who is fast growing..it would be wrong 4 ur son 2 grow up and see his mom dressing half naked and goin 2 clubs
Dear Anonymous 4:51,most guys in abuja do it ALLLLLLL the time (go clubbing n all without wedding bands on and yes they are married)! So YES he should go and take seeeeeeeeeeeveral sits!
I'm not saying the woman is right (I dnt even bloody care) but they should both find a way to work their marriage.
This rather matured guy loves this girl and I do not see him as a control freak in any way. For Gods sake they have a child together and him being protective of the dearest people to his heart isn't a crime! I am a married Nigerian girl who's lived in the UK for years, the distractions are there, but are they worth losing your home for ?HELL NO! Knocking off your ring on a one week vacay here is just a childish move! That doesn't stop anyone from engaging in extramarital affairs, it shows you have absolutely no regard for the vows you took before God and man.Poster,please put your feet down on wifey getting on the next flight here, there are things you both need to address face to face. Endeavor not to be too harsh on her, go somewhere nice with her and do let her know what her actions are capable of doing to your young marriage, that being said, deal with the issue at hand and not her personality, I want to believe she's a good woman too and probably just a lil carried away..Kike.
can u guys pls stop insulting the mans wife in question. he asked for your opinion on the matter not for you to insult her.. oga that posted this marriage is between two pple stop bringing outyour marital issues for the world to comment on.
Why dont we hear her side of the story before we judge, he is only assuming she is posing as a single lady cos he is not with her. dont be surprised she's not hiding hiding her status. men can lie sometimes
@Poster!There's no gainsaying that your wife is totally wrong.why on earth should she not put in her RING? did she buy it with her money? why is she giving excuses? WILL THE RING SLIP OFF HER FINGER?
As for me, its two things! I can allow my wife wear even bikini to d club, as far as I'm there to protect her. But in my abSence, its zero tolerance of such. Two, the ring thing is total rubbish! Dat friend of her's is evil. And she sef no get sense.
oga poster, stop bring out ur family issues to the world,they wouldnt solve it for u.go and pray and use wisdom
GBAM!!!
What or where is the logic in what you have said? A child means married? Or a wedding band and a two year old are interchangeable? At home or work handling chemicals or cooking we can understand or if jewellery doesn't ket you sleep comfortably we understand but going out? Madame you are wrong.
Ur not. Pls bring her back. ur married does not mean u can dress sexy. But u hav to also look Responsible not reviewing everything dat Tope gal is not a gud friend @ all
chairman! my guy!.... ehn, u need to do something to shake her up! I think she believes that you are a maga.
Madam Linda please tell me why I should comment when each time I do u refuse to post it, I have been posting for over three months and you have yet to post any of my comments
You aren't overreacting. I think your wife just needs a reality check. I understand the fact that she's still young and she still wants to look youthful, but she's married and a marriage comes with responsibilities so she really need to start being a responsible married woman. You guys should just sit down and have a chat. Ask her what she wants: if she wants to be married and committed or youthful, young wild and free. Goodluck.
No responsible house wife would do all that. You really need to sit your wife down and talk to her. Then with prayer I believe she ll change. You need wisdom to handle it sha.
You made a mistake marrying her :(
Feel bad for you bro.
Divorce isn't the answer though. Get her friends and family involved.
Pls ignore julit.
Hahahahahhahah... em Hapi it's d lady dt is doin it. me wl do same biko if I hv d chance. Hahahahhahahahah... d Bbe just wanna flex small joor... u guys do it alot. Y yhu dy fear na? Over hot stl dy wori her joor
Listen to urself Madame,did u even read wht he said? she went partying @ night. Wld u take ur baby to a night party?
Overreacting ke? With the woman u love bikonu do wtever it takes to drag her behind Home!! ASAP
U have spoken well my dear, u possess wisdom.....kudos!
you are not over reacting at all... shivers ran through me reading ur post. WOO- men?????????????
Second that.
Fikky
@Julit, I'm a woman too and I must say that I'm very disapointed at u. U must be an irresponsible whore!
Olodo clap for ur self. U re proud to say dt a marriage ended cos of ur "report card" nature. U ve not heard dt Itz said, "woe unto dt man thru whom a marriage is put asunder"
Hmmmmm.... U r nt over reacting. Buh pls thread carefully so as nt to crash ur marriage
@julit I feel for u cos ure simply insane
@Julit, I'm a woman too and I must say that I'm very disapointed at u. U must be an irresponsible whore!
When she gets back to Naija, give her one hot ogbonge slap and do as if nothing happen. She will readjust herself. Lol. Please you need to be calm with her abeg. Next story please.
Mr man have u been to uk b4? Life der is very diff..... U need to handle ur wife very well.... She is really cheating on you......just tell her to bring ur son home or u go for him urself and leave her der...... Bcos she's a different person now. That's my little advice
Transparent on the sides? No underwears? Jeeeez! Did you marry a beautiful whore? She probably left your son somewhere safe while she went out having fun..now, am for looking good, feeling sexy and confident in yourself, but the truth is you can be all that and still don't come off as trashy and am a single girl, blessed with beauty and a very curvaceous body, but still there are some clothes that are too outrageous and I never wear such...A married woman should respect her husband, her marriage and esp the fact that she' s starting to raise kids now...please make sure you talk things out and make sure you guys are on the same page.sorry about how you feel and No, you're not overreacting@ all...You obviously love your wife, hope her stupidity and crave for fun outside won't cost her 'her marriage...She should've stayed single if she wasn't ready for marriage...being a wife is not just opening your legs, getting pregnant and giving birth...its about being a friend, mother,role model and@ the same time being your husband's sexy bitch ;) ...best of luck sir
PRETTY GIRL
is it dat u dint knw how ur wife dresses b4 u married her ni?
abi is it after marriage and kids she started behaving like dat?
dese things dnt start suddenly, d way u ignored d fact dat d dress was tight was how u ignored all her behaviors until it got to dis extent. my advice: pray to God
You have not yet reacted. I'm still waiting for the reaction. Speaking as a single lady. I'm sorry but i think your wife is a major apology.
Chei see dis life ehn...Person wey get head no get cap o. See we wey dey find man marry us na em one person wan use r hand throw erslf to the dogs. U see man send u go vacation cum.release em debit card to u, u stil.wan mess around. Na wa o. Lesson of d day, is neva force an unready woman into marriage, cs she wil stil want to enjoy er youth whilst been married. Cs it shows she got married early nd stil wants to catch fun.
@ anon u re a fool ashawoo dat is what u re, is very bad 2 a married woman 2 go out without her welding Ring nd again club without wear undies habar no nw bros u did not over react nd ur wife must hv go out wit another man dat is just d truth ur wife is nt serious wit her marriage dat is all nd she's nt happy dat she meet a nice man as her husband all u need 2 do rite nw tell her 2 com back wit ur son nw nw nw wen she comes back ask her if she's ready 4 marriage ask her very well invite her father nd her mother tell them what she did hmmm.
@ anon u re a fool ashawoo dat is what u re, is very bad 2 a married woman 2 go out without her welding Ring nd again club without wear undies habar no nw bros u did not over react nd ur wife must hv go out wit another man dat is just d truth ur wife is nt serious wit her marriage dat is all nd she's nt happy dat she meet a nice man as her husband all u need 2 do rite nw tell her 2 com back wit ur son nw nw nw wen she comes back ask her if she's ready 4 marriage ask her very well invite her father nd her mother tell them what she did hmmm.
@ anon u re a fool ashawoo dat is what u re, is very bad 2 a married woman 2 go out without her welding Ring nd again club without wear undies habar no nw bros u did not over react nd ur wife must hv go out wit another man dat is just d truth ur wife is nt serious wit her marriage dat is all nd she's nt happy dat she meet a nice man as her husband all u need 2 do rite nw tell her 2 com back wit ur son nw nw nw wen she comes back ask her if she's ready 4 marriage ask her very well invite her father nd her mother tell them what she did hmmm.
@ anon u re a fool ashawoo dat is what u re, is very bad 2 a married woman 2 go out without her welding Ring nd again club without wear undies habar no nw bros u did not over react nd ur wife must hv go out wit another man dat is just d truth ur wife is nt serious wit her marriage dat is all nd she's nt happy dat she meet a nice man as her husband all u need 2 do rite nw tell her 2 com back wit ur son nw nw nw wen she comes back ask her if she's ready 4 marriage ask her very well invite her father nd her mother tell them what she did hmmm.
@ anon u re a fool ashawoo dat is what u re, is very bad 2 a married woman 2 go out without her welding Ring nd again club without wear undies habar no nw bros u did not over react nd ur wife must hv go out wit another man dat is just d truth ur wife is nt serious wit her marriage dat is all nd she's nt happy dat she meet a nice man as her husband all u need 2 do rite nw tell her 2 com back wit ur son nw nw nw wen she comes back ask her if she's ready 4 marriage ask her very well invite her father nd her mother tell them what she did hmmm.
lol its funny how everyone's comment is in support of you... guess it is a Nigerian mentality.
But as a foreigner I would say take a chill pill, you seem to be very much over reacting . calm down please!!!
Anon 4:37, thank u. There is no way he didnt see the signs before marrying her. He went ahead nd married her cos she is gorgeous now he is complaining, idiot oshi, endure it brother ode
D thin is dat ur wife is senseless. Becos dat other girl don't want her to stay in marriage. She's lookin 4 some1 lik her dat they can be leavin same life onto say she no get husband.
Hahahahahahaahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahaha tnks nelson for ur comment oooh u re a great comedian....
Of course.u are not ova reacting.make sure u block dat card.guy.wake up and smell d coffee.
you are over reacting, im a 59 year old grandmother, you wife is her own person free to dress how she wants, cutting off her allowance will old send the wrong message, and give her a reason to get funds elsewhere. at the same time you wife need to respect you wishes as you need to respect hers.. have a good heart to hart, meet each other in the middle. Hope you have a long happy marriage.
Lmao... made my day...
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