I would like to share my problem and hopefully get some good advice on this predicament I have found myself. I am 24 and grew up in a Christian home where going to church was the only recreational activity allowed in my house. My parents are pastors and they pastor a large pentecostal church in lagos.Growing up in my house felt like a military camp, friends from school weren't allowed over and the only kids I got to associate with were pastors kids like myself and all we were allowed to discuss was the bible because watching TV wasn't even allowed except its a gospel program.
So naturally not having friends turned me into a quiet girl and I was the obedient and perfect girl to everyone and most parents wished they had me, but what all didn't know was that behind the quiet charming girl I was a totally different person. Years of being monitored and not being allowed to interact socially had messed up my sanity and sexuality, because since I was allowed to play with only girls I had learnt to develop emotional feelings for only girls.
Fast track to 4months ago, I have always kept my sexuality in check because I'm a pastors kid from an influential home and I couldn't just act out even if i wanted to. So one evening I was visiting a friend after work hours and I got introduced to this other friend of hers, and from the minute I set my eyes on her I knew I needed to have her and nature smiled on me and somehow we became an item.
She was everything I wanted and she fulfilled all my guilty pleasures and she was my first, thou I kept my last name and family background from her. Two weeks ago she calls me up and says that I haven't been treating her right that I never told her I was from a super rich home and since I had a name to protect that she needs 5million naira for Christmas shopping.
At first I thought she was crazy but now she's threatening to tell my folks and the entire church. My parents may have gotten it wrong in the child training section but they are good people and it would ruin their reputation if the church finds out.
So do I tell them the truth about my sexuality and impending disaster or do I pay her the N5m or do I just take the long rope and walk away from home and never return. Because either way I can't change my sexuality and I have 2weeks to go before all hell breaks loose.
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Just take to your family about it,they'll know how best to handle the issue,cuz if you pay the 5m,you'll just keep paying it.ojiuchechukwu@gmail.com
No advice is beta n candid dan d 1 u gv ursef....look dip down ursef n yu wud find d solution to ur own pro bt i strongly suggest u let ur parent knw atleast it beta dey hear it 4rm yu dan 4rm an external body (bt it sure gonna hurt them tho) so b prepared
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Blackmaillers are insatiable, on no account should u give her any dime, cos if u do she will keep asking for more until u go bunkers.just ignore her, she can't do more than a dead rat
If u pay up, she will keep asking 4 more call her bluff n threaten to report her to d police 4 blackmail n since it was a secret affair u can always say it was a lie n its jst cheap blackmail.
Is she coming out straight, or is it a blackmail thingy.
y didyou do that at the first place, but.my advse to You isTHat you Shouldn't give (Her) a kobo, why BCos. She might used tHat as a. Piont of luthing money. From. YoU! Just prepare. Your mine for. The. Worst. Once. And. For. All irrespective of your. Parent. Reputation or. Not, bcos you should have. Think on those things in. The. First place before you put your self on. Those bulshit.
To bad, the thought of using a rope is a terrible approach, think twice dear...
story for the gods
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Tell your parent.They will forgive you.@bolajiadesola79@gmail.com
Why na, or Repent
Left fr me its not somfine u shld hide anymore frm ur parents. Certainly their reputation is at stake bh its fr the best. Religion is nt by force neither is worshiping too regardless of de surrounding circumstances n repercussions. alexnovitch@yahoo.com
Tell her to go to hell she no go fit do anytin if she says anytin deny it... she is very stupid
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Tell ur parents, dn't fall for her cheap blackmail
I know people will insult this girl.. but you have to look at this case on a different level.. I totally get the whole PK thing and not everybody can act well... I will advise you tell your parents and you guys go into serious prayer and fasting for God's intervention.. since you mentioned they were good people and are true Christians.. just tell them..
The will KILL you first though but they will prayer for you If What you said bout them being good people is true!
I think u should tell ur parents.. And watch d girl go gaga. Buh its gonna be one hell of "prayer year" for u cause ur parents are gonna try n pray out dat lesbianism in u.
she's a devil incarnate,no be the two of una dey run the parole ni?? Anyways na ur palaver be that #Chizzy says so... chisomhelen19@gmail.com
Nawa.....Ewo
Never give in to blackmail...for whatever reason. Tell your parents and all he'll will break lose because if you give her, she will keep coming back for more. God help you.
One of my tried this shit with me I told him I've our sex tape....but am not a pastors son.gurl u got ur self a bad gurlfriend so deal with it.tell her u don't care that she should go to helll!!!!!!b!!!
lol....God created Adam n Eve not Ada n Steve...my advice for u is to tell ur parents to cast that demon out of u..plus dnt eva giv in to ur so called beau cos she' ld tink der s many from where dt came from...lobatan# marioxyne@gmail.com
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I won't really blame u cos of d way u were brought up,but don't tell me u hav 5million to giv away jst like dat,hop u ain't kidding me. Anyway tell ur parents abt it dey wil b mad @ u bt definitely dey wil 4giv u rather dan somebody else letting dem know abt it, try n go 4 deliverance 2 cast out dat spirit b4 it wil ruin ur life.
Oode oshi... Jus word of mouth is mkin u scared. Dnt u no after payin her 5m she wil continue usin u as atm machine 2 suck u dry so let her go public u can stil defend ursef unless she has pics or video 2 show 2 bk up her act so threaten her bk n she wil run lik boko haram no her address... Abi na
Nne I understand your childhood life and what it is like, there is no point running from your home, the truth would set you free dear, just tell your people the truth no mata how hard it is, cos one day it would still fest up in a bad way. Ur pple won't kill u, after all the loved yu unconditionally. Obumnemeudeze@gmail.com
Nne I understand your childhood life and what it is like, there is no point running from your home, the truth would set you free dear, just tell your people the truth no mata how hard it is, cos one day it would still fest up in a bad way. Ur pple won't kill u, after all the loved yu unconditionally. Obumnemeudeze@gmail.com
Tell your parents. They are in d best position to help u. You need God seriously. Go on ur knees...fast, pray and give alms from the bottom of your heart. you'll see the wonderful result. Btw, ask God for forgiveness of sin. Cheers
Confused ryt now tho........
Tell them urself in a letter, cos if u face them, they may slap u n u won't finish expressing urself. Don't pay her any money, cos if u do. It won't end there , she will keep on threatening u. Tell ur parents dear
Nne I understand your childhood life and what it is like, there is no point running from your home, the truth would set you free dear, just tell your people the truth no mata how hard it is, cos one day it would still fest up in a bad way. Ur pple won't kill u, after all the loved yu unconditionally. Obumnemeudeze@gmail.com
Hmm, this is one of the disadvantages of being a gay
Ok o we hear
Nne I understand your childhood life and what it is like, there is no point running from your home, the truth would set you free dear, just tell your people the truth no mata how hard it is, cos one day it would still fest up in a bad way. Ur pple won't kill u, after all the loved yu unconditionally. Obumnemeudeze@gmail.com
You may have to confess even tho it might be very hard...if you give her the N5m she'd keep coming back.
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hmm....my dear friend. "He who has not sinned should cast the first stone" culled from the bible. Its not a time to condemn your act though devilish.The way forward is to open up to God first admitting your wrong doing and prayerfully approach your parents.Your future is more important than your past mistakes. As for your ungodly friend, dont yield to her threats else you'll remain a slave to her for as long as she wants. Remember, Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful...... Ps 1:1
i tink u shud discuss dix it wit ur parents
am no 1 @ akinak4u
The girl has got to be bluffing. Last time I checked being a Lesbian in Nigeria is punishable by 14yrs or so in jail. Unless she likes being a jail bird she really doesn't ha proof to present in her accusation. So I will call her bluff if I were you.
Though living a lie isn't right, the truth always comes out.
..... But not when there's some bi*ch asking for 5M. Is she on something?????? WTH
Tell her the truth
If u pay her dat money now ur goin 2 keep payin. So i advice u tel ur parents about it.
Dear LIB reader,never,i repeat,Never u dare give her d money,becos if u do,she will keep asking for more..tell ur parents,i no it won't be easy,but summon up courage and tell dem,u will b surprised how d case will b resolved..de won't kill u cuz u are dia child and is against Christianity to kill..jus tell dem..cuz ur lover will collect d moni,and wen she demands for anoda one and u couldn't give it to her,she will eventually expose u..now who is on d losing team? So my dear open up to dem..dia is no sin dat cnt be forgiven..God forgives dem every day,so why won't de...
I want u 2 listen carefully. Do not pay her dt 5million cos she will come bak for more n kip comin bak. Seat ur parents down n tel dem d truth. Blackmailers are d same dey olwys cme bak
why.....
pls tell ur parent about it. and repent of it. there is no gain in doing wat ur doing. God love's u so much that he gave his life for u n i. dnt sell ur dignity.
The problem is if you give her, she will ask for more. Either you keep paying up, or tell your parents and report to the police for blackmail.
see ehn , the truth is ... if u give her 5m now , she will demand something bigger nxt time ... moreso , just take it up to ur parent if they are accomondating and one of them has a listening ears or better still , a grown and trusted person dt knws ur family very well and explain thing then u set the lady up and let them bith catch u guys together and the synrio will be influencd that she lured u intpo it knowing fully well that u re frm a christian background and ur pareent are pastor.As a result , am sure u knw wat will happen next ... all the best
see ehn , the truth is ... if u give her 5m now , she will demand something bigger nxt time ... moreso , just take it up to ur parent if they are accomondating and one of them has a listening ears or better still , a grown and trusted person dt knws ur family very well and explain thing then u set the lady up and let them bith catch u guys together and the synrio will be influencd that she lured u intpo it knowing fully well that u re frm a christian background and ur pareent are pastor.As a result , am sure u knw wat will happen next ... all the best
i think you should tell ua parents first
one advise dear. talk to ur parents. no matter what,they will always understand if they r truly pastors...then to the girl...give her your middle finger instead and tell to go f**k herself...n den report her to the police as blackmail...my dear don't leave ur whole life behind bcus of one mistake...get up n be wiser dear. bless u
If u pay her d 5million,u will continue paying 2 shut her up. Don't pay her any dine.just confront ur parents if she continues.
Its her word against yours really. As far as you're concerned, she is lying.
Except she has some incriminating pictures, then you're screwed.
But my advice, sit your mum down and start talking...
I want u 2 listen carefully. Do not pay her dt 5million cos she will come bak for more n kip comin bak. Seat ur parents down n tel dem d truth. Blackmailers are d same dey olwys cme bak
Well she has no choice but to just tell her folks before the girl comes out with it, better they hear it from from her...
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You have messed up,pray and ask God for forgiveness.Tell your parents the truth and you will peace within. kcpatrick1976@gmail.com
You need to ask God for forgiveness. It is better you pray and tell your parents yourself. God will guide you
she can't expose you except she's a hardcore dead stone-hearted whore!
Go to your parents and apologise to them,they wil forgive you.chispec@gmail.com
It all means you have access to good money?but let me tell you this?if you give her money now,she will come back for more,better ignore her and inform your parents of what you have involved your self into and tell her you are sorry and move on.
that girl is evil. dont pay her a dime. u can tell ur parents so they will expect the disaster when it comes. change ur line n leave d country for sometime. besides is there any eveidence? if none deny d bastard.
Let the hell break loose. I can guarantee you the girl doesn't have the guts to spill anything. No be Nigeria??? She would be tagged a demon, Devils hand work. Just go on with you life. Call her bluff.
be yourself
How i so wish LIBers will give this girl a candid advise instead of raining insult on her....My dear, its going to be her word against yours, let her tell then its left for u to deny, trust me with the kind of people ur parents her, they won't easily take the word of a stranger to yours!
zozo
if you ask me na who I go ask?
It all means you have access to good money?but let me tell you this?if you give her money now,she will come back for more,better ignore her and inform your parents of what you have involved your self into and tell her you are sorry and move on.
Reward me too o bi ko
The TRUTH and only the TRUTH, will set you free.
Ma dear dis ur mata eh...tellin ur parents isn't an easy one @all. cox dey may kill u n kill demselvs.if u were involvd wit a guy,its a deferent case bt a lady..babe hmmm.first pray for 4givnes..take off n tell ur parents while u r away..cox dat wud solve d mata or beta stil deny it if d babe doesn't av evidence to proove..
It all means you have access to good money?but let me tell you this?if you give her money now,she will come back for more,better ignore her and inform your parents of what you have involved your self into and tell her you are sorry and move on.
Though your action are wrong i cant kill you for it , pay now and forever remain her slave. Ask God for forgiveness and let his will be done. Given her money is not an option.
LIVE D COUNTRY & DENY BEING A LESBIAN TILL U GET TO WIA U WUD B ACCEPTED FOR WHO U R. GOOD LUCK BUH DAT LESBIAN TIN NA BAD TIN SHA TUFIAKWA.
So touching...bae talk to your parent about your sexuality..its ganna be alright
Ghen Ghen
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First and foremost sincerely ask God for forgiveness and tell your parents about it. I believe they will surely understand and ready to forgive you. Please don't pay give that money. It shall be well.
Reward me too bi ko
Never succumb to threats and blackmail. Have a meeting with her first and probably get someone she respects in and u guys should reason it out. If this doesn't work, m afraid you gatta tell your parent
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Oh my God! So sad to hear, but my dear u just av to tell ur parents so dt wen d heat comes, de would av been prepared for it. N u also need prayers too bc it's not normal, I understand it's due to d way u were brought up, am not judging but just tell ur parents ok. Problem shared is problem half solved.
U shud Ave tot of dat b4 doing something like expecially wen u Ave u parents name to protect....d deed is done already..so I advice u come out plain to ur parents b4 d does anything...dat will b better dey are ur parents dey won't kill u...so dey know how to handle d issue.................kessyufuoma@gmail.com
paying her is not an option you should consider but ask God for forgiveness and tell your folks.
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If you pay her now then get ready to pay more. The thing is let her expose you i am sure you will survive it and be better.
I think you shld talk to your parents before she gets to them. If she's asking for 5million now, she will ask for more later.
Please tell your parent about it,seek for their forgiveness and God's forgiveness because if you pay the ransom, believe me she will ask for 10M next time and thats how her demand will be rising in a geometrical progression, sweetheart you don't need to commit suicide because if you do no doubt you will be going to the open arms of devil, my dear please and please confide in your parents.the truth is deed has been done already. Don't pay her anything, don't kill yourself and don't plan any evil against her...This is my candid advise please heed to it.
My dear talk to your parents let them pray for you and help you. Then you can travel out of the country. Don't give her a dime, she's a gold digger
Simple, don't do shit. It will be your words against hers..... Nwokorophilip@gmail.com
I just think she should tell her parents Bcos the lady wil come nd ask 4 more money after this 5m. But lesbianism is dirty sha
Please allow d situation to play out by itself. Take d chance. Let her tell d tell. Accept nd apologise to ur pple. Repent. Don't give her any kobo. She is guilty too.
Hmmmmm, there is actually no excuse for your sexual orientation. However, I will advice you to tell your parents because that your partner will not stop at 5million, she will turn you to her ATM machine.
Bonne chance!
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Hi Young Lady, my advice is that you should sit your parents down and tell them the truth. Nothing is new on earth, they will forgive you and you will be a better person to champion a change in the way sex and sexuality is perceived in that church and the world at large.
Hi Young Lady, my advice is that you should sit your parents down and tell them the truth. Nothing is new on earth, they will forgive you and you will be a better person to champion a change in the way sex and sexuality is perceived in that church and the world at large.
Talk to your parent.One of the qualities of a preacher is to teach forgiveness.now,let them practise it.The truth is the devil is always looking for the children of powerful men of God to use.All you need is prayer and re orientation of your sexuality.You want to dash one stupid girl N5m because of what?.Is she the one that paid your school fees?Go on your kneels and tell your family to forgive.Your dad would find a solution.harberdy@gmail.com
I just hope most of the parents on this blog will learn not to be over protective & give their children time & chance to socialize irrespective of who they're or what they do.
This is tricky I must confess but I have to rebuke you here. That your parents only allowed you to be close to the female folks is not an excuse to be sexually attracted to them. You are truly a disappointment to your parents, the church and indeed the Christian community. If you truly studied your Bible as a Pastor's daughter, you will know what God says about having feelings or being sexually involved with same sex.
I will not encourage you to give your so called partner a dime cause if you do, you have opened a drainage pipe. The devil never gets satisfied so do not give it a start. Confess your sins to your parents and let them know everything. Taking a long walk will not solve anything and do not compound your sins with more sins.
Ask God to be your guide and guard and remember that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Forgive your partner and let go of her. Give a man a chance and I can assure you that you will be glad you did.
Looking forward to reading another post from you of good tidings.
my advise is ...just pray that God fixes you and fixes the situation.. cos lesbianism is an abberation ,its not the normal norm....adam and eve .. not adam and steve, as much as i understand ur plight . if ur mum and dad were not an item , u wont be there today....go meet her .. tape the conbversation .. own up to a correct dpo .. then get her arrested for black mail.. when they threaten her she would soft peddal
First and foremost sincerely ask God for forgiveness and tell your parents about it. I believe they will surely understand and ready to forgive you. Please don't pay give that money. It shall be well.
Tell your parents dear.they will sort it out.Families don't like being exposed trust me.
Linda post my comment o.you've never posted my comment.ahn ahn! , Na beef?
What an interesting script written by a good writer. Looking forward to seen d finale episode. Am sure in two weeks I wil get a copy of the full gist.
Ur sexuality ur business.. Any ways , u asked for advice n here it is ::::> even if u tell ur parents , ur gf wil do wat she has to do. If u giv her d 5m for shopping then be prepared to pay another 10-15million for a house. { She don open office b that }
U both shld. Jst settle as lovers , { tho i don't support same sex } na misunderstanding unna get so promise to take care of her. U too spend for ur lover.
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You don't work away from your problems, you face them. so tell your parents about it, they will be able to give counsel. I believe they will pray with you and this all whole issues will be a thing of the past.
Super story! !!
My dear,its well! Is because you have been destined to be great and righteous,that is why this black-mail is coming up in-order to restrain your steps.Please,open up to your parents for they love you so much and God will help them to tackle it better than paying a black-mailer because she will still request for more money next time. For your own good,avoid that act and pray against it for it is evil.QED!
Wow girl you got 5million to give her? Hit me up richmondboyo@yahoo.com for some advice...
For the main time, dont ever pay that bitch or else shes going to keep asking for more.
And 2 dont run away, your parents wont kill you. Just wait for her to do her worse. This is reality for you. Every body go through that one annoying, embarrassing, sad, crazy situation in their life. Some days are just like this. Dont let it ruin your life and make you run away from home. Just stand up to her and tell her you not affraid...
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My dear,its well! Is because you have been destined to be great and righteous,that is why this black-mail is coming up in-order to restrain your steps.Please,open up to your parents for they love you so much and God will help them to tackle it better than paying a black-mailer because she will still request for more money next time. For your own good,avoid that act and pray against it for it is evil.QED!
I think u should just tell the truth and shame the devil then u can get ur freedom and God is till giving u a second chance
I hate loosing 2 d devil
I think u should just tell the truth and shame the devil then u can get ur freedom and God is till giving u a second chance
Don't give any money. Never mind when she goes public. Let the devil be exposed so that you can be delivered. Sin thrive in secrecy. For the act to stop, it has to be exposed.
Carry go.. timiforlife1986@gmail.com
First of all, I'm not going to condem you because of your sexuality..its your choice. Your patner won't gain anything by telling your folks and the church at large..you don't have to elope or do anything rash either. I would rather advice you talk to her and make her understand that blackmailing you won't make her christmas shopping dream come true.
Its best you let your parents know, that is the only way you can get help and not pay your partner 5million, because if you do she will come back for more.
The gurl is high marijuana, don't give her a dime, she can't do nothing if she eventually tells pls stand your ground and tell everyone its a rumour from the pit of hell as a matter of fact u've never had anything to do withh her and the thought of u being a lesbian is ridiculous EXCEPT THERE'S A VIDEO TAPE OR SOMETHING
NO EVIDENCE, NO CASE,
She'll eventually look stupid and run back to the gutter she came from
tell your parents the truth, they are still gonna love you irrespective of everything .and even if everybody finds out about it,no problem,we all have our past.good luck sis'.BTW have u ever considered dating a man? like a real man!!
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I do not believe you are telling the truth. but be it as it may, the simple thing to do is GO TO YOUR PARENTS LIKE THE PRODIGAL SON. TELL THEM THE YOUR TRUE SEXUALITY; 2.QUICK FROM THAT HOUSE OF HELL;
3.IGNORE EVERY THE THREAT/BLACKMAIL
4.GO TO GOD AS WELL AS VILEST SINNER YOU ARE;
5. NEVER REMAIN IN YOUR PRESENT STATE OF DESPONDENCY AND TREPIDATION.
6. IT IS WELL WITH YOU IN JESUS' NAME.
Does she have pictures, what does she have on u? If u pay she would continue to ask for more. Let her do her worst.
its a blackmail. If u pay 5million today wld u be ready to pay another 10million tomorow. She would never stop till the day u die. Eventualy she wld still tell. Let what wld happen tomorow happen 2day. Thats my experience with blackmail.
*MonkeyBanana*
Just tell the truth and it will set u free and God is still giving u a second chance
Carry go.. timiforlife1986@gmail.com
When sin is hidden, it grows and leads to more greater sin. Don't allow the devil sow it in your mind that you are meant to be a lesbian. Come out clean and start mixing up with the opposite sex and you will soon discover that you have been lying to yourself all because you grew up around girls.
You need to let your parents know what you did and being pastors, they will forgive and counsel you so that you don't give in to blackmail.
May the Lord see you through.
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Carry go.. timiforlife1986@gmail.com
My dear I understand how you feel, so just try n work it out with ur family otherwise, if her Christmas shopping is 5milion imagine wat she will do D next time. I have learnt never to give in on blackmail. Do not pay a dime
Oh boy I really don't know wat to say, mb u should just run away
i really dont know wat to advice,.. but i really cant wait to read peoples comment...
This is a very serious issue because 1. She can't turn you into a money making machine 2. you can't tell your parents in any way because they going to be mad at you and from a christian home (James 1:14&15, Lev 18:22, Gal 5:19-21).
3. Even if you leave "A GOOD NAME IS BETTER THAN SILVER AND GOLD" says the holy book still i think ..................i don't have any idea on what to do
U r in a big dilema,if i were u,i'll brace my self 2 parents cus givin her d moni wud make her request 4 more.wish i cud help bt God is d greatest help.
Carry go.. timiforlife1986@gmail.com
Please stop dis devilled act,move closer to ur God
Dnt give her,let her do d worse Bt deny it if she carries out the threat, bcos she will keep collecting money from u nd mind d text msgs u send to her cos she wud use it as evidence
Pay fire
Do not pay anything
I gez u r concerned for ur parents.
R there any incriminating exhibits or evidence linking u to this act? Like sex chat (dt cud b munched), nude pix of u sent from ur fone, etc.
Don't make her feel u r scared nor beg her.
1st u either completely deny everytin n anytin eva transpired btw u. Or, u talk to either of ur parents u feel close, receptive n undastanding wit u. Tel ur parent u ve a confession to make. Tell them somtin let to somtin n u kisses a girl. Felt strange but u liked it. Minimise d num of times u ve don it. Just say it as a confession. Don't bother telling abt d blackmail/betrayal lest it b seen dts d reason for coming out.
The useless friend can't do u anything.
No evidenc n pple wud hate her for it.
Call her a liar and call her bluff, get a fake boyfriend to back u up, hey I'll even be your fake boyfriend. No matter what u do, don't let that backstabbing blackmailing bitch win!
do not give her N5m, tell your parents and seek spiritual and psychological assistance.
Carry go.. timiforlife1986@gmail.com
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Just tell the truth and be free, face your fears and be free. Ask for grace and forgiveness from God.
This one na yam pepper scatter scatter o
Go back to the drawing board ask God for forgiveness, tell your parents...I guess they'll have a more logical approach to the matter
My dear tell your parents the truth but above all tell God the truth and seek His help because you sure need it.
Pele wats next
Dumb fake ass story! Written by some bi-curious wanna-be writter; trying to put gay folks in a bad light.
Tell your parents,they can only be angry but they wont kill you.you will only be disciplined as an adult cjild and since she has no proof nothing will happen but if you succumb to paying her which i know you dont even have the money,she will keep making demands till infinity.as for your not beng ready to stop,dont worry you will be caught soon.
For me I think its better 2 tell ur parents cuz she will still demand 4 more if u give d money....
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Usaully I don't comment on this forum but I just needed to say this.. you are on a very wrong path. you claim to have come from a Christian background but I knw that you never had a personal encounter with Christ. I had a similar background(parents always do what the think best to protect their children, let these be our own lesson when we train ours) and I grew in a single-sex school, so I faced the same feelings/emotion to girls. I even got a proposal from a senior to be her partner but I turned it down because I knew deep within that it was(is)wrong! I advice you to confess to your parents, they are your parents and if truly they are rooted in God, they will forgive you as Christ will and help you get out of this mess.... Call Jesus into you heart, the devil will try to tell you otherwise. the choice is yours. please you are headed for destruction, change that orientation that you cant change your sexuality!
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Dont pay the money. Approach your parents and try to reason with them. Leaving the house wont solve anything.
Running away won't help and paying her means giving room for more blackmail
Open up to your parent, since they are pastors and they will assist you with prayers.
pls confess ur sins to your parents before the mystery girl tells ur parent.
Dis is a serz something ohh..well well can't say ohh cos I dnt even knw wat I wanna advice..
Tell them the truth and take the long Rope if necessary dear...your future is not tired to your parents...find happiness for yourself! Do remember this: You re not alone...there is so much out there for you than the threat.
Plssssss go to your parents and tell the the truth.
The gurl is high marijuana, don't give her a dime, she can't do nothing if she eventually tells pls stand your ground and tell everyone its a rumour from the pit of hell as a matter of fact u've never had anything to do withh her and the thought of u being a lesbian is ridiculous EXCEPT THERE'S A VIDEO TAPE OR SOMETHING
NO EVIDENCE, NO CASE,
She'll eventually look stupid and run back to the gutter she came from
*them*
Tell your parent and let them pray for you.
U r in a big dilema,if i were u,i'll brace my self 2 parents cus givin her d moni wud make her request 4 more.wish i cud help bt God is d greatest help.
both of u should com and spend a nyt wid me n i promise u dat dia will b nothing to expose cos my "magic stick" will convert u n make u a believer...
OLUWASTOSHI
Never give in to blackmail...... Once you start paying, it will never stop. It is better to open up to your parents cos they will eventually find out. The question is who breaks the news to them.
sit ur parents down nd xplain things to them ... if they r smart enof , they can get the said girl arrested so as to shut her mouth up. good luck
Hmmmmm, sit ur parents down n tell dem everytin, let dem knw whr dey went wrong by not allowing u 2 mix wt oda kids wen u were small. After u v inform dem, tell d stupid girl dat u v told. Ur parents n dat she Shd go 2 hell cos if u gv r d 5m now, she wl still come bk 4 more soonest wh means r wl remain r ATM n money miss road 4va. Tell u folks n ask 4 der 4gvness.
Pay and you will continue paying for life. The only option is to explain it this same way you explained to us, to your mum 1st then your Dad. So they can prepare for the worst. You can also pay someone to get serious dirt on her, set her up and get very lewd and raunchy pics of her so you have something over her. That is option 2. The 3rd is, allow her to come out and deny it completely. Afterall it's your word against hers. Before then, go and report to the police that she is blackmailing you for what you didn't do, get a restraining order against her and send to her. Also tell your parents that some1 is trying to blackmail you for what you didn't do. WHATEVER YOU DO, DONT PAY! She will continue to request for more!
Let your parent pray for you, as they are pastors.
I am gay...so I am on ur side. Darlene u are from a rich home with influence, I bet u can pull a few strings and teach this girl a lesson or two. Get some thugs to ruffle her up, keep her mouth shut. Cus I bet if u give in to the bitch, she will keep asking for more. pls dont bow to the girl's pressures, she's just trying to intimidate u. Give 10,000 naira to all these our thugs around and they will teach her a lesson eh. show her pepper, she will just shut up. if we were friends I would have hukked u up with better girls that wont give u wahala. All the best dear
wow this is deep"for me i will advice you tell your parents then call your girfriend tell her is over between both of then watch her reactions,but i will encourage you to give your life to christ my sister or else hell awaits you"""""""
i think its time you let your folkz know what you have turned into and mayb start the deliverance process!!
your lover should go to hell.
richib90@gmail.com
please nd please do tel your parent...and explain to them what caused it,than to giveaway 5 mill naira.
Very sad
Oh girl I feel pity for you. But leaving on someone permission is hell. Do not submit to blackmail. You are an adult now face your fears and deal wit it now or regret later. For sextuality only God will deliver and judge you. May he give you the grace Amen. heljubsy@ymail.com
My dear u need 2tell ur parent is the right time for them 2know the real u. Its their problem because they need u who u have become in d 1st place. And for the other blackmailer if u open up 2 ur people she can't do anything more again.
First and foremost sincerely ask God for forgiveness and tell your parents about it. I believe they will surely understand and ready to forgive you. Please don't pay give that money. It shall be well.
Don't be stupid to pay any ransom, see yourself as a sinner and write a apology letter somewhere for your parents, don't show them yet. Keep it near or under the dvd, wait until she expose you. Your parents will forgive you. And know that you need deliverance. Don't be scared about her exposing you, nothing is new under the sun .
If u give her d 5m,she will come for more,u had beta open up and pray for God to forgive you,i was once there,but thank God he delivered me out of it,is a demonic act.
my candid advise 4u is 2confess ur sins and repent.God will settle everytin 4u
If we confess our sins and forsake faithful is he to forgive us confess so u can have joy
I had almost the same up bringing and still hate lesbianism.. u are a disgrace. . Since u are a pastors child, then you knw wht it is to get down on your knees. Ask God for forgiveness first, then go tell your parents for deliverance. . They will tell you what next to do. Ewu south Korea.
The best thing I think is for you to open up to your parent, though a bit difficult, otherwise, run for it cos blackmailers will never stop after the first money, they will keep coming back.
only the truth will set you free..salawu25@yahoo.com
First and foremost, i want to appreciate Linda Ikeji for setting up this blog so that we can share our mind/challenges.
Secondly, i want to advice you and as well extend it to others who are in same mess but wouldn't share.
5mil no be beans o, though you may afford it! for me, you better take a step of faith to confess to your parents if and only if you know that you won't repeat such act again. Remember if you decide to cover it.... (Prov. 28:13 says he that cover his sin shall not prosper...) also the next threat might even take your life if cares is not taken.
Please read this bible portions 2Cor.6:17, Rom. 3:23-24, Gal. 6:7, Luk 8:17, Matt10:20)
With the 5mil my dear, you shall still be expossed and that will be the worst!
Confess it to your parents and turn away from the act!
I'd advice u open up and be strong to face the consequence, do not run away from home, bc0s most times we run into the very things we re running from..someday ur parent will understand they were the genesis of the thing...pls be strong!!!
#i am Promise
pay her 5 million ohhhh. Unless you want 14 years!! zines143@gmail.com
You have articulated yourself very well here.
You asked the question:
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So do I tell them the truth about my sexuality and impending disaster or do I pay her the N5m or do I just take the long rope and walk away from home and never return. Because either way I can't change my sexuality and I have 2weeks to go before all hell breaks loose.
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My answer: YES.
As you pointed out, you are who you are. Your sexuality may say one thing about you but it is not entirely you.
If you are gay, you are gay. But you are still a lady. A human being. No one can change that.
Another point is that you can't attribute your upbringing to the out turn. Who knows. But it is what it is. You are who you are. It can't be changed. Live your life. It's only once.
Speak to your parents. Turn it around. Prepare their minds first.
Tell them who you are, I.e. Their daughter. But you just happen to be gay. You have an alternative choice of partner.
Seek not acceptance nor rebuke.
️️Present your case. Leave it. And leave.
Don't seek validation. If they want to validate you, they will reach out to you.
But allow them time to deal with this. In their own way. If they love you they may see things your way.
If they don't see things your way it doesn't mean they don't love you. It may be too much for them to bear. But you can't change that.
In any case, remember that you are firstly a child of God. And Gid created you for a purpose.
Remember Jesus came to the world for all mankind. Regardless of whether they are rich or poor, healthy or unwell, tall or short, male or female, straight or gay.
I often ask myself one question, if my son came up to me one day, and told me so, what will I do? Honest answer, I DONT KNOW! But I love my sons through thick and thin.
God help us all.
tell ur folks....fuq blackmailers
i hate people who take advantage of other peoples vulnerability.
to hell with her.call her bluff!
richib90@gmailcom
Tell ur parents...dats ur greatest fear. if she gets knw ur parents r aware her whole game plan is useless. Chioma5000@yahoo.com
The best thing to do is tell your parents about it before the girl broadcasts it to them or the church. Walking away from home means doom for you and if you give her the money, you've made her a millionaire and trust me, she'll be back for more millions. But babe, a man's banana is better than a fellow woman's kpekus na.
tell ur folks....fuq blackmailers
Get home, sit your parents down and talk to them. You all should find a way of telling the church cause if you pay her 5mil to keep your secret, Sweety you will keep paying her for the rest of your life and how long will you keep doing that? Today it's 5mil, pay her and watch the demand tripple in few weeks. Meanwhile the church shouldn't blame your sin on your parents though I know it will be hard but the earlier you spill the bean yourself the better. Either way, someday somehow it will be heaard. Nothing hides under the sun forever, you should have known that. Ogwu ka oha m n'onu. Ndi be anyi e kwutere m ka mu e kwuteghi? Now Lindiway post my comment abeg. This' the second time am commenting on this blog though an ardent reader.
Do what u gotta do... if u were proud about it u should have done that ages ago...ur family would always love u for hu u are... I guess its ur bad...
magi11ofo@yahoo.co.uk.
Baby, relax, does she have a proof? Like pictures?
I will advice you to let your parent know about it and make plan with them to leave town because even with you telling your parent there's possibility of her threatening you and your family.
lol....your matter sha.....it af done for you....better hustle d 5million..sharpadly
swity its quite unfortunate. dont pay any money ooo. Lie and cover it up
First, I want you to settle it in your heart that God loves you personally, irrespective of what has happened. You are his beloved. And if you were the only one in this world, Jesus would still have died for you, that's how important you are to God. I say this to say, even though all that happened between you and your friend, God isn't mad at you because He loves you eternally(Jer31:3). Instead, He wants you to come boldly and ask for forgiveness(if you are born again), having done that, receive it by faith and move on. Refuse to let the guilt of the act keep you down. Don't get to the point where you lose fellowship with God when you sin, because that's the job of the devil to accuse you. As for your friend you will not give her the 5million, you will not run from home because family is everything and your family is God's gift to you, but you will ask the Holy spirit to help you, because one of His functions is to help you, He is your teacher, so take advantage of His presence in your life(John14:26). Having prayed to the Lord "sincerely", you will meet your Mum and tell her the truth, yes its ok for her to be angry with you, but she will understand and forgive you. Remember, that act is not of God and as children of God we do not walk by our feelings but by the Word and Spirit of God, yes those feelings will arise, but you are responsible for dealing with them "through" the Word of God. (2Cor5:7). Stay well, I love you.
I know that feeling when you have overly protective parents..I know it sounds crazy but talk to you mum about it and pray also in earnest. Good luck
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