I would like to share my problem and hopefully get some good advice on this predicament I have found myself. I am 24 and grew up in a Christian home where going to church was the only recreational activity allowed in my house. My parents are pastors and they pastor a large pentecostal church in lagos.Growing up in my house felt like a military camp, friends from school weren't allowed over and the only kids I got to associate with were pastors kids like myself and all we were allowed to discuss was the bible because watching TV wasn't even allowed except its a gospel program.
So naturally not having friends turned me into a quiet girl and I was the obedient and perfect girl to everyone and most parents wished they had me, but what all didn't know was that behind the quiet charming girl I was a totally different person. Years of being monitored and not being allowed to interact socially had messed up my sanity and sexuality, because since I was allowed to play with only girls I had learnt to develop emotional feelings for only girls.
Fast track to 4months ago, I have always kept my sexuality in check because I'm a pastors kid from an influential home and I couldn't just act out even if i wanted to. So one evening I was visiting a friend after work hours and I got introduced to this other friend of hers, and from the minute I set my eyes on her I knew I needed to have her and nature smiled on me and somehow we became an item.
She was everything I wanted and she fulfilled all my guilty pleasures and she was my first, thou I kept my last name and family background from her. Two weeks ago she calls me up and says that I haven't been treating her right that I never told her I was from a super rich home and since I had a name to protect that she needs 5million naira for Christmas shopping.
At first I thought she was crazy but now she's threatening to tell my folks and the entire church. My parents may have gotten it wrong in the child training section but they are good people and it would ruin their reputation if the church finds out.
So do I tell them the truth about my sexuality and impending disaster or do I pay her the N5m or do I just take the long rope and walk away from home and never return. Because either way I can't change my sexuality and I have 2weeks to go before all hell breaks loose.
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U got to let her tell them because eventually they would find out.giving her d 5million would make her ask for more. Fudida@ymail.com
tell them the truth and also about the money. if possible let them know who the girl is
Juss tell your parents and hope they understand your point of view..and if that dosnt work out,the best option is to run away cos its a crime to be a lesbian in Nigeria and I can't begin to imagine what will happen to yu if your partner blows the whitsle on you......swaggzkid101@gmail.com
Go and talk to your mum after you must have repented from ur sin.
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well I think u need 2 sit ur parents down and talk 2 them about it, they will be eager 2 hear from u even though it will not be easy
My dear I suggest you tell ur parent Bcos if u give her the money,she will still come back 4 more
Na wa oo
Hmm well it quite unfortunate that u got ur sexuality messed up, but never allow ur friend to use that blackmail u. Tell ur parent abt ur sexuality I'm sure they will forgive u and u too shld stop the lesbo act and pray for forgiveness. Goodluck!
5 million ke?where does she expect u 2 see dt kind of money 4rm?anyway my advice is dt u shld b d 1 to tell ur parents 1st b4 she does bcus her blackmail wld never end n she'lld keep askin 4 more money so it's btr u dnt give her anythn,tell ur parents,pray 2 God 2 forgive u n He shld touch ur parents heart 2 forgive u 2..all d bst........................NJ
Chai!!! See your life, ask God to forgive your sins, tell your parents, pray they understand and never go back
Errrrm linda iv nt been seeing any of my comments nd i dnt mean only the giv away..
Desist from evil ways
its best you tell the truth
No fear. Just let her tell them. And deny. Since u are already seen as a good girl. It will be easy for them to believe you. Best advice ever. Oya pay me 1m out of the 5m
well I think u need 2 sit ur parents down and talk 2 them about it, they will be eager 2 hear from u even though it will not be easy
You better give ur life to Christ before hell fire go open gate for you.
Hmmmm. Na wa o
Thunder fire her, let her go tell ur folks. They won't kill u. Is just a matter of days dey ll stop talking abt it
Desist from evil ways
Hmmmm. Na wa o
One thing I know is that as long as your mother is still around,...pastor or no pastor,..shes still your mother..,call her one day and sit her down,tell her what u've been feeling,that you've prayed and. fasted about it but u find it difficult to control n resist,and she's a woman too and your need to talk to her about it because you don't want anything to spoil the family name.The philosophy here is to alert them indirectly so they would be aware or prepared of whatever de come
Repent!!!!!
My dear,since you have found ursef in this suitation,the d best thing is for you to tell ur parents.Yes there will get mad at you but they are still your parents.. Ok .may God help you..
Go to ur folks and explain ur self
You need to pray to God for deliverance
Hmmmm. Na wa o
Tell ur parents
My dear deny evrytin Once deirs no evidence. . If u give her 5m she will stil come bac for more.. no mata d pain it wil cause u time wil heal it. She wnt stp at 5m
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Dnt give her shishi o, nd dnt. Tell ur parents. She shud go ahead wit her threat nd you deny it simple! But babe get a. Man cos Lele na evil tin o
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What if she does? Let her........ Lesbianism is nothing to be ashamed of anyways. Plus, you've got plausible denialbility.
Omeranakel@gmail.com
If you pay her she'll still come for more, tell your parents the truth and stay off it 'lesbianism' don't let it drag you down
Just learnt a lesson....keep ur sexuality secret...
Linda, u are really generous. God bless u. I know ii can't win today's giveaway also but pls thr is only 1 tin i want, pls give me a waist cincher. Thank u. funmicare55@gmail.com
First of all, 4 d fact dat u re hiding ur sexuality 4rm ur parents, depicts dat wat u r doing is wrong. Then on my advice to u, I tink u should tell ur parents because if u give her d moni, she ll still ask 4 more. Then if u run away 4rm home u ll regret it 4 d rest of ur live
u need prayers
Haba tell ur parents to avoid the doom ahead
What if she does? Let her........ Lesbianism is nothing to be ashamed of anyways. Plus, you've got plausible denialbility.
Omeranakel@gmail.com
The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. My dear one blackmail opens doors for more, if you path wit 5m U willl still have more to path with. Just repent tell the truth bcos one day the truth will still be told.
If you pay her she'll still come for more, tell your parents the truth and stay off it 'lesbianism' don't let it drag you down
Cut such relationship off
I tink ur lesbian frnd is crazy n also a gold digger. Open up 2 ur parents n let dem know bout it b4 dey hear it in public.
My sister, don't even try d second option cos she'll keep coming 4 me until she turns u to a hardend criminal cos it will get 2 a point where u will start stealing 2 satisfy her & it will continue until d whole truth later comes out. Confess ur sins (1 john 1vs9) & pray 2 God b4 relaying everything to ur mum & let her be d channel of communication 2 ur dad. I believe it is better 2 be embarrassed indoor dan outdoor. They will sure call d girl & se2 d issue amicably. Pray 4 wisdom. IT'S WELL WITH AS U GENUINELY REPENT.
Tell ur parents
Don't give her any kobo,face d music nd overcome it coz if u give in to blackmail it wouldn't stop. Nd plz dnt show her fear tell her to go to hell,tell ur folks its only a matter of time b4 they find out nd they either accept u or not.
If you pay her d 5m, your enslavement 2 dat gurl wil' neva end she'll continues 2 blackmail u 2 give her more money in d future
What if she does? Let her........ Lesbianism is nothing to be ashamed of anyways. Plus, you've got plausible denialbility.
Omeranakel@gmail.com
Hmmm...this tough though but I think you need com out to tell your parents first the truth, besides you need help also. Telling them the truth would do u more good than harm. Do not give room to blackmail. If u pay up the 5M today wat makes u tink that d demand for such huge amount would not kip coming? Tell your parents the truth n be free from blackmail n even the evil act that u found urslf in, I belive as good godly christian parents like u said, they ll b wise to pray for u too.
ebubeslym@gmail.com
Hmmm, that other gal must be. Very stupidn not like i'm cool with the lesbian thing buh she's just gonna act very immature if she dare spoil the reputation of ur family. I suggest u don't do nothing and watch she can really do, I tink she just wanna threaten you.
ebubeslym@gmail.com
If you pay a blackmailer you'll never stop paying, cos they'll never stop asking.
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I think u should let ur parents know in a heart to heart conversation b4 all hell will break loose.
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I need this money ooo my e mail is wizzlehay@gmail.com pls contact me ASAP
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Its such a pity how some parents push their kids to the extrwme all in the name of bringing them up in the right way. 16yrs ago, i almost fell a victim of this circumstance as the girl i called my friend then was bisexual. She tried talking me into it but each time i imagine what she's telling me to do, i feel like throwing up. I guess God created me so straight that she couldn't bend me. I'm just grateful to God for that. Goodluck getting out of your dilema.
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Girl u are in deep shit
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Hmmm dis is serious. I think it's best u tell ur prnts,1st ur mum nd hopefully u both cn work it out 2gether. But ur upbringing is nt an excuse to be wat u ar. May God see u thru...
Don't give that greedy bitch a dime! If she spills your secrets, DENY DENY DENY!
Don't give her any money joor,she cannot do nothing
----#AUNTYLINDAgoddaughter#
Try the truth...the resulting pain might look long lasting but the truth will set you forever. Prepare to do the right thing because there will be consequence but God will stand by the truth only. Cheers
Talk to your parents about it instead of being blackmailed
Do not pay her because she will come back for more,tell ur parents what happen and hear their advice
better let them know your sexulity so that you will be free from blackmail no one is perfect your mr. right may even fall in love with you cos of who you are and what you are.
Confess it all to your parents before your so called partner does.
ebubeslym@gmail.com
Confide in your mum and tell her. It will liberate the other members of the family from living in bondage and also clear your guilty conscience.
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do not pay her a dime.....tell her Ur parents knw about it and even if she tells d church no one will believe her....as long she doesn't have a video to prove it my dear let her do her worst.... u can deny it always.....if u run away from Ur houz where will u run to? for how long will u run?
Pray o
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If you pay that bitch once, you will pay her for life, see is there any incriminating pictures, u don't know how to lie, you will deny it ni, you will tell your folks that you distanced yourself from her when you started guessing she was a lesbian, that is why she is bitter and came to spoil your reputation. Finish!
ebubeslym@gmail.com
Open up to your folks babe!
Try the truth...the resulting pain might look long lasting but the truth will set you forever. Prepare to do the right thing because there will be consequence but God will stand by the truth only. Cheers
Tell your parents, truth saves life.
Good for u
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No,i don't blame you at all,i blame your parents for being over protective,same thing almost happened to me,don't worry,don't give in to the blackmail,allow her to tell your parents if she really mean it,you will be fine.
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Good for u
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My dear don't pay her oh. She'd only comeback for more trust me. It's sad it had to degenerate to this level, but I'd say call her bluff, it's risky but I think you should. Meet her up and tell her you don't care whatever happens, tell her in fact that you are living and that she should do whatever she wants. At the end of the day it's your word against hers, I hope she doesn't have any inappropriate photos of you though? If yes, then that's risky, if no then my dear 'man up' and deal with this lunatic. Show her that she'd also have something to loose. Wish you the best, I totally understand your predicament.
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some people are cruel, but i think you should tell your parents the truth, they will know the next thing to do
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Well, if that is what or who you are, you better open up to your parents before they hear it from someone else. I am not here to judge you but your parents being Pastors will be shocked to their bones. Good luck in whatever you decide to do but running away is not an option. Teena
u need 2 tell ur parents
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ok start with telling your parents first
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Do not succumb to blackmail..let your parents know and move on.once you give her that money she will ask for more.and frustration will set in which could be suicidal. Nobody loves you more than your folks
She can't do anytin trust me, am in a similar situation, my mum too s a pastor, will tell u later how I handled mine, justchiki@yahoo.com
Wat is she enjoying as a lesbian
(post o make I dey beg)
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My dear blackmailing is not an option,if u give her 5million she will surely come 4 more,jus own up to ur responsibility and whatever the outcome,just turn to God and ask 4 4giveness and from ur parents.
go to your parents and confess.They wont kill you. Dont let her turn you to ATM.
hmmm.....if left to me, i will advise dat telling ur parents will be a better option. it probably wont be easy but they will get to know eventually....and there is a saying, d earlier d better...
talk to God in prayer
There's nothing strange in the eyes of God , can you confide in any of your parents maybe dad and open up to him all that has bn going on in your life,make them see reasons based on what they have gotten you into but do not put the blame on them.have them call the girl and tell her that you have confessed and explained everything to them. Note: before you speak to any of your parents please pray and ask God for a peaceful discussion and also as God for forgiveness . Your sexuality can definitely change!
Tell your parents about it, so they can plan ahead to at least curtail the "impending disaster". No problem without solution.
Wahala don come. Teena
There's nothing strange in the eyes of God , can you confide in any of your parents maybe dad and open up to him all that has bn going on in your life,make them see reasons based on what they have gotten you into but do not put the blame on them.have them call the girl and tell her that you have confessed and explained everything to them. Note: before you speak to any of your parents please pray and ask God for a peaceful discussion and also as God for forgiveness . Your sexuality can definitely change!
Are you scared of been expose..lol
Are you scared of been expose..lol
Meanwhile this story is cooked up
pray to god for help
Such upbringin isn't always good...my dear just tell them d truth...wats d worst dat can happen
Tell ur parents.what gives u the assurance that after 5m,she isnt coming back.either way.they need to know so they can prepare for the inevitable choas that is bound to drop.althou be ready for them too cos they are gonna b so mad at u.
Once u give her once she will obviously come back for more. So the best option is to come out clean.
If u give her the money,she will come back for more.i will suggest u walk away.
I will advice you to come clean to your parents before she do because if you pay the money she will see if as an opportunity and continue to ask for more with possible future threats. Don't be scared your parents should know they made a mistake in their approach to your upbringing, don't be scared all is well **start having feelings for men**
And tell ur parents they will understand
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Nice one.... Principles1983@gmail.com
Hehe...Nne..take dat long rope nd walk away...ow can u even be gay ehn...in this country of ours...kofoworolaolayemi@gmail.com
Hehe...Nne..take dat long rope nd walk away...ow can u even be gay ehn...in this country of ours...kofoworolaolayemi@gmail.com
At ds point, I tink u v 2 let ur b parents know hu u r b4 she letz hell loose cos no matter wht apns or wht uv done u r still their daughter, no matter wht uv done dey shd b abl 2 4give u sinz dey know even christ came 4 d sinners. Plz dont go ahead 2 pay d 5m cos ifbu do so d gold digger will always come bk 2 ask 4 more. Imagine 5m? U on ur owb side u need srz delieverance 4 d spirit of lesbianism 2 leave u!
Wat is she enjoying as a lesbian
(post o make I dey beg)
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This is very serious, I think you should tell your parents the truth. Running away should never be an option and if you pay for blackmail it will not stop there. Your parents will understand better and they will protect you. Above all I pray that the God will give you the wisdom you need to fix this.
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U dont need all dat dear. If she doesnt hav any concrete prove abt ur affair, swthrt deny knwin her. Lesbianism was beatin out of me but i still silently amire galz
Open up to your parents.dayo2285@gmail.com
Truth will set you free in this case
holy shit!!! ur partner bout to take a fucking piss, fucking bastard. tell ur mom about it. i cant blame u for this, sexuality is something u cant control attimes it has power and control over you. pele love
I don't see any big deal in ur write up. U can deny it if at all she brings it up. Lol
Dear,allow her she won't tell that I tell u,she wants the money,who says she doesn't have a name to protect?huuuu
Nice one.... Principles1983@gmail.com
Tell the truth....she will always blackmail you
Ignore the mofo! If there is no photo proof, tellem she is blackmailing you. That is it not you that rides a d**k like madt? That u isn't what she says u is. Just lie! You already hv a fvked up life by not liking d**ks, a lie won't be that bad.
you better tell your parents. evergreenflorence@yahoo.com
I really think you should just come out of the closet. Your parents would feel hurt yes, but I feel its the best. Where do you want to get 5m from. And even if you do, this won't be the end of it. Come out and tell your parents at least, they would know how best to deal with this.
www.askralphblog.com for advice. We never judge you here in askralph
the truth never hides its better u allow ur parent 2 know than them getting 2 know from an external
That's pretty serious..my dear just waka comot
Btw, Linda if I don't win anything from you with all these years of my dedication to you blog, I will not be happy. Not to talk of all the ppl that I av introduced to your blog. I Juliette (slimisbold@yahoo.com);
Look dear, well firstly I'll have to criticize u, being a lesbian, isn't something to be entirely proud of, I'd advise you to get a male partner and enjoy your life, well, has the girl shown you any picture of you and her in the act, if not she has no proof, even if she does, tell her to come out with the truth, don't let her see your fears, or else she'll exploit you, no matter what you do dear, don't pay that money, cause if you do, she'll ask you for more and more
It's ur word against hers,she has no proof,so act like nothing happened. She can go ahead and talk no one would believe her, & don't 4get her reputation is at stake as well;so I don't think she wld come out.
Face ur parents and tell them who u are,letting dem knw before a third party does is the best.
Well this is sad. Your folks have erred but this ain't time to trade blames. I would rather you seat them down and tell them your story right from the moment they started preventing you guys from mixing up to the point you became a lesbian so they will know. If you venture pay the 5million this is just the begining of doom because she will constantly blackmail you for more money. Tell your folks, if it gets ecalated his loyal members will stay besides it will be a learning point. So don't make yourself a money spinning machine cos in the end the bubble will still burst. Also pray as well. And who said you can't change your sexuality? Yes you can. Cheers
Hmm dis a big 1!!! In as much I dnt support guy practice I still fill 4 u, even if u giv her d 5m she will stil cum 4 more sooo d best is to tk a long trip call ur parent explain tinz to details to dem, giv dem tym to cool off am sure dey will knw d best way to deal wit d gurl
Be sure the request won't end @ 5M becos there is Easter shopping coming up as well. If you have 5M to waste, why not pay an assasin and end the bitch once and for all. that's safe to me oooh.......#Justsaying
That's pretty serious..my dear just waka comot
Why not confess?.emmanuelbanger@yahoo.com
U cant train a child well by caging him or her. If u give her dat money, she will continue to demand from u. Bera confess..
HmMm realy touching but I will advice U to tell Ur parent and never U dare to give Her the Money because She will ruin Urself. But U self????? What on earth would have entice U in the body of a Girl like U? SHAME ON YOU
Why don't u discuss it wit ur parent.
confess to ur parent nd see wat dey will do
Nothing you do in life is a secret the truth would always come out, the best thing is to call your family together and come clean they would forgive you but the minute you give her that money she would always come back for more ......good luck
Como pastor,,,,,, dayo2285@gmail.com
Well its just a threat. Let her tell the world if she wants
Come talk to me at ayomide.mohammed@yahoo.com
Repent and give your life to jesus christ,and him alone can set you free. Don't worry about what your friend will say. Jesus will see you through.
Do not pay a blackmailer! If not when they run out of cash they wud blackmail u again! Call her bluff! Let her tell d whole world, she is ruining her reputation as well as urs and time would heal all of that. But do not pay! She is evil and she never cared for u!
Ask God to help you change because the Bible is against it.
My dear, do not let the devil take over you completely. Sit your parents down and open up to them. They will not kill nor disown you. They have to show the love they preach to their congregation. Good luck.!! Teena (ebi053004@yahoo.com)
ask for God forgiveness and pray for direction on how to go abt it.
Just tell them the truth, because giving her the 5M will not keep her quiet. But I can also help you keep her quiet, she will not even remember having anything with you.
You call me on this mobile phone:08032861242. Believe me I have handle such Issues many times.
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Why do I feel this gonna be a huge disaster!!! No comment for now
Just try and tell your parents first, then you guys can arrange what you will do, maybe it is to travel out and lose all contacts with the said girl. Or you stay and face the consequences and arrest the girl for blackmailing.
"PazBay"
Your parent did not do anything wrong, it all your fault. Why did u indulge in something that will ruin your reputation. The best thing for you now is to tell your parent, they will forgive you. Running away from the house, you won't be able to cope in the outside world
I think is better if u discuss it with ur parent.lattyib@yahoo.co.uk
This is such a dicey one, pay up now and it will be continuous process. I think you should just have to make up your mind and tell your parents and change your ways.
My dear its time u come out clean wit ur parents. I know its going to b hard but dats d only way ou. Even if u give d blackmailler d money she ll come 4 more & what u re keeping as secret ll come out in d open one day so jut try to tell dem in ur own way am sure d Lord ll take control. Also will want u to mail me @ funke.olaniyi@gmail.com. God bless
The advice I would give to u is to tell ur parents first, explain why u became like that and see what they will say....chelvin2010@yahoo.com
Y do u choose lesbianism at the first place
Kill the bitch lol jk
Talk to your parents dear,I hope they understand u.
Don't pay the money...tell the church yourself
Lobatan. Bimluv_2@hotmail.co.uk
my dear, my candid advice is to confess to your parent and ask for forgiveness cause what ever happens they are still your parents. God also forgives whoever repents. if you give out that huge amount of money now, the stupid girl will come demanding for more and you will end of regretting ever giving her the money in the first place.
The best thing to do is just Confess nd seek forgiveness from God, try to tell your parents am sure they'l understand. Though it myt b kinda hard on them at 1st.. And please dont give her a dime cuz she'l cum back askin for more.. Am sure she wont loud d issue and if she does, let pple continue ranting in as much as God as 4given yhu..
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Dear friend, if you pay 5m for Christmas you will pay 10m for new year and then 20m for valentine before considering how much you will pay for her birthday, however what bites me is how omo pastor can even consider paying 5m gorgeous Christmas , meaning you have more, this churches sef. Anyways my little advice is for you to also tell her you don't know what she is talking about and threaten her with you informing the police, in my little understanding, that's against the law for her to do that. Anyways girl friend, i advice you threaten her by reporting to d police, at this time, don't bother about the name u r protecting again, bcos it will go viral and am duress to read it here, Linda must dig am.
See don't give her money oo, Deir type always ask for more. I advice u to confess to ur parent nd confess in front of the congregation urself, dah way wud be better. Den if u wanna travel out of the country afterwards it wud be cool, cus even if u go without settling all dis, d gal can still kum behind ur back to be threathning ur parents#best of luck#
I'm not going to curse of judge u cos I totally understand, you can't let them know, because 1. Lesbianism is against the law in Nigeria, if people find out, u might be locked up. I think u should take the high road and walk away forever. That would be the best option
Confes to your parent, only the truth can set you free ok. Sis Linda may God use you to save me from this brocknes Amen.
Tell the church yourself
Banke357@yahoo.com
My advice to u .....Ask God for forgiveness. Tell ur parent. Becos if u pay her d N5m , she wil keep asking for more n u wil become her ATM.
laddoj@yahoo.com
HMMMMMM, i wanted to tell you to work away and try to change that mentality of yours "i cant change my sexuality" .you can change it.but the most appropriate thing is to tell your parent in the secret and repent immediately.
She should go back and get closer to God #kamalu says so
First of, although it's nt right to have sexual pleasures for a woman if u are a woman. Bt nobody is above mistakes even a pastor's kid. First, ask God for forgiveness and the grace to keep away from such pleasures then I ll advice u tell ur parents(mom or dad) anyone u feel more comfortable talking abt it wit first and jst confess evrything to dem. It wnt be easy bt it's the only way out.
its a scam dear>>>everyone has a little secret...even ur parents...so tell her to F**K herself!
She should go back and get closer to her God #kamal says so
Firstly lesbianism is an abomination is christiandom, repent of it and tell ur parents abt it. U wil discover d truth sets us free. Dont b blackmailed by anyone. Cos blackmail dosent stop.
Don't give in to her, if you do she will continue to demand for more, Just try and explain to your parent... God will see you through
Watch and pray for the evil days are here
Linda remember me
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It beta u say d truth dear.
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