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Monday, January 27, 2014

South African women married to Nigerian men band together to fight prejudice meted to them

"One look at the name of the applicant, the official angrily said: ‘We don’t deal with foreigners!’ But when my friend stood her ground and pointed out that even though she was married to a Nigerian, she was South African, the official said: ‘If you want a house, you will have to divorce that man.’. Wow! Read the full story below...

Article written by Fred Khumalo for mg.co.za
The Nigerian man said the sheet’s colour was red; his South African wife said it was rust. That discrepancy almost got the Nigerian man deported. 
Thelma Okoro (née Dee) and Kenneth Sunday Okoro had gone to a home affairs office for a routine interview to have their new marriage officially recognised. 
Because he was a foreigner, authorities had to satisfy themselves that this was indeed a legitimate couple and not a case of a South African woman accepting cash to help the Nigerian to get South African citizenship by virtue of being married to a local.
The interview went swimmingly, until the matter of the sheet cropped up.
"My husband said the sheet was red; and I said it was rust," said Okoro. "But this is to be expected. Men are generally colour-blind, or imprecise when it comes to colours. But the officials latched on to that. They said the discrepancy in our answers showed that we were not living together, that I had been paid and was being used to facilitate and justify his stay in our country. I was ridiculed and insulted as a gold digger. They said I was helping a foreigner to abuse our system."

One of the officials proceeded to say – in the presence of the Okoros child – that he would deport  "the dog" and detain the South African woman.

Another day, another government office: Okoro was accompanying her friend, Lindelwa Uche, to a human  settlements office, where the latter wanted to apply for an RDP house.

"One look at the name of the applicant, the official angrily said: ‘We don’t deal with foreigners!’ But when my friend stood her ground and pointed out that even though she was married to a Nigerian, she was South African, the official said: ‘If you want a house, you will have to divorce that man.’
"It was crazy. We stormed out of the office stunned, embarrassed, angry. But we were powerless; we had no recourse in any organisation, or any institution," said Okoro.

It was an accumulation of scenes like these that inspired Okoro, Uche, and a few other women to do something.

In October, they launched the United Nigerian Wives in South Africa (Unwisa), a support group for local women married to Nigerians.

Okoro tells me women are coming out of the woodwork now. Many had been embarrassed to mention that they were married to Nigerians. They had no one to share their pain with.

"It’s difficult to fight some of these battles as an individual but when you do so as a group, it helps. It also shows the South African community that you are not just a ‘prostitute’, as some of them think of South African women married to Nigerians," says Okoro.

"It shows that we are responsible women, we are wives, we are mothers. We are committed to our husbands, and doing so as a group adds weight to our efforts."
Unwisa has branches in Johannesburg and Cape Town. But the aim is to have a presence all over the country because Nigerians, the entrepreneurs and risk takers that they are, have spread their wings all over South Africa, in search of their pot of gold in the Rainbow Nation.

The organisation attracts women from all walks of life – nurses, teachers, traffic officers, police officers, street hawkers. Membership is about 60 in Johannesburg alone, according to a magazine they have just published.

The organisation wants to act as a lobby group to challenge those sectors of South African society that seem determined to punish these women for the decisions they have made.
The ostracisation, said Okoro, sometimes starts with the woman’s own family who question her wisdom for marrying a Nigerian.

Okoro, a native of Randfontein on the West Rand, did not have such a hard time. Her father used to work and travel in many parts of Africa. As a result, he was open-minded, and for him to have a foreign son-in-law was not an issue.

The Okoros have been married since 2008. They have two children – seven-year-old daughter Ngozichukwu (God’s blessing), and four-year-old son Ogechukwu (God’s time is the best).
The Okoros do not fit the South-African-gold-digger-woman-and-rich-Nigerian-drug-lord stereotype: they live in a modest flat in downtown Johannesburg.

She works just down the street as a beautician, and he sells clothes from a street corner.
Their children go to one of the independent schools in the city centre.

They have come to accept the reality that they occupy the twilight world of being half South African and half kwerekwere: one day the local kids are enthralled with the tales the Okoro children are telling about their father’s country, the next they are reminded that their father is really not a real person "like us", as Okoro recounts.

Sibongile Nwazulu, who is a nurse and a member of Unwisa, says stigmatisation has become commonplace at her place of work.
"The minute a Nigerian walks in seeking help, they call me to attend to him or her because they claim they do not understand their brand of English," she says.

Unwisa not only wants to offer a shoulder to cry on for these marginalised South African women, but also to start a series of workshops through which ordinary South Africans can learn not only about Nigerians, but also about other foreigners. Wary of being seen as forming an elitist club removed from the South African reality, members of Unwisa try to get their husbands integrated and involved in local community efforts. For example, they recently raised funds for a local old age home and hosted a lunch for the inhabitants.

At a vigil outside Mandela’s house at the end of last year, I saw a huge Nigerian delegation that featured members of Unwisa, Okoro among them.

In August 2013, in the face of perceived hostility towards Nigerians in South Africa, the feisty Vanguard newspaper of Nigeria editorialised: "It is high time that the federal government took firm measures to force a change of attitude towards Nigerians, their families and sundry interests who have legitimate presence in South Africa.

The country stands to lose more than Nigeria if matters should come to a head.

"South African businesses are thriving in Nigeria, and not a single case of molestation of South Africans living in Nigeria has been reported. Nigeria is a very friendly country which welcomes foreigners with warmth that is uniquely Nigerian."

Trade between the two countries is worth R36-billion and the 2011 census figures show there are 24 000 Nigerian nationals who live in South Africa.

What is happening at the grassroots between South Africans and Nigerians has not been helped by recent tensions between the two countries at a diplomatic level.
In 2012, for example, 125 Nigerian travellers to South Africa were expelled for not having valid yellow fever certificates.

In retaliation, Nigeria expelled 56 South African businesspeople.

This prompted the two countries to enter into discussions around easing travel and visa restrictions between the two countries as a way of enhancing bilateral relations and trade.
The discussions paved the way for South Africa to waive visas for diplomatic and official passport holders – but the rest of the citizens will have to wait.

116 comments:

Alloy Chikezie said...

That's a great! Prejudice should be shawn anyway


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Alloy Chikezie said...

That's a great! Prejudice should be shawn anyway, its total unacceptable to treat someone with disdain because he is a foreigner, so I support the women


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BONARIO NNAGS said...

I feel their pain,when prejudice is at play even the innocent gets victimized.
My uncle is married to a very cute and lovely SA woman,with lovely kids and I love her disposition.

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mimi said...

Lord hve mercy and help them, in Jesus' name

wemimo adesemoye said...

May God see them thru..

Anonymous said...

South Africa go beef us die!

Ndubuisi said...

The reason why Nigerian are treated badly all over the world is just that we don't have the mentality to brand our own country i mean South Africa is not even that far better than Nigeria in terms of standard of living.

i-Spit said...

The fuck r they thinkn? Retards. Of all places! These southbaboons think we dig them like that? Always hating nigerians.

Anonymous said...

Nice initiative????
Kudos

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the mummy of R.3 said...

Dem dey mad becos even the little ones we mansge to marry here arr nothing less dan prostitute.and we no bother.we wise pass dem sha

Anonymous said...

An HIV infested country sef dey do shakara? Na wa o!

Anonymous said...

I knowww fit read am finish

dakus said...

Linda go to bed

Josh said...

Our government doesn't care what we go thru outside the country,they are fighting for power and money,its a shame we dont have a leader but ruler,God help us all

Anonymous said...

I need more friends . 332A8C21, YOLO

Anonymous said...

Mk dem go die,even s.a of yesterday,9ja go stil pass all of una 1 by 1. #kelywester#

Mystic Falls said...

Nigerians do most of the white color jobs in South Africa because it is in our blood. South Africans should stop hating and be industrious rather than spending their whole lives minning, layzying around or raping their women. Infact Nigerians are over kind 2 them MTN and DSTV have made them wealthy despite their poor services this days...no wahala 99days 4 the thief 1day 4 the owner. S Africans we shall soon surprise u and ur prejudice souls

Anonymous said...

I really don't know what SA is feeling like, it vex me when I hear such frm fellow African country

Galore said...

i did not read ds epistle...

Am lazy like that


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Anonymous said...

SA is jst a bunch of jealous and sadist ppl, always hating on 9ja anyway I dnt blame them cos they wish that they have what we have

Anonymous said...

forget the infrastructure, 9ja will still be better than them f*****g loosers.

Chi said...

Okay na..

Anonymous said...

sa should go and die, we better at everything than them except infrastructure but it still dazzles me how an African BLACK nation will behave like this

jerome said...

No comment

Anonymous said...

Are they really South Africans? They look so much like Naija people and i hope these Naija men will not let them down because they are fighting for them.

Anonymous said...

South Africans are just jealous mudaf**ker...they cant just get over the fact that we Nigerians are better than them...

Anonymous said...

The power of women, go on you'll get there.

Anonymous said...

Abeg who do South Africans think they are?? They should be happy Nigerians even want to live in their country. Rubbish!!!

Anonymous said...

This is so true my SA people are never accepting of other Africans they always think they better I'm going through the same thing with having married a Nigerian and having two kids with him they call me all dirty names but I remain loyal to my husband and lucky to have a family that adores him

Anonymous said...

This is so true my SA people are never accepting of other Africans they always think they better I'm going through the same thing with having married a Nigerian and having two kids with him they call me all dirty names but I remain loyal to my husband and lucky to have a family that adores him

MISSPERFECT said...

Igbo kwenu my Igbo brother's no d carry last,why d no go call una gold digger? One luv

Anonymous said...

Going through the same bullsh*t but I love my Nigerian husband till the end they already started calling me and my sons all dirty names like we less of humans then them we get ridiculed for dating Nigerians we called all dirty names it's really sad that my kids will never be accepted in SA as normal bloods smh

Ol's Network said...

When will the name Nigeria, command respect for its citizens eh....

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Chiamy N said...

Ok, i had to read this and I found myself laffing at *kwerekwere* where did they get that from. But my Naija brodas no just dey try sha, with all we beauty singles at home here, you decided to play away.
Discrimination is a fact of life, Maybe one day, it could be curbed but make no mistakes, it is out there and we've gotta deal with it any which way.
Too much movies and talks on blacks and human rights and discrimination this period. Hope all is well

Glow said...

Nice move. These south African authorities eh. Smh.

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Teemah Salau said...

Can u imagine...d last patagraph was discussed as a topic in our class presentation...it wasn't really d yellow fever certificates dat started it buh d drug ish...n Nigeria shlda don somfin betta diplomatically rada dan expelle south africans in retaliation...God helep una

man Charles said...

Hmmmm...*sighs and walks away*

Anonymous said...

This is not funny. What have we done to these south africans to make them treat us this way? Do we look white or remind them of aparthied?

Chinonso Okafor said...

injustice, even to fellow africans. when will africans learn to unite and become one.

Cintetic said...

Too long a story. ###****feeling sleepy####******

Anonymous said...

Apartheid against nigerians....sad. South Africans are where they are cos oyibos stayed the longest, which is a shame to say for th whack race. Now I hear things a re going downhill. On the other hands nigerians should be a shame do themselves, taking insults to get citizennship.

Jerry D'poronsi said...

I'm gonna act like I didn't even read this, otherwise hating South Africans would just come naturally.

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Amarachukwu said...

Hmmmmmm.

Anonymous said...

S.A just piss me off, this is not even a matter of Nigerians causing trouble wherever they go, right from the onset S.A has always had a blinding hate for Niger but they come to us with business and expect us to always swallow their B.S, if you're a Nigerian in S.A, they will turn you into something else, just try and stand near a public crime scene and see if people won't blame you

Anonymous said...

Lets join hands together n develop our country naija..we hav all it takes so dat countries wil b dreaming of coming to us..imagine d idiot callin my broda dog

cherish george said...

Gud job ladies

Anonymous said...

You would think that South Africans would be more liberal having passed through the Apartheid period but No! This is Racism, and the irony of it all is appalling!

Anonymous said...

This is why i want Nigeria to be divided so that we can be on our own Biafra.... must go home because if our country is ok we can only travel to do business and come back and we will not be seeing all this problem from other country ... God please save my country and set us free from all these ogboni people that has been ruling us before i was born and till now ...

Anonymous said...

Dis is nonsense! Was dis not what Mandela forth 4?Nw he is gon 2 rest dey ve brought it up again.I tink d Nigerian government should do somtin about dis,when d white ppl were doing same 2 dem dey were cryn al ova d world 4 freedom, Nw dey re free tru d instrumentality of Mandela struggle Nw doing Sam 2 deir fellow Africans. Dey should be awere DAT Nigerian is not a poor country 2 any nations on planet earth is jus DAT we don't ve a system DAT works.we re farrrrrrrrr richer dan s/a .in conclusion our government should hold a peace talk wit deir authorities or else?

Anonymous said...

Linda!!!!!D story is 2 long jor....besids I ve tinz to deal wiff hia....This story aint gona buy my textbook in dis skul jor*sad*
Ibuo ada viv

Anonymous said...

Osazuwa

Chinyere Iroegbu said...

Linda I seriously think there shouldn't be a box for post comments u don't actually post. Typing for me is job to go to waste like that abeg.

Uju Judith Anyanwu said...

We Africans are actually more racist than the westerners, but we fail to accept it.An Igbo family says no to their offspring marrying from yoruba, or Hausa nd vise-versa. A south African wont allow his ward marry a Nigerian. Yet we are from same nation, same continent, same race. The question then is, if we can't accept our own, why should foreigners accept us?

bonita bislam said...

This south africans are realy drumming for war.Am beginning to question Mandela's wisdom in fighting the apartheid system of govt.But who can know if the whites infested them with Racism!

Gloria Essien said...

The SA government should be happy that Nigerian men are marrying their girls. Do they know how many of us (Naija babes) are being rendered husbandless?

Anonymous said...

well this is cruel and inhuman what have Nigerians done to deserve this cruel treatment. This people come to our country and do business worth millions of Maura they are even given a warm welcome but I think Nigeria should retaliate and ban all south African from Nigeria for a while.

Anonymous said...

South Africa??? The apartheid South Africa? The one that Nigeria took numerous diplomatic risks for, to free from apartheid? The one laden with HIV/AIDS? The one with so much violence that it's likened 2 a keg of gunpowder waitin 2 explode? The South Africa that remains a tool of the West more than any other in Africa? Is that the South Africa being discussed here? I feel like puking

Anonymous said...

Considering the high rate of aids and rape cases, south africa is the worst country to live ever.

Adeyemi Adefajo said...

Hi Linda, can you tell me any country in the world where Nigerians are not singled out and persecuted. Will you blame South Africans for not treating us like people. Do we treat our fellow Nigerians as humans. Don't foreigners maltreat our people right under our noses in Nigeria? Did we not read here on your blog how a Lebanese destitute came here and molested a legitimate Nigerian. Come to think about it, I did not hear anything about it again. Last week I heard about an Expatriate that threw a Nigerian worker out of an uncompleted building and killed him because they had an argument.
we are the problem.

Adeyemi Adefajo said...

Hi Linda, can you tell me any country in the world where Nigerians are not singled out and persecuted. Will you blame South Africans for not treating us like people. Do we treat our fellow Nigerians as humans. Don't foreigners maltreat our people right under our noses in Nigeria? Did we not read here on your blog how a Lebanese destitute came here and molested a legitimate Nigerian. Come to think about it, I did not hear anything about it again. Last week I heard about an Expatriate that threw a Nigerian worker out of an uncompleted building and killed him because they had an argument.
we are the problem.

hilary obiorah said...

In as much as I sympathize with the UNWISA, I can't blame the south african authorities! This same thing is applicable in china and india. The rot Nigerians bring to those countries has authorities on their toes. Attacks are meted out to Nigerians and their perceived 'associates' as they claimed they are responsible for more than half of the rot in their countries. It was here I read about the murder of an Igbo man in India, I have heard several cases of attacks on Nigerians in SA, in China it is hard to be a Nigerian. The government of Nigeria have to better the country so people do not have to travel out much in search of a better tomorrow

Anonymous said...

Hmmm..... What's with SA? Why wud I wanna go der on hols lest live der #justasking

Stephen Ikiyei said...

Na condition make crayfish bend if not south africa na country wey go make shakara for naija citizens...

EvErDrEAm said...

D treatment is inhumane., tot we r all Africans?

Anonymous said...

Hmmmmm.nigerians cost it.dey abused it and turned relationship to business.anyway i love my country nigeria i no go lie.i have permit fr s.a. But i cant stay dere.am so used to our system here.

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AnnMarie said...

I love the fact that Nigeria retaliated and expelled some of their business men after refusing us visa I mean what are they feeling like? Naija men sef stop looking for papers, stop marrying white lsdies for papers biko

Kandy posh said...

Lekwanu SA feeling fly oh! *wideeye*. Can an average south African stand an average Nigerian? I dnt blame dem sha. I blame nigerians who cnt stay in dia country to invest &mk it big in ds our moni miss road country. + dey'll leave all d decent gurls in Nigeria &opt for all doz SA prostitutes dt see sex as drinking water all in name of 'living abroad'.. Na dem sabi sha! Mstcheeeew!

Anonymous said...

All dese na inferiority complex! We pass dem any day! We even beat dier lazy arses ryt in front of mandela! Yeye pple!
Its d lazy blacks dat behave dis way..I doubt if d whites care!
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Anonymous said...

The problem is that most of this people don't even know how warm and friendly we Nigerians are.Yes we have corrupt leaders,yes we have some quick rich mentality people that don't care if they tarnish the nation's image but in the same vein,we have hardworking,loving and good people.We never treat foreigners poorly.It really breaks my heart that people don't see my Nigeria the way I do:A land of opportunities,flowing with milk and honey.I love my Nigeria even with its ups and downs.Mention one country that doesn't have their own bad sides.Nigerians make good doctors,engineers etc and are known to be very intelligent.Happy this women made this move.

Anonymous said...

It's amazing that a people who endured the wickedness of apartheid would be this hostile....

Ewarawon Segun said...

I honestly think South Africans who treat Nigerians unfairly are ingrates. Only 'yesterday', we cried and empathized with them during the apartheid regime.

fase oluwafunmilayo said...

Hmmnnn... Okay

Anonymous said...

That's it nah.We will still flock there to shoot music videos and Oluchi will still be forming ride or die with them cos she prefers SA over her country Nigeria. If Nigerian government can just use the money allocated for development wisely, where will all these countries we're richer than and more educated and enlightened than see us to insult, Mtcheew

Anonymous said...

Very soon, youguys would be called biafrans not nigerians. Nigeria will cease tto exist....everybody go answer their papa name. There are many of them married to yorubas too, they don't have all this problem......

Itohan Tlove said...

Wahala dey ooo.

Anonymous said...

Nice posting there, i am writing on this topic and seek to know why so Nigerians pass through so much tensions in South Africa and what can be done to alleviate that . How can diplomacy help out. I need answers

Anonymous said...

I live and work in J'borg as an expat in one of the top four financial institution. South African are very friendly people but some of our people took advantage of this in the past and as usual perpetrate all sort of unthinkable crimes. The fact is that majority of our people coming to places like SA always turn to crime once they get here. That is not the case for the South African leaving in Nigeria. I really dont see government helping us except we Nigerians change our criminal tendency in foreign land.

Igor said...

If we had a system that works,Nigerians wouldn't be subjected to this sort of embarrasment abroad.Even The Gambian people embarras Nigerian businessmen resident in their country.

mz didi said...

Smh! Naija don suffer for some countries hand...na God go help us as our govt jez siddon dey look.

@edDREAMZ said...

Nekwa in di south..... Simple truth, they are jealous that their women are falling for us......

headshrinka said...

Its so sad that with the way these countries detest us people still run down there and make it look as if everything is alright yet when they come here they are treated like kings! I weep for some businesses when they go all the way to bring in these south africans and pay them millions of naira for something a road side artisan will do. The day we finnally decide to follow the 'I can do it' attitude I believe pple will realise all their wahala about flying allover is not worth it sef!

@edDREAMZ said...

And i was planning on going there...... Lol.... On a second taught, i love this mrs okoro. Standing firm by ur man.... Everyman dream woman.....

@edDREAMZ said...

Why is it that some country can not just free us, any were we enter they brand us as thiefs and criminals....

Anonymous said...

I am a south african young lady and I am in a relationship with a nigerian igbo guy .the way people look at us sometimes it feels like I am dating an animal but it does nt bother me I don't care what people think I love my man so much I cnt even explain .at the moment I am In the US studying whn m done I am going to marry this man and no one will stop me if its possible I will move to nigeria with him because I am who I am today because of if ,he took me to school paid my fees and looked after me and the is no way I will leave him just to make south africans happy I love him

Oby said...

Way to go ladies! As a group I'm pretty sure your voices would be heard in SA and in Nigeria. Nigerians suffer a great deal in foreign lands while Nigerians are known for hospitality in the highest level to foreigners in Nigeria. They seriously want us to speak their useless and stupid version of English too? They must be outta their frigging minds! I live in SA, I'm a Nigerian woman married to a Nigerian, God forbid that I ever replace 'should' with 'must' or adopt any other grammatical blunder going on here. What rubbish!

Anonymous said...

It is said that charity begins at home. Can we blame the South Africans for treating Nigerians like scum when in our own country the Nigerian authorities and even Nigerian embassies abroad have no regard for Nigerian citizens and treats us like beasts. We Nigerians have to seize our self dignity back from our internal oppressors before any foreign government will show us respect.That is the truth. We should also adopt the principle of reciprocity in dealing with foreigners; this means that we should treat them here exactly the way they treat us in their countries.

Anonymous said...

I only see igbo surnames here. Let's be honest here. S.Africans do not have issues with "Nigerians". They have problems with IGBOS. They always have, and always will. #GoFigure. The last time "Nigerians" were executed by hanging, 94% of them were igbo's. My bro lives in SA, and has not faced any harassment

Miss X said...

Which Nigerian cares about SA citizenship? Insult upon injury...lol

Anonymous said...

See insults o common S/A if dem talk say na animal wey get horn go kill person no be lyk snail,na racism we go call dis one abi wetin, if no be mismanagement for Naija wetin be South Africa? Which resources dem get wey reach Nigeria own, well God go help Naija one day and nations go begin respect us

Yinotinto Juliet said...

Ihe neme. but what is wrong with these SAans? are they jealous or plain stupid? how can u tell a woman to divorce her husband cos he's a foriegner, so they are not entitled to owning a home or what? these people are still living in d 80s, they are as daft as daft. gush!

i thought SA was civilized until now.

Anonymous said...

SOUTH AFRICANS!!!!!! Ya'll shouldn't start what u can't finish. *in osuofia's voice* we know how to Hate as much as we love! Be warned!

olu scot said...

Hmmmm, this is getting too much, Nigerians in SA should come back home..they are opportunities waiting for them here instead of living like a destitutes

Anonymous said...

Imagine the insult being hurled at Nigerians just because of seeking for greener pasture abroad!!!I have said it many times i can never leave Nigeria to reside in another country,holiday and business trip is all i can do abroad!

Anonymous said...

What an inhumane treatment!!Imagine south-Africa

JOYCE said...

WOW SERIOUSLY, EVEN AMONGST AFRICANS WE DO NOT LOVE OURSELVES NOT TO TALK OF WHEN YOU NOW TRAVEL ABRODA TO OTHER CONTINENT .I THINK NIGERIA SHOULD TAKE A BOLD STEP COS PEOPLE ARE BEGINNING TO ABUSE HER CITIZENS WEN WE DONT DO SUCH TO THEM IN OUR COUNTRY

Ginger said...

Mscheewww,
Can u imagine
Should we call this one racism now or what?
Why can't they just live and let live...
Its not like they are uniquely made or better than us.
The way i see it, South Africans are worse when it comes to corruption and diseases.
So they shld pls take several seats biko
Nonsense!

Anonymous said...

It's not just South Africa my dear, even Ghana....studied there and I recall how my room mate cried almost every day she goes out and comes back. We had zero right and were made to accept what ever or go back home...at a point, a certain landlord after offering us a single room self contain, on the day we went to pay he asked we were "Anago" and we said yes, the man said to our faces "I can't give my room to Anago people" my roomie who is very emotional broke down in tears asking why we are So hated.....but we had to deal with this ish for 4yrs.
My dad who is a regular traveler tells me how almoSt every country he goes to, people have different stories to tell about Nigerians and how they can't be trusted.
It is saddening

Apple said...

INSULT! Nigerians don suffer!

Toun said...

I persaonally know of a family who wouldnt permit their SouthAfrican Son marry a Nigerian Daughter. Would one ever think that Madibas' struggles will one day make These Same people who suffered from the Racial Discrimination can now device a new means to Discriminate another, How proud will Madiba Spirit be ? Tomorrow I speak as a American of Black Descent is the Persident of the U.S.A So also Sooner than this generation be wiped out will SouthAfricans of Nigerian Descent be in Authority in all realm of affairs in the Country they are being maltreated.- Tomorrow I speak. Today I say Shame on you South Africa.! !!

Anonymous said...

And our leaders will not think Twice and reason more on developing our country to Bring back it's already lost Glory! It's so bad that we don't appriciate d need for heroism! W@ happened to one Nigeria?.What happened to the inner Minds! We can actually do this more than any country! Let's be the hero that brought effective change and the legacy shall ever remain even when we passed!(Madibe) Common "Ghana" of yesterday! Now on a Swagu level for Nigerians! Ah! It's to much! How I wish "her" dignity is restored oh! Mother Nigeria!

JJ said...

Nice sister. Wishing you the best!

Percy Alao said...

Its such a shame to see stigmatization of Nigerians in SA... When u look at SAs' root... you wonder why they act ignorantly...

MY TURN said...

BIG INSULT... but we bring it upon ourselves, DStv, shoprite are just a few businesses cleaning out in Nigeria. do we discriminate against these idiots? no instead we allow them reap us off with no form of reprieve. Lets not even go to those bloody asians and kora people who treat us less than human in our own country. I went to B natural spa the other day and because all the asian girls where busy i had to wait eventually i allowed a Nigerian do the service i wanted and it was my best spa experience ever. Until we start to love one another, before these foreigners accept and love us. They see that amongst ourselves there is hypocrisy, hatred and greed.

Anonymous said...

Chai bona u can lie oooh! Dunno if u r related to toke... #ᵐʸ ˡᶤᶠᵉ ᵐʸ ʳᵘˡᵉˢdazzlingAk#

Anonymous said...

Lekwanu ndia apari SA. they call foreigners especially we Nigerians "Kwerekwere" But dr ladies will be rushing our men over dr for ukwu(sex) as they see it as nothing. but we are better than them all in every way. An average man there cannot speak common English.
come to think of it our rulers should be WISE. this people have lots of investments in our country, but the last thing they will support is for an individual from Naija or even FG to owe one company(small or medium)in there land.see MTN n DSTV looting us. over there MTN no be no1 line like it is here. I think the should go to hell with all these there investment(now we pay extra 10 naira to buy common recharge card, for what? they hate themselves and even cant stand seeing a Nigerian progress over there. they humiliate us in offices and will tell u to go to ur country. Lindiwey! am a witness to all this sheets. they are still Xenophobic. I wish they could also get our own slice of what they keep doing to us. We are over nice to foreigners n thats why even these Indians and Kora people d treat us like dat. our leaders should be involved fully and forget about the aproko money they get from them.

Lindii...post my comment oh!

OSHAUN_AFRIKA said...

south africa...ur cup is getting full....be guided accordingly...meanwhile..our brothers out there...make una bring una families come back naija...

Vivian Okorafor said...

And igbos are not Nigerian right? They are aliens. It's people like you that are the problems we have. If we cannot accept ourselves, why should they accept us?

ZeeZee said...

The truth is Nigerians are among the most hated people in the world, for what? I don't know- chill out people

Ada said...

Its sad, when I went to SA about 3 years ago, I went with my US passport, and the lady saw my 1st name and tried to crack a joke. I smiled and replied back in my yankee accent. I noticed throughout my short stay that they were much happier to identify me as being "American" than being Nigerian.
My cousin is married to one, and her and their kids raised in SA are amazing and respectful.

Forget tribe, when foreigners see you, they see you as Nigerian, not Igbo, Yoruba or whatever.

SA prob has to do with their history, so there is a great inferiority complex.

Anonymous said...

Answers from who? Libers? You are on a long thing #continue waiting

ene grace said...

HUMNNN WELL,THNK GOD FOR THESE GREAT WORD CALLED (LOVE) THAT EXIST. IN THESE LIFE LOVE SPERCEED ALL DISCREPANCY.

kween immanuelz said...

N u r a human lie detector,anonymous DazzlingAK# get a life ode!

kween immanuelz said...

N u r a human lie detector,anonymous DazzlingAK# get a life ode!

Lerato.Amore said...

I feel so ashamed to be a South African right now. This ugliness that you are experiencing from S.A citizens is the repercussions of the systematic brutality of the oppression of minds by the previous regime. With poverty, it aggravates the situation. Our government is also to blame, the bureaucracy is sickening. Generally speaking though, I think as Africans, we have been made to think we are less than the next human being, there's almost a self loathing attitude. WE NEED TO UNITE AS AFRICANS AND BEAT THIS STIGMA. 1LOVE