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Thursday 12 June 2014

If a woman takes money from her husband without his permission, is it stealing?

If a woman ransacks her husband's wallet, suitcase, pocket...anywhere he keeps money...and takes it without his permission, without telling him, is it stealing? And if a man does same to his wife, can it be called stealing?

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Cute G said...
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Cute G said...

It's called non-consensual tapping.

Bliss said...

Deffs...abi na she keep the money there??

Anonymous said...

B4 nko.. Wah if d money is nt hez or haz

Dike F(xyz) said...

If she eventually tell him later, then it's not called stealing but "Collecting". It becomes stealing when she does not tell him afterwards. Same applies to the Man.

Anonymous said...

No. Its not stealing only if she tells him thereafter.




CoolDiva speaks!

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Yep its like Peter stealing from Paul. Elijah from Elisha.
Coz men may not find it funnyoo, especially those involved in Baba ijebu.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

Anonymous said...

YES

Anonymous said...

According to my president,no.

Anonymous said...

Me taking his without his knowledge isn't stealing bcus his money is our money while my money is my money.. that been said, he should ask me b4 he takes my money.. kapish!

BONIFACE ONWUMA said...

Its not stealing. The money is their money. But I think such actions should be avoided to avoid misunderstandings.

Unknown said...

What else is stealing? If no be dis one? Correct stealing, hell is real!

Joe said...

Yes stealing

dorado said...

100% Stealing cus sh took it wifout his permission

Anonymous said...

Its criminal.

Anonymous said...

Yes its stealing biko.

Unknown said...

100% Stealing cus sh took it wifout his permission

Anonymous said...

No is not stealing....na corruption

IBM Concierge & Errand Service said...

o boi na dorothief!!!!thief oooo,that woman much b sentence of hunger for 3days........

Anonymous said...

Madam Linda,anything taken without the other party knowing is stealing,Ole ni Ole nje,Tiff na Tiff,no wota am down to love

APPLE said...

A husband or wife can take money from each other's purse without permission but you must tell them later. If you don't take permission and don't tell yes nah steeling unless you forgot.

bb said...

Na tapping o.

Anonymous said...

Except they r not on talking terms ...realy don't c anything bad in it .

Unknown said...

100% Stealing cus sh took it wifout his permission

Woomie said...

Yes it is stealing because its HIS money. Why cant u ask him?

Chop Chop said...

Yes yes yes.

Anonymous said...

No oh..
--Says-
Linda's Boo

Unknown said...

If a woman takes her husbands money without his consent its called BORROWING! But if a man takes his wife's its STEALING! How about that? #shinesteeth#

Anonymous said...

No its not

Anonymous said...

When a man forcefully have sex with his wife, its called RAPE, because it wasnt a mutual aggreement...
So in this context, its called STEALING. There is no legal/marital way of stealing.

Akeem Rotimi said...

Yea, that's stealing, and it result in dis trust... Very bad. It kills relationship like AIDS

Unknown said...

fa hear say na stealing ehnnn.... if a man have sex with his wife when she's not in the mood is it rape?

Anonymous said...

Na stealing ooo

Anonymous said...

I do dat alot, wen I mean a lot without him noticing, I believe wat is my husband's is mine and wat is mine is my husband's.

Bonita Bislam said...

Lmao! Am smitten with those words! Intelli at work

Anonymous said...

yes its stealing

Anonymous said...

It's called SHARING. Chai, dis blood that they are sharing, diaris god o!

Anonymous said...

it is stealing

Anonymous said...

It is called collecting not stealing

Unknown said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Is called stealing as simple as ABC.....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

Anonymous said...

If you tell him later, it's not stealing but if you take it and hide or deny when eventually he starts looking for it, then it is called STEALING.

Unknown said...

Abi ooo, how can you steal whats yours? But if the man does the same, hmm I go vex ooo lolz

jelhill said...

It's not stealing as long as it's the wife that took it. In my own opinion, my wife will surely have my ATM pin.

Anonymous said...

No it corruption. Tboy

Anonymous said...

A man's money's their money ie money for school fees.and food for the house. While her money is for her not addition and no subtraction. QED.

Your No. 1 DATA Vendor Call/WhatsApp 09028450336 (Get Your Cheap & Affordable DATA on All Networks) said...

It's not stealing it is called taking

Anonymous said...

B4 nko? "Thou Shall Not Steal" Did they say "Except If You Are The Wife Of The Victim"?

keji said...

Naso

Debbie Chelsea said...

Lindodo taking sumfin 4rm sum1 without him/her knowin, is stealing.....stealin na stealin

ODOGWU NWA said...

It won;t be stealing if she tells her husband "Honey i took some money from your wallet or trouser or anywhere" it will be stealing if her husband looks for the money and asks her and she fails to admit then the woman bu EKPELIMA

sent from my Sagemberry

Unknown said...

Women should be careful because any woman that does that one of her children will steal openly.

PURPLE said...

Hehe, like u na

Anonymous said...

I have already started doing it to my boyfriend. It's our money abeg and I'm sure he does the same.

Unknown said...

Tell or no tell. It is not stealing. While in school me and my room mate collected our monies withiout informing the next man and without miss understanding. The most important thing is trust and respect and every thing goes! Get married to ur friend today!!!

Anonymous said...

I think it shuld be called private picking pocket,Hahahahahaha Na wa oo, Some men are jst stinging so they dsv it.

Amarachukwu. said...

If you didn't tell him or her later,it is stealing.

Unknown said...

hell yes, its stealing

Anonymous said...

YES, IT IT STEALING. UNLESS, SHE NEEDED IT AS A LIFE/DEATH SITUATION WHERE HER HUSBAND CANNOT BE CONTACTED AND SHE MUST ALSO TELL HIM ASAP THAT SHE TOOK HIS MONEY.

Anonymous said...

Thievery!

Anonymous said...

OLEEE

Anonymous said...

Corruption, abuse of family fund,unarmed rubbery.punishable by.........(Fill in). Posibility of parol.Tboy.

jenny love said...

I dnt think Is stealing afterall d two have become one,can someone steal his or her own self linda

Unknown said...

Since they are married they are one but, that does not mean they should take things from each other with the other party's permission. They need to understand themselves and meet each other's needs that is why they are called couple.

Eya Ayambem said...

Not stealing. The two have become one.
However,thou shall not take without permission.

Anonymous said...

No it corruption. Tboy

Unknown said...

All of them na love

Anonymous said...

Its called taking o,but if a Man takes from his wife without permission,it is stealing cos he is suppose to be taking care of her.

A.A.O said...

Grade A stealing ni jare.

Unknown said...

It's important u ask first then take instead of taking without permission. Though they are one but if the love is there sharing will not be a problem. That's why they are called couple

Anonymous said...

what is stealing... ?

then your answer is what you seek

Anonymous said...

Yes its stealing... And nt good in d sight of God.u hv to tell each other b4 u do or afta u do.

princess said...

Nope Stella, its not stealing as long as she admitted to taking it when he asks vice versa

Anonymous said...

Its nt stealng,its collectng. Afta all z der moni. Bt d man/woman shud nt tak 2much,ks naija hard oh,it mait cause problem. I thnk wen it involves much. Moni,d woman/man shud tel d partner,b4/leta,wit gud xplanatns. I am a mrrid woman,m n ma hubby hs neva had prblm ks f moni,I do collect oh,bt wit sense,if its 2much,I do let hm,wit gud reasons

sucrescalada said...

Owu oshi! Period!!!

Unknown said...

It's important u ask first then take instead of taking without permission. Though they are one but if the love is there sharing will not be a problem. That's why they are called couple

Unknown said...

That's stealing for LOVE sake. ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥♡thanks ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥ 

EVA said...

It depends on the amount, if its lil its nt stealin bt wen it bcoms huge u nid to ask!

Anonymous said...

Na una sabi....

Anonymous said...

ofcourse its stealing.i can divorce her if she doesnt stop it. Imagine if u had to pop out to buy something and u realise the change u left in your pocket was gone. Its not about how small or big money,its jus f**king annoying. its not difficult to ask or tell him u took it.

Unfortunately nigerian chicks dont ask,they just take and take.no shame

Annoying chicks,nonsense

Anonymous said...

It is not stealing but olojukokoro oshii

Unknown said...

if she leta tells him den its not... bt if she eventually refuse to tell him its stealing

Anonymous said...

mehnnn..i wouldnt say its stealing cos 2peeps hav eventually bcom 1..but i go don plan my waka..damn wifey shudnt try this at all..unless na emergency.

Unknown said...

Correct

Anonymous said...

Stealing is stealing. There is no new definition of stealing. If i take money from my mother without her permission it is called stealing.

Omowunmi kuku said...

No other word to describe it, it's stealing. Take something without someone's consent. Lexzy777

Anonymous said...

It's called stealing no matter how close they are. Taking something without one's consent is stealing.

Anonymous said...

No other word to describe it, it's stealing. Take something without someone's consent. Lexzy777

Anonymous said...

Taking something without d owner's KNOWLEGE n CONSENT is stealing weda na husband, wife,collegue, soulmate.... d idea is u take away d person's ryt to say yes/ no....no mata wt item useless or odawise

DOBY DOBY said...

Hmmmm nt really stealin bt smtin close to dat.. they shld jus inform eachoda b4 or after collectin d money

Anonymous said...

the definition of stealing is taking what does not belong to you. therefore it is stealing whether you tell after or not. as long as it is not yours. there is nothing like my husband's money is our money

Walata said...

Linda na stealing unless she told him

Anonymous said...

It's stealing joor

Anonymous said...

N if after taking n spending it, ur spouse dsnt agree...wt den? Asking someone b4 u take their stuff weda relevant or irrelevant shows dt u respect dem enough to want to no their take on it b4 proceeding

Anonymous said...

Its called 'fapping' in legal speak...hehe

nduchukwu o. praise said...

taking without permission is allowed as long as u inform ur partner. BUT TAKING MONEY AND KEEPING MUTE IS STEALING OOOOOH

Anonymous said...

stealing is stealing

Angie Cape said...

It's not stealing, but, the wife should remember to mention to the hubby that she took some money maka adi ama ama.
He might get to where he wants to use the money and embarrassment follows.

*My R1.50c comment*

Anonymous said...

Evn if u dnt tel I'm lata,if he asks nd u deny,it becomes stealing..but if u tel I'm ur d one,fine nd good..

Anonymous said...

If u r caught, dat is stealing... Somtime I do it *smile*, I hav never heard of a man stealing frm his wife, but a wife can tak frm d husband.

#GIFTEDhands

Anonymous said...

It is not stealing, concering d fact dat in christain marriage husband and wife is one but there is God o who knows our mind

Anonymous said...

*smitten 'by'....it haff do

Anonymous said...

dahts a bad habit as far as am concerned.

Anonymous said...

Its called 'fapping' in legal speak...hehe

Anonymous said...

If the man collects from the ladies purse, it is stealing. However, if the woman collects from the man's wallet it is collection of dues!
haha

Anonymous said...

It depends on d amount taken or to be taken. If my hubby is not around where his purse is and I want to collect btw 200 and 1k or more depending on how we ar, I will just take it without letting him know. I can take it in his presence witout asking depending on how much oooo. But it I noticed there is not much in his purse I will ask permission b4 taking or report myself after taking. But Linda u know nau if cash plenty there won't be need 4 all these long story. Make we dey for our bobo make them get cash wellu wellu!

Anonymous said...

it is dishonest and unnecessary this is how trust issues start there is no big deal the husband and wife should just ask it's not too difficult

Toronto Finest said...

Hey Oga what does ijebu has to do with this. Abeg, go do your findings...the ijebus are the most spending ppl in naija...lol...I'm proud to be one. See ijebu..see money

Anonymous said...

People should respect each other even in marraige, it is called stealing as far as am concered, my father provides for my mother very well even use to take care of her siblings but when she started taking money from his drawers with out telling him and even at a time she broke his cupboard and took money without telling him, he was very angry with her and told her to stop she continued and he got himself another woman and she went ballistics, am a woman and I have learnt from that, we all have to give people respect. I am not the type of woman that takes anything from my man without informimg him first and men should do the same to their partners too.
Taking things without permission reeks of disrespect and taking someone for granted.

I stand for take permission first before taking.

Anonymous said...

Yea, it's stealing. Likewise the other way round.

Unknown said...

First degree armed robbery

dheeejah said...

Stealing is stealing!shikenan

Anonymous said...

@APPLE, I dislike you for your spiteful and rude comments on this blog but I must compliment for your comment on this post, exactly my thought.

Anonymous said...

Is called tapping,anybody wey dem catch na him be theif and dah one na stealing.simple(xsexie blingz)

Unknown said...

First degree armed robbery

Anonymous said...

It is capital stealing!! No man shd touch my money without my consent in the name of marriage and will never touch his. Me and my partner operates " on your own" system when it comes to money matter and i loooooove it that way.

Anonymous said...

This question doesn't really have an answer tbh. It depends on the household and the way the family is set up. My mom can easily take money off my dads wallet without him questioning her. At the same time, it depends on the amount and the situation at hand.
Gods grace when I get married, I do not expect my husband to have a problem with me taking change from his wallet if its needed i.e, not because I dont want to spend my own money but because whatever situation I'm in does not permit. So also him to my money. It becomes 'our' money, to an extent.

Anonymous said...

It is nt called stealin if she asked him 4 moni for a useful purpose nd he didn't give ha den she goes to his pocket to take it.Shikena

Anonymous said...

IF A HUSBAND NICELY AND WITH LOVE CUT OFF HIS WIFE'S NECK , LIB'ERS IS THIS MURDER?

Anonymous said...



Why would you steal from your spouse? Isn't that stealing from yourself?

If you take it without telling them or you can not take it in their presence, then it's stealing.

Unknown said...

Stealing ko stealing ni. He doesn't take mine but I gladly take his.👅

sparkle said...

U av to tell him later

Anonymous said...

its not right wat if d husband has budget d money for another tin, it will den cause confusion.. aunty linda hi

Anonymous said...

His money is our money.
My money is my money.
It is not stealing honey.

Patrick said...

It is stealing if the man takes from the woman; whatever the circumstance. But it is not stealing if the woman takes from the man, provided that the man is Very Stingy, Irresponsible and Promiscuous. Other than that: Stealing is Stealing

Anonymous said...

aunty li is stealing oh, d right tin is u will tell him b4 collectin..

Anonymous said...

It depends Linda, if d money was used to run d family, pay children's school fees, hospital bills n medicals, n other household bills, then it is not stealing, it was used for good intention. But if it was used on personal needs like drinking, smoking, hair fixing, make-up, n gambling n other reckless habits dt don't add value to d family then it is stealing whether u confess later or not.

Anonymous said...

Once d spouse is told abt it immediately after it is done then it is not stealing cos d two are one in marriage!

Anonymous said...

It is not stealing rada It is called tapping dats if it must be given a name............. Afta all,both of dem are 1 in d Eyes of God.

Anonymous said...

It's stealing, cos a sin is a sin no matter how big or small it is.

Anonymous said...

What is there in telling your spouse what you need before collecting it? The problem couples have is in keeping unnecessary secrets. Once you successfully communicate,your request will be granted. Incase of emergency, there isn't any problems once u are sure to communicate later. But purposely taking it and not communicating at all,with no intention to communicate and even lying when asked is outright STEALING. Such person's place is in HELL FIRE.

Anonymous said...

I think anything you take with out the owners permission is stealing..most especially, if its ganna make the owner mad den I hv no oda name for it...nd am so sure if d husband or wife were caught in d act it would nt end well..

Certainty said...

It depends on how they have been handling issues regarding money. Depending on the amount too.

Anonymous said...

It is stealing nah, since making love to your wife without her consent is rape

Anonymous said...

It's lyk stealing 4rm urself which is strange.FIDELIA

Anonymous said...

It is stealing nah,since making love to your wife without her consent is rape

ary said...

It is stealing, trespass to chattel.

Anonymous said...

Yes. Also thoughless, irritating, and inconveniencing. Doubly so when your spouse first suspects or accuses others in the house of the act.

Anonymous said...

Definate Stealing..its actualli a sin.

Anonymous said...

without consent is stealing

Olubukola Ozone said...

Even if we dnt wana call it stealing, d fact remains dat 'wat is bad is bad', and dat definitly is not a good thing

Olubukola Ozone said...

Even if we dnt wana call it stealing, d fact remains dat 'wat is bad is bad', and dat definitly is not a good thing

Unknown said...

It's okay for ur wife or hubby to take ur moni without ur permission as long as they own up to it wen u find out...

Anonymous said...

Why shld I tell him
when he will spending d money in d beer parlor and give his girl frds while I will be in d house managing,I will tap it and complete ajorr(isusu) money lol,yes if he find out I will tell him am d 1,

Anonymous said...

For me is not because ur one ,but u have to let him know u took his money or the money to avoid accusing another person.

Anonymous said...

It is stealing nah, since making love to your wife without her consent is rape

Unknown said...

Laffs... It's called Corruption! According to FG

chinyerè said...

Taking things without anyone's permission, be it friend, hubby, or sister is stealing. But ur hubby is like stealing from yourself, cos it's all about "wots urs is mine and wots. Mine is urs"

Unknown said...

Is call (OSHI) if not he or she should not wait for the owner of the money to ask before u he or she report them selfs

Anonymous said...

hell no, its our money

Steveosky 4 Real. said...

Seeking each other's consent is key here...

BOOTYLICIOUS said...

its called OBTAINING

Malitony said...

It's stealing..... There is nothing to justify that

Anonymous said...

Bonario my guy its like u play baba ijebu. If u tell ur spouse its not stealing bt if u do not then its pure stealing
Jaytee

Voice of Man said...

VOM VOM VOM ... NEXT ???? tif na tif ohyin except dey let each other know later.

Unknown said...

In my native language,it is calle Oshii.

IFY NWAJESUS said...

Me i dey take ma well,well.God plz forgive me ooo!

Unknown said...

Such acts can be termed stealing if the money taken never reported to their partners when they are looking for it.

Unknown said...

its nothing wrong, but he/ she need to tell/ ask before taking it.



BORN TO SHINE!!!

Anonymous said...

It's called steAling by style. Jay

Utonwa said...

ok...i don here! so should i confess now?

pipifierce said...

If she tells him l8tr, it is nt stealing.

Anonymous said...

If de man takes de woman's moni wiotut telling her z called stealing bt if de woman does desame z nt called stealing cos his moni z der moni n her moni z her moni

jay-Q said...

na big thief ooo,u tel or not

Anonymous said...

i take money from my husband's wallet everytime and he doesn't find it annoying or refer to it as stealing... because it is OUR MONEY.

i think its a matter of waht type of man u married... some guys are stingy and wont find such funny - such guy would beat you blue black.

NK said...

It depends on d understanding they both have......otherwise it is called stealing

Unknown said...

Either way it is stealing.

Anonymous said...

It's mere collecting wen a woman does...bt wen d man does,its outryt stealing!!!

Anonymous said...

I do it a lot but hubby doesn't complain, his money is our money nah, will stop when I get a job or starts business

Anonymous said...

Shut up evry body do you know what marriage is all about is not stealing okk their one flesh one body and one soul it belong Ï„̅☺ the hband and wife. What of a man that leave his wife and fuck outside what do you called that tell me is that permission from God, rubbish talk. Not stealing oK

Anonymous said...

As a warri guy, we call am fast guy or fast babe...........

Anonymous said...

Who says its called stealing? ur husband's money is ur money!!!

Anonymous said...

Then what is d definition?there is no two way about it what is bad is bad.

Noticeme said...

it's not a thing. They should inform each other afterwards otherwise it becomes stealing

Noticeme said...

it's not a thing. They should inform each other afterwards otherwise it becomes stealing

Anonymous said...

You dont call it stealing. husband and wife are one. You may tell him or her later and if you dont remember so be it.

Anonymous said...

It is not n never wil it b stealin,husband n wives r one then by law wht a man owns belongs to dt of d wife unless there is prenuptial agreement,but wht a woman owns does not belong to d man dt is why if there comes a divorce d man is to share d property but a woman does not,so its isn't stealin but it wik b best if u told ur husband should incase he wnts to use it fir sometin

Anonymous said...

Stealing???????? No way, its called tapping. I did it once oh but hubby almost broke my head so it won't happen again.

Hismajesty said...

I agree with you but i will add just one more point....if the woman takes just a little amount, then it doesn't matter and when i say little amount u know wat i mean... But if we are talking big figures then... Its absolutely stealing..

Anonymous said...

stealing is stealing no oda name,frm takin money frm ur husband unknowinly oneday if he came wit huge amount d wife fit send armed robber o,dny ganish it takin someone money without d person knwin is stealin

Anonymous said...

ok i know my wife is reading this now (babe) its stealing ohhh!

Unknown said...

Gbam!

Anonymous said...

I agree. I can't take sm1 stuff n nt tell them atal. I wasn't trained that way n I wouldn't like it either if I'm nt tld flimsily. Dnt mke it seem like ur apologisn 4 takn it tho or ill get pissed. Jst say 'Hun took sme change 4rm ur purse.' Linsweet bt guys do it o, sme can thief like that ....lol. Alest I knw a guy took N1000 4rm the purse I drpped n didn't tel me. I jst said What is N1000 kwanu bt it chngd my view of him o.Its nt kul----C21

simple babe said...

Yes its called stealing, except she tells her husband

Anonymous said...

she just dogged her self a fresh grave.

Anonymous said...

Linda is a fool ooo.. Where is my comment #dissapointed

Unknown said...

So C21 na u and thieves de date? Hehehehehe! Funny

Dr Fred said...

You are a fool!

Unknown said...

Its Stealing, but I approve!

TKB's thoughts said...

It is not stealing! His money our money, my money?????????????

Idi said...

Downright stealing! anon 4.23 callin Linda a fool take am easy...It's not personal. all Ur comments must not be posted.

Unknown said...

Oh yes! Taking someone else's possession without their notice is........stealing

Anonymous said...

GBAM!!!...that's all...lmao

Anonymous said...

Do unto others as you want them to do to you.
If I take your money without telling you and maybe you kept that money for a purpose and come to discover it is gone, how would you feel even though it is hours. The other commentator said it all, if having sex with my wife when she knocked out with drink (without her knowing) is termed rape,then taking my money without my knowledge is theft.

Anonymous said...

It's not stealing cos what's his is yours. But if u hv other people in your household,its good to let him know or tell him if he asks so that he doesn't suspect or accuse someone else.

Anonymous said...

Its Stealing....it was taken without his knowledge. forget d fact we keep saying his my husband/wife what belongs to him/her belongs to me...Lets tell ourselves d truth nd call a spade a spade..Its STEALING mbok!

Anonymous said...

That a vry stupid question @ linda

Anonymous said...

Lol @ tapping.

Lorde Daniel said...

Hello o?... You just copied and pasted whats in my head. Though it depends on how much we are talking about considering you listed wallet and suitcase, If the money involved is big enough to cause a financial set back, I wouldn't exactly call it stealing but you've done something really wrong. Believe me if you give the ladies of nowadays too much access to your money, they would ruin you. Same applies to men

Anonymous said...

Can I steal frm my pocket?nah!!Na me own am naa

Anonymous said...

Yes. It's stealing. It's also very disrespectful

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