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Tuesday, April 16, 2013

Dear LIB readers: Can you suddenly stop loving someone?

From a male LIB reader
When I say suddenly, I mean out of nowhere, just like that, without any reason or explanations everything you've ever felt is gone. I was madly in love with this girl for a year and nine months. In fact I was planning to propose to her on our second year anniversary when all of a sudden I woke up and all my feelings for her was gone. She didn't do or say anything wrong. Nothing about her changed. Nothing about me changed. We didn't even have an argument. One minute we were talking about going on a vacation together and the next minute I stop picking her calls and started avoiding her. It's been four months now since my feelings for her changed and I still can't make sense of it. She wants answers, she wants to know what she did wrong, why I all of a sudden ended things with her. She thinks I met someone else but I didn't. I just stopped loving her and didn't want her anymore. What happened to me? How can I find my way back to her?

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BLOGLORD said...

hmnnnn..check yourself properly. you just can't stop loving someone just like that except if u were just infatuated in the first place.

Anonymous said...

Her jazz don clear for ya eye be that

Anonymous said...

Obviously you were never truly in love with her so stop being a douchebag and have the courage to tell her so she can move on with her life.

Anonymous said...

Omo I no fit read the entire post....abeg, is too long....based on the title ONLY, I would say it is possible. You are welcome.

Anonymous said...

you were infatuated with her, it has happened to be twice.

omotoyo said...

You are a very confused individual! If you "believe" you dont love her again why are you looking for a way back to her?

guzy said...

It does happen xpecially if there was a reason dat got you so attached to her A̶̲̥̅̊₪d̶̲̥̅̊ you tot it was luv A̶̲̥̅̊₪d̶̲̥̅̊ b4 you knw it,it fades off,but genuin luv never fades

Anonymous said...

Probably cos U have had enough of her pussy

Anonymous said...

My dear, thats not true luv.i guess u r in luv with someone else abi na see finish set? Talk true

Anonymous said...

hiannn! abi you don get one uloma for corner?

Anonymous said...

i didnt think it was possible bt apparently it is...if it happened to u :S

ouigy2001 said...

Well, if to say na Naija movie, i for say her juju don expire. But please when you do find out the answer, let me know cus me sef dey bow for ur sudden change.

ouigy2001 said...

Well, if to say na Naija movie, i for say he juju don expire. But please when you do find out the answer, let me know cus me sef dey bow for ur sudden change.

Anonymous said...

It's obvious tht you were never truly in love with her in the first place so stop being a douchebag and have some balls to tell her so she can move on without the delusion she's walking in

Anonymous said...

Very easy
Options
1. Ur stepmother or her stepmother is at work
2. Ur ex is at work
Pls choose most appropriate answer. Thank me later

Anonymous said...

Na crase dey wori u,monkey aftr hw lng jst lik dat,u nvr talk true.

bkgirl said...

end it then you would want her back, or wait it out it passes . it is common and dat usually helps

Anonymous said...

Only u can answer that questions. Sounds like u have a spirit girl friend tho

Romance Meets Life said...

How can it happen so suddenly, I think something must have happened, search your mind, either you never loved her or something.

★★PRINCE CHARMING™★★ said...

Just take your emotional state back to the things about her that used to get you so affectionate towards here...if its about being tired of her, spice things up. And all this advice can only go if you truly did love her at the beginning, if it wasn't love in the first place then your guess is as good as mine.

jide said...

its simple. she forgot to renew the jazz she used on you. Wait till nxt week and u will be back on the loving train.

Hourayh! said...

I have the exact same issue!

Dunno why, but sometimes my emotions just go blank and I, out of the blues, lose absolutely all feelings for a girl I'm dating.

The most recent was 11 days ago, and I'd been dating the lady for 5 months.

Have thought about it lots but can't, for the life of me, figure it out!!!!

diana said...

Hi dear,u actually didnt stop loving her,d problem might be an issue ur facing,family issues,financial,but wateva it is take time and rectify it,while you kip it on hold.

Anonymous said...

The jazz don expire be dat. She needs to go back to d baba to renew d contract. Lol!

BONARIO NNAGS said...

My brother,I wanted to say its possible,but this one is somewhat strange,
I suspect ur village peopke at work,or check if dis feeling transferred to anoda girl,they can do anything now. before u find urself in a wedding ceremony.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

Anonymous said...

Very hard to comprehend! i feel you mad, but can't proffer a solution, maybe its not meant to work.

Anonymous said...

it is possible, if it initially not based on true love.

www.naijaopenmouth.com

¤Ozone baby¤ said...

It's either d jazz or d lust don clear for your eyes.

nekysparkles said...

Person don jazz u or beta still her village pple are at work.u both nid to go for prayers

Austin Pedro ! said...

U not OK wiv urself!

nony nso said...

Hmmmm ur bahaviour towards her is weired..... Since u said she did notin to u and u dnt know why urself.... No advice

Ameriestyle said...

Yes you can,Love fades
www.ameriestyle.com

Anonymous said...

Guess the juju don wash clear from ur eyes!!!!

Anonymous said...

bros am sorry to ask dis qustion,are u sure nothing is wrong with u?.cos i can c y u shud stop loving a gal dat has nothing wrong or change..pls crosscheck ur self..

-cy.com-

Anonymous said...

Ogundile

syd said...

Well..I think you should really pray about it and see a good pastor... The world is filled with wicked people..it could be that someone doesn't just like the fact that both of you are happy together....

↭PRINCE JOBLESS↭ said...

If she fucks up, yes I can! But that said, I can never EVER stop loving my angel! She gives me everything, sex, long-talks, jealous-talks, everything! I thank God for giving her to me!!! Love her!

Anonymous said...

this one na spiritual matter o....pray hard ok

Reuben Marshal said...

My guy just walk your way back to her the way you did at first after all a woman fall in love with her ears.. It has hapen to me b4 so i conquered it like this.

Anonymous said...

If you've not found another object of interest then u're an ogbanje shikena!! Though I strongly believe d former is d reason 4 ur behaviour cos it happened 2 me once. Sha be careful cos in my own case by d time I realised my new object of interest was a bad ass player my wonderful bobo had found new love. I hated myself. Thank God I'm happily married now

Austin Pedro ! said...

Check urself

Reflekshun said...

You need a full hormonal assay,CT scan,psycotherapy and loads of prayers..buhahahaha!

Anonymous said...

My brother,u may ve been infatuated and got bored having had your fill! Another theory is you may ve psychological issues that make u disconnect from someone.That's y some people travel abroad and forget they loved their parents,spouses or even kids back home!They cut all ties and never keep in touch forever!Most of them ve no reason for walking away!last but not totally impossible is that she may ve use jazz on u!Forget civilization,shit goes down in these climes.Take care!signed:wide eyed!

La Belle said...

I think u need to remind urself of y u fell inlove with her in the first place.yes,people do fall out of love sometimes but it doesn't happen out of the blue.stop avoiding her n instead spend some time wit her so u'll find out wat the problem really is. Maybe she changed an aspect of herself or did something u didn't like. Don't jst walk away when u find something beautiful,good women are scarce these days so u dnt end up with someone u're not compatible with or a gold digging biotch.At the same tym,dnt sweat it if u're sure u no longer love her,so u dnt end up being miserable n making her miserable as well.

Anonymous said...

You were infatuated

Anonymous said...

Eeya the pipu in our village are behind dis,ishe aiye Ni .........Ladun eleke puff puff

ranty said...

Pray broda

Anonymous said...

GO ASK GOD FOR FORGIVENESS...BCOZ ITS OBVIOUS DAT ALL D GURLS IN UR PAST ARE AFTA U. MAYB HEARTS U BROKE. DEY WONT LET U BE HAPPY WIT ANY1 U BE WITH. GO ASK FOR FORGIVENESS.

switchloe said...

switz i tink u nid prayers Asap,if not aw else can one xplain dis?u mite evn find anoda persin n on wantin to propose to ha again ur feelins wil dissapear to God knows wia...

Anonymous said...

Hmmmmmm we r indeed in a dark world oooo,sometin went wrong spiritually wiv u,someone dt doesn't want u guys togeda did it. I can hear someone say dts too primitive or superstitious,well we r in Africa and Africa is a dark continent so stuffs like dis happen frequently,ki Oluwa kowa yo!!! Linda if u like dnt post ooo u r fond of doing dt to my comments,tongue out.

maydebz said...

To me it nt possible u av either piled up some emotion u shuld vented out nd d side effect is loosing every bit of emotion u av for her

Anonymous said...

Shit happens mayb she's not jst the babe u thot u could mould her into and NO u can't jst wake up suddenly and all d feelings wld disappear u must av been noticing somethings that u didn't want to admit to yourself..or maybe ur under a spell or sumfin..

Anonymous said...

bcos she lets you make love to her and bcos she didnt give you a hard time to get her.....thats why you are not more inlove with her...she as to forget about you..i bet you...you will run to her like they did juju to you...people sha with there stupid reasons to fall out of love...

Anonymous said...

Abeg waka before u marry am and later pull a Solomon Akiyesi stunt on her. Better safe than sorry

ogechi nsimah said...

Men that can Neva be trusted... Solomom spirit is working in u , u have to fast and pray to deliver urself else wen u marry u will still wake up for no reason u stop lovin ur wife and d feeling u got for her will vanish. Unless ure not telling us the truth here,

Anonymous said...

consult your oracle!! you were never in love. your infatuation took so long. shikina!!!

Julius Getwise said...

My last relationship lasted 5years and suddenly I felt some how and d girl and I ended it till now am still proudly single and not searching.

Kimorala 1 said...

Your village people are at work!

Anonymous said...

Go thank your God, your eye don clear. The girl forgot to do what the babalawo tellam to dey do for you to love her for ever, or may be power wey pass power don enter, alleluia!

Anonymous said...

thunder fire U

Anonymous said...

Pretty sure you were most likely infatuted, and the reality of something permanent put a sock on it. True love just doesnt dissapear.

Anonymous said...

Oh dear I read ur story and its so touching,well I thing one babalawo in ur village is dancing azonto on ur head lol,well if u wake up all of a sudden nd u stoped loving her without a reason it means that she used jazz for u before now ur eyez don clear so thnk God nd run as fast as u can! Real love never dies! Linda u betta post dis

Anonymous said...

Why do I get a feeln dis is my bf talking to me here buh just modified the story a lil so it looks like its not him buh I'm definitely in dis kind of dilemma at d moment.

Anonymous said...

Wow.....that's a wierd one...dis is a confusing story...

ogechi nsimah said...

Linda this is the more reason why u should upload that Solomon and uloma viedo for people that has that same spirit to learn and also see d shame d will dat will come upon them ..... Cause I don't understand d guy blah blah blah

ogechi nsimah said...

Men that can Neva be trusted... Solomom spirit is working in u , u have to fast and pray to deliver urself else wen u marry u will still wake up for no reason u stop lovin ur wife and d feeling u got for her will vanish. Unless ure not telling us the truth here,

Anonymous said...

Ur a big foooL! Damn!

Anonymous said...

u r definately gay dude!

Anonymous said...

Bros, how many times you don yansh the girl?? U yansh her sotie her punanny no sweet again. U harsh o! I beg free your mind make the girl go meet another bobo wey go love her and the love no go just disappear one day!

Anonymous said...

gay!

Anonymous said...

Quite strange... Guess ur love 4 her wasn't true afterall. True love never dies

Anonymous said...

Pretty sure you were most likely infatuated, and the reality of something permanent put a sock on it. True love just doesnt dissapear.

Anonymous said...

Try to remember wat got u attracted to her,remember the good and happy moments you guys shared together.

Beecee said...

U must be possessed.. Handwork of iyawo orun... I jump u pass.. Yeye

Marcel Duplexis said...

It is possible to suddenly fall out of love if the person involved suddenly suffered blunt force blow to the head that would cause a concussion which degenerates into a comatose state. I guess after regaining consciousness, you would have no idea of who your loved one is, not to talk about anything concerning love; save for this bizarre & unlikely situation, I guess it is humanly impossible to suddenly fall out of love with somebody; or else it wouldn't have been love in the first place!

Anonymous said...

Just let go and wish her well! It happened to me...

Anonymous said...

Since it happened to you, obviously its possible. Tell her u aint feeling it no more and u both move on. Or u fit dey knack dey go sha. U choose.

OlᵘwᵃDᵅᵐ!lᵒlᵃ said...

My friend dem don jazz you, yes! It works like that..so sorry for you..

Anonymous said...

Guy, go and check yourself properly oo . U nor be Serious "PAPI WATER" so? Ehennn

Anonymous said...

Her wicked uncles re at work! Uve bin jazzed 2 4get her...dasall

Anonymous said...

My dear, u were neva in love wit her, cos u can't ever stop loving som1 if u truly love dt person. U dnt love for a reason,so can't find a reason ever to stop loving.

Anonymous said...

It sounds like JUJU things.

sli's chic said...

Some1 smwhere most ve taken u pples picture smwhr.

Anonymous said...

Na jazz tinz.. Either some one does not want de girl to marry, or some one does not want u to marry.. Prayer can do wonders.. Try it!!

ogo modestar said...

U didn't stop loving her, u just got bored. U need something more n exciting,

Anonymous said...

Guess she started repulsin U, nd u needed more dan wat u want or was getting . cos i no ur def sleepin wit other girls 4 d past 4 months . des jus somfin bout her dat was irritatin u . o tan. dats how men suddenly loose interest . u mite jus hav wanted a bigger yansh , or bigger boobs nd tigher p$$$$ , after u don scrape d geh kokoro .

Onyinye Udegbunam said...

Well, there's a very thin line between love and infatuation and I think that what you felt for her was simply infatuation.
You could work things out by first making her your friend. The chances of you falling in love with her all over again would be high. Its almost impossible to fall in love with someone who isn't your friend.
You can mail me on soliancy@gmail.com for further advice on this issue

Anonymous said...

Nothing happened to u, only u got too used to eachother, u got used to seeing dis one person over and over again, I'm sure in the time of ur relationship u av slept with eachother (if u don't already live together), my young man, the "wrong" started from the beginning,now I'm not preaching but its usually important to knw from the beginning if u are with ur mate, I.e the ONE, we can't always go into relationships only to wake up one day to lose the spark, did u ask God? Secondly wr u friends,cos I believe if u wr I don't see how u would wake up one day and decide not to end ur relationship but to lose a friend, if u are sure deep in ur heart that there is no one, and u still care to av a relationship with this lady, go back to God First, hand it over to him, stating ur sincere intentions, listen, cos he will speak, then, talk to ur lady, tell her all u av been going tru, how u av been feeling and hear wat she would say, after I suggest u both pray, u mite think this hard but a lot of successful marriages today went tru this phase, how they decided to deal with it was wat made the difference, I pray u find God as u seek him. Shalom.

ogo modestar said...

U didn't stop loving her, u just got bored. U need something more n exciting.

Brownsugar# said...

I know d feeling... Its something that happened gradually over time, u just didn't notice it!!!
Pray about it...

Anonymous said...

You two Should go for a Break. Vic

krystalbal said...

Two things might be responsible for this.
First, its either what u probably felt the first time was Lust/infactuation and secondly, it is possible that u were charmed to luv her and probably the charm has lost its powers thus this instant feeling. You can never underestimate the powers of a desperate Afican woman

Anonymous said...

I dare say she used to be precious and exciting before you discovered everything and explored every corner of her, now you have lost the excitement cos there's nothing new to look forward to... Plus I don't believe noone else has taken your fancy, real love doesn't die like that! My own one bit! Check urself

ohis said...

I don't know how possible that is,because in this kind of situation there is usually a smoke that carries a fire along, but if u say it just happened suddenly without any trigger before the change of heart towards her, I advise u pray and seek the face of God on this, and also try to think about the things that made u love her at first

Anonymous said...

Its simply means you are not yet ready to settle down.Seems you need to play little bit.It do happens to ladies often.You have to take your time.It do happens sometimes.No big deal.

Anonymous said...

Its psychological, visit a psychologist.

Dita said...

Ok let me try to help u go straight, then turn left.Follow the bush path for 3 days,you will get to her

Anonymous said...

Juju tins

Anonymous said...

After you finished fucking the hell out of her you talking nonsense mtcewwwwwww

Anonymous said...

Its very possible to stop loving some one without a reason.


Anonymous said...

Sometimes you fall immedidately and hard, but I'd say it's more infatuation. Then there are those moments you feel you're truly in love but as time passes, more is revealed and seen, and it's clear you were interested, but not in love.

I suppose it can happen that someone wakes up one day and simply realizes they no longer love someone...I must admit, it did happen to me with a guy I'd been going with 4 years in highschool...I realized slowly after highschool we were drifting in different directions and it's true, one day I woke up and realized he wasn't "the one". He was devastated, but I was clear headed for the first time in a long time...I've often wondered, what was the catalyst that changed me? Why so suddenly? -But looking back, it was one thing after another until finally, I simply realized he wasn't "the one".

If this were to happen in a marriage, I would say it's more like people drifted apart due to responsibilities and changes within themselves where they simply detoured along the way of keeping up a united, married front...So yes, it can happen, but I suspect it isn't as much because of "boredom" as it is people really changing in more serious way's that impact their closeness and desire to stay together.

Anonymous said...

Somebody don jazz u oh.

Anonymous said...

Na wa oooo.u need prayer cos tins dnt happen witout a reason.linda post my comment biko

Anonymous said...

u need a counselor

Anonymous said...

Linda why r u hiding the ezinne part of the solomon saga.

Anonymous said...

its definitely not by avoiding her

Anonymous said...

African power thins. Its not possible!

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Anonymous said...

Hmnnnn! Dis 1 na long question oooo

Williams said...

Iz from ur village..

Peace Osmond said...

two reasons...YOU ARE EITHER GAY..OR YOU ARE JUST HEARTLESS.
You should never treat anyone that way...The least you can do is deal with the situation Like Man.
You are simply selfish...
ok..bye

Anonymous said...

Try to recall wen u guys first met .or try to see a counselor.

M_M Sistas said...

You can't!!

Anonymous said...

You never loved her for the right reasons at first....never stay with anyone out of pity, )explain to her

Anene mac said...

Ur case na special case

Anonymous said...

U need prayers. Lolz

zinny said...

Sometym is obviously wrong somewhere cos dia is no flame without fire.

Anonymous said...

U need prayers. Lolz

ROCKSTAR said...


Any woman who has been around for a while (about fifteen years old and up) will understand that men cannot always be relied on to tell the truth when they speak about love and marriage. Neither can women. This sudden, inexplicable rejection of your girlfriend simply shows that It is not possible to know absolutely that a partner will remain interested. What I think is less well recognized is that it is not absolutely certain that someone can know that he/she himself/herself will not suddenly become disenchanted or, indeed, fall in love with someone else.
The confusion and disappointment that follows grows out of a misunderstanding of what is meant when someone says, “I love you.”
The truth is that the boyfriend suddenly became disenchanted. Don't get it twisted, feeling a certain way, right this minute, does not mean that such a feeling will last--even if, like every other strong feeling-- it seems subjectively as if it will.
Believe me, nothing is wrong with you..... I think these broken engagements, which seem to happen unpredictably and not infrequently cannot really be understood. Not only are we not absolutely sure of our partners, we cannot be absolutely sure of ourselves.

Anonymous said...

B A S T A R D
Simple jst tell her you are a bastard

Anonymous said...

Self Denial

Anonymous said...

Sometin obviously distracted u,all u nid to do is check urself and find out wat went wrong..

Anonymous said...

U never loved her....Thank God it ended before it started....If u had proposed u will both regret it later on.... she will get over it and meet someone else.....

Anonymous said...

Crazy things happen!

Anonymous said...

It's understandable. You might just be realising you are gay. There are different ways of finding out.

Anonymous said...

O boi! I have a feeling u r tired of sleeping with her that's y u have changed

kidodo said...

Mine is almost d same problem any girl I slept wit d feelings I ave 4 her disappear immediately. So my guy u re nut alone u jos ave to leave wit it or try another girl.

Enny said...

Not a normal something,Seek spiritual help asap!

James said...

If it has just happened to you, why are you asking that question?

Anonymous said...

No No No No... Na lie u talk.. U never talk true.. Suddenly?? Nothing changed?? Like hell nothing changed.. Abegiiii jor find another lie

Anonymous said...

U better b a man nd tell dis woman hw u feel. Dts not fair on her at all she's got feelings too u ass

ec said...

YES U CAN.I SAY THIS FROM EXPERIENCE.FOR NO DAMN REASON.BUT THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE U CAN GET:PRAY ABOUT THIS,TRY TO MEDITATE SND REMBER THE THINGS THAT MAKE U TEO SPARK AND FIND YOUR WAY BACK.COS I DONT WHAT HAPPENED TO ME TO HappeN TO YOU.I LOST THE LOVE OF MY LIFE COS I CDNT FIGURE IT OUT THEN,NOW I CANT FIND MY WAY BACK AND FOR ONE YEAR ITS BEEN PINS AND NEEDLES COS CANT FIND NO ONE LIKE HIM AND HE MOVED ON.NB:ANOTHER POSSIBILTY,MAYBE ANOTHER BABE DON DEY JAZZ U FOR INSIDE BOTTLE FOR UR VILLAGE.KIDDING.PLS TAKE MY ADVICE.IF U STRAY UL LEARN THRS BEEN NO ONE LIKE HER.STRAYING TO CAN HELP U FALL BACK IN LOVE THO.U MIGHT BE LUCKIER THAN I WAS IF SHES STILL THERE

Anonymous said...

True love they say never dies, and I think sometimes love is beyond that rush u feel. More often than not that's infatuation. may be u tot u loved her and actually u didnt.my advice is that you pray about it. it is well. linda post my comment

Anonymous said...

o boy u dey craze, no2: u get spiritual wife or she has spiritual husband. smartburg

chiberry said...

It sounds like you were jinxed and just came back to your senses.

Anonymous said...

Trust me. Some forces are pressing either ur mumu button or hers.on a second thought she may hav "jazzed" you senselesss

Anonymous said...

You can't just suddenly stop loving someone for nothing. There's a reason, think well you'll know why. Or maybe you tired of her.

Anonymous said...

look for another gal. Simple.

Omorodion MLK Martin said...

Honest truth is,your must have been infatuated.
Most of us singing love may not even be in love,that's if we all want to be real.
True Love is strong and can't just be disintegrated easily.
You can never stop loving someone you have true love for. If you like go and marry someone else,you will surely remember whom you loved truly. My brother,to be honest with you,90% that are married today were not in love/true love,maybe 10% out of the 90% later found true love while married,that tells you that 80% of married people may/are not in love but still married. So it doesn't take just love to stay married.
Some are still married because of fame,money,royalty,family name protection,sex,pity,children,business deals,family pressure etc.

It's marry a woman and love her NOT love a woman and marry her,because love is something you build.
Find a woman and love her Not love and find her,if not you will love more than one woman and get confused.

But because human beings are greedy and impatient,we tend wait trying to fall in and out of love (infatuation) with as many people as possible before marriage.

Saythetruth said...

Devils at work

Anonymous said...

Yu were nt inlove sucker! Itz lust!!! Now dt shi z over yu bak to ur real sef yu guys miss lust fr love two diff shii

tolu said...

spiritual girlfriend no want u to go noni. lool. just pray

Anonymous said...

Try and remember why you fell inlov with her,tak her out wit u on a date nd see if ders still a spark inside.der was no complete details whether u two see regularly or not.but either way try goin out together as frends nd try to find wat made u fall in love wit her d first tym u met her,do this witout any biase in your heart den u can tak it from der!!it might just be your mind playin tricks sha...

Chibuike said...

U must be oliver twist

Dr. Pinch said...

Oh boy na God save you, better go and do thanksgiving because na jazz wey just comot for your eyes. Eyaaa e be like say the native dr wey dey cook the pot of jazz for her don die. LOL JAZZ THINGS!!!

Anonymous said...

Listen up Bro,love ia a verb.Its something you make a conscious decision to do.So stop whining and start loving again.Remember all the things that made you fall in love with her at first.Pray and ask God for his help afterall God is love...

Anonymous said...

Guy ur spirit wife don come in b dat, u better act fast to avoid heart break. Linda wetin I do u, if to post dey tire u, employ me, I ll not take much,one infinity jeep go do me sha. Oya am waiting

Anonymous said...

It means she's not your wife and God dosent want you making a mistake of propsing to her! Go out there and get your wife!

samx said...

U need help from shrink. U gat deep issues. Samx

Cute G said...

So sorry dear.I probably feel u re infactuated with the girl.There's nothin wrong with u.That is what differenciates infactuation frm real love,it disappears wt tym.

Anonymous said...

Lol. Yeah right. The jazz she used for you has expired.

Anonymous said...

Prayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

Anonymous said...

Sounds like my bf

ohis said...

I don't know how possible that is,because in this kind of situation there is usually a smoke that carries a fire along, but if u say it just happened suddenly without any trigger before the change of heart towards her, I advise u pray and seek the face of God on this, and also try to think about the things that made u love her at first.Linda pls post it oh

fj said...

Stay away frm her 4 sometime,give urself time 2 miss her

Ellie of the Acorns said...

Just Drop Dead

cia said...

u have phobia for marriage- that is what is wrong with u.u need a psychological assessment.

Anonymous said...

Well said!

Anonymous said...

The Devil is usin ur brain to play Ping Pong my dear...PRAY OOO

Anonymous said...

nothing happened to you...it's very normal...one thing some married couples wont admit is that u wont always be euphorically in love with each other...even in marriage u will have that...but that's when u show your character...if it's worth fighting for...pray..think about all the things that made u fall in love with her..the good memories u two had...dont do that to the girl..it's painful

Anonymous said...

My Dear sm tin might b wroung sm wia so plz i wnt u 2 pray dt God will help u

Nedu20 said...

summary???

chinedu onyibe-akenzua said...

perhaps your utmost desire was probably 'cancel her', and you 've achieved that, or is there something else?

Anonymous said...

Seek the face of GOD FAST............

Anonymous said...

I'm tired of all these fake stories.

--Teeteelahyo--

Anonymous said...

Guy check urself if u dey make luv 4 dream, am very sure dats whr d probs is comin, pele o its well

Anonymous said...

Linda, I go swear F̶̲̥̅̊ọ̥я̩̥̊ ΰя head o, u havnt posted any of ma comments today, y?

Anonymous said...

I met a man.I wasn't attracted bc he hadn't d qualities I wanted. I gave it a try bc he looked responsible and serious. We dated . We fell in love.I took risks just to b with him.We quarreled often but we couldn't let go.Kept learning. Got married.Started marriage with relations around.Bore it all bc I love him and his family loves me for this.Raisng kids.More of the ups and less of the downs bc I have decided to OVERLOOk and b happy.why?? I Love him.It is IMPOSSIBLE to just stop loving.Bros, u never loved her.

Anonymous said...

He's wrong. Love isn't summin u build. You can't build loving a blind man enough to marry him, or an extremely poor person,or a disabled person. Love is when u care for someone and accept them that way no questions asked. If it isn't like the love that drove Christ to d cross then it aint love. God is love, he's d originator of it, so except he loves u while u r nothing then it aint love. Build love ko, meaning u r saying love should be earned. Its a free gift my dear :)

--Teeteelahyo--

Anonymous said...

Lmao afi gay nor!

Anonymous said...

U were never in love with her it was just lost and infatuation it happened to me. Just tell her d truth i regreated not telling my ex boy friend d truth whn i broke up with him d first time he was so nice to me and very cute i went back to him after 1 yr thinking that i might fall in love with him but after 3 months i felt nothing for him i had to end d relationship for good my friends were confused and angry with me because we all knws d guy was madly in love with me. I told them d truth i was never in love with him and it wasn't fair to keep leading him on knwing how much he loved me. Just give it time both of u will find love again. Am married now with 2 kids and i knw i did d right thing breaking up with my ex.

vivacious diva said...

I never believed for once that love cld fade in a blink until it happened to me! I was in a relationship for abt 3yrs n we were plannin to take it a step higher wen out of d blues evrything fell apart. He used to call me more than 20 times a day n i aint exaggerating! If i happened not to pick,d nxt thing he does is to call members of my family,jst to speak wit me. He always sent txts n even wen i didnt ask,he,d send money to my acc. I felt i had found d ONE! I remained faithful n loyal until he jst stopped callin,sendin txts nor picking my calls. I asked for answers buh no tangible one was given! Everything he felt for me jst paused! It was very very hard to suck in. I almost died! But i found strength in d words n soothing shoulders of my mum n was able to pull through. He may have reasons for such an action but up till now i,m still not in d knw of wat transpired. Love fades n its for real!

trish said...

Loving dat statement on #love is a verb#...its only dis guy dat cn solve his problem oh.Sit down n meditate n ask urself Qs...cos me I dnt want u to marry dis my poor female sister and wake up one morning to say dt u dnt hv feelings again n mayb decide to act like Solomon did sm days bck...lol.U no be pikin pls dnt act lyk 1...n if ure spiritual,pray abt it...God will see u thru bruv.

nony nso said...

For real?? Then learn to stop sleeping wit them and start wit being justs friends....

Anonymous said...

This is exactly what am going through..i think if the love isn't there anymore there is no point forcing it cos really a broken relationship is better than a broken home.and if u can fall outta love now that u rnt married so what happens when u v to spend the rest of your life with her? i think its better to move on...discover ur flaws and make a difference in ur new relationship.

Anonymous said...

Its not that you don't love her anymore. You are trying to reason it too much that's why you feel that way. And love isn't practical it isn't reasonable. Love can't suddenly get up and leave. Its that male instinct that's like a time bomb that's ticking. If you let it get to you and you break up with her you will only regret it. Be strong mehn Love is all you need and you gat it

TOLUWALASHE'S BOO said...

You'v screwed her right?
You are insane.
You never loved her.
Ori e baje.
Idiot.

Anonymous said...

The truth is you really didn't love her.. All you felt was just a strong passion. You were strongly attracted to her. All these years I've learnt that true love transcends what we feel, its a conscious decision to be with someone and sticking with that person, its a commitment to be there for each other because you wanna make it work, being with someone who you understand and understands u as much. If you base love on the physical you'll get it wrong.. True love/Gods love is spiritual.. Pray to God if that's what you're going through, seek to understand love true meaning cos you might make the same mistake all over again.. #Dr Kaodi#..

Anonymous said...

Omo wait oh!! This had better not be my man that sent this in! He knows I visit this blog a lot and we have been dating exactly 1yr and 9 months. No wonder he changed, at least I now know what the problem is and I thought it was me. Thank u for coming online and talking about our private issue! BASTARD!

choco said...

Gbam!!!

Dem Mama said...

Who are the imbeciles that sleep with an immature rat like you? Obviously you are one of those that believe that any girl that opens her gate to a man is useless whereas you do all it takes to convince them in the first place.

Anonymous said...

Its spiritual am feeling ur pains cos ws on it bt tnx to God hav bin deliverd,meet a tru man of God for deliverence all will b well.

Olajide Sholanke said...

Abeg! Male una leave dis bros jare. Nothing changed abt u and her, u just stopped loving. Abeg change topic when u r ready to tell us d true version of d story we go advice...shikena

Anonymous said...

Na wa kidodo ehen ehn!u can cajole a lady u call ur gf to sleep wit u then allow urself fall out of love! ladies are tryin...truth is mst ladies wld prefare 2 close dea legs but they want to please u! wit ppl lk u hu hit n run...u cant marry virgin!eva...if by mistake u encounter 1 sef she wld fall inlove wit sm1 else and gv her virginity 2 him.karma is always dea guys!u encourage ladies and insult dem again!smh

Anonymous said...

You love the woman you marry. Women should submit to their husband not their boyfriend. Love is more than words. It means a whole lot more.

Anonymous said...

Anu ofia
So ur advice is 2 try anoda girl ba
2mao wen ur dautas begin 2 cry of steady hrt brk
U'll open d@ gutter of an opening u call a mouth nd say 'y me?'
***JANTA***

Anonymous said...

Shout aleluaia, aleluaia 7 times, then go back to sleep.

Kanakana said...

check your past record bro..I don't wanna believe in jazz but it is a wicked world.
Best of luck dealing with this..

Anonymous said...

See, God bless you, it is impossible to just stop, you can't brother..I'm seeing someone now,but truth is I'm still in love with the guy I dated back in 2009.

Anonymous said...

winchy winchy in action!!!

Anonymous said...

Thank you! I'm seeing some @ the moment, he calls me first thing in the omrning, afternoon, we joke a lot, we make fun of silly ppl et all,but now nko? Everything stopped, he picks his calls anytime he feels like, he doesn't reply to pings..I don thin, ppl keep askin why I look hw I look, they don't know what I'm goin thru cos I can't even tell anybody. And you knw the truth,I did exact same thing to a guy last year..Karma na big time bitch.

Anonymous said...

Did you fuck another girl? Better check yourself, possible another girl jazzed you..walahi no be lie, and no be today.

Anonymous said...

ayobami! really sounds like u, maybe its cos of d cash for d vacation. after u calculated it u decided ntt to spend such an Amounnt on a gal.anyway its just u. no 1can take dat away from u..check itself u hv a big problem.

Anonymous said...

Shataaap.if my friend ewu

Anonymous said...

Wif a name lyk "kidodo" evn ma maid wouldn't sleep wif U.. R U sure U eva slept wif any1 or Ur jus givn urself hope?

Chidozie Mario said...

This is quite unusual, it's possible you never meant to love her in the first place but were under a spell. It could also have been infatuation all the while.

Anonymous said...

Oboy! U are a real Guy Man! After Fucken her Black and Blue, U got bored & u want 2 dump her. Its normal sha. Dats why i always tell my Sisters" no matter hw honey u are, u hav 2 starve ur BF at times. Cuz the more he hits it, the more he gets bored with it.

Anonymous said...

Wow! My bf of 3yrs broke up wit me. Same reason. He said nice tins bout me n hw I'm 100% wife material and a true friend but he doesn't feel anytin all of a sudden. Took him mths2 say this n he avoided me also. Dint have any quarrel nor use jazz on him so y'all stop talkin jazz. Mayb guys tin #bbm confused face.

Anonymous said...

U need deliverance...

coco butta said...

Lmao Okpo!

Anonymous said...

@ rockstar very objective view and uve put both parties into perspective.well thought out and well deliverd.well done!

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