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Saturday, 14 June 2014

'He is a responsible married man" How valid is this statement?

Someone sent me this as a topic to discuss on LIB. Find below and share your thoughts
Some people believe that getting married bestows a certain degree of responsibility on a man which makes them appear responsible in the eyes of others while some others do not believe in all that. They believe most married men are far from the word, Responsible.
Does marriage really bestow a certain degree of responsibility? Are all married people to be taken as responsible citizens?
Hmmm...but some Lekki wives and husbands sha! #lipsealed. Lol. Thoughts?

79 Comments:

  • At 14 June 2014 at 11:45 , Blogger Chidinma Igwe said...

    Nice family

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 11:46 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Go and ask JAMB#licia#

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 11:49 , Anonymous Jhane said...

    Yes,to some extent dey are responsible but some men are far frm being responsible.

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 11:51 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Not all married people are responsible.....


    XDON D DON

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 11:51 , Blogger BONARIO NNAGS said...

    My dad-my role model, is a good picture of what a married man should be.
    To whom much is given, much is expected. The institution of the holy matrimony,is a sacred on so dear to God. It comes with a lot of responsibility and its for men not boys.
    Anyman who has decided and found himself worthy of going into this sacred institution,is considered responsible and matured in character.
    Notwithstanding the behaviour of some misguided ones among them, husbands are super heroes.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:00 , Blogger @edDREAMZ said...

    a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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    Well, marriage has made my father, mother, uncle, aunty and cousin responsible, so i think marriage makes one responsible.....
    .
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    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:02 , Anonymous #King said...

    Well I aint married so I can't tell..Linda I'll answer dis question wen we get married..lool............................#KingOfKings

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:04 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Marriage is overrated! D society focuses d mind of d girl child on how 2 live wen u'r married & how 2 kip ur home but dey neva teach d men...so I can agree if u say so 4 a woman

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:04 , Blogger wilheminna moses said...

    Iyaaaaa 4 where? Wherever dat thought came frm. Most of dem are turning out to be d most irresponsible. Especially women! Men no be today story! @ kween can attest to that.... She luvs dem married......kween I lie? Prove me wrong!

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:05 , Blogger Cute G said...

    This can be seen in two lights.A married man is termed responsible when it involves providing for the family emotionally, financially and otherwise.
    When being responsible involves trustworthiness, reliability and having the expected rational attitude, most married men are found wanting.There are a lot of single men who exibit these form of being responsible. So being married isn't a password to being responsible.

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:05 , Anonymous funmi said...

  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:08 , Blogger bonita bislam said...

    Nowadays marriage is just a status and not necessarily depicts a sense of responsibility.So many so called married people have been caught in situations that makes the devil wana give them reasons why he chose to remain single

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:10 , Anonymous TayO said...

    Of cos.marriage bestows a degree of responsibility on both d man and woman.going in2 marriage,one should be ready to let go of some acts and look forward to making a future that wud be comfortable for him and his family.somthing he will proud to look at.but these days men r really not responsible.some of them don't even care what others will think just to satisfy themselves.seen a lot of them that don't care anymore.the thing is why go in2 d marriage if u know u cnt cope with d circumstances and responsibilities that comes with it.

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:13 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    PERSONALLY, I WOULD SAY BEING MARRIED DOES NOT MAKE YOU A RESPONSIBLE MAN..... SOME ARE, THOSE WHO ARE GOD FEARING, SOME ARE NOT... SOME GUYS MARRY BECAUSE THEY WANT TO HAVE A WOMAN IN DR HOUSE, THAT WOULD COOK FOR DEM BLABLABLA, DEY MAY NOT REALLY RESPECT OR LOVE HER AND WILL STILL RUN AFTER EVERY THING ON SKIRT... BUT SOME GET MARRIED BECAUSE THEY REALLY WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF THEIR LIVES WITH SOMEONE...... SO BOTTOMLINE, NOT ALL MARRIED MEN ARE RESPONSIBLE. peace

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:13 , Blogger Alloy Chikezie said...

    Being married makes a man responsible for his wife and children, he is supposed to carry their cross, he is the head, and just like Jesus is the head of the church and bears our burden and responsibilities, so is the man who is the head of the family, facing his responsibilities or shying away from it, is now a decision for the man to make, men that shy away from their responsibilities are cowards


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  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:15 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    in my own opinion,its all married men that are responsible...the irresponsible ones just hide under the context of marriage.....

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:18 , Anonymous gallant pis said...

    strongly disagree

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:19 , Blogger Olaleye Adisa said...

    Linda leave me out of this plssssssss. ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥♡thanks ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥ 

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:19 , Blogger Ashleigh Yung said...

    I only respect married pipu mre,but I dnt deem them all responsible

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:19 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    naija married men are the most irresponsible i have seen

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:20 , Blogger DOBY DOBY said...

    They ar responsible in terms of takin care of deir kids asin payin deir bills nd al dat. . Bt u see d word "responsibility" for married men of nowadays, I dnt tink it exists. . Dem dey evn pursue women pass d single guys..

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:21 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    a lot naija married men toast girls more than their single counterparts tueh..they have not shown any sense of responsibility just a few sha good ones

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:23 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    A lot of married men are irresponsible,bt stil in deir mist u stil hv d responsible ones,being married doesn't guarantee anytin is a matter of choice #bebo#

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:39 , Blogger Stephanie Aniobi said...

    Well it depends on what we refer to as responsibility. A responsible man is a responsible man, whether married or not. I personally do not use ones marital status to judge his/her level of responsibilty. A married man of cause is termed a responsible man considering the fact that he is no longer all about himself anymore. He is now saddled with the responsibility of taking care of another being apart from himself so is a single man who knows his onions. There are as much irresponsibly married men out there as there are the unmarried ones. So being married alone does not complete the term responsibility.
    I think there is a lot more to being responsible than just being married.

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:40 , Blogger Stephanie Aniobi said...

    Well it depends on what we refer to as responsibility. A responsible man is a responsible man, whether married or not. I personally do not use ones marital status to judge his/her level of responsibilty. A married man of cause is termed a responsible man considering the fact that he is no longer all about himself anymore. He is now saddled with the responsibility of taking care of another being apart from himself so is a single man who knows his onions. There are as much irresponsibly married men out there as there are the unmarried ones. So being married alone does not complete the term responsibility.
    I think there is a lot more to being responsible than just being married.

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:50 , Blogger hilary obiorah said...

    That used to be the case, marriage tended to mean added responsibility, shedding the old life of chivalry and donning the cloak of a family man! But that's not what it is these days, in fact half of the people you in a night club acting a fool are married people. Marriage nowadays is something people do because they are ready to act grown up, no marriage is like getting a job, owning a car, buying/building a house. It has become the next stage of life, instead of life. It has become a thing that bestows a title. Like Prof blah, blah, some people just wanted to be addressed as daddy, husband, mrs, wife without truly seeing meaning into it.

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 12:50 , Anonymous ajike ade said...

    Naso,

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 13:01 , Blogger Rita Usman said...

    Hmmmmn not all 1 out of ten

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 13:02 , Blogger SIGNATURE said...

    97 percent of men are irresponsible. All they do is go around small small girls. Marriage this days is fucked. Wonder how all dis married women cope with their useless husbands. Anyways the women are doing same thing now. Gud for the men. 50 - 50.

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 13:02 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Marriage comes with responsibility. Lots.

    You are no longer by yourself, you are now responsible for your spouse and kids.


    However, being responsible is a choice. We have lots of married people who still behave single. (Dont care about their spouse, carry on with life like they live alone,

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 13:13 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Abegii, marriage dsnt change anyone instead it amplifiers their character. U marry a responsible man, tendency is he remains responsible. U marry a beater,tendency is he will remain so.
    Marriage isnt juju. Wt he/ she already hs,is wt he/ she cn only gve. No one/institution cn change a person,xcpt d individual decides on his own with d enablement of d HolySpirit.

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 13:16 , Blogger Cintetic said...

    No it is not valid not all men re responsible. Like me for e.g my dad is alive but never trained or sent me to school but when he discovered I have finished school dats wen he knows he has a child

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 13:18 , Blogger ukwumaka theophilus said...

    You don't have to be married to be responsible. There are singles that acts responsibly than married people. To some extent, i agree that marriage makes some men responsilble. I have seen one in my neighbourhood that marriage really changed him from his old irresponsible ways. Each time i see him and his wife, it makes me want marriage the next hour.

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 13:26 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    When/if a man is reponsible his marital status changes nothing about him I.e if he lives a responsible life as a bachelor he will even do more as a married man bt if he is damn irresponsible as a bachelor what makes u think he will change as a married man. Though there are few exceptions..
    Jaytee

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 13:28 , Blogger Angie Cape said...

    Marriage is sacred but nowadays, it's suddenly become fashion. There are 2 side to this issue:
    When people get married for the wrong reasons, I don't see any *responsibility in that cos at the end of the day, kata kata shows up!
    The other side is the truthful marriage...where both couple tends to compromise and build a family, responsibly.

    *My R1.50c comment*

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 13:34 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    why is there so much focus on men when it comes to relationship and marriage, if we check very well, men do alot to make woman happy,all the hustle ,all the fight is just to give ur woman the best,a woman only cares for a man only when the man is bringing in more money and even at that they still nag and want to know every thing,all that am saying is that, you women should give us guys some breathing space we dey try,ehh no easy to be a man,am a guy and i know all my friends are responsible when it come to taking care of the no 1 women in their lives LAKA042

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 13:38 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Marriage is not a criteria for som1 to b responsible...a person can choose to be responsible or irresponsible whether married r not....its a personal decision...

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 13:40 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    why is there so much focus on men when it comes to relationship and marriage, if we check very well, men do alot to make woman happy,all the hustle ,all the fight is just to give ur woman the best,a woman only cares for a man only when the man is bringing in more money and even at that they still nag and want to know every thing,all that am saying is that, you women should give us guys some breathing space we dey try,ehh no easy to be a man,am a guy and i know all my friends are responsible when it come to taking care of the no 1 women in their lives LAKA042

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 13:47 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Off course! Marriage bestows a level off responsibility on a man and woman! Esp wen a child comes! It's left 4 dose dt stl wnt 2 remain irresponsible! Linda pls wen yhu marry, ask dt question again!!! Duh!!!

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 13:59 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    There are more IRRESPONSIBLE married men than IRRESPONSIBLE unmarried men...

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 14:00 , Anonymous APPLE said...

    Been married and been a parent is a GREAT responsibility. Some men are not responsible at all, some of them don't even know how school fees and house rent is been paid .

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 14:02 , Blogger Blazing said...

    In my place of work, they tend to respect the married ones more. Even the cleaners would act up to a single girl but will not to the married ones. People just assume you to be more matured n older if you are married. I've seen unmarried single men were rings to work because they want to be taken seriously

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 14:11 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    My husband is an epitome of irresponsibility tueh!

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 14:27 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Marriages are not fucked,its people who don't stand firm when the storms of marriage starts dat are fucked.....manage ur home and it won't be fucked....my husband is d best

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 14:27 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Marriage to the wrong guy/girl to me is the worst thing that can happen to anyone,alot of married men re highly irresponsible,especially if u marry a man from ibusa in delta state,then u will know what irresponsibility in married men is all about,they re d worst set of irresponsible married men i ve ever seen in my life,hw do i know?regretably am stuck in one of such sham called marriage,d only thing that keeps me going re my kids!#amy#

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 14:32 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Gbam, you said it all

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 14:35 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Please stop using KingofKings dear, you are not God.

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 14:46 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Responsibility depends on you. A bachelor can still be responsible if he takes upon himself those obligations similar to that of a married man. What makes one responsible are those tasks and duties which you assume at a particular stage in life. Marriage is not necessarily a prerequisite. Thank you. Any question?#Douglasblackz

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 14:50 , Anonymous Samoyooyo said...

    Any man who can live with a woman successfuly 4 just a day after they are married is responsible. Women are 'mahadum' university.

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 14:51 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Being married and being responsible are two entirely different things...you can be one or the other or on rare occasions, possess both qualities.

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 14:54 , Blogger Steve said...

    People used to say your life is sad and miserable. Well u have given me more reason to believe.. Sorry am real and can't be double edge sword. U acting like you care for the gay thing. Listen., when I hate I hate and nothing changes that. That Kween girl gave you a piece of shit. So go after her coz we are not on the same frequency. Maybe someday you will see reasons to become a better person.. Adioossss!!

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 14:55 , Anonymous Amarachukwu. said...

    Getting married to be responsible doesn't work,if u are responsible while single that's means u are responsible.

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 15:41 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    70percent of married men are irresponsible,they even misbehave more than the single men,they just get married because its a responsibilty/what they are supposed to do,unlike the times of our fathers.BARRISTER O

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 16:32 , Blogger KWEEN said...

    Excellent... And the village escapee calls kween.looool. My dear, just because you're a professional husband snatcher doesn't mean I'm like you ehn? Go Suck a stolen dick now **sips coke**

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 16:37 , Blogger KWEEN said...

    Normally it's supposed to be so, but for so many couples these days, it's a different story. They have no iota of respect for their marriages and it's really sad. And with husband snatching runs girls like WILHEMINNA MOSES on the loose, well, may God forgive y'all. Lol

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 17:27 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Marriage is passport to irresponsibility for men. Before I got married, my husband was careful not to get caught so I don't leave him, now he chases girls openly, smokes openly and disrepects me at any opportunity.

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 18:40 , Anonymous Emperor PP said...

    Been married does not symbolised someone is Responsible....... but as a married man to be responsible to his wife must posses certain ethics and norms such as listening hear at home, caring for d family, provision of necessary needed at home, stay away from keeping late at night when ur work does not permit lateness at night.

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 18:44 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    #1000 likes.




    #Original Igbo Chic

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 18:53 , Blogger PURPLE said...

    U like story sha. Forming most educated here. Pft!

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 18:58 , Anonymous Mayocis said...

    It takes lots discipline to b responsible. If only before one gets married, they're made to write some sort of exam like JAMB n if fail, they can't get married till they pass. E for make sense.
    Some people learn the act of responsibility before marriage and that is why they can drive their marriage with or without third parties (including parents n relations). These kind of people last longer in marriage.
    There are also those who learn d act of responsibility in marriage. There's always a third party in their life. Before they make any decision, they must consult one elder or parent or friend. It's not that they're not smart, they just want to do right n have who to blame incase something goes wrong.
    The last type r d nonchalant ones who dnt care. They only know they're married n they kno they shud provide for d family wen necessary or cook food blah blah blah buh every other thing for them is "that was who I was b4 u married me, so dnt try to change me".

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 20:35 , Anonymous Anonymous said...


    Being married comes with responsibilities but not every man is mature enough to handle such responsibilities. Most men don't even know what being married means. If you don't understand marriage, don't get involved. don't get married thinking it would change you and make you responsible, it takes a responsible and mature person to be married.

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 21:17 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    My own husband is nt responsible despite wit 3 kids,He knws nothing about d children,he hardly sees dem no single bond between dem.

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 21:20 , Blogger Ronkees said...

    Linda ask google u hia

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 21:50 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    It is all about hypocrisy.my landlord once told me that he would not have accepted me had he known I am single. In our society, a married man who is a drunkard ,has ten girlfriends and patronizes prostitutes can tell a single ,middle aged man,'you are not responsible' . So I think it is a matter of opinion.
    Andy

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 21:57 , Blogger KWEEN said...

    And granny WiLHEMINNA, I forgot to add this... You see how much of a small minded bitch you are? You don't even know me, my real name or what I even look like, except for my eyes which you can see here... (fluttering my lashes)lol. But you're here claiming that I'm into married men. Just because I called you out on your bullshit. You have fun talking shit to people here but you can't handle it when the same is done to you right? Looool. Strap on your seatbelt baby.

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 22:11 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Soooo on point! Ur reasoning is very deep, I am always excited when I see ladies this smart.
    ~~Joe Ogobor~~

     
  • At 14 June 2014 at 22:30 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Dat d fact bt nt d truth .!!!!!

     
  • At 15 June 2014 at 02:46 , Blogger Osarhiemen Agbonkonkon said...

    Purple yaf kill me wit laughter o..

    @ topic at hand,
    I believe marriage comes with so much responsibility that needs a responsible and matured couple to succeed in it.

     
  • At 15 June 2014 at 02:55 , Blogger Osarhiemen Agbonkonkon said...

    You are right.don't forget that the society comprises of individual families that we belong to.So,the change should start from us.Some parents feel their boys are "special" and nurture them that way.Such parents often regard their daughters "lesser human beings" and nurture their girls to feel inferior to the men,hence a woman must ensure her marriage works even if her man is causing the problem in such a marriage.

     
  • At 15 June 2014 at 03:00 , Blogger Osarhiemen Agbonkonkon said...

    I stole your photo...lol.

     
  • At 15 June 2014 at 05:20 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    But are married Nigerian men responsible? Think clearly before you answer that. Been responsible doesn't only constitute carrying the financial burden of your family, it's way deeper than that. It includes always endeavoring to make sure his wife and kids are happy. We all know what the bible commands, but does getting married make/mean these Nigerian men do them?

     
  • At 15 June 2014 at 07:40 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Please do i hear you say getting married to my darling Linda? Hands off!!!

     
  • At 15 June 2014 at 10:16 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Buhahahahahaha una no go kill person here

     
  • At 15 June 2014 at 11:53 , Anonymous Geraldopino90 said...

    Willy moses vs Kween linda ikeji blog cup and steve is the referee and am d commentator@ Kween is leading 3 n willy moses is 1 . Truth be told wilihema moses try to reduce hittin on pple u don't evn know we r suppose to be @ peace here not fighting n always abusing pple

     
  • At 15 June 2014 at 14:40 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    There are so many married guys these days who still depend on their parents connections for jobs, contracts, shelter etc. Responsibility is knowing what one should do and having the sense and ability to do it without being told. Marriage on the other hand is an institution which is held together by love and faithfulness and not by responsibility so marriage does not in anyways make a man or woman responsible, the circumstances around marriage e.g kids can force a man to be responsible and work hard but it doesn't guarantee responsibility. And to those people mixing unfaithfulness with irresponsibility go and learn your English..

     
  • At 15 June 2014 at 16:32 , Blogger SIGNATURE said...

    Hahahhah ur husband is d best. If I hear!!!! Please check him very well.

     
  • At 15 June 2014 at 18:15 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Purple na d money wen Linda dash am sti dey e head,hes feeling too cool. Lwkm! Hahahaa

     
  • At 16 June 2014 at 07:39 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Your husband is d best? Did I hear u say dat? My dear tk d back sit, you've nt seen his true colors dats why u said so

     
  • At 16 June 2014 at 12:43 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    In our society people who are married are taken to be responsible while if one is single one is touted reckless and wayward.

    But if marraige actually makes people responsible why do we have so many messed up marraiges and highly dysfunctional families.

    A person who lacks morals, respect and regards for the next person will always be the same despite being married or not.

    Marraige does not change people, it is not an achievement at all is a choice, that is why I believe certain people should not be pressurized to get married because they do not have the tools to make one work and are not even willing to adopt these tools because they have no regard for the marraige institution, besides some people termed sociopaths are people who have no respect for rules,norms and authority. so it is very difficult for them to give what they don't have friendship, love, affection, patience, tolerance, protection, respect, loyalty and forgiveness. Such people don't thrive well in marraiges so I think they should be left alone.

    These are people famillies force into marraiges and they mess up thus making people unhappy in the process. And their are people who are not interested in it at all.

    A man or woman who has the right emotional, spiritual, financial and psychological make up can make a marriage work thus that person is termed a responsible being. If he/she is a complete opposite of what is above will be termed irresponsible and thus will not be an asset to a marraige but a liability.


    Please marraige is not an achievement it is the myopic understanding of people who end up stayin with seriously crazy insane man or woman, in a bid to look responsible.

     

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