I'm in a 3yr old marriage with a 2year old handsome son, I must say he looks like his gorgeous mum. I recently sent both of them to the UK on holiday but I wasn't comfortable with it as she insisted on staying with her "town girl" friend that doesn't have a job but she's relatively comfortable (raised eye brows) and she's never in a steady relationship, unfortunately my wife, most times looks up to her. When I complain about some of the revealing outfits my wife wears, she often says "Tope wore something similar and everyone loved it on instagram, no one said it was bad". She's always comparing her self to the likes of Tope, single girls that are some what wayward. You see, after child birth, I noticed that my wife's dressing changed for the worst, I could sense that she wanted to prove she was still hot. She gets a kick out of her friends calling her sexy mama and all sorts and I keep telling her she is married and she should tone it down especially to her place of work. Continue...Well, back to the UK where my wife and son currently are. This past weekend, she said she was going out for a party with the Tope. I said fine as long as she dresses decently. She sent a pic of what she wore just before she left the house, a nice leather looking black dress. Not too short but a little too tight but I let it slide. She posed innocently with her hands behind her back, I thought it was cute even though the pic wasn't so clear as it was outside. The next day, I was on instagram and I noticed Tope had uploaded pictures from their night out, I decided to check and guess what, my innocent looking wife wasn't look innocent at all. The dress was actually semi transparent, the sides were exposed showing that she didn't wear undies as well as the cleavage area, NO BRA!! My heart rate rapidly increased and my hands were shaking holding on to my android. Matters got worse when I noticed she didn't have her ring on, that's why she had her hands behind her in the pic. I immediately rang her up at the top of my voice asking her to explain why she didn't have her ring on and why she dressed like a tramp and that I had seen the pics on instagram. She was silent for a while, she then said she didn't want to lose the ring that's why she didn't wear it and in fact she had kept it away as soon as she got to the UK because she would be doing a lot of shopping and didn't want to lose it.
Her excuse for wearing the dress was that the club was dark and no one would have noticed her dress. Can you imagine her utterances, coming from a married woman and a mum, NO RING in a foreign land for over a week!. I have called her names and decided to block my debit card that's with her, at least the bank alerts will stop. I have insisted that she leaves Tope's house with immediate effect because for all I know, she may have set my naïve wife up with a guy and that she should get on the next available flight back to Lagos. She is saying i'm over reacting and that I don't want her to enjoy her youth, at 28.. I am mad angry is an understatement. Those images are stuck in my head for life. Fellow LIB readers, am I over reacting?
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«Oldest ‹Older 401 – 500 of 500Aaaah i get u coded. Nd dat that he cant block is the koko!!!
my guy talk to your WIFE.not random lib readers who dn't know shit about her its not your teenage daughter you are dealing with here. have that heart to heart talk on what you both want in this marriage and decide which direction it should take asap.best wishes.
Beat your wife and send her away penniless? Is she a goat or a horse or some kindda RAM. Are you stupid? You must be brain damaged. Just because she is doing what she's doing, you think its ok to beat a woman? You are a coward, a senseless he goat. Shame on you. If there are better insults and abusive words to use with you and your kind, I will use them. I guess you're one of those baboons that hit their wives, unh. Well, I hope someone beats the shit out of you too. The nerve of this a-hole to write such disgusting, filthy trash he calls an advice. Beat your wife? ARE YOU CRAZY? HAVE YOU LOST YOUR MIND?
Yes and no. She's being a little inappropriate but your reaction and prior assumptions are a little childish. But then again, maybe U've noticed subtle stuff that U didn't mention. Just do u and try not to get too angry. Quick question: Do U wear your wedding ring in Lagos?
My brother I fee your pain..let me advise u..go get your wife and get her pregnant again.. She will stop..hehe
I really hope this guy gets to see my comment. You are not over reacting but you are also not focusing on the right things. It is YOUR job to make your woman feel like a goddess. Do you compliment her? Do you make her feel like the only girl in the world? Honestly, she should not have to seek validation from any other male or female. I'm not blaming you though, I'm just saying you need to make the mother of your child feel like nobody in this world is as good looking as her. Trust that Tope and some random instagram likes will do nothing for her if you can do this. On another note, her behavior is extremely inappropriate. You don't even need to be a mother to know that indecent dressing shows that you lack class.
Guess thats y u r still single. What should she do to you when the situation is reversed? I get the feeling you think you are a priced possession, eh?
#okpotinz!!! Lmao! Bros u get money shaa
Beating? Na wa for you
@poster no bros u are over heating.Na when ur 2and son go look like ur landlord u go understand what sup.
She want to flex or better still don't love u anymore.
Cheesy you are a goat. Married woman should go out when it's obvious she's not wearing panties? Even single girlls should not do that
Poster birds of the same feathers flock together this story nor be today. You knew how she was before you married her. Women don't just change overnight. You married shakara woman so you will have to cope. When people say wifey material this is what they try to avoid. Set ground rules. She needs new friends. Preferably wifey material types.
Guy serve her with divorce papers and file for sole custody of your son, save the pic on Instagram as evidence.... She's a silly bitch, don't blame her friend, we are all responsible for our own actions
Best advice ever. What he has done with this egotistical, insecure reaction is make her reclusive. Next time, she will hide the pictures and she will have fun, maybe even twerk a little, thanks to your insecurity. Im sure if she thought you'd be this insecure about it, she would have told her friends to not load up the picture, you do know that right? Your wife is not naive, she knew what she was doing, she is just having fun. Now, when she gets home, she will look for a job and the heck with you blocking her bank card. You are very insecure, egotistical, unsure about yourself. Your wife is not a doll, she is your partner stop trying to control her. Stop raising your voice to your wife like she's some animal you picked up on the streets, stop acting like an animal yourself. You get no sympathy from me on this write up. If this is what marrying a Nigerian man is, I want absolutely no part of it.
The guy who has just told this cool story didnt tell us his age...since his hot wife says he doesnt want her to enjoy her youth at 28, then he is prolly around 45-60...poor guy
Choi, really? No shame in your game.
Thank you O. She probably never thought alk these extra garbage, now she's thinking it. Great way to get your wife to cheat.
You are not over reacting.please stand on your decision.Holiday is over for her.
Lol o boy! U funny o! But guy e no easy o to be 1st to comment o for LIB! I feel u man, I rejoice with u. Na wa o
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My dear, u are taking it so slow wth her... First, get her bck to lag nd deal wth her... Make her suffer for insultin cuz she actually insulted indirectly... Wat a foolish woman she is
Tell her to watch confession featuring Kim k.
100 likes.
Guy...ur wife just wants new experience...
She wants to escape the boredom of your prick...
She's not leaving you...
No...
She just wants some spice and variety in her life...
She just wants to flex and get fucked by a different prick altogether...
But guy o....are you really loving your wife enough, enough to stick her to your dick alone?
Has your marriage not grown stale over time?
Do something fast please, else your wife will still do, whether you hurry her back to Nigeria or you leave her to remain in the moon!
Anon 3:21 You're a bastard!! For such a sensitive story, see the way you replied like a heartless animal. Don't worry it'll happen to you, so you'll know what it feels like! Idiot!
This is the mistake most of you men do, you saw her, liked and married her probably because of her mode of dressing. Am sure she had known this Tope girl before you guys got married.And she must have been on this dress code before she got you attracted. so why do you think that she will possibly become virgin Mary of our time, simply because she married you. Just learn how to trust her and bear it, or better still, give her time to change on her own.
Lets just get this straight because she was friends with Tope before you came along - therefore you are the naive one.
It seems to me you an ugly but stable man and she married you for the comfortable life you can give her alone. She must be using you and must know you can't let her go- because that's careless behaviour coming from a lady - I am a lady myself trust me all I have told you is with love
Now, let me ask you man, are you faithful to your wife? Couldn't it be that she is acting out of your own mistreatment to her as an infidel? Am sure if i can bring your wife before you and ask her the reason behind her mode of life, it won't be far from the fact that you must have been unfaithful to her. So she has decided to pay back. My dear, sit down and ask yourself some questions.The answer is with you.
to say u are seriously under-reacting is the biggest understatement i have had to make this year!!!...bro...God is ur muscle!...
Bread ni iyawo e..hahahahag...
Animal,wud u beat ur mother wen she misbehaves?is she not human lyk u?wud u smash ur bb wen it hangs?.its pple like u dat dont tink b4 dey tok/act. bloody blodclat. Dellypayne
u really took d words out of my mouth,some men are just insecured 4 no reason.so F wat she dint wear r ring?was she caught sleeping with anybody?wat about d men dat cheat even wit their wedding bands on.pls oga park well.if u av trust issues with ur wife then u can complain.so bcos shiz married she shudnt av any single friend again?doesnt make sense to me sha
1. Your wife is not naive, she has sense more than you. Its just that You're just realising it.
2. Now is the time to involve relatives, pastors, imams, etc. This is more serious than you think. Im not an alarmist, I know what I'm talking about. (Out of experience things)
3. You probably saw these things before you got married. I'm sorry you have to finish what you started. I wish you the very best.
Hehehehe married woman feeling funky! That's why a babe above 30 is always recommended for peace of mind. She go don do every every and ready to face her hubby and kids! Oga u re under reacting self oo
Fun abi. The wife didn't wear her ring as soon as she landed foreign land. Pls. She is doing more than letting her hair down. Other things are down too. Bro divorce ye
Olodo!!!
every man and woman needs God,this our generation na blue blood we carry oo no self respect or shame.. God save man
U men and your double standards! You married men see young ladies and u appreciate her beauty and sexiness.. Your wives look sexy and you complain and ask her to "tone it down"!!! . U men also take off your rings when you are trying to woo ladies so y complain???!
I'm married and I ONLY wear my ring when I choose to.. I dress to make me feel sexy WHEN I want and when my husband says its too much, I tell him in dressing to make me feel good!!
At this point in my life, I can't have High BP over a man..
Mr man, please don't kill yourself over nothing.. I'm sure you trust your wife and know what she can and can't do.. Asking her to come back to nigeria immediately won't solve anything.. Just relax and wait till her holiday and have a talk with her.. Women are like babies... The more u keep trying to prove your point, the more she builds a resistant wall around her and see you as an enemy..
Oga,call yhur wife to order before she go carry rubbish give yhu and yhur quality handsome pikin
Sorry about what u going tru bro, its one of those things in life, make her come back to Nigeria n work things out!
Oga,make yhur wife stand proper jor before she carry rubbish go hive yhu and that ya quality handsome pikin
Oga,put yhur wife to order make she stand proper ooo...before she come go carry rubbish give you and yhur quality handsome pikin..
wanna hear her onw side
Take it easy Bro! Talk to her when she is back&watch her reactions, Ƌ̲̣̣̣̥o̲̣̥п̥̥̲̣̥'τ̲̣̣̥ force her to listen just talk to her normally&tell her d difference btwn she&Tope, after that give her space let her decide for herself! Help with prayers! God help Ɣ☺u.
Harnikky!
The words of Satan dutifully stated. Hello, you are a true disciple of the cursed one. Go back to hell where you belong.
Thats not right of her and u r not over reacting. Many men wold have done worst. Maybe catch the next flight to uk. Tope is no good friend to a married woman. She( ur wife) has to come bk biko, before u loose her to another bigger dude. She is not behaving well as a mother with a a husband. I did nt say she shld not party, bt must she? Without u? And wht she wore is too ba, without undies? Naaa..., atleast u have learnt from this. Dont u ever send her abroad again if u will nt go with her. Then who tuk care of ur son? Its well
The words of Satan dutifully stated. You must be one of the worshippers of the cursed one. Go back to hell where you belong.
U r nt over reacting... she needs to be tutuor on ow to be a good mother and wife... she is taking a whole lots of opportunities for granted.. ther r one million and one women out ther rather to make her rights her wrongs.. she had beta sit up..
The words of Satan dutifully stated. You must be one of the worshippers of the cursed one. Go back to hell where you belong.
If this story is true,. (IF) , My brother , when she comes back , you need to visit her parents and let them know before you seat her down in your bedroom and ask her what she wants to do..FAST! FAST!! before you start giving birth to other children...Be warned. If she wants her marriage or your money...pls , the devil came to steal , to kill and to destroy . Am not saying you should divorce.But, if you marry devil, then you need to plead the Blood of JESUS CHRIST and chase away the demon in her if not? No peace of mind for you oh! no be curse..
If this story is true,. (IF) , My brother , when she comes back , you need to visit her parents and let them know before you seat her down in your bedroom and ask her what she wants to do..FAST! FAST!! before you start giving birth to other children...Be warned. If she wants her marriage or your money...pls , the devil came to steal , to kill and to destroy . Am not saying you should divorce.But, if you marry devil, then you need to plead the Blood of JESUS CHRIST and chase away the demon in her if not? No peace of mind for you oh! no be curse..
Nnasean na u be this?
Lol. I can't stop laughing!!!! Omg
Why did you marry her? anyway that aside what's done is done i don't want you to blow up and then find out that it was all a misunderstanding because that will be damaging so for now chill. Yeah i don't like her friend either i think you should talk to her like calmly it's like all you married people forget communication when you get hitched and the way you were even shouting at her on the phone she's very level headed to have listened to it, but i agree that her excuses sounded bogus but for all we know they might have been true. I don't agree with how she's dressing Lagos ladies have problems with moderation and i just don't understand it. My point is you have a right to be suspicious but don't get all domineering and shouty she can get annoyed and say she wants a divorce don't forget your handsome 2 year old son, so please communicate and you both need to go to church.
Love from Miami
I bind cast detonate ur type. Abachas pplz
My dear prayers is what you need oo.please dont scold her or beat her,i know how you are feeling its quite annoying even if im a woman,i dont know why women these days behave like this, back when we were getting married in the 90s this could not be heard of civilization or not and we married much younger than 26!be calm,pray and let her be.she would come back when she sees its really hurting you and you are keeping quite.God would give you the strength.
Pussy Nigga, kick her out. Love no go let u see road. Ode Oshi
Lol!! that's how my husband took his ring off to club with his friends. Na today?? You guys should be able to take it too.
Oga, I read through half the comments, and I just had to stop.
Bringing your matter here is a big mistake, because all these people dont know you or your wife, and they can only give you advise based on their own reality.
I'm married with a child, like your wife. My husband is a serial cheat. I know for certain that he's seeing a lot of other girls who know he's married, and he also has inappropriate conversations with married women. I'm not sure that he's acted out on that, but I have little faith in him, so I won't be surprised if I find out so.
Because of this his bad habit, he's very oppressive and controlling. All my friends are bad. The ones that are good are just pretending to my face. The ones that told me about him before we got married were just trying to break us up to get with him. Infact, they've hit on him behind my back.
My husband does not give me any attention. I can wear what Beyonce wore to the awards and pop out of it, and he wouldn't notice. I'm not fat, I'm very good looking, and I'm very big on personal hygiene, so there's no reason why he shouldn't find me attractive, but see finish.
I see and overhear his conversations with these girls, and I see how he makes them feel good about themselves, and I wish someone would do that to me. Would you blame me if I go looking for it?
Check yourself first oga.
My husband spends late nights, hanging out with other girls, doing the things that makes him happy with them, then he comes home to me and gives me a long sermon on what a woman should be and how she should look. But this woman he describes and tries to make me into is nothing like the women he's chasing around.
SO,I say again, Oga, check yourself.
If you stop being your wife's friend, and you start acting like an over bearing parent, she'd act like a rebellious teenager.
And if you don't do the things you're supposed to do with your partner and to your partner, somebody else will do it for you.
On the other hand, there are some girls like the married ones that have the inappropriate conversations and relationships with my husband. Everyday, they dress in the manner in which you described your wife. They have husbands that love them to pieces, and would probably die if I tell them what I know about their inappropriate relationships. From where I'm standing, they appear to have a happy marriage. They do a lot of things together, the man is very supportive, easy going and trusting, but these girls are runz girls that have refused to leave the game. Is that how you see your wife?
I have friends like Tope, and I'm going to hang out with them, and relive the days when I was happy. I fear God more than anything or anyone in this life, so I would never cheat on my husband. I'd rather leave him, and try my hands at marriage with someone else. But everybody needs love. And everybody needs to feel appreciated. And everybody loves to feel like a part of something, and be appreciated.
Check yourself first. If you're married to a good woman, and you do right by her, she'd do right by you.
Do some reflection on your own, away from the comments on this blog, and have a conversation with your wife. Be prepared to listen no matter how painful it may be to hear, and try being your wife's friend. Counsel her like one friend talking to another, and not as a parent would scold a child.
I have to say though, that even runz girls behave better in a relationship when they're given love and attention, so I tell you again, Check yourself, and check the foundation of your marriage.
Oya, I'm done with my epistle.
Madam wife, I'm sure you are reading this too, sƠ̴̴͡ let me say firstly,U̶̲̥̅̊ could have still dressed sexy with ur underpants on άήδ secondly d excuse about the ring is sƠ̴̴͡ ridiculous! You are not the first married lady to travel to UK with a ring now, abi for UK married couples don't wear rings ni? In, this our era of volatile relationships, there is no need to stir up distrust in your marriage! Please, give ur hubby an apology άήδ mr Hubby, forgive ur wife άήδ U̶̲̥̅̊ guys should learn to respect άήδ make sacrifices for each other. Invite God into ur home most importantly άήδ U̶̲̥̅̊ will see U̶̲̥̅̊ re not missing out on anything! God bless U̶̲̥̅̊.
Your wife's behaviour is simply not
acceptable especially since you are not okay with it. She is either not ready for marriage or she is not satisfied with you. It is necessary to discuss with her what she wants and mutually agree on how to forge ahead.
Claire
What happened to the trust in relationship.... Man you need to relax
"I Dream Of D'banj Begging And Sucking
My B00bs" -- Afrocandy Tweets
Tope is dat u???
My thoughts exactly, there are so many single ladies that just wanna ruin their friends' marriages out of jealousy. They actually want their friends to be like they are (single)
Hey Linda, where did you get my brother's picture u used for this story? u'll pay o hian!
U r stupid as hell for saying it's allowed in Yoruba culture for women to cheat. Why would any sane human being allow his wife to cheat?
Shut up u fucking bitch, Is Iro and Buba the only attire that makes one look decent? U could go naked if u like but he doesn't want his wife exposing her body. Why did she remove the ring? Her body belongs to him and he has every right over her just like she has over him. If the guy was the one that went on holiday and removed his ring, then wears indecent clothes, she would surely do worse and curse the hell out of him. A married woman should not even club without her husband, cos so many things could go wrong with the influence of alcohol and stuff. Can u imagine ur stupid self saying she is young and should enjoy her body. Once u r married, u r not young anymore especially when u have kids already and must stop things u used to do while single or u divorce. PERIOD
My thots exactly
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YOU ARE NOT OVER REACTING , HER EXCUSES DON'T ADD UP BRO , IF SHE'S DRESSED THAT WAY WITHOUT HER RING ITS DELIBERATE. I'D ADVISE YOU CALM DOWN AND JUST KEEP A CLOSE EYE ON HER , SOUNDS LIKE SHES UP TO NO GOOD BRO .
So ur miracle is 1st 2 comment ni. Kai! Aturu hausa
So true! Huge diff Btw, done n want 2 settle down and, settled down n done.
Geez! I so hate it when guys tell their wives not 2 hangout wit their single frnds. U guys hv no idea wat we all used 2 do b4 u married her. Hahahaha. See ur coconut head ode! U left good gals lyk us n settled 4 d bitches, wat were u expecting huh? It has always been inbuilt, 4get marriage.
Sorry bruv,
She probably has already started cheating on you. I had thesame problem with a gf (I know its not thesame). Go and read Proverbs 7. You married a bandersnatch. You'll die of a heart attack. Too many girls in the world like that these days.
Wake up and smell the coffee.
Loosen up!! Just alil bit of fun. That doesnt mean she is cheating. Please let it go.... And allow her dress sexy. Its really no harm until u start thinking it is
i hope this statement is not coming in too late. you are actually not over reacting. its such a pity that women dont know the value of what they have till they loose it...if it might help pls talk to her parents about it, i like the way you have been handling things pls just be patient
My brother sorry u here that is why u need to seek the face of God before u get married to a Paticulerly lady that lady is nt ur wife. so u made a very big mistake to marry her ok. just take heart nd reajust.Ok.
Yeah, good talk.Holiday you call he said,why can't she wait till wen both will travel sametim knowing how cold it is out there.he should know that she will be freaking out and definatelly needs a warmer#opiniontho#
@SylvesterRayner, u r a real mumu!
leave her to learn her lesson,she go soon tire !
Gbam!
she doesnt know what she is about to lose! A Good Man Is Hard to find
I really do not see long-term relationship here...
U RE REALLY A GREAT FOOL! Kai
hmmm....realy cant understand the need to act in such a thoughtless manner, she can have fun but in a dignified way......being single doesnt make you loose, it all a question of choice.....just take it easy..she seems childish and immature in her reasoning, any woman should be proud of her wedding band.
hmmm....realy cant understand the need to act in such a thoughtless manner, she can have fun but in a dignified way......being single doesnt make you loose, it all a question of choice.....just take it easy..she seems childish and immature in her reasoning, any woman should be proud of her wedding band.
karma is a bitch.. sori mr it hurts rite.. so sorri for u. i luv women doing dis to men so dey kno how it hurts to b cheated on. my husband neva wears his ring he has so many lies for not wearing one. pity its happening to u tho..
karma is a bitch.. sori mr it hurts rite.. so sorri for u. i luv women doing dis to men so dey kno how it hurts to b cheated on. my husband neva wears his ring he has so many lies for not wearing one. pity its happening to u tho..
Well said! U hit it right on the head. I dont advocate her not wearing her ring BUT there should be a level of trust between married couples surely?
you people are saying shit, if na man do am u na go talk say he dey cheat, so now a woman is doing it you guys are kicking against the man, abi, na so e dey start. i swear if na man dey club after wedding, you guys will say the man is stupid and that his cheating, but a woman is doing it now, no one is placing a course on her, abi you ladies here is better you stay single and club than you get married and start going clubing
Na so them be oooo imagine my wife also once told me that do i expect her not to have toasters ? that how ladies are this days just take it easy!!!!!!!
oga u d only african man dt wud react ds slow...i expect u to have cancelled d credit card dt night or wait first..severe all ties wt d said friend after marriage n y wud u allow ha stay wt her friend wen u know wat she is....i tnk u r just timid..so beter pick up the reins in your home..simple and i believe shes back home
I can see u skipped ur medications and thats not good enof cos u are still very sick.......u can as well testify in ur church on sunday....ode..
First of all, tour wife is not Naive, she perfectly knows what she's doing. Secondly u r not over reacting. Your wife was just not ready to be married when u guys did, she wasnt mature enough, dnt get me wrong, i dont mean her age. And lastly, she didnt have enof fun when she was single. @28, u can still be exorbitant.
First of all, tour wife is not Naive, she perfectly knows what she's doing. Secondly u r not over reacting. Your wife was just not ready to be married when u guys did, she wasnt mature enough, dnt get me wrong, i dont mean her age. And lastly, she didnt have enof fun when she was single. @28, u can still be exorbitant.
u probably don't have a wife. Her eyes still dey outside and all the goodies on offer. she either sits up according to the terms and conditions of the average marriage or advise yourself before all men begin share your wife with you (if dem never start yet) summary. u married the wrong person.
I feel u die...
I feel u die...
I feel u die...
my guy its only right u go to the club and pose as a single man. (that's the immature way to go) or just say "fuck that bitch" funny but immature. ask her if she fucked anyone. real nigga shit
you married a hoe. Sorry
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